00:00What if the reason you feel this much pain is also the reason why you feel this much joy?
00:06What if I told you feeling pain is a necessary condition to experience pleasure?
00:12In her book 101 Essays that Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest,
00:17she talks about this idea that pain and pleasure lies on the same spectrum.
00:21This means that for you to feel ecstasy, joy and profound happiness,
00:26you also have to open yourself to the idea of profound and intense despair.
00:32You cannot choose to feel the extreme of one without opening yourself out to the other.
00:39I had read this long back and it is accident to my brain forever.
00:43But I recently came across the same idea again by Friedrich Nietzsche,
00:48where he said that what if pleasure and displeasure are so tied together
00:52that whoever wanted the most of one must also feel as much as possible of the other.
01:00And this honestly felt such a relief to me to read this idea again and again by different authors
01:07because it finally made sense to me that it's okay to be a sensitive person,
01:12to feel deeply for myself and also for others.
01:16As much as it is so hard to feel all these emotions,
01:19sometimes even conflicting feelings that we don't fully understand,
01:22I think I am more terrified of being stuck in the middle,
01:26to be unable to feel anything.
01:29In one of her interviews by Lily Reinhardt, she says something that is so profound.
01:33She says how when I'm experiencing this intense feelings,
01:37even painful and uncomfortable ones,
01:39there is beauty in knowing that I have the capacity to feel it.
01:42So every time I'm feeling this intense emotions,
01:45I am reminded of the fact that I am alive and human
01:49and I have the capacity to feel things so intensely
01:52and that reminder is worth holding on to.
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