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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03Wow.
00:00:04This is your room.
00:00:06Wait, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:00:09Like, you could have put a picture of me.
00:00:10Didn't have one.
00:00:11I would have settled for a smaller place without a roommate.
00:00:15But our chemistry, it's there.
00:00:18Good night.
00:00:19Good night.
00:00:20Feels very surreal having Elise here with me.
00:00:22But I'm a bit worried that she might find parts of my life
00:00:25that she's not exactly happy with.
00:00:28You keep talking about your ex.
00:00:29You keep bringing him up.
00:00:31I'd rather stay single than back to my ex.
00:00:34I just want to make sure that I'm the man that you want
00:00:37to be introduced to your family.
00:00:39I told you, yes.
00:00:41These issues just keep popping up.
00:00:43And the fact that her family might ultimately not approve of me,
00:00:48I'm feeling this is like make or break.
00:00:53It just felt like the right time to propose to Sheena.
00:00:57I asked you to hold off so she could prove herself.
00:01:00And then you just pull this little sneaky .
00:01:02Now she's got the whole cat in the bag, doesn't she?
00:01:05Sheena and I are going to move forward.
00:01:07You're going to be in our lives, but.
00:01:08You might be surprised, Forrest.
00:01:10I'm so disappointed.
00:01:12My mom would actually step away rather than accept Sheena as my wife.
00:01:16That's tearing me apart.
00:01:19I feel like your idea of being a husband changed.
00:01:23You see it like a power.
00:01:25I don't have any.
00:01:26Because when I tell you to do something, you don't listen to me.
00:01:30You want traditional roles when it applies to you.
00:01:34I think that you got comfortable.
00:01:36Don't ever get too comfortable, ever.
00:01:38You don't want a bitchy wife, don't be a asshole.
00:01:45Don't come home, ever.
00:01:48I love you so much.
00:01:50But stop telling me lies.
00:01:52There is more to tell him, and I have to get it said before he goes to his uncle.
00:01:57So, my last marriage wasn't with a man.
00:02:01I'm divorcing a woman, Daniel.
00:02:03You're the first man that I've been with in 21 years.
00:02:08It's not, it's not as bad as.
00:02:11Don't come close to me.
00:02:19Yeah, I can feel your energy is passing through me, I feel so alive.
00:02:39Good morning.
00:02:40Hi.
00:02:41How are you?
00:02:42Okay.
00:02:44Thank you for taking care of me last night.
00:02:47That's all right.
00:02:47I can't have you feeling sick as soon as you get here.
00:02:50Yeah, you're taking chances.
00:02:53This has been good since I want you more.
00:02:58Yeah.
00:03:00I feel so bad, like every hour I was making you get up and get me water and...
00:03:04So, who needs sleep?
00:03:06You're a very big caretaker.
00:03:08Yeah, well, long flight, and you weren't feeling this, so, you know.
00:03:13You're such a good boy.
00:03:16I arrived in Sydney yesterday, and I met my boyfriend Joshua for the first time, face to face.
00:03:23The plan was for Josh to sleep on the couch last night, but I was up every hour of the
00:03:29night.
00:03:30I was coughing, I was shivering, and he decided to come in the bed with me and take care of
00:03:35me all night.
00:03:36It just feels like it's like a sinus infection almost, like it's just like swollen here.
00:03:41Maybe you can go get me, like, nose spray.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:47I am a needy bitch, especially when I'm sick.
00:03:50I need my man to attend to me, like, a golden retriever puppy, like, running, like, catching a ball.
00:03:57Joshua does that.
00:03:58I feel a little better now with, like, all the water you've been making me drink, and I took my
00:04:03medicine.
00:04:04That's good. It's probably a good start.
00:04:07What is it?
00:04:09It's Regiment.
00:04:10What's that?
00:04:11You have to try it. It's a big thing in Australia.
00:04:13It smells like sardines.
00:04:17There's no fish in it.
00:04:20Just take a big bite.
00:04:26Suck!
00:04:26Is it good?
00:04:28It's not bad.
00:04:30No, I don't like it.
00:04:32I don't like it.
00:04:34Joshua, what is that?
00:04:36Is that fish?
00:04:37It's not fish.
00:04:40Do you want a tissue?
00:04:43It's a condiment.
00:04:45I don't know how to explain it.
00:04:46And you love it?
00:04:47Yeah, I do love it on toast.
00:04:49You're not Australian if you're not eating Vegemite.
00:04:51Tastes like .
00:04:53I hated it.
00:04:58All right, take this Vegemite away from me.
00:05:00All right.
00:05:01There's other stuff like berries and yogurt and stuff, so I'll grab you that.
00:05:06Yes.
00:05:06And then if you feel a bit better, maybe you want to go wander up to the beach and see
00:05:11Bondi.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12All right, well don't make me sick.
00:05:17I feel like you already got sick by kissing me all night.
00:05:21Well, I might get Toms too then.
00:05:28Wow, so this is your beach.
00:05:31This is it.
00:05:32Oh my God, all the guys that wear the what's the Speedo thing.
00:05:36Budgy snugglers?
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:38I can't.
00:05:42Wow, the sand feels so nice.
00:05:44Very different than Miami.
00:05:45It's like really soft.
00:05:49Do you want to go in?
00:05:50Yep.
00:05:51Wait, I have to change.
00:05:53Towel's in my bag.
00:05:54Okay.
00:05:55So let's figure this out.
00:05:57So here's to cover me.
00:05:59Okay.
00:06:02Well, this one, I can just go like this.
00:06:05Yeah.
00:06:09My top is off.
00:06:11Hold me.
00:06:12Hold me.
00:06:13How do you do this part?
00:06:15All right, so now we're going to go down.
00:06:16Yeah.
00:06:17So.
00:06:18What are you going to do that now?
00:06:22Hold it tight.
00:06:25I'm losing it.
00:06:30Voila!
00:06:31Well done.
00:06:35That was pretty impressive.
00:06:38Are you going to protect me if they're sharks?
00:06:41Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:06:42Let's go, ready?
00:06:43Okay.
00:06:46You got to hold on.
00:06:47I love it.
00:06:48I love it.
00:06:49I love it.
00:06:50I love it.
00:06:51I love it.
00:06:53I love it.
00:06:54Can I kiss you in some motion?
00:06:57It's actually insane to even think that I haven't even been here a full 24 hours.
00:07:01And it's so natural.
00:07:04There's a lot of sexual chemistry there.
00:07:07We're so touchy-feely, but he seems a little reserved.
00:07:12So I'm just trying to feel him out.
00:07:17I mean, I do have three weeks here, and I came here to find my potential husband.
00:07:22So getting to be alone with Joshua, it's nice because I want to get into the deeper stuff for sure.
00:07:32Holy moly, I'm cold.
00:07:34It's funny, you see adults in there freezing, and then you see like little kids, and they're just like pollucking
00:07:40around for hours.
00:07:41When I was a kid, I spent every day at the beach.
00:07:44We'd be swimming in the pool every morning.
00:07:47Okay.
00:07:48But then in the afternoons, we'd be like doing the board training every single afternoon.
00:07:54I love learning about you.
00:07:56I want to get to know everything about you.
00:07:58Yeah, good.
00:07:58I want to know the heart.
00:07:59Like, I want you to open up.
00:08:00I feel like you're reserved.
00:08:04Were you reserved in your last serious relationship?
00:08:07Yeah, I probably was a bit reserved in my last relationship.
00:08:10I was.
00:08:10Yeah.
00:08:11One big fear is probably, I don't know, opening up, and then having it used, like, against me.
00:08:18You know.
00:08:23My previous relationship, we dated for seven years, but I never felt secure.
00:08:29I just felt like I wasn't good enough for her.
00:08:32She just wanted me to be, you know, super successful.
00:08:37And I was constantly being told if I wasn't, she would walk away.
00:08:42So I was always living in fear, I guess.
00:08:45She could just end it at any time.
00:08:48Ultimately, I had my heart broken, and I'm closed off because of that.
00:08:54Like, are you constantly thinking, like, is something on your mind, or, like, it's just...
00:08:59Yeah, I'm always thinking.
00:09:00Always, always thinking.
00:09:01What's your top thought right now?
00:09:03I know.
00:09:04This is...
00:09:05I like that you're sort of asking these questions, but, you know, it's scary at the same time.
00:09:11Because it's opening up and being vulnerable.
00:09:13No, I get it.
00:09:15Like, opening up can be scary.
00:09:18But, you know what?
00:09:21You made me feel safe already.
00:09:22Really?
00:09:23That's like an early, early call.
00:09:26So, hopefully I'll do the same thing.
00:09:28Yeah, I feel safe with you too.
00:09:32Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:39I've never really had a guy say that to me, actually.
00:09:42Like, guys have said a lot of things to me, but feeling safe is not one I've heard.
00:09:47It feels good.
00:09:49I don't think there's anything sexier than a man being vulnerable.
00:09:53So, yeah, the plan was to wait.
00:09:56But, like, he's so sweet to me.
00:09:59He's so attentive to me.
00:10:00He's letting his guard down.
00:10:01Like, it's hard to resist a sexy man that's treating you well.
00:10:04So, we'll see.
00:10:19It's not...
00:10:20Don't...
00:10:21It's not as bad as...
00:10:22Don't come close to me.
00:10:25Daniel.
00:10:28You're telling me you have been a lesbian?
00:10:32Listen.
00:10:33Don't try it.
00:10:34Listen to me.
00:10:35Don't even come...
00:10:36Don't...
00:10:36Don't try it.
00:10:37Listen.
00:10:38I'm telling you the truth before we talk to your uncle.
00:10:43I want it all out.
00:10:44That's why I said I needed another day.
00:10:46I wanted you to know everything.
00:10:52Daniel.
00:10:54Daniel.
00:10:55Don't come close to me.
00:10:57Please try to understand.
00:11:00I...
00:11:01You don't know how hard it was to...
00:11:03You have a lot of secrets.
00:11:04I have no more secrets.
00:11:06I have no more secrets.
00:11:07Just listen, please.
00:11:08I'm trying to tell you who I am.
00:11:10Jesus Christ.
00:11:12I'm not a lesbian.
00:11:14I'm not straight.
00:11:15I'm not bisexual.
00:11:17I just believe that people should love people.
00:11:20People should love people by their soul.
00:11:22And people should love people for who they are on the inside.
00:11:25Not on what is on the outside.
00:11:30I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:11:32You told me you have had serious of, you know, relationship.
00:11:35I didn't know it's your fellow women.
00:11:38Same sex.
00:11:41Yes.
00:11:42And you have been lying to me.
00:11:45I'm sorry.
00:11:49You are evil.
00:11:51I'm not evil.
00:11:53You know me.
00:11:54I take care of people.
00:11:55And I've even taken care of you.
00:11:57I'm not evil.
00:11:58I have a good heart.
00:12:00And I'm a good person.
00:12:01What makes you a good person?
00:12:04Sleeping with your fellow women?
00:12:05That doesn't make me evil.
00:12:08I'm still the same person you fell in love with.
00:12:12The same person who tell lies and keep secrets.
00:12:15I love you.
00:12:17I don't want to hear that from your mouth again.
00:12:19I love you.
00:12:21Don't say that again.
00:12:23You can't tell me not to say those words because I mean it.
00:12:26I am in love with you, Daniel.
00:12:28That's why I'm coming clean to you.
00:12:29I could have kept this a secret forever and not told you.
00:12:33But I'm telling you.
00:12:34Shut your mouth.
00:12:35You have been threatened by a woman.
00:12:37Not even women.
00:12:38Women.
00:12:42You are a liar.
00:12:44I'm just a person who has been lost.
00:12:53Don't.
00:12:53Can you hold this ring?
00:12:55No.
00:12:57Hold the ring.
00:13:00I've seen that from your head to toe is full of secrets and lies.
00:13:05You're full of evil.
00:13:08I'm not full of evil, Daniel.
00:13:11I'm staying in my room tonight.
00:13:26I thought I've seen it all.
00:13:28But she keep on vomiting secrets.
00:13:32No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:13:38I didn't think he'd call me evil.
00:13:41I'm not evil.
00:13:43I just believe a person loves a person.
00:13:46And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:13:53Daniel's not going to accept me for who I am.
00:13:56You know what?
00:13:57F*** him.
00:13:59F*** him.
00:14:16F*** him.
00:14:17And I don't want to waste any time bringing Sheena to America.
00:14:21So I have to be very clear here.
00:14:24If you file today for the K-1 visa, it will be denied.
00:14:29F*** him.
00:14:37We are like me.
00:14:44That tattoo's funny.
00:14:52this is right out so we can see we are here i'm tired let's get a rest
00:15:18so this is like a gonna be like a village environment right yeah yesterday we traveled
00:15:26from nusibet for dauphin my hometown we arrived late so we stay in a hotel and now we are going
00:15:36to my family's village for a few days can't forget my baby wipes i don't know how you guys wash
00:15:43your
00:15:43ass in the village we use the water we had a big fight last night i still love him and
00:15:54i want him
00:15:55to meet my family but i don't feel like everything is resolved yet between me and rick
00:16:05i don't want to run this vacation but the way you talk to me yesterday
00:16:10day i don't like
00:16:16i went a little overboard and i'm sorry for that
00:16:21i'm sorry for raising my voice to you it's just i was so frustrated you know
00:16:29hearing about your your ex-boyfriend constantly i mean i can't move forward if you're gonna keep
00:16:36going back
00:16:42okay i promise i'm not gonna talk about my ex
00:16:49okay we are going to see my family and i don't want to go there in a bad mood
00:16:56i want them to accept you because i want this relationship work i do too
00:17:06i overreacted yesterday it seemed like she was taunting me over something that she already knows
00:17:14that i'm insecure about then it just totally set me off i want to be here and um
00:17:21i want to really give this a chance yeah there's definitely a strong connection between
00:17:29her and i and i'm glad that trish is willing to forgive me
00:17:36so i think we can like get a quickie in before we go what since we're no
00:17:48let's go now
00:17:54nice tuxus right here yeah it's nice
00:18:10it's quiet you see not much people
00:18:14it's not what i expect
00:18:19rough roads
00:18:23the roots are made of aluminum let's get noisy when it rains huh yeah
00:18:34i'm excited to see my family and go back to my village everything is just simple there is no
00:18:43running water no fancy toilet but everybody are kind in my village and it's beautiful
00:18:54do you think they're gonna be happy to see yeah to see me what about me
00:19:01they're gonna be happy to see me baby
00:19:06they're happy because i bring a boyfriend and they will tell me if you were the good person for me
00:19:14or not
00:19:18yeah i just hope those questions don't come too hard and fast
00:19:24i feel a little bit scared my family won't accept rick
00:19:32men in my tribe is very strong when they don't like something they are really aggressive
00:19:42rick thinks he can handle any situation but he can't i'm worried he doesn't know what he's in for
00:19:53oh
00:19:53this is it right here yeah it's here there's no turning back
00:20:10so we're gonna have to call a gp i'm super duper nervous about writing one oh you're gonna have
00:20:16two how's that how's that work well you can see those sign boards uh-huh just have to find the
00:20:21right location so then we just have to kill para
00:20:24so here oh here yes all right we're officially on the jeepney
00:20:42oh there it is i'm surprisingly not tapping the top two hardcore yeah it's hot it smells like diesel
00:20:58it's been a couple days since i proposed to sheena and we are just over the moon in love with
00:21:05each
00:21:05other but not everyone's happy my mom is still mad at me because i proposed to sheena against her
00:21:14guidance and the vibe in the condo is just really awkward so sheena and i have been trying to do
00:21:24our own
00:21:24thing oh my gosh so this is the ball here all right here we go we're getting off yeah thank
00:21:31you
00:21:33while it really hurts that my mom has distanced herself right now is not the time to put the
00:21:37brakes on things i only have a week left here in the philippines and i don't want to waste any
00:21:41time
00:21:42in bringing sheena to america good morning do you have an appointment with mr alexandra king please
00:21:50yes now that we're finally engaged i called an immigration lawyer in manila just so we can get
00:21:56a consultation hi oh hi sir hi good morning how are you good how are you nice to meet you
00:22:05nice to meet you nice to meet you
00:22:07good afternoon good afternoon sir welcome to our office and welcome to the philippines thank you
00:22:13i've been enjoying my stay okay so for for this uh consultation i would like to you know uh make
00:22:20an
00:22:20assessment of course if you are eligible for the k1 visa yeah no uh how long have you been in
00:22:28this uh
00:22:28in this relationship seven years seven years seven years and you have never been convicted of any crime
00:22:34in the u.s no let's be clean yeah when i walk you can hear yeah so uh are you
00:22:42uh working right now
00:22:46currently i'm not working but i can prove that i'm getting paid monthly okay i'm receiving uh disability
00:22:55benefits which is it's a good enough amount to have me you know live my basic life and you know
00:23:02get an
00:23:02apartment and get food all that good stuff i see so i have to um uh be very clear here
00:23:12you know
00:23:14disability benefits is not an income you know you cannot consider that the annual income for petitioners
00:23:24for uh k1 visa is more or less 26 500 usd now is that shared between no it's only the
00:23:33petitioner okay
00:23:37so um if you will file today for example it will be denied
00:23:47my suggestion is you build your financial capacity you know find gainful employment then uh you can proceed
00:23:58i'm in complete shock right now i feel devastated to find out that my disability payments that i get
00:24:06monthly does not count towards the amount that i need to bring shit into the united states
00:24:11to be honest because of my autism i am terrified about working full-time and starting a job
00:24:22in the past i've had jobs that ended
00:24:27awfully because i didn't understand or i messed up but my back is at a wall right now that if
00:24:36i don't get a
00:24:37job our entire dream of bringing china to the united states is done so let's say you know i go
00:24:45back home
00:24:46yeah and i instantly start working yeah how long is enough to have a stable form of income you know
00:24:53before the k-1 is actually granted so yeah uh you need probably a year uh employment history
00:25:02okay and then uh you will meet another year uh at least uh to have the petition approved and bring
00:25:10your
00:25:10fiance to the u.s yeah
00:25:16it's quite frustrating for me that i'm the only one who's been working
00:25:21if he happened to have a job then he could have acquired the cave of visa sooner
00:25:29i'm worried that since forest have a disability it will be quite difficult for him to get and hold
00:25:36a job long term is there other any other options so depending on your goal here in the philippine
00:25:46immigration we have a straightforward process if you get married here and he comes to the philippines
00:25:52and live here there is no requirement of financial capacity okay okay so there will be a hundred percent
00:26:00chance that the petition will be approved okay okay so these options will depend on your goal
00:26:12at this point it's sounding almost impossible for forest to bring me to the u.s
00:26:18i know it's going to be difficult but i think he's going to have to consider other options
00:26:33i don't know i'm just real pissed off and at this moment i'm at a crossroads i don't know how
00:26:39to move
00:26:52for
00:26:53can i at least have my wallet no okay don't talk to me don't come to me
00:27:06you think you can just treat me this way humiliate me all the time all right i'm gonna just give
00:27:11you
00:27:41space all right
00:27:43Oh.
00:27:44I'm going to...
00:27:46I'm going to...
00:27:48I'm going to lick my husband.
00:27:54That's right.
00:27:57That's it.
00:28:02Oh.
00:28:15I will be very guilty if I leave him on the street.
00:28:19But just to be clear, I'm very pissed at him.
00:28:25He promised a really good day.
00:28:27But of course, he needs to ruin the moment
00:28:30because it's not Jabon if he doesn't.
00:28:41Anna, am I allowed to come in?
00:28:43No.
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00:29:01We're just going to leave him for now.
00:29:03Just give her space, man.
00:29:05So she can just calm down.
00:29:08No.
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00:29:13I just feel really hopeless with Anna
00:29:17because I'm putting in massive effort
00:29:20to show Anna that I can be romantic.
00:29:23And, you know, she storms out of the nail salon place
00:29:28and it's just, I don't know, I'm just real pissed off
00:29:30that she would make a scene in public like this.
00:29:34And at this moment, I'm at a crossroads.
00:29:37I don't know how to move forward.
00:29:40Mama, are you day good?
00:29:43It's okay.
00:29:46Every time we're having a good time,
00:29:50he would do this to me.
00:29:51Right in front in public.
00:29:54It's so humiliating.
00:29:56I don't think he's powerless.
00:29:59The fact that he could upset me this much
00:30:01definitely has power obviously relationship.
00:30:09I don't know.
00:30:12How's your baby?
00:30:13Nana?
00:30:17I didn't want to go with John.
00:30:19Why?
00:30:20It's a bad trip.
00:30:22Because...
00:30:22Why?
00:30:23Because he wants to have a relationship
00:30:25with a young girl.
00:30:26He's a dominant.
00:30:27Like this, like this, like this.
00:30:29I don't want to go with that.
00:30:31I didn't want to go with that.
00:30:33I didn't want to go with that.
00:30:35I didn't want to go with that.
00:30:40Say goodbye.
00:30:42Say goodbye.
00:30:44Say goodbye.
00:30:44I don't want to talk.
00:30:45I don't want to talk to you.
00:30:46What happened to me?
00:30:47It's a good one.
00:30:50It's a good one.
00:30:50So, don't forget your relationship.
00:30:53Don't forget this relationship.
00:30:55I am so, so, so, so tired of it.
00:30:57Do I have to be this timid...
00:31:00Yeah, but...
00:31:00Anna, I'm not trying to get you to change.
00:31:03...self-spoken woman.
00:31:04It's like I've, like, sacrificed a lot of my life so you can be happy.
00:31:11And even when I do the things you want me to do, it's something else you want me to do.
00:31:18So I'm like, look, I just give up.
00:31:21There's nothing else that I can do to make you, you know, happy.
00:31:27I feel exactly the same sometimes.
00:31:39I'm so cold.
00:31:40Can I have a shower with me?
00:31:42Okay.
00:31:44I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:31:46Maybe.
00:31:48But, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:31:51I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:31:54Ha ha!
00:32:24I'm so cold.
00:32:25Come have a shower with me?
00:32:26Come have a shower with you, man.
00:32:28Come on now.
00:32:29Never thought you would ask.
00:32:31Ha ha!
00:32:39I'm so cold!
00:32:41Oh no.
00:32:45Every f***ing day's year is cold!
00:32:53I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:32:56Maybe.
00:32:57But Joshua and I are both super sandy and gross from the ocean.
00:33:02And I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:33:05I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:33:10I'm trying to control myself.
00:33:12But Josh is just, like, so hot.
00:33:14And we've been making out all day.
00:33:17You know, in the back of my mind, I do have some questions.
00:33:20And I do want to see more of him and more of his life.
00:33:23But, like, at this point, like, it feels right.
00:33:27So I bought some massage oil.
00:33:29And then I think there's some wine.
00:33:31Maybe we can have a glass and relax.
00:33:33I love it.
00:33:34OK, perfect.
00:33:45Babe, are you coming?
00:33:47Yeah.
00:33:51Everything feels really natural.
00:33:53Everything feels like it's progressing between us.
00:33:56We just draw on to each other, which is, you know, really exciting.
00:34:01We had an amazing day together.
00:34:02And I want to pamper Elise.
00:34:05Now's the time to pour some wine, you know, light a candle and, you know, show her that I've got
00:34:10skills.
00:34:16Wow.
00:34:18Look at this.
00:34:19Yeah.
00:34:23Welcome to Sydney.
00:34:25Making you feel better and more relaxed.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:34Do you like a massage?
00:34:35Yeah, I would love one.
00:34:37I'm going to light it up.
00:34:38This doesn't mean you're necessarily sleeping in the bed tonight.
00:34:41It's a cow.
00:34:41I didn't sleep yet.
00:34:44Lay on your stomach.
00:34:45Okay.
00:34:54Is that all right?
00:34:55That's okay.
00:34:59Wow, that's a lot of oil.
00:35:10You're like trying to be like a little respectful, but come on.
00:35:16Don't be a little bitch.
00:35:18Give me like everything.
00:35:19Slap on the ass?
00:35:20Yeah, slap on the ass.
00:35:21Like grab my hair with the oil in it.
00:35:24I mean, I don't have extensions for nothing.
00:35:26Rip me around a little bit here.
00:35:29Wow.
00:35:30Wow.
00:35:31It's a family show, I thought you said.
00:35:35Are you nervous?
00:35:36Yeah.
00:35:38Shaking.
00:35:39I can feel it.
00:35:40You reckon?
00:35:41Mm-hmm.
00:35:49All right, guys.
00:35:54What the f*** are you doing?
00:35:58Oh, my God.
00:36:00The timing on me.
00:36:03Hi, Chris.
00:36:04Yeah, hi.
00:36:05Nice.
00:36:06Now it's a party.
00:36:08Now it's a party.
00:36:09I can't stop on my mic now.
00:36:11I'm getting another wine glass.
00:36:15I did not see that coming.
00:36:16I did.
00:36:18I don't f***ing half naked right now.
00:36:20But, you know, there's better places to give a naked massage in the house than the communal area as well.
00:36:25Half naked massage.
00:36:26Yeah, you know what?
00:36:26You're absolutely right.
00:36:27Yeah.
00:36:28But, you know, I think I was just blind with lust.
00:36:32Ew.
00:36:33You just have to say it's so weird for, bro.
00:36:39All right.
00:36:40Well, I'm going to go to my room.
00:36:44Well, that just ruined the moment.
00:36:47This is exactly why I don't want a guy with roommate.
00:36:52Can you button me back up?
00:36:55I'm, like, literally in my bra and underwear.
00:36:58Showing your skin to other people?
00:37:01Who is that?
00:37:02Not me.
00:37:03No, I'm not embarrassed.
00:37:04Like, I'll get naked in front of everyone.
00:37:06We know that.
00:37:06But, like, Chris f***ing walks in as your hands are groping my body and it's, like, such a sexual nice
00:37:12night.
00:37:13And, like...
00:37:13Yeah, I probably should have done it in the bedroom.
00:37:15Not my finest hour.
00:37:17Sorry, baby.
00:37:19Well, that f***ing killed the mood.
00:37:21For now.
00:37:24Okay.
00:37:33Andrus?
00:37:34Andrus?
00:37:34Andrus, andrus, andrus, the air to air.
00:37:36Wait, this is the shower?
00:37:37Yeah.
00:37:38I think toilet.
00:37:40Oh, hell no!
00:37:42Yeah.
00:37:43I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:37:48Paper for the...
00:37:51Is it paper to write on?
00:37:53You wipe this...
00:37:54Yes!
00:37:55This freak!
00:37:56Stop it!
00:38:20Wow, babe.
00:38:20This is where you grew up?
00:38:22Yeah, it's here.
00:38:24Yeah.
00:38:35Yeah.
00:38:37Is that your rooster?
00:38:38No, not mine, but my neighbors.
00:38:41Oh, okay.
00:38:42We just got to the area of Trish's family home.
00:38:46I've never seen a home where you have to walk so far to get to off the main road.
00:38:53Ooh, this is a journey.
00:38:55Don't complain.
00:38:57But I'm happy to be here with Trish because I want a future with her and if I can get
00:39:05her
00:39:05family's approval, I think that she would be able to see that I'm a good person and maybe
00:39:11it would make up for what I did in the past.
00:39:16Oh, this is it?
00:39:17Yeah, this is my house.
00:39:20Oh, that's my sister.
00:39:22Oh, this is your sister.
00:39:25I need to meet her.
00:39:28She does look like you.
00:39:30She's very beautiful.
00:39:31Yeah, she is.
00:39:32Nice to meet you.
00:39:35And who is this?
00:39:37My brother.
00:39:38Oh, this is your brother?
00:39:39Yes.
00:39:39Come on, brother.
00:39:41For a vote.
00:39:42Cheesy.
00:39:43Come on.
00:39:44Hello, sir.
00:39:44How are you doing?
00:39:46Nice to meet you.
00:39:47Nice to meet you.
00:39:50Trish has told me that she has a huge family and they all live on this compound together.
00:39:57Hi, I'm Rick.
00:39:58It's nice to meet you.
00:39:59Oh, this is your brother.
00:40:00Okay.
00:40:03Okay.
00:40:03Nice to meet you.
00:40:05Oh, how are you?
00:40:06My sister.
00:40:07This is your sister?
00:40:09It's so nice to meet you.
00:40:10You look like my grandmother.
00:40:13I wasn't expecting that many people.
00:40:16You know, I keep seeing people pouring in one by one.
00:40:21Just when I'm thinking that should be everybody there.
00:40:24Then there's more people coming.
00:40:26Like, how am I going to remember all these people's names and who they are?
00:40:31Bye-bye.
00:40:47My dad says, you sleep down?
00:40:49The Therese Matura Ombuna.
00:40:52Oh.
00:40:53And me?
00:40:54Okay.
00:40:57The bunk beds remind me of when I was a kid and me and my sister.
00:41:01I never imagined myself sleeping in the bunk bed at my age.
00:41:06But I respect her dad and their culture.
00:41:12How are you?
00:41:14Hello.
00:41:14Hello?
00:41:15Hello?
00:41:15Hello?
00:41:16Hello?
00:41:16Hello?
00:41:18This is the shower?
00:41:19Yeah.
00:41:20We just put water in the container and bring it here.
00:41:25There's no running water coming to wrench you off.
00:41:29No.
00:41:30And where does this water come from?
00:41:32From the river?
00:41:33Like, something under the ground.
00:41:37A well?
00:41:38Yeah.
00:41:40He's going to show you the bathroom.
00:41:42Okay.
00:41:44I smell something already.
00:41:46How do you toilet?
00:41:48Oh, hell no!
00:41:50Yeah.
00:41:51All I see is a wooden plank with a hole cut out of it.
00:41:57Paper for the...
00:42:00Wait, wait, wait.
00:42:03This is paper to write on.
00:42:05You wipe this?
00:42:06Yes.
00:42:06Rick, stop it.
00:42:09That's how I...
00:42:09Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:10Finish.
00:42:11Oh, good.
00:42:13That's it.
00:42:15I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:42:21But I'm not surprised.
00:42:24Ever since Rick came to Madagascar, he complains about everything.
00:42:30Don't like the traffic, I'll tell you that much already.
00:42:34And they just leaving me down like this without...
00:42:37Refrigeration?
00:42:38These are tight quarters right here, baby.
00:42:41It's kind of squished.
00:42:43It's hot.
00:42:44I hope it's not going to be this hot in Losi Bank.
00:42:46Shouldn't they have, like, some long tongs?
00:42:49No, we don't need the long tongs.
00:42:51You are the only bougie here afraid of something.
00:42:53Oh, my God.
00:42:55Terrible.
00:42:59This is the living room?
00:43:01Yeah.
00:43:02Yeah, this is the living room.
00:43:03It's not a living room.
00:43:05Mandrusu, Mandrusu, Mandrusu, Mandrusu.
00:43:07Mandrusu.
00:43:08What is this, like, a family meeting or something?
00:43:12Okay.
00:43:12Yeah.
00:43:25So they approved that you are here.
00:43:29And he's going to give us a blessing.
00:43:32This blessing is just for accepting you to go around with me.
00:43:38Okay.
00:43:41In my culture, you cannot just walk around with a man outside there without your parents'
00:43:47acceptation.
00:43:49But it's not a blessing to get engaged.
00:43:53No.
00:43:53It's just he's giving an authorization to having a relationship.
00:44:00It's a spirit blessing.
00:44:02That's it.
00:44:03It is a silver.
00:44:05Yeah, a bracelet.
00:44:33All right.
00:44:56Thank you for this.
00:45:06Oh, is that his?
00:45:08Yeah, he's Chris.
00:45:09OK.
00:45:35Until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not
00:45:39giving up hope.
00:45:40I'm still deeply in love with Daniel.
00:45:43I believe that if he just gives me a chance, he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:45:50Same sex is a disgrace.
00:45:51This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:45:54Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us, or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:46:16He is.
00:46:37There's nothing here.
00:46:39I have no idea.
00:46:39I think that there's nothing here for me to make him happy.
00:46:39Unreservable, numb, really sad, but I feel like a weight
00:46:51has been lifted off my shoulders.
00:46:53I just don't know what happens from here.
00:46:59Last night, I came clean to Daniel.
00:47:01I told him everything.
00:47:03There are no more secrets.
00:47:06And he didn't react good.
00:47:08He called me evil.
00:47:10He didn't talk to me.
00:47:12He looked at me with disgust.
00:47:13He's not accepting who I am.
00:47:16So he slept on the sofa.
00:47:18I slept in the bedroom.
00:47:20I'm mad, and I'm angry, and I'm hurt.
00:47:25But I'm still desperately, madly, deeply in love with Daniel.
00:47:30My plan is to go back to Lagos today.
00:47:33I'm cutting the trip short.
00:47:35There's a big fear he's never going to trust me again.
00:47:37And that he's going to leave me.
00:47:39But until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving
00:47:43up hope.
00:47:46Telling the truth is a heavier weight between Daniel and I.
00:47:51I don't even know if he wants to talk to his uncle anymore about me lying about still being
00:47:56married.
00:47:57But I believe that if he just gives me a chance, looks at me as Lisa, sees me as the
00:48:03person
00:48:03he fell in love with those months ago, that he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:48:09I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:11I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:12But now it's up to him.
00:48:18I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:23I don't want to be with Daniel.
00:48:28I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:31I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:37the way of how to talk to my uncle about the one she she told me already that she
00:48:42have she have not been divorced not knowing that she has been in a
00:48:46relationship with your fellow women she'll be practicing same-sex so I don't
00:48:52know how I'm going to face him it's against our tradition
00:49:05Daniel can I ask you a question just allow me to be like we have to talk you can't ignore
00:49:14me
00:49:14forever please you need to give me time I have to think
00:49:24can you grab your bags I can't carry everything to the car
00:49:30I'm not happy that the person I loved have engaged in this act of same-sex I'm not happy
00:49:44but what's obsessed me the most is the lies I love Lisa I want to forgive her
00:49:51but after what she did I don't trust her anymore I don't if I can continue this relationship
00:49:57you're on your own hope you feel the pain of your thoughts inside driving you insane
00:50:33so are you ever going to talk to me
00:50:37I am totally confused
00:50:40we dated for six months you have every opportunity to tell me whatever you want to tell me
00:50:45but you never did I was scared why didn't you tell my uncle
00:50:50because this is between me and you why does he need to know anything
00:50:56anything yeah you call this anything yeah
00:50:59same-sex is a disgrace to any family that involve involved in it
00:51:05it's against our tradition but it's not against American tradition
00:51:10but you're in my country you're in my tribe this is something that you and I cannot settle
00:51:17my uncle have to be involved are you promising me that you will not go back to practicing same-sex
00:51:23Daniel if we're married I plan on marrying you for the rest of my life there's not going to be
00:51:29another
00:51:29woman if I'm with you I'm with you are you still thinking that there's a chance for us or is
00:51:36there
00:51:36no chance for us Daniel I don't know I don't think I will continue with this relationship until my uncle
00:51:44comes
00:51:46I should have told you I should have told you before I came and then you could have determined
00:51:51if you wanted to even be with me or not be with me and there wouldn't be all these emotions
00:51:55involved
00:51:56and there wouldn't be all this struggle I should have just told you I was scared to tell you
00:52:01and I was scared to lose you
00:52:05I'm scared of losing you
00:52:08this all comes down to his uncle
00:52:10when he finds out that I lied about me being with women for 21 years
00:52:14I'm worried that his uncle will never forgive me
00:52:18and never accept me
00:52:20and this relationship will be over
00:52:24I don't want to talk about this anymore until my uncle comes
00:52:27please
00:52:45don't help that
00:52:47that does not hurt that really hurts
00:52:49it's not that's how you know I'm so sexually attracted to you because I love popping your pimples
00:52:54I'm good
00:53:04did you sleep well
00:53:07I'm pretty tired
00:53:08I can't believe after six months I had sex
00:53:12I feel like I'm not a virgin anymore
00:53:15like I'm a little mad at myself that I should have waited longer but it felt right
00:53:21it was a lot of fun
00:53:24do you think Chris hurt us?
00:53:39it was like missionary it was great and then like to the side was the other one
00:53:46did you get a glimpse of the picture of Chris above?
00:53:49I forgot that painting was in the room
00:53:50well you didn't even me doggy style
00:53:52I couldn't even see the painting last night
00:53:56I feel like we're an old married couple
00:54:00like I'm so comfortable with you
00:54:02like usually like at home
00:54:05like if I like sleep with a guy
00:54:07like I just want to like go leave the next day
00:54:09but like I'm stuck with you
00:54:11and I'm here with you
00:54:12and then like I'm happy that I'm here
00:54:14and like I came
00:54:16you know did you?
00:54:18I did
00:54:21Chris walking in when I'm on the couch getting massage
00:54:23that definitely brought the mood down
00:54:25he had a lot of making up to do
00:54:27if he wanted to have sex
00:54:28and he definitely made it up
00:54:30it was everything I could have dreamed of and more
00:54:32everything about this man is so sexy
00:54:35except the uncircumcised
00:54:39there's a first uncircumcised
00:54:44it's a little weird
00:54:45it's like
00:54:48also there's not like a dictionary on like how to use extra skin
00:54:53but like I'm not complaining about it
00:54:58I can deal with that
00:55:01I'm glad that you felt comfortable very quickly
00:55:08I did
00:55:09I'm like one part of me is like super happy
00:55:11but the other part of me is like
00:55:13I should have
00:55:14I should I want to know more
00:55:15and then but whatever
00:55:17like I shouldn't be so hard on myself
00:55:18just ask anything you want
00:55:20do anything you want
00:55:21say anything you want
00:55:22yeah
00:55:22okay I'll start asking
00:55:24don't hate me
00:55:25okay go
00:55:28so I'm confused about this rental situation
00:55:31like a little annoying that Chris like walked in during that
00:55:34like why is he even here with you renting it in the first place
00:55:39because last I knew is you lived with your parents
00:55:42yep
00:55:44um I mean like we were living together and then we sort of had to get out
00:55:48after we moved out I dropped my stuff to my parents and sort of stayed there for a week
00:55:53but then you know I um
00:55:57I've been living with Nat
00:56:00I've been staying at hers because you know she lives a lot closer to work
00:56:04so why
00:56:06I feel like I'm a detective and I'm trying to like navigate this like detective puzzle
00:56:11because you've confused me so much
00:56:14I know Nat we've talked on the phone a few times
00:56:17but living together
00:56:19I think their relationship's a little weird
00:56:21if it's so platonic and you're just friends
00:56:24why would you have to lie to me about it and tell me you're living with your parents
00:56:28this just smells fishy to me
00:56:33um I just I mean to me it's a little weird that you're living with a girl
00:56:39and like you talk about her a lot too and like I just I don't know like
00:56:46she's my friend you're here you're my you're my girlfriend
00:56:50so it's exactly the same as Chris I would treat exactly the same as I do Chris you know
00:56:55like do you guys like share a bathroom like does she see you naked like
00:56:58like how does that work
00:57:00why is that funny
00:57:01no it's funny because you know I get it that's you know I get why you'd ask those questions
00:57:06um yeah of course we share a bathroom right but um she hasn't seen me naked
00:57:11her and I are just friends she's like you know just a really good friend but you know
00:57:15she knows about you and that you're my partner and you know um I really want you guys to get
00:57:20along because it's important for me
00:57:21well you must feel some sort of way because you didn't tell me you lived with her
00:57:29maybe it was a part of me you know not wanting you to get you know jealous and back out
00:57:34of this
00:57:34before you got here so how do I know when you're telling me the truth
00:57:38well that's your job to believe me and it's my job to prove it to you
00:57:44I'm supposed to meet Josh's friends tonight including that so I need to take advantage and
00:57:49get the whole picture of him I want to see how Joshua treats me in front of her see what
00:57:54she
00:57:54says to me if there's any skeletons in the closet that Joshua hasn't told me that I'm going to find
00:57:59out it's like what else do I not know that I should know I want to give Joshua the benefit
00:58:05of the doubt
00:58:06but I don't fully trust him after this at the end of the day like you know you're you know
00:58:11you're
00:58:12mine and you're my number one priority so
00:58:23I'm 52 52
00:58:36they want babies
00:59:00you can help okay that's a goat we call it
00:59:08I wish that's enough this is small enough there
00:59:26oh thank you
00:59:33I don't know if I can hold my legs like this
00:59:37I'm gonna sit like your aunt when we try that
00:59:47only women are allowed to sit like this
00:59:49she's not gonna sit like this till the end just serving the food so far everything is seem pretty
00:59:58good with Rick and my family even though he's acting like an old man
01:00:06my father said you have to use to do it but I know my family is going to be asking
01:00:14him a lot of
01:00:15questions and I don't know how Rick is going to respond
01:00:28like what is the intention to me
01:00:33I look at her as being a prospective wife to be
01:00:41I love her very much and I'm hoping that that she could possibly love me the same
01:01:12how old are you oh I'm 52
01:01:2652 you have the same age as him
01:01:4552 you have married
01:02:0552 you have married yes i've been married
01:02:0852 you have married yes i have two babies and then i have three adult
01:02:2653 they want babies
01:02:59Trish and I have been talking about whether or not we're going to have kids and I'm just
01:03:06not ready to make that decision yet.
01:03:33They want respect and as a Malagasy, we get married and have a child.
01:03:44I'm going to have a child in Malagasy.
01:03:50I'm going to have a child in the world.
01:03:52I'm going to have a child in the world.
01:04:10I understand that, and now that I see how important this is, it's going to be the forefront of my
01:04:18mind.
01:04:29When are you going to decide it?
01:04:34Before, you know, I come to your father and ask for your hand in marriage, I will make a decision.
01:04:42Okay.
01:04:52Trish, she warned me about how strongly her family felt about having kids.
01:04:59But now the heat is on and I'm starting to feel the pressure.
01:05:04My feelings have grown so much for Trish that I couldn't picture a life without her at this point.
01:05:12But I really don't want to have more kids.
01:05:17I don't know how I'm going to make this decision.
01:05:24Today, I found out that he was living with you.
01:05:26Yeah.
01:05:27I thought you knew that.
01:05:27I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:05:31I've tried that. It's never succeeded.
01:05:32Oh no, I have so many guy friends.
01:05:35Let's put two and two together. Josh lied to me about living there.
01:05:38Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:05:41So are you jealous of me?
01:06:19I'm so frustrated with Javon,
01:06:21but it makes me feel good when I look good, so.
01:06:25I'm just going to do my own thing.
01:06:29Can we talk?
01:06:40That's all we do, talk.
01:06:42So frustrating.
01:06:48I'm really starting to feel hopeless
01:06:52that we're never going to resolve this problem.
01:06:55I really can't do this submissive thing.
01:07:01I'm afraid that he's trying to change me.
01:07:06But, I mean, this is not like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship
01:07:10where you can just back out.
01:07:14We're married, so I just can't ignore him forever,
01:07:19especially now that he's in my house.
01:07:26Hey.
01:07:28Hey.
01:07:34I like your outfit.
01:07:38Thanks.
01:07:39I mean, do you want to talk any about yesterday?
01:07:48Sometimes I just can't take your arrogance, Javon.
01:07:57I just think that I feel like I have to fight to be heard.
01:08:01You know, I know you want to come off like, you know,
01:08:03I'm not going to be pushed around.
01:08:04You're going to hear me.
01:08:07To me, it causes more fights than it solves.
01:08:13I get what you're coming from, but this is what you married.
01:08:18I am not the type of woman who would just say yes just to have peace.
01:08:25Ever since I was a child, I felt like I was voiceless.
01:08:29And I saw my mom, you know, she gone through this domestic abuse in the past.
01:08:34Mm-hmm.
01:08:36The goodness in her was also the reason why she was abused.
01:08:42And I promised myself that's not going to happen to me.
01:08:47Every time you show some sarcastic remarks or arrogance
01:08:53or you raise your voice sometimes when we argue,
01:08:56my initial reaction is to stand up for myself if I have to.
01:09:04I know, but Anna, you understand I'm not your father.
01:09:08I don't raise my voice at you and I'm not this person
01:09:11that's trying to, like, dominate you.
01:09:13I know you're not my dad.
01:09:15You're not.
01:09:15The point is, you're hard on me.
01:09:19I'm hard on you, but I'm not aggressive with it, you know?
01:09:22I know I've married a strong woman, but you're a little bit too strong.
01:09:27And that can, that can sometimes work against you rather than for you.
01:09:33I grew up with an abusive father.
01:09:38He died long time ago, but from hearing about my mom's relationship with my dad,
01:09:45I learned from a very young age when to speak up.
01:09:49If I'm not comfortable, I should know how to express my feelings and set boundaries.
01:09:56But maybe there's a way for me to be strong and independent without flushing out.
01:10:14And I'll do my best to, you know, I guess just not be so, you know, sarcastic and arrogant, okay?
01:10:28All right? Deal? All right.
01:10:31Come on.
01:10:32Be all right.
01:10:35I'll work it out, okay?
01:10:39Oh, let's go to the room where it's cool, man.
01:10:42You want to?
01:10:42Yeah.
01:10:43All right.
01:10:46I just know, you know, whatever issues that me and Anna have had, I'm very proud to be with her.
01:10:53Thank you so much, boo-boo.
01:10:58I don't know what it is, but every time we make up, he starts to look hot.
01:11:04Oh, yeah?
01:11:08Yeah.
01:11:10Take me a minute.
01:11:12Catch on.
01:11:24I get the feeling that we going all the way.
01:11:29Cause we falling deep, boy, and I got so much to say.
01:11:33Baby, do I look okay?
01:11:35Absolutely perfect.
01:11:38But it might get a bit cold at night.
01:11:41So maybe grab a top or something.
01:11:43Yeah.
01:11:44And guess what?
01:11:45What?
01:11:45I have a purse that matches your outfit perfectly.
01:11:48So I have to carry it?
01:11:49Yeah.
01:11:50That's not great.
01:11:51Am I the one you wanted?
01:11:56Am I the one you wanted?
01:11:58Oh God, it's a little nipply out.
01:12:01A little nipply.
01:12:04Do you want a chocolate?
01:12:06Yeah.
01:12:06Do you want a chocolate?
01:12:07Yeah.
01:12:08Do you want a chocolate?
01:12:08Okay, so where do you want to sit?
01:12:11Um, is there upstairs?
01:12:13The plan for today is we're going to go and meet my friends to get her out into the city
01:12:17in the harbour.
01:12:18I am excited, but nervous more so.
01:12:22I explained to Elise that I was living with Nat and she was not happy about it.
01:12:27But I want to prove to her that she has nothing to worry about.
01:12:35Are you falling?
01:12:37Yeah.
01:12:37Falling for you.
01:12:38Oh, that was cool.
01:12:42Wow.
01:12:46This is like stunning, like not what I expected.
01:12:49It's nice, huh?
01:12:50It's beautiful.
01:12:52Thank you, babe.
01:12:54I love how you hold my purse.
01:12:58Walking into this, I'm afraid of a lot.
01:13:00Like I'm afraid, you know, am I going to catch him in any more lies?
01:13:03I'm nervous to see how he's going to act towards me.
01:13:06Is he going to be attentive?
01:13:06Is he going to make me feel comfortable?
01:13:08It's really important to be accepted into the friend group.
01:13:11But on the same time, like I came here for answers.
01:13:13I want answers and I want to figure out his life.
01:13:15And like, I don't want to be lied to.
01:13:19Hi.
01:13:20Hello, hello, hello.
01:13:22Hello.
01:13:24Hello.
01:13:25Nice to meet you.
01:13:25Nice to meet you.
01:13:26You're beautiful.
01:13:27Oh, you're a y'all person.
01:13:28I'm tall.
01:13:29No, I meant y'all, not tall.
01:13:31How are you?
01:13:32How are you?
01:13:33Nice to meet you, finally.
01:13:34How are you?
01:13:36And I know you.
01:13:37I know you.
01:13:39Oh.
01:13:40Keep back.
01:13:41Keep back.
01:13:42What is it, Leo?
01:13:43Tobacco?
01:13:45Where are we all sitting?
01:13:46We're all sitting alone, man.
01:13:48We're sitting, I guess.
01:13:49We'll get attacked by seagulls, but...
01:13:50Hopefully no one can look up my skirt.
01:13:54Just everyone, man.
01:13:55Yeah, sorry.
01:13:56This is great.
01:13:58Oh, my favorite people.
01:14:01I need this.
01:14:03Thank you so much.
01:14:04To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:14:06I don't know why that's so funny.
01:14:08Like, why are you saying it with a smile?
01:14:11It's like...
01:14:11Okay.
01:14:12To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:14:15I can't.
01:14:20I've spoken to Elise before.
01:14:22And she comes across lovely, but she comes across very Miami.
01:14:27Like, a lot of skimpy clothes, right?
01:14:29Yeah.
01:14:29Very skimpy, but gorgeous.
01:14:30Like, this is skimpy for us.
01:14:32Yeah, well...
01:14:32Very skimpy.
01:14:33Yeah, yeah.
01:14:34Correct, correct, correct.
01:14:34But she'll skimpy, skimpy, skimpy.
01:14:35Yeah.
01:14:36Are you jet lagging?
01:14:3816 hours.
01:14:39I'm so jet lagged.
01:14:40I'm in this way.
01:14:41Guys, I don't like...
01:14:42I don't like...
01:14:43They're sitting too far away, so...
01:14:44Yeah, I know.
01:14:44Wrap up to this other bar?
01:14:46Yes, let's do it.
01:14:46Okay.
01:14:47Let's go.
01:14:50Are we gonna go in here?
01:14:52Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:14:52We're gonna go in here.
01:14:53Oh, this place looks so cute.
01:14:55Yeah.
01:14:56My impression of Josh's friends is they're all nice.
01:15:01But when I see Nat and I think my boyfriend lives with her, I'm like,
01:15:06is there something, like, I'm not understanding?
01:15:08Because I don't think there's a sexual connection, but, like, I think it's weird.
01:15:12I think it's so weird.
01:15:15Guys, we need to make Elise love Sydney.
01:15:19Okay.
01:15:20So, otherwise, uh, I'll be moving to Miami.
01:15:23I can make you love Sydney.
01:15:24I would love that.
01:15:26Are you staying in Sydney?
01:15:28Bond, I bid.
01:15:30I'm staying in a rental that Joshua and Chris have.
01:15:35Yep.
01:15:36Because today I found out that he was living with you.
01:15:39Yeah.
01:15:39I thought you knew that.
01:15:40Yeah.
01:15:41He was staying with Hank for a little bit.
01:15:46So, how did he ask to live with you?
01:15:48Like, how did this happen?
01:15:49He was kind of between places and I was like, why don't you just come and stay with me?
01:15:53Because it was much closer for his work.
01:15:57And, you know, to be honest, I was going through a bit of a rough time.
01:15:59Um, and I needed, um, to be, I needed comfort.
01:16:03I needed someone there to, to...
01:16:05Yeah, shoulder to cry on.
01:16:06So, it was, it worked out well.
01:16:09I mean, look, as I said, like, she's one of my closest mates.
01:16:15There's a lot to unfold.
01:16:16I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:16:19I've tried that.
01:16:19It's never succeeded for me.
01:16:21I have so many guy friends.
01:16:22Oh, yay!
01:16:22I have so many guy friends.
01:16:25And this is probably Australia.
01:16:26It's probably a little bit different.
01:16:28It's a culture thing.
01:16:29It's a culture thing, yeah.
01:16:29It's definitely a culture thing, yeah.
01:16:30Or, like, back, we're a bit more easy about it.
01:16:32Like, we trust more, I think.
01:16:35Yeah.
01:16:35I think we trust.
01:16:36Yeah.
01:16:38I think men and women can be friends.
01:16:40Yes.
01:16:40I have a lot of male friends.
01:16:41I wouldn't ever sleep with Josh.
01:16:43He's my brother to me.
01:16:45So, I find it very weird.
01:16:47Yeah.
01:16:47I think of allies around insecurities.
01:16:49And hopefully they'll grow together and grow through that.
01:16:52Yeah.
01:16:52Yeah.
01:16:52And that's how trust is built.
01:16:57I think that he's going to have a struggle.
01:17:01Maintaining you and maintaining me.
01:17:02If I have to be completely honest.
01:17:08So, are you jealous of me?
01:17:10And our relationship?
01:17:12I feel uneasy about it.
01:17:15Yeah.
01:17:16Well, look, I get it.
01:17:17And hopefully that can change, you know.
01:17:19I think it's more of the fact that we are living with her.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:21I guess the question I have, are you paying?
01:17:24Like, are you letting them live there for free?
01:17:27I'm always paying for the whole rental, right?
01:17:31Great.
01:17:31But, um...
01:17:31You have been generous.
01:17:33I've been generous.
01:17:33I'm a generous person and I love doing that for my friends.
01:17:36Yeah.
01:17:37Well, I think that she's helping you financially.
01:17:39I think that she has a financial hold on you that's making you feel some sort of way.
01:17:43No.
01:17:43No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:17:45No, I don't.
01:17:45No, that's...
01:17:46No.
01:17:47That's...
01:17:48See, that...
01:17:48That offends me.
01:17:54She took me in and, like, helped me out.
01:17:57So, yeah, you could say financially, help me there.
01:17:59But in saying that, like, it's temporary.
01:18:01Everyone knows it's temporary.
01:18:03I should have been more clearer and I should have been more transparent.
01:18:07Let's put two and two together.
01:18:09Joshua's struggling financially.
01:18:11He's lied to me about living there.
01:18:14Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:18:16I don't want my boyfriend getting financially supported by another girl.
01:18:20That's disgusting and weird.
01:18:22Like, that's not what I signed up for.
01:18:29Why do we have to live in your country?
01:18:32If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:18:35I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:18:38I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:18:40If he happened to come back to his country,
01:18:42we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:18:47I'm sorry.
01:18:48I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:19:03So that was eye-opening.
01:19:06Yeah, I know.
01:19:17It's just so much information all at once.
01:19:20Yeah, he's allowed to think about it, to be honest.
01:19:24Sheena and I just met with an immigration lawyer and everything kind of blew up in my face.
01:19:32I thought this entire time that it was only going to take months to get Sheena to the United States
01:19:37and everything figured out.
01:19:38But now, after hearing that my disability payments that I get monthly does not count and it's going to take
01:19:45years,
01:19:46this is the biggest setback ever.
01:19:52There's just so many things going on in my head right now.
01:19:55I just want to, you know, understand kind of what you're thinking.
01:19:59Well, for me, it's like I wanted to move in the U.S.
01:20:04But the thing is, it's been like seven years.
01:20:08Plus, you're going to add another two or three years while you find a job and save enough money for
01:20:13the K-1 visa.
01:20:17I don't know.
01:20:20I know that you wanted to go to the U.S., my love.
01:20:24But why do we have to live in your country? That's my good question.
01:20:30It's easier for you to stay here, got a Filipino visa.
01:20:35And I'm a professional here.
01:20:37If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:20:41Then I'll try to help you to find a job as well.
01:20:44I think that's the best option for us.
01:20:51I still have my worries about that, though.
01:20:54With my autism, it makes things hard.
01:20:58And I know I am fighting with my mom, but I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:21:07What makes me upset is, like, he loves his mom, his family.
01:21:12I understand that.
01:21:13But what about me? I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:21:18If he happened to come back to his country, we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:21:24So I will be the one who's stranded, and I will be hurt as well.
01:21:29Reach out, fly low, when I'm thinking.
01:21:39I just really felt sad, disappointed.
01:21:42I was expecting you that I could be with my partner for the last seven years.
01:21:54I don't know.
01:22:01I don't want to be apart from you that long, and I don't want to...
01:22:08I don't want to give up my mom.
01:22:15Sorry. I'm so sorry I put you in this situation, Sheen.
01:22:25Now that I know that I can possibly stay here and be with Sheena every single day,
01:22:32I feel kind of stuck.
01:22:33Any option I make, I'm either going to hurt the woman I love or my mother.
01:22:42This...
01:22:43This is probably the hardest decision I've ever had to make.
01:22:47She's my second half. I know she's the one for me.
01:22:52And just being with her, being able to talk, joke, have everything, I don't want to lose that.
01:22:58I won't give up, baby.
01:23:03I won't keep trying.
01:23:10Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:23:14Teamwork makes the dream work, baby.
01:23:15Ah, you're going to play.
01:23:16Oh, you're sorry.
01:23:17You're kind of turning me on.
01:23:19Babe.
01:23:20I did not know.
01:23:24I'm so hungry.
01:23:26You have pregnancy clearance?
01:23:29I haven't gotten my period yet.
01:23:32How would you feel if I was?
01:23:38Tell me you love her.
01:23:40I was in love with her.
01:23:42I would have made a move.
01:23:43Dude, you made a move. You blow it.
01:23:45No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:23:47Laura made a move on me.
01:23:49I am thinking about sharing my life, and you are keeping secrets from me.
01:23:54This is betrayal.
01:24:03This water is cold.
01:24:05You can survive.
01:24:07I hope Trish's family can see that I'm trying, and that I am a good partner for Trish.
01:24:13And it was a mandate that I would have.
01:24:15I would have to send you.
01:24:17I would have to send you.
01:24:20I would have to send you.
01:24:24Going to Casablanca right now to see Mohamed, it's kind of surreal.
01:24:28I mean, I have my engagement ring Mohamed gave to me when he proposed.
01:24:33Putting this ring back on is actually bringing up old feelings.
01:24:38But I don't know how this meeting is going to go.
01:24:42My heart's racing.
01:24:49Why didn't you just leave?
01:24:51You're upset.
01:24:52So you don't care that I'm upset?
01:24:55So you just walk away from me?
01:24:58After what I found out about Nat, my mind is just in so many directions, and I'm freaking out.
01:25:05I don't know what the f*** is going on right now.
01:25:10I don't want to go home.
01:25:13Can they help me?
01:25:15She have gotten married five times, and from 21 years she has been in a relationship with several women.
01:25:23why am i hearing this one now this is an abomination no i can't help what my past is
01:25:30like i am willing to do whatever it takes to be with daniel i can't believe you
01:25:37because of this the marriage will be over
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