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00:00:00So excited to show David around. My hopes are...

00:00:03They're here.

00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,

00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.

00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.

00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.

00:00:17And for Stephen...

00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.

00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed

00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.

00:00:26What I see is a wife outside the experiment

00:00:29It really reaffirms the feelings are real,

00:00:32the feelings are neutral.

00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.

00:00:39Emotions ran high for some...

00:00:41You should be able to say something nice

00:00:43and be genuine about it.

00:00:44And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...

00:00:47David is everything that you've asked for.

00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.

00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.

00:00:57She still sees negatives.

00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.

00:01:00What's that?

00:01:01Why is it pink?

00:01:02Is it your ex's or something?

00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...

00:01:05I see you being pressured.

00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.

00:01:07Like, are you scared about her reaction?

00:01:09Pretty much.

00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.

00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.

00:01:15Do you know what I mean?

00:01:15I mean, like, no, no, no, what I'm saying is, like...

00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.

00:01:20Tonight.

00:01:22In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions

00:01:25that you're going to have to make.

00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship

00:01:30into the real world and make it a success.

00:01:34Welcome.

00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.

00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.

00:01:41And after two months of marriage,

00:01:43uncomfortable truths will be exposed.

00:01:46I want a partner who can have

00:01:48a constructive conversation with me about an issue.

00:01:51I can't mind reading.

00:01:52It's not mind reading.

00:01:53Oh, my gosh, I can't.

00:01:54I cannot.

00:01:54Boom.

00:01:55David reveals what's really going on

00:01:57in his relationship with Alyssa.

00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.

00:02:01She called you a weak man?

00:02:02Yeah.

00:02:03So that's a problem.

00:02:05No, no, no, do not blame me.

00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...

00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows

00:02:12with someone that's a maybe about me.

00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?

00:02:18I'm not doing it.

00:02:20I'm not.

00:02:21And then...

00:02:22What I'm seeing here is fake.

00:02:25I'm going to call you out.

00:02:26I've seen it the entire experiment.

00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.

00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.

00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.

00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is

00:02:42I don't want you to be upset.

00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings

00:02:46where I...

00:02:49Take a breath.

00:02:52Breathe.

00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.

00:03:14Yummy.

00:03:16Get some caffeine.

00:03:17Cheat.

00:03:18Yeah.

00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,

00:03:21tonight marks the last time

00:03:23the couples will come face-to-face with the experts.

00:03:27How'd you sleep?

00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.

00:03:29Really, really well.

00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.

00:03:33Some people have chats.

00:03:34We have make-out sessions.

00:03:35We have make-out sessions.

00:03:36Yeah.

00:03:37I love it.

00:03:38This week, during homestays,

00:03:40the couples were tested

00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.

00:03:45It was good.

00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks.

00:03:48Stella and Philip continue to evolve as a couple,

00:03:51having said,

00:03:52I love you.

00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower to open their hearts.

00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.

00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays

00:04:05and even reflecting on it,

00:04:07like, after last night's dinner party.

00:04:09Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?

00:04:15Dare to say it, babes,

00:04:16cos I've been saying it.

00:04:19Oh!

00:04:22For Alyssa and David,

00:04:25homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.

00:04:30I feel like David and I

00:04:32have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.

00:04:35I still believe we are

00:04:36because we have each other's back.

00:04:38It's just hard to be careful.

00:04:39It's just...

00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other

00:04:41about a lot of things.

00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.

00:04:45We have had deep conversations, big conversations,

00:04:48and David's maybe held back

00:04:51from saying what he really felt in that moment

00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.

00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment,

00:04:57it's all coming out.

00:04:59How are you feeling?

00:05:01Um, I'm feeling...

00:05:05like...

00:05:07we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.

00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.

00:05:12Yeah.

00:05:13I feel like we have a lot to unpack

00:05:14and a lot to, you know, break down.

00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.

00:05:19And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,

00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me.

00:05:27I felt in homestay that I'm like,

00:05:29OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.

00:05:31Wait, haven't met his family.

00:05:32Wait, haven't met his friends.

00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.

00:05:35Like, I don't know if he's stable.

00:05:37I want to have a family.

00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling

00:05:39because I'm like, this is too good to be true.

00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,

00:05:43but it's brought up a lot of other things

00:05:45that we should have dealt with a long time ago.

00:05:47Like, have the conversations if you don't agree with something

00:05:51or have the conversation or ask the questions

00:05:52when you don't understand something that I've said.

00:05:54Well, all I'm going to say is...

00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't.

00:05:58And I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.

00:06:02You need to break through that softness and be strong with me

00:06:04because I want to be a team with you

00:06:06and talk things through and, um, you know, like...

00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here

00:06:12trying to express my side of the story

00:06:15and I can hardly get a word in.

00:06:17I feel like there are holes.

00:06:18I think there was a...

00:06:19All I'll say is...

00:06:20There are cracks.

00:06:20There was a bit of, like...

00:06:23The last couple of days, what I've been struggling with

00:06:26is I haven't been as, like, willing to have those...

00:06:30Hard conversations.

00:06:31Hard conversations with you about how I was feeling.

00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me

00:06:35about your reservations, that's not healthy, babe.

00:06:38Yeah.

00:06:39Talk to me.

00:06:40We need to voice.

00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship.

00:06:43And that's... You're not fulfilling that need for me.

00:06:46And I believe that it's right to put it all out on the table.

00:06:50I don't ever want to have to hold back.

00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,

00:06:53but I think one thing about you is you hold on too much...

00:06:57Babe, I know, but...

00:06:57Babe, you sleep.

00:06:58Babe.

00:07:02You're spiralling within yourself.

00:07:03No, I'm not.

00:07:04Are you done?

00:07:05You know what I mean?

00:07:05I can't even get a word in.

00:07:08I feel like it's a slap in the face.

00:07:11Alyssa says she wants a hard, challenging conversation

00:07:14and she's wanted this for a long time,

00:07:15but it's not just like that with Alyssa.

00:07:18It's not.

00:07:18Respect is only on her terms

00:07:20and the relationship only goes her way or the highway.

00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.

00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like

00:07:28both of us are very disconnected

00:07:31a lot more than we ever have

00:07:33going into a commitment ceremony.

00:07:36And tonight, I'm just going to be completely honest

00:07:38because I've hit my limit

00:07:39and I'm not going to, like, hold back.

00:07:43I'm just going to put it all on the table.

00:07:49As for Danny,

00:07:51his controversial views

00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec

00:07:55at last night's dinner party.

00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch

00:08:00moving in with a woman.

00:08:02What are you on about?

00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated

00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.

00:08:10F*** me!

00:08:14And this morning,

00:08:15they are still struggling to resolve the issue.

00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel.

00:08:20You know what I mean?

00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,

00:08:23like, it's not up to them.

00:08:25This is how I feel.

00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman

00:08:28just doesn't feel very manly of me,

00:08:31you know?

00:08:31Yeah.

00:08:33You don't understand.

00:08:34I do understand.

00:08:35I get what you're saying.

00:08:36But I suppose

00:08:39if we're talking about

00:08:41creating a life together

00:08:42after this experiment,

00:08:44then you're going to have to get over that.

00:08:48Am I right or am I right?

00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,

00:08:53when she feels a kind of way,

00:08:54it's a completely valid feeling.

00:08:56That's how she feels.

00:08:58But when I say,

00:08:59it makes me feel this way,

00:09:01oh, nah, but that's not right.

00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.

00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone

00:09:06and just, like, freeload often.

00:09:09You pay the bills,

00:09:09I'll pay the mortgage,

00:09:10you'll be done.

00:09:10Easy.

00:09:12Finito.

00:09:14Other than that,

00:09:14we had a great night.

00:09:16It's, uh, yeah.

00:09:17And whilst Bec and Danny

00:09:20continue to disagree,

00:09:22our other couples are preparing

00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony

00:09:26of the experiment.

00:09:28You look great.

00:09:30You too.

00:09:31Yep.

00:09:32Yeah.

00:09:33Very pure, you know?

00:09:35Yeah.

00:09:36Yeah.

00:09:36Very appropriate.

00:09:37Very appropriate.

00:09:39As our couples face the experts

00:09:41for the last time,

00:09:43a defining choice awaits.

00:09:47Tonight,

00:09:48they must decide.

00:09:50Stay in the experiment

00:09:52through to final vows,

00:09:54or walk away

00:09:55from their marriages

00:09:57for good.

00:10:01For Scott,

00:10:02the pressure is mounting.

00:10:04He feels it is now or never

00:10:06to reveal his true feelings

00:10:08to his bride, Gia.

00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.

00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?

00:10:15Yeah, can you believe

00:10:16that we've made it this far?

00:10:20Yeah, I definitely

00:10:21didn't imagine it.

00:10:25I do think

00:10:26we had a great week.

00:10:27I don't think

00:10:28we're going to have

00:10:29too much feedback tonight.

00:10:30I think

00:10:31it was great.

00:10:32Like, I can't fault

00:10:33homestays.

00:10:34It went really well.

00:10:35Positive,

00:10:36good vibes, you know?

00:10:37So hopefully

00:10:38not getting grilled

00:10:39hard tonight.

00:10:40I feel like

00:10:41I've been hit a bit

00:10:43throughout this experiment

00:10:44from the experts.

00:10:46Yeah.

00:10:47Yeah.

00:10:55I get nervous

00:10:56going to the

00:10:57commitment ceremony

00:10:59because

00:10:59I still can't be

00:11:01100% myself

00:11:02and I feel like

00:11:03I just can't have a voice

00:11:05sometimes

00:11:05because she thinks

00:11:06we're going to have an argument

00:11:07and I want her to be able

00:11:08to understand that

00:11:08we need to speak

00:11:09anecdotally

00:11:09knowing that

00:11:10if I have a concern

00:11:11or she has a concern

00:11:12we can talk

00:11:12and it's not going to

00:11:13lead to a disaster.

00:11:14You've got to be able

00:11:15to communicate.

00:11:16So you ready for tonight?

00:11:18I don't like

00:11:19commitment ceremonies,

00:11:20you know that?

00:11:21Yeah.

00:11:22I feel like

00:11:23we're at the point

00:11:23where, you know,

00:11:25we're almost falling in love.

00:11:26Yeah.

00:11:28Then I feel like

00:11:29if she feels more than me

00:11:30and she doesn't get

00:11:31anything back from me

00:11:31she'll start spiralling

00:11:32and start saying

00:11:33harshful things to me.

00:11:36Very harshful things.

00:11:39And so then I feel like

00:11:40I can't talk

00:11:42and I go quiet

00:11:44and I go flat.

00:11:46That retracts me

00:11:47every time

00:11:48and that's what pushes me

00:11:49away from falling in love

00:11:50and I don't think

00:11:50she understands that.

00:11:52So you just got to look

00:11:53at the positives, you know?

00:11:57Personally,

00:11:58I love to speak up

00:11:59and share everything

00:11:59because it's good

00:12:00to get feedback.

00:12:02But there's another side

00:12:03of me where I feel like

00:12:04I want to present

00:12:05to protect my wife.

00:12:06I don't want to feel

00:12:07unstable, upset

00:12:08or, you know,

00:12:08get nervous

00:12:09or have a breakdown.

00:12:10So, you know,

00:12:11I think how is she

00:12:12going to react

00:12:12if I say these things?

00:12:13All right.

00:12:15See you in there.

00:12:17Bye.

00:12:18Sometimes I'm like,

00:12:19well, I'm just not

00:12:20going to talk about it.

00:12:22I'm just in the air.

00:12:23I don't know what to do.

00:12:24Bye.

00:12:25Bye.

00:12:45Hello.

00:12:46Hi.

00:12:47How are you guys?

00:12:49Very well.

00:12:50Welcome.

00:12:51Hello, guys.

00:12:52Hi.

00:12:53Hello.

00:12:53Good evening.

00:12:54Welcome.

00:12:54Hi.

00:12:58Hi.

00:13:17Hello, ladies.

00:13:18Hello.

00:13:18I'm Chris.

00:13:19Hi.

00:13:30Welcome, everybody,

00:13:31to the very final

00:13:33commitment ceremony

00:13:34of this experiment.

00:13:36Now, this is a very,

00:13:38very pivotal night

00:13:40because it is the very

00:13:41last time

00:13:42that you get to sit

00:13:43in front of the experts

00:13:45and to hear the feedback

00:13:47that we have for you.

00:13:50Now, in just a short time,

00:13:51you have one of the

00:13:52biggest decisions

00:13:53that you're going

00:13:53to have to make,

00:13:54whether or not

00:13:55you can take

00:13:56this relationship

00:13:57in the experiment

00:13:58into the real world

00:13:59and make it a success.

00:14:02And as we know

00:14:03as experts,

00:14:04if you are not

00:14:06completely vulnerable

00:14:07with your partner

00:14:08at this stage

00:14:09of the experiment,

00:14:10then your relationship

00:14:12will crumble

00:14:13on the outside.

00:14:15it will not last.

00:14:18Now, with that being said,

00:14:21let's get our first couple up.

00:14:27Alyssa and David.

00:14:38Hello.

00:14:40Hello.

00:14:42So, how are things?

00:14:45Um, you know what?

00:14:47Last time we were on the couch,

00:14:50things were moving

00:14:52in the right direction.

00:14:52They still are,

00:14:53but we do have

00:14:54some hiccups

00:14:55that we're trying

00:14:57to work through

00:14:57at the moment.

00:14:58Okay.

00:14:59Um,

00:15:00obviously,

00:15:01I'll start by saying,

00:15:02you know,

00:15:03Alyssa is an amazing girl,

00:15:05but personally,

00:15:06I feel like

00:15:08I have, you know,

00:15:09carried a lot

00:15:10of the emotional weight

00:15:11in the relationship.

00:15:12This is just how I feel.

00:15:15What do you mean

00:15:16when you say

00:15:16carry most of the emotional weight?

00:15:19I feel like

00:15:19there has been times

00:15:20where I personally

00:15:22put my emotions aside

00:15:24just to make sure

00:15:25that there was

00:15:27just peace.

00:15:29And this is a thing

00:15:30where, like,

00:15:31I have tried

00:15:32to bring something up

00:15:33at the start

00:15:34of the relationship

00:15:34to Alyssa

00:15:35and I felt like

00:15:35she was not receptive

00:15:37to it.

00:15:38So what that ended up

00:15:39doing for me

00:15:40was making me

00:15:41be more cautious

00:15:42of bringing stuff

00:15:43up to her?

00:15:44Mm-hmm.

00:15:48It was more

00:15:48the reaction of,

00:15:49is it going to

00:15:50become an argument

00:15:51that was going

00:15:52to go out of hand?

00:15:54So what happened

00:15:55with all of that

00:15:57emotion

00:15:57as you describe it?

00:15:58If you weren't

00:15:59expressing that

00:16:00to Alyssa,

00:16:01what were you doing

00:16:02with it?

00:16:06Well,

00:16:07anything little

00:16:08that I didn't

00:16:09really care about

00:16:10didn't really affect me,

00:16:10so I'd brush over it.

00:16:11But what happened

00:16:13in Homestays was

00:16:14I feel like

00:16:15it triggered me.

00:16:16Okay.

00:16:17I was saying

00:16:17Adelaide is a livable place,

00:16:19but I felt like

00:16:20Alyssa was being

00:16:21a bit negative

00:16:23about the move.

00:16:25I feel like

00:16:25she was pointing out

00:16:26all of the reasons

00:16:27why it won't work,

00:16:28which are all valid.

00:16:29We all know

00:16:29that there is things

00:16:30to work out

00:16:31in the real world.

00:16:32But it felt like

00:16:33for me,

00:16:34she was too in her head

00:16:35about it

00:16:36that it's affecting

00:16:37me right now.

00:16:42Do you know why?

00:16:43Because I'm feeling

00:16:44very frustrated

00:16:45at this part

00:16:46of the experiment.

00:16:47This is our last

00:16:48couch session

00:16:49and I'm feeling like

00:16:50there has been

00:16:50some holdback

00:16:52and some of our

00:16:53couch sessions

00:16:53could have been

00:16:54things that we could

00:16:54be working through

00:16:55if we had more

00:16:56open conversations.

00:16:58I feel like

00:16:58he doesn't want

00:16:59to have, like,

00:17:00conflict.

00:17:01But I feel like

00:17:02there is healthy

00:17:03conflict resolution.

00:17:04Otherwise,

00:17:04my relationship

00:17:05in my eyes,

00:17:05this is too good

00:17:06to be true.

00:17:07Can I just stay?

00:17:10I want a partner

00:17:11who can have

00:17:12a constructive

00:17:13conversation with me

00:17:14about an issue.

00:17:16But a partner

00:17:17that shuts you down

00:17:18and tells you

00:17:19what they're saying

00:17:19is Bible,

00:17:21it is an issue.

00:17:22Why have I actually

00:17:22spoken down on you

00:17:23in a bad way?

00:17:25Like, I don't...

00:17:25Well, there's things

00:17:26you've said.

00:17:27I don't want to,

00:17:28I don't want to, like...

00:17:29Well, an example

00:17:30could be helpful

00:17:31for Alyssa here.

00:17:32Well, she has...

00:17:33You did mention

00:17:35that I was a weak man

00:17:35at one point.

00:17:37She called you

00:17:38a weak man?

00:17:39Yeah.

00:17:42So that's a problem.

00:18:07So that's a problem.

00:18:14What was the context around that?

00:18:18It was in one of our talks

00:18:19about, like, she's got assets,

00:18:21she's ahead in life

00:18:23and she wants a guy

00:18:24that can match that.

00:18:25So financially weak.

00:18:26Yeah.

00:18:27How did it feel

00:18:28when she said that?

00:18:29Well, I just thought,

00:18:30where's this coming from?

00:18:31And the thing about me

00:18:32is, like,

00:18:33I pick what I want to,

00:18:34like, get upset about

00:18:36and I didn't.

00:18:37Maybe I should have

00:18:38combated that at the time.

00:18:44Alyssa, what was going on for you?

00:18:45What did you want to achieve

00:18:46from saying that to him?

00:18:49I was getting frustrated

00:18:50because I'm wanting

00:18:51more from David.

00:18:52I'm wanting to see

00:18:53more from him.

00:18:54And I feel like

00:18:55I want to be strong

00:18:57together as a couple.

00:18:58I think where I'm struggling

00:18:59is it's...

00:19:00She wants me to be strong

00:19:02on her timeline.

00:19:03And that's where

00:19:04it feels like

00:19:05it is your way

00:19:07or you're not happy.

00:19:10David,

00:19:10do you feel like

00:19:11you're enough for Alyssa?

00:19:12I feel like I'm 100% enough.

00:19:17Do you think

00:19:17she thinks you're enough?

00:19:19I think she does,

00:19:20but the questions

00:19:21that I'm getting

00:19:22are, like,

00:19:23they are confusing me.

00:19:24So what are these questions

00:19:25that are confusing you?

00:19:27Well,

00:19:28the first thing

00:19:29is she's wondering,

00:19:30like, you know,

00:19:30energy,

00:19:31like, in five years

00:19:32or whatever.

00:19:33Is that going to be enough

00:19:33to sustain her?

00:19:34And she has said to me,

00:19:35if I'm not getting

00:19:37the fix I need,

00:19:39I'll go look elsewhere,

00:19:40essentially.

00:19:41No, I didn't say that.

00:19:42She said,

00:19:43I'm hungry,

00:19:44you need to feed me,

00:19:44you need to feed me.

00:19:45I've taught you more

00:19:46in this relationship

00:19:47than you've taught me.

00:19:47I'm wanting to,

00:19:48like, open-ended

00:19:49conversations and stuff.

00:19:50I'm wanting to go deep.

00:19:52Like, I'm putting

00:19:53all my cards on the table,

00:19:53I'm very direct.

00:19:55Like, I'll talk about stuff.

00:19:57I need some sort of fuel.

00:19:58Like, it's just,

00:19:59it's what I like.

00:20:00But I don't know

00:20:01if our relationship

00:20:03is going to last

00:20:05in the real world,

00:20:05if this is the gap.

00:20:09I don't know

00:20:10if we're going to be

00:20:11a good match long-term

00:20:12if this is the energy

00:20:13because I need to see

00:20:14David in his element.

00:20:16I need to see David

00:20:16with his family.

00:20:17I need to see David

00:20:18with his friends.

00:20:18I need to see what he does.

00:20:20Like, I want to have a family

00:20:21in the next few years.

00:20:28And, like,

00:20:29if we want to talk

00:20:30about me seeing things

00:20:31work in the real world,

00:20:32what I need to see as well

00:20:33is if someone says

00:20:34they want to have

00:20:35open-ended conversations,

00:20:36that has to be it.

00:20:37What's happened

00:20:38in this relationship

00:20:38is I've done a lot

00:20:39of listening.

00:20:40Alyssa has done

00:20:40a lot of talking.

00:20:43That's the fact.

00:20:44You need to speak up.

00:20:45No, no, no.

00:20:46But, like, it's,

00:20:47I don't,

00:20:47one thing about me

00:20:48is I think

00:20:49we're both adults

00:20:50and I want to see

00:20:51that in her,

00:20:52that she has the ability

00:20:53to listen.

00:20:54I can't mind read.

00:20:55It's not mind reading.

00:20:56Oh, my gosh.

00:20:56I can't.

00:20:56I cannot.

00:20:57I know.

00:20:58I can't mind read, babe.

00:20:59You're frustrating me

00:21:00because I can't read your mind.

00:21:01When something,

00:21:02when she,

00:21:02when I start saying something

00:21:04that she's not getting,

00:21:05I'm frustrated.

00:21:05I don't want to deal

00:21:06with this anymore.

00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with it.

00:21:08I'm just saying.

00:21:08You're now talking in circles.

00:21:10So I'm going to,

00:21:11I'm going to pull you up there.

00:21:12I mean, this has been

00:21:13very enlightening,

00:21:16I think,

00:21:16for us to get a glimpse inside

00:21:18what's really going on

00:21:20in the relationship.

00:21:22So an observation

00:21:23from,

00:21:23from us here

00:21:25is that

00:21:26you've both

00:21:28made missteps,

00:21:29I think,

00:21:30in terms of your communication

00:21:31and what you've brought

00:21:32to the couch here

00:21:33because,

00:21:35Alyssa,

00:21:35you were aware

00:21:36that he was withholding.

00:21:37You knew he was not

00:21:38being up front with you.

00:21:39So you could have

00:21:40brought that up.

00:21:41And so,

00:21:42David,

00:21:42for you,

00:21:43you were choosing

00:21:44not to speak up.

00:21:47You haven't arrived

00:21:48at an outcome.

00:21:49No.

00:21:50But you've helped us see

00:21:51what's going on inside.

00:21:53So thank you for that

00:21:54to this point.

00:21:56So now let's look forward

00:21:58because,

00:21:59as you know,

00:21:59this is the last

00:22:00commitment ceremony.

00:22:01This is almost

00:22:02the end of the experiment

00:22:04for you two.

00:22:05Where to from here?

00:22:08Yeah.

00:22:14Well,

00:22:15I'm sitting here

00:22:15because I want that help.

00:22:18I guess what we need

00:22:19to do is look beneath

00:22:20the arguments here

00:22:22because

00:22:23there's a reason

00:22:24that you have been

00:22:26avoiding

00:22:27bringing these issues up.

00:22:28Yeah.

00:22:29Here's an opportunity

00:22:30to now say,

00:22:31OK,

00:22:31we're going to come

00:22:32at this as equals.

00:22:33Not one putting

00:22:34the other down,

00:22:35not one avoiding

00:22:36and running away.

00:22:36We are coming here

00:22:37together

00:22:38to have this

00:22:39open,

00:22:40honest,

00:22:40mature conversation

00:22:42about what you

00:22:43both want

00:22:43post-experiment

00:22:44because otherwise

00:22:46the last couple

00:22:47of months

00:22:48has been a waste

00:22:48of time.

00:22:50You've got that

00:22:51opportunity now.

00:22:52It's not too late.

00:22:55Can you do that?

00:22:57Yeah.

00:22:58Alyssa?

00:23:00Yeah.

00:23:03You OK?

00:23:06I never,

00:23:07you know?

00:23:09I do believe that

00:23:10the things we have

00:23:11gone through

00:23:12are significant

00:23:13and I believe that

00:23:14there are genuine

00:23:15feelings here.

00:23:16I do feel

00:23:17strong feelings

00:23:18towards Alyssa.

00:23:18That's why I'm still here.

00:23:20OK.

00:23:22All right.

00:23:22Well, on that note,

00:23:23we're going to go

00:23:23to a decision.

00:23:25Alyssa,

00:23:25we'll start with you.

00:23:27I didn't come here

00:23:29for three months

00:23:30to waste it

00:23:30and, like,

00:23:32I came here

00:23:32to find my person.

00:23:35I want to settle down.

00:23:36I want to have a family.

00:23:37I want the happy ending

00:23:38and that is why

00:23:41I want to move forward

00:23:42as a teen

00:23:45and no holding back

00:23:47and because

00:23:48there's so many feelings

00:23:49involved

00:23:50and, like,

00:23:51I really care about

00:23:51this relationship

00:23:52so much,

00:23:53I've decided to stay.

00:23:55OK.

00:23:57And to you, David.

00:24:00Yeah.

00:24:07I'll take your advice

00:24:08on board

00:24:08and, yeah,

00:24:09I'll rock stand.

00:24:14Pleased to see that.

00:24:17This could be

00:24:18make or break

00:24:18for you guys.

00:24:20You're about to make

00:24:21the decision

00:24:22of this experiment.

00:24:24The thing that is

00:24:25going to determine

00:24:25which way you go

00:24:27in your future.

00:24:29Good luck, guys.

00:24:38Good luck, babe.

00:24:39Good luck.

00:24:40Good luck.

00:24:40You're good.

00:24:41You're good.

00:24:43Good luck, guys.

00:24:45Good luck.

00:24:56Good luck.

00:24:56Coming up...

00:24:57You do not have to

00:24:58tell me you love me,

00:24:59but I'm not going to

00:25:00walk down to final vows

00:25:02with someone that

00:25:03I may be.

00:25:04Bec hits her limit.

00:25:06I'm not doing it.

00:25:09And...

00:25:10I...

00:25:10Take a breath.

00:25:11One minute.

00:25:13Breathe.

00:25:14Will Scott speak up?

00:25:18When I care about

00:25:19someone so much,

00:25:20I feel like I can't

00:25:21speak my voice

00:25:22when I'm overconcerned.

00:25:23And it's a weakness of mine.

00:25:35All right,

00:25:36let's have our next couple up.

00:25:40Rachel and Stephen.

00:25:42Hey.

00:25:46Hello.

00:25:47Hello.

00:25:48Hello.

00:25:49How are you?

00:25:50Hi, Anna.

00:25:51I love this energy.

00:25:53Can I just say,

00:25:53Steve,

00:25:54are you got a bit of a swagger?

00:25:55Oh, he sure does.

00:25:57Oh, don't flatter me, John.

00:26:00Especially coming from you.

00:26:05Where do you two

00:26:05want to begin?

00:26:07Homestays.

00:26:07I guess.

00:26:08I mean,

00:26:08it seems like it's had

00:26:09a big impact on the two of you.

00:26:10Yeah.

00:26:13Homestays was

00:26:14a big success for me.

00:26:16And I believe Rachel as well.

00:26:18It's sort of changed

00:26:20the relationship

00:26:21in many ways.

00:26:22Oh, in what way?

00:26:24For me,

00:26:25Rachel was fantastic.

00:26:26She...

00:26:27I showed her my passions

00:26:28and she went out on the boat

00:26:30and she enjoyed herself

00:26:31with a smile ear to ear

00:26:32and we had lots of banter,

00:26:34laughing.

00:26:34It was a really

00:26:36super sweet time.

00:26:37But it's not that

00:26:38she's in the fishing.

00:26:39It's the independence.

00:26:41I can go...

00:26:42I feel like I can rely on Rachel.

00:26:44If something happens

00:26:45in the world

00:26:45where I'm like,

00:26:46geez, can you, you know,

00:26:47help me out with this?

00:26:48Rachel's going to go,

00:26:48got your back.

00:26:49Yeah.

00:26:50And she's just going to get it done.

00:26:51So as a result of that,

00:26:53how do you feel about her?

00:26:56Well,

00:26:58I feel like I can see myself

00:27:00falling in love with Rachel.

00:27:02Woo-hoo!

00:27:04That's massive.

00:27:07Hmm.

00:27:10Rachel, uh...

00:27:12Yeah.

00:27:12These are tears of happiness,

00:27:13I swear.

00:27:14Let's just take a moment,

00:27:15shall we?

00:27:15Just a little bit overwhelmed.

00:27:17Mm-hmm.

00:27:17In a good way.

00:27:21So I feel the same.

00:27:23You know,

00:27:23I can definitely see myself

00:27:24falling in love with you too.

00:27:27There's something going on

00:27:28for you right now, Rachel.

00:27:30What is it?

00:27:30Yeah.

00:27:31This is a very significant

00:27:32moment for you.

00:27:33Yeah.

00:27:34Um,

00:27:35I think I shared with you,

00:27:36John,

00:27:36before I came in here

00:27:37the last time

00:27:39someone told me

00:27:40that they loved me,

00:27:41the very next day

00:27:42they told me

00:27:43that I don't remember

00:27:44saying it.

00:27:47Um,

00:27:48that was after seven years

00:27:49of a...

00:27:51a toxic situationship.

00:27:53And so,

00:27:55um,

00:27:56it's a hard thing.

00:27:57My barriers go up.

00:28:01And so,

00:28:03having this journey

00:28:04with Stephen

00:28:05and knowing,

00:28:06you know,

00:28:07how he feels

00:28:08about vulnerability

00:28:08and when he says

00:28:10something,

00:28:10he means it.

00:28:11So,

00:28:11for him to be

00:28:13sitting here

00:28:13and saying that

00:28:14to me,

00:28:15it,

00:28:16yeah,

00:28:17bam,

00:28:17right in the fields

00:28:18in a really beautiful way

00:28:19because I'm like,

00:28:20yeah,

00:28:21I believe him.

00:28:25And I don't think

00:28:26that I thought

00:28:27that I would believe

00:28:29a man again

00:28:30in that one.

00:28:32You're welcome.

00:28:34And you know what?

00:28:35He said that

00:28:36holding your hand,

00:28:37sitting next to you,

00:28:38and showing you

00:28:41his family.

00:28:42Yeah.

00:28:42All the things

00:28:43that signal

00:28:45he's not going anywhere.

00:28:47Yeah.

00:28:49It's different.

00:28:50It is very different.

00:28:52Is it scary?

00:28:53It's petrifying.

00:28:58What are you scared of

00:28:59the most?

00:29:01I'm scared that Stephen

00:29:03will go back

00:29:03to his life in Sydney

00:29:06and it's just

00:29:07going to be easier

00:29:08for him to let me go

00:29:10because he is

00:29:11high and poor

00:29:12and he has his business.

00:29:14And so,

00:29:15it might be a burden

00:29:18to try and maintain

00:29:19our relationship

00:29:20with me.

00:29:21So,

00:29:22he might just

00:29:22let me go.

00:29:25So,

00:29:26yeah,

00:29:28that's,

00:29:28that's my fear.

00:29:31I feel hurt.

00:29:33Well,

00:29:33how does that land

00:29:34for you,

00:29:35Stephen,

00:29:35when you hear her

00:29:36say that?

00:29:37Um,

00:29:37yeah,

00:29:38it makes me feel

00:29:38helpless at times

00:29:39and I just don't

00:29:40know what to say

00:29:41because I,

00:29:42when I see

00:29:43Rachel in these

00:29:44states,

00:29:44the first thing

00:29:45I want to do

00:29:46is try and comfort her

00:29:47and try to fix

00:29:48the situation

00:29:48or reassure

00:29:49or at least,

00:29:50at least take

00:29:51the edge off

00:29:52a bit.

00:29:53So,

00:29:54if you don't

00:29:54have to fix it

00:29:55and you just sit

00:29:55with it

00:29:56and validate it,

00:29:57can you do that?

00:29:58I can do that.

00:29:59I can't say

00:30:00I'm happy with that

00:30:01but,

00:30:02I mean,

00:30:02it's,

00:30:03it is what it is.

00:30:03It makes you feel

00:30:04a bit uncomfortable?

00:30:05It does.

00:30:05Yeah,

00:30:06good.

00:30:06It does.

00:30:07Good.

00:30:07It does.

00:30:08And the only thing

00:30:09I can say to her

00:30:09is that the only thing

00:30:11that I feel like

00:30:11that's going to fix

00:30:12this is actually

00:30:13go out there

00:30:13in the real world

00:30:14and put it into practice

00:30:15and prove it wrong

00:30:17pretty much.

00:30:18Well,

00:30:19haven't you changed?

00:30:21You know,

00:30:21all the both of you

00:30:22sitting in front of us

00:30:23today.

00:30:24This was all,

00:30:25all done at homestays.

00:30:26It was amazing

00:30:27what homestays

00:30:28did for us.

00:30:29We love it.

00:30:30We love it.

00:30:31All right,

00:30:31let's go to the decision.

00:30:33Start with you first,

00:30:35Steve-O.

00:30:36There was a big

00:30:37question mark with me

00:30:38before homestays.

00:30:39I'm like,

00:30:39this could make

00:30:40or break us

00:30:41but it's just only

00:30:43brought me

00:30:44closer to Rachel.

00:30:45So I'm going to

00:30:47stay.

00:30:48Beautiful.

00:30:49Brilliant.

00:30:50And what about you,

00:30:52Rachel?

00:30:52What have you got?

00:30:53Stay or leave?

00:30:54I know this is going

00:30:54to shock everyone

00:30:56but I wrote stay

00:30:58and that's us

00:30:59on a boat fishing.

00:31:02Beautiful.

00:31:04We have loved

00:31:06watching you

00:31:07through this experiment.

00:31:08You've had some

00:31:09difficult moments

00:31:10along the way

00:31:11but you've grown,

00:31:12you know

00:31:13and the way

00:31:14in which you're

00:31:15together now

00:31:16really

00:31:17it's on display.

00:31:19Everyone sees it.

00:31:20You're a unified

00:31:21couple.

00:31:22It's fantastic.

00:31:23What I would say

00:31:23to you

00:31:24in this final week

00:31:26is don't get

00:31:27inside your head

00:31:27too much.

00:31:29You need

00:31:30to be

00:31:31enjoying

00:31:32this final week

00:31:34rather than

00:31:35thinking too far

00:31:36ahead

00:31:37because that's

00:31:38something that

00:31:38I think in the

00:31:39past

00:31:40you've been

00:31:41a bit guilty

00:31:41of doing

00:31:43and on that

00:31:43you can go

00:31:44back to your

00:31:44group.

00:31:45Come in.

00:31:47Yes.

00:31:48Good start.

00:32:00You made me cry.

00:32:02Oh, you're welcome.

00:32:03Yeah.

00:32:04Yeah.

00:32:16Let's get our

00:32:17next couple

00:32:18up on the couch

00:32:21Bec and Danny.

00:32:25Hey guys.

00:32:26Hello.

00:32:27How are you?

00:32:28Good.

00:32:28Very well.

00:32:31Homestays.

00:32:32Let's start with you

00:32:33Bec.

00:32:34What were they like?

00:32:35They were great.

00:32:37I was in my own

00:32:38estate.

00:32:39I was in my own

00:32:39home with my dog.

00:32:42We saw my family

00:32:43at my auntie's

00:32:44beach house

00:32:45and that was great.

00:32:47Dad and Daniel

00:32:48get along really well

00:32:49which is great.

00:32:51So good start.

00:32:52Great start.

00:32:56What else happened

00:32:57at the homestay?

00:32:59We met Bec's friends.

00:33:01That went pretty good

00:33:02didn't it?

00:33:02Like just like the

00:33:03tough questions.

00:33:04And then that night

00:33:06we went back to Bec's

00:33:08and we were sitting

00:33:09around like having a

00:33:10having a fire

00:33:12and then I cracked

00:33:14a joke

00:33:15like about her

00:33:16cousin fancying me

00:33:19and it landed poorly.

00:33:24What did he say

00:33:25with the joke?

00:33:26Can you just tell us?

00:33:28We were having a bit

00:33:29of an emotional moment

00:33:30with one another

00:33:30talking about our

00:33:31feelings and how

00:33:32it's been on

00:33:33homestays

00:33:34and Daniel said

00:33:35if all else fails

00:33:36at least Daniel

00:33:37fancies me

00:33:37type thing.

00:33:42And I lost it.

00:33:46And why?

00:33:48Because

00:33:48it makes me feel

00:33:50like when we're

00:33:51having this conversation

00:33:52that means so much

00:33:54to me

00:33:54that it diminishes

00:33:56it and it makes

00:33:57it a joke.

00:33:59I get it.

00:34:00I shouldn't have

00:34:01said it but I feel

00:34:02that our fight styles

00:34:03don't really match

00:34:04too well.

00:34:06What scared me was

00:34:08we couldn't rectify

00:34:09it too quickly

00:34:10and where I'm

00:34:12sort of holding

00:34:12back a little bit

00:34:13is I don't

00:34:16I wouldn't want

00:34:16to move

00:34:17and then we have

00:34:18an argument like that

00:34:19and I feel really

00:34:19isolated and alone.

00:34:21I don't want to do that.

00:34:22So arguing is

00:34:23something that scares

00:34:24you when it comes

00:34:26to beg.

00:34:26Why?

00:34:27I think for both

00:34:28of us it just

00:34:29doesn't work.

00:34:33Wow.

00:34:34Okay.

00:34:35What am I saying

00:34:35wrong?

00:34:37Just to use the words

00:34:39for both of us

00:34:39it doesn't work.

00:34:44I'm not saying

00:34:45we don't work

00:34:45I'm saying

00:34:46our fight style

00:34:47doesn't work.

00:34:47Oh yeah

00:34:48that no okay.

00:34:50So this is what

00:34:51happens sometimes

00:34:52I try and say

00:34:53something and

00:34:54Bec takes it

00:34:54in completely

00:34:55the wrong way.

00:34:57Bec what's going

00:34:58on inside of you

00:34:59right now?

00:35:01Um I suppose

00:35:02I'm fearful

00:35:02because I've

00:35:03let every wall

00:35:04down.

00:35:05So what happens

00:35:06to you when

00:35:07he says that?

00:35:08Just

00:35:10kills my soul

00:35:11a little bit

00:35:11to be honest

00:35:12with you.

00:35:16Because I'm like

00:35:17well

00:35:19why haven't

00:35:19you said

00:35:20this to me?

00:35:22Because

00:35:22because what

00:35:23I've been fearful

00:35:23to say it

00:35:24because I don't

00:35:24want to upset you.

00:35:28No no no

00:35:29do not blame me.

00:35:30I'm not blaming you.

00:35:31Don't say

00:35:31you're fearful

00:35:32to tell me

00:35:33because you're

00:35:33going to upset me.

00:35:35I'm here

00:35:36in love with you.

00:35:38We're at the end

00:35:38of this experiment.

00:35:42You're making it

00:35:43seem like

00:35:43I've been holding

00:35:44onto this

00:35:44for six months.

00:35:45Honestly

00:35:45I noticed it

00:35:46in Adelaide

00:35:47when I felt

00:35:47isolated.

00:35:48Up until then

00:35:49I haven't noticed it.

00:35:53Bec I look

00:35:54at your face

00:35:56you seem

00:35:57very concerned.

00:36:02I think

00:36:03he's got

00:36:03more reservations

00:36:04than he lets on.

00:36:05Oh really?

00:36:06I do yeah.

00:36:07I do.

00:36:08I do.

00:36:09I do.

00:36:15Danny

00:36:16Danny

00:36:16look at me.

00:36:18there really

00:36:18is no time

00:36:19for you

00:36:19to make light

00:36:20of the situation

00:36:22because when you

00:36:23add things up

00:36:24Danny

00:36:25it's not making

00:36:26her feel secure.

00:36:27You know

00:36:27you haven't said

00:36:28your feelings

00:36:29back to her.

00:36:30You've gone

00:36:31to the family

00:36:31and they've

00:36:32validated you

00:36:33and then

00:36:34you're not

00:36:35bringing up

00:36:35issues because

00:36:36you're afraid

00:36:36of the fight

00:36:37style.

00:36:38It starts

00:36:39to add up

00:36:40and it makes

00:36:41her feel

00:36:43what?

00:36:43Bec?

00:36:48like he's

00:36:48just not

00:36:48that into

00:36:49me.

00:36:54So that's

00:36:55a problem

00:36:57because this

00:36:57far into

00:36:58the experiment

00:36:58you don't

00:36:59want your

00:37:00partner

00:37:01to be

00:37:01thinking

00:37:03he's just

00:37:03not that

00:37:04into me.

00:37:07Yeah

00:37:07but I am.

00:37:09I've told you

00:37:10that I am.

00:37:11You know

00:37:11I am.

00:37:14So why

00:37:15is she

00:37:15not believing

00:37:15it?

00:37:17I don't

00:37:18know

00:37:18I can't

00:37:18speak for

00:37:19Bec.

00:37:22I'm

00:37:22asking

00:37:24for you

00:37:25to sit

00:37:26there

00:37:26and say

00:37:27to me

00:37:28Bec

00:37:28this is

00:37:28how I

00:37:29feel

00:37:29about

00:37:29you

00:37:29just

00:37:30once.

00:37:33You know

00:37:34how I feel

00:37:34about you.

00:37:35You know

00:37:35I care

00:37:36about you

00:37:36so much.

00:37:37I do

00:37:38know

00:37:38you care

00:37:38about me

00:37:38but

00:37:39where

00:37:39is

00:37:40the passion

00:37:42I see

00:37:42tiny glimpses

00:37:43of it

00:37:44but

00:37:46I feel

00:37:47like you

00:37:47are holding

00:37:47back.

00:37:49You said

00:37:50to me

00:37:50once

00:37:50at the

00:37:50beginning

00:37:51of this

00:37:51experiment

00:37:51and I'll

00:37:52never forget

00:37:52it

00:37:52and it's

00:37:53probably

00:37:54ruined

00:37:54me.

00:37:56Daniel's

00:37:57like

00:37:57well

00:37:58when you

00:37:59are obsessed

00:37:59with each

00:37:59other

00:37:59you're all

00:38:00over each

00:38:00other

00:38:00and I

00:38:01don't

00:38:01have

00:38:02that

00:38:02I

00:38:03just

00:38:03don't

00:38:03get

00:38:03it

00:38:03from

00:38:03him

00:38:04at

00:38:04all.

00:38:05He

00:38:06doesn't

00:38:06want

00:38:06to

00:38:06hold

00:38:06my

00:38:06hand

00:38:06walking

00:38:07down

00:38:07the

00:38:07street

00:38:07that's

00:38:07not

00:38:07your

00:38:08style

00:38:08no worries

00:38:09whenever we

00:38:10have a

00:38:10kiss

00:38:10I'm

00:38:10the

00:38:10one

00:38:11going

00:38:11to

00:38:11kiss

00:38:11you

00:38:12never

00:38:12ever

00:38:12got

00:38:13to

00:38:13kiss

00:38:13me

00:38:13you

00:38:14don't

00:38:14compliment

00:38:14me

00:38:15hardly

00:38:16ever

00:38:18so for

00:38:19me

00:38:19it's

00:38:19like

00:38:19well

00:38:19I'm

00:38:20this

00:38:20fool

00:38:20that's

00:38:21allowed

00:38:21my

00:38:21heart

00:38:21to get

00:38:22to

00:38:22this

00:38:22point

00:38:23and

00:38:23he's

00:38:24not

00:38:24there

00:38:24and

00:38:24he's

00:38:24not

00:38:25going

00:38:25to

00:38:25feel

00:38:25that

00:38:25way

00:38:28I

00:38:29don't

00:38:29think

00:38:29that's

00:38:30a

00:38:30fair

00:38:30assumption

00:38:37the

00:38:38thing

00:38:38that's

00:38:39important

00:38:39here

00:38:39Danny

00:38:40is

00:38:40that

00:38:40she's

00:38:41just

00:38:41told

00:38:41you

00:38:41in

00:38:42a

00:38:42very

00:38:42clear

00:38:43cut

00:38:43way

00:38:43why

00:38:45she

00:38:45doesn't

00:38:46feel

00:38:46like

00:38:47you're

00:38:47interested

00:38:51your

00:38:52reaction

00:38:53is

00:38:53well

00:38:53that's

00:38:53not

00:38:54fair

00:38:54no

00:38:55but

00:38:55like

00:38:55yes

00:38:56that's

00:38:56exactly

00:38:57what

00:38:57we

00:38:57just

00:38:57heard

00:39:01even

00:39:01like

00:39:01all

00:39:02of

00:39:02the

00:39:02husbands

00:39:02walk

00:39:03past

00:39:03us

00:39:03sitting

00:39:03at

00:39:04the

00:39:04commitment

00:39:04ceremony

00:39:04and

00:39:05they

00:39:05all

00:39:05acknowledge

00:39:05their

00:39:06wives

00:39:06and

00:39:06you

00:39:06never

00:39:07do

00:39:07you

00:39:07ignore

00:39:08me

00:39:11and

00:39:12I

00:39:12don't

00:39:12know

00:39:12how

00:39:12I've

00:39:13gotten

00:39:13to

00:39:13this

00:39:13point

00:39:14of

00:39:14these

00:39:14feelings

00:39:15with

00:39:15that

00:39:19I'm

00:39:19so

00:39:20worried

00:39:24I'm

00:39:24actually

00:39:24so

00:39:25worried

00:39:30I

00:39:30don't

00:39:31feel

00:39:31like

00:39:32you

00:39:32have

00:39:32any

00:39:32desire

00:39:33and

00:39:33I

00:39:33just

00:39:34yeah

00:39:35I'm

00:39:35just

00:39:35nervous

00:39:37the

00:39:38reality

00:39:38is

00:39:39is

00:39:39that

00:39:39how

00:39:40can

00:39:40you

00:39:40move

00:39:41to

00:39:41Adelaide

00:39:41and

00:39:42how

00:39:42can

00:39:42we

00:39:43live

00:39:43this

00:39:44life

00:39:44together

00:39:44if

00:39:45this

00:39:45is

00:39:45how

00:39:45it's

00:39:46going

00:39:46to

00:39:46be

00:39:47I

00:39:47can't

00:39:48be

00:39:48the

00:39:48one

00:39:48going

00:39:49to

00:39:49kiss

00:39:49you

00:39:51just

00:39:51so

00:39:52that

00:39:52there's

00:39:52a

00:39:52level

00:39:52of

00:39:52affection

00:39:53I

00:39:53can't

00:39:56I'm

00:39:56not

00:39:56doing

00:39:57it

00:39:57I've

00:39:57done

00:39:57it

00:39:57I

00:39:57did

00:39:58it

00:39:58I

00:39:58nearly

00:39:58married

00:39:59it

00:40:00I'm

00:40:00not

00:40:00doing

00:40:00it

00:40:02I'm

00:40:02not

00:40:04I'm

00:40:04not

00:40:04doing

00:40:04it

00:40:05you're

00:40:05either

00:40:05into

00:40:06me

00:40:06you

00:40:07have

00:40:07had

00:40:07enough

00:40:08time

00:40:08to

00:40:08know

00:40:08if

00:40:09I

00:40:09am

00:40:09the

00:40:09type

00:40:10of

00:40:10person

00:40:10you

00:40:10would

00:40:10want

00:40:11to

00:40:11be

00:40:11with

00:40:11you

00:40:11do

00:40:11not

00:40:11have

00:40:12to

00:40:12tell

00:40:12me

00:40:12you

00:40:12love

00:40:12me

00:40:12but

00:40:13I'm

00:40:13not

00:40:13going

00:40:14to

00:40:14walk

00:40:15down

00:40:15to

00:40:15final

00:40:15vows

00:40:16with

00:40:16someone

00:40:16that's

00:40:37you

00:40:37have

00:40:38had

00:40:38enough

00:40:38time

00:40:38to

00:40:39know

00:40:39if

00:40:39I

00:40:40am

00:40:40the

00:40:40type

00:40:40of

00:40:40person

00:40:41you

00:40:41would

00:40:41want

00:40:41to

00:40:41be

00:40:41with

00:40:42you

00:40:42do

00:40:42not

00:40:42have

00:40:42to

00:40:42tell

00:40:42me

00:40:43you

00:40:43love

00:40:43me

00:40:43but

00:40:43I'm

00:40:44not

00:40:44going

00:40:44to

00:40:44walk

00:40:45down

00:40:45to

00:40:46final

00:40:46vows

00:40:46with

00:40:47someone

00:40:47that's

00:40:47a

00:40:48maybe

00:40:48about

00:40:49me

00:40:49I'm

00:40:49not

00:40:50doing

00:40:50it

00:40:50I'd

00:40:50rather

00:40:50be

00:40:51heartbroken

00:40:51now

00:40:51than

00:41:15how does

00:41:16that

00:41:16land

00:41:16for

00:41:17you

00:41:17Danny

00:41:22well

00:41:22obviously

00:41:23it

00:41:23has

00:41:23to

00:41:23it

00:41:23hurts

00:41:24to

00:41:24see

00:41:24Beck

00:41:24like

00:41:25that

00:41:25what

00:41:25is

00:41:26she

00:41:26saying

00:41:26to

00:41:27you

00:41:28that

00:41:28you've

00:41:29done

00:41:30to

00:41:30get

00:41:30her

00:41:30to

00:41:30this

00:41:31point

00:41:31well

00:41:32just

00:41:32not

00:41:33not

00:41:33be

00:41:35passionate

00:41:35and

00:41:36not

00:41:36be

00:41:37the

00:41:37man

00:41:37she

00:41:37needs

00:41:38me

00:41:38to

00:41:38be

00:41:40I've

00:41:41had

00:41:41my

00:41:41guard

00:41:42up

00:41:42essentially

00:41:42that's

00:41:43that's

00:41:43what

00:41:44yeah

00:41:52when

00:41:53when

00:41:53she

00:41:53lays

00:41:53this

00:41:54out

00:41:54on

00:41:54the

00:41:54table

00:41:55no

00:41:55compliments

00:41:57very

00:41:57few

00:41:59lack

00:41:59of

00:42:00intimacy

00:42:00not

00:42:01making

00:42:01her

00:42:01a

00:42:02priority

00:42:02not

00:42:03saying

00:42:03how

00:42:04you

00:42:04feel

00:42:04about

00:42:04her

00:42:06what

00:42:07do

00:42:07you

00:42:07think

00:42:08that

00:42:08does

00:42:08to

00:42:09her

00:42:11yeah

00:42:12would

00:42:12destroy

00:42:13her

00:42:14what

00:42:15do

00:42:15you

00:42:15think

00:42:15it

00:42:15does

00:42:16to

00:42:16the

00:42:16relationship

00:42:16destroys

00:42:18the

00:42:18relationship

00:42:18as

00:42:19well

00:42:21why

00:42:22because

00:42:23you

00:42:23can't

00:42:24have

00:42:24you

00:42:24can't

00:42:24build

00:42:25a

00:42:25relationship

00:42:25on

00:42:25like

00:42:26sand

00:42:26foundations

00:42:27do you

00:42:28know

00:42:28what

00:42:28you

00:42:28mean

00:42:28so

00:42:29help

00:42:29us

00:42:29understand

00:42:30why

00:42:30you're

00:42:31not

00:42:32doing

00:42:32these

00:42:32things

00:42:33to

00:42:34bring

00:42:34her

00:42:34close

00:42:38just

00:42:40obviously

00:42:41we've

00:42:41talked

00:42:41about

00:42:42the

00:42:42five

00:42:42star

00:42:42that's

00:42:43the

00:42:43bit

00:42:43where

00:42:43I've

00:42:43been

00:42:43holding

00:42:44back

00:42:47but

00:42:47I guess

00:42:48after my

00:42:48last

00:42:48relationship

00:42:49I haven't

00:42:50felt

00:42:50this

00:42:50strongly

00:42:51towards

00:42:51a

00:42:51woman

00:42:51or

00:42:52been

00:42:52this

00:42:52close

00:42:52with

00:42:53a

00:42:53woman

00:42:53in

00:42:53years

00:42:56but

00:42:56of course

00:42:57I still

00:42:57have a

00:42:57bit

00:42:58of a

00:42:58guard

00:42:58up

00:42:58because

00:42:59last

00:42:59time

00:43:00when

00:43:01it

00:43:01didn't

00:43:01work

00:43:01out

00:43:02it

00:43:02destroyed

00:43:02my

00:43:02life

00:43:04how

00:43:05nice

00:43:05would

00:43:05it

00:43:05be

00:43:06to

00:43:06have

00:43:06heard

00:43:06that

00:43:06you

00:43:07just

00:43:07did

00:43:08I

00:43:08know

00:43:09why

00:43:09do

00:43:09I

00:43:09have

00:43:09to

00:43:10go

00:43:10to

00:43:10this

00:43:10length

00:43:10to

00:43:11hear

00:43:11that

00:43:11I'm

00:43:11not

00:43:11no

00:43:12good

00:43:12at

00:43:12this

00:43:12shit

00:43:14well

00:43:14I've

00:43:15been

00:43:15begging

00:43:15you

00:43:16for

00:43:16this

00:43:16level

00:43:17of

00:43:17openness

00:43:17for

00:43:18nearly

00:43:18three

00:43:19months

00:43:20and

00:43:20so

00:43:20hearing

00:43:21that

00:43:22makes

00:43:22me

00:43:23feel

00:43:23like

00:43:25there's

00:43:25hope

00:43:26you

00:43:26know

00:43:31why

00:43:32does

00:43:32that

00:43:32make

00:43:32you

00:43:32feel

00:43:32hopeful

00:43:33because

00:43:33if

00:43:34he

00:43:34hasn't

00:43:34felt

00:43:34like

00:43:34this

00:43:35in

00:43:35years

00:43:35then

00:43:37that

00:43:37means

00:43:37that

00:43:39it's

00:43:41real

00:43:42and

00:43:43you

00:43:43might

00:43:43be

00:43:44into

00:43:44me

00:43:44but

00:43:45you

00:43:46need

00:43:46to

00:43:46open

00:43:47yourself

00:43:47to

00:43:47me

00:43:48yeah

00:43:48I guess

00:43:48like

00:43:49this

00:43:49has been

00:43:49a problem

00:43:50in the past

00:43:50that

00:43:51I am

00:43:52just a

00:43:52shit

00:43:52boyfriend

00:43:53to be honest

00:43:54I don't

00:43:54I am

00:43:55that good

00:43:56to be honest

00:43:57but that

00:43:58is a

00:43:58very easy

00:43:59way

00:43:59of getting

00:44:00out

00:44:00of it

00:44:01don't

00:44:01hold me

00:44:02accountable

00:44:02I'm just

00:44:03a shit

00:44:03boyfriend

00:44:03no I'm

00:44:04not saying

00:44:04it like

00:44:04that

00:44:05but you

00:44:05are

00:44:07and that's

00:44:07what she's

00:44:08hearing

00:44:11what she

00:44:11wants

00:44:12right now

00:44:12from you

00:44:13Danny

00:44:13is

00:44:14for you

00:44:14to step

00:44:15into this

00:44:15and go

00:44:15you know

00:44:16what

00:44:16yeah

00:44:17I've

00:44:17dropped

00:44:17the ball

00:44:19and I've

00:44:20sent you

00:44:20the wrong

00:44:20signals

00:44:22and I'm

00:44:22accountable

00:44:23and I'm

00:44:24going to

00:44:24do

00:44:24different

00:44:25but I'm

00:44:25not getting

00:44:26that

00:44:26from you

00:44:28no I

00:44:29I want

00:44:29to say

00:44:29I am

00:44:30and I'm

00:44:30sorry

00:44:31if like

00:44:31it's for

00:44:32making you

00:44:33feel like

00:44:33genuine

00:44:33from the

00:44:34bottom

00:44:34of my

00:44:34heart

00:44:35you know

00:44:35I'd

00:44:35never

00:44:35want

00:44:35to

00:44:36upset

00:44:36you

00:44:36you mean

00:44:36the world

00:44:37to me

00:44:40and I'm

00:44:41sorry

00:44:42if I've

00:44:42dropped

00:44:43the ball

00:44:43it was

00:44:44never

00:44:44my

00:44:44intention

00:44:49I like

00:44:49hearing it

00:44:50but I

00:44:50need to

00:44:50see it

00:44:51yeah

00:44:51I can't

00:44:52keep on

00:44:53hearing it

00:44:54and then

00:44:55nothing

00:44:55changes

00:44:56well let

00:44:56me show

00:44:56you

00:44:56then

00:44:59okay

00:45:03let me

00:45:04show

00:45:04you

00:45:08now

00:45:08with that

00:45:09we're

00:45:09going to

00:45:09go to

00:45:10the

00:45:10decision

00:45:13Beck

00:45:13what have

00:45:14you got

00:45:14for us

00:45:14stay or

00:45:15leave

00:45:15well

00:45:16you

00:45:17you have

00:45:18my heart

00:45:19and like

00:45:20you are

00:45:21the most

00:45:22special person

00:45:22I've never

00:45:23met anyone

00:45:23like you

00:45:24right

00:45:25and I feel

00:45:25really really

00:45:26lucky

00:45:26that we

00:45:27were matched

00:45:28and we get

00:45:28to go on

00:45:28this journey

00:45:29together

00:45:32but I

00:45:34need you

00:45:35to give

00:45:37me half

00:45:39of what

00:45:39I'm giving

00:45:40you at

00:45:40least

00:45:48we have

00:45:50overcome so

00:45:50many hurdles

00:45:51together and

00:45:52we've made

00:45:53it this far

00:45:54so

00:45:57I said

00:45:59stay

00:45:59and then I

00:46:00said proud

00:46:01of us

00:46:03love it

00:46:04and Danny

00:46:06yeah obviously

00:46:07I want to

00:46:08apologise again

00:46:09I'm so sorry

00:46:10you know you

00:46:10mean the world

00:46:11to me and

00:46:11this week

00:46:13I'll try and

00:46:14prove that to

00:46:15you

00:46:16I'm here for

00:46:17love and I

00:46:18think I can

00:46:18find that with

00:46:19you so

00:46:19that's why

00:46:20I wrote

00:46:20stay

00:46:20good

00:46:32Danny

00:46:32from where

00:46:33we're sitting

00:46:33this week

00:46:34is on you

00:46:35you have

00:46:37to do

00:46:37the heavy

00:46:38lifting

00:46:38you've got

00:46:39a partner

00:46:40here with

00:46:41you

00:46:41who's put

00:46:42her heart

00:46:43out there

00:46:44and said

00:46:44I'm in

00:46:44love

00:46:45I want

00:46:46this

00:46:46you need

00:46:47to step

00:46:47up

00:46:50and if

00:46:51you are

00:46:52feeling

00:46:53these

00:46:54strong

00:46:54emotions

00:46:55for her

00:46:55then you've

00:46:56got to

00:46:56start

00:46:57showing it

00:46:57yeah

00:47:01with that

00:47:02you can

00:47:02go back

00:47:03to the

00:47:03group

00:47:04thanks

00:47:05well done

00:47:05guys

00:47:08thanks

00:47:08for all

00:47:09your support

00:47:09thanks

00:47:10good work

00:47:11you too

00:47:14oh

00:47:15that's it

00:47:21communicate

00:47:21with me

00:47:23my wife

00:47:24hates me

00:47:24and so

00:47:24it won't

00:47:25it's first

00:47:25as well

00:47:27I don't

00:47:28hate you

00:47:28boo

00:47:29I just

00:47:30can't keep

00:47:30on asking

00:47:31at the

00:47:31minimum

00:47:32it's either

00:47:33there or

00:47:33it's not

00:47:34and if

00:47:35it's not

00:47:35you've got to

00:47:36walk away

00:47:36now

00:47:37right

00:47:43still to

00:47:44come

00:47:44I haven't

00:47:46been able

00:47:46to address

00:47:46her concern

00:47:47without

00:47:47Gia and

00:47:48I having

00:47:48an argument

00:47:49or her

00:47:49spiralling

00:47:50what kind

00:47:51of things

00:47:51could she

00:47:52say

00:47:52in a

00:47:53moment

00:47:53that

00:47:54demands

00:47:54honesty

00:47:56things

00:47:56that can

00:47:57make

00:47:57someone

00:47:58feel

00:47:58pretty

00:47:59defeated

00:47:59and let

00:48:00down

00:48:00such

00:48:01as

00:48:02Scott

00:48:02hesitates

00:48:05if you

00:48:06can't

00:48:06speak

00:48:07honestly

00:48:07in front

00:48:08of Gia

00:48:08then I'm

00:48:09really concerned

00:48:10about the

00:48:10possibility

00:48:11of this

00:48:12relationship

00:48:12surviving

00:48:13outside the

00:48:14experiment

00:48:24next on the

00:48:25couch

00:48:28Chris and

00:48:29Sam

00:48:33hello

00:48:34hello

00:48:36hi

00:48:41body language

00:48:42says a lot

00:48:43yeah it's

00:48:44been tough

00:48:45yeah

00:48:50what happened

00:48:52last time we

00:48:53sat here

00:48:53I wrote

00:48:54leave in the

00:48:55moment

00:48:56and then I

00:48:57kind of

00:48:57regretted it

00:48:59we decided to

00:49:00go to

00:49:00homestays

00:49:01and I

00:49:01thought okay

00:49:02I'm really

00:49:02going to try

00:49:02and turn

00:49:03this around

00:49:03and I

00:49:04bought him

00:49:04some flowers

00:49:05I got him

00:49:05a card

00:49:05and made

00:49:06him

00:49:06went to

00:49:06the shop

00:49:07and got

00:49:07groceries

00:49:07and made

00:49:08dinner

00:49:09and then we

00:49:09had a day

00:49:10with my

00:49:10cattle

00:49:10you know

00:49:11we were

00:49:11outside

00:49:12and I

00:49:13thought that

00:49:13was really

00:49:13fun

00:49:15and then

00:49:15we had

00:49:16a bonfire

00:49:20Sam

00:49:20pulled out

00:49:21a journal

00:49:21with some

00:49:22questions in

00:49:23it

00:49:23hand on

00:49:24heart

00:49:24I was

00:49:24answering

00:49:25them

00:49:25the best

00:49:25that I

00:49:25could

00:49:27and then

00:49:27Sam

00:49:28decided

00:49:28to

00:49:29leave

00:49:29the farm

00:49:31and

00:49:31I

00:49:32thought

00:49:32look

00:49:33I've

00:49:33really

00:49:33tried

00:49:33to

00:49:34turn

00:49:34this

00:49:34around

00:49:34I

00:49:35really

00:49:35took

00:49:35on

00:49:35all

00:49:35of

00:49:35your

00:49:36guys

00:49:36feedback

00:49:36and

00:49:37yeah I

00:49:38just feel

00:49:38like I've

00:49:39shut down

00:49:39now

00:49:43yeah I

00:49:43just felt like

00:49:44he was saving

00:49:45face

00:49:46especially like

00:49:47the flowers

00:49:48and dinner

00:49:48thing

00:49:49it felt

00:49:50very like

00:49:51I need to do

00:49:52these things

00:49:52to show

00:49:52that I put

00:49:53in effort

00:49:54for me

00:49:55it was genuine

00:49:55I was trying

00:49:56to be as genuine

00:49:56as I could

00:49:57and I thought

00:49:57that was

00:49:58a way to try

00:49:59and make you

00:49:59feel welcome

00:50:00at the farm

00:50:00I feel like

00:50:01your effort

00:50:01was like

00:50:02to push forward

00:50:03and there was

00:50:04effort for you

00:50:05to grow

00:50:05but it was never

00:50:05like I need

00:50:06to grow

00:50:07for us

00:50:07I want to

00:50:08grow to be

00:50:08better partner

00:50:09for you

00:50:16where did

00:50:17the relationship

00:50:17go wrong

00:50:18for you

00:50:19both

00:50:23I feel like

00:50:24Chris never

00:50:25really

00:50:25fully forgave

00:50:26me for

00:50:27calling him

00:50:28out

00:50:28on like

00:50:29behaviors

00:50:31from then

00:50:32on

00:50:32especially

00:50:33after

00:50:33you guys

00:50:34gave him

00:50:34feedback

00:50:34it was

00:50:35like

00:50:35it was

00:50:35like

00:50:36a no

00:50:36return

00:50:36point

00:50:36from

00:50:37then

00:50:40where did

00:50:41it go wrong

00:50:41for you

00:50:43I feel

00:50:44like

00:50:45like

00:50:45after the

00:50:46retreat

00:50:46that chemistry

00:50:47it was lacking

00:50:48for me

00:50:48we were intimate

00:50:50a second time

00:50:50and I just felt

00:50:51like

00:50:51that wasn't

00:50:52there for me

00:50:55was it the

00:50:55quality of the

00:50:56interaction

00:50:57was it

00:50:57him as a

00:50:58person

00:50:59what was it

00:51:01that felt

00:51:01off for you

00:51:03if I'm being

00:51:03honest

00:51:04it was just

00:51:04the quality

00:51:05of the interaction

00:51:05I just

00:51:06I don't know

00:51:06it just

00:51:07wasn't

00:51:07there

00:51:07for me

00:51:15is that

00:51:15something

00:51:16that you

00:51:16spoke to

00:51:16Sam about

00:51:17no

00:51:18I didn't

00:51:18want to

00:51:18hurt

00:51:19his

00:51:19feelings

00:51:24how are

00:51:24you feeling

00:51:25about that

00:51:25Sam

00:51:25to hear

00:51:26this

00:51:27oh

00:51:27yeah

00:51:28like

00:51:29I guess

00:51:29I'm surprised

00:51:31and like

00:51:32I guess

00:51:33what really

00:51:33sucks

00:51:33is that

00:51:34I was

00:51:35out on

00:51:35the farm

00:51:35and I

00:51:35was like

00:51:36hurting

00:51:36cows

00:51:37and I

00:51:37was like

00:51:37this is

00:51:38so good

00:51:38and the

00:51:39kids thing

00:51:39never bothered

00:51:40me

00:51:40like it's

00:51:41always something

00:51:41I've wanted

00:51:41in my life

00:51:43and I was

00:51:44just like

00:51:44it was so

00:51:45annoying

00:51:45that everything

00:51:45else would

00:51:46have worked

00:51:51this is

00:51:52this is really

00:51:52disappointing for

00:51:53us

00:51:54because we

00:51:55had so

00:51:55much hope

00:51:56for the

00:51:57two of

00:51:57you

00:51:58it's just

00:51:59so unfortunate

00:52:00that along

00:52:01the way

00:52:02with all of

00:52:02the pressure

00:52:03that the

00:52:03experiment

00:52:04brings

00:52:04that the

00:52:05wheels

00:52:05have fallen

00:52:06off

00:52:09it is

00:52:09disappointing

00:52:09I came

00:52:10here

00:52:11to find

00:52:11love

00:52:12and

00:52:12you

00:52:12know

00:52:12I

00:52:13know

00:52:13that I'm

00:52:13a slow burn

00:52:14and you

00:52:14know

00:52:14I know

00:52:14that I

00:52:15get anxious

00:52:16once I do

00:52:16get feelings

00:52:17for someone

00:52:17because it

00:52:17takes me

00:52:18so long

00:52:18to build

00:52:18feelings

00:52:19for someone

00:52:21and yeah

00:52:22it's just

00:52:22really disappointing

00:52:23that it all

00:52:24ended up

00:52:24like this

00:52:25but

00:52:25you know

00:52:27I hope

00:52:27for the future

00:52:30yeah

00:52:32what about

00:52:32you Chris

00:52:33yeah

00:52:34and I said

00:52:34to Sam

00:52:34that I want

00:52:34to be

00:52:35really good

00:52:35friends with

00:52:35him

00:52:36we've been

00:52:37on this

00:52:37journey

00:52:37for eight

00:52:38weeks

00:52:38so yeah

00:52:39I hope

00:52:40that we

00:52:40can stay

00:52:41in each

00:52:41other's

00:52:41lives

00:52:41outside

00:52:42of here

00:52:43yeah

00:52:45all right

00:52:46well we're

00:52:47going to go

00:52:47to a decision

00:52:48Chris

00:52:49we'll start

00:52:50with you

00:52:52I've

00:52:52obviously

00:52:52learned a lot

00:52:53about myself

00:52:53and I hope

00:52:53you have

00:52:54too

00:52:54and you

00:52:56know

00:52:56I'm sorry

00:52:56that it

00:52:56didn't work

00:52:57out for us

00:52:58my time

00:52:59has unfortunately

00:53:00run out

00:53:00so

00:53:02yeah

00:53:02I have

00:53:03to leave

00:53:04okay

00:53:04thank you

00:53:06and to you

00:53:07Sam

00:53:07it's been a

00:53:09journey

00:53:09I've learned

00:53:09a lot

00:53:1090% of our

00:53:11time together

00:53:11was awesome

00:53:13yeah

00:53:13but you know

00:53:14it's come to

00:53:15the time

00:53:15to pack it

00:53:16up

00:53:16and

00:53:17leave

00:53:22I'm sorry

00:53:22you've both

00:53:23landed here

00:53:24but

00:53:25hopefully

00:53:26you have

00:53:26learnt some

00:53:27lessons along

00:53:28the way

00:53:29that you

00:53:30can take

00:53:30into your

00:53:30next

00:53:31relationships

00:53:31and

00:53:32parenthood

00:53:33you know

00:53:34this is all

00:53:34about that

00:53:35self-development

00:53:36as well

00:53:37as couple

00:53:38development

00:53:40thank you

00:53:40both

00:53:40thank you

00:53:41so much

00:53:41well done

00:53:49you two

00:53:49well done

00:53:53guys

00:53:54we're gonna

00:53:54miss you

00:53:57our next couple

00:53:58up on the couch

00:54:00Stella and

00:54:01philip

00:54:05hello

00:54:06hello there

00:54:09how we doing

00:54:11well we're more

00:54:12interested in how

00:54:12you're doing

00:54:14yeah

00:54:14coming into

00:54:15homesteads was

00:54:16very very important

00:54:17for me

00:54:18I was always open

00:54:19to moving

00:54:19so it was a

00:54:19really big deal

00:54:20to go into

00:54:21Stella's space

00:54:22I was just

00:54:23really keen to

00:54:24see what it

00:54:24would look like

00:54:26I just tried

00:54:27to envisage

00:54:28everything

00:54:28like how I'd

00:54:29live there

00:54:29the vibe

00:54:30the energy

00:54:31and all that

00:54:31kind of stuff

00:54:33after the

00:54:34experiment

00:54:35Stella's gonna

00:54:36come back

00:54:36for my mum's

00:54:37birthday

00:54:38celebrate that

00:54:39we're gonna

00:54:40spend a few

00:54:41days in Melbourne

00:54:42and then I'll

00:54:43pick my car up

00:54:43and drive up

00:54:44to Cronulla

00:54:47just move again

00:54:48yeah

00:54:49yeah

00:54:50straight in

00:54:51yeah

00:54:51oh

00:54:52moving in

00:54:53that's a plan

00:54:55yeah

00:54:56so it is a

00:54:57plan

00:54:57we got there

00:54:59here's the thing

00:55:00when I first

00:55:01met you

00:55:02you loved

00:55:02control

00:55:03yeah

00:55:03you

00:55:05mapped out

00:55:06you know

00:55:06what you wanted

00:55:07to do during

00:55:08the day

00:55:08your fitness

00:55:09your health

00:55:09your sleep

00:55:10everything

00:55:11on point

00:55:12and

00:55:13you without

00:55:15a plan

00:55:15there was a

00:55:16part of you

00:55:17that wasn't

00:55:18committing

00:55:18and now

00:55:19you've come up

00:55:21with a plan

00:55:21you've got

00:55:22certainty

00:55:23and now

00:55:24you're on

00:55:24the same

00:55:25track

00:55:25because I

00:55:26want this

00:55:26relationship

00:55:27to work

00:55:29yeah

00:55:31and I

00:55:32feel like

00:55:33every woman

00:55:34can agree

00:55:35with that

00:55:35when you

00:55:37don't

00:55:37understand

00:55:38your man's

00:55:38intentions

00:55:39that's when

00:55:40you get

00:55:40frazzled

00:55:41that's when

00:55:41you overthink

00:55:42that's when

00:55:42you're in

00:55:42your head

00:55:43when you

00:55:44know that

00:55:44the man

00:55:44is

00:55:45like

00:55:46okay

00:55:46let's

00:55:46do this

00:55:47I think

00:55:47you really

00:55:48settle in

00:55:49to get

00:55:49that part

00:55:50you really

00:55:51do

00:55:52Philip I

00:55:53want you

00:55:53to turn

00:55:54to Stella

00:55:54and tell

00:55:55her how

00:55:55you feel

00:55:56don't make

00:55:56me cry

00:56:04you know

00:56:05we can't

00:56:12cope

00:56:12no

00:56:13you know

00:56:24you 100%

00:56:25know that

00:56:25I am

00:56:26in love

00:56:26with you

00:56:28and that

00:56:28you shouldn't

00:56:29doubt

00:56:29anything

00:56:30there's a lot

00:56:31of unknown

00:56:31and stuff

00:56:32like that

00:56:32it's okay

00:56:33we got this

00:56:33but you know

00:56:34we're a team

00:56:35so

00:56:35I love you

00:56:36too

00:56:38yay

00:56:42so Stella

00:56:43how does

00:56:44that feel

00:56:45when he

00:56:46says that

00:56:47knowing that

00:56:48he's got a

00:56:48plan

00:56:49and he's

00:56:49moving in

00:56:51again like

00:56:51I really

00:56:52go from the

00:56:52two weeks

00:56:53the conversation

00:56:54like this

00:56:55man makes

00:56:56me feel

00:56:56safe

00:56:56I don't

00:56:58think I

00:56:58have experienced

00:56:59love before

00:57:00meeting him

00:57:00because

00:57:01oh

00:57:03he shows

00:57:04up for me

00:57:05yeah

00:57:06big time

00:57:07yeah

00:57:08can I just

00:57:09ask you

00:57:09Stella

00:57:09what's getting

00:57:10you upset

00:57:11right now

00:57:11why is this

00:57:12so important

00:57:13yeah I feel

00:57:14quite like

00:57:15key in the

00:57:16sense that

00:57:18if this works

00:57:19out it means

00:57:20that everything

00:57:20that was in

00:57:22the past

00:57:22all those

00:57:23learning curves

00:57:24all those

00:57:24relationships

00:57:25all was worth

00:57:27for this

00:57:28moment

00:57:28you know

00:57:29because I do

00:57:30I think

00:57:31at the stage

00:57:32of my life

00:57:33where I do

00:57:34truly want

00:57:35this to be

00:57:35my forever

00:57:36person

00:57:36and I do

00:57:37see

00:57:38I do

00:57:38see that

00:57:41thank you

00:57:42pleasure

00:57:46well you

00:57:47got real

00:57:47on this

00:57:48couch

00:57:48tonight

00:57:49it was

00:57:50great

00:57:51and on that

00:57:52note we're

00:57:53going to go

00:57:53to a decision

00:57:54stay or leave

00:57:55you're up first

00:57:56Stella

00:57:57obviously not a

00:57:58surprise and I

00:57:58think I drew a

00:57:59love heart from

00:58:00very early on

00:58:03nice and what

00:58:04about you

00:58:04Philip

00:58:06I'm not going

00:58:07anywhere

00:58:07just started

00:58:09we're staying

00:58:10that's what we

00:58:11like to see

00:58:14thanks for being

00:58:15in

00:58:15thanks for being

00:58:16in

00:58:16you are a team

00:58:18and you've got

00:58:19this

00:58:19yeah

00:58:20thank you

00:58:20I really

00:58:21appreciate

00:58:22this whole

00:58:23well done

00:58:24you two

00:58:25thank you

00:58:26great work

00:58:30hi thanks

00:58:37trimming

00:58:37our last couple

00:58:40up on the couch

00:58:42Gia and Scott

00:58:48good evening

00:58:49hello

00:58:50how are we

00:58:51good hi Gia

00:58:52hello

00:58:56so how are you

00:58:57guys

00:58:58all right

00:58:59um

00:59:01get a bit nervous

00:59:14so you know

00:59:17I care so much

00:59:19about Gia

00:59:20what I'm going to

00:59:21talk about tonight

00:59:22is I don't want

00:59:23you to be upset

00:59:24okay

00:59:25what I'm going to

00:59:26talk about is

00:59:26feelings

00:59:28where

00:59:29I

00:59:30take a breath

00:59:31for a minute

00:59:32breathe

00:59:46what I'm going to

00:59:47talk about tonight

00:59:47is I don't want

00:59:48you to be upset

00:59:50okay

00:59:51what I'm going to

00:59:51talk about is

00:59:52feelings

00:59:53feelings

00:59:53where

00:59:55I

00:59:55take a breath

00:59:56for a minute

00:59:58breathe

01:00:05it's a weakness

01:00:05of mine

01:00:08when I care about

01:00:08someone so much

01:00:09I feel like

01:00:10I can't speak my

01:00:12voice when I have

01:00:13a concern

01:00:14it's a weakness

01:00:14of mine

01:00:16what I find

01:00:17what I find so far

01:00:18is I haven't been

01:00:19able to address

01:00:20a concern

01:00:20without Gia

01:00:21and I having

01:00:22an argument

01:00:22or her spiraling

01:00:25let's say that

01:00:26you want to bring

01:00:26something up

01:00:27and Gia

01:00:27is not in the

01:00:28mood to hear

01:00:28for whatever

01:00:29reason

01:00:31you find yourself

01:00:32simply cowering

01:00:33away from that

01:00:34and not returning

01:00:34to that topic

01:00:38pretty much

01:00:40what have you

01:00:41observed about

01:00:42Gia's behavior

01:00:42that leads you

01:00:43to have that

01:00:44reaction

01:00:46what kind of

01:00:47things could she

01:00:48say

01:00:55can I please

01:00:56just say

01:00:57things that can

01:00:58make someone

01:00:59feel pretty

01:01:00defeated

01:01:00and let down

01:01:01it's not chess

01:01:07honestly

01:01:09if you can't

01:01:10speak honestly

01:01:11in front of

01:01:11Gia

01:01:12about the things

01:01:12that she does

01:01:13and say

01:01:14that hurt you

01:01:14or scare you

01:01:15or make you

01:01:15feel off

01:01:16well he has

01:01:21then I'm really

01:01:22really really

01:01:23concerned about

01:01:24the possibility

01:01:24of this relationship

01:01:26surviving

01:01:26outside the experiment

01:01:42Scott

01:01:42yeah

01:01:44we've got all

01:01:44night

01:01:45I know

01:01:46we're not going

01:01:46anywhere

01:01:47we're going to

01:01:47sit here and ask

01:01:48you uncomfortable

01:01:49questions until

01:01:50you come clean

01:01:52okay

01:01:53I just

01:01:53so

01:01:54if you don't

01:01:55let us in

01:01:57you're not

01:01:58going to last

01:02:00what I'm seeing

01:02:01here is fake

01:02:03I'm going to

01:02:03call you out

01:02:04I've seen it

01:02:05the entire

01:02:05experiment

01:02:07you talk about

01:02:08things

01:02:09in a way

01:02:10where you

01:02:10don't give us

01:02:11any of

01:02:12the information

01:02:13you skirt around

01:02:14the issues

01:02:15I get it

01:02:16you're trying to

01:02:17fly under the

01:02:18radar

01:02:18but what we're

01:02:19saying tonight

01:02:20is that ends

01:02:21yeah

01:02:21okay

01:02:23you sat down

01:02:24here

01:02:24you're petrified

01:02:25of Gia

01:02:25and you're not

01:02:27answering the

01:02:28questions

01:02:32so I'm going to

01:02:33ask you again

01:02:34Scott

01:02:34what kind of

01:02:36things

01:02:37could Gia say

01:02:38that would

01:02:38make you feel

01:02:40fearful of

01:02:40speaking up

01:02:42so this is

01:02:43probably the

01:02:43most magic

01:02:44concern

01:02:45it could happen

01:02:46probably on average

01:02:47once a week

01:02:47I feel like

01:02:49there's a bit of

01:02:49pressure of me

01:02:49to say I'm in

01:02:50love and when I

01:02:51don't say it

01:02:52Gia will tend

01:02:53to spoil and

01:02:54say things like

01:02:55you're a crime

01:02:56you're not a man

01:02:57you're not a provider

01:02:58you don't give me

01:02:59reassurance

01:03:02pretty much every

01:03:03name under the sun

01:03:03right

01:03:05every name under the sun

01:03:06is wild

01:03:07Gia

01:03:08babe

01:03:09the reason why I'm

01:03:10here is because

01:03:11I know she doesn't

01:03:11intentionally mean it

01:03:13it's because it comes

01:03:13from a place of her

01:03:14I'll explain that

01:03:15you talk for yourself

01:03:16and I just

01:03:18will explain babe

01:03:19like listen to

01:03:21what you're saying

01:03:21I know you don't

01:03:23mean it like

01:03:23where's this coming

01:03:24from and like

01:03:25I don't know

01:03:25what it is

01:03:25I just don't know

01:03:27when you're having

01:03:29that situation

01:03:30and there are things

01:03:30that are being said

01:03:31how do you feel

01:03:32in that moment

01:03:34in these moments

01:03:35that you're describing

01:03:35now that

01:03:36where she's coming

01:03:37at you

01:03:37personally

01:03:39I just feel like

01:03:40when it's

01:03:41I just feel

01:03:42completely destroyed

01:03:43like I'm worthless

01:03:45that's pretty major

01:03:47but I just want

01:03:48Gia to know

01:03:49that I care so much

01:03:50about her

01:03:51my feelings are strong

01:03:52I'm falling for her

01:03:53but when these things

01:03:54happen

01:03:54it pulls me back

01:03:55and it holds me back

01:03:58and so Gia

01:04:00what do you think

01:04:01when you're feeling

01:04:03threatened

01:04:03or not happy

01:04:05with what Scott says

01:04:07that you attack him

01:04:09what is that about

01:04:10for you

01:04:11this is a man

01:04:12that you're falling

01:04:13in love with

01:04:14from every indication

01:04:15I've had

01:04:17well I'll just

01:04:18say it out loud

01:04:22this wasn't on camera

01:04:23I told him

01:04:24I'm in love

01:04:24with him yesterday

01:04:27so this is a man

01:04:28you love

01:04:30so where does

01:04:31that come from

01:04:31so for me

01:04:35I've felt this way

01:04:36for Scott

01:04:37for the last

01:04:37few weeks

01:04:39and there's been

01:04:40so many moments

01:04:41where like

01:04:42I wanted to say it

01:04:43and I'm like

01:04:44you can't be the girl

01:04:45who says it first

01:04:45usually it's been

01:04:47the guy who said it first

01:04:48so this is weird

01:04:49for me

01:04:49and I wanted him

01:04:50to know why

01:04:51I've been spiraling

01:04:52it's because of this

01:04:53like I've been wanting

01:04:54to say it

01:04:54and I know he's not there

01:04:55and it's frustrating

01:04:55for me

01:04:56because I feel rejected

01:04:57to be honest

01:04:59the leading up to

01:05:00where you're having

01:05:01these big feelings

01:05:02and that's what's

01:05:02making you feel like

01:05:03oh my god

01:05:03he's gonna reject me

01:05:05why go hurt him

01:05:08because I felt hurt

01:05:10and I was like

01:05:11let me hurt him

01:05:13that's the truth

01:05:18that's a pretty big

01:05:20revelation

01:05:21and also

01:05:23hurdle for Scott

01:05:24to have to handle

01:05:25and walk around

01:05:26eggshells

01:05:27trying to not

01:05:28have you had

01:05:30this reaction

01:05:30I just think

01:05:31this is very new

01:05:32for me

01:05:32I haven't ever been

01:05:33in this situation

01:05:35before

01:05:35but in the situation

01:05:36of saying that

01:05:38you're hurt

01:05:38and therefore

01:05:38you're choosing

01:05:39to hurt back

01:05:41is that the way

01:05:42that you normally

01:05:42are?

01:05:48I'm gonna insist

01:05:49and underline this

01:05:50because I really

01:05:51want you to

01:05:52take in Gia

01:05:53that we can

01:05:55absolutely see

01:05:56how strong

01:05:56your relationship

01:05:57with Scott is

01:05:58but it is a pattern

01:05:59that you're bringing

01:06:00to the table

01:06:00that you need to break

01:06:02because it will be

01:06:03the thing

01:06:04that makes him

01:06:05run the other way

01:06:18the leading up

01:06:19to where you're

01:06:20having these big

01:06:20feelings

01:06:21and that's what's

01:06:22making you feel

01:06:22like oh my god

01:06:23he's gonna reject me

01:06:25why go hurt him?

01:06:28because I felt hurt

01:06:30and I was like

01:06:31let me hurt him

01:06:34that's the truth

01:06:37I'm gonna insist

01:06:38and underline this

01:06:39because I really

01:06:40want you to

01:06:41take in Gia

01:06:42but it is a pattern

01:06:44that you're bringing

01:06:44to the table

01:06:45that you need to break

01:06:47because it will be

01:06:48the thing

01:06:48that makes him

01:06:49run the other way

01:06:57do you feel secure

01:06:58in your relationship

01:06:59with Scott?

01:07:03um

01:07:07like yes and no

01:07:10why no?

01:07:13I don't know

01:07:14because like

01:07:15sometimes I can't

01:07:16bring something up

01:07:17because I'm

01:07:18argumentative

01:07:18or so I don't feel

01:07:19like I'm secure

01:07:20with him

01:07:21and I can be myself

01:07:22so that

01:07:23and like he doesn't

01:07:24feel as strong

01:07:24as I feel

01:07:26like well

01:07:27he could just leave

01:07:29am I gonna move

01:07:30for like?

01:07:31am I gonna take

01:07:31my daughter

01:07:32out of her school

01:07:33in Melbourne

01:07:33and move

01:07:33to the Gold Coast

01:07:34if he just

01:07:34likes me?

01:07:38just don't feel

01:07:39as secure

01:07:39as maybe I could

01:07:41in the relationship

01:07:43so there's still

01:07:44room there

01:07:44for you to grow

01:07:45in terms of security

01:07:46in the relationship

01:07:49how does it make you

01:07:50feel to hear

01:07:52Gia say that

01:07:53she doesn't feel

01:07:53secure in the relationship?

01:07:58I'm confused

01:07:58because Gia tells me

01:07:59that she feels secure

01:08:01I try and tickle

01:08:03the boxes

01:08:04to make a note

01:08:05and reassure

01:08:06that I'm all in

01:08:07on this

01:08:07and like

01:08:07when we have

01:08:08tough times

01:08:09like I just

01:08:10keep telling you

01:08:10I'm here for you

01:08:11I want you to be

01:08:11the shoulder to cry on

01:08:12and like

01:08:12you know

01:08:13whenever there is

01:08:14bad things

01:08:15maybe sometimes

01:08:16I say

01:08:16oh like

01:08:17I don't want to hear

01:08:18it or something

01:08:18like that

01:08:19but you know

01:08:19well that's why

01:08:20I don't feel secure

01:08:23because I'm like

01:08:24well I can't bring

01:08:26that up

01:08:26so like

01:08:27how can I

01:08:28be vulnerable

01:08:28and feel safe

01:08:29because it's swept

01:08:30under the rug

01:08:31you know

01:08:32you shut down

01:08:33my feelings

01:08:34a lot of the time

01:08:35I'm going to say

01:08:35myself

01:08:35I've never shut down

01:08:36your feelings

01:08:36Gia

01:08:37never

01:08:37well

01:08:38that's my perception

01:08:39and I feel like

01:08:40sometimes we'll

01:08:41talk about something

01:08:42and you just

01:08:43don't listen

01:08:44and so then I just

01:08:45stop talking about it

01:08:46because he says

01:08:47I'm arguing

01:08:48and I'm like

01:08:48okay well I just

01:08:48like

01:08:49I'll just forget

01:08:50my feelings

01:08:50let's just leave it

01:08:51because then my brain

01:08:53is like

01:08:53oh my god

01:08:54you're arguing again

01:08:55he's not going

01:08:55to fall in love

01:08:56with you

01:08:56and it's like

01:08:58it's like

01:08:59I can't win

01:08:59to be honest

01:09:00that's how I feel

01:09:06well at last

01:09:08we've got the real

01:09:09Scott and Gia

01:09:11sitting in front of us

01:09:12and isn't it interesting

01:09:15that week after week

01:09:16you guys have sat here

01:09:17and said everything's fine

01:09:18we're a great couple

01:09:21tonight

01:09:23you're exposing yourselves

01:09:26and everything isn't great

01:09:28between the two of you

01:09:30Scott nearly

01:09:31couldn't breathe tonight

01:09:33because he was so scared

01:09:34about bringing

01:09:34an issue up with you Gia

01:09:37that's not healthy

01:09:40so

01:09:41it comes down

01:09:42to the two of you

01:09:43are you prepared

01:09:44to do the work

01:09:45hear things

01:09:46you might not like

01:09:48but know that

01:09:49when you hear those feelings

01:09:50you get closer

01:09:51not further away

01:09:54but you've got to be real

01:09:56over this next week

01:09:58otherwise

01:09:58it is going to slip

01:10:00through your fingers

01:10:04we're going to go

01:10:05to the decision

01:10:06stay or leave

01:10:07and we'll go

01:10:07with you first

01:10:09Gia

01:10:11um

01:10:13yeah

01:10:14I think we needed

01:10:15to have this conversation

01:10:16tonight

01:10:16because

01:10:17we're at the end

01:10:18I don't want to

01:10:18have any questions

01:10:20unanswered

01:10:20and that's

01:10:21the same with

01:10:22me saying

01:10:23that I love him

01:10:24and I just wanted

01:10:25to just

01:10:25be fully in

01:10:27so

01:10:28anyways

01:10:29with that

01:10:30we'll take on

01:10:31your advice

01:10:32this week

01:10:32and I'm going

01:10:33to stay

01:10:35love that

01:10:37what do you got

01:10:38Scott

01:10:38stay or leave

01:10:40obviously we've come

01:10:40so far

01:10:41this experiment

01:10:41and I honestly

01:10:42appreciate the three

01:10:43of you

01:10:44for what you've done

01:10:45for us

01:10:45and how you've paired us

01:10:46and I was nervous

01:10:48walking here tonight

01:10:48and I don't get nervous

01:10:50and I feel so light

01:10:51right now

01:10:52because

01:10:53we can both

01:10:54have our say

01:10:56and I can

01:10:56I can tell you right now

01:10:58this is going to help

01:10:58us so much

01:11:00so

01:11:00I'm excited for this week

01:11:02because I just feel so happy

01:11:03just after this conversation

01:11:05so I'm staying

01:11:05in the sun

01:11:06because we're going

01:11:07to the sunny Gold Coast

01:11:12so it's a big week

01:11:14coming up

01:11:15for the two of you

01:11:15and I know

01:11:16it's hard for you

01:11:17as a couple

01:11:18but when issues

01:11:19get brought up

01:11:20this week

01:11:20when you talk about

01:11:21the big stuff

01:11:23try and be curious

01:11:25as opposed

01:11:26to defensive

01:11:28alright

01:11:29good luck

01:11:30thank you

01:11:30good luck

01:11:36come on

01:11:37hey

01:11:40thank you

01:11:42thank you

01:11:43thank you

01:11:44yeah

01:11:44always

01:11:44mm-hmm

01:11:46alright

01:11:47thank you

01:12:07tomorrow night

01:12:08what is going on here

01:12:10Chanel

01:12:10Shannon

01:12:11oh no

01:12:13what

01:12:14James

01:12:15Antoni

01:12:16oh my god

01:12:17what

01:12:17during the matchmaking process

01:12:19there was more than one person

01:12:21that our participants

01:12:22were compatible with

01:12:24the unforgettable

01:12:25final test

01:12:26is back

01:12:27oh my god

01:12:28it is the ultimate test

01:12:29of trust

01:12:30and security

01:12:31and this season

01:12:33the experts

01:12:34have upped the ante

01:12:35like never before

01:12:36we are removing

01:12:37the element of choice

01:12:38from the final test

01:12:40over two incredible nights

01:12:42I feel sick

01:12:43I feel like

01:12:44I'm going to pass out

01:12:46all our participants

01:12:48will make their

01:12:49alternative matches

01:12:50I only date men

01:12:52that pay for money

01:12:53let's get married then

01:12:54some will more than enjoy

01:12:56the fresh perspective

01:12:58why do I always get the young ones

01:12:59I like it

01:13:01you've got to stop touching me

01:13:02because if my wife sees this

01:13:03she's going to go

01:13:04no

01:13:06before

01:13:09the biggest twist

01:13:12the experiments ever seen

01:13:14Instagram screener

01:13:16are you serious

01:13:20that is disgusting

01:13:22oh

01:13:23oh

01:13:23f***

01:13:24f***

01:13:25f***

01:13:26f***

01:13:28f***

01:13:29f***

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M.a.r.r.i.e.d a.t F.i.r.s.t S.i.g.h.t Australia - Season 13 - Episode 33

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