00:00Have you ever heard people tell you, don't take things personally. Successful people don't take things personally. This is one
00:11of the most flawed pieces of advice that you can ever get. Here's why.
00:17When was the last you experienced any intense emotion, anger, hatred, frustration? And what happened? Depending on its intensity and
00:26your personality type, you probably stayed angry for hours, the whole night, maybe even days. Did you know that any
00:35emotion, regardless of how intense it is, cannot survive longer than 90 seconds in your system? If so, why did
00:44you stay emotionally disturbed for so long?
00:47It turns out that emotions survive on the foundation of thoughts. The human brain generates several types of thoughts, but
00:54two primary ones are important. One where you think about yourself in relation to the world, basically the I, me,
01:01myself, my world type thoughts and the other broader thoughts.
01:05When someone is emotionally disturbed, the frequency of both these thoughts, especially the I, me, myself type thoughts increases and
01:15the emotion gets stronger.
01:16The quicker and stronger the quicker and stronger the quicker and stronger the quicker and stronger the flow of thoughts,
01:20especially the I, me, myself ones, the stronger is the emotion experienced and you find yourself taking things personally by
01:29design of your brain wiring.
01:30So taking things personally is just natural. That's what helps us learn and grow, not to mention stay authentic. The
01:41challenge for most people though, is they go into such deep introspection long after learnings have been internalized that this
01:49now spirals into an overthinking state.
01:53In this state, the negative emotions turn to chemicals that are intensely affecting the region around the heart. On the
02:01other hand, the positive emotions cause a surge of feel-good chemicals in your brain that are so addictive that
02:09people can do anything, even destructive acts, to get that kind of feeling again in the head.
02:15This explains the meaning in the quote, don't let success get into your head and failure get to your heart.
02:24So how do you take things personally without letting it spiral into this overthinking mode?
02:32There are proven neuroscience techniques, but they vary drastically by your personality type.
02:39If you are interested, please drop me a one-on-one message and I can respond to your technique that's
02:45just right for you.
02:47Please take my message personally.
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