00:00I want to be there for you on your special day
00:02and I don't want your vision to be hindered
00:05by what I am able to spend.
00:07Is that okay?
00:07Or is there some way else I can support you?
00:10What I think we should all acknowledge
00:11is that we should not go into financial duress
00:15for other people's life moments.
00:17For your cousin's, friend's, roommate's, brother,
00:21you can say no and you should not feel weird
00:24about saying no.
00:25I have certainly said no to invitations,
00:27but if it's like truly a friend
00:29and I really can't make it for whatever reason,
00:32we'll text them on the side
00:33or send like an email or something
00:34and be like, hey, thank you so much for thinking of me.
00:36I'm so bummed to be missing this.
00:38Wishing you a lifetime of happiness
00:39and I will send a gift.
00:41But you should also be having a very candid conversation,
00:44whether you are the bride
00:45or whether you are the attendee
00:47about what you can and cannot afford.
00:50Also, if you are a bridesmaid
00:52or you are someone attending a wedding,
00:54don't be shy about reaching out to the bride and groom
00:56and being like, hey, I absolutely,
00:59would love to attend all of these things.
01:02Unfortunately, I've got some debt that I'm paying down.
01:05I've got something that I'm saving up for.
01:06What are the most important things to you that I'm at?
01:09Or say, this is my budget for this.
01:11I want to be there for you on your special day
01:13and I don't want your vision to be hindered
01:16by what I am able to spend.
01:18Is that okay?
01:18Or is there some way else I can support you?
01:21But it doesn't have to be,
01:22yes, we will go to your engagement party in New York City,
01:26your bridal shower in Chicago,
01:28your bachelorette in Cabo,
01:30and then I'll come to Paris to watch you get married.
01:32That's not, like, it's not feasible.
01:34That's not feasible.
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