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00:00:01Previously...
00:00:01Welcome home!
00:00:03The homestays saw some lock-in plans for their lives beyond the experiment.
00:00:08I'm open to moving now.
00:00:10I've got everything that I want in an apartment.
00:00:12I've got my reassurances.
00:00:14We are coming out stronger.
00:00:16Stephen stepped up, giving Rachel reassurance for their future.
00:00:20What I see is a wife outside the experiment.
00:00:26After a tense few days on the farm, Sam and Chris made a shock decision.
00:00:32I can't see this working.
00:00:34It's all good. It is what it is.
00:00:35It's not how I envisioned it would end.
00:00:38I really thought Chris would fight for me a bit.
00:00:41You want to have a family.
00:00:43You don't want to keep putting it off.
00:00:46Following advice from her mother, Alyssa began to spiral.
00:00:49I'm just getting very overwhelmed with what I have at stake here
00:00:54and what I could potentially be walking away from.
00:00:56Leaving David disheartened...
00:00:58The way Alyssa is handling the situation, it is making me uneasy.
00:01:03Tonight...
00:01:04Throughout this experiment, I have been patient.
00:01:06But when you're dealing with the mum, the family, friends,
00:01:10they all said that I'm a great guy for her,
00:01:12and she still sees negatives, there's nothing else I can do.
00:01:16Has David reached his limit?
00:01:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:01:21You never say space.
00:01:24It's the second last dinner party of the experiment.
00:01:28I can see we can do life together,
00:01:30but I feel a lot more confident now that we can take this out onto the outside.
00:01:34Have Rachel and Stephen become this year's new power couple?
00:01:38Who would have thought?
00:01:39Who would have thought?
00:01:41The person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:01:45But babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:01:48Tensions rise when Sam and Chris air their concerns.
00:01:51You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey.
00:01:55And I've never been aggressive to you.
00:01:58And then...
00:01:59I think, like, for me, as a man, I feel like...
00:02:03Oh, God.
00:02:04Oh, my God.
00:02:06What are you on about?
00:02:07Yeah.
00:02:08It's the shock debate that will divide the table.
00:02:12That was not what I was getting at.
00:02:14Are we serious for this?
00:02:30Our couples have returned from their homestay.
00:02:33And our brides and grooms are enjoying a new sense of closeness.
00:02:38After stepping into the life that could be waiting for them outside the experiment.
00:02:43Hi.
00:02:45Hey.
00:02:45Bonjour.
00:02:46Bonjour.
00:02:47Recharged and hopeful, the couples now turn their attention to the second last dinner party
00:02:53of the experiment, eager to reconnect after time apart.
00:02:58Are you excited?
00:02:59I am excited because it's been a very long time since we caught up with everyone.
00:03:05We don't know what the hell is going on.
00:03:08It's going to be exciting.
00:03:10A lot of guys to come up.
00:03:12This is...
00:03:12I'll be straight up with you.
00:03:13This is the most anticipated dinner party I'm looking forward to.
00:03:17Yeah.
00:03:17Really?
00:03:18How come?
00:03:18We went through...
00:03:20The ups and downs.
00:03:21We went through the ups and downs.
00:03:21The trenches.
00:03:23But coming out of the end of it, good.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Everything's...
00:03:26Everything is exactly where it needs to be.
00:03:28For Rachel and Stephen, Homestays sparked a breakthrough in their marriage, unlocking a new confidence
00:03:35in their relationship.
00:03:37Hello, hello.
00:03:38Hello, sexy.
00:03:39Looking good.
00:03:40I appreciate that.
00:03:41I like the red.
00:03:42Right now, we've just come off the back of Homestays and it was amazing.
00:03:46Something definitely clicked for Stephen and I.
00:03:48It was that this could work.
00:03:51I think that's really what it is.
00:03:53I'm ready to, like, load up the boat again and get straight back up to the Central Coast
00:03:57and just, you know, start hanging out and yeah.
00:04:01So, it was really good.
00:04:02We had such...
00:04:04It was such a great Homestay and I'm actually just really excited to share that with everyone.
00:04:09And that's it.
00:04:10I'm glad you had a good time and you could see, you know, a little bit of my lifestyle.
00:04:16After Homestays, it's given me confidence.
00:04:18I feel a little bit better outside the experiment now.
00:04:21Like I said to Rachel, can I see myself falling in love with you?
00:04:26Yes, I can.
00:04:27And I mean that and Homestays really gave me confidence in that.
00:04:32I think we're really lucky.
00:04:34You know, other couples may not have had a good Homestay,
00:04:37so we're really lucky to have had the good experience that we did.
00:04:42While Homestays brought some closer...
00:04:46For Scott, welcoming Gia into his home presented new challenges.
00:04:51What's that?
00:04:52It's a neck brace.
00:04:54Why is it pink?
00:04:55Why is it pink? Why not?
00:04:57You're trying to find a problem.
00:04:59Is it your ex or something?
00:05:00Yeah.
00:05:00Do you trust me? Like, do you trust my words?
00:05:03Do you trust me as a person?
00:05:04Yeah, I trust you.
00:05:06Yeah, why?
00:05:08I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells because I feel like if I want to bring up something,
00:05:12I feel like you might misinterpret it the wrong way.
00:05:15I know I trust you, but can I commit to moving and everything if you never feel like, you know,
00:05:21that you love me?
00:05:22But back at the apartments, eternal optimist Scott is determined to hit reset and look on the bright side.
00:05:29I feel great.
00:05:31I just feel good walking into this dinner party, being able to share, like, good moments that we've had.
00:05:36I feel like it'll be good.
00:05:37Like, I feel like tonight's going to be a really good, positive night to share what we've done for Homestays.
00:05:43Yeah.
00:05:44At the end of Homestays, we had a bit of a discussion, but we hashed it out.
00:05:50Today, we're going to the dinner party with positive attitude, we're great, we're in a really good place.
00:05:54I want to keep it like that.
00:05:57Yeah, I mean, I'm pretty happy with where we're at.
00:06:01I'm coming to the end now, this is the last or second last one.
00:06:04Mm.
00:06:05So, yeah.
00:06:07Do you think it would cause problems if you, you know, raised some concerns?
00:06:12Oh.
00:06:16Pretty much.
00:06:18Let's just do it, get it done.
00:06:20I'm excited.
00:06:21You look good, we feel good, and I'm ready to walk into a nice dinner party.
00:06:27Yep, me too.
00:06:30For Bec and Danny, what began as a promising homestay took a dramatic turn.
00:06:36If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:06:43I think, obviously, because Danielle fancied me, she didn't want to, like...
00:06:49I'm joking.
00:06:51I'm joking.
00:06:52I'm joking.
00:06:52It's like a serious moment.
00:06:56These moments make me feel like shit.
00:06:58It's serious for me.
00:07:00You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say,
00:07:04oh, your cousin wants to me.
00:07:06Like...
00:07:07I never said that.
00:07:08Yeah.
00:07:08I'm done.
00:07:09You're a f***ing boy.
00:07:10F***ing thingy.
00:07:12F***ing boy.
00:07:14F***ing.
00:07:15And now back at the apartment, an even bigger shock awaits.
00:07:23So, since we got back to Sydney from homestays, things are great.
00:07:28Cheers, baby.
00:07:30Cheers, girl.
00:07:31The last night, like, since we've been back, like, there's not really any need to talk
00:07:35about it.
00:07:35Like, he made a joke.
00:07:37It frustrated me.
00:07:39He got frustrated with me.
00:07:40And then we wake up the next morning.
00:07:42We give each other a cuddle.
00:07:43We have a shower.
00:07:45Can we move on?
00:07:46Cheers.
00:07:47It's all blown over.
00:07:49Like...
00:07:50Shocking.
00:07:51Oh, stop it!
00:07:54For most couples, homestays brought them together.
00:07:58But for one couple, it marked the end of the road.
00:08:02Going to the dinner party tonight, yeah, I'm going alone.
00:08:06And obviously Chris and I left each other at homestays.
00:08:09I wrote some questions down and maybe we could just be, like, really raw and honest with
00:08:14each other about all the answers.
00:08:18First question is, do you accept full responsibility for your defensiveness and the aggression I felt
00:08:23from you last week?
00:08:27Yeah.
00:08:29You don't have to agree.
00:08:30Yeah, no, I agree.
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:31I just feel like we've just...
00:08:33I've already suffered enough from this.
00:08:35I honestly felt like I was, um, 15, getting in trouble by a teacher or something.
00:08:39Do you have feelings for me?
00:08:43Um...
00:08:44Okay, um...
00:08:47In the beginning, uh, yes.
00:08:49But I just think, um, yeah, we also have some, um, differences as well.
00:08:55And I just wanted to put my dad hat on and, like, live my best life.
00:09:01Homestays was my last plea to see if he was going to fight for me at all.
00:09:06But Chris just kind of gave up.
00:09:10So, I did break up with Chris on the farm.
00:09:12But I'm going to the dinner party because I want that last chance to sort of just, like, find out
00:09:19why Chris actually didn't want this relationship.
00:09:23I just want clarity on what the hell happened.
00:09:27But Sam isn't the only one struggling with the fallout of their homestay.
00:09:33During their trip to Adelaide, Alyssa received a wake-up call.
00:09:37Obviously, I want to settle down in Adelaide, but what are your thoughts about me moving to Sydney just for
00:09:43a couple of years?
00:09:45I would hate that.
00:09:49Um, you know, you want to have a family and you don't want to keep putting it off.
00:09:56People sometimes take ten years to fall pregnant.
00:09:59That's the truth.
00:10:00Yeah, I know, but, Mum, I don't know that yet. I've never tried.
00:10:02That's right.
00:10:03But you don't know that.
00:10:05A couple of years?
00:10:06A couple of years.
00:10:07I don't think you've got a couple of years to wait.
00:10:12It's really stressful now.
00:10:13A couple of years.
00:10:15And after a confronting conversation with her mum, Alyssa unravelled and David was left wondering where he fits.
00:10:23I will be honest with you, I started to spiral.
00:10:29Like, I want to have a family in the next few years.
00:10:32I don't want to miss out on being a mum.
00:10:34And if we're going to make this thing work, David might have to move to Adelaide.
00:10:39Alyssa, I'm really sorry, babe, I have to ask this to you.
00:10:42You've sat here and you've talked a lot about what your wants and needs are.
00:10:49What about...
00:10:50Yeah, David.
00:10:52Now back at the apartments, David has had a wake-up call of his own.
00:11:01Oh, man, I'm feeling at my limit post-homes days.
00:11:09Can I see myself living in Adelaide?
00:11:12Absolutely.
00:11:12But, you know, after having, you know, come back to Sydney and having time to just come down from the
00:11:19high of homestays, I am feeling a bit low.
00:11:22And that is because there were a couple of things that have still, like, trinkled in the back of my
00:11:28mind.
00:11:29Could you see yourself living here?
00:11:33To be honest, yeah.
00:11:36I know that you're willing to move here, which is great.
00:11:40But, I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it because you're, like, literally...
00:11:45Spiralling.
00:11:46I am, I am, I am, because it's, like, a lot.
00:11:50David actually is everything that you've asked for.
00:11:53I know.
00:11:53Right now, this is too good to be true.
00:11:55Like, and that is also another reason why I'm scared too.
00:11:59Throughout this experiment, I have been patient because I know there is something in this relationship to fight for.
00:12:06But when you get to that point where, like, you're dealing with, like, the mum, the family, friends, they all
00:12:13said that I'm a great guy for her.
00:12:15And she still sees negatives.
00:12:17There's nothing else I can do.
00:12:20I've hit my limit and I'm not going to push any further.
00:12:24It's getting very real that I could potentially be putting everything on the line for someone who doesn't want to
00:12:31meet me halfway.
00:12:33So, today I know I need to be honest.
00:12:36For me, I think it's important to just express how I feel.
00:12:40Looking handsome.
00:12:41Thanks, babe. You're looking gorgeous. I love the dress.
00:12:44Thank you. Well, we're kind of almost matching.
00:12:48How are you feeling going to the dinner party after homestays?
00:12:54Homestays was a massive, massive week.
00:12:58So, I'm at the point where, like I said, you know, I'm happy to give all the space you need.
00:13:05I'll take the space I need, because I definitely need space.
00:13:08Yeah, like, I feel like I've just gone and put it all on the line.
00:13:13And, you know, at the end of the day, I'm not going to force anything.
00:13:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:13:21I know, but I do.
00:13:22You never say space.
00:13:24Yeah.
00:13:24You're always like, you're more like, let's, like, whatever.
00:13:27This is the first time you've ever said space.
00:13:29Yeah, I know.
00:13:31That kind of, like, rattled me a little bit.
00:13:34Normally I'm the one that needs space.
00:13:35So, you know what?
00:13:37If he needs space, gladly.
00:13:39Because I need space right now, just from my head.
00:13:42And I don't need any of this pressure right now.
00:13:44I feel like I'm at my tether.
00:13:46I feel like he's at his tether.
00:13:47We're both tired.
00:13:49And he's been snoring louder than usual.
00:13:51Like, it's just been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.
00:13:55The reason I need space because, yeah, I am a calm person.
00:13:58But I'm getting to my limit where I just need to take some space for my own brain.
00:14:03Because I feel like I put my cards on the table.
00:14:06But it almost felt like you were just looking for the negatives.
00:14:09And when someone's looking for the negatives too much of why things can't work,
00:14:13like, I'm not going to force that.
00:14:15I'm not going to force a connection if it's just me looking for the positives
00:14:18and someone else is looking for anything to be like, why this can't work.
00:14:24I would be lying to you if I said I wasn't questioning things right now
00:14:29and questioning our relationship.
00:14:31I am in that headspace.
00:14:34So I'm not going into the dinner party with Alyssa feeling my best self.
00:14:39I'm sure you're in a similar boat.
00:14:41Babe, I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:43Yeah, exactly.
00:14:44I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:45Exactly, yeah.
00:14:46I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:48Mm-hmm.
00:14:49I get it.
00:14:58It'll be the honor of getting up.
00:15:00Let's get out of here.
00:15:00Yep.
00:15:01Let's go.
00:15:05After you.
00:15:05After me.
00:15:06Thanks.
00:15:08Off to the gallows we go.
00:15:13I don't want to do this.
00:15:28Well, dinner party number seven, the second last one before we wind this all up.
00:15:35And it is a very important one because they've come back from the homestays.
00:15:40As they start to get a glimpse of what their life will be like with this person in the real
00:15:45world.
00:15:46This is a really crucial part of the experiment for them because some of them will bond closer together through
00:15:53the homestays.
00:15:54I think it's going to be really good.
00:15:56What about you?
00:15:57Are you excited?
00:15:58I'm excited.
00:15:59Whereas others will start to really fall apart and question their overall compatibility with their matches.
00:16:08It's noisy.
00:16:10They'll hear that in the mics, they'll hear that.
00:16:12And you do that all the time, you don't even realize.
00:16:19Well, the homestays throws up the ultimate question.
00:16:22Could this relationship last in the outside world?
00:16:25Mm-hmm.
00:16:26We're going to see you tonight.
00:16:32Aw, first in.
00:16:34First one's in.
00:16:36Ha ha.
00:16:38Rachel and Steve-o.
00:16:39No one to talk to you, but ourselves.
00:16:41Are you sick of talking to me yet?
00:16:43Ha ha ha.
00:16:44Ha ha ha.
00:16:45Straight to the bar.
00:16:46Straight to the bar, babes.
00:16:47I don't think I've seen Stephen look so relaxed and so really walking in with Rachel.
00:16:53Yes.
00:16:54As he is today.
00:16:55Very unified.
00:16:56Tell me when.
00:16:58That's good.
00:16:59Oh my gosh.
00:17:00Thank you so much.
00:17:02Yeah.
00:17:02Gotta look after you.
00:17:03Aw.
00:17:04I appreciate it.
00:17:05Ha ha ha.
00:17:06Me and Rachel, we're good.
00:17:07We've walked into the cocktail party.
00:17:08We're first in there.
00:17:09We're pouring drinks.
00:17:10We're cracking jokes.
00:17:11I'll just take this with me.
00:17:12Oh, you're going to take that?
00:17:13Okay.
00:17:14It's probably the most relaxed I've ever been in a cocktail party.
00:17:17We're in a good place.
00:17:19Mmm.
00:17:20Yeah.
00:17:20Do you want me to open it?
00:17:23Do you want me to open it?
00:17:24Is there a real opener?
00:17:27Got it?
00:17:27There you go.
00:17:28We're both so keen to get out of this experiment.
00:17:32See where life takes us.
00:17:34Especially after the homestays.
00:17:36Alrighty.
00:17:36Oh my gosh, babes.
00:17:38Here we are.
00:17:39Cheers.
00:17:40Hopefully, uh, you know, it's just us.
00:17:43We can have all the food and the drink.
00:17:45I mean, I wouldn't be mad about it, babes.
00:17:49I mean, I'm just, I think I'm just really, really excited to share how much fun we had.
00:17:54And like, and how good ours was.
00:17:58Isn't that nice that a couple is sitting here talking about themselves?
00:18:02Not everybody else?
00:18:03Yes.
00:18:04This is great.
00:18:05Chicken.
00:18:06Chicken.
00:18:06Yeah.
00:18:06Bye.
00:18:07Gonna make you blush.
00:18:09And the enthusiasm.
00:18:10Yeah.
00:18:11In Rachel's voice and face as she is just excited to tell people the good news.
00:18:15They had a good week.
00:18:18Oh.
00:18:26Stop rubbing your name.
00:18:28Oh, f*** me.
00:18:32I'm trying to understand you because I don't understand you.
00:18:34We are confusing the f*** out of me.
00:18:35That's it.
00:18:36Well.
00:18:51This whole, I'm at my limit.
00:18:53I need space.
00:18:56It sounds really bad.
00:18:58Does it?
00:19:00Yes.
00:19:01So maybe we've got to word it differently.
00:19:03It's not taking space from each other.
00:19:05It's just taking space to process everything.
00:19:25It's just taking space to process everything.
00:19:38Okay.
00:19:41Oh, look who it is.
00:19:42Oh, my God.
00:19:44Oh, my God.
00:19:45Oh, my God.
00:19:46Oh, my God.
00:19:47Oh, my God.
00:19:47Oh, Alyssa and David.
00:19:48Oh, my God.
00:19:50Oh, my God.
00:19:51Oh, my God.
00:19:52Oh, my God.
00:19:52Oh, my God.
00:19:52Hang on.
00:19:52How are you, mate?
00:19:53Dude, that's all I can do.
00:19:55Oh, good to see you, bro.
00:19:56Likewise, man.
00:19:57Looking good.
00:19:58Oh.
00:19:59That's some energy there, isn't it?
00:20:01Oh, at first.
00:20:02Yeah, at first.
00:20:03You got it.
00:20:03We got so much done.
00:20:04Oh, my God.
00:20:05Oh, yeah.
00:20:06We've got a lot to evaluate.
00:20:07Let's just get some...
00:20:09Evaluate?
00:20:10Okay.
00:20:10Okay.
00:20:18So, are you prepared for everyone to find out that I'm a better fisherman than you or...?
00:20:22Oh, hang on.
00:20:23Whoa.
00:20:28Walking into the cocktail party tonight, you know, I was...
00:20:32Obviously, I've been on a low post the homestays.
00:20:36I've sort of just been feeling deflated.
00:20:39Ooh.
00:20:40Right in my face.
00:20:41And I did make it known to Alyssa that, you know, I am sort of one in my own space,
00:20:46you know,
00:20:46in my head just to sort of figure things out.
00:20:49So, I did walk in on a low.
00:20:55Oh, who is it?
00:20:56Hey!
00:20:57Here we go!
00:20:58What's up?
00:20:59Scott and Gia.
00:21:00Do you want to spin?
00:21:01A little hotness right here.
00:21:03Oh, so pretty are you both.
00:21:06Hi!
00:21:07I'm going to give you some love.
00:21:08Gorgeous!
00:21:12Walking into the cocktail party tonight with Gia, like, you know, we're not perfect.
00:21:16We still have a couple of things to work on.
00:21:17Get a drink and get in here, brother.
00:21:19I always look at the bright side.
00:21:20If there's something that's really bad, I just see the more good in someone.
00:21:24Can we carry that?
00:21:25Thanks.
00:21:29Alright, Chris, why don't you tell me what's running through your head and going into this?
00:21:33One saving grace for me is that last time I was in this car with Sam, it was just so
00:21:38yucky and awkward.
00:21:39So, I'm grateful not to have that, you know, at the moment.
00:21:44Well, it was so awkward you could cut the tension with a knife and I could not wait to get
00:21:48out of the car.
00:21:49I just hope this, you know, situation with Sam and I can get squashed pretty quickly so I can have
00:21:56a couple of shams and try and enjoy my night.
00:22:01Yeah, no, this is definitely not how I expected to be going to a dinner party in the experiment.
00:22:05I think Chris and I started off really strong and everything was going good and then at some point he
00:22:09just flipped and it all just sort of fell apart and I don't really know what that flip was into
00:22:14him.
00:22:17Do you know if Sam's coming tonight?
00:22:19Oh, I definitely know he'll be going.
00:22:21Yeah.
00:22:21He wants to go to get the whole group's opinion and two cents on our dirty laundry.
00:22:28But, you know what, there's two sides to this story and coming to the dinner party to back myself and
00:22:34say my side of the story.
00:22:47Oh, Chris is alone.
00:22:50Ew, how you going?
00:22:51Okay, that's a surprise.
00:22:53Hi.
00:22:54Hey, bud.
00:22:55So Chris walks in solo.
00:22:58Well, shit.
00:23:00That's not my prediction.
00:23:02Drink, drink, let's go drink, let's go drink, let's go drink.
00:23:04I mean, they were very bad at the commitment ceremony.
00:23:07Chris had written leave, Sam was absolutely in tears about it all.
00:23:10There was a hope at the homestay they might be able to turn it around, but this looks like it's
00:23:15actually not been salvaged.
00:23:18The brown's orange.
00:23:19Yeah, yeah, I'm alright.
00:23:20You look very tan.
00:23:21Thanks, babe.
00:23:22The fit's good.
00:23:23The fit's good.
00:23:23My life's not.
00:23:24I would love one, babe.
00:23:25Your life is okay.
00:23:27Yeah, thanks, babe.
00:23:27You got this shit, babe.
00:23:28You got this shit.
00:23:29Yes, obviously it didn't work out.
00:23:31Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:23:33I feel like maybe Sam and I can unpack it together.
00:23:36Okay, alright.
00:23:37So you don't want to talk about that?
00:23:38No, I'll give you a little run.
00:23:40I'll give you a little rundown.
00:23:41It's really hard seeing them not walking together because I genuinely had hope that they would get past this.
00:23:48Seeing Chris walking in by himself, like, it was genuinely, like, pretty heartbreaks.
00:23:54Basically, yeah, Sam ended it with me two days into homestays.
00:23:59He ended it with you?
00:24:00This is the second day.
00:24:01He ended it?
00:24:02Yeah.
00:24:02He ended it with you?
00:24:04Yeah.
00:24:04Oh, Sam ended it.
00:24:07I wonder why.
00:24:08Yes.
00:24:08I wonder why.
00:24:09Obviously, we had, like, a, you know, pretty bad couch session.
00:24:14I took accountability.
00:24:15I decided that I wanted to learn and grow from the feedback that I got.
00:24:18Yeah, that's what you said.
00:24:19Um, so I went into homestays trying to turn it around.
00:24:21Gia knows.
00:24:22I spoke with you about it.
00:24:23Yep.
00:24:24Boarding flowers, made him dinner.
00:24:25I tried everything that I could to turn it around.
00:24:27But unfortunately, um, yeah, it didn't work for us.
00:24:30And it was really, it was a real shock because I thought we were actually doing quite well.
00:24:33Like, you know, I started to get those feelings back for him again.
00:24:36So...
00:24:37So Chris was saying he started getting feelings for Sam again.
00:24:40Okay.
00:24:41So he was shocked by it.
00:24:43Blindsided.
00:24:45So it's pretty, it's pretty sad.
00:24:47Um, but I respect Sam's decision to exit.
00:24:50Um, and we actually weren't even going to come tonight.
00:24:52Like, they, we, he left the farm and we were just going to leave it at that
00:24:55because we unpacked a lot of it.
00:24:56Um, but I've decided to give Sam the respect of coming tonight so we can both...
00:25:01...talk to you guys about it and, um, let you know what's happened
00:25:04and then sit in front of the experts and get their advice.
00:25:07But like, no ill feelings towards Sam.
00:25:08I respect his decision.
00:25:10But yeah.
00:25:11She's single again.
00:25:13Oh!
00:25:13Thank you!
00:25:15I love you.
00:25:15I love you.
00:25:16Yeah.
00:25:18Alyssa, how was yours?
00:25:23Uh...
00:25:23I feel like I'm still processing everything.
00:25:26Yeah.
00:25:26It's crunch time, right?
00:25:28It's crunch time!
00:25:28For you guys.
00:25:31Um, but we'll talk about it later at the dinner party.
00:25:36Okay.
00:25:41Hey!
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00:26:17Hey!
00:26:20Hey!
00:26:22Bec and Danny.
00:26:24Hello.
00:26:25I'm feeling phenomenal walking into this cocktail party tonight.
00:26:29Danny and I are in a great spot.
00:26:32We are planning our future together.
00:26:36We had great homestays and I've got no beef with anyone.
00:26:39Oh my God, pigs fly.
00:26:40What the hell?
00:26:41I'm not arguing with anyone.
00:26:44Hello, how was homestays?
00:26:46Cheers.
00:26:47How'd you go?
00:26:48How was Adelaide?
00:26:49Oh my God, yeah.
00:26:51We had a great time.
00:26:52He's going to move.
00:26:55I got back and I was a bit drained, to tell you the truth.
00:26:58It's a lot.
00:27:00I felt a bit uncomfortable in our house and I felt a bit out of place.
00:27:03And it made me think about the logistics of the move more,
00:27:07like how it's going to work.
00:27:09Because I'm not just going to move in with that.
00:27:11Of course.
00:27:11And live like, put my feet up, this is rent-free.
00:27:15That doesn't sit well with me.
00:27:16So it just solidified there's more things we need to talk about.
00:27:20Of course.
00:27:24So, we're going to do it, I think.
00:27:25Yeah, awesome.
00:27:26Crazy.
00:27:28Love it.
00:27:29I think Dani and I are probably the strongest in the experiment,
00:27:32if I'm honest with you.
00:27:33And like, it feels like it can only go up from here.
00:27:41Coming up.
00:27:42I would never just move in.
00:27:44Danny's jaw-dropping confession.
00:27:47From my point of view anyway, I suppose everyone looks at it different,
00:27:49but it makes you feel like a ****.
00:27:51Has the whole table talking.
00:27:53What? Are you on it now?
00:27:55I'll be honest.
00:27:57Oh, God.
00:27:58Oh, my God.
00:28:10Oh, my God.
00:28:11Here we go.
00:28:17When did you talk to him last?
00:28:18The last time he spoke to me was the Friday after he left,
00:28:24and all he said was that he wanted to come to the dinner party
00:28:26and the ceremony.
00:28:29Yeah, I don't know what the energy is going to be like with Sam.
00:28:31I hope he comes in, like, nice.
00:28:34I just, yeah, I just can't deal with any more, you know.
00:28:45Yo!
00:28:48Hello, everyone.
00:28:48Oh, here's Sam.
00:28:49Here he is.
00:28:51How are you going?
00:28:52Good, how are you?
00:28:52Good.
00:28:53You look nice.
00:28:54Yeah, I am.
00:28:54How are you?
00:28:55Not too bad.
00:28:56Hello.
00:28:59Sam.
00:29:00How are you, Matt?
00:29:01I'm hugging, like, chest height, but I've got a vertical problem.
00:29:06Hey, look at me, brother.
00:29:07Thanks, thanks, thanks.
00:29:08If you want to get a drink, come on, let's get you a drink.
00:29:09Let's get a drink.
00:29:10I hope he doesn't come at me, like...
00:29:12Why are you worried?
00:29:13I just...
00:29:14Don't worry.
00:29:15No, I just can't deal with it, like...
00:29:18Alright.
00:29:19Nah, you're okay.
00:29:21How are you?
00:29:23Yeah.
00:29:23Are you okay?
00:29:25Uh...
00:29:25I just feel a bit like there was no real effort while we're away.
00:29:29But we'll get into it at the table, yeah.
00:29:31No, no, no.
00:29:31He's given us a bit of a brief.
00:29:35What was he saying?
00:29:36Just...
00:29:37Um...
00:29:37You guys, you know, went to homestays, like, he cooked dinner one night, or you guys had dinner
00:29:41together one night, and he thought the first night was going okay?
00:29:45Um...
00:29:45And then, obviously, you guys both had a chat and decided that it was a night.
00:29:49Yeah.
00:29:51Dude, he didn't drive.
00:29:54You're eating up his bullshit.
00:29:57Don't eat up his bullshit.
00:30:02Dinner is served.
00:30:04Okay.
00:30:04Let's go eat.
00:30:05Let's go, babes.
00:30:06You got it.
00:30:06Let's go, man.
00:30:10Alrighty.
00:30:12Well, let's hope that now that dinner's about to begin, we will get to the bottom of what
00:30:16actually happened at the homestay between Sam and Chris.
00:30:19Yes.
00:30:20We need to understand what actually went on there.
00:30:23Cheers, guys.
00:30:25Cheers.
00:30:32You got the, um, you got the tits out again?
00:30:34Oh, yeah.
00:30:37Tits out for the boys.
00:30:39I love this for you.
00:30:41Dull.
00:30:41Yes.
00:30:42Yeah.
00:30:44Buster butter.
00:30:45Yeah.
00:30:53Wow.
00:30:55It's very tints, isn't it?
00:30:57Chris, Sam.
00:31:07I really want to talk about, from our perspective, what led me to the decision to end things.
00:31:12Yeah.
00:31:12And how I felt the whole homestay, so.
00:31:14Yeah.
00:31:18Tonight is going to be shit.
00:31:24I, Sam and I have already hashed this out at the farm.
00:31:27Um, we're revisiting it in front of the group.
00:31:29So, for me, this is not comfortable.
00:31:32Um, I'm hoping that we can get it out of the way quickly.
00:31:34And I just want to get this over and done with.
00:31:36I hope Sam gets the closure that he needs and we can, um, yeah, move on.
00:31:44I feel like we both just need to say everything that got us to this point.
00:31:48Um, especially with meeting the experts tomorrow, I want to get as much as I can out of this experience.
00:31:53Um, yeah, we've mentioned it at the cocktail party that we, you know, well, you decided to, um, end it.
00:32:01So, um, yeah, like, I didn't.
00:32:03You didn't really fight that at all.
00:32:05You were like, also just like, okay.
00:32:07Because I, I hadn't given so much to try and make it work.
00:32:10I don't want to come.
00:32:15Oh my God, here we go again.
00:32:20If Chris thinks that's loads of effort, I feel sorry for anybody he ends up with in the future.
00:32:26Like, yeah.
00:32:31Can I ask a question?
00:32:34How did Sam end the relationship and where and how did it happen?
00:32:37Could I tell the whole story?
00:32:38I want you guys both to say it.
00:32:41Yeah.
00:32:41Yeah.
00:32:42So homestays, obviously you all saw the last commitment ceremony.
00:32:46Um, I wrote stay and Chris wrote leave.
00:32:48And that was really hard for me to battle with personally because I did have feelings for Chris.
00:32:53So I like, obviously now I'm very nervous going into homestays and we get to the car to drive down
00:32:58and I'm like, just sitting in the car and it's so uncomfortable.
00:33:03And I'm, I like literally just like shut my eyes and kind of pretend that I'm sleeping.
00:33:07And then I get to the farm and then I do try to have fun and have a good time.
00:33:12I wake up the next morning and Chris is nowhere to be seen.
00:33:17No message, no note.
00:33:21And I'm just there sitting for an hour in his house at his place with no car, just by myself.
00:33:27And then he rocks up.
00:33:28He's like, oh, I just went to the gym this morning.
00:33:29It was really windy last night.
00:33:30And I'm like, okay, cool.
00:33:32And like, this is when I'm starting to feel like, are you, do you really want me here?
00:33:35Do you like really want to show me how much you want this relationship to work?
00:33:42Look, for me, it was letting him sleep a little bit longer.
00:33:45Yes.
00:33:48We're not interrupting each other tonight, right?
00:33:52Oh, God.
00:33:53Okay.
00:33:54Can I keep going with my story then?
00:33:56Yeah.
00:33:58So then, um, we come to the fire the next night and this is when I'm like, this is my
00:34:02last plea here.
00:34:04Like, I'm going to try and see if he really wants to fight for this, if he really wants this
00:34:08relationship to work.
00:34:09And I had written down questions that were all just about what the expert said.
00:34:15Going through all these questions.
00:34:16And then he starts to get a bit shorter with them because he's sick of talking about it.
00:34:19And then I'm like, Chris, do you even have feelings for me?
00:34:23And he goes, oh, you know, with what's happened over the last couple of weeks,
00:34:26I feel like my feelings are pretty damaged and like, I don't really know if I do anymore.
00:34:35And I'm like, well, then what am I doing here?
00:34:40Then I was just like, well, then do we just end it here?
00:34:42And you were just like, yeah, I think that's probably like right to do.
00:34:46And what I don't understand is where I hurt your feelings and where you lost your feelings for me.
00:34:56What I honestly feel like happened is that you just like did the bare minimum.
00:35:01Got me flowers so that you could come here tonight and say, I did this for Sam, I tried.
00:35:06But like, I know that you were checked out of this relationship already.
00:35:09I know you didn't want to give it a go.
00:35:16If I'm honest, and I have to be honest, it seems like you're putting a lot on Chris.
00:35:22Yep.
00:35:23And just because we have expectations to fill our cup fully doesn't mean this other person is not trying.
00:35:30Hold on a second.
00:35:33Let's not forget that, like, the week before Sam was in a world of pain alone being correct.
00:35:42Yeah, of course.
00:35:43But hang on a second, hang on a minute.
00:35:44We can't be clinging.
00:35:44Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:35:46Sorry, I've got to say something here.
00:35:49Beck needs to mind her business.
00:35:51I don't know how her homestays went, but that should be her focus.
00:35:54We're a couple of weeks out of final bowels.
00:35:56Don't worry about your man, doll.
00:35:59I'm not going to let anyone sit here and say, your expectations are too high.
00:36:03When Sam sat there in tears by himself, not knowing which way was up and which way was down for
00:36:09a whole week,
00:36:09because the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:36:14Like, let's all just take a step back here.
00:36:16But, babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:36:20You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey,
00:36:24so just pipe it down a little bit.
00:36:52You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey,
00:36:55so just pipe it down a little bit.
00:36:56so just pipe it down a little bit.
00:36:58But I've never been aggressive to you.
00:37:02Can I speak now?
00:37:03First of all, like, hand on heart, I tried my hardest to turn it around.
00:37:10I got the feedback from the experts.
00:37:12I took it on board.
00:37:13I took accountability.
00:37:14I realised that I wanted to grow and learn as a person.
00:37:17And I wanted to come out the other end.
00:37:19And I'm sorry, but I was doing that.
00:37:21And I thought we had a good day.
00:37:22And, like, you pulled the notepad out and then asked me the questions.
00:37:25And I just, for me, I felt like, you know, like, can we just live in the moment?
00:37:30Can we just have a bit of fun?
00:37:31But do you understand with the questions, there are things that were burning inside sound
00:37:36that he needs answers to?
00:37:37Of course.
00:37:50Yeah.
00:37:51Can I just say, it's like, the reason I ended it is because I asked Chris,
00:37:56do you still have feelings for me?
00:37:59If you were trying so hard and you thought that everything was what you're saying,
00:38:04then at that point you should have said, Sam, yes, I have feelings for you.
00:38:11Can I ask a question?
00:38:13Do you feel like when Chris said leave the other week at the last commitment, sir,
00:38:18I know it really hurt you.
00:38:19Like, you were really upset.
00:38:20We could see that.
00:38:21Do you think that that really hurt you to a point where, had you already made up your mind?
00:38:26I hadn't made my mind.
00:38:27That just hurt me to the point where, this is why I think I needed so much from Chris,
00:38:32because I was really hurt that he said he wanted to leave, that he had already given up.
00:38:35So I'm like, I need to see from you that you haven't given up completely.
00:38:38And I get maybe for you what you did was enough, but for me it wasn't.
00:38:42And then I decided that based on the fact that what you did wasn't enough of my expectations,
00:38:45to call it happened, I ended things because I wasn't getting what I wanted from Chris.
00:38:50And if that's not what he can give, because he's got kids and he's got fun,
00:38:53he's got everything else.
00:38:54Then you're not ultimately a good man.
00:38:55Yes.
00:39:02It's really upsetting that it hasn't worked out between Sam and Chris,
00:39:06because I care for both boys.
00:39:08But listening to both sides of the story, I'm like, they're not speaking the same language.
00:39:15And they're seeing different things.
00:39:17And I don't think they're going to align tonight.
00:39:21It just, unfortunately it hasn't worked.
00:39:23I don't want this to be yucky.
00:39:24I just want to be amicable.
00:39:26I don't want it to be yucky either.
00:39:27It's not yucky though, is it?
00:39:28It's not yucky.
00:39:30Don't mistake passion for anger.
00:39:32I think you're both passionate.
00:39:33It's not yucky in my opinion.
00:39:34You're both just ironing it out.
00:39:37We do love you both.
00:39:38We love you a lot.
00:39:40Yeah.
00:39:40100%.
00:39:41Kings.
00:39:42I think it's really sad what's happened with Sam and Chris.
00:39:45I love them as people and I love them together.
00:39:48And I'm getting this feeling of like, Chris did try.
00:39:52The way he knew how.
00:39:54And it wasn't enough for Sam.
00:39:56It's a hard one.
00:40:07So Beck and Danny, how about you guys?
00:40:11You're next.
00:40:12How was your homestays?
00:40:13We had such a good homestays, didn't we?
00:40:18If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:40:24I think obviously because Danielle fancied me.
00:40:29I'm joking.
00:40:30You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say,
00:40:34oh, your cousin wants to f*** me.
00:40:35I never said that.
00:40:36There's a camera in my f*** face and you're abusing me over a joke.
00:40:39Dude, there's a camera in my face and you're making a joke of what I'm saying.
00:40:42Yeah, I'm done.
00:40:43F*** you.
00:40:45F*** me.
00:40:47Well, we had like a, like two perfect things and then like the type,
00:40:52we had a little argument at the end.
00:40:56We had a tiny little ding dong at the end.
00:41:00It lasted about 15 minutes.
00:41:02I think like for me, I don't know for anyone else who experienced like going into your partner's home.
00:41:10In that moment, I felt like a bit out of place in the house.
00:41:13Like up until that point, I felt so comfortable, like so welcome.
00:41:17Not that I was ever like unwelcome.
00:41:20But in that moment, arguing like.
00:41:23Hardly an argument, a ding dong.
00:41:24But yeah.
00:41:25Or whatever you want to call it.
00:41:29Whilst Danny did call it an argument, Bec called it a ding dong.
00:41:32So she's wanting to really contain it.
00:41:34Yes.
00:41:34When we had the disc screaming at the house, I felt really uncomfortable.
00:41:38Because it's not my space, it's your space.
00:41:40Yeah.
00:41:40Do you know what I mean?
00:41:41I don't know if anyone else can like.
00:41:43100%.
00:41:43Yeah, so that was sort of something that stuck with me in the sense of like, moving forward.
00:41:49It made me look at things in a different way in the sense that I'd probably want to,
00:41:55I don't know how I'd want to navigate.
00:41:59If I was to move to Adelaide, how the logistics of it would look as a man.
00:42:06Oh, as a man.
00:42:10I feel like, like, do you know what you mean?
00:42:12Like it's more Bec's house than it is my house.
00:42:15Like moving into her house.
00:42:15Yeah, correct.
00:42:16Like I'd want to sit down and speak to Bec on a deeper level about that.
00:42:22Because like, I feel like if you move in with a woman, and like, I would never just move in.
00:42:30Like we'd have to talk about that on a deeper level in the sense that like.
00:42:35I'm not moving out of my house.
00:42:39No, I'm not asking you to, but what I'm saying is like.
00:42:42It's how he fits into it, babe.
00:42:44Yeah, how I fit into it.
00:42:46That's more what I'm saying.
00:42:47And to you right now, you're probably like, that's easy.
00:42:51I know, like.
00:42:52It's just, but like, I get from Danny's perspective.
00:42:54He's like, I move in, so like, he's got to get his stuff out.
00:42:57Where does he put his stuff?
00:42:58And we would make space 100% for that.
00:43:02From my point of view, I suppose everyone looks at it different.
00:43:04But it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman.
00:43:08What are you on about?
00:43:34Oh, no, that's not what I was getting at.
00:43:38Oh, God.
00:43:40Oh, no, that's not what I was getting at.
00:43:40Oh, my God.
00:43:41He's talking about feeling emasculated if she was the one who owned the house.
00:43:46And let's not use the term bitch in that way either, Danny.
00:43:50Not cool.
00:43:50We're on 800 square metres five minutes from the city with a $97,000 mortgage and a $3 million house.
00:43:59me.
00:44:03Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:44:05Like, firstly, you've never said that to me.
00:44:10Women have worked really, really hard to make sure that we've got this multimillion dollar home in the most affluent
00:44:17suburb of South Australia.
00:44:18So, yeah, you're not going to be a bitch moving into my house.
00:44:22That was not what I was getting at.
00:44:25Are we serious for this?
00:44:27We're in the 2020s emasculated by moving into a home with your woman.
00:44:33Mm-mm, mm-mm.
00:44:36Just grow up.
00:44:38You like to be a provider.
00:44:40Correct.
00:44:40Correct.
00:44:41Yeah.
00:44:41I'll be honest.
00:44:42I couldn't go to hers.
00:44:43I'm going to buy the house.
00:44:44I'm going to pay for everything.
00:44:45Like, that's just a manly thing.
00:44:48Dan's a bit like me.
00:44:49He likes to feel like the man, the boss, the alpha male.
00:44:53So I understand where Danny's coming from.
00:44:54He just wants to feel more emasculated in the relationship.
00:44:58We're more traditional in that way too.
00:45:00No, but, like, I get it.
00:45:01Like, I have it.
00:45:02My house is bigger than yours, but it's like, yeah.
00:45:05Like, it's a different vibe.
00:45:06I do agree with Danny.
00:45:08I think for a man to feel masculine and his masculine energy,
00:45:12they want to have the house and the woman move into it.
00:45:15I know that's not, like, the norm these days, but, like, I like that.
00:45:18And that's what me and Scott are doing.
00:45:20So I do agree with Danny on that.
00:45:22I think he wants to feel like the man and he has every right to feel like that.
00:45:26I feel like it's emasculating.
00:45:28Like, I get what you're saying.
00:45:29Correct, yeah, yeah.
00:45:29You want your place to be, like, here, babe.
00:45:31Like, come to me.
00:45:32Like, I'm the man.
00:45:34Like, I think that's, like, where you're coming from.
00:45:36Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:45:38I felt uncomfortable when we argued and it sort of made me feel demasculated
00:45:42to, like, be in her house.
00:45:44Yeah, like a bit of a bitch.
00:45:46I've had that discussion with Bec two or three times.
00:45:49I'm not a hit 1990s song on R&B radio
00:45:53that keeps repeating itself, do you know what you mean?
00:45:55I didn't feel uneasy until we had the disagreement,
00:45:58but then I was just like, do you know what you mean?
00:46:00No, I don't know what you mean, Danny.
00:46:02I do wonder if Danny's showing a little insecurity there.
00:46:05You know, I think some men would not see a barrier
00:46:09to moving into a house owned by the woman.
00:46:12It wouldn't feel emasculating.
00:46:14He's really dropped the ball here.
00:46:16And I'm old school too.
00:46:18I'm exactly the same.
00:46:19I can proudly say it as well that if me and Rachel do something,
00:46:23I would feel more comfortable if Rachel moved into my place,
00:46:26feel like a provider.
00:46:28Well, I don't think that's very fair because at the end of the day,
00:46:31the difference is that I've got a massive house with a lot of space,
00:46:35five minutes out of the city with a mortgage of 97 grand.
00:46:38I feel like you're a team.
00:46:39I feel like you're a team.
00:46:40A hundred percent.
00:46:41I was brought up on those values.
00:46:43That's just the way I think.
00:46:44If I moved to Adelaide, I'd be getting away.
00:46:46Yeah.
00:46:47Prost over.
00:46:48Really?
00:46:51I wouldn't.
00:46:52But I wouldn't like you.
00:46:54We've got to work together.
00:46:54Do you know what I mean?
00:46:55I know we work together, but as a man, it's just what I do.
00:46:59As a man, maybe I'm old school like that, but I believe like the man should be the man of
00:47:04the house
00:47:04and take care of the big bills.
00:47:06It's nice to have your own thing, but ultimately you work together, right?
00:47:10Yeah.
00:47:11Ultimately you work together.
00:47:12It's about how can we work together?
00:47:14How can we make this work?
00:47:15What are your needs?
00:47:16You know, vice versa.
00:47:18It doesn't have to be a demasculating thing.
00:47:20It just has to be teamwork.
00:47:22It's true to that.
00:47:23It's true to that.
00:47:24No, you're a teen.
00:47:25For some reason, it's just a mental thing.
00:47:28It just works like that.
00:47:31Females feel more secure when it is like that.
00:47:34It's just how it is.
00:47:35Unfortunately, it's a double set.
00:47:36It's just how it is.
00:47:37Gays don't have that problem.
00:47:39Yeah.
00:47:41I understand where Danny's coming from.
00:47:43Don't agree with it, but I understand where Danny's coming from.
00:47:47Bec and Danny's homestay I don't think was as great as they made it out to be.
00:47:53There's something not right there.
00:47:55This is a serious conversation you guys need to talk.
00:47:58Yeah, I know.
00:47:59For a dinner party.
00:48:02Don't like shut up.
00:48:04Excellent.
00:48:05So glad we're talking about it with everyone.
00:48:09Oh, goodness.
00:48:11No, I said it to you already.
00:48:13Not to that level, babes.
00:48:14I have.
00:48:14100%.
00:48:15We haven't.
00:48:15No.
00:48:25Still to come.
00:48:27I did spiral a little bit.
00:48:29Dave, what's going through your head, bro?
00:48:31David finally finds his voice.
00:48:34I've hit my wall.
00:48:35I've been calm throughout this whole thing, but I'm at my limit.
00:48:39This is really a relationship in peril.
00:48:42Yeah.
00:48:43Before Bec confronts Danny.
00:48:46I would have appreciated it.
00:48:47Yeah, it was sad.
00:48:48Having been that open.
00:48:49It's in a lot of relations.
00:48:51It's just made me that whole type of hateful experiment now.
00:48:54Before hindsight.
00:49:03How about you?
00:49:04Alyssa.
00:49:05How was yours?
00:49:07Um.
00:49:11Do you know what?
00:49:11Alyssa and David really have not spoken about themselves at all.
00:49:15No.
00:49:16No.
00:49:16And that is not usual for them.
00:49:18David looks quite uncomfortable actually.
00:49:21Yeah.
00:49:23I feel like we had highs and lows.
00:49:27I did spiral a little bit.
00:49:29Like I did get in my head.
00:49:31Because, you know, as soon as we touched down in Adelaide, I felt like this weight.
00:49:39I felt like, oh my goodness, I, you know, I said I was going to move to Sydney and like,
00:49:44we're going to make this thing work in Sydney and we'll meet halfway.
00:49:46But I have a lot of responsibilities in Adelaide.
00:49:50I have contracts in place.
00:49:51I have my business.
00:49:52I have a house.
00:49:53I have a cat.
00:49:54But I'm almost 34.
00:49:56And in the next few years, I want to start a family.
00:49:58So I kind of put pressure on myself.
00:50:01And that's where I started to spiral on homestays.
00:50:03Because I was like, shit, this is not going to work.
00:50:07Like, I don't think I'm going to be able to stretch myself out of Adelaide, like in the next three
00:50:11months.
00:50:12It might look like six to 12 months if we're going to make this work in the real world.
00:50:21Beforehand, you were saying potentially you'd give it three months to move to Sydney.
00:50:25Is it the move to Adelaide now?
00:50:27Well, that's what it would probably be.
00:50:32It would be Adelaide, yeah.
00:50:33Oh.
00:50:35We haven't heard that from her before.
00:50:37A lot came out of homestays, but it's just like, how do we move, like, forward?
00:50:42But I feel like the way that we process things are very different.
00:50:45And I'm wondering, why am I spiralling?
00:50:48You know, we're all under pressure.
00:50:49But some people also deal with pressure differently.
00:50:52When I need to just process, my mind's going, bing, bing, bing, bing.
00:50:56I retract.
00:50:58Things have kind of turned on its head a little bit.
00:51:01Alyssa's now saying, I can't move.
00:51:04David's going, look, I'm willing to sacrifice everything and move down to Adelaide to give this relationship the best chance.
00:51:10But her retracting and pulling away from Dave, freaking Dave out.
00:51:14You know, I sort of felt for Dave a little bit.
00:51:16If anything, all the risk is on David.
00:51:19And there was one other thing.
00:51:22I know that I can be a bit full on.
00:51:25And, like, he does ground me, but maybe I'm finding a little bit sometimes too much where I feel like
00:51:31I'm not myself.
00:51:33Like, it's really shifting my energy.
00:51:36And that's not something I'm used to.
00:51:39My husband also snores.
00:51:40So I've had, like, lack of sleep the last three months.
00:51:43Like, it's just, it's a compiling thing.
00:51:48I feel like right now Alyssa is trying to look for any little thing she can pull from the sky
00:51:55to question things in the relationship.
00:51:58And that is pushing me away.
00:52:00She says she doesn't want to push me away.
00:52:02But her throwing all these doubts, there's only so much I can take before I start feeling like an idiot,
00:52:09you know?
00:52:09I think I was fine with just continuing to be that emotional shoulder to lean on until home stays.
00:52:19We've been on this experiment for two months.
00:52:21And it's been long enough for her to, like, be a bit more certain.
00:52:26You know, if this ultimately isn't going to work, I'm not going to force anything.
00:52:30Like, it's up to her to come from her head into her heart for this to work long term.
00:52:37Dave, what's going through your head, bro?
00:52:45I've hit my wall.
00:52:46I've been calm throughout this whole thing, but I'm at my limit.
00:52:51And I sort of need that mental space as well, just as much as she probably needs it from coming
00:52:56back from home stays.
00:52:57And it's something we both need.
00:52:59But it's at the point, emotionally, I don't have much to give.
00:53:03I'm invested in this relationship.
00:53:04I am prepared to move for this relationship.
00:53:07But for me, I bonded with her mom and her two best friends.
00:53:11And I've got her mom saying, this is all good for you.
00:53:13Her friend saying, this is good for you.
00:53:14I really love David a lot.
00:53:17So I'm just like, what other green checks do you need ticked off?
00:53:22Like, you know?
00:53:27Well, this is David being really raw, isn't it?
00:53:30I mean, he's saying that he's exhausted and also he's hit his limit.
00:53:35And I know that they talk about it in relation to the experiment.
00:53:41But actually, you know, the experiment for some people, it brings them closer right now.
00:53:45And I get some real worries that he's started to step back.
00:53:50We got cracks, man.
00:53:51We've got cracks like everyone.
00:53:52We got cracks.
00:53:53But that's something that, you know, we will talk to the experts about.
00:53:58We actually haven't seen them in this state before, have we?
00:54:01No.
00:54:02I'd say absolutely more questions than answers we got tonight.
00:54:06So that's where we've got to go tomorrow night.
00:54:09We are going to need to ask about the homestays and particularly where they see themselves in the future.
00:54:17This is really a relationship in peril.
00:54:20Yeah.
00:54:28How are your homestays, guys?
00:54:30I went out on his Harley.
00:54:32Like, I grew up there.
00:54:33So I'm like, I went to school there.
00:54:35I had my first kiss there.
00:54:36I did this there.
00:54:37And it's like, it's not like a foreign place for me.
00:54:39Yeah.
00:54:39It's just easy the fact that she's lived there before.
00:54:42So that was pretty big for us to have.
00:54:43That's amazing.
00:54:44Yeah, it was really good.
00:54:45The taste of the outside world, you know what I mean?
00:54:48We know.
00:54:49Yeah.
00:54:49So what's your plan?
00:54:50I'm gonna try it, guys.
00:54:52After the experiment.
00:54:53I do like Cronulla.
00:54:55Yeah.
00:54:56That's good.
00:54:56I could see myself there.
00:54:57That was very important.
00:54:59That's the whole point of it.
00:54:59That's great.
00:55:00The home visit.
00:55:00It's like, can I see myself there?
00:55:02Yes, I can.
00:55:03Let's just do it.
00:55:04Just give it a go.
00:55:05Yeah.
00:55:05Just give it a go.
00:55:06And that was a realisation I had.
00:55:08And you have a plan moving forward.
00:55:10And you guys are great.
00:55:13Yeah.
00:55:15Rachel and Stephen, homestays.
00:55:17Hey, guys.
00:55:17Who's talking?
00:55:19I didn't know you missed.
00:55:19You can talk.
00:55:20Captain Steve-o.
00:55:21I reckon Rachel go first and I'll...
00:55:23No, can Steve-o go first, please?
00:55:24I agree.
00:55:25I think Steve-o can go first.
00:55:27I'll go first.
00:55:28It's okay.
00:55:28I always talk.
00:55:30Can you hear me down there?
00:55:31Yeah.
00:55:32Yeah, boys.
00:55:32Loud and clear.
00:55:33All right.
00:55:34So, look, I'm happy to say that Rachel and my family did get along.
00:55:38Everyone loves each other.
00:55:39The drinks were flowing.
00:55:40Everything was fantastic.
00:55:42And, yeah, we had a really good time and took Rachel out on the boat
00:55:47and she got to experience a little, you know, a little snapshot
00:55:51of what my life is about and what I'm passionate about.
00:55:54So I took her out fishing and I can definitely say very impressed with Rachel.
00:55:59She full on...
00:56:00She's a country girl.
00:56:00Full on leaned in.
00:56:02She's a catch.
00:56:04I am the catch of the day.
00:56:05She's a catch.
00:56:05That's right.
00:56:06The catch of the day right here.
00:56:07Amen.
00:56:09And, look, I was very impressed with her fishing skills.
00:56:12She kissed a couple fish.
00:56:13I did.
00:56:14But I'm looking at this woman going, look, it's not just that she's leaning
00:56:17into fishing.
00:56:19It's more the fact that I'm seeing a woman there that is having a crack
00:56:23and I can see that outside fishing, Rachel will have my back in things.
00:56:31Aww.
00:56:33I can see we can do life together.
00:56:35But I feel a lot more confident now that the foundation has been laid on my side anyway
00:56:39with Rachel that we can take this out onto the outside.
00:56:44Here you go.
00:56:46And have somewhere to start because it's been done and dusted.
00:56:50I'm still going to meet her side, but I feel more confident on my side that Rachel and
00:56:54my family and my lifestyle will match now.
00:56:56So, we had a good time.
00:56:57Woo!
00:56:58That's incredible!
00:57:04Who would have thought?
00:57:06Who would have thought?
00:57:09Hearing Stephen talk about our home stay and, like, the beautiful things he was saying,
00:57:13yeah.
00:57:15You sound emotional.
00:57:16I am emotional.
00:57:17I'm so emotional about it because I've got this guy that I truly, truly care about and
00:57:25I'm developing such strong feelings for and every time he talks about us with the group
00:57:32and everything, it's beautiful.
00:57:34It's just so nice and what an amazing journey and opportunity we've had.
00:57:42And the fact that we get to be with each other is just even better.
00:57:48Some guys are going to buy girls flowers.
00:57:51My guy bought me a fishing rod.
00:57:53I know.
00:57:53I'm just saying.
00:57:55And I was happy.
00:57:57Your girl's got her first fishing rod.
00:57:59Rachel looks so happy.
00:58:02Look at Stephen's smile.
00:58:04We've never seen him smile like this.
00:58:06We've never seen him as relaxed and as confident as he has been tonight.
00:58:11That was a full bodied smile.
00:58:13He's really transformed.
00:58:16But watching him now is just such a joy and he's so comfortable in her space.
00:58:21Look, we went through hard times at the start of our relationship.
00:58:25You all saw it.
00:58:26And you know what?
00:58:28We've just saw it.
00:58:29And you know, we're now hitting weeks where it should test us.
00:58:33And instead it's strengthening us.
00:58:35And it's really nice.
00:58:36I love it.
00:58:37Yay!
00:58:39Well done.
00:58:41Rachel and Spivo.
00:58:45Oh!
00:58:53At the dinner table tonight, Danny said that he would feel like a bitch moving into a girl's house.
00:59:05I hadn't heard that yet.
00:59:08And like, I would hope that my husband knows that he can talk to me.
00:59:12Like, we talk about everything.
00:59:15So, yeah.
00:59:18I feel blindsided by him.
00:59:23I feel completely utterly betrayed by my husband.
00:59:35If I was to move to Adelaide, as a man, it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch
00:59:42moving in with a woman.
00:59:51I've never experienced a slow burn before, and here I am with a slow burn, and like I said, we
00:59:59went through hard yards earlier, and now we're so strong because of that.
01:00:03I'm so...
01:00:04Said to you about it.
01:00:05Yeah.
01:00:05But not to that level.
01:00:06I think I would have appreciated you having been that open and honest with me.
01:00:11It's in a lot of relations.
01:00:12It's just made me that much more confident coming out of the experiment, yeah, before home stage.
01:00:17Frankly, Danny, time and time again, has not stepped up and made the commitment that she wants and craves.
01:00:24She's been transparent.
01:00:25Yeah.
01:00:26He hasn't said that he loves her back.
01:00:28He's now saying, I don't want to live in your house.
01:00:30Mm.
01:00:31So there's a number of things that are now adding up.
01:00:33Yeah.
01:00:34That Bec's starting to worry about when it comes to Danny's level of commitment.
01:00:38Yes.
01:00:38And rightly so.
01:00:40I mean...
01:00:44The idea that, like, that it, like, that you, like, you basically just said, if I was to move to
01:00:52Adelaide, I don't know if I'd want to move into my house.
01:00:55I didn't say anything.
01:00:56I didn't say anything.
01:00:57I didn't say anything.
01:00:58I would have rather you had said that to me before announcing it to a table of people.
01:01:03I didn't say anything.
01:01:03I didn't say anything about that.
01:01:04I was saying we have to, like, I'd put money into a house and we'd renovate it or I'd pick
01:01:09up the mortgage.
01:01:10Because we're just moving.
01:01:11That's how it is.
01:01:11We'd make it feel demasculating.
01:01:13Right.
01:01:13Yeah.
01:01:14Okay.
01:01:14Well, I'm excited.
01:01:16That's how I heard it.
01:01:18That's how I heard it.
01:01:19And I was like, well, I haven't said that to me.
01:01:21I haven't said that to me.
01:01:27I think Bec revealed how hard that conversation was for her.
01:01:32You know, when she said, oh, here we are having this conversation in front of everyone.
01:01:35She felt really uncomfortable.
01:01:37And I think after the dinner tonight, they'll be going home for quite a big conversation.
01:01:59Okay.
01:02:00So the purpose of this conversation is to talk about what's been happening within the group
01:02:04of women.
01:02:05Hello.
01:02:06Hello ladies.
01:02:08Hi.
01:02:09Welcome to your hens night.
01:02:11Not to make comparisons between men and women and who does it better.
01:02:15Wow.
01:02:15I just hope that there's some insight here with, with the ladies that yes, in the future,
01:02:19you are going to be in contact with other women who have strong personalities, have strong
01:02:25judgments about you or opinions about you, but that doesn't mean that you have to play
01:02:33dirty.
01:02:34As a woman, I think it's important that we support each other.
01:02:41Love that.
01:02:44That we empower each other.
01:02:46I'm so excited.
01:02:48This is amazing.
01:02:50That we don't compete with each other.
01:02:56That we give other women an opportunity to shine.
01:02:59Jules, were you married?
01:03:06Just like we do.
01:03:07I'm falling in love with you.
01:03:09I'm in love with you.
01:03:10And that does not take away any of our power.
01:03:13You're the last dinner party.
01:03:14Yes.
01:03:16Yes.
01:03:16Yes.
01:03:17Yes.
01:03:18Yes.
01:03:18Yes.
01:03:19Yes.
01:03:20Yes.
01:03:20Yes.
01:03:21Yes.
01:03:22Yes.
01:03:22Yes.
01:03:23Yes.
01:03:24Yes.
01:03:25Yes.
01:03:26Yes.
01:03:27It's all.
01:03:27Yes.
01:03:27But I can't see you.
01:03:27Yes.
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