#video #90 DayFiance Before the 90 Days 2026 Season 8 Episode 17
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00:00:01Previously on Before 90 Days.
00:00:03I'm just glad that we didn't break the bed.
00:00:06I'm not a virgin anymore.
00:00:08It's way better than what I thought, okay?
00:00:10Way better than what I do at night by myself.
00:00:13This has made me even more committed to do everything in my power to be with you.
00:00:18I'm starting to feel like maybe the right choice is to stay here in the Philippines,
00:00:23but I know that my mother, she's not going to have a good reaction to that.
00:00:37I don't know what the f*** just happened.
00:00:40Point is, if it's enough for us to be accepted as husband and wife,
00:00:45then that's all I wanted.
00:00:47Here, we have sex.
00:00:51On our second anniversary, you forgot.
00:00:55This is your thing, being unromantic.
00:00:58I mean, is that not romantic?
00:01:01Like, making sure your lights is on because you're at home and then I'm working.
00:01:07I'm getting tired of this.
00:01:08Sometimes I feel uncomfortable that he has more say about the money.
00:01:13I don't like being controlled.
00:01:16Every time you do something for me, you throw it to my face.
00:01:23Tell me you love her.
00:01:24If I was in love with her, I would have made a move.
00:01:28Dude, you made a move.
00:01:29You blow it.
00:01:30No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:01:32Laura made a move on me.
00:01:35This is betrayal.
00:01:36Am I an alternative?
00:01:38Because she couldn't get what she wanted.
00:01:41My trust is broken right now.
00:01:45I love Trisha very, very much.
00:01:49I need more time.
00:01:52I haven't made up my mind yet whether or not I want another child.
00:01:59Today, not yesterday, you have to decide it.
00:02:01But if no, we cannot be together anymore.
00:02:07I don't want to think of my man living with another girl.
00:02:11Hey, guys.
00:02:13Am I crazy or is my guy living with a girl and getting financially supported crazy?
00:02:18She feels a psycho.
00:02:20Good luck.
00:02:22You're up?
00:02:23Yeah.
00:02:24Are you in a case?
00:02:25So cute.
00:02:26You run to her after this, right?
00:02:28Asshole.
00:02:30I feel like I was falling in love with her.
00:02:32But that s**t, I'm done.
00:02:55Go to the gym?
00:02:56No, I'm not feeling the best.
00:02:58Rough night.
00:02:59Another one?
00:03:01Her and Nat got right into it.
00:03:03She went off yelling at her, you know, in front of the whole bar.
00:03:06How many people were there?
00:03:08Oh, probably about 20.
00:03:09Oh, f**k.
00:03:10She stands up and she's like,
00:03:12how do you feel if your boyfriend was getting supported by another girl financially?
00:03:17I feel sorry for you, bro.
00:03:19Still funny, but I do feel sorry for you.
00:03:22I just don't know what to do.
00:03:24I'm confused.
00:03:30It's going to be hard to come back from that.
00:03:32It was pretty damn embarrassing.
00:03:33Yeah, this one might be a bit broken, my friend.
00:03:38This morning, I'm really deflated.
00:03:40There was a really big, you know, event last night between Nat and Elise.
00:03:45I didn't speak to her when we came back to the apartment.
00:03:48Because, you know, I needed to clear my head and just calm down.
00:03:52That was such a crazy, outrageous thing for her to do.
00:03:57I don't know how much damage she realizes she's done.
00:03:59It's thrown a lot of doubt in my mind.
00:04:01So, that's a lot to think about.
00:04:04I'm f**king.
00:04:07Hurting.
00:04:09I'm f**king.
00:04:11Angry.
00:04:12Angry.
00:04:13Hey.
00:04:15Elise.
00:04:16How are you?
00:04:20I'm, um, really embarrassed.
00:04:26I couldn't sleep and I, I just am embarrassed.
00:04:29I should not have acted that way.
00:04:38Is that a, is that a sorry?
00:04:41I'm, I'm sorry.
00:04:43I'm embarrassed for myself.
00:04:44Like, I'm, I'm sorry that I did that to you.
00:04:49Did you realize what you did last night in front of people?
00:04:53I don't like embarrassment or personal f**king coming up.
00:04:56I acted f**king cool and I, I shouldn't have told everyone in the bar.
00:05:00I think that I was just really triggered.
00:05:04The fact that, like, I didn't know you lived with her, that just brought up a ton of emotions for
00:05:08me.
00:05:08And sometimes I let my emotions get the best of me.
00:05:12And I'm just worried now where this makes us stand.
00:05:22That f**king should never happen once.
00:05:26There's gonna be a common occurrence.
00:05:28F**k that.
00:05:31You know, I'm out.
00:05:38Well, I'm, I'm sorry.
00:05:46Are we still gonna go to the zoo?
00:05:53Like, I'm, I'm leaving soon.
00:05:55I, I, I don't know where your head's at.
00:06:02I would understand if you don't want to take me, I, I...
00:06:05Whatever.
00:06:06But you can go to the zoo.
00:06:10I think it's a hard situation for Josh.
00:06:12For me, a public embarrassment like that would be, would be, that, that'd be the end.
00:06:16But, um, I mean, the fact that it's not for him means he's either a stronger man than me or
00:06:20he really likes it.
00:06:21But I think it was a massive overreaction.
00:06:24Couldn't have been worse, really.
00:06:26And, you know, it's, it's not a good sign, especially so early in, in, in the, in the relationship.
00:06:50But I do still stand by my point that there is something off between him and Nat.
00:06:58My delivery could have been better, but my point is still there.
00:07:03Well, good luck with that.
00:07:05My actions were atrocious last night.
00:07:08And I feel like if we have some alone time and, like, I can explain to him how sorry I
00:07:12really am,
00:07:13I'll have time to, like, when I'm back.
00:07:23Baby, look, dingoes.
00:07:25Mmm, you're scared.
00:07:27Coming in to see our koalas?
00:07:29Uh, yes.
00:07:29I can't come to Australia without seeing one.
00:07:32100%, yep.
00:07:33Hi!
00:07:34Her name is Kamira.
00:07:36Wait, she's so cute.
00:07:38She is very cute.
00:07:40Can I touch her?
00:07:40We can't touch her here.
00:07:41We are completely hands-off.
00:07:43She does like people a lot.
00:07:45Hi!
00:07:46Oh, really?
00:07:48Hi!
00:07:49She's like a little teddy bear.
00:07:51She is like a little teddy.
00:07:52Most people probably think with animals in Australia, they think of venomous, big snakes, big spiders.
00:07:58We have a lot of cute animals as well.
00:08:00Like, you know, koalas.
00:08:02Fun fact.
00:08:03I do know koalas do carry chlamydia.
00:08:07Really?
00:08:08Yes.
00:08:10Thank you so much.
00:08:12Thank you so much.
00:08:12It's an absolute pleasure.
00:08:13Anytime.
00:08:14Enjoy the rest of your day, guys.
00:08:15Bye.
00:08:17Well, I'm so happy we did that.
00:08:19We can check that off our bucket list.
00:08:22We can.
00:08:25I'm glad that Lisa's having a good time, but it's hard for me to enjoy the zoo with, you
00:08:29know, everything that went on last night.
00:08:40So weird that you're not, like, touching me.
00:08:44Is it going to be, like, just kind of quiet?
00:08:46Or are we okay?
00:08:48Or, like, I'm trying to just, I don't know how, like, to interact right now.
00:08:54I don't know what to do.
00:08:58I told you, I told you how much I care about you, you know, how much you mean to me.
00:09:03And then, what, you go and do the most embarrassing thing I think I've been involved in.
00:09:09That was completely wrong.
00:09:11And I will own that.
00:09:12And I will take full responsibility that, like, that Elise last night was, like, that's
00:09:16not, that's not cool.
00:09:19And I'm sorry.
00:09:20All I'm trying to do is get you two to like each other.
00:09:23You are so much different to her.
00:09:26She's a friend.
00:09:27You are my girl.
00:09:29You embarrass her.
00:09:30You embarrass me.
00:09:32And you're supposed to be the one?
00:09:34Like, I don't know if I can be with someone after that.
00:09:40The thing is, like, I'm falling in love with you.
00:09:44Like, I am.
00:09:46But things like last night, it makes me hesitate, you know, on introducing you to more of my life.
00:09:57I think the bottom line is I am just so triggered that I didn't know that you lived with her.
00:10:04And it's just bringing up a lot of emotions.
00:10:06And I think just the...
00:10:07You've got answers.
00:10:09You've got answers.
00:10:12You're just not willing to accept them.
00:10:20I can understand why you're hurt.
00:10:22I can understand why you're upset.
00:10:24It will not happen again.
00:10:31No, I appreciate that.
00:10:34Are you giving me another chance?
00:10:39I'm not very confident.
00:10:42See how, uh, convincing you are.
00:10:45I'm sorry.
00:10:47When I hear Josh say he's falling for me, it, like, makes my heart feel so amazing.
00:10:52And it scares me to death that I literally almost lost him last night.
00:10:58Baby, they're so cute.
00:10:59Can we feed them?
00:11:00I can, yeah.
00:11:01I feel like I might be projecting my past traumas of my exes onto Josh.
00:11:06And that's not fair to him.
00:11:08You are so cute.
00:11:11I feel super fortunate that Josh is willing to give me another chance and, uh, not throw
00:11:16this all away for one crazy Elise escapade.
00:11:21But if I don't change now, and if I act this way again, I could lose him.
00:11:25Oh, yeah.
00:11:54Come on.
00:12:18Earlier today, I met with Laura's friend, best friend, Michael.
00:12:26I can't believe what he told me.
00:12:30She let me believe that Michael was the one who made the move, and she made the move.
00:12:40I always think that Michael has feelings for Laura, but now I see that she is the one who
00:12:47wanted to be more than friends.
00:12:51How do I know she doesn't still felt that way now?
00:12:55Maybe that's why she didn't tell me.
00:13:01Honestly, it's a big deal for me.
00:13:05Maybe this is not her first lie.
00:13:08Maybe there was a lot of lies, and maybe it's all a lie.
00:13:16Hey, baby.
00:13:18Hey.
00:13:19How was your day?
00:13:21Perfect.
00:13:22Was it okay?
00:13:23Yeah.
00:13:23I'm curious.
00:13:24I enjoyed it.
00:13:27Did you really?
00:13:29Yeah.
00:13:29Good.
00:13:29He's a good guy.
00:13:33I've been saying that.
00:13:34That's a relief to hear.
00:13:36He's a good guy.
00:13:38But it turns out, you are not so good.
00:13:46Why?
00:13:47What did I do?
00:13:51He told me that you made a move on.
00:14:02There is one person I was worried that she can come between us.
00:14:09That one person was your best friend.
00:14:12Yeah.
00:14:13That one person you kept secret about.
00:14:17I didn't say anything because it was, like, literally nothing to tell.
00:14:26I didn't make you think that.
00:14:28You thought that all on your own.
00:14:33It was almost a year ago.
00:14:36I didn't think I needed to tell you every little thing that's ever happened.
00:14:40It is a little thing.
00:14:41Are you sure?
00:14:41It is a little thing.
00:14:42It is not a little thing.
00:14:43It's 100% a little thing.
00:14:44It was one tiny little thing.
00:14:46We got drunk.
00:14:47We were on the couch.
00:14:48I tried to kiss him.
00:14:49Big deal.
00:14:53One night, almost a full year into our friendship.
00:14:56And before I met beer con.
00:14:59Michael and I were watching TV and we both had pretty solid buzz happening.
00:15:04Pretty soon we were kind of laying on top of each other on my couch.
00:15:09And I tried to kiss Michael.
00:15:12He stopped me and shut it down.
00:15:16Although it was really hurtful in the moment.
00:15:18Well, Michael and I never talked about it after that.
00:15:20It's not something that ever came up again.
00:15:23And I never told beer con that I once tried to kiss Michael because I knew if I did he
00:15:29would
00:15:29never be okay with Michael and me staying friends.
00:15:36I don't trust you.
00:15:40This is your obligation to tell me your past.
00:15:45You tried to kiss him, okay?
00:15:48Yeah, I did.
00:15:49That means you had feelings for him.
00:15:52You wanted something.
00:15:54They couldn't have it.
00:15:56Maybe you get drunk and try to kiss him again.
00:15:59He is still in your life and you kept this from a secret.
00:16:03Nothing happened.
00:16:06And you are still saying nothing happened.
00:16:08It doesn't matter.
00:16:10You still didn't tell me this thing.
00:16:15What would you like me to say?
00:16:18Maybe you would like, sorry.
00:16:21I was drunk.
00:16:22I tried to kiss him, but he refused me.
00:16:25But we are still friends.
00:16:30That was hard?
00:16:31Nope.
00:16:32You didn't want it to say.
00:16:37I'm trying to change my country.
00:16:39I'm trying to make plans for us, for our future.
00:16:44Now, I'm thinking about, maybe I shouldn't.
00:16:50This is so ridiculous.
00:16:57I'm surprised at Birkan's massive reaction.
00:17:02I don't think that it's that big of a deal that I didn't tell Birkan.
00:17:06I mean, let's be real.
00:17:08He's kept a lot of secrets from me and I'm still here.
00:17:12That pisses me off.
00:17:16You're missing all the points.
00:17:18I suspected something is going on between you and Michael.
00:17:22Nothing is going-
00:17:23Will you just shut up and listen?
00:17:25Don't tell me to shut up.
00:17:31I-
00:17:32No.
00:17:33Just admit it, you're wrong.
00:17:37Or just don't talk.
00:17:38Maybe when you grow up a little bit, you'll learn to communicate a little better.
00:17:43You're one of the young husband.
00:17:44Deal with it.
00:17:46You know what?
00:17:48I wish we never met.
00:17:50I don't have to go through all of this-
00:17:52I'm sorry.
00:17:53I'm sorry.
00:17:53I'm sorry.
00:17:54You wish that who never met?
00:17:57Us.
00:17:58You and me?
00:17:59Yeah.
00:18:00I can trust you.
00:18:03That's fine.
00:18:04I will get back on a plane and leave.
00:18:09Mm-hmm.
00:18:14If you care this much-
00:18:15No, I don't.
00:18:16You cross the line.
00:18:18If you're going to tell me that you wish we never met, I have nothing left to say to you.
00:18:24Okay.
00:18:36Let me see.
00:18:38Let me see.
00:18:55There's only a few things I've asked of you.
00:19:01My mom, she's been blowing me up all morning, sending me tons and tons of text messages.
00:19:07Babe, mom would strangle you everything she can just to get rid of our relationship.
00:19:13We both needed some space away from my mother.
00:19:17But I'm terrified to tell her that I'm planning on staying in the Philippines.
00:19:22It's time for you to grow up and be a man, not just following her orders around.
00:19:29When you know, you know, that's how the story goes.
00:19:34I wasn't sure that I believed it.
00:19:36Then you came and made it so easy.
00:19:39I got this in a note.
00:19:41It looks like we're going to get wrapped up in bananas.
00:19:44Woo!
00:19:45Banana?
00:19:46You going to put me at the plate?
00:19:47Yeah.
00:19:52Oh.
00:19:57Oh.
00:19:58Hello, everyone.
00:19:59Hello.
00:20:00Hello.
00:20:01Welcome.
00:20:03Good afternoon, ma'am.
00:20:04Welcome to the banana leaf wrap.
00:20:06This is a good experience for you, ma'am and sir.
00:20:09Because banana leaf wrap is good for skin.
00:20:11We need to proceed, ma'am.
00:20:13All right.
00:20:13Yeah, thank you.
00:20:16Should I really need to remove my tops or something?
00:20:19No.
00:20:19If you want, ma'am.
00:20:20It's okay.
00:20:21It's okay.
00:20:22Last night, she and I, having the night away with each other, getting a chance to be with
00:20:27each other intimately, that was definitely something that we both needed.
00:20:32And I'm hoping the spa treatment is going to help us de-stress because I only have a few
00:20:39more days left here in the Philippines, and I have a lot of hard decisions to make about
00:20:44my future with Sheena.
00:20:46And then, we need to put a banana leaf wrap to our body, ma'am.
00:20:51Very great.
00:20:52Oh, wow.
00:20:53I sure hope the wrap fits me.
00:20:57I'm extra, extra long.
00:21:01This is my first time that I've done this banana leaf treatment, and it feels like you're
00:21:06being placed on, like, as a food, which is most people in my country, they would use
00:21:11banana leaf to wrap food around.
00:21:13It's kind of funny.
00:21:16How's things looking up there, ladies?
00:21:17Pretty good?
00:21:18It's okay, sir.
00:21:19Yeah.
00:21:21I feel like a giant wrapped tamale here.
00:21:24Tamale, bro.
00:21:25They're going to throw me in the oven next.
00:21:27I was waiting to be steamed alive.
00:21:29They're going to steam you.
00:21:31This is so strange.
00:21:32Like, I don't understand why all my clothes are still on.
00:21:36Oh, my goodness.
00:21:38But it's very relaxing to be basically tied down with banana leaves and unable to move
00:21:44as the sun blasts me in the face and melts off my woes.
00:21:52It was highly recommended by the hotel.
00:21:55Well, honey, this is quite relaxing.
00:21:58Yeah.
00:21:59I'm having a lot of fun here.
00:22:01And it's starting to rain.
00:22:03Oh, yeah.
00:22:04I love the rain.
00:22:05Yeah.
00:22:06Gotta love the rain and the banana leaf.
00:22:08Oh, the banana leaf.
00:22:13Just being here with you, it's just amazing.
00:22:16Yeah.
00:22:17Yeah.
00:22:19I've been thinking about everything.
00:22:21And I feel like last night just strengthened the urge to be with you more.
00:22:26And so maybe I could get a job and start working here for the next few years.
00:22:33Wow.
00:22:34I kept praying for you to stay here.
00:22:37I love you, baby bear.
00:22:39I would try to prepare things as well for you to stay here.
00:22:43I would try to help you find a job.
00:22:45If not, then I could work on my own, find a better job.
00:22:49I'll do what I can, my love.
00:22:52Sheena and I, from the very start, have always dreamed about making our lives in the United
00:22:58States together.
00:22:59But at this point, living in the Philippines is, I feel, the best option.
00:23:04It means I get to be with Sheena faster.
00:23:08I feel that Sheena is always encouraging me to be my best self and to try to do things
00:23:14that are way out of my bounds.
00:23:16It's a big gamble, but just thinking now about being away from her just rips up my heart
00:23:22and tears out my soul.
00:23:24I personally believe you're my wife.
00:23:26Even though we haven't signed any papers or gone to any, you know, church, you're my
00:23:32wife.
00:23:32And I don't want to be away from my second half.
00:23:36And I hope that your mom would happen to respect that as our decision to make, not hers,
00:23:42but to us only.
00:23:47Well, she's been blowing me up all morning, sending me tons and tons of text messages.
00:23:53Even though my mom has been giving me the cold shoulder ever since I proposed to Sheena,
00:23:59I felt like I needed to text her to tell her that we met with an immigration lawyer.
00:24:06That's when she really started blowing me up.
00:24:13My mom has always been a very controlling person.
00:24:16And I'm terrified to tell her and Dev that I'm planning on staying in the Philippines.
00:24:23I'm worried knowing that I'm going to disappoint my mom.
00:24:26Babe, mom would strangle you everything that she can just to get rid of our relationship.
00:24:33Even though I happen to try to do many things for her, it's time for you to grow up and
00:24:39be
00:24:39a man and try to tell mom that you want to do some things that you wanted to do.
00:24:43Not just following her orders, her orders around.
00:24:48You have to make your own decisions.
00:24:52My mother, she's always been my safety net.
00:24:54But her meddling constantly causes conflict between Sheena and I.
00:25:00I think it's a good thing living in the Philippines because it's going to definitely give me some space away
00:25:06from my mother.
00:25:08Hello, mom, sir. Excuse voice. Time's up.
00:25:10Okay, thank you.
00:25:12But at the same time, I am 100% defying everything my mom has told me not to do.
00:25:19And I'm scared.
00:25:23I'm tired of waiting and I'm ready to start our lives together.
00:25:26It's your time to shine, honey.
00:25:28I'm there for you.
00:25:41You have to decide it, yes or no.
00:25:43But if no, we cannot be together anymore.
00:25:55You have to decide it, you want to have a baby with me or not.
00:26:04Can you tell them that we haven't even been talking for a year yet?
00:26:10No one is disobedient.
00:26:14All right, so that's what I need.
00:26:22I want to have a baby.
00:26:27I want to have the baby.
00:26:29I want to have their bills.
00:26:31I want to have the baby in my life.
00:26:32I want to have them.
00:26:32I want to have them in my life.
00:26:35You just want the answer, you want to have a baby or not.
00:26:54My uncle said we are strict about having children because they represent our family line continuing.
00:27:03That's what we believe, and it's not going to change.
00:27:07So we only wait for you, and you know that.
00:27:13In their culture, having a baby is the most important thing.
00:27:19I understand that, and I would hate for Trish not to be respected by her community over this.
00:27:26If Trish didn't have a baby, I feel like she would be ashamed.
00:27:32I would feel awful if she looked at herself in that way.
00:27:40They're waiting for our answer.
00:27:44Okay.
00:27:46But at the same time, I'm feeling like I'm a piece of meat in a pressure cooker.
00:27:54I don't feel like I'm being forced to make a life-changing decision in such little time.
00:28:07I know how important it is to the family, and I really know how important it is to Trish.
00:28:16Trish, if we're going to be together and get married, then I want to make you happy.
00:28:24I want you to feel like your life is complete.
00:28:32So, I have to say yes.
00:28:37So you're saying yes now?
00:28:40Yes.
00:28:41Why do you change your mind like that?
00:28:44I didn't fully understand, you know, before.
00:29:05I'm really shocked that Rick said yes suddenly, because he was not sure about his answer.
00:29:13Maybe because of my uncle's pressure, but I'm really excited.
00:29:20And also, my family is very excited to hear that response.
00:29:29So, when are we going to have the baby?
00:29:37I will file for the visa.
00:29:41It's going to take at least eight months to a year.
00:29:44And then, once she's approved, after we get married, then that's when we're going to start planning our family together.
00:29:53To be honest, we had to get married, and they're not making a plan for us.
00:30:01It'd be nice, but when we get married, then they'll get married for a year.
00:30:11They get married, then they'll get married for a year.
00:30:19So, as far as I've ever been married, then they'll get married for the years.
00:30:21You say quick, quick, and make peace, quick.
00:30:28So what if after 20 years you start?
00:30:32By the end of August, in about three months,
00:30:36then I will propose to Trish.
00:30:40So in three months, we are going to be engaged,
00:30:45and he will start the process?
00:30:47If everything goes in the direction that's been going
00:30:51in the last few days, then yes.
00:30:54That's what's going to happen.
00:31:12They are going to give a blessing for everything.
00:31:18This is great news.
00:31:20I'm so happy that it's turning out this way.
00:31:26Honestly, I felt bullied in this decision,
00:31:29because I really wanted to be with Trish,
00:31:33and the only way that I would be able to
00:31:36is to agree to have a baby with her.
00:31:40But seeing Trish's reaction on how excited she is,
00:31:46it's definitely making me feel more positive.
00:31:51I'm starting to get excited about the possibilities
00:31:54of having this family with Trish.
00:31:59She would be a great mother,
00:32:01and I'm actually starting to envision it,
00:32:06and things are looking really good.
00:32:09Her happiness is all I want.
00:32:21When you get back to America,
00:32:23you have to make an inquiry how I will get to America, right?
00:32:26I'm going to do that.
00:32:27But you do know I can't keep sending
00:32:29as much money as I have been.
00:32:33Every penny has to go towards an immigration lawyer.
00:32:37I can't even spend money anymore.
00:32:39I'm done.
00:32:47We need to snuggle before we get up.
00:32:53One last snuggle.
00:32:55Show me your love.
00:32:56Show me your love.
00:32:57Show me your love.
00:32:58Let me show you my love.
00:33:00Show you your love.
00:33:01Say how you carry my heart.
00:33:03Don't have more sex with you.
00:33:04Before you go.
00:33:05Before you...
00:33:07I hope so.
00:33:10Help me soon.
00:33:11Baby.
00:33:12Baby.
00:33:12Here's one thing you didn't fulfill last night for me.
00:33:16One promise.
00:33:18What's that?
00:33:18World sex.
00:33:20Oh.
00:33:22Why are you...
00:33:23Why are you putting it off?
00:33:24I know you like it.
00:33:26And you've been talking.
00:33:27You've been hammering on that.
00:33:28You've been...
00:33:28There's only a few things I've asked of you.
00:33:31And that's a major one right there for me.
00:33:34It's major for me.
00:33:37I've never had oral sex with Lisa.
00:33:40Because I've never tried it before.
00:33:42I don't know how to do it.
00:33:45Her fellow women have been giving her the oral sex she wants.
00:33:47And she wants me to be doing the same.
00:33:51I am not a woman.
00:33:53I have my...
00:33:56Yes, I give her what I have.
00:34:00When we get married, I'll make it up to you.
00:34:03Okay?
00:34:04Promise.
00:34:05I promise you.
00:34:06You better keep this promise because I've done so much.
00:34:09I'm sorry.
00:34:10Okay?
00:34:11I'll make it up to you.
00:34:14Yeah.
00:34:16I wish it's possible for us to stay like...
00:34:18Spend like one more week.
00:34:21It's not possible.
00:34:23You gotta start getting ready.
00:34:27Okay.
00:34:28I'm leaving to go home today after three weeks in Nigeria.
00:34:32And more than half my trip was fighting with Daniel about my lies.
00:34:37And then...
00:34:39I had to make up for all those lies.
00:34:43And I'm finally at a happy point.
00:34:45Everything is done.
00:34:46I just wanna stay here with Daniel and get married.
00:34:49I don't wanna go home.
00:34:53Um, baby, you know I really wanted to marry you before you left.
00:34:59I sent you to help us to find my papers.
00:35:03So, that means when you get back to America, you have to make an inquiry how I'll get to America,
00:35:09right?
00:35:09I'm gonna do that, babe.
00:35:11My first step is to get back to work.
00:35:13And then I am going to get in touch with an immigration lawyer.
00:35:17Okay.
00:35:18We are gonna find out which is better, the K-1 visa or getting married in Nigeria.
00:35:24Which one's gonna get you to America faster?
00:35:27That would be nice.
00:35:28Okay?
00:35:28So that's what we'll do.
00:35:29Yes, I can.
00:35:33But, babe, you do know I can't keep sending as much money as I have been.
00:35:40At this point, every penny has to go towards an immigration lawyer, getting you to America, doing what we need
00:35:48to do.
00:35:48I cannot send any more money.
00:35:50I can't even spend money anymore.
00:35:52I'm done.
00:35:56Um, that's fine, but you know how hard Nigeria is.
00:36:00Okay?
00:36:01So, maybe I have to call you and ask you for assistance.
00:36:07Thanks.
00:36:10You have to try not to because I have to save for us to get you to America.
00:36:15Um, babe, there's no problem about that.
00:36:20I have you.
00:36:22So, we have a game plan now.
00:36:23Yes.
00:36:24Hmm.
00:36:28All right, I have to get dressed.
00:36:30You have to get dressed.
00:36:30We have to get going.
00:36:33She said she's not going to give me money anymore.
00:36:35Fine, because I'm not getting married to her because of the money she's giving me.
00:36:39No.
00:36:40I'm getting married to her because she's the one I want to settle down with.
00:36:45She has good plans for me.
00:36:46She's the one processing my visa to come to America.
00:36:50She's not expecting me to do it by myself.
00:36:53Babes.
00:36:55What?
00:36:55This is so funny.
00:36:56Are you going to wear it today?
00:36:58Do you know what women will say to me?
00:37:00What?
00:37:01They will say, your wife is wicked.
00:37:03Will you wear it when I'm gone?
00:37:05Oh, my God.
00:37:07So, um, she deserves an applause.
00:37:10She deserves a good, you know, good things.
00:37:11That's why I'll wait for you forever.
00:37:21What I want is love.
00:37:22And she has been giving it to me.
00:37:24I will miss her, um, her soft kiss.
00:37:28I will miss everything about her.
00:37:31Even the sky is crying, it's raining.
00:37:35I love you.
00:37:35You're my husband.
00:37:36I love you.
00:37:42I knew it was going to be hard.
00:37:44I didn't know it was going to be this hard.
00:37:46Last time we were here, I got engaged.
00:37:50To you.
00:37:52Oh, my God, baby.
00:37:59This trip was nothing what I expected.
00:38:02I didn't imagine getting engaged when I landed.
00:38:05I didn't imagine meeting his uncle and getting a blessing.
00:38:08I didn't imagine seeing a king of all people.
00:38:13I didn't imagine any of this.
00:38:14I didn't imagine I'd buy a goat.
00:38:16I mean, none of this I never could have experienced
00:38:20without coming here.
00:38:27I don't want to go.
00:38:30But I have to go.
00:38:34I don't know what you're doing with you.
00:38:36It'll happen soon.
00:38:38When you get sad, look at my picture.
00:38:57It's okay, baby.
00:39:02It's okay, baby.
00:39:03It's okay, baby.
00:39:05I love you so much.
00:39:07I love you so, so much.
00:39:08I love you so much.
00:39:10We'll be together soon.
00:39:13Am I yours or just passing by?
00:39:16My baby.
00:39:21I feel that I will not see her again.
00:39:23Because anything can happen.
00:39:27She might go back to her country
00:39:30and she might change her mind on most of the promises,
00:39:32like bringing me to her country.
00:39:34You know, the visa.
00:39:37I am hoping she will do it,
00:39:39but we are not married legally yet.
00:39:42So it's very hard for me to say goodbye.
00:39:46I miss you so much.
00:39:50I love you, baby.
00:39:51I can't do it.
00:39:51You have to walk away from me.
00:39:53I can't do it.
00:40:03Okay, I'll go.
00:40:08I'll go.
00:40:12It's very hard.
00:40:13I feel like I'm not going to see him again,
00:40:15even though I know I'm going to.
00:40:17I'm making these plans,
00:40:18but I'm thinking what if they fall through?
00:40:22What if it's more than six months?
00:40:24What if it's more than a year?
00:40:26What if, what if,
00:40:27what if it's two years?
00:40:30What happens between Daniel and I?
00:40:32I don't know.
00:40:33I don't know.
00:40:49It's nice.
00:40:50It's a big house.
00:40:51We can have sex in a lot of rooms.
00:40:55I was really upset with Elise
00:40:56and how she acted at the bar the other night,
00:40:58but she's trying to make it up to me.
00:41:00You know, I've never used the kitchen in my house.
00:41:02So the fact that I'm doing this
00:41:04must mean I really like you.
00:41:06Oh.
00:41:07Oh!
00:41:11You said let's turn the heat up.
00:41:13I said you'd play with my heart.
00:41:16You said you're fine with the cheap stuff.
00:41:18It tastes the same in the dark.
00:41:20In the light of the cold gray,
00:41:23cries for the old days.
00:41:25It's a match in the dark.
00:41:29Okay, we have everything you think?
00:41:30Yep.
00:41:31Okay, to a trip just us.
00:41:34Chris gets the place to himself now.
00:41:37Silence is coming soon.
00:41:40It's finally peaceful on the moon.
00:41:46Blue Mountains.
00:41:48It's a lot of.
00:41:50What's this?
00:41:52It's called deodorant.
00:41:57I was really upset with Elise
00:41:58and how she acted at the bar the other night.
00:42:00But Elise has realised she was in the wrong
00:42:02and she's trying to make it up to me
00:42:04and she's organised a two night stay
00:42:06at the Blue Mountains.
00:42:08Take me away.
00:42:10The Blue Mountains are known for their hiking
00:42:11and waterfalls and it's a different part of nature
00:42:14besides the beaches that Sydney has.
00:42:16So I'm excited.
00:42:17You know, I've never even been.
00:42:20I wouldn't say all is forgiven, but she's trying.
00:42:23And this is a good start.
00:42:34Oh my God, are we here?
00:42:35We are here.
00:42:38This is nice.
00:42:39It's a big house.
00:42:40We can have sex in a lot of rooms.
00:42:44Yes, we can.
00:42:47I knew absolutely nothing about the Blue Mountains,
00:42:50but Josh has always spoken about it
00:42:53and how much he wanted to go.
00:42:54So I decided to book us a trip.
00:42:56And there's hot tubs there.
00:42:57So I was like, love that.
00:43:00Look, baby, look what I got us.
00:43:02Whoa.
00:43:04Oh, wow.
00:43:05A lot of space for a lot of activities.
00:43:08You're the best.
00:43:09I know.
00:43:10I thought it was a great idea
00:43:12to get out of Bondi, away from Nat,
00:43:14away from Chris, away from boats.
00:43:17I just want for us to really unplug
00:43:19and just be with each other more.
00:43:23Get out of the kitchen.
00:43:24I was cooking for you.
00:43:27You know, I've never used the kitchen in my house.
00:43:30So the fact that I'm doing this for you
00:43:32must mean I really like you.
00:43:33That does mean a lot.
00:43:35This should be fun.
00:43:42Baby!
00:43:42Baby!
00:43:43What have you done?
00:43:45Ew, ew!
00:43:46This is not the worst stuff I thought
00:43:48was going to be in my mouth.
00:43:49Oh!
00:43:50Oh, no!
00:43:52Baby!
00:43:54I'm going to cry.
00:43:56This is...
00:43:57Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew!
00:44:00Oh, that was a process.
00:44:02Half of it went in my mouth,
00:44:04my face, my boobs.
00:44:05Maybe, should I take it off?
00:44:09Why isn't this coming to a boil?
00:44:11I don't know how to turn on the stove.
00:44:13Oh.
00:44:15Which pasta do you want?
00:44:17That's so embarrassing.
00:44:19What packet was that in?
00:44:21I'm making you two types of pasta.
00:44:24Perfect.
00:44:28Nope, not ready.
00:44:30Oh, God.
00:44:31This feels really good.
00:44:35Oh, my God.
00:44:40I read somewhere, I heard,
00:44:42that you'll know if pasta's ready
00:44:43if it sticks to the wall.
00:44:45So, like, if you cook pasta
00:44:47and then it sticks to the wall,
00:44:48then you know it's ready.
00:44:48Yeah, but I don't think that's the same
00:44:50with penne pasta.
00:44:54Let's throw in the pasta.
00:44:57Oh, my God, there's water in you.
00:45:00Oh, I think I just ruined the sauce.
00:45:03Baby.
00:45:05The kitchen is definitely not her element,
00:45:08but I love seeing the side of Elise
00:45:10that's doing something
00:45:11that she's not used to doing.
00:45:13I don't know what that will do.
00:45:15Elise, she keeps me on my toes.
00:45:17I don't like it when things get stagnant
00:45:20or boring or stale,
00:45:21and I know it's not going to be dull with her.
00:45:23Let's see how we go.
00:45:25Is it good?
00:45:26It's actually not that bad.
00:45:33It's horrible.
00:45:35Be honest.
00:45:36I'm not picky.
00:45:37It was the most fun I've had making dinner.
00:45:41I laughed my head off,
00:45:42and I needed that.
00:45:44Me, too.
00:45:45You know what's so cute about Josh is, like,
00:45:48when I up or I do something stupid
00:45:49or I feel really awkward,
00:45:51like, he makes so light of it.
00:45:53I don't know.
00:45:54It's the little moments, like, then,
00:45:56that I'm like, you know what?
00:45:57Like, I feel like he could be my forever.
00:46:00But there's just one thing
00:46:02he hasn't followed through on,
00:46:03and it's been constantly playing
00:46:05in the back of my mind.
00:46:06I don't know if I can go back to Florida
00:46:10not having met your son
00:46:13to see how you are as a father.
00:46:15You would have met him already.
00:46:16I would want you to.
00:46:17But he's moved away.
00:46:19So, for now, like, can we FaceTime?
00:46:22Will that work?
00:46:23Yeah.
00:46:25I'm not trying to harp on him again
00:46:26after everything that we've went through,
00:46:28but I'm leaving soon,
00:46:30and I haven't met anyone in his family.
00:46:31I haven't met his son.
00:46:33And this is a huge part of his life
00:46:35that I'm completely missing out on.
00:46:38So I really, really hope
00:46:39that it can happen before the end of my trip.
00:46:43Pretty full.
00:46:44Me, too.
00:46:45No.
00:46:49Are you looking for wedding bands?
00:46:51I like classic stuff.
00:46:54It is really important for me
00:46:56to have the wedding ring.
00:46:59$268.
00:47:01I think he's not sure.
00:47:04I don't want someone mistaking me
00:47:06as, you know, still available,
00:47:08single woman.
00:47:09Take it happy.
00:47:10Okay!
00:47:12Okay!
00:47:25It is awesome!
00:47:27Sure!
00:47:28Why not?
00:47:30We have a wiener!
00:47:33Yeah!
00:47:34You really wanted that, don't you?
00:47:38There we go!
00:47:40Wee!
00:47:41Ready, boo?
00:47:43Woo!
00:47:43Woo!
00:47:44Woo!
00:47:44Woo!
00:47:45Woo!
00:47:45Woo!
00:47:50Woo!
00:47:54Woo!
00:47:55Woo!
00:47:56That chick knows my belly!
00:47:58Woo!
00:48:00Woo!
00:48:05That was fun, yeah.
00:48:06That was so fun!
00:48:09Oh, look at those shops.
00:48:11That's where you can find very nice wedding gowns and dresses.
00:48:15Like, really pretty.
00:48:17Nice.
00:48:19Can't wait for the anniversary party.
00:48:22Yeah.
00:48:25Things with Jovon and I are really good.
00:48:28And now, in a couple of days, we're having our anniversary party,
00:48:32where we're going to renew our vows.
00:48:36Since we never had a wedding in person,
00:48:39basically, it's just like a second wedding to me.
00:48:42You know?
00:48:45Because last time, we didn't get to touch each other face to face.
00:48:50I've been dreaming about this.
00:48:52And now it's happening, and I just can't wait.
00:48:57Okay, boo.
00:48:59Yay!
00:49:01Are you ready?
00:49:02Yeah, I guess so.
00:49:06Now that we're going to renew our vows,
00:49:10good afternoon,
00:49:11we decided to look at rings.
00:49:15We've been married almost three years,
00:49:18and sometimes I still can't believe that Jovon hasn't put a ring on it yet.
00:49:24I feel like I'm the only woman in the world
00:49:28that got married without a wedding band.
00:49:31Hi.
00:49:33What are you looking for?
00:49:35Uh, we're looking for wedding bands.
00:49:37We have different styles.
00:49:39Okay.
00:49:39What are you prepared for?
00:49:41Well, I'm okay with a simple, plain wedding band.
00:49:44I want it more classic.
00:49:47I like classic stuff.
00:49:53This one.
00:49:57It is really important for me to have the wedding ring.
00:50:01My symbol of love.
00:50:03You need a ring to symbolize that?
00:50:05I assume you don't want some men mistaking me as, you know, still available, single woman.
00:50:11They can have you.
00:50:13Okay.
00:50:14Okay.
00:50:15She's on the market.
00:50:16I'll go, I'll go.
00:50:17I'm playing.
00:50:18Relax.
00:50:19When is your wedding?
00:50:21Well, we're actually married already, but we don't have an official wedding rings yet.
00:50:28We did our marriage online, that's why.
00:50:30I'm a liar.
00:50:32You know, to be fair, you know, I did get you a ring.
00:50:37Okay.
00:50:38You sent me your money, and I bought a ring that's under $100.
00:50:43That's turned my finger green.
00:50:46But that's what you wanted.
00:50:48No, I thought it's just a substitute ring.
00:50:52How about poor sir?
00:50:54What do you think?
00:50:55When it comes to bands, like, I prefer, like, black like this, silver in the middle, kind
00:51:02of sporty, but they don't sell that yet.
00:51:07I already bought myself a non-expensive ring before we got married, and I like it a lot.
00:51:15I'm not a jewelry person, and I really don't want to spend money on something I don't need
00:51:20or want.
00:51:23This one is good.
00:51:24It's just that it's too, uh, skinny.
00:51:30Like, do you have something that's a little bit wider?
00:51:33I have different kind of pistachio.
00:51:35Okay, this one.
00:51:39This one is good.
00:51:40I like this one.
00:51:42More simple, but really looks like I'm married.
00:51:46You know what I mean?
00:51:48How much is this?
00:51:50For a gram, no?
00:51:52Yes.
00:51:5215,510 in peso.
00:51:55How much is that, U.S.
00:51:56That's $268 in dollar.
00:52:00$268, yeah.
00:52:01Do you have anything budget?
00:52:03No, we didn't really have a budget.
00:52:05But...
00:52:09He's not sure.
00:52:11Are we going to buy this?
00:52:13What do you mean today?
00:52:17I can come back, will we?
00:52:25You can come back.
00:52:27Yeah.
00:52:29Because I got to sort out my bank stuff.
00:52:31Okay.
00:52:34Why would you bring me ring shopping if we're not going to buy anything anyway?
00:52:41What's the point of going out?
00:52:44Just to get an idea of what you want.
00:52:54Thank you so much.
00:52:56Bye-bye.
00:52:58I feel so humiliated.
00:53:02I can't even have the cheapest ring.
00:53:05It's not just a jewelry.
00:53:07It's a symbol of our marriage.
00:53:11I waited six years to be together in person.
00:53:15He never applied for a spousal visa.
00:53:18And now, I still don't have a ring.
00:53:23Once again, he is making me feel like he's not invested in our relationship.
00:53:45I don't know why he insists that I'm in love with him.
00:53:49I really don't.
00:53:50I mean, you did jump on a plane and come to my rescue.
00:53:54I don't think he's the only person that thinks that.
00:53:59There's a lot of layers there.
00:54:01And, I mean...
00:54:20Hey.
00:54:21Hey.
00:54:22What concern from that phone call you gave me?
00:54:25Yeah.
00:54:25Me too.
00:54:36I'm assuming you've talked in beer con?
00:54:39Yeah, I did.
00:54:40It was super great.
00:54:41Thanks for that.
00:54:42I kind of partly blame you.
00:54:45Okay.
00:54:48I don't know...
00:54:49He's...
00:54:49You don't know?
00:54:50I don't know what was said between you and him.
00:54:53I only know my end of the story.
00:54:55Okay.
00:54:55So, we have to come together.
00:54:58Okay.
00:54:59Super curious.
00:55:00What was going through your head telling him that I hit on you?
00:55:06Like, I don't understand how that even came up.
00:55:09We never did anything.
00:55:11And he's pissed off about it because I didn't tell him.
00:55:14Told me that he wishes he never met me.
00:55:17And I kind of feel like there was zero reason for you to bring that up.
00:55:22Okay.
00:55:23And I'd like to know why you did.
00:55:25Okay.
00:55:27I brought it up because beer con was under the impression that I was in love with you.
00:55:32That man kept pushing and pushing and pushing.
00:55:36And at some point, I needed him to understand that I said no to us having a relationship.
00:55:45But you were the one that asked.
00:55:46And from that, he got very upset.
00:55:48And I tried to reassure him.
00:55:49It was a year ago.
00:55:50It didn't...
00:55:51I mean, it was before you met him.
00:55:53I feel like, honestly, it feels like a backhanded way of trying to sabotage it.
00:56:00How long have you been here with him?
00:56:03How long have you been here with him?
00:56:05Two and a half weeks?
00:56:06And in two and a half weeks, you cannot convince him that I was not a threat?
00:56:16That's not on me.
00:56:17I did everything I could to diffuse that situation.
00:56:22I don't know why he insists that I'm in love with you.
00:56:26I really don't.
00:56:26I mean, you did jump on a plane and come to my rescue.
00:56:31I don't think he's the only person that thinks that.
00:56:37There's a lot of layers there.
00:56:40But, no, that's not something I want to happen.
00:56:43Anyhow, we're friends.
00:56:47I don't want to anymore.
00:56:50At the end of the day, I want you to be happy.
00:56:53All I ever heard was little stories here and there about him from you.
00:56:56You said all these bad things.
00:56:59And just, why does she keep talking to this guy?
00:57:02So I came to meet him to see all the other good stuff.
00:57:05And you don't have to worry about him and I anymore.
00:57:09You just need to make sure that he's the right guy for you before you make a commitment.
00:57:13I don't even know what to do right now.
00:57:15Like, there's part of me that just wants to, like, go have another conversation with him.
00:57:18But I don't even know what to say.
00:57:20Because he just told me he wishes he never met me.
00:57:22Okay.
00:57:22But the opposite of love is not anger, it's apathy.
00:57:25Yeah.
00:57:25So angry means he still loves you.
00:57:29I don't believe Michael when he says he doesn't have any feelings for me at all romantically.
00:57:36But I think ultimately he does have my best interest in mind.
00:57:40And I think he does care about the future of my relationship with BeerCon.
00:57:45BeerCon is the person I need in my life.
00:57:48And I want to fix this.
00:57:50I just don't really know how to go about it.
00:57:54So what do I do?
00:57:55I feel like he never could understand that I didn't feel like that was that big of a deal.
00:58:00Do you acknowledge that he felt the way he did?
00:58:04It didn't matter whether he was right or not.
00:58:06No, I never said that.
00:58:08At the end of the day, the relationship is more important than the argument.
00:58:15Which means somebody has to say, I'm sorry.
00:58:19It's amazing how the words, I'm sorry, when said truly can diffuse a situation.
00:58:25Okay, I see your point.
00:58:28I guess I'll go give him a call and see if I can fix that.
00:58:38I'll let you know how it goes.
00:58:40Yeah.
00:58:59How are you?
00:59:01I'm good.
00:59:03How are you?
00:59:04I'm okay.
00:59:07I was just wondering if we could talk.
00:59:14Not today.
00:59:16I'm sorry, did you say not today?
00:59:19Yeah.
00:59:23Am I not supposed to come back to the apartment?
00:59:26I'm sorry.
00:59:28Just give me the space.
00:59:32Okay.
00:59:33I guess I will get a room somewhere.
00:59:37Okay.
00:59:38We both need time.
00:59:41Yeah.
00:59:41And we both need to think about what's going on.
00:59:44Mm-hmm.
00:59:47Okay.
00:59:50Okay.
00:59:51Bye.
00:59:53Bye.
01:00:00I don't want to force you, but like, am I ever going to meet your son?
01:00:04When Elise asked to meet my son, I can see that she really, really cares.
01:00:08But honestly, after all the fighting with Elise, I've had my doubts about trying to let her
01:00:13in to the most important part of my life.
01:00:22Oh, my God.
01:00:23Oh, that's hot.
01:00:24Oh, that's hot.
01:00:25It's hot, right?
01:00:26Oh, it's really hot.
01:00:28That's burning me.
01:00:30Oh, you found the champagne I got.
01:00:32It did.
01:00:33It's so good.
01:00:35I think we should open it.
01:00:40Wow.
01:00:41Cheers to that.
01:00:49What a perfect ending to a perfect little guy.
01:00:54Good drive.
01:00:56Good cooking.
01:00:58It's so funny, huh?
01:01:00So funny.
01:01:01Okay?
01:01:01I tried.
01:01:03So am I making it up to you?
01:01:05Am I doing a good job so far?
01:01:07Yeah.
01:01:08Absolutely.
01:01:10Well, have I made it up to you enough that, like, you can let me in your own world?
01:01:16You have.
01:01:19Well, I want to be with you.
01:01:21And I'm scared that I've came literally around the world.
01:01:25And all I've met is, like, a few friends.
01:01:28And I don't want to force you.
01:01:30But, like, am I ever going to meet your son?
01:01:38When Elise asks to meet my son or, you know, talk to my son, I find that endearing.
01:01:43But honestly, the last couple of days, after all the fighting with Elise, I've had my doubts about whether I'll
01:01:48introduce him or not.
01:01:50Obviously, I'm very protective of my son.
01:01:52So I want to be confident that this relationship is going to work.
01:01:57I understand he's young and it's, like, a video call and it's probably, like, a lot to explain to him.
01:02:04Yeah, I do want to prove how much you mean to me.
01:02:08But, um, that's been playing on me heavily.
01:02:14What's been playing on you heavily?
01:02:16Explain that.
01:02:17It's just been, you know, a tough year.
01:02:21I didn't move him away, but, you know, he's an hour and a half plane ride and I don't see
01:02:28him as much as I want.
01:02:30I still feel like he thinks I can get up there a lot more than I can, so it's just
01:02:35a guilty feeling for me at the moment.
01:02:41I miss him, you know, especially when you're here, you know.
01:02:45Really?
01:02:45Well, yeah, well, because when you're here, I think, you know, if he was here as well, it would be
01:02:49like, I'd love you two to get along, and then it would be, like, a perfect little world.
01:02:57I guess it's just painful to think about it.
01:03:02It's okay to have feelings.
01:03:04It's okay to be upset.
01:03:06If you weren't emotional about your son and you didn't feel this way, I would be worried.
01:03:11I'd be very, very worried.
01:03:13It means you're a good dad and it means you care.
01:03:20You know, it's like having a son's responsibility and, like, excitement and you do things with him.
01:03:24And then when something like that gets taken away from you, you're like, I feel like I lost myself.
01:03:31Yeah, I feel like I've sort of lost a bit of myself.
01:03:36My relationship with my son, we're really tight.
01:03:39I've been there since he was born.
01:03:41He's my little partner in crime.
01:03:43We go camping, we go fishing, surfing, you know, we kick footballs, we go and play golf.
01:03:49It's such a good part of my life.
01:03:51So, it really did hurt this year when I didn't have that.
01:03:57I want to help make you feel like you're back together.
01:04:03I want to be that rock for you.
01:04:07I can do that.
01:04:10Be there for you, support you in any way I can.
01:04:12But you have to let me into your life.
01:04:15I can't do that without getting brought into your life.
01:04:20This is very emotional because being away from my son affected me, you know, more than I thought.
01:04:26But I don't want that to hold me back from bringing Elise fully into my life.
01:04:30I can see that she really, really cares.
01:04:33She's shown that she's worthy of, you know, getting to know my son.
01:04:37But at the same time, it is scary to let her in, the most important part of my life.
01:04:42What if things don't work out?
01:04:43You know, that's going to be pretty devastating for all of us.
01:04:47Well, I'm here for you now.
01:05:11I mean, after getting her family's approval,
01:05:17I just it up.
01:05:22I don't want anything to be brought to you now.
01:05:45I don't want anything to be brought to you now.
01:05:51My family is happy that you're going to give me a baby.
01:06:15I'm nervous that I've agreed and told them, yes, that I'm willing to have a child.
01:06:21But it felt great to get Trisha's father's blessing.
01:06:25Overall, I've been enjoying my time with Trisha's family, but I'm sure glad that we're headed back to Antananarivo.
01:06:33Now, Trisha and I, we can sleep together and, you know, take a nice warm shower together and not have
01:06:39to worry about the eyeballs on us.
01:06:44They were really happy.
01:06:47Oh, wasn't it?
01:06:48Wasn't it?
01:06:50I thought there was going to be, like, fireworks set off after I sent it out, after I agreed to
01:06:57have that baby.
01:06:58They're so sweet.
01:07:00You're going to miss them.
01:07:04I'm ready to have a baby.
01:07:06But what if you change your mind?
01:07:13Maybe.
01:07:14As long as we're going and moving in the right direction, I'm all on board with having a baby.
01:07:21Because I know that it'll make you happy.
01:07:23I know that's what you really want.
01:07:27I still have these doubts lingering in the back of my mind about whether or not I'm financially ready to
01:07:35have another child.
01:07:37But I know that if I don't follow through with my promises, this could put Trisha in a very bad
01:07:44situation with her family.
01:07:46I know how much her family means to her.
01:07:49So I feel like I have to keep my word.
01:07:54I'm hoping in time that I'd be in a better situation to financially support another child.
01:08:03Yeah, I'm kind of banking on that.
01:08:07Looks like we're starting to get everything mapped out for our future.
01:08:19Do you have to use the restroom or anything?
01:08:35No, I don't, I don't, I don't eat anything but just, um, already chicken.
01:08:44Well, damn.
01:08:46Our flights are in the lane.
01:08:49That's it.
01:08:50We wait for one hour.
01:08:52Hope this bad boy's going straight to Tana.
01:08:55We wait for a couple of days in Tana before my baby and I'm going to get her back.
01:09:07That's really sad.
01:09:10Sad story.
01:09:12It's just our beginning.
01:09:15I know.
01:09:39We were waiting on our flight and it just kept getting delayed.
01:09:44The whole while Trish is asking me if I loved her.
01:09:48I kept telling her, yes, I love you.
01:09:51Eventually, she says, you know why I'm asking?
01:09:56And then Trish demanded that I give her my phone.
01:10:02It kind of, it kind of hit me that, um, I had noticed she kept looking over at my phone,
01:10:09um, and she probably saw that my ex had texted me.
01:10:15Is this the same ex you went to see in Colombia?
01:10:20Yes.
01:10:33A few days ago, I got a text message from my ex.
01:10:41And she was telling me that, um, you know, she misses the times that we, we had together and, and
01:10:48I responded and, uh, responded inappropriately.
01:10:56Why did she tell her your message?
01:11:00It was Wednesday.
01:11:02It was Wednesday.
01:11:03Why?
01:11:06I would never hide something.
01:11:08This is why what I'm talking about.
01:11:10You never told me what's really true.
01:11:13You didn't tell me if I didn't ask.
01:11:18Why?
01:11:26He told me that he's not talking to his ex, that it's just completely over between Rick and that girl,
01:11:34but they start talking while we are at my father's house.
01:11:42Amazing.
01:11:50He makes me sad.
01:11:58Like, I love him.
01:12:01We talk about the babies, the future, and I, we just, my dad just give him blessing.
01:12:25I mean, after getting her family's approval, everything just felt, it felt different than it did the whole couple weeks
01:12:33prior.
01:12:35How did I come so close to getting my, what I wanted, and then I just, I just, I'm not
01:12:47sure if I'll get another chance to make things right with Trish.
01:12:50And it, it, it feels like this is really the end and the final chapter.
01:13:03Are there plans being made and arrangements made to get you over to the United States?
01:13:09We are leaving tomorrow.
01:13:12I know my mom is not going to accept it, but I'm ready to do what I need to do
01:13:17to ensure Shane and I are together.
01:13:19I have decided I'm going to stay here in the Philippines.
01:13:23This is our choice.
01:13:25What's that you just came out of your mouth?
01:13:46Man, I'm super glad that we were able to sleep in today.
01:13:48I know he feels relaxed when mom is sitting around and we're bad and sorrowful.
01:14:05So when I talked to Forrest, he's like, oh, surprise mom.
01:14:09I went and talked, met with a lawyer and the lawyer says he has to have like certain amount of
01:14:14income, something like, like that.
01:14:17He didn't do anything right at all.
01:14:20I'm upset right now.
01:14:22Forrest is coming back.
01:14:23And for the last few days, Dev and I haven't heard anything from Forrest or Sheena.
01:14:28And we've just felt like we're kind of been left in the dark.
01:14:31You know, I don't know what to expect when they get back from their little rendezvous romantic vacation.
01:14:40I don't know what the conversation is going to be.
01:14:47We're supposed to be flying out tomorrow.
01:14:50And we're not sure what they're thinking or planning at all.
01:15:03Hey, mom.
01:15:05How's things going?
01:15:08It's going pretty good.
01:15:09How are you guys?
01:15:13Well, I think we need to have a talk.
01:15:16Yeah.
01:15:17I think we need to figure things out a little bit.
01:15:19Yeah.
01:15:21That's kind of why we're here.
01:15:22Yeah.
01:15:25Today was supposed to be my last day in the Philippines, but Sheena and I have made the decision for
01:15:31me to stay here and basically start a life here with her.
01:15:36You ready?
01:15:37Yeah, we're going to have.
01:15:38Go, let's go.
01:15:38All right, guys.
01:15:40I know that my mom is not going to accept it, but she has to understand that I'm not the
01:15:46child that, you know, she's seen all these years.
01:15:49I have changed a lot this trip, and I'm ready to do what I need to do to ensure Sheena
01:15:55and I are together.
01:16:00Oh, my God.
01:16:03Wow.
01:16:04Look at that.
01:16:06They lose her energy.
01:16:08That means graceful.
01:16:09Look at that.
01:16:15She came from originally from a punishment during the Spanish air that people would have to put their feet and
01:16:21they have to avoid the bamboo while hitting its feet.
01:16:24It's just said to tell the whole story.
01:16:26It's just a damn.
01:16:27I agree.
01:16:28Oh, my goodness.
01:16:29Oh, look at that.
01:16:31Yay!
01:16:32Oh, thank you.
01:16:34Oh, that's beautiful.
01:16:38Well, you realize you have to be not only in a rhythm with the bamboo,
01:16:43but you have to be in a rhythm with your partner, too, at the same time.
01:16:47Kind of like life.
01:16:49Well, I think Sheen and I were worth moving in perfect rhythm.
01:16:56Yeah, definitely.
01:17:02So, Sheen, do we get menus, or how does it work?
01:17:06I think there's a set menu that's going to be prepared, so you can try, guys.
01:17:14Oh, good. Thank you so much.
01:17:19So, with the, the, um, where you guys went, just fill me in what happened and give me all the
01:17:26details.
01:17:28Um, yeah, I feel like me and Sheena, we really bonded.
01:17:35In more ways than one.
01:17:44You had sex, didn't you?
01:17:49You know what? Yeah, we did.
01:17:53Now time.
01:17:55I enjoyed it. It was fun.
01:17:58Yeah.
01:18:01You guys, uh, think that you have a good physical connection with each other?
01:18:07Yeah.
01:18:09I feel like our souls have really connected, and now we can really understand each other.
01:18:19I'm happy that, you know, my son finally lost his virginity.
01:18:23Finally, you know.
01:18:25Nookie, nookie, nookie.
01:18:26Bang, bang, bang, bang.
01:18:29And also, too, that's an important aspect, to know if they had compatibility on all aspects, including sexuality.
01:18:38Well, that's good. I'm glad you guys are both de-virginized finally.
01:18:43That's...
01:18:44Yeah, Mom.
01:18:48Well, you know it's a sad thing that we have to leave you and that Forrest has to leave you
01:18:54tomorrow.
01:18:55But it must be very painful.
01:18:58But are there plans being made and arrangements made somehow to try and get you over to the United States?
01:19:10Did you guys talk, make any plans? Because this is, we are leaving tomorrow.
01:19:20Yeah, we talked a lot yesterday.
01:19:24With the K-1 visa, I found out that being on disability, I don't make enough money.
01:19:32So, she and I have decided that I'm going to stay here and live here in the Philippines.
01:19:41Forrest.
01:19:42I'm tired of being alone.
01:19:45Oh, my God.
01:19:46I did not expect to be staying here long term.
01:19:50Oh, you didn't expect it.
01:19:52Paul.
01:19:53I want my love with me in my second half.
01:19:55This is our choice.
01:19:58What's that that you just came out of your mouth?
01:20:01Mom.
01:20:02Where's your list of pros and cons that you wrote out?
01:20:05Was that in between the ?
01:20:07Excuse me?
01:20:09You can say one thing something you want to say, but for me, I have him. He had me.
01:20:12I don't care if you're here for my son.
01:20:14I want to be here for my son.
01:20:16Because I love your son, and I've worked everything hard for him, for our future.
01:20:20I want you to trust your son for once in a while.
01:20:27I trust my son. I don't trust you.
01:20:34Sorry, I just want to need space.
01:20:37Sorry.
01:20:39Excuse me.
01:20:47Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:20:49When do you plan on applying for the fiance visa, so I can live in Belize?
01:20:55I thought you were going to apply for me in the U.S.
01:20:59No.
01:21:01Stig never mentioned wanting to move to the U.S.
01:21:04It's two hours before I'm leaving.
01:21:06It's just really weird timing.
01:21:08You won't be able to make any money.
01:21:10I'm sorry, you're going to be my sugar mama.
01:21:13I wish we could have talked it out last night.
01:21:16You've been texting with him this morning? What has he been saying?
01:21:19I asked him if we could talk and he said sure, so.
01:21:23I want to show him that my feelings for him are so much stronger than how I ever felt about
01:21:30Michael.
01:21:31Why did you mislead me while Michael made the move?
01:21:34I was worried you would try to put a stop to my friendship with him.
01:21:40Can you do that?
01:21:45Are you excited about today?
01:21:47I think I should ask you that question though.
01:21:50I just don't know what I'm going to say for my vows.
01:21:53It's just going to be like the basics.
01:21:57I just wanted today to be full of love.
01:22:01But it just feels like any other day for him.
01:22:05I don't know.
01:22:06I can't pretend that everything is fine.
01:22:12I love your son and I'll do anything my best for him.
01:22:15Love doesn't pay the bills, Gina.
01:22:17You know, I'm like in panic mode that he's going to move to the Philippines.
01:22:22It's not going to work. It won't work.
01:22:24How much do you think that you're going to make working here?
01:22:28Where are you going to live for us?
01:22:30Have you even factored how much it's going to cost?
01:22:33I don't know what to do.
01:22:37All the messages in the text.
01:22:39Why did you betray me?
01:22:42Why don't you block her?
01:22:44If you want this relationship, tell her that you don't want her anymore.
01:22:49That I'm with you.
01:22:50I love Trish, but love isn't so black and white.
01:22:57I need to be honest about my feelings.
01:23:00I don't know what to do.
01:23:04Oh, my God. Stunning.
01:23:07I don't think Elise realized, you know, what she'd signed up for.
01:23:10What?
01:23:13I'm so embarrassed.
01:23:15Come on, baby.
01:23:17What did I do?
01:23:18Yeah, at first, I'm just thinking she's being a drama queen.
01:23:23And I start to think, oh, is she okay?
01:23:25I'm sorry.
01:23:26I can't go!
01:23:27I need you!
01:23:29I need you!
01:23:30I need you!
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