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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 - Episode 14: Prepare for Immediate Descent
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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03Wow.
00:00:05This is your room.
00:00:06Wait, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:00:09Like, you could have put a picture of me.
00:00:10Didn't have one.
00:00:11I would have settled for a smaller place without a roommate.
00:00:15But our chemistry, it's there.
00:00:18Good night.
00:00:19Good night.
00:00:20Feels very surreal having Elise here with me.
00:00:22But I'm a bit worried that she might find parts of my life
00:00:25that she's not exactly happy with.
00:00:28You keep talking about your ex, you keep bringing him up.
00:00:31I'd rather stay single than back to my ex.
00:00:34I just want to make sure that I'm the man that you want to be
00:00:37introduced to your family.
00:00:39I told you, yes.
00:00:41These issues just keep popping up.
00:00:43And the fact that her family might ultimately not approve of me,
00:00:48I'm feeling this is like make or break.
00:00:53It just felt like the right time to propose to Sheena.
00:00:57I asked you to hold off so she could prove herself.
00:01:00And then you just pull this little sneaky .
00:01:02Now she's got the whole cat in the bag, doesn't she?
00:01:05Sheena and I are going to move forward.
00:01:07You're going to be in our lives, but.
00:01:09You might be surprised, Forrest.
00:01:11I'm so disappointed.
00:01:12My mom would actually step away rather than accept Sheena as my wife.
00:01:16That's tearing me apart.
00:01:19I feel like your idea of being a husband changed.
00:01:23You see it like a power.
00:01:25I don't have any.
00:01:26Because when I tell you to do something, you don't listen to me.
00:01:30You want traditional roles when it applies to you.
00:01:34I think that you got comfortable.
00:01:36Don't ever get too comfortable, ever.
00:01:38You don't want a bitchy wife, don't be a asshole.
00:01:45Don't come home, ever.
00:01:49I love you so much.
00:01:50What?
00:01:51Stop telling me lies.
00:01:52There is more to tell him, and I have to get it said before he goes to his uncle.
00:01:57So, my last marriage wasn't with a man.
00:02:01I'm divorcing a woman, Daniel.
00:02:03You're the first man that I've been with in 21 years.
00:02:08It's not...
00:02:09Don't come...
00:02:10It's not as bad as...
00:02:11Don't come close to me.
00:02:18Yeah, I can feel your energy.
00:02:24It's passing through me, I feel so alive.
00:02:29Oh!
00:02:31Oh!
00:02:32Oh!
00:02:37Oh!
00:02:39Oh!
00:02:40Oh!
00:02:41Oh!
00:02:42How are you?
00:02:42Okay.
00:02:44Thank you for taking care of me last night.
00:02:47That's all right.
00:02:48I can't have you feeling sick as soon as you get here.
00:02:50Yeah, you're taking chances.
00:02:53There's been glasses.
00:02:55I want you more.
00:03:00I feel so bad.
00:03:01Like, every hour I was making you get up and get me water and...
00:03:04So, who needs sleep?
00:03:06You're a very big caretaker.
00:03:08Yeah, well, long flight, and you weren't feeling the best,
00:03:11so, you know.
00:03:13You were such a good boy.
00:03:16I arrived in Sydney yesterday, and I met my boyfriend, Joshua, for the first time face
00:03:21to face.
00:03:23The plan was for Josh to sleep on the couch last night, but I was up every hour of the
00:03:29night.
00:03:32And he decided to come in the bed with me and take care of me all night.
00:03:36It just feels like it's, like, a sinus infection almost.
00:03:39Like, it's just, like...
00:03:40Yeah.
00:03:40...swollen here.
00:03:41Maybe you can go get me, like, nose spray.
00:03:46Yeah.
00:03:47I am a needy bitch, especially when I'm sick.
00:03:51I need my man to attend to me, like, a golden retriever puppy, like, running, like, catching
00:03:56a ball.
00:03:57Joshua does that.
00:03:58Yeah.
00:03:58I feel a little better now with, like, all the water you've been making me drink, and
00:04:02I took my medicine.
00:04:04That's good.
00:04:05It's probably a good start.
00:04:07What is it?
00:04:09It's Vegemite.
00:04:10What's that?
00:04:11You have to try it.
00:04:12It's a big thing in Australia.
00:04:13It smells like sardines.
00:04:17There's no fish in it.
00:04:20Just take a big bite.
00:04:26Suck!
00:04:26Is it good?
00:04:28It's not bad.
00:04:30No, I don't like it.
00:04:32I don't like it.
00:04:33Ew, ew, ew!
00:04:34Joshua, what is that?
00:04:36Is that fish?
00:04:37It's not fish.
00:04:40Do you want a tissue?
00:04:43It's a condiment.
00:04:45I don't know how to explain it.
00:04:46And you love it?
00:04:46Yeah, I do love it on toast.
00:04:49You're not Australian if you're not eating Vegemite.
00:04:51Tastes like .
00:04:53I hated it.
00:04:58All right, take this Vegemite away from me.
00:05:00All right.
00:05:01There's other stuff like berries and yogurt and stuff, so I'll grab you that.
00:05:06Yes.
00:05:06And then if you feel a bit better, maybe you want to go wander up to the beach and see
00:05:11Bondi.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12All right, well, don't make me sick.
00:05:17I feel like you are, I feel like you already got sick by kissing me all night.
00:05:21Well, we might get Toms too then.
00:05:28Wow, so this is your beach.
00:05:31This is it.
00:05:32Oh, my God, all the guys that wear the what's the speedo thing.
00:05:36I can't.
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:42Wow, the sand feels so nice.
00:05:44Very different than Miami.
00:05:46It's like really soft.
00:05:49Do you want to go in?
00:05:51Yep.
00:05:51Wait, I have to change.
00:05:53Towels in my bag.
00:05:55So let's figure this out.
00:05:57So here's to cover me.
00:05:59OK.
00:06:02How about this?
00:06:03Well, this one, I can just go like this.
00:06:05Yeah.
00:06:09My top is off.
00:06:11Hold me.
00:06:12Hold me.
00:06:13How do you do this part?
00:06:15All right, so now we're going to go down.
00:06:16Yeah.
00:06:16So we're going to do that now.
00:06:22Hold it tight.
00:06:25I'm losing it.
00:06:27Hold it.
00:06:29Oh.
00:06:30Voila.
00:06:31Well done.
00:06:35That was pretty impressive.
00:06:38Are you going to protect me if they're sharks?
00:06:41Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:06:43Let's go.
00:06:43Ready?
00:06:43OK.
00:06:45Crookin' that skin.
00:06:46No, no, no, no.
00:06:47I love it.
00:06:48Crush it like the ocean.
00:06:51Oh my god, I am.
00:06:54Can I kiss you in some ocean?
00:06:57It's actually insane to even think that I haven't even been here a full 24 hours.
00:07:01And it's so natural.
00:07:04There's a lot of sexual chemistry there.
00:07:07We're so touchy-feely.
00:07:09But he seems a little reserved.
00:07:12So I'm just trying to feel him out.
00:07:17I mean, I do have three weeks here, and I came here to find my potential husband.
00:07:22So getting to be alone with Joshua, it's nice because I want to get into the deeper stuff, for sure.
00:07:32Holy cowlily, I'm cold.
00:07:34It's funny, you see adults in there freezing, and then you see like little kids, and they're just like following
00:07:40around for hours.
00:07:41I think when I was a kid, I spent every day at the beach.
00:07:45We'd be swimming in the pool every morning.
00:07:47OK.
00:07:48But then in the afternoons, we'd be like doing the board training every single afternoon.
00:07:54I love learning about you.
00:07:56I want to get to know everything about you.
00:07:58Yeah, good.
00:07:58I want to know the heart.
00:07:59Like I want you to open up.
00:08:00I feel like you're reserved.
00:08:04Were you reserved in your last serious relationship?
00:08:07Yeah, I probably was a bit reserved in my last relationship.
00:08:10I was.
00:08:10Yeah.
00:08:11One big fear is probably, I don't know, opening up, and then having it used like against me.
00:08:19You know.
00:08:23My previous relationship, we dated for seven years, but I never felt secure.
00:08:29I just felt like I wasn't good enough for her.
00:08:33She just wanted me to be, you know, super successful.
00:08:37And I was constantly being told if I wasn't, she would walk away.
00:08:42So I was always living in fear, I guess.
00:08:45She could just end it at any time.
00:08:48Ultimately, I had my heart broken, and I'm closed off because of that.
00:08:54Like, are you constantly thinking like it's something on your mind, or like it's just...
00:08:59Yeah, I'm always thinking.
00:09:00Always, always thinking.
00:09:02What's your thought about right now?
00:09:04That this is...
00:09:06I like that you're sort of asking these questions, but you know, it's scary at the same time.
00:09:11It gives us opening up and being vulnerable.
00:09:14No, I get it.
00:09:15Like, opening up can be scary.
00:09:19But you know what?
00:09:20You made me feel safe already.
00:09:22Really?
00:09:23That's like an early, early call.
00:09:26So hopefully I'll do the same thing.
00:09:28Yeah, I feel safe with you too.
00:09:32Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:39I've never really had a guy say that to me actually.
00:09:41Like, guys have said a lot of things to me, but feeling safe is not one I've heard.
00:09:47It feels good.
00:09:49I don't think there's anything sexier than a man being vulnerable.
00:09:54So yeah, the plan was to wait.
00:09:56But like, he's so sweet to me.
00:09:59He's so attentive to me.
00:10:00He's letting his guard down.
00:10:01Like, it's hard to resist a sexy man that's treating you well.
00:10:04So we'll see.
00:10:19It's not.
00:10:20Don't.
00:10:21It's not as bad as.
00:10:23Don't come close to me.
00:10:25Daniel.
00:10:28You're telling me you have been a lesbian?
00:10:32Listen.
00:10:33Don't try it.
00:10:34Listen.
00:10:35Don't even come.
00:10:36Don't, don't, don't try it.
00:10:37Listen.
00:10:38I'm telling you the truth before we talk to your uncle.
00:10:43I want it all out.
00:10:45That's why I said I needed another day.
00:10:46I wanted you to know everything.
00:10:52Daniel.
00:10:54Daniel.
00:10:55Don't come close to me.
00:10:57Please try to understand.
00:11:00I, I, I, you don't know how hard it was to...
00:11:03You have a lot of secrets.
00:11:04I have no more secrets.
00:11:06Just listen, please.
00:11:08I'm trying to tell you who I am.
00:11:10Jesus Christ.
00:11:12I'm not a lesbian.
00:11:14I'm not straight.
00:11:15I'm not bisexual.
00:11:17I just believe that people should love people.
00:11:20People should love people by their soul.
00:11:22And people should love people for who they are on the inside.
00:11:25Not on what is on the outside.
00:11:27God.
00:11:30I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:11:32You told me you have had serious of, you know, relationship.
00:11:35I didn't know it's, it's your fellow women.
00:11:38Same sex.
00:11:41Yes.
00:11:42And you, you have been lying to me.
00:11:46I'm sorry.
00:11:49You are evil.
00:11:51I'm not evil.
00:11:53You know me.
00:11:54I take care of people.
00:11:55And I've even taken care of you.
00:11:57I'm not evil.
00:11:58I have a good heart.
00:12:00And I'm a good person.
00:12:02What make, what makes you a good person?
00:12:04Sleeping with your fellow women?
00:12:06That doesn't make me evil.
00:12:08I'm still the same person you fell in love with.
00:12:12The same person who tell lies and keep secrets.
00:12:15I love you.
00:12:17I don't want to hear that from your mouth again.
00:12:19I love you.
00:12:20I love you.
00:12:21Don't, don't, don't, don't say that again.
00:12:23And you can't tell me not to say those words because I mean it.
00:12:26I am in love with you, Daniel.
00:12:28That's why I'm coming clean to you.
00:12:30I could have kept this a secret forever and not told you.
00:12:33But I'm telling you.
00:12:34Shut your mouth.
00:12:35You don't have to.
00:12:35You have been threatened by a woman.
00:12:37Not even woman, women.
00:12:42You are a liar.
00:12:44I'm just a person who has been lost.
00:12:52Don't.
00:12:53Can you hold this ring?
00:12:55No.
00:12:57Hold the ring.
00:13:00I've seen that from your head to toe it's full of secrets and lies.
00:13:05So you're full of evil.
00:13:08I'm not full of evil, Daniel.
00:13:11I'm staying in my room tonight.
00:13:20As.
00:13:26I thought I've seen it all.
00:13:28But she keep on vomiting secrets.
00:13:32No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:13:38I didn't think he'd call me evil.
00:13:41I'm not evil.
00:13:43I just believe a person loves a person.
00:13:46And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:13:53Daniel's not going to accept me for who I am.
00:13:56You know what?
00:13:58him.
00:13:59him.
00:14:12You're officially on the jeepney.
00:14:14I only have a week left here in the Philippines.
00:14:17And I don't want to waste any time bringing Sheena to America.
00:14:21So I have to be very clear here.
00:14:24If you file today for the K-1 visa, it will be denied.
00:14:34I will be my wife and I will be my wife and I will take her away.
00:14:37We are lucky!
00:14:44It's not too funny.
00:14:52This was light out so we could see.
00:14:56We are here.
00:14:58I'm tired.
00:14:59Let's get a rest, bro.
00:15:19So this is like a, gonna be like a village environment, right?
00:15:22Yeah.
00:15:25Yesterday, we traveled from New C. Bay to Fort Dauphin.
00:15:28My hometown.
00:15:31We arrived late, so we stay in a hotel.
00:15:34And now we are going to my family's village for a few days.
00:15:40Can't forget my baby wipes.
00:15:42I don't know how you guys wash your ass in the village.
00:15:45We used water.
00:15:50We had a big fight last night.
00:15:52I still love him, and I want him to meet my family.
00:15:56But I don't feel like everything is resolved yet between me and Rick.
00:16:05I don't want to ruin this vacation, but the way you talked to me yesterday, I don't like.
00:16:16I went a little overboard, and I'm sorry for that.
00:16:21I'm sorry for raising my voice to you.
00:16:25It's just, I was so frustrated, you know, hearing about your ex-boyfriend constantly.
00:16:33I mean, I can't move forward if you're going to keep going back.
00:16:42Okay, I promise I'm not going to talk about my ex.
00:16:49Okay.
00:16:50We are going to see my family, and I don't want to go there in a bad mood.
00:16:57I want them to accept you, because I want this relationship work.
00:17:03I do, too.
00:17:07I overreacted yesterday.
00:17:09It seemed like she was taunting me over something that she already knows that I'm insecure about.
00:17:15And it just totally set me off.
00:17:18I want to be here, and I want to really give this a chance.
00:17:25Yeah.
00:17:26There's definitely a strong connection between her and I, and I'm glad that Trish is willing to forgive me.
00:17:37So, I think we can, like, get a quickie in before we go.
00:17:42What?
00:17:43No!
00:17:48Let's go now.
00:17:55Nice chips right here.
00:17:57Yeah, it's nice.
00:18:11It's quiet, you see?
00:18:12Not much people.
00:18:15It's not what I expect.
00:18:17Ooh!
00:18:19This is rough roads.
00:18:23The roads are made of aluminum.
00:18:25Let's get noisy when it rains, huh?
00:18:28Yeah.
00:18:34I'm excited to see my family and go back to my village.
00:18:40Everything is just simple.
00:18:42There is no running water, no fancy toilet.
00:18:46But everybody are kind in my village, and it's beautiful.
00:18:54Do you think they're going to be happy to see?
00:18:56Yeah, to see me.
00:18:58What about me?
00:19:01They're going to be happy to see me, baby?
00:19:03I don't know.
00:19:04Meet me.
00:19:06They're happy because I bring a boyfriend.
00:19:09Oh, OK.
00:19:10And they will tell me if you were the good person for me or not.
00:19:18Yeah, I just hope those questions don't come too hard and fast.
00:19:25I feel a little bit scared.
00:19:28My family won't accept Rick.
00:19:32Men in my tribe is very strong.
00:19:36When they don't like something, they are really aggressive.
00:19:42Rick thinks he can handle any situation, but he can't.
00:19:47I'm worried.
00:19:49He doesn't know what he's in for.
00:19:54Is it right here?
00:19:56Yeah, it's here.
00:19:58There's no turning back.
00:20:10So we're going to have to call a GP.
00:20:13I'm super duper nervous about riding one.
00:20:15Ah, you're going to have to.
00:20:16How's that work?
00:20:17Well, you can see those signboards.
00:20:19Uh-huh.
00:20:20Just have to find the right location.
00:20:22Then, we just have to kill Para.
00:20:25Oh.
00:20:25Para is to stop.
00:20:26Oh.
00:20:31So here.
00:20:32Oh, here?
00:20:33Yes.
00:20:36All right.
00:20:37We're officially on the jeepney.
00:20:42Oh, there it is.
00:20:44I'm not going to have to hit the top.
00:20:44A big-
00:20:46Whoa.
00:20:49Unsurprisingly not tapping the top too hardcore.
00:20:53Yeah.
00:20:53It's hot.
00:20:54It smells like diesel.
00:20:59It's been a couple of days since I proposed to Sheena,
00:21:01and we are just over the moon, in love with each other.
00:21:06But not everyone's happy.
00:21:09My mom is still mad at me because I proposed to Sheena against her guidance.
00:21:16And the vibe in the condo is just really awkward.
00:21:22So Sheena and I have been trying to do our own thing.
00:21:25Oh my gosh.
00:21:26So this is the volunteer.
00:21:28All right, here we go. We're getting off.
00:21:31Yeah, thanks a lot, Mom.
00:21:33While it really hurts that my mom has distanced herself,
00:21:35right now is not the time to put the brakes on things.
00:21:38I only have a week left here in the Philippines.
00:21:40And I don't want to waste any time in bringing Sheena to America.
00:21:46Good morning.
00:21:47Will you have an appointment with Mr. Alexander King, please?
00:21:51Now that we're finally engaged, I called an immigration lawyer in Manila
00:21:55just so we can get a consultation.
00:21:58Oh, hi, sir. Hi, good morning.
00:22:01Hi, this is Sheena.
00:22:03Nice to meet you.
00:22:05Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.
00:22:07Good afternoon.
00:22:08Good afternoon, Mr.
00:22:09Welcome to our office and welcome to the Philippines.
00:22:13Thank you. I've been enjoying my stay.
00:22:15Okay.
00:22:15So for this consultation, I would like to, you know, make an assessment.
00:22:21Of course.
00:22:22If you are eligible for the K-1 visa.
00:22:25Yeah.
00:22:25Now, how long have you been in this relationship?
00:22:29Seven years.
00:22:30Seven years.
00:22:31Seven years.
00:22:32And you have never been convicted of any crime in the U.S.?
00:22:35No.
00:22:36Okay.
00:22:36Speak clean.
00:22:37That's great.
00:22:39Yeah.
00:22:40When I walk, you can hear it.
00:22:41Yeah, so are you working right now?
00:22:46Currently, I'm not working.
00:22:49But I can prove that I'm getting paid monthly.
00:22:52Okay.
00:22:53I'm receiving disability benefits, which is, it's a good enough amount to have me, you know,
00:23:00live my basic life and, you know, get an apartment and get food, all that good stuff.
00:23:08I see.
00:23:09So I have to be very clear here, you know, disability benefits is not an income.
00:23:19You know, you cannot consider it as an income.
00:23:22The annual income for petitioners for K-1 visa is more or less $26,500 USD.
00:23:31Now, is that shared between the both?
00:23:33No, it's only the petitioner.
00:23:34Only the petitioner.
00:23:35That's for the petitioner.
00:23:35Okay.
00:23:37So, um, if you will file today, for example, it will be denied.
00:23:47My suggestion is you build your financial capacity, you know, find gainful employment,
00:23:53then, uh, you can proceed.
00:23:58I'm in complete shock right now.
00:24:01I feel devastated to find out that my disability payments that I get monthly does not count towards the amount
00:24:09that I need to bring shit into the United States.
00:24:12To be honest, because of my autism, I am terrified about working full-time and starting a job.
00:24:22In the past, I've had jobs that ended awfully because I didn't understand or I messed up.
00:24:31But my back is at a wall right now that if I don't get a job, our entire dream of
00:24:39bringing Gina to the United States is done.
00:24:43So, let's say, you know, I go back home.
00:24:46Yeah.
00:24:46And I instantly start working.
00:24:48Yeah.
00:24:48How long is enough to have a stable form of income, you know, before the K-1 is actually granted?
00:24:54So, yeah, uh, you need probably a year, uh, employment history.
00:25:02Okay.
00:25:03And then, uh, you will meet another a year, uh, at least, uh, to have the petition approved and bring
00:25:10your fiancé to the U.S.
00:25:11Yeah.
00:25:16It's quite frustrating for me that I'm the only one who's been working.
00:25:21If he happened to have a job, then he could have acquired the CAVA visa sooner.
00:25:30I'm worried that since Forrest has a disability, it will be quite difficult for him to get and hold a
00:25:37job long-term.
00:25:39Is there any other options?
00:25:42So, depending on your goal, here in the Philippine immigration, we have a straightforward process.
00:25:49If you get married here and he comes to the Philippines and live here, there is no requirement of financial
00:25:54capacity.
00:25:55Okay.
00:25:56Okay?
00:25:56So, there will be a, um, 100% chance that the petition will be approved.
00:26:02Okay.
00:26:04Okay.
00:26:05So, these options will depend on your goal.
00:26:12At this point, it's sounding almost impossible for Forrest to bring me to the U.S.
00:26:18I know it's going to be difficult, but I think he's going to have to consider other options.
00:26:33I don't know, I'm just real pissed off.
00:26:36And at this moment, I'm at a crossroads.
00:26:38I don't know how to move forward.
00:26:53Can I at least have my wallet?
00:26:54No.
00:26:56Okay.
00:26:57Don't talk to me.
00:26:58Don't come to me.
00:27:06You think you can just treat me this way, humiliate me all the time.
00:27:10All right.
00:27:11I'm going to just give you space, all right?
00:27:15All right.
00:27:43I'm going to just give you space, all right?
00:28:15I will be very guilty if I leave him on the street.
00:28:19But, just to be clear, I'm very pissed at him.
00:28:25He promised a really good day.
00:28:27But, of course, he needs to ruin the moment.
00:28:31Because it's not Jabon if he doesn't.
00:28:41Anna, am I allowed to come in?
00:28:43No.
00:28:45No.
00:28:46Come on.
00:28:47Come on.
00:28:48Come on.
00:28:50Come on.
00:28:51Come on.
00:28:52Come on.
00:28:53Come on.
00:28:53Come on.
00:28:53Come on.
00:28:53Come on.
00:28:54Come on.
00:28:54Come on.
00:28:55Come on.
00:29:01We're just going to leave him for now.
00:29:03Just give her space, man.
00:29:05So she can just calm down.
00:29:08We'll talk about it when she's ready.
00:29:13I just feel really hopeless with Anna because I'm putting in massive effort to show Anna that I can be
00:29:22romantic.
00:29:23And, you know, she storms out of the nail salon place.
00:29:28And it's just, I don't know.
00:29:29I'm just real pissed off that she would make a scene in public like this.
00:29:34And at this moment, I'm at a crossroads.
00:29:38I don't know how to move forward.
00:29:41Mama, your day good?
00:29:43It's okay.
00:29:46Every time we're having a good time, he would do this to me, right in front, in public.
00:29:55It's so humiliating.
00:29:57I don't think he's powerless.
00:29:59The fact that he could upset me this much definitely has power of his relationship.
00:30:09Hello?
00:30:10Hello?
00:30:12Kumusta nung baby ni Nana?
00:30:17Nakainis ako kay Joon?
00:30:20Bakit?
00:30:20Nakaka bad trip kasi.
00:30:23Bakit?
00:30:23Kasi gusto niya yung relasyon namin dahil lalaki siya, siya dominante.
00:30:27Ganito, ganyan, ganyan.
00:30:30Ayaw ko nang ginaganyan ako.
00:30:31Nakainis ako.
00:30:34Walang nakikita yan.
00:30:37Ay.
00:30:41Kasawa na kayo.
00:30:42Uusap kayo.
00:30:43Pag-usapan niya.
00:30:44Ayaw ko nga makipag-usap kasi na uwi sa pagtatalo eh.
00:30:50Kaya, huwag mong hayaang masirang relasyon niyo.
00:30:55I am so, so, so tired of it, Joon.
00:30:58I have to be this timid...
00:31:00Yeah, but...
00:31:00Anna, I'm not trying to get you to change...
00:31:03...self-spoken woman.
00:31:04It's like I've, like, sacrificed a lot of my life so you can be happy.
00:31:11And even when I do the things you want me to do, it's something else you want me to do.
00:31:18So I'm like, look, I just give up.
00:31:21There's nothing else that I can do to make you, you know, happy.
00:31:27I feel exactly the same sometimes.
00:31:39I'm so cold.
00:31:40Can I have a shower with me?
00:31:42Okay.
00:31:44I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:31:46Maybe.
00:31:48But, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:31:51I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:31:53Ha-ha-ha!
00:31:56Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:24I'm so cold.
00:32:25Can I have a shower with me?
00:32:27Okay.
00:32:29Never thought you would ask.
00:32:32Ha-ha!
00:32:33Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:39Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:40Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:40Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:45Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:46Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:46Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:48Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:48Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:49Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:50Ha-ha-ha!
00:32:53I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:32:56Maybe.
00:32:57But, Joshua and I are both super sandy and gross from the ocean.
00:33:02And, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:33:05I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:33:08Ha-ha-ha!
00:33:10I'm trying to control myself.
00:33:12But, Josh is just, like, so hot, and we've been making out all day.
00:33:17You know, in the back of my mind, I do have some questions,
00:33:20and I do want to see more of him and more of his life.
00:33:23But, like, at this point, like, it feels right.
00:33:26So I bought some massage oil
00:33:29and then I think there's some wine.
00:33:31Maybe we can have a glass and relax.
00:33:33I love it.
00:33:34OK, perfect.
00:33:45Babe, are you coming?
00:33:47Yeah.
00:33:51Everything feels really natural.
00:33:53Everything feels like it's progressing between us.
00:33:56We just draw on to each other,
00:33:57which is, you know, really exciting.
00:34:01We had an amazing day together
00:34:02and I want to pamper Elise.
00:34:05Now's the time to pour some wine,
00:34:08you know, light a candle and, you know,
00:34:10show her that I've got skills.
00:34:16Wow.
00:34:18Look at this.
00:34:23Welcome to Sydney.
00:34:25Making you feel better and more relaxed.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:34Feel like a massage?
00:34:35Yeah, I would love one.
00:34:37I'm going to light it up.
00:34:38This doesn't mean you're necessarily sleeping in the bed tonight.
00:34:41It's OK, I didn't sleep yet.
00:34:44Lay on your stomach.
00:34:46OK.
00:34:53Is that all right?
00:34:55That's OK.
00:34:58Wow, that's a lot of oil.
00:35:03You can go harder.
00:35:05Harder.
00:35:11You're, like, trying to be, like, a little respectful, but...
00:35:16Come on, don't be a little bitch.
00:35:18Give me, like, everything.
00:35:19Slap on the ass?
00:35:20Yeah, slap on the ass.
00:35:21Like, grab my hair with the oil in it.
00:35:24I mean, I don't have extensions for nothing.
00:35:26F***ing ripped me around a little bit here.
00:35:29Wow.
00:35:31It's a family show, I thought you said.
00:35:35Can you have it?
00:35:37Yeah.
00:35:38Shaking.
00:35:39I can feel it.
00:35:40You reckon?
00:35:40Uh-huh.
00:35:49All right, guys?
00:35:54What the f*** are you doing?
00:35:58Oh, my God.
00:36:01The timing on me.
00:36:03Hi, Chris.
00:36:05Yeah, hi.
00:36:05Nice.
00:36:07Now it's a party.
00:36:08Now it's a party.
00:36:10I'm going to stop my mic now.
00:36:11I'll get another wine glass.
00:36:15I did not see that coming.
00:36:16I did.
00:36:18I'm a f***ing half-naked right now.
00:36:20But, you know, there's better places to give a naked massage in the house than the communal area.
00:36:25Half-naked massage.
00:36:26Yeah, you know what?
00:36:26Oh, you're absolutely right.
00:36:27Yeah.
00:36:28But, you know, I think I was just blind with lust.
00:36:32Ew.
00:36:33Who's that to say it's so weird for, bro?
00:36:37Yeah.
00:36:39All right.
00:36:40Well, I'm going to go to my room.
00:36:44Well, that just ruined the moment.
00:36:47This is exactly why I don't want a guy with a roommate.
00:36:52Can you button me back up?
00:36:55I'm, like, literally in my bra and underwear.
00:36:58Showing your skin to other people?
00:37:01Who is that?
00:37:02Who would have...
00:37:03No, I'm not embarrassed.
00:37:04Like, I'll get naked in front of everyone.
00:37:06We know that.
00:37:06But, like, Chris f***ing walks in as your hands are groping my body.
00:37:11And it's, like, such a sexual, nice night.
00:37:13And, like...
00:37:13Yeah, I probably should have done it in the bedroom.
00:37:15Not my finest hour.
00:37:18Sorry, baby.
00:37:19Well, that f***ing killed the mood.
00:37:21For now.
00:37:24Okay.
00:37:34Oh, this is the shower?
00:37:37Yeah.
00:37:40Oh, hell no!
00:37:43I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:37:49Paper for the...
00:37:51This is paper to write on.
00:37:53You wipe this...
00:37:54Yeah.
00:37:56Stop it.
00:38:20Wow, babe.
00:38:20This is where you grew up?
00:38:22Yeah, it's here.
00:38:35Hey!
00:38:37Yeah.
00:38:37Is that your rooster?
00:38:39No, not mine.
00:38:40But my neighbor's.
00:38:41Oh, okay.
00:38:42We just got to the area of Trish's family home.
00:38:46I've never seen a home where you have to walk so far to get to off the main road.
00:38:53Oh, this is a journey.
00:38:55Don't complain.
00:38:57But I'm happy to be here with Trish because I want a future with her.
00:39:03And if I can get her family's approval, I think that she would be able to see that I'm
00:39:09a good person and maybe it would make up for what I did in the past.
00:39:16Oh, this is it?
00:39:17Yeah, this is my house.
00:39:20Oh, that's my sister.
00:39:22Oh, this is your sister.
00:39:25I need to meet her.
00:39:28She does look like you.
00:39:30She's very beautiful.
00:39:31Yeah, she is.
00:39:32Nice to meet you.
00:39:35And who is this?
00:39:37My brother.
00:39:38Oh, this is your brother?
00:39:39Yeah.
00:39:39My brother.
00:39:41Por favor.
00:39:42Cheers.
00:39:50Tricia's told me that she has a huge family and they all live on this compound together.
00:39:57Hi, I'm Rick.
00:39:58Nice to meet you.
00:39:59Oh, this is your brother.
00:40:00Okay.
00:40:03Okay.
00:40:05Oh, how are you?
00:40:07My sister.
00:40:08This is your sister?
00:40:09It's so nice to meet you.
00:40:10You look like my grandmother.
00:40:13I wasn't expecting that many people.
00:40:16You know, I keep seeing people pouring in one by one.
00:40:21Just when I'm thinking, that should be everybody there.
00:40:24And there's more people coming.
00:40:26Like, how am I going to remember all these people's names and who they are?
00:40:32Bye-bye.
00:40:48My dad says, you sleep down?
00:40:57The Bunk beds remind me of when I was a kid and me and my sister.
00:41:02I never imagined myself sleeping in the bunk bed at my age.
00:41:06But I respect her dad and their culture.
00:41:12Oh, this is the shower?
00:41:19Yeah.
00:41:20We just put water in the container and bring it here.
00:41:25I mean, there's no running water coming up to wrench you off.
00:41:29No.
00:41:30And where does this water come from?
00:41:32From the river?
00:41:34Like, it's something under the ground.
00:41:37A whale?
00:41:38Yeah.
00:41:40He's going to show you the bathroom.
00:41:42Oh, okay.
00:41:43Oh, man, I smell something already.
00:41:46Out of the toilet.
00:41:48Oh, hell no!
00:41:50Yeah.
00:41:51All I see is a wooden plank with a hole cut out of it.
00:41:57Paper for the...
00:42:00Wait, wait, wait.
00:42:03This is paper to write on.
00:42:05You wipe this...
00:42:06Yeah.
00:42:08Stop it.
00:42:09That's how I...
00:42:09Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:10Sit, sit, sit, sit.
00:42:12Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:12Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:13That's it.
00:42:15I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:42:21But I'm not surprised.
00:42:24Ever since Rick came to Madagascar, he complains about everything.
00:42:30I don't like the traffic, I'll tell you that much already.
00:42:34And they just leave the meat out like this without refrigeration?
00:42:38These are tight quarters right here.
00:42:40They're painted kind of squished.
00:42:43It's hot.
00:42:44I hope it's not going to be this hot in those days.
00:42:46Shouldn't they have like some long tongs?
00:42:49No, we don't need the long tongs.
00:42:51You are the only bougie here afraid of something.
00:42:54Oh, my God.
00:42:55Terrible.
00:42:57Oh, what?
00:42:59This is the living room?
00:43:01Yeah.
00:43:02Yeah, this is the living room.
00:43:25So they approve that you are here and it's going to give us a blessing.
00:43:33This blessing is just for accepting you to go around with me.
00:43:38Okay.
00:43:41In my culture, you cannot just walk around with a man outside there without your parents'
00:43:47acceptance, but it's not a blessing to get engaged.
00:43:53No, it's just he's giving an authorization to having a relationship.
00:44:01This is a blessing.
00:44:02It is a silver, yeah, a bracelet.
00:44:06This is a blessing that I have brought to you.
00:44:16This is a blessing that I found out with you.
00:44:18And I'm a little guy who is a friend of mine who is a friend of mine who has earned.
00:44:21And I'm a person who is a friend of mine who is a friend of mine who is a friend
00:44:36of mine.
00:44:55Thank you, thank you for this.
00:45:07Oh, is that his?
00:45:08Yeah, his wrist.
00:45:09Oh, okay.
00:45:35Until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving
00:45:39up hope.
00:45:40I'm still deeply in love with Daniel.
00:45:43I believe that if he just gives me a chance, he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:45:50Same sex is a disgrace.
00:45:51This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:45:54Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us, or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:46:38I feel miserable.
00:46:39terrible, numb, really sad, but I feel like a weight
00:46:51has been lifted off my shoulders.
00:46:53I just don't know what happens from here.
00:46:59Last night, I came clean to Daniel.
00:47:01I told him everything.
00:47:03There are no more secrets.
00:47:06And he didn't react good.
00:47:08He called me evil.
00:47:10He didn't talk to me.
00:47:12He looked at me with disgust.
00:47:13He's not accepting who I am.
00:47:16So he slept on the sofa.
00:47:17I slept in the bedroom.
00:47:20I'm mad, and I'm angry, and I'm hurt.
00:47:25But I'm still desperately, madly, deeply in love with Daniel.
00:47:30My plan is to go back to Lagos today.
00:47:33I'm cutting the trip short.
00:47:35There's a big fear he's never going to trust me again.
00:47:38And that he's going to leave me.
00:47:39But until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving
00:47:43up hope.
00:47:47Telling the truth is a heavier weight between Daniel and I.
00:47:51I don't even know if he wants to talk to his uncle anymore about me lying about still being
00:47:56married.
00:47:57But I believe that if he just gives me a chance, looks at me as Lisa, sees me as a
00:48:03person he
00:48:03fell in love with those months ago, that he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:48:09I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:11I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:12But now it's up to him.
00:48:19How do you feel?
00:48:21How do you feel?
00:48:21Lisa is full of lies.
00:48:23I don't think her lies is over.
00:48:25Because she keep on cooking new ones every day.
00:48:29Why did you call her evil?
00:48:31Because she's evil.
00:48:33Keeping all these secrets.
00:48:35I've been taking away of how to talk to my uncle about the one she told me already.
00:48:41That she has not been divorced, not knowing that she has been in a relationship with her
00:48:47fellow women.
00:48:48She's been practicing same sex.
00:48:51So I don't know how I'm going to face him.
00:48:54It's against our tradition.
00:49:05Daniel, can I ask you a question?
00:49:10Just allow me to be.
00:49:12Like we have to talk.
00:49:13You can't ignore me forever.
00:49:16Please.
00:49:18You need to give me time.
00:49:20I have to think.
00:49:24Can you grab your bags?
00:49:26I can't carry everything to the car.
00:49:30I'm not happy that the person I loved have engaged in this act of same sex.
00:49:37I'm not happy.
00:49:39Another love gone bad again, bad again, bad again.
00:49:44But what's obsessed me the most is the lies.
00:49:48I love Lisa.
00:49:50I want to forgive her.
00:49:51But after what she did, I don't trust her anymore.
00:49:55I don't know if I can continue this relationship.
00:49:58You're on your own, hope you feel the pain of your thoughts inside driving you insane.
00:50:09And I will love past my shoulder, cause it can't hurt anymore, hurt anymore, and it's already done.
00:50:33So are you ever going to talk to me?
00:50:37I am totally confused.
00:50:40We dated for six months.
00:50:42You have every opportunity to tell me whatever you want to tell me.
00:50:45But you never did.
00:50:47I was scared.
00:50:48Why didn't you tell my uncle?
00:50:51Because this is between me and you.
00:50:53Why does he need to know anything?
00:50:56Anything?
00:50:57Yeah.
00:50:57You called it anything?
00:50:58Yeah.
00:50:59Same sex is a disgrace to any family that is involved in it.
00:51:05It's against our tradition.
00:51:08But it's not against American tradition.
00:51:10But you're in my country.
00:51:12You're in my tribe.
00:51:13This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:51:17My uncle has to be involved.
00:51:19Are you promising me that you will not go back to practicing same sex?
00:51:24Daniel, if we're married, I plan on marrying you for the rest of my life.
00:51:28There's not going to be another woman.
00:51:30If I'm with you, I'm with you.
00:51:33Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us, or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:51:38I don't know.
00:51:41I don't think I will continue with this relationship until my uncle comes.
00:51:46I should have told you.
00:51:47I should have told you before I came.
00:51:50And then you could have determined if you wanted to even be with me or not be with me.
00:51:54And there wouldn't be all these emotions involved.
00:51:56And there wouldn't be all this struggle.
00:51:57I should have just told you I was scared to tell you.
00:52:01And I was scared to lose you.
00:52:05I'm scared of losing you.
00:52:08This all comes down to his uncle.
00:52:10When he finds out that I lied about me being with women for 21 years, I'm worried that his uncle
00:52:17will never forgive me and never accept me.
00:52:20And this relationship will be over.
00:52:24I don't want to talk about this anymore until my uncle comes.
00:52:27I'm scared of being with you.
00:52:33...
00:52:42...
00:52:45Don't help that out.
00:52:47That does not hurt.
00:52:48That really hurts?
00:52:50Yeah...
00:52:50It's not happening.
00:52:50That's how you know I'm so sexually attracted to you
00:52:52because I love popping your pimples.
00:52:54I'm good.
00:53:04Did you sleep well?
00:53:07I'm pretty tired.
00:53:08I can't believe after six months I had sex.
00:53:12I feel like I'm not a virgin anymore.
00:53:15Like, I'm a little mad at myself
00:53:17that I should have waited longer,
00:53:19but it felt right.
00:53:21It was a lot of fun.
00:53:24Do you think Chris hurt us?
00:53:28Possibly.
00:53:30How many times did you have sex last night?
00:53:33Twice.
00:53:35It was just too hard to keep our hands off each other
00:53:38and just it felt like it flowed.
00:53:40It was like missionary.
00:53:41It was great.
00:53:42And then like to the side was the other one.
00:53:46Did you get a glimpse of the picture of Chris above?
00:53:49I forgot that painting.
00:53:49I forgot that painting was in the room.
00:53:51Well, you didn't even me doggy style.
00:53:53I couldn't even see the painting last night.
00:53:58I feel like we're an old married couple.
00:54:01Like, I'm so comfortable with you.
00:54:03Like, usually, like, at home, like, if I, like, sleep with a guy,
00:54:07like, I just want to, like, go leave the next day.
00:54:09But, like, I'm stuck with you and I'm here with you.
00:54:12And then, like, I'm happy that I'm here.
00:54:14And, like, I came.
00:54:16And then, you know, did you?
00:54:19I did.
00:54:21Chris walking in when I'm on the couch getting massage,
00:54:23that definitely brought the mood down.
00:54:25He had a lot of making up to do if he wanted to have sex,
00:54:28and he definitely made it up.
00:54:30It was everything I could have dreamed of and more.
00:54:33Everything about this man is so sexy,
00:54:36except the uncircumcised.
00:54:39It was the first uncircumcised.
00:54:44It's a little weird.
00:54:45It's like, you know, but...
00:54:49Also, there's not, like, a dictionary on, like,
00:54:52how to use the extra skin, but...
00:54:56Like, like, I'm not complaining about it.
00:54:58I can deal with that.
00:55:01I'm glad that you felt comfortable.
00:55:06Very quickly.
00:55:08I did.
00:55:10I'm, like, one part of me is, like, super happy,
00:55:12but the other part of me is, like,
00:55:13I should have...
00:55:14I should...
00:55:14I want to know more than...
00:55:16And then...
00:55:16But whatever.
00:55:17Like, I shouldn't be so hard on myself.
00:55:19Just ask anything you want.
00:55:20Do anything you want.
00:55:22Say anything you want.
00:55:22Yeah.
00:55:23Okay, I'll start asking.
00:55:25Don't hate me.
00:55:25Okay, go.
00:55:28So, I'm confused about this rental situation.
00:55:31Like, a little annoying that Chris, like,
00:55:33walked in during that...
00:55:34Like, why is he even here with you,
00:55:37renting it in the first place?
00:55:39Because last I knew is you lived with your parents.
00:55:43Yep.
00:55:44I mean, look, we were living together,
00:55:46and then we sort of had to get out.
00:55:48After we moved out,
00:55:50I dropped my stuff to my parents
00:55:51and sort of stayed there for a week,
00:55:53but then, you know, I, um...
00:55:57I've been living with Nat.
00:56:00I've been staying at hers because, you know,
00:56:03she lives a lot closer to work.
00:56:05So why...
00:56:06I feel like I'm a detective
00:56:08and I'm trying to, like, navigate
00:56:10this, like, detective puzzle
00:56:11because you've confused me so much.
00:56:14I know Nat, we've talked on the phone a few times,
00:56:17but living together?
00:56:19I think their relationship's a little weird.
00:56:22If it's so platonic and you're just friends,
00:56:25why would you have to lie to me about it
00:56:26and tell me you're living with your parents?
00:56:29This just smells fishy to me.
00:56:34I just...
00:56:35I mean, to me, it's a little weird
00:56:37that you're living with a girl.
00:56:40And, like, you talk about her a lot, too,
00:56:43and, like, I just...
00:56:45I don't know, like...
00:56:46She's my friend.
00:56:48You're here, you're my girlfriend.
00:56:50So it's exactly the same as Chris.
00:56:52I would treat her exactly the same as I do Chris, you know?
00:56:55Like, do you guys, like, share a bathroom?
00:56:56Like, does she see you naked?
00:56:58Like, how does that work?
00:57:00Why is that funny?
00:57:01No, it's funny because, you know, I get it.
00:57:04That's, you know, I get why you'd ask those questions.
00:57:06Yeah, of course, we share a bathroom,
00:57:08but she hasn't seen me naked.
00:57:11Her and I are just friends.
00:57:12She's, like, you know, just a really good friend,
00:57:15but, you know, she knows about you
00:57:16and that you're my partner,
00:57:18and, you know, I really want you guys to get along
00:57:20because it's important for me.
00:57:22Well, you must feel some sort of way
00:57:23because you didn't tell me you lived with her.
00:57:29Maybe it was a part of me, you know,
00:57:31not wanting you to get, you know, jealous
00:57:33and back out of this before you got here.
00:57:35And how do I know you're telling me the truth?
00:57:38Well, that's your job to believe me,
00:57:40and it's my job to prove it to you.
00:57:44I'm supposed to meet Josh's friends tonight,
00:57:47including Nat.
00:57:48So I need to take advantage
00:57:49and get the whole picture of him.
00:57:51I want to see how Joshua treats me in front of her,
00:57:54see what she says to me,
00:57:55if there's any skeletons in the closet
00:57:57that Joshua hasn't told me that I'm going to find out.
00:57:59It's like, what else do I not know
00:58:02that I should know?
00:58:03I want to give Joshua the benefit of the doubt,
00:58:06but I don't fully trust him after this.
00:58:08At the end of the day, like, you know,
00:58:10you're, you know, you're mine
00:58:12and you're my number one priority, so...
00:58:32They want babies.
00:59:05That's a goat.
00:59:07We call it awusi.
00:59:09That's enough.
00:59:11It's small enough there.
00:59:24Oh, nice toa.
00:59:26Enjoy.
00:59:27Oh, thank you.
00:59:33I don't know if I can hook my legs like this.
00:59:37I'm going to sit like your aunt.
00:59:39I'm going to try that.
00:59:49She's not going to sit like this till the end,
00:59:52just serving the food.
00:59:55So far, everything has seemed pretty good
00:59:58with Rick and my family,
01:00:00even though he's acting like an old man.
01:00:07My father said,
01:00:08you have to use to do it.
01:00:11But I know my family is going to be asking him
01:00:15a lot of questions,
01:00:16and I don't know how Rick is going to respond.
01:00:28Like, what is the intention to me?
01:00:33I look at her as being a prospective wife-to-be.
01:00:46I love her very much,
01:00:48and I'm hoping that she could possibly love me the same.
01:00:53I love her very much.
01:01:13How old are you?
01:01:15Oh.
01:01:17I'm 52.
01:01:31You have the same age as him.
01:02:02You have married?
01:02:05You have married?
01:02:07Yes, I've been married too.
01:02:12Now I'm not married.
01:02:17Do you have a child?
01:02:20Yes.
01:02:21I have two babies, and then I have three adults.
01:02:31Five years.
01:02:50They want babies.
01:02:59Trish and I have been talking about whether or not we're going to have kids, and I'm just
01:03:06not ready to make that decision yet.
01:03:28They want respect.
01:03:36And as Malagasy, we get married.
01:03:38And I have a child.
01:03:44We all are living in Malagasy or not.
01:03:49I have a child with my child.
01:03:52I have a child.
01:03:54I have a child.
01:04:10I understand that.
01:04:12And now that I see how important this is, it's going to be the forefront of my mind.
01:04:29When are you going to decide it?
01:04:34Before, you know, I come to your father and ask for your hand in marriage, I will make a decision.
01:04:42Okay.
01:04:52Trish, she warned me about how strongly her family felt about having kids.
01:04:59But now the heat is on and I'm starting to feel the pressure.
01:05:04My feelings have grown so much for Trish that I couldn't picture a life without her at this point.
01:05:13But I really don't want to have more kids.
01:05:17I don't know how I'm going to make this decision.
01:05:24Today I found out that he was living with you.
01:05:26Yeah.
01:05:27I thought you knew that.
01:05:28I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:05:31I've tried that. It's never succeeded.
01:05:32Oh no, I have so many guy friends.
01:05:35Let's put two and two together.
01:05:36Josh lied to me about living there.
01:05:39Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:05:41So are you jealous of me?
01:06:42So frustrating.
01:06:48I'm really starting to feel hopeless that we're never going to resolve this problem.
01:06:56Really can't do this submissive thing.
01:07:01I'm afraid that he's trying to change me.
01:07:06But I mean, this is not like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where you can just back out.
01:07:14We're married, so I just can't ignore him forever, especially now that he's in my house.
01:07:26Hey.
01:07:28Hey.
01:07:33I like your outfit.
01:07:38Thanks.
01:07:39I mean, do you want to talk any about yesterday?
01:07:48Sometimes I just can't take your arrogance, Javon.
01:07:57I just think that I feel like I have to fight to be heard.
01:08:01You know, I know you want to come off like, you know, I'm not going to be pushed around.
01:08:04You're going to hear me.
01:08:07To me, it causes more fights than it solves.
01:08:13I get what you're coming from, but this is what you married.
01:08:18I am not the type of woman who would just say yes, just to have peace.
01:08:25Ever since I was a child, I felt like I was voiceless.
01:08:29And I saw my mom, you know, she gone through this domestic abuse in the past.
01:08:36The goodness in her was also the reason why she was abused.
01:08:42And I promised myself that's not going to happen to me.
01:08:47Every time you show some sarcastic remarks or arrogance or you raise your voice sometimes,
01:08:55I mean, we argue.
01:08:56My initial reaction is to stand up for myself if I have to.
01:09:04I know, but Anna, you understand I'm not your father.
01:09:08I don't raise my voice at you, and I'm not this person that's trying to, like, dominate you.
01:09:13I know you're not my dad.
01:09:15The point is, you're hard on me.
01:09:19I'm hard on you, but I'm not aggressive with it, you know?
01:09:23I know I've married a strong woman, but you're a little bit too strong.
01:09:27And that can sometimes work against you rather than for you.
01:09:33I grew up with an abusive father.
01:09:38He died a long time ago, but from hearing about my mom's relationship with my dad,
01:09:46I learned from a very young age when to speak up.
01:09:49If I'm not comfortable, I should know how to express my feelings and set boundaries.
01:09:56But maybe there's a way for me to be strong and independent without lashing out.
01:10:14And I'll do my best to, you know, I guess just not be so, you know, sarcastic and arrogant, okay?
01:10:28All right? Deal? All right. Come on.
01:10:32Be all right.
01:10:35I'll work it out, okay?
01:10:37Mm-mm!
01:10:38Nice, buddy!
01:10:39Oh, well, let's go to the room where it's cool, man.
01:10:42Want to?
01:10:43Yeah.
01:10:43All right.
01:10:46I just know, you know, whatever issues that me and Anna have had, I'm very proud to be worried.
01:10:54Thank you so much, Boo-Boo. Thank you.
01:10:58I don't know what it is, but every time we make up, he starts to look hot.
01:11:05Oh, yeah?
01:11:06Oh, yeah.
01:11:08Yeah, take me a minute to catch on.
01:11:21I don't know what it is.
01:11:24I get the feeling that we're going all the way
01:11:29Because we're falling deep, boy, and I got so much to say
01:11:32Baby, do I look okay?
01:11:35Absolutely perfect.
01:11:38but it might get a bit cold at night so maybe grab a jacket or something yeah and guess what
01:11:45what i have a purse that matches your outfit perfectly so i have to carry it yeah that's not
01:11:51great oh god it's a little nipply out a little nipply
01:12:08okay so where do you want to sit um is there upstairs the plan for today is we're going to
01:12:15go and meet my friends to get her out in the city in the harbor i am excited but nervous
01:12:21more so
01:12:22i explained to lise that i was living with nat and she was not happy about it
01:12:26but i want to prove to her that she has nothing to worry about
01:12:35are you falling yeah totally for you oh that was cool wow
01:12:45this is like stunning like not what i expected it's nice huh it's beautiful
01:12:52thank you babe i love how you hold my purse
01:12:58walking into this i'm afraid of a lot like i'm afraid you know am i going to catch him in
01:13:02any
01:13:03more lies i'm nervous to see how he's going to act towards me is he going to be attentive is
01:13:07he
01:13:07going to make me feel comfortable it's really important to be accepted into the friend group
01:13:11but on the same time like i came here for answers i want answers and i want to figure out
01:13:15his life
01:13:15and like i don't want to be lied to
01:13:31nice to meet you
01:13:34and i know you i know you i know you
01:13:40keep back keep back
01:13:44where are we all sitting
01:13:46we're all sitting i guess
01:13:48we'll get attacked by seagulls
01:13:50hopefully no one can look at my skirt
01:13:53just everyone man
01:13:55yeah sorry
01:13:56this is great
01:13:57oh my favorite people
01:14:00thank you i need this
01:14:02thank you so much
01:14:04to uh my girlfriend elise
01:14:06i don't know why that's so funny like why are you saying it with a smile
01:14:11okay to my girlfriend elise
01:14:19i've spoken to elise before
01:14:21and she comes across lovely but she comes across very miami
01:14:27like a lot of skimpy clothes right very skimpy but gorgeous
01:14:30like this is skimpy for us
01:14:32yeah well very skimpy yeah yeah correct right
01:14:34but she was skimpy skimpy skimpy yeah
01:14:3816 hours i'm so
01:14:39like i think this way
01:14:41guys i don't like i don't like this too far away so
01:14:44yeah i know
01:14:44wrap up to this other bar
01:14:45yes
01:14:50are we gonna go in here
01:14:52oh this face looks so cute
01:14:55my impression of josh's friends is
01:14:58they're all nice
01:15:01but when i see nat and i think my boyfriend lives with her i'm like
01:15:06is there something like i'm not understanding because i don't think there's a sexual connection
01:15:11but like i think it's weird i think it's so weird
01:15:15guys we need to make elise love sydney
01:15:19okay so otherwise uh i'll be moving to miami
01:15:23i can make you love sydney
01:15:24i would love that
01:15:26are you staying in sydney
01:15:28bond i beat
01:15:30i'm staying in a rental
01:15:31that joshua and chris have
01:15:35yep
01:15:36because today i found out that he was living with you
01:15:39yeah i thought you knew that
01:15:40yeah he was staying with me for a little bit
01:15:45so so how did he ask to live with you like how did this happen
01:15:49he was he was kind of between places and i was like why don't you just come and stay with
01:15:53me
01:15:53because it was much closer for his work
01:15:56and i you know to be honest i was going through a bit of a rough time
01:15:59um and i needed um to be i needed comfort i needed someone there to to support yeah shoulder to
01:16:06cry on so it was it worked out well
01:16:09i mean look as i said like she's one of my closest mates
01:16:15there's a lot to unfold i don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up i've tried
01:16:19that it's never succeeded
01:16:20i have so many guy friends
01:16:21i have so many guy friends
01:16:25and this is probably australia
01:16:26there's probably a little bit of culture
01:16:27it's a culture it's a culture thing
01:16:29it's a culture thing yeah
01:16:30it's definitely a culture thing yeah
01:16:30it's a bit more laid back we're a bit more easy about it
01:16:32like we trust we trust more i think
01:16:35i think we trust yeah
01:16:38i think men and women can be friends i have a lot of male friends
01:16:41i wouldn't ever sleep with josh he's my brother to me
01:16:45so i find it very weird
01:16:47yeah
01:16:47i think about lies and insecurities
01:16:49and hopefully they'll grow together and go through that
01:16:52yeah
01:16:52and that's how trust is built
01:16:57i think that he's gonna have a struggle
01:17:01maintaining you and maintaining me
01:17:02if i have to be completely honest
01:17:08so are you jealous of me
01:17:10and our relationship
01:17:12i feel uneasy about it
01:17:15yeah well look i get it
01:17:17and hopefully that can change you know
01:17:19i think it's more of the fact that you're living with her
01:17:21i guess the question i have
01:17:23are you paying like are you letting them lay there for free
01:17:26i'm always paying for both for the whole rental right
01:17:31right but um
01:17:31you have been generous
01:17:32i'm being generous
01:17:33i'm a generous person and i love doing that for my friends
01:17:36yeah
01:17:37well i think that she's helping you financially
01:17:39i think that she has a financial hold on you that's making you feel some sort of way
01:17:43no no no no no no no no i don't
01:17:45that's not that's it that that offends me
01:17:54she took me in and like like helped me out so yeah you could say financially help me there
01:17:59but in saying that like it's temporary everyone knows it's temporary
01:18:03probably i should have been more clearer and i should have been more transparent
01:18:07let's put two and two together joshua's struggling financially
01:18:11he's lied to me about living there
01:18:14something's fishy something shady
01:18:16i don't want my boyfriend getting financially supported by another girl that's disgusting and weird
01:18:22like that's not what i signed up for
01:18:30why do we have to live in your country
01:18:32if you live here with me i could take good care of you
01:18:35i don't know if i can leave my family
01:18:38i have been waiting here for the last seven years
01:18:40if he happened to come back to his country
01:18:43we're not even sure that he would ever come back
01:18:47i'm sorry i'm so sorry sheen
01:19:03so that was uh eye-opening
01:19:06yeah i know
01:19:17it's just so much information all at once
01:19:20yeah it's a lot to think about it to be honest
01:19:24sheena and i just met with an immigration lawyer
01:19:26and everything kind of blew up in my face
01:19:32i thought this entire time that it was only going to take months to get sheena
01:19:36to the united states and everything figured out
01:19:38but now after hearing that my disability payments that i get monthly
01:19:42does not count and it's going to take years
01:19:46this is the biggest setback ever
01:19:52there's just so many things going on in my head right now
01:19:55i just want to you know understand kind of what you're thinking
01:19:59well for me it's like i wanted to move in the u.s but the thing is it's been like
01:20:07seven years
01:20:07plus you're going to add another two or three years while you find a job and save enough money
01:20:13for the k-1 visa
01:20:17i don't know
01:20:20i know that you wanted to go to the u.s my love but why do we have to live
01:20:25in your country that's my good question
01:20:30it's easier for me to stay here
01:20:33it's easier for me to stay here
01:20:35it's easier for me to stay here
01:20:58and i know i am fighting with my mom but i don't know if i can leave my family
01:21:07what makes you upset is like
01:21:09it's like he loves his mom his family i understand that but what about me i have been waiting here
01:21:16for the last seven years
01:21:18if he happened to come back to his country
01:21:21we're not even sure that he would ever come back so
01:21:24i will be the one who's stranded and i will be hurt as well
01:21:40i just really felt sad disappointed i was expecting you
01:21:45that i could be with my partner for the last seven years
01:21:54i don't know
01:22:01i don't want to be apart from you that long and i don't want to
01:22:08i don't want to give up my mom
01:22:15sorry i'm so sorry i put you in this situation sheen
01:22:25now that i know that i can possibly stay here
01:22:28and be with sheena every single day
01:22:32i feel kind of stuck
01:22:33any option i make i'm either going to hurt the woman i love
01:22:37or my mother
01:22:41this
01:22:43this is probably the hardest decision i've ever had to make
01:22:47she's my second half i know she's the one for me
01:22:51and just being with her being able to talk
01:22:55joke have
01:22:56everything i don't want to lose that
01:23:10next time on before the 90 days
01:23:13team work makes the dream work babe
01:23:15ah you're going to play
01:23:16oh you're sorry
01:23:17you're kind of turning me on
01:23:19babe
01:23:19i did not know
01:23:21rolling some panther there
01:23:23could be sexy
01:23:24i'm so hungry
01:23:26you have pregnancy clearance
01:23:29i haven't gotten my period yet
01:23:32how would you feel if i was
01:23:38tell me you love her
01:23:39i was in love with her
01:23:41i would have made a move
01:23:43dude you made a move you blow it
01:23:45no no no no no no
01:23:47laura made a move on me
01:23:49i am thinking about sharing my life
01:23:51and you are keeping secrets from me
01:23:55this is betrayal
01:24:03this water is cold
01:24:05ha you can survive
01:24:07i hope trish's family can see that i'm trying
01:24:10and that i am a good partner for trish
01:24:23going to casablanca right now to see
01:24:26muhammad it's kind of surreal
01:24:27i mean i have my engagement ring muhammad gave to me when he proposed
01:24:33putting this ring back on is actually bringing up old feelings
01:24:37but i don't know how this meeting is going to go
01:24:42my heart's racing
01:24:49why did you just leave
01:24:52so you don't care that i'm upset
01:24:55so you just walk away from me
01:24:57after what i found out about nat
01:25:00my mind is just in so many directions
01:25:03and i'm freaking out
01:25:05i don't know what's going on right now
01:25:10i want to go home
01:25:18i want to go home
01:25:37i want to go home
01:25:39i want to go home
01:25:41i want to go home
01:25:42i want to go home
01:25:43i want to go home
01:25:44Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
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