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Made in Chelsea: Sam Vanderpump's Story - Season 1 Episode 1
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00:04My name's Sam Vanderpump and I'm on a TV show called Made in Chelsea.
00:09Thank you all for coming. I thought I'd just say a few words.
00:12What you may not know is I was born with liver disease.
00:16For 28 years, I never let it slow me down.
00:20Racing, skiing and living life flat out.
00:24But in 2024, everything changed.
00:27I've got end-stage liver disease.
00:31There is no hope of my liver getting better.
00:35Due to my disease, I contracted sepsis and nearly died.
00:39And now the doctors say I need a liver transplant.
00:42When you look at your scans, we know there is evidence of advanced liver disease.
00:48I've had an absolutely fantastic life, but in this situation, the odds are the same for everyone.
00:55We're not talking about if you will need a transplant. We're talking about when you will need a transplant.
00:59What's terrifying is only 1% of deaths are even viable for organ donation.
01:06And then from those 1%, you've got to find the right match.
01:10There's a whole chain of events which needs to happen.
01:14Nothing can really quite contextualise the magnitude of how hard getting a liver transplant is.
01:24Come on, son. Crack a little bit more, a little bit more. Last push, last push.
01:27This is one of the scariest times of my life, but I have the amazing support of friends and family.
01:37I'm also about to become a husband and a dad.
01:44My therapist said there's enough to write a book in one of the situations happening,
01:48let alone everything that's happening from my health to baby being born to getting married.
01:55Great novel.
02:07Did you find the wire?
02:09No. Maybe it's in the car.
02:11Huh?
02:12It might be in the car.
02:13Potentially.
02:15I've got liver transplant assessment coming up on the 1st and 2nd on Monday and Tuesday.
02:20So before that happens, we just want to get away.
02:24This is our staycation.
02:26Staycation.
02:27We're literally just utilising our time, relaxing before shit hits the fan.
02:33You know actually the steps of what's going to happen on the day?
02:37I just know we've got loads of tests.
02:38All of these different tests to make sure I can do a 12-hour surgery.
02:42I'm going to say do rather than survive.
02:54Up until a year ago, I was perfectly healthy.
02:58You know, I've got a liver disease.
03:00I've known about it since I was four, but it's never affected my life
03:05and I've always been told to live my life absolutely normally like every other individual out there.
03:11Look at this.
03:12And I am living my life.
03:15I'm getting married to the girl of my dreams.
03:18I'm about to have a child with her.
03:21And that is what's given me strength right now to keep going and get through this.
03:28Oh, the goats are coming out.
03:31Hello, Goatee.
03:33He's giving him a clean.
03:35That's nice.
03:35That's sweet.
03:36Do you want me to groom you?
03:38I don't need it.
03:39Yeah.
03:40My hair is all over the place.
03:42Trying to clean my hair in the hospital was a nightmare when I was ill last year.
03:48So after transplant, if I can't shower, I'll just have a shaved head.
03:53When I got ill last year, it started off with literally just a cold and it snowballed so rapidly.
04:02And it's because of my disease that I contracted an infection in my liver.
04:06Sam was extremely sick.
04:09He had sepsis that was affecting other organs.
04:13It was affecting his liver, his kidneys.
04:15Doctors said if he didn't get in that day, there was a chance he wouldn't make it.
04:21It was, I'm ill, and then all of a sudden, oh, shit, I'm nearly dying.
04:30You don't need a kick to the liver today.
04:32Oh, look.
04:33Oh, sorry.
04:33Oh, God, no, I think you went around me.
04:36The words they actually used, you're going into organ failure.
04:39That was scary.
04:43And it was, like, that moment that I, like, knew, like, how...
04:47Oh, sorry.
04:50I knew, like, how much Sam meant to me.
04:55And I just hoped that I meant the same, like, to him.
04:59I think it was definitely a bonding experience for us.
05:07She's got a big kick.
05:12I just think this is probably the most peace we're going to have for a very long time.
05:18It's Monday, Tuesday...
05:19Transplant assessment.
05:225th or 12th, we find out if I go on the transplant list.
05:27Does it feel like it's coming up soon for you, or not really?
05:30Well, yeah, everything's happening.
05:32I don't think it's, like, any one thing that feels like it's coming up soon.
05:36Everything's just happening at once.
05:41Think I can feel it now, wish I could hold it down, are you coming around?
05:49Have you just got the one flavour left?
05:51I don't know.
05:54My mum and I have always had a fantastic relationship.
05:56She's always helped me do anything I needed.
05:59And anything she can do, she will do.
06:02I mean, she can't come round just for a cup of coffee.
06:04She has to be doing something.
06:05So that's why she gets jobs, like ironing and cleaning.
06:09But that's her choice, not mine.
06:12Although I don't remember, obviously, what you remember,
06:15I do remember growing up with a very extended tummy.
06:19Yes.
06:19Sam, from day one, had to struggle.
06:23You know, has struggled to stay alive from the minute he was born.
06:27When I was a baby, I was nine weeks premature.
06:30You know, for the first few years, lived a relatively normal life.
06:33And it was about, when I was about four years of age,
06:36I was at the swimming pool with some friends.
06:38And my mum noticed that my tummy stuck out more than everyone else's.
06:44I said to the doctor, I said, Sam doesn't look right.
06:49And literally, she came over and felt your tummy.
06:53And then that's when you had to go in and have the biopsies
06:57to work out what your disease was.
06:59At the time when Sam was originally diagnosed,
07:03was, I suppose, disbelief.
07:06And they couldn't do anything to stop Sam's disease.
07:10It was just monitoring.
07:12And he literally was a ticking time bomb, like he still is today.
07:18You know, it never affected my life.
07:19And I guess in my head, it was never a thing.
07:22But I...
07:23My story is totally and utterly different.
07:27That anxiety, that sick thing,
07:29two weeks before every single appointment,
07:32what are they going to tell us?
07:34No, it didn't affect your life,
07:36but because of what we did to make sure you lived that life,
07:41without it affecting you.
07:44With retrospect, I understand now that
07:47it must have been hard for her to deal with.
07:48With becoming a father myself,
07:50I think I now really understand
07:52what my mum must have gone through at the time of diagnosis,
07:54all the way up until...
07:56Well, and still feels it today.
07:58I left one light on to tell you
08:02There are two ways this could go
08:06I can turn around to never come back or ask me...
08:12Hiya. I'm about eight minutes away.
08:13But, I mean, you can get the coffee now.
08:16What did you say you wanted?
08:17Americano, dash of milk and two sugars.
08:19Have a water, please.
08:21You've got denim in it, guys. Bye now.
08:23Bye.
08:24Driving to the hospital, I felt overwhelmed.
08:28The liver transplant assessment day is huge.
08:31I mean, there is a lot of tests, a lot to go through
08:34to find out whether we can do this transplant.
08:38It's a make or break day.
08:43Welcome to King's Transplant Unit.
08:46My name's Sarah.
08:46Nice to see you.
08:47How are you? You all right?
08:49Yeah.
08:49Yeah? So, just going to talk through
08:51some transplant-related issues,
08:53go through your full history
08:54and then present you to Dr Alavahari.
08:57He specifically looks after assessments.
08:59So, when we talk about you at the listing meeting,
09:02he will present your case to say
09:04this patient needs a transplant
09:05or doesn't need a transplant, OK?
09:07So, once the decision is made,
09:09I will phone you in the afternoon
09:11to let you know the outcome of the discussion.
09:13That's either this Friday or next Friday?
09:14Yeah.
09:15It's crazy hearing I've got to wait
09:17to find out whether I'm even eligible for donation.
09:20I guess it's just the start of the waiting game.
09:24Come on in.
09:25OK, so this is your cardiopulmonary exercise test.
09:28Yeah.
09:30It's a test where we are going to be
09:31measuring your grip stamp.
09:33Give it all you can.
09:35Wow.
09:35I've never seen numbers at that high.
09:37Start pedalling first now, please.
09:39Thank you very much.
09:41You feel some slight resistance?
09:43Yeah.
09:45It's a little sharp scratch, OK?
09:47You OK?
09:49Yeah, huh?
09:50Yeah.
09:51All done, my darling.
09:52Awesome.
09:55You're doing really well.
09:56You're probably going to start to get some burning in the legs.
09:58It's not all right.
09:59Come up to five minutes now.
10:01Keep going, keep going.
10:03Well done.
10:04A little bit more for us.
10:05What happens when we cut through your tummy,
10:07so we'll be doing an incision which will be like this.
10:12Come on, son.
10:13A little bit more, a little bit more.
10:14Last push, last push.
10:16Keep going, keep going, keep going.
10:19Yeah.
10:19Really good stop there.
10:21I'm burning my head.
10:23Well done.
10:24You did really well there.
10:25Good.
10:29Well, this is you.
10:30These are your muscles inside, what we call your core muscles.
10:33I can see you keep yourself fit and active.
10:35He's been doing well with somebody with liver disease.
10:37It's really good.
10:38Thank you very much.
10:39So then we come down to your liver.
10:40OK?
10:41And it's really quite big.
10:43And it looks typical.
10:44Huge.
10:44Yeah.
10:45And it's typical for your condition.
10:47That's quite a rare condition.
10:48The darker areas are big lakes of bile because of the abnormality that you've inherited.
10:54OK?
10:54So, congenital hepatic fibrosis.
10:57The way I would explain it in layman's terms would be a normal liver is a smooth filter,
11:04which filters people's bloods.
11:05My liver isn't smooth.
11:08It's quite bumpy and the fibrosis and it's got cysts in it and essentially struggling to
11:14filter the blood.
11:15And that disease has progressed over 28 years, which has obviously led to the inevitable.
11:22So just to summarise your case, you've obviously known this diagnosis for a long time.
11:26You've had three episodes when you've been hospitalised with cholangitis.
11:30Those are serious complications because some of those infections can really push you from
11:34looking like you do now, where I wouldn't necessarily know you have an end stage liver disease,
11:40to being in hospital with organ failure.
11:44We're not talking about if you will need a transplant.
11:46We're talking about when you will need a transplant.
11:48This is not going to get better.
11:49It's going to get worse.
11:50Then the issue is how do we get you transplanted in a sensible time and not give you this purgatory
11:56where you're waiting two, three years for a liver.
11:59Well, the fundamental problem in the UK, we don't have enough donor organs to match the number of people
12:04who need a transplant.
12:05Yeah.
12:05So you're always having to work out who are the sickest people who need the organs first.
12:10Younger people with your kind of disease don't tend to score highly.
12:14So what is the solution?
12:16Because obviously what it sounds like at the moment doesn't sound too good.
12:19As a unit, one of the things we're really pushing is a thing called living donor transplantation,
12:24which is taking a portion of a healthy liver from a family member and putting it in you.
12:29The live donation, obviously it's half a liver, right?
12:34Yeah.
12:34But that would regenerate to a full liver.
12:36It's amazing.
12:38Obviously, I've always wanted to do it, but number one, it would be my age,
12:43which would stop me doing it because obviously I am very fit and very healthy.
12:46I mean, so my responsibility is to you, and ethically I can't get involved in the live donor site,
12:52but what we do is we'll put you in touch with...
12:55I don't want to do that.
12:58Not even if we disassess me?
13:00No.
13:01When my mum offered to donate her liver, I'm like, in the politest way possible,
13:08shut up, mum.
13:09He shuts it down, there is no discussion, and obviously, for me, that's all I want to do,
13:16is help my son.
13:18Personally, I would say, and this is my opinion, the best organ that you can ever have
13:24is a live donor organ.
13:26Yeah.
13:28Any other questions?
13:34That was a lot to digest.
13:36Yes, I can get a liver transplant, but both roads are horrific.
13:40One road is you go on the transplant waiting list, and I have to probably get ill to go up
13:46the list,
13:47so I can get a donation from a deceased donor.
13:51Or I have to be willing to accept an organ from a loved one, a live donation.
13:56It's an impossible dilemma.
14:02Yeah, yeah, yeah.
14:04I actually don't know what to say. It's all a bit like...
14:07So what you expected?
14:10I don't know. I don't know what I expected. I think, mum, I've gone into information overload.
14:16And I think that's why it's going to be important to look at all the options, like the live donor,
14:22like family and friends.
14:23I don't want to do that.
14:24If that's something that you would look at, so that you don't have the anxiety of having to wait.
14:28I don't want to do that. Because I don't want to put my friends or family through that.
14:33But if it's something that you're not asking people for, that is something people want to do,
14:38I think they should be given the chance to look into it, the help.
14:43It's not a consideration.
14:50It makes me feel sick.
14:51I don't want to put my friends or family through a liver surgery as well.
14:57I mean, could you imagine?
15:00I go in for a liver transplant, I wake up and my friends died or my family members died on
15:06the table.
15:06I don't think I can live with that.
15:09And I don't want to have to live with that.
15:12Yeah, I don't know. I just...
15:14It's not... I just... yeah.
15:17It's just shit, isn't it?
15:20Oh.
15:38So we've got all the baby furniture from.
15:41Oh, they've got their Christmas decorations up.
15:44So cute.
15:46Alice and I have been together just over 16 months now.
15:49This is Bacchanalia. This is where we had our engagement party.
15:58I didn't know that Alice and I would get married.
16:02I hoped from meeting Alice and I thought, she's perfect, and if I'm lucky enough, she'll be the one I
16:11marry.
16:11Things definitely moved fast between Sam and I. Everything was so right.
16:16It's just a warm sense of knowing, this is what love is supposed to feel like.
16:21We are both over the moon and both excited to be marrying each other.
16:25We love that.
16:26Like, that part of it, I'm like super excited for.
16:28But we've got so much other things to deal with at the moment that I think it is just overshadowing
16:33it a bit.
16:33Yeah.
16:37Brilliant.
16:38That is an unbelievable best of parking, that is.
16:40It looks so pretty.
16:43Hiya.
16:44Hi.
16:46How are you?
16:46Good.
16:47Hi.
16:48Oh, you look amazing.
16:49Stunning.
16:51Look at the red.
16:52I love it.
16:53Oh.
16:54Wow, wow.
16:55Very exciting.
16:56So I take it, this is Alice's band.
16:57Indeed.
16:58Obviously, we're doing yours completely by hand, especially to fit your ring.
17:03So shiny.
17:05Did she turn around?
17:06No.
17:06And she was like, I'm not that excited to get the wedding band.
17:08You have so much going on.
17:09You know, you've got preparations for the baby.
17:12Yeah.
17:12But you believe she's only got three months to go.
17:15I don't even think it's three, is it?
17:17Less.
17:17Less than three months now.
17:18I wonder if he'll turn up on the due date.
17:21I can't imagine so.
17:22No, everyone's been saying early.
17:24Because we were both early as well.
17:26Were you?
17:26Yeah.
17:26I was three weeks early.
17:28I was eight.
17:28No, I was nine.
17:29Wow.
17:30That's super early.
17:30He explains a lot.
17:32Yeah, yeah, yeah.
17:33Then you're a survivor.
17:34Oh, there you go.
17:35This is why I have unwavering faith that you'll always be fine.
17:38Yeah.
17:38Because he always has been.
17:39Everyone's got to jump over their hurdles in life, don't they?
17:43I found it harder in the last few years to process the going through the changes in my disease when
17:50I'm an adult.
17:50Because you start to understand things and you understand the changes.
17:53So, I actually envy the ignorance over the situation that my younger self once had.
18:16I reckon it's been 15 years since I've been here.
18:20It's crazy.
18:22Right House is so special because it was the start of such a big part of our lives.
18:28We go-karted for many, many years and that all started with my dad's obsession for extravagant, over-the-top
18:38things.
18:40Hello.
18:41Mr Vanderpump.
18:42How are you?
18:42Good, thank you.
18:43Look different.
18:44I look a little bit different too.
18:46When you were behind this counter before you were about here.
18:48I remember.
18:49You guys were here every week when you started.
18:51Yeah.
18:51We loved it.
18:52We were obsessed.
18:53I mean, that was dad for you.
18:54He was 100% or 0%.
18:56He was.
18:56Yeah.
18:58My whole childhood was go-karting.
19:01Go round and round.
19:02Weather just like this.
19:04Be absolutely freezing cold.
19:06Get out the go-kart and have flasks of hot chocolate waiting for us and sandwiches.
19:12It was a really, really lovely growing up experience.
19:16And, you know, for the most part of it, it was with my dad.
19:20He was very like me.
19:21He was very ostentatious.
19:23Very gregarious.
19:25And, he was just a very, very big personality.
19:29But, for those extreme highs, he also suffered with extreme lows.
19:36Unfortunately, when he had an extreme low, well, he killed himself.
19:45Yeah.
19:48It was two months after my 21st birthday.
19:51I don't think I ever really processed it.
19:55And, I know the emotions are there, but I can just feel this wall go up.
20:02And, I think that's what happened with my health.
20:05Those emotions are too overwhelming and self-defense, we're just going to block them out for now.
20:13I guess that's also a horrible thing, right?
20:15He's not here through one of the most difficult times of my life, the support.
20:39It's like a movie, isn't it?
20:41Where they're waiting for the call.
20:43Yeah, I think you should make us some cookies, Sam, while we're waiting.
20:47Waiting game now, isn't it?
20:49If I get put on this list today, they said, live your life normally.
20:54Go on holiday, you know.
20:55And, I will.
20:56I'll do that.
20:57But, God, if you're declined, I mean, that's just horrific.
20:59I mean, you need a liver transplant, but we're not going to give you one.
21:03And, what do you do then?
21:04You want him to be put on the list, because then he can get a new liver.
21:08He can just get on with being a husband, being a father.
21:11But, my God, you don't want your son to actually be told, yes, 100%, you need a liver transplant.
21:20Because that's mind-blowing.
21:22I don't know.
21:22There's just this whole array of emotions going through you, and you don't know what your outcome's going to be.
21:27And, every outcome is scary.
21:29There is no good outcome.
21:35Hello, Sam speaking.
21:38Oh, hi, Sam.
21:39It's Sarah from King.
21:40Hello.
21:41Hello.
21:42So, you were discussed at the listing meeting this morning.
21:45Yeah.
21:46And, obviously, there was a robust discussion with multiple members of the team that you'll
21:51be put on the transplant waiting list.
21:53Okay.
21:54But, remember, we talked about broadening your graft options, because we know that your waiting
21:59time will be slightly extended for the variety of reasons that were discussed in Clinique.
22:04Yeah.
22:0518 months, I think, is probably most likely, but it could be up to two years.
22:09Now, the question I've got here is, if I stay the way I am, then my score stays low.
22:14So, how do I ever end up getting the transplant if you're addressing people with a higher score
22:20than me?
22:20Surely, I just would always end up remaining at the bottom, and it's not until I become
22:25ill...
22:25No, because days on list is one of the factors as well that's added into the scoring system.
22:30Right.
22:30Is there a fear from, like, your end that things could get worse, like, within that time
22:35that he's on the list?
22:36Of course there is.
22:38Well, that is always the risk with any patient with liver disease.
22:41Yeah, of course.
22:42There's always, that's always a risk.
22:43No, they can't, they can't tell you that.
22:45Yeah.
22:45That's obviously why we're transplanting, is because they think the liver's going to fall off.
22:49They don't know when, but it's going to fall off at any moment.
22:52Yeah.
22:52Again, no transplant centre lists patients who don't need a transplant.
22:57Yeah.
22:58You know?
22:58All right.
22:59Thank you, Sarah.
23:00All right.
23:01You take care.
23:02Cheers, Sarah.
23:03Speak soon.
23:04OK.
23:05Bye.
23:07Oh.
23:07Wow.
23:08How are you feeling?
23:11Different.
23:13Yeah.
23:14Exactly what we were expecting.
23:16We knew that was the case.
23:17That's everything I've known.
23:18There's nothing to celebrate.
23:20It's a fucking shit journey, right?
23:23It's crap.
23:24Don't think you can really ever understand your own feelings, let alone articulate how
23:30you're feeling.
23:33Listed from next Wednesday.
23:35It's quite quick, isn't it?
23:36Never really thought you'd be sat here at 28 going, oh, I don't want anything in life.
23:42Just a good liver, please.
23:44So where's my bed going to go?
23:46That's what I want to know.
23:47In here.
23:49We need to get that saucy.
23:50We really don't appreciate the jokes.
23:53When his reactions are that strong and that harsh or somewhat unjustified, I just know
24:00it's bad.
24:18Oh, hello.
24:20Hello, darling.
24:21How are you?
24:22Yeah, I'm good, thank you.
24:23How are you?
24:24I'm okay.
24:25You know, to lose a dad at a young age, you know, you always, you need your parents
24:29for certain reasons.
24:30With my dad, you know, we, we lost a parental figure.
24:37And I think I'm very, very lucky that my aunt wants to take on that role.
24:43You know, that guiding, strong, telling off that probably sometimes we all need.
24:49And I always say, she's my father in a wig, which she loves.
24:55Or so I think she does.
24:57Do you have the meeting?
24:59Yeah.
24:59Well, we're active on the transplant list and hopefully a liver in 18 to 24 months time.
25:06Oh, that, that's better news than I saw.
25:08Yeah.
25:09At the moment we probably speak every day.
25:11My whole call log is just Lisa.
25:15And then if I go down, it's just mum.
25:18Yeah, mum, Lisa, Ollie, Locke and Alice.
25:23If I did unfortunately get unwell, I would be boosted up the list and I would get it quicker.
25:28It's a very strange area you're in.
25:32You're kind of hopeful for the worse, but also, you know, it's, it's navigating this field
25:38and deciding what types of livers that you would be willing to accept.
25:42When it comes to live.
25:45Live donations.
25:47Yeah.
25:48Yeah.
25:48Yeah.
25:48I mean, actually funny that you bring it up.
25:50If you take a liver off the waiting list, a lot of these livers aren't, you know, they
25:54are coming from elderly people.
25:56They are coming from people in their 50s, 60s, 70s.
25:59Excuse me, elderly people in their 50s.
26:04I'm going to cut you off right now.
26:06Stop that right now.
26:06Sorry.
26:07Sorry.
26:09Let me, let me, let me, let me, uh, retract.
26:13Well, I'm a negative and I'm an old bag.
26:15So that takes me out of it.
26:17Obviously, thank you for your kind words.
26:20So did they talk about investigating with anybody else in the family?
26:24Your mother would give you her left arm.
26:28I mean, I bet your mother would say, I want to be tested.
26:31Mm.
26:32Yeah.
26:33Well.
26:35Mm.
26:36We have to look at that.
26:41Mm.
26:44Obviously, everyone wants the best for me.
26:47And everyone just wants me to stay healthy and stay well.
26:50But at times, it just becomes a little bit overwhelming.
26:56So, under the guidance of your doctor, it's something we have to discuss.
27:02Yeah.
27:03You keep your nose and your head down and you just, you just get on with life.
27:09Take every day as it comes.
27:11All right, darling.
27:12Well, I love you.
27:13Love you.
27:14All right.
27:15Will you say it with a bit more light?
27:17I love you.
27:18Okay.
27:19I love you.
27:21Bye.
27:22Bye.
27:26Oh, God.
27:37Hello.
27:39How are you?
27:40All right.
27:41All right.
27:41All right, mate.
27:42You all right, mate?
27:44You all right, mate?
27:44I'm doing your favourite.
27:45I'm doing your favourite.
27:46I'm doing your favourite.
27:47We're kids.
27:48When was Austin you watched it?
27:49Um, about a year ago.
27:51Two years ago.
27:51Since I watched it.
27:55It's your brother, yeah?
27:56Yeah.
27:57What's your name, mate?
27:58Jack.
27:58Good to meet you, Jack.
27:59Nice to meet you.
28:01I was always a nightmare.
28:02I was always the problem child.
28:04Um, my brother was perfection.
28:06Straight A star, academic gift of a student.
28:11And there was me getting kicked out of school.
28:14Are you prepared for tomorrow?
28:16Uh, I think so.
28:18We've actually got to go pick up the rings after this.
28:20I wanted always a very minimalistic gold band.
28:24Yeah.
28:24And I was about to buy one from the jewellers.
28:26And my brother and my mum went, well, we've got dad's gold band.
28:30That's lovely.
28:31And it's sentimental as well.
28:33But then what they did to it, the jewellers, they've made it look brand new as well.
28:36So look, look at that.
28:38Oh my God, that looks like the one ring to rule them all, mate.
28:40Yeah, I know, yeah, yeah.
28:41That's literally...
28:42You know what?
28:43Funny enough, I was watching Lord of the Rings last night.
28:45Did you?
28:45Yeah, yeah, yeah.
28:46Love my precious.
28:47Not for long, mate.
28:48Because when your other precious comes, that will be the one.
28:51Jack, what are your responsibilities tomorrow?
28:53I don't think there are any responsibilities.
28:56It's quite a quiet affair, isn't it?
28:58Yeah.
28:59I'm making the music playlist.
29:00Yeah, he's making a music playlist.
29:03Have you done that?
29:04No, I'm going to do it tomorrow morning.
29:07This is why Jack doesn't have any responsibilities.
29:25We're on our way to the registry office.
29:27Are you excited?
29:28Very excited, yes.
29:30Don't you know what I mean, it's a pretty big day.
29:33I'm really busy for you, okay?
29:35Alright.
29:36Alright, well, I'll be there.
29:37Lots of love, bud.
29:37Alright.
29:38So let's go now.
29:40Come on.
29:42Go, go.
29:43It's time, so let's go, go, go.
29:46It's time, so let's go, go, go.
29:49It's time, so let's go, go, go.
29:50It's time, so let's go now.
29:53Get in front of the room.
29:56She's a bit fussy, this to jump like that.
29:58It's really fussy.
29:59You're lovely too.
30:00Very James Bond.
30:00Thank you very much.
30:01Someone said to me in the pub, do you want a martini shake master?
30:06How are you?
30:07A little bit of buggy for something.
30:08Right, just stay.
30:09He's got make-up.
30:10No, he's got make-up.
30:11Hello.
30:12We'll shake hands.
30:12No, we've never done that.
30:14I'm not wearing that.
30:14Okay.
30:20Good, we've never done that way.
30:31Sam?
30:32Yes?
30:33Ar有點.
30:34Let's go.
30:43your normal journey is to date move in get a dog get engaged and do it all over a few
30:55year period
30:56which would have been you know which is lovely ladies and gentlemen please stand for your bride
31:00and have party for the reason we've decided to do this smaller wedding sooner we've got a baby
31:09coming we want to have the same last name you know there are other reasons for me as well obviously
31:20plan for the worst hope for the best
31:30i was very overwhelmed before the doors opened to me walking down the aisle
31:34i had a lot of anxiety a lot of emotions
31:40and then it was actually seeing his face when he turned around and
31:43him smiling that made me feel so calm that's when i was like oh my god i'm marrying the love
31:49of my life
31:51you can't kiss you're not married yet
31:56it wasn't the vows it wasn't the rings it was the moment that we like made eye contact in that
32:01room
32:02and i hadn't seen him for 24 hours and he just smiled so if i could ask you please to
32:08repeat after
32:09me i'm definitely gonna mess this up i do solemnly declare i do solemnly declare that i know not of
32:17any lawful impediment
32:18of anyone
32:19lawful impediment why I Sam why I Sam may not be joined in matrimony may not be
32:29may not be joined in match in matrimony to Alice to Alice thank you I do some
32:34solemnly declare that I know not that I know not of any lawful impediment that I
32:39of any lawful impediment why I Alice may not be joined in matrimony to Sam to
32:47Sam so Sam do you take Alice to be your lawful wife I do and Alice do you take
32:54Sam to be your lawful husband I do you are now husband and wife
33:30it is with my great pleasure that I get to introduce Mr. and Mrs. Vanderpump
33:44I don't think I could be happier today and there's only one reason for that and she's
33:49sat next to me and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you
34:04have you told Sam you're not giving back a necklace yet it might just happen to go
34:17missing I think it's gone off about a hitch absolutely fantastic yeah I don't think I've
34:30been smiling all day I look at it's like she's my best friend and I feel so happy so secure
34:39and just
34:40generally so happy I don't think I could have asked for anything more
35:05I'm very lucky that I have the support network around me of my family
35:09but at the end of the day it is still an extremely lonely journey most people that go through a
35:17need
35:18for a liver transplant are in their 70s and plus it's a very rare thing to be a 28 year
35:26old man who
35:27needs a liver transplant this is a guy who's a similar age to me who's gone through this journey
35:34and showing me he can do it and if he can do it why can't I do it this is
35:39what terrifies me right
35:41which is the surgery and coming out of that surgery with all these cannulas in your neck
35:47these drains plugged into you I mean he looks great he's doing brilliant and you know he's done
35:53he's recorded this whole journey on TikTok so what a legend I love this guy I want to meet him
35:58yeah
36:06brilliant
36:07hello how's it going you're all right I'm good man are you Chris yeah I'm Chris Spoggy shall I call
36:12you
36:12yeah Spoggy but yeah that's been my nickname since I was like about 12 years old so wicked wicked nice
36:19to meet you mate you too man you too how you doing yeah I mean I think you probably know
36:24better than anyone
36:25that's a hard question right now yeah it's a difficult one the thing is though with the way
36:29I looked at it is it was very much like an acceptance of the situation yeah and I think
36:34this is just because of the length of time but in my head I got to a point where I
36:37was like I'm
36:38probably not going to come out of this wow it was like 18 months and total you were waiting 18
36:43months
36:43yeah wow yeah 18 months which is what they've sort of said to me 18 24 months yeah and it
36:49was just
36:49like getting the call for the transplant it was kind of like this moment of like
36:54just overwhelming emotion
36:56the bit that you don't see on the video that I posted is that after I put the phone down
37:12I mean Mrs stops the recording she sort of stands up off the couch like walking towards me and you
37:21can just I could like I'm getting goosebumps now and she was like you did it you just couldn't kind
37:27of believe that this this had actually happened like I'd actually had this call the biggest struggle
37:32I think I've been having is the fear of the operation so for me I guess like there's a naivety
37:37to it I'm saying I'll be fine don't worry and me mom and me missus don't worry I'll see you
37:43in a
37:43couple of hours and then as they're putting me to sleep and the drugs are kicking in I almost had
37:49this like Bruce Willis Armageddon moment where my brain just went oh you might not see them again
37:55oh god Spoggy's TikTok it's hard to watch for me it really is imagine this watch a horror movie
38:04knowing that that's what you're going to go through and I think that's the way you can explain
38:09watching Spoggy's footage obviously yours ended up being a DCD death by cardiovascular liver right so
38:16but one thing they've been saying to me heavily was a live donation um and I just wondered what if
38:23they were that like that's with you or did that ever come up the conversation did come up my mom
38:28and dad and one or two of me mate so like I'll like I'll get tested I'll be and I'm
38:33I was kind of
38:34like maybe a little bit stubborn yes and I was like no I was like this is this is my
38:41illness I'm not
38:43going to put you at risk yeah same same just literally fix me I am the one how could you
38:48ever
38:49live with yourself if you're free you wake up and you're friends don't yeah no yeah same I was
38:54exactly saying yeah but look the thing is I'll be honest because I know more about it now and I've
39:01spoke to people that have been live donors I think I probably would explore it interesting now that I
39:09know like in terms of like how safe it is and I've seen I've actually spoke to people that have
39:14come
39:14through it I would explore it I mean all the time you know all of these little conversations around
39:22live donation they do have me thinking I really appreciate your time mate honestly but it's nice
39:30to hear someone who's gone through a lot of the same stuff I've gone through and you know you can
39:34talk to your family and friends and they're there to support you but he's actually gone through it
39:47one thing I don't understand is what we're gonna are we do you dress in full outfits from the
39:53beginning or do you just um you bring like three small baby grows one slightly larger one in case
39:59I dress him uh should I dress him in a suit as he leaves the hospital no no put him
40:05in this one for
40:06the first outfit so and you can wear your matching top I don't know about that
40:16too these are from Ollie and Gareth and this is his first pair of swim shorts very prepared
40:29hello hello
40:37good thank you for cooking
40:45did you enjoy the wedding yeah it was gorgeous did you see that hello swapped up that yeah it's making
40:53it look like that's my right hand where are you million views wow 3.1 oh at least it's just
40:59popped
40:59up
41:07speaking the same language we are it's the same mental capacity yeah i knew that joke was coming
41:13too easy yes i set you up i set you up for that one do you think we're crazy for
41:19ordering a cream couch
41:21white white whitey cream yeah quite seriously they will get a pen and do that by the time they're
41:26one and a half no there'll be a baby date and they will not be going in the lounge and
41:30there won't
41:30be loose pens around it will be pen time i promise you a child will find a pen like it's
41:35not even a
41:36discussion you guys don't do it by halves do you it's quite extraordinary yeah do like oh let's
41:42have a liver transplant let's have a uh let's have a baby it's exhausting this looks so good
41:51i am hungry greedy and feeding for two you know what right now i'd rather a liver transplant than
41:57going through what you're going to go through not what you were saying the other day when i said
42:00i'm really scared to give birth you and i'd rather do that than have a liver transplant
42:05the surgeons have actually come up to me and said that why wouldn't i consider a live donation it's
42:11actually the best type and what they would push heavily for is a live donation um because obviously
42:19waiting on a waiting list for two years i could become seriously ill while waiting also with a live
42:26donation you ensure that uh the liver is completely healthy but you have to have a full liver no no
42:34no you
42:34can take so with live donations they can take half or 40 percent or a slice of someone's liver yeah
42:41because uh the liver regenerates and when they say it regenerates literally if you slice it in half
42:47and you keep your right lobe and you donate to let's say your left lobe your liver would regrow
42:52pretty much to its full self again inside your body within four to six weeks and the lobe you put
42:58inside me
42:59would also grow to a full liver pretty much within about six weeks it's the fastest regenerating
43:04the only regenerating vital organ in the body um and what's even really amazing about it is it would
43:11actually probably regenerate faster than your wound your scar would even heal how long is the recovery
43:17for the person donates to liver i think three months it's no blankets it's probably it's definitely not
43:22the same for everyone i'm sure so do you know what blood type you are yeah i'm oh negative i
43:28think
43:29yeah universal yeah universal you're the same as me yeah you'd be a match for a live donation
43:34technically i'll definitely get tested no i will so it's such a weird one i don't want like i was
43:44expecting this from our conversation oh i think if dareth can go and have a test i think it's worth
43:49discussion what did you feel about the lunch nice to see them um lovely lunch
43:59lovely food lovely company how did you feel when gareth kind of mentioned that he is the same blood
44:04type as you and would get a test i mean look gareth's got kids um i don't want to have
44:10to feel
44:13like what i'm going through already is is hard enough i don't want to feel responsible for now this is
44:21like
44:22my illness right i see how much it affects you that you wouldn't want that like pressure or
44:28guilt or worry or concern for someone else or put someone through that i can see that really strongly
44:33but then from my side selfishly as well it's like we don't know anything everything's unknown we don't
44:41know when it's going to happen we don't know what's going to happen in that time frame
44:44in a way i just want you to to have the best chance as soon as possible you know takes
44:51the pressure off
44:52knowing that we have a bit of control over like time frame and we don't have to worry as much
44:57about
44:57things getting worse or whatever if i don't even know if that makes any sense
45:04no it does that is the thing that scares me with the time that we've had to think about things
45:10don't want you to get any more ill i guess in a way the optimist in us should just focus
45:20on that he
45:20is okay now but i can't help think we're having a baby what if in six months suddenly he's got
45:27a
45:27really bad infection he's not okay you know he has an option here and if i didn't push for that
45:34and something did go wrong and juke doesn't have a dad i would kick myself like you've got to
45:42i do want him to explore it but then i don't want any added pressure on his shoulders
45:58hello i did actually contact with the disorder you did yeah and relax from my point of view the
46:04liver looks good not even a question of can i do it do i want to do it it's i
46:09want to fight to do it
46:10it looks so comfy there on you come in bye i'm so glad i'm here i'm part of it i
46:19love you baby
46:45you
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