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00:00:03a visit from their family and friends have YouTube said I love you I think he
00:00:09has to say first gave our couples fresh perspective she's like this on Steve and
00:00:14Steve's are sitting here like this and saw Rachel and Steven deepen their bond
00:00:18beautiful tea for a beautiful girl Tyson 2.0 bring it in advice from the experts
00:00:25gave his marriage a much-needed boost I'll just stand here for another three
00:00:29minutes but the final crash course task gay guys coming up to me I don't like that
00:00:33saw he and Stephanie clash you like gay people I'm not gay myself you know each
00:00:39to their own but um I know that I hope so what I need more from you is space the
00:00:48eye gaze not gonna stand to your devil eyes and following a disastrous move-in
00:00:53week you don't see the star in me you don't see the light in me it's metaphor
00:01:00Juliette vented her rage at Joel at a fiery dinner party very disgusted by
00:01:05you I'm not I'm not married to a man I actually like the teddy more than I like
00:01:11Oh my god I am absolutely disgusted tonight welcome everybody to the fourth commitment ceremony love is in
00:01:26the air my husband told me last night you look sexy our couples continue to make significant progress
00:01:34we share that first patch thanks to you guys we love a patch so what's the issue with
00:01:38the words of the feelings are there Philip's moment of truth man has to say it first
00:01:43that's a Puerto Rican opinion too I get it is this the night he drops those magic words first of
00:01:53all I'm not
00:01:53against gay people I just feel like that whole topic can can really be pushed on us Tyson's unfiltered
00:01:59opinions I think you have much empathy cause tension amongst the group having awareness is
00:02:05not pushing anything I need but is this the hill he is willing to die on I'm done with this
00:02:10experiment
00:02:12and all we are hearing our excuses sorry seems to be the hardest word you were giving me devil eyes
00:02:20you should apologize to me Juliette's version of events leaves the whole room speechless I certainly
00:02:27understand what that means okay are you even listening to what I'm saying over Alessandra show some respect
00:02:57what's the fact of having an a sneeze or an orgasm what's happening
00:03:03it's the morning of the fourth commitment ceremony all right here give me a cuddle
00:03:09how's that coffee it's all right like a drink I'm drinking it
00:03:16another week following a successful family and friends week for Rachel and Stephen the pair are on
00:03:22cloud nine thanks for the pancakes you're very welcome coffee soothes the soul I don't think
00:03:30there's much to soothe this morning though their family and friends lunch was a huge step forward
00:03:36for the couple with Stephen receiving some much-needed advice from his family about his levels of
00:03:42affection towards Rachel feel like when they were sitting this she's like this on Steve and Steve's
00:03:48just sitting here like this like come on dude she obviously is really into you let your wall down a
00:03:55little bit and equipped with mum's words of wisdom Stephen is now seeing Rachel in a whole
00:04:00new light even like I feel like we've just shot forward in our relationship in a really great way like
00:04:07last night when we were going to bed Stephen was so happy pretty fun it was delightful that was a
00:04:15bit
00:04:15funny it's amazing what you when you just have a glass of wine and you talk for a few hours
00:04:20how you
00:04:21can feel about someone or you just have a little moment or bantering on you go oh you're awesome
00:04:28well I think we've had the best work we've had to be honest yeah you know that's why I'm sort
00:04:32of
00:04:32really looking forward to the commitment ceremony I want John to be like yeah good on you mate
00:04:39despite Rachel and Stephen's positivity last night's dinner party left many of the couples reeling
00:04:46as tensions between Juliet and Joel reached breaking point
00:04:50you see the way she speaks to me this is how it is I mean right now I'm like disgusted
00:04:57I'm not married to a man is what we're trying to say I actually like the teddy more than I
00:05:02like Joel
00:05:09Joel and Juliet that was a disaster it was it was chaos that was bad the way they communicated
00:05:15was horrible last night I felt really sorry for Joel yeah for her to just disrespect him like that in
00:05:23front of a whole group I think was out of order to be honest no I agree she was nasty
00:05:28she was so
00:05:29nasty to him yeah and like he was never ever ever disrespectful last night he didn't even say to
00:05:36her you know your braids at the front of your head are stupid like he didn't say anything I reckon
00:05:41the
00:05:41experts are gonna have a bit to say to Juliet yeah she's gonna get more heat than a sauna yeah
00:05:46but
00:05:47I think she's gonna have a lot of regret to be honest with you good I felt bad for Joel
00:05:52for him to
00:05:53be attacked that badly by his partner that would be tough I hope he's okay
00:06:02waking up alone the effects of Juliet's words are taking their toll on husband Joel yeah feeling a bit
00:06:09dazed and confused and perplexed and my heart is hurting the biggest impact coming from Juliet being
00:06:20adamant that Joel declared himself the star of married at first sight fine you're getting all
00:06:26of that from me no you're not getting a you know okay you don't understand I'm gonna give you you
00:06:30don't see the star in me you don't see the light in me yeah literally it's a metaphor he looked
00:06:39at me
00:06:39like deadpan me in the eyes and said well I'm the star Juliet has behaved appallingly I came into this
00:06:51experiment with an open heart and an open mind and it's very clear that we have hit rock bottom
00:07:01um um I'm not really feeling good about seeing Juliet at the moment the way Juliet is treating me
00:07:10right now it makes me feel less than and it makes me feel like I'm not valued so things have
00:07:15to change
00:07:15for sure going into this commitment ceremony I really hope that Juliet has been able to reflect
00:07:24on her behavior I'm hoping that Juliet can apologize to me yeah I don't deserve to be treated like this
00:07:35everyone's got their limit and I'm close to mine
00:07:45down the hall in a separate apartment Juliet remains convinced that Joel said he was the star
00:07:51of the show and questions his authenticity in the experiment well yeah I'm not apologizing for last
00:07:58night no way what I saw of Joel at the dinner party I was completely disgusted by you um he
00:08:10just
00:08:10completely gaslit me in front of the whole entire group and then tried to create a smear campaign to
00:08:16paint me out to be some crazy bitch and by the way you're gonna get crazy bitch when you're giving
00:08:21me
00:08:21crazy bitch idiot I think my anger was fair for what I was faced with yeah so tonight I'm hoping
00:08:35that experts see Joel for what he truly is he wants to be perceived as like the star of the
00:08:44DM show and he
00:08:46was not giving stardom he was giving loser he was giving meanie poop he was not behaving like a man
00:08:54he
00:08:55was behaving like a scared little boy he didn't have his teddy bear with him this morning the atmosphere
00:09:07is tense in Stephanie and Tyson's apartment with Stephanie feeling a growing distance
00:09:16between her and husband Tyson just like just a few little things that have like been bottling up I
00:09:23suppose I'm a bit upset by some of his comments some of his views on things like the whole submissive
00:09:31topic and this whole submissive role that Tyson says he wants which he brought up again last night at the
00:09:37dinner party like I look at it this way I'm the writer I'm the protector like I'm the one that's
00:09:42bringing in
00:09:43the money I'm the one that's protecting for my family and my wife should stay home you know clean
00:09:48look after my kids she can't multitask with three kids like she needs a focus on the kids who says
00:09:53that you can't like my husband my husband says I can't he's the most raging man I've ever met in
00:10:01my
00:10:02life but every time I have spoken up he's always like so listen Steph this is how it is Steph
00:10:09so I
00:10:11feel like I'm somewhat suppressing my emotions in order to not have arguments with Tyson how did you
00:10:16feel like we went to last night um I feel like we weren't pretty good um it's really good just
00:10:25to I
00:10:26know be amicable and go in as a united front um opposed to you know having a heated debate with
00:10:33you over something silly this week's dinner party was successful for Tyson and I because I didn't speak
00:10:47out if I had spoken up we would have argued you know Tyson doesn't like to be challenged this week
00:10:54I think um yeah it was a lot more mature environment do you what do you think about David mentioning
00:11:01the
00:11:01submissive thing yeah the whole submissive thing like I just don't think it was something that
00:11:08necessarily had to get you know brought up once again like we've spoken so much about that so yeah
00:11:16let's just get on with that not even I'm not even gonna bother talking about that anymore but um yeah
00:11:22look I think with Danny um he's actually quite a nice guy so I feel a bit at my wits
00:11:35end everything
00:11:36it's Tyson's way out of the highway I will raise a few issues with the experts this evening it seems
00:11:41that the only person he listens to is John not even Mel and Alessandra because they're women
00:11:50stay positive Steph and um yeah yeah going into this commitment ceremony I'm feeling good I think
00:12:00me and Steph are definitely at a more a better place I'm looking forward to speaking to most of
00:12:06be John um Alessandra's she's a sexologist so it's kind of irrelevant Mel Mel's Mel but I'm all ears
00:12:15for John yeah it's going to be interesting yeah
00:12:29the countdown is on to tonight's fourth commitment ceremony yeah which marks the first time that our
00:12:36three new couples can decide whether to stay you're looking sharp ah thank you you too thank
00:12:42you so much or leave the experiment I was going to try not ruin your lipstick yeah you're wearing it
00:12:55on your cheek now babes no badge of honor
00:13:14greetings gentlemen hello guys come on in looking fabulous all ears
00:13:33greetings gentlemen welcome ladies hey hello ladies hello
00:13:44how are you put that pillow behind you so
00:14:02welcome everybody to the fourth commitment ceremony the honeymoon is absolutely over now
00:14:12this week has been a big week for our original couples of course you've had the opportunity to
00:14:18meet with friends and family and our new couples who have just moved in of course just went through
00:14:24crash course week we'll be here tonight to go over everything that happened what didn't happen
00:14:30and what should be happening moving forward first up on the couch
00:14:42philip and stella
00:14:48hello hello how are you two going yeah we're going we're going great how did this week go with friends
00:14:56and
00:14:57family and family and everything i went great um but we've got a heart hitting question asked by one
00:15:05of philip's good mates straight away he's like oh guys i have an important question to ask did you
00:15:12already said i love you and i was like okay i need to get a drink i was like i
00:15:16need to get away
00:15:17how did you manage that we just said that we do communicate without
00:15:22words but we do both agree like the feelings are there for sure so what's the issue with the words
00:15:29if the feelings are there i have an opinion
00:15:34that man has to say first oh that's a puerto rican opinion too i get it
00:15:40yeah yeah yes yes yeah her belief system is that you know if it's going to come out of anyone
00:15:45first
00:15:46so i'm gonna have to say it so just for my own clarification just so that i understand this well
00:15:54you were mentioning that you guys feel things and that you know because you know and you're
00:16:00communicating that by morse code and looks but no words yeah yeah we're tiptoeing around like we ask
00:16:10some random questions like i guess do you think i love you and she's like yeah and i'm like
00:16:14oh yeah he's using it in a sentence yeah he started to use word love it's been dusted off
00:16:21i'm not allergic to say yeah yeah so we're just alluring i guess around it
00:16:26we're in a good place the friends and family when i was sitting there i was like looking around
00:16:31everyone's getting along and like a dream everyone's eating and stuff i'm like yeah but
00:16:34we this could totally work in the the real world you know it just just it feels right you know
00:16:40and
00:16:41we're still in the experiment but i'm like yeah this is this is for me you know what do you
00:16:45think
00:16:45yeah i agree it's beautiful yeah it's just easy so what is holding you back philip from telling her
00:16:53how you feel uh the feelings are super strong but i know that sometimes you can get caught up in
00:17:01the
00:17:01whole experiment and um i want it to be genuine like i personally like i've only said i've only
00:17:08said it to someone just living in the outside world like not in an experiment i understand that he is
00:17:12real this is real have you ever been an experiment i don't know all right i don't know in this
00:17:21environment in another environment if you're feeling then you're feeling and i think that needs to be
00:17:27celebrated now there's definitely yeah there's good vibes around it with us yeah it's i don't
00:17:32know yeah we'll see no yeah we'll get back to this that's right well i don't think we're going to
00:17:40be
00:17:40very surprised then no we should go to the decision stella you go ahead i adore him he's beautiful and
00:17:46um
00:17:46yeah up uh upwards and up uh whatever the saying is stay brilliant uh this week's been great and um
00:17:57just it all leads to this is gonna work you know so i'm i'm loving it i'm gonna be hanging
00:18:03around here
00:18:04loving it staying we're loving it too for you guys well done have a great week appreciate you cheers
00:18:09thanks thanks thank you thanks love all right let's get our next couple up joel and juliet hello you
00:18:29two come and grab a seat how was your week it was okay
00:18:42that's putting it mildly we've had a few a few nice moments
00:18:51apart from that it's been really bad
00:18:59okay tell us uh joel what has been the the difficult moments through the week
00:19:13i said to her juliet i'm not a fake person you just don't see the real me you don't see
00:19:19the light in me and you don't see the star in me
00:19:26and she's like aha see you think you're the star of the show and i'm like juliet it's a metaphor
00:19:32it's a
00:19:32figure of speech i'm what i mean by that is you don't see the true essence in me so she
00:19:39has twisted
00:19:40that whole thing no yeah juliet i remember the exact words i used so you've misinterpreted my words and
00:19:48used them against me to publicly slander me can i speak thanks you are painting me out to be a
00:19:55liar
00:19:56you said you are the star and you definitely don't see me as the wife you see me as your
00:20:02way onto this
00:20:03show because you again want to be the star of the show no no that's not true i never said
00:20:09that
00:20:12there's just constant reputation savaging like last night the way she talks down to me in public in front of
00:20:22everyone it shows that she has no respect for me last week we did the physical intimacy challenge that
00:20:31was set and i read out the first envelope and i read step one stare into each other's eyes for
00:20:38three
00:20:39minutes and then she screamed at me i'm not staring into your devil eyes that was very hurtful did you
00:20:45say that yeah it does feel like i'm getting the devil vibes from him sometimes
00:20:52sorry gonna call it how i feel are you not apologetic about that do you know i'm not
00:20:58apologetic at that moment you were giving me devil eyes
00:21:05all you've done is is is degrade me and demean me and disrespect me and put me down
00:21:09and i've never retaliated once not once in two weeks not once have i said i have said one mean
00:21:16thing to you not one not one insult wow honestly like feels like i'm always at fault for everything
00:21:25you haven't earned up to anything you should apologize to me
00:21:55i think i should have apologized after the dinner party last night yeah 100 percent
00:22:08so just to be clear you would hope for joel to apologize tonight to you
00:22:19i would hope that he takes accountability um
00:22:25i don't think joel thinks he has done anything wrong like i don't think he thinks he's hurt me in
00:22:31any way i think he thinks he's the the realest one here
00:22:37and the one that's the most evolved and there's nothing he's ever done wrong in his life
00:22:45but i feel like last night was just very uncalled for um felt like we were doing a um smear
00:22:53campaign
00:22:54against me at the end of the table with the guys and tried to make me look bad like that
00:23:01doesn't
00:23:01seem like a good husband to me what were those specific moments what were those things that he
00:23:07was saying or doing to you that really was designed to make you look bad
00:23:18i don't know i guess maybe when we were talking about like the star comment
00:23:40and he just kept gaslighting me and lying me saying that i was the one that was lying that i
00:23:46was one
00:23:47making up all of that stuff but we've already established that i use the word star to describe
00:23:52a metaphor you said you are the star um and you know you are the theatrical man it's like it
00:23:59just
00:23:59feels like i'm not talking to a human being joel you're shaking your head in disbelief what's going
00:24:05on for you i think at the core of it juliet does not accept me for who i am you
00:24:12think i'm fake i'm
00:24:13not a fake person juliet i've treated you this vibe feels very character right now no it's not character
00:24:18i'm not a character i've worked hard to become this man and i have a very strong sense of self
00:24:24and
00:24:24i'm happy i'm joyful i spread positivity wherever i go and i make people feel better about themselves
00:24:32you think you do that is what i do i spread love and i spread joy you haven't been doing
00:24:36that with me
00:24:37i've been trying but you push me away juliet you've been pushing me away and you've been putting me down
00:24:42you've been rejecting me and you've been very nasty are you actually listening to yourself
00:24:49the way you speak is is vicious and with venom you know the way you speak is condescending and
00:24:55belittling no no it's not yes it is no it's not juliet yes it is okay
00:25:03we've heard enough we know from what we saw last night and from what we see on the couch that
00:25:12it's
00:25:12time particularly for you juliet to listen this is something that you need to take on board
00:25:23i find it breathtaking that you juliet want an apology from joel for last night
00:25:36your behavior last night towards joel was ugly
00:25:46and if i'm being totally honest it was mean and cruel
00:25:57we're not sure if we've ever seen someone on the attack in such a way as you did to joel
00:26:03last night
00:26:05you called him a liar you said he wasn't a man
00:26:12you said he was embarrassing
00:26:16and you found him unattractive
00:26:25you said actually tonight that he launched a smear campaign against you last night
00:26:34and what we saw was you going around to different groups of people and destroying his character
00:26:43and at no point did he say anything derogatory about you and yet you sit here saying i want an
00:26:52apology
00:26:53from him
00:26:55do you see how unusual that request is yeah i don't think you understand the magnitude of it yeah
00:27:06no no i'm telling you this because you need to learn that regardless of whether there's a he said
00:27:13she said going on in a relationship regardless of whether you feel like there's an injustice
00:27:21you can never talk to your partner in that way because that is absolutely inappropriate and unacceptable
00:27:31to happen in a relationship yeah
00:27:38i'll tell you what my concern is and it is one among many what we witnessed last night was so
00:27:44incredibly vile
00:27:46if that is the way that you dare to speak to joel in public i shudder to think how you
00:27:51can speak to him
00:27:52behind closed doors it was shocking
00:27:56yeah i mean i definitely was unkind last night unkind is really really throwing a lot of sugar on top
00:28:06of
00:28:07it but yesterday it feels like i was fully crashing out yeah if you saw what i was saying the
00:28:14fact that
00:28:14you're justifying any of it and still still have not with profound shame and remorse turned to your
00:28:25partner and apologized is beyond me no i definitely think i was unkind for sure because i was angry
00:28:31i was hurt like you know when we're fighting i do say mean things in the heat of the moment
00:28:37but like
00:28:38that's that's normal like everyone does that all we are hearing right now are excuses you are not
00:28:46taking any of this feedback on board yeah um you're sitting there and you're saying yep yeah and you're
00:28:52saying okay but you're sitting there with your arms crossed absolutely closed off to anything that we are
00:29:00saying look i have not heard a word of acknowledgement and not an apology yeah absolutely not an apology
00:29:06okay i'll do that now if i can
00:29:23um
00:29:27look last night i obviously involved all of you guys
00:29:36i'm very sorry honestly like not one to be dragging every single person down
00:29:51i don't think you need to apologize to us you need to apologize to him julia i'm about to i'm
00:29:56about to
00:29:57you so sorry thank you bye
00:30:17i'm very sorry honestly like not one to be dragging every single person down
00:30:32I
00:30:32Don't think you need to apologize to us you need to apologize to him Julia. I'm about to I'm about
00:30:37you. Ah, I thought I would be first
00:30:43Um
00:30:46Joel
00:30:51I
00:30:53Have always said definitely the wrong thing
00:30:59And I don't feel that much hatred towards you I
00:31:07Guess maybe I just felt
00:31:09Watered down and tired and exhausted and it just came out in a disgusting way, and I really apologize for
00:31:16Hurting your feelings. You're definitely a man
00:31:23You're not you're not you're shaking your head. I don't accept your apology
00:31:29I think it's insincere
00:31:33Okay, I
00:31:34Guess when I was feeling so hurt I
00:31:37Completely didn't see how much hurt and pain I was giving to you you've been doing that from day one
00:31:41No, I haven't yeah, this is how it's been from day one behind the scenes
00:31:46No, it has not
00:31:47Juliet what I'm saying to you feedback that you need to hear is
00:31:53You talk in a very toxic fight style
00:31:56You can't say sorry. I've apologized not really
00:32:02I'm confused why you think that I can give you a really good example just now you were
00:32:07Apologizing in your apology
00:32:09Part of the words you used where I don't even feel that much hatred
00:32:15Towards you
00:32:17No, cuz there's been moments. I don't even feel that hatred
00:32:21There's definitely I'm it's not my first language, but I certainly understand what that means
00:32:26Okay, I have been feeling hatred are you even listening to what I'm saying over Alessandra show some respect
00:32:35You're proving our point sure I'm sorry guys
00:32:41Let's go to the decision
00:32:47We're gonna go with you first Joel
00:32:56I have too much respect for myself
00:33:04Juliet what do you got for us?
00:33:14I'm really sorry, but I did write state
00:33:26I'm really sorry
00:33:29I didn't obviously realize how
00:33:34Awful and vile
00:33:36My actions have been
00:33:39Um, I've always
00:33:42Liked the glimpses we've had I've seen why the experts connected us
00:33:48Like we've we have the best time sometimes and so those were the bits where I'm like, okay
00:33:53I want to work towards that more
00:33:56Um, I obviously didn't realize to the extent I was hurting you
00:34:02So I'm hoping then I can make it up to you
00:34:11I guess we have another week together and
00:34:15You said boundaries with me on the second night of the honeymoon, so
00:34:20It's my time to set boundaries sure
00:34:22And I will not be disrespected like that again
00:34:25I will not tolerate it
00:34:29I will always treat you with kindness and respect
00:34:32And I expect the same treatment back
00:34:34Of course
00:34:36So that's my boundaries yeah
00:34:40And it's a one strike policy there's no second chances so that's it
00:34:46Now Joel has very clearly laid out his boundaries to you
00:34:52Are you able to respect those this week?
00:34:56Definitely
00:34:58Do you want to re-say them?
00:35:03I mean it was the bare minimum
00:35:05I don't quite know how you've forgotten
00:35:07We're talking about respect
00:35:10Basic respect
00:35:11Yeah I mean we can I guess have a chat about it tomorrow
00:35:18My biggest worry is that everything that you've heard from us
00:35:23Has fallen on deaf ears
00:35:26Definitely not
00:35:29Well there's only one person that's going to be able to prove us wrong
00:35:34Understood?
00:35:35Yeah
00:35:37You can go back to the group
00:35:38Thanks
00:35:48Do I want to be with a person who disrespects me like that?
00:35:51No I don't
00:35:54So if I'm going to feel differently towards Juliet
00:35:58She needs to drastically change
00:36:05It's time for action
00:36:10Coming up
00:36:12Gotta love that laugh eh
00:36:15Romance is blooming
00:36:16We shared our first patch thanks to you guys
00:36:19I think it was like 25-30 seconds
00:36:20Yeah it's like yeah
00:36:21Yeah keep practising
00:36:22Yeah keep practising
00:36:24Before
00:36:26We bicker when I speak up and share my opinion and you don't like it
00:36:31Stephanie finally speaks out
00:36:34So am I supposed to be quiet?
00:36:36Am I supposed to be quiet?
00:36:49Next couple up on the couch
00:36:55Rachel and Steve-o
00:37:01Hello you two
00:37:04Get rid of that negative energy
00:37:06It's a bit of drama on this lounge today
00:37:09Shake it off
00:37:13Oh look at you two all covered up on the couch there
00:37:16That's posy
00:37:18We noticed that
00:37:22Previously we haven't seen any real physical affection between you two
00:37:27So what's changed? What's going on?
00:37:29Well
00:37:31We had a good um family and friends um day
00:37:35My brother you know gave me some wise words
00:37:39He was observing um the body language between me and Rachel
00:37:44And he goes well I'm watching Rachel
00:37:46She's really leaning into you and giving these cuddles
00:37:48And you're just standing there like a stunned mullet
00:37:51And he goes do you realise how this could be making Rachel feel
00:37:55Like you're sort of subtly rejecting her
00:38:00Wow
00:38:01So took that on board and sort of you know my brother's holding the mirror up to me going
00:38:06Look what you're doing
00:38:08Go brother this is good
00:38:10It's amazing that small little bit of advice can really change things around
00:38:15I feel like now i'm starting to change my ways and i'm showing a bit more
00:38:20You know affection towards Rachel
00:38:22You know we had a pretty good kiss and a bit of a chat and a cuddle on the bed
00:38:26last night
00:38:27So it's definitely a step in the right direction
00:38:29Oh my god
00:38:33That's a big step forward
00:38:35That's a different approach from you
00:38:39Yeah it's a good feeling
00:38:44Can i brag for a second just to love me a subtle brag
00:38:48My husband told me last night before we went to sleep had a little kiss afterwards
00:38:52I said you look so handsome tonight and he's like and you looked sexy
00:38:59Love it
00:39:01It's one thing for your man to call you beautiful right
00:39:04It's another to be called sexy
00:39:06Oh yeah
00:39:07I was like okay okay
00:39:11Love it
00:39:12Gotta love that laugh hey
00:39:18And your smile steve-o
00:39:20My smile
00:39:21You're grinning from ear to ear
00:39:24Yeah awesome
00:39:25It's really good to see
00:39:27And on that note
00:39:29Rachel Sparrow-Lim
00:39:31I shock i'm gonna shock you all i'm gonna die
00:39:37Shock shock
00:39:39Love that
00:39:41Um
00:39:42Do i need to make a speech before i say it or should i just blurt it out
00:39:46Ah i wrote stay
00:39:50There's some exclamation points take note
00:39:54Three
00:39:59It really feels that you are connected this week
00:40:04And now we want to see the romance grow
00:40:07Yes
00:40:08So go back to the couch and next week keep working on that
00:40:12Thank you
00:40:12Have a great week
00:40:13Thank you
00:40:15Thank you
00:40:15Nicely done you two
00:40:16Good stuff
00:40:17Yes
00:40:21Oh my gosh i gotta stop smiling my jaw starts to hurt
00:40:29Our next couple up on the couch
00:40:32Chris and sam
00:40:39Hello boys
00:40:40Hello
00:40:42Welcome
00:40:42A couple of big smiles
00:40:47Yeah
00:40:47How are we
00:40:48Well we're very well but we're more interested in how you two are doing
00:40:52I know we're going well um the crash course is good
00:40:56Great
00:40:57Um yeah we really opened up and were vulnerable with each other and just threw ourselves in
00:41:03I think that's why um we shared our first pash thanks to you guys
00:41:07We love a pash
00:41:09Uh the three minutes was a bit crazy guys
00:41:11We opted for just the normal
00:41:13I think it's like 25-30 seconds
00:41:15Yeah
00:41:15Yeah
00:41:16Yeah keep practicing
00:41:17Yeah keep practicing
00:41:19I'm really enjoying the playfulness that's developing between the two of you
00:41:24It's a sign that you know you're starting to drop the walls and starting to build some trust
00:41:29Every day the tasks that you guys gave us brought us so much closer together um which is probably something
00:41:34i wouldn't do in the real world
00:41:35Um so thank you and i need that and we do have a lot of fun together
00:41:41Yeah
00:41:42And as you know we're always watching the dinner parties
00:41:46And we saw chris that you shared some pretty big news
00:41:51I did yeah
00:41:52Um so obviously i shared the news that i'm i've got children coming
00:41:56Um the group received it so well and they were so supportive so i just want to say thank you
00:42:01guys so much
00:42:02It was really amazing to have that support
00:42:04Congratulations
00:42:10Yeah they just took it so well which was really great um and sam took it great as well
00:42:15Some people may see that as a red flag or you know a bit of an inconvenience i don't know
00:42:19So the fact that sam was really supportive of my decision to do that um meant the world to me
00:42:25I just feel so proud of him
00:42:28You know he's wants to wanted something in his life and he's made it happen which is really cool
00:42:33Um i'm like always been open to kids and kids are saying that i possibly want in the future and
00:42:37so at the end of this experiment if we
00:42:39Are together which i hope we are then we can look at how that's going to look
00:42:43I love the maturity that the two of you are using
00:42:47In in your approach here, you know
00:42:49You've set yourselves up for a positive experience regardless of what the outcome is
00:42:54Yeah
00:42:56Yeah well look i think we will go to the decision yeah we'll go with you first sam uh i
00:43:02wrote
00:43:06Stay and a big smile love it and chris well funny that because i also wrote
00:43:14Oh with a smiley face what the hell matchy matchy
00:43:21Very cute
00:43:24Um i think that you guys really have found your groove and what is actually working for you
00:43:29So i will encourage you to keep doing some more of that and i would highly highly highly stress
00:43:34How important it is that you continue having fun with one another yeah
00:43:38Have a great week thank you thank you guys so much enjoy thank you thank you for everything
00:43:49That's right
00:43:50Our next couple up on the couch
00:43:56Gia and scott yes
00:44:01Welcome to the couch
00:44:03How'd you guys been this week we had our first little run-in oh we did but we're all good
00:44:09we survive we're good
00:44:11Yeah, what happened?
00:44:13So we had family and friends um
00:44:16Overall it was good there was one hiccup on the way um
00:44:21It was a bit of a smart comment my friend made in regards to comparing jedi my ex
00:44:26What was the comment he kind of said like well how do you compare to his ex
00:44:32How are you different to his ex and i'm like whoa
00:44:38Knowing you have had struggles with feeling insecure at times in your past i'm wondering what that brought up for
00:44:46you gia
00:44:48Um it just made me feel like i wasn't good enough to be honest
00:44:53How
00:44:54I don't know like
00:44:58It just hurt because um i've had this happen before with my ex-partner where it's like
00:45:06A certain type of looking girl was like always brought up and like i'd be finding out he'd been looking
00:45:10at this and looking at that
00:45:11And it's like i just felt like oh my god
00:45:14Am i in the same situation again where i'm being compared
00:45:18Like it just made me feel like honestly like i'm less than
00:45:23So i had all these things in my mind and then the next step was very upsetting
00:45:29I'm sitting in the car that there was a song on that like we didn't like and i was like
00:45:33oh he's
00:45:34Like i'll change my change the song i do that you know how your phone comes up with a camera
00:45:38roll memory
00:45:40Came up with his ex-partner like in lingerie
00:45:44And i'm like oh my god what's going on why does he have them like i'm being prepared
00:45:50So i said if you want to be with me and you want this relationship to work i need you
00:45:54to delete all those photos
00:45:56And he said no
00:46:00After what happened with the friends i i thought oh my god i'm not hurt at all i'm not seen
00:46:06i'm not important i just felt
00:46:09Gross
00:46:12There's no excuse i'll take full accountability for this
00:46:16At the time i was lazy i was stubborn i have 71 000 photos on my phone i don't go
00:46:21digging for that stuff
00:46:22Um but i wasn't putting myself in her shoes and i didn't think through it enough
00:46:28Um so once g was just explaining her full emotions it obviously made me realize
00:46:33these photos need to go
00:46:36I raised every single one of them and then we hugged it we kissed and it was the best thing
00:46:40that we felt
00:46:41We both moved on from it straight away
00:46:45And i think the biggest lesson just on that
00:46:49I don't know if you have moved on
00:47:05We both moved on from it straight away
00:47:09And i think the biggest lesson just on that
00:47:13I don't know if you have moved on
00:47:18Because tonight what i'm watching with you two is a different energy
00:47:22uh previously you've been very much a team
00:47:25and you've been very present on the couch whereas tonight particularly you jeer you seem flat
00:47:31as though you've got a lot on your mind
00:47:40I thought i was over it but i still feel like deeply hurt
00:47:48i think scott's kind of grazing over it
00:47:52like for me it was very hard
00:47:55he came to the realization too late for me you know
00:47:59i've let you into my whole world my whole life and i like you can't just delete some photos
00:48:05i i just for me it was like i felt like and i just started rethinking everything
00:48:14i was prepared to leave the whole experiment
00:48:22scott did you know that she was so rattled by this that she was thinking about leaving the experiment
00:48:30i i'll be honest i thought everything was odd like i didn't know
00:48:37that's why we're going there yeah because you need to see this and you need to hear this
00:48:42yeah i i personally didn't know that because i feel like when we talk through things
00:48:46i feel like we've talked through enough of what the problem is we hug we kiss it out we move
00:48:51on
00:48:51with the day and we're actually smiling and we're happy so i didn't know gee felt this hurt
00:48:56i personally didn't or else i would cater and do anything i can to bring the smile on her face
00:49:02the thing with scott is like we'll we'll have this disagreement and like
00:49:05i'll voice how it's made me feel and we'll resolve it but there's residual feelings like the next
00:49:10day where i still might feel like i need just to check in because i feel like yes we apologize
00:49:16and
00:49:16we moved on but like i can't just forget what how i felt because it was quite deep for me
00:49:21and i'll
00:49:21vouch for that i haven't been the type that checks in the next day on an argument or something that's
00:49:26happened before which i now know like it's something i need to work on
00:49:31i'm all in for this and i want to continue this and and grow together and i'm glad this has
00:49:36happened
00:49:36like we need this because we've understood each other more now like i've learned something tonight
00:49:41so mark my word if something happens like this again i'll be checking the next day and making
00:49:46sure you're okay i want you to feel as comfortable as possible like that's my goal if you're happy i'm
00:49:52happier jia what's your feelings towards scott right now um yeah i really like scott like
00:50:02i want to continue being with scott this wasn't enough for me to throw the whole relationship
00:50:07in the bin in fact before the dinner party i introduced him to my daughter wow that's huge
00:50:13seeing the mother she is draws me more towards her because she's such a good bloody mum
00:50:20her daughter's so freaking beautiful she comes up and hugs me says please and thank you the mannerism i see
00:50:26is from the upbringing of what jia has given her i just i really like her and i didn't think
00:50:31i could
00:50:32walk in i didn't know i was going to come in this experiment and i was going to have a
00:50:36kid and i
00:50:36fully accept it like um it makes me a bit upset i want to cry because i love that no
00:50:41because you're a
00:50:41good mum jia how do you see scott fitting in with you and your daughter in your world after the
00:50:50experiment um i see it working i've never introduced my daughter to a guy before ever and i've checked in
00:51:03with my daughter a million times like do you like him um and she's like i love scott dog mom
00:51:07he's so fun
00:51:08like scott dog so yeah he he did fit in well all my friends and family love him so wow
00:51:15that is
00:51:16fantastic to hear you've been through a lot this week uh but we're going to need to go to a
00:51:23decision
00:51:23to find out whether you want to stay on or not go with you first scott well yeah it was
00:51:31a very tough
00:51:31week but we always we resolve our issues and um and i like to draw little things that give memory
00:51:37and
00:51:38feedback from the past week so i put stay with me gia oh that's so cute that's beautiful that's so
00:51:45cute oh my god oh what about you g what do you got for it stay with yeah like we
00:51:52had a big hiccup but i
00:51:53think he gets a better understanding of me through this and it's forcing us to have a deeper connection
00:51:58that i wanted i didn't want easy surface level i really like scott and i'm glad we got through this
00:52:04so with that i'm gonna stay thank you so much it's lovely that's why we have these commitment
00:52:14ceremonies to open up your relationship and to essentially get you looking at things uh sometimes
00:52:20for the first time uh so this very important moment for you tonight well done you can go back to
00:52:26the
00:52:26group thank you thank you so much appreciate it good work little stick figures that's cute they so
00:52:36cute i don't know how to actually draw so stick figures as is hey that's pretty cute but still to
00:52:41come david ticks so many boxes but there's some things that he can't give me alissa's jaw-dropping
00:52:49confession i'm missing that stimulation to make me happy and later i'm done with this bickering
00:52:58i'm done with this tyson is at breaking point i'm done with this experiment
00:53:15next up on the couch
00:53:24alissa and david
00:53:30hello hello hello how are you oh good evening well you two are looking rather happy and relaxed
00:53:36yeah yeah david and i are getting stronger and stronger he ticks so many boxes in my life
00:53:47he's the calm he is he is my home but there's some things that he can't give me
00:53:56i function at a higher frequency and sometimes i feel like i'm missing that stimulation that high
00:54:04frequency that i would normally get from my relationships to make me happy
00:54:12i feel like alissa she's used to past relationships where the guys are louder probably more chaotic
00:54:18a lot of noise i'm calm not reactive like i'm not going to like cause drama and i feel like
00:54:25deep down you might be sort of like uneasy because it's not something that's natural to you
00:54:32maybe david's onto something there when you were coming into this experiment you talked about past
00:54:37relationships and all the arguments that happened yeah there were a lot and maybe because you're now
00:54:43in a relationship that is healthier that's not full of arguments i just wonder if the thing that's
00:54:48missing is actually the toxicity that comes with drama in a relationship maybe i'm just not used to it
00:54:53yeah i wonder if there's something about sitting in that discomfort because there's something about
00:55:00that calm and that peace that's actually really probably quite good for you okay i'm gonna work on
00:55:08it we're gonna sit in it brilliant all right well let's go to the decision let's kick off with you
00:55:14alyssa i'm giving this thing a real crack i'm staying for the long haul david i'm gonna stay love it
00:55:23yeah
00:55:25well done you two sit in the uncertainty we're sitting in it for another week well done you two enjoy
00:55:35our next couple on the couch
00:55:41beck and danny
00:55:44let's do it how are we hello you two hello
00:55:50well i've got to say i've been enjoying glancing over and looking at the two of you tonight looking
00:55:55very cuddly very relaxed together and very supportive of each other it's like a whole
00:56:02different view yeah the realities i got from you guys at the last commitment ceremony showed me that
00:56:09i was in the wrong very very much you don't need to be angry you don't need to be vicious
00:56:17that behavior is just not acceptable yeah you've learned some big lessons i have
00:56:23and then family and friends came along we both agreed that in order to get the most out of this
00:56:30we had to be very very honest so i sort of expressed to dad um some of the adversities that
00:56:37we'd faced
00:56:38and my father instantly turned to danny looked him in the eye and said did you say jia was your
00:56:42type
00:56:43and danny just looked at him and was just like no so i'm moving forward
00:56:53so i really do want to commend you both for um just really putting in the time the focus and
00:57:01the
00:57:01work and having the conversations you needed to have so just kind of highlighting the huge difference
00:57:10it makes when you actually really do go deep in conversation yeah maybe in past relationships
00:57:18that's where i'll be doing the usain bolt and sprinting off but um yeah bit down on the gum
00:57:25shield and sort of fought our way through it didn't we and um yeah now we're we're in a really
00:57:31good spot so
00:57:32i feel the most stable i've felt in this whole experiment right now for sure amazing amazing let's
00:57:41go to the decision let's start with you danny yeah we're in a really good spot so
00:57:47most easy one today thank you oh strong statement um yeah i don't think i felt more secure in this
00:57:56relationship out of the whole time in this experiment so of course i wrote stay and then i
00:58:03wrote i love him my love being great beautiful thanks guys i think right now you guys are listening
00:58:13to one another and i really think that you need to continue focusing on that have a great week thank
00:58:19you
00:58:19thanks guys thanks you all right let's get our next couple up
00:58:33tyson and stephanie
00:58:41hello alexandra looking fabulous
00:58:45well where do we begin you start uh what about the crash course how was that this week for you
00:58:52it was interesting um we did the tasks um yeah and what about you tyson how was this week for
00:59:01you
00:59:02i think for me it was actually quite good john um i uh took your advice john so you said
00:59:08to get
00:59:08curious about steph and i did get curious i uh i took her to lunch i took her to dinner
00:59:14got her some flowers i was feeling a bit cheeky and saw a set of flowers there bought them
00:59:18gave them to her i think she appreciated that and he paid for dinner and he paid for lunch
00:59:25i'm the gift that keeps on giving
00:59:32steph you're sitting on the couch right now and you're pretty distant
00:59:39so tell us what's going on for you steph
00:59:44um yeah look like i do have a few things on my mind like i won't i won't lie
00:59:51but i'm very conscious of the progress that we have made and i'm very conscious that i don't want to
00:59:56unravel all of that and I understand that but at the same time what that does
01:00:03then is it doesn't allow us to understand what's on your mind what's
01:00:06getting in between for the two of you because you never know when you discuss
01:00:10it open it up you may be able to resolve it quite often when I attempt to have a
01:00:21constructive conversation it I feel like it falls on deaf ears I feel like we go
01:00:26around in circles we never come to an agreement it's always he said she said
01:00:30so I feel like I've started to kind of suppress the things that I normally
01:00:37would say because I can't be bothered to have an argument it's those difficult
01:00:44conversations that take so much courage and are so hard to have that once
01:00:48they're had they really bring you closer together indeed so let's just talk about
01:00:53this and navigate it together as a team tell us what are the key issues that
01:00:58you want to bring up um I just want Tyson to be a bit more aware of like the
01:01:06things that he says and the impact that the words have two of my closest friends
01:01:15are gay we've got Chris and Sam in the experiment and something that came from
01:01:23Tyson's video interview was I'm happy for you guys be whoever you want to be but
01:01:31you know you just keep it behind closed doors oh brother
01:01:52something that came from Tyson's video interview was
01:01:59um I'm happy for you guys be whoever you want to be but you know you just keep it behind
01:02:03closed
01:02:04doors oh brother first of all I'm not against gay people I just feel like that
01:02:17whole topic can can really be pushed on us um and I don't know just for me I come from
01:02:24a
01:02:24traditional family and it's just I'm not really comfortable with like with it I'm just being
01:02:29brutally honest sorry man having awareness is not pushing anything on you like just being here like
01:02:36but I'm aware though we're just we're just here it is hurtful to our community to hear that it's
01:02:46like us telling straight people to go to do it behind closed doors it's not right I think you have
01:02:53much
01:02:53empathy and you're not really putting yourselves in anyone else's shoes you can't say stuff like do
01:02:58it behind closed doors like it just doesn't make me feel like a person well no not that I don't
01:03:03know it's
01:03:03just maybe it came out wrong I don't I didn't mean it to the comment you made suppresses our people
01:03:12and therefore we feel like we need to stand up and create awareness and until that stops happening
01:03:17there will be pride all these things will still happen because we're still getting suppressed all
01:03:21the time and you're an example of that it still exists out there I don't mean to come here and
01:03:30offend
01:03:30people but you know I am very black and white with my approach to communication have you always been
01:03:38in this way where you essentially don't have a filter and you just you know say exactly what comes
01:03:44to your mind so there is a filter there John but um I just I've got to be honest as
01:03:52well with what I'm
01:03:53believing and that's fine but I just want Tyson to be a bit more aware of like words have impact
01:04:00like
01:04:01again like the submissive thing still rings in my mind oh my god haven't said that in ages but anyway
01:04:08well a dinner party last night but okay let's keep going forward um you know I stand by that
01:04:17that is what Tyson wants he wants a wife to sit down look pretty speak when spoken to don't have
01:04:24an opinion unless you're asked oh true true I completely disagree um he's only addressed you
01:04:31tonight John have you noticed that I actually said tonight Alexandra is looking beautiful so
01:04:38where I don't understand last week he said oh that Johnny he's a great bloke isn't he he's a great
01:04:44bloke
01:04:45and I said oh what about Mel and Alessandra oh yeah but you know John la la la so you
01:04:52very easily
01:04:52disrespect women Tyson you have no regard for my feelings I do not and sorry I'm not going to take
01:04:56that shit because I do not disrespect women at all I've got a lot of respect for women but right
01:05:02now you fly off the handle so because it's disgusting she's putting words in my mouth saying I
01:05:06disrespect women just because I said John's a good guy I did not say anything bad about you guys at
01:05:11all
01:05:11and I actually said you look beautiful tonight like she's making out I hate I hate women and that's
01:05:17absolutely such a disgusting thing to say I'm very close to my sister and my mum they're two people
01:05:21that mean the world to me but I just feel like she's putting words in my mouth she's trying to
01:05:26make me look like this bad person when I'm actually not I don't hate gay people she's making
01:05:31out I hate gay people hate gay people bad but I don't hate gay people I do like gay people
01:05:37I've got
01:05:37gay friends I do I like women as well the thing is I'm not a bad guy and she's portraying
01:05:44me as a bad
01:05:44guy no I try to have a constructive conversation with you and it always ends up this way when I
01:05:51just
01:05:51want to have like a chill conversation and share my point of view but that's never okay with you
01:05:57I disagree I feel like anytime things get hard Tyson's just like all right well that's me I'm
01:06:04out of here I feel like it's Tyson's way of the highway now honestly I do not see a future
01:06:12here with
01:06:13this person at all and quite frankly after tonight I'm going back to the Gold Coast because I'm done
01:06:19with this I'm done with this bickering I'm done with this bullshit I'm done with this experiment
01:06:35I feel like it's Tyson's way of the highway honestly I do not see a future here with this person
01:06:42at all
01:06:42and quite frankly after tonight I'm going back to the Gold Coast because I'm done with this I'm done
01:06:49with this bickering I'm done with this bullshit I'm done with this experiment there's nothing here
01:07:00between Steph and I she's not a traditional wife in my eyes she's but she's a go-getter which which
01:07:06is great but I don't like her attitude towards me she's always acting snobby and I just don't see a
01:07:14future there John I really don't this whole conversation just blew out of proportion which
01:07:23it shouldn't have but it did and um there's there's no fixing this John for me I don't know how
01:07:31it blew
01:07:31out of proportion though because all you're doing you know was bringing up some of your worries about
01:07:38a relationship yeah essentially over language and that's it that's normal couple dynamics this is
01:07:47not about personality attacks it's just talking about problem patterns and what we've identified
01:07:54tonight and previously is that sometimes the language that you use can be polarizing it can hurt but it is
01:08:03certainly something that you can work with no I do agree in that regard so what's happened tonight
01:08:09that's changed your mind well just I can tell you I opened my mouth oh come on we bicker when
01:08:19I speak
01:08:19up and share my opinion and you don't like it so am I supposed to be quiet am I supposed
01:08:25to be quiet
01:08:27I'm seriously just gonna bounce because I just don't want to be you guys I'm finished okay
01:08:34I'm just Tyson don't do it you look you're a beautiful bunch of people I think Steph's a
01:08:39beautiful girl as well it's just I'm finished okay you've given it two weeks like given it such a
01:08:46short amount of time like come on I really do wish you guys all the best I'm not a bad
01:08:53person
01:08:56you have really strong views and I'm just giving my really strong views back to you and if that's
01:09:01enough to make you leave yeah see you guys
01:09:04am I
01:09:46I've just shared how I felt, and as soon as I opened my mouth, now he's f***ing gone.
01:09:54He's just a child.
01:09:57And I'm just so disappointed.
01:09:59You deserve your happily ever after, babe.
01:10:03You'll get it.
01:10:04Better than that's going to be lining up for you, girl.
01:10:12Thanks, guys.
01:10:15Thank you, Steph.
01:10:16Thank you, Steph.
01:10:23You're amazing.
01:10:24You're just a more mature man, that's all.
01:10:26Yeah.
01:10:27You're amazing.
01:10:27A mature man will come here and whoop you off your feet, okay?
01:10:32So come on, everybody.
01:10:34Let's all pile in.
01:10:35Oh, my God.
01:10:35Oh.
01:10:42Tomorrow night.
01:10:43It's hard to say things like this.
01:10:45I definitely haven't been one to kind of lean into my feelings of emotions.
01:10:49Alessandra, I had a good point, yeah?
01:10:51Why can't you just verbalise it to each other, you know?
01:10:53Will Philip finally say those magic words that Stella's been dying to hear?
01:10:59His leg is shaking.
01:11:00It's okay, baby.
01:11:01And then it's time for the annual couples' retreat.
01:11:07Whee!
01:11:08Whee!
01:11:09Yay!
01:11:09Very, very content right now.
01:11:11How good is this?
01:11:13Our newlyweds are loving the brand new location.
01:11:16Let's get away.
01:11:18And the happy couples are all singing Kumbaya.
01:11:22I feel like the group vibe's quite nice.
01:11:25Ladies and gentlemen, can I have you guys over here, please?
01:11:29Until...
01:11:29It's the first night of retreat.
01:11:31We've had...
01:11:34One bad joke...
01:11:37I just want to leave.
01:11:38...sends the retreat into meltdown.
01:11:41Stop!
01:11:41You called her a liar.
01:11:42I'm not being manipulated by you.
01:11:45What is the punchline...
01:11:46Guys, guys!
01:11:47...that will break bonds...
01:11:49She is a liar!
01:11:50So sick of this.
01:11:51Stop attacking people and walk away.
01:11:53...and derail the course of the experiment...
01:11:56Get me out of here.
01:11:57...forever.
01:11:58It made me feel like a piece of shit.
01:12:01It worked.
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