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00:00:01Previously...
00:00:01Welcome home!
00:00:03The homestays saw some lock-in plans for their lives beyond the experiment.
00:00:08I'm open to moving now.
00:00:10I've got everything that I want in an apartment.
00:00:12I've got my reassurances.
00:00:14We are coming out stronger.
00:00:16Stephen stepped up, giving Rachel reassurance for their future.
00:00:20What I see is a wife outside the experiment.
00:00:26After a tense few days on the farm, Sam and Chris made a shock decision.
00:00:32I can't see this working.
00:00:34It's all good. It is what it is.
00:00:35It's not how I envisioned it would end.
00:00:38I really thought Chris would fight for me a bit.
00:00:41You want to have a family.
00:00:43You don't want to keep putting it off.
00:00:46Following advice from her mother, Alyssa began to spiral.
00:00:49I'm just getting very overwhelmed with what I have at stake here
00:00:54and what I could potentially be walking away from.
00:00:56Leaving David disheartened...
00:00:58The way Alyssa is handling the situation, it is making me uneasy.
00:01:03Tonight...
00:01:04Throughout this experiment, I have been patient.
00:01:06But when you're dealing with the mum, the family, friends,
00:01:10they all said that I'm a great guy for her,
00:01:12and she still sees negatives, there's nothing else I can do.
00:01:16Has David reached his limit?
00:01:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:01:21You never say space.
00:01:24It's the second last dinner party of the experiment.
00:01:28I can see we can do life together,
00:01:30but I feel a lot more confident now that we can take this out onto the outside.
00:01:34Have Rachel and Stephen become this year's new power couple?
00:01:38Who would have thought?
00:01:39Who would have thought?
00:01:41The person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:01:45But babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:01:48Tensions rise when Sam and Chris air their concerns.
00:01:51You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey.
00:01:55And I've never been aggressive to you.
00:01:58And then...
00:01:59I think, like, for me, as a man, I feel like...
00:02:03Oh, God.
00:02:04Oh, my God.
00:02:06What are you on about?
00:02:07Yeah.
00:02:08It's the shock debate that will divide the table.
00:02:12That was not what I was getting at.
00:02:14Are we serious for this?
00:02:30Our couples have returned from their homestay.
00:02:33And our brides and grooms are enjoying a new sense of closeness.
00:02:38After stepping into the life that could be waiting for them outside the experiment.
00:02:43Hi.
00:02:45Hey.
00:02:45Bonjour.
00:02:46Bonjour.
00:02:47Recharged and hopeful, the couples now turn their attention to the second last dinner party
00:02:53of the experiment, eager to reconnect after time apart.
00:02:58Are you excited?
00:02:59I am excited because it's been a very long time since we caught up with everyone.
00:03:05We don't know what the hell is going on.
00:03:08It's going to be exciting.
00:03:10A lot of guys to come up.
00:03:12This is...
00:03:12I'll be straight up with you.
00:03:13This is the most anticipated dinner party I'm looking forward to.
00:03:17Yeah.
00:03:17Really?
00:03:18How come?
00:03:18We went through...
00:03:20The ups and downs.
00:03:21We went through the ups and downs.
00:03:21The trenches.
00:03:23But coming out of the end of it, good.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Everything's...
00:03:26Everything is exactly where it needs to be.
00:03:28For Rachel and Stephen, Homestays sparked a breakthrough in their marriage, unlocking a new confidence
00:03:35in their relationship.
00:03:37Hello, hello.
00:03:38Hello, sexy.
00:03:39Looking good.
00:03:40I appreciate that.
00:03:41I like the red.
00:03:42Right now, we've just come off the back of Homestays and it was amazing.
00:03:46Something definitely clicked for Stephen and I.
00:03:48It was that this could work.
00:03:51I think that's really what it is.
00:03:53I'm ready to, like, load up the boat again and get straight back up to the Central Coast
00:03:57and just, you know, start hanging out and yeah.
00:04:01So, it was really good.
00:04:02We had such...
00:04:04It was such a great Homestay and I'm actually just really excited to share that with everyone.
00:04:09And that's it.
00:04:10I'm glad you had a good time and you could see, you know, a little bit of my lifestyle.
00:04:16After Homestays, it's given me confidence.
00:04:18I feel a little bit better outside the experiment now.
00:04:21Like I said to Rachel, can I see myself falling in love with you?
00:04:26Yes, I can.
00:04:27And I mean that and Homestays really gave me confidence in that.
00:04:32I think we're really lucky.
00:04:34You know, other couples may not have had a good Homestay,
00:04:37so we're really lucky to have had the good experience that we did.
00:04:42While Homestays brought some closer...
00:04:46For Scott, welcoming Gia into his home presented new challenges.
00:04:51What's that?
00:04:52It's a neck brace.
00:04:54Why is it pink?
00:04:55Why is it pink? Why not?
00:04:57You're trying to find a problem.
00:04:59Is it your ex or something?
00:05:00Yeah.
00:05:00Do you trust me? Like, do you trust my words?
00:05:03Do you trust me as a person?
00:05:04Yeah, I trust you.
00:05:06Yeah, why?
00:05:08I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells because I feel like if I want to bring up something,
00:05:12I feel like you might misinterpret it the wrong way.
00:05:15I know I trust you, but can I commit to moving and everything if you never feel like, you know,
00:05:21that you love me?
00:05:22But back at the apartments, eternal optimist Scott is determined to hit reset and look on the bright side.
00:05:29I feel great.
00:05:31I just feel good walking into this dinner party, being able to share, like, good moments that we've had.
00:05:36I feel like it'll be good.
00:05:37Like, I feel like tonight's going to be a really good, positive night to share what we've done for Homestays.
00:05:43Yeah.
00:05:44At the end of Homestays, we had a bit of a discussion, but we hashed it out.
00:05:50Today, we're going to the dinner party with positive attitude, we're great, we're in a really good place.
00:05:54I want to keep it like that.
00:05:57Yeah, I mean, I'm pretty happy with where we're at.
00:06:01I'm coming to the end now, this is the last or second last one.
00:06:04Mm.
00:06:05So, yeah.
00:06:07Do you think it would cause problems if you, you know, raised some concerns?
00:06:12Oh.
00:06:16Pretty much.
00:06:18Let's just do it, get it done.
00:06:20I'm excited.
00:06:21You look good, we feel good, and I'm ready to walk into a nice dinner party.
00:06:27Yep, me too.
00:06:30For Bec and Danny, what began as a promising homestay took a dramatic turn.
00:06:36If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:06:43I think, obviously, because Danielle fancied me, she didn't want to, like...
00:06:49I'm joking.
00:06:51I'm joking.
00:06:52I'm joking.
00:06:52It's like a serious moment.
00:06:56These moments make me feel like shit.
00:06:58It's serious for me.
00:07:00You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say,
00:07:04oh, your cousin wants to me.
00:07:06Like...
00:07:07I never said that.
00:07:08Yeah.
00:07:08I'm done.
00:07:09You're a f***ing boy.
00:07:10F***ing thing.
00:07:11F***ing boy.
00:07:14F***ing.
00:07:15And now back at the apartment, an even bigger shock awaits.
00:07:23So since we got back to Sydney from homestays, things are great.
00:07:28Like...
00:07:29Cheers, baby.
00:07:30Cheers, girl.
00:07:31The last night, like, since we've been back, like, there's not really any need to talk
00:07:35about it.
00:07:35Like, he made a joke.
00:07:37It frustrated me.
00:07:39He got frustrated with me.
00:07:40And then we wake up the next morning.
00:07:42We give each other a cuddle.
00:07:43We have a shower.
00:07:45Can we move on?
00:07:46Cheers.
00:07:47It's all blown over.
00:07:49Like...
00:07:50Shocking.
00:07:51Oh, stop it!
00:07:54For most couples, homestays brought them together.
00:07:58But for one couple, it marked the end of the road.
00:08:02Going to the dinner party tonight, yeah, I'm going alone.
00:08:05And obviously Chris and I left each other at homestays.
00:08:09I wrote some questions down and maybe we could just be, like, really raw and honest
00:08:14with each other about all the answers.
00:08:18First question is...
00:08:20Do you accept full responsibility for your defensiveness and the aggression I felt
00:08:23from you last week?
00:08:27Yeah.
00:08:29You don't have to agree.
00:08:30Yeah, no, I agree.
00:08:31I just feel like I've already suffered enough from this.
00:08:35I honestly felt like I was, um, 15, getting in trouble by a teacher or something.
00:08:39Do you have feelings for me?
00:08:42Um...
00:08:45Okay, um...
00:08:47In the beginning, uh, yes.
00:08:49But I just think, um, yeah, we also have some, um, differences as well.
00:08:55And I just want to put my dad hat on and, like, live my best life.
00:09:01Home stays was my last plea to see if he was going to fight for me at all.
00:09:06But Chris just kind of gave up.
00:09:10So, I did break up with Chris on the farm.
00:09:13But I'm going to the dinner party because I want that last chance to sort of just, like,
00:09:18find out why Chris actually didn't want this relationship.
00:09:24I just want clarity on what the hell happened.
00:09:27But Sam isn't the only one struggling with the fallout of their homestay.
00:09:33During their trip to Adelaide, Alyssa received a wake-up call.
00:09:37Obviously, I want to settle down in Adelaide, but...
00:09:41What are your thoughts about me moving to Sydney just for a couple of years?
00:09:45I would hate that.
00:09:49Um, you know, you want to have a family and you don't want to keep putting it off.
00:09:56People sometimes take ten years to fall pregnant.
00:09:59That's the truth.
00:10:00Yeah, I know, but, well, I don't know that yet. I've never tried.
00:10:02That's right.
00:10:03But you don't know that.
00:10:05A couple of years?
00:10:06A couple of years.
00:10:08You've got a couple of years to wait.
00:10:12It's really stressful now.
00:10:15And after a confronting conversation with her mum, Alyssa unraveled.
00:10:20And David was left wondering where he fits.
00:10:23I will be honest with you.
00:10:26I...
00:10:26I started to spiral.
00:10:29Like, I want to have a family in the next few years.
00:10:33Don't want to miss out on being a mum.
00:10:34And if we're going to make this thing work,
00:10:37David might have to move to Adelaide.
00:10:39Alyssa, I'm really sorry, babe.
00:10:40I have to ask this to you.
00:10:43You've sat here and you've talked a lot about what your wants and needs are.
00:10:50What about...
00:10:50Yeah, David.
00:10:53Now back at the apartments,
00:10:55David has had a wake-up call of his own.
00:11:01Oh, man, I'm feeling at my limit post-homestays.
00:11:09Can I see myself living in Adelaide?
00:11:11Absolutely.
00:11:12But, you know, after having, you know, come back to Sydney
00:11:16and having time to just come down from the high of homestays,
00:11:20I am feeling a bit low.
00:11:22And that is because there were a couple of things that have still, like,
00:11:27trinkled in the back of my mind.
00:11:29Could you see yourself living here?
00:11:33To be honest, yeah.
00:11:36I know that you're willing to move here, which is great.
00:11:40But, I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it
00:11:43because you're, like, literally...
00:11:44Is you overwhelmed?
00:11:45I am, I am, I am, because it's, like, a lot.
00:11:50David actually is everything that you've asked for.
00:11:53I know.
00:11:53Right now, this is too good to be true.
00:11:55Like, and that is also another reason why I'm scared too.
00:11:59Throughout this experiment, I have been patient
00:12:02because I know there is something in this relationship to fight for.
00:12:06But when you get to that point where, like,
00:12:09you're dealing with, like, the mum, the family, friends,
00:12:12they all said that I'm a great guy for her
00:12:15and she still sees negatives.
00:12:17There's nothing else I can do.
00:12:20I've hit my limit and I'm not going to push any further.
00:12:24It's getting very real that I could potentially
00:12:26be putting everything on the line for someone
00:12:29who doesn't want to meet me halfway.
00:12:33So, today I know I need to be honest.
00:12:36For me, I think it's important to just express how I feel.
00:12:40Looking handsome.
00:12:41Thanks, babe. You're looking gorgeous.
00:12:43Lovely. I love the dress.
00:12:44Thank you. Well, we're kind of almost matching.
00:12:48How are you feeling going to the dinner party after homestays?
00:12:54Homestays was a massive, massive week.
00:12:57So, I'm at the point where, like I said, you know,
00:13:01I'm happy to give all the space you need.
00:13:05I'll take the space I need, because I definitely need space.
00:13:08Yeah, like, I feel like I've just gone and put it all on the line.
00:13:12And, you know, at the end of the day, I'm not going to force anything.
00:13:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:13:21I know, but I do.
00:13:23You never say space.
00:13:24Yeah.
00:13:24You're always like, you're more like, let's, like, whatever.
00:13:27This is the first time you've ever said space.
00:13:29Yeah, I know.
00:13:31That kind of, like, rattled me a little bit.
00:13:34Normally, I'm the one that needs space.
00:13:35So, you know what, if he needs space, gladly,
00:13:39because I need space right now just from my head
00:13:42and I don't need any of this pressure right now.
00:13:44I feel like I'm at my tether.
00:13:46I feel like he's at his tether.
00:13:47We're both tired and he's been snoring louder than usual,
00:13:51like it's just been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.
00:13:55The reason I need space is because, yeah, I am a calm person,
00:13:58but I'm getting to my limit where I just need
00:14:00to take some space for my own brain.
00:14:03Because I feel like I put my cards on the table,
00:14:06but it almost felt like you were just looking for the negatives.
00:14:09And when someone's looking for the negatives too much
00:14:12of why things can't work, like, I'm not going to force that.
00:14:14I'm not going to force a connection if it's just me looking for the positives
00:14:18and someone else is looking for anything to be like,
00:14:21why this can't work.
00:14:24I would be lying to you if I said I wasn't questioning things right now
00:14:29and questioning our relationship.
00:14:31I am in that head space.
00:14:34So I'm not going into the dinner party with Alyssa feeling my best self.
00:14:39I'm sure you're in a similar boat.
00:14:41Babe, I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:43Yeah, exactly.
00:14:44I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:45Exactly, yeah.
00:14:46I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:49I get it.
00:14:58It'll be the honour of getting up, let's get out of here.
00:15:00Yep, let's go.
00:15:05After you.
00:15:05After me, thanks.
00:15:08Off to the gallows we go.
00:15:13I don't want to do this.
00:15:16I don't want to do this.
00:15:28Well, dinner party number seven, the second last one before we wind this all up.
00:15:35And it is a very important one because they've come back from the homestays.
00:15:40As they start to get a glimpse of what their life will be like with this person in the real
00:15:45world.
00:15:46This is a really crucial part of the experiment for them because some of them will bond closer together through
00:15:53the homestays.
00:15:54I think it's going to be really good.
00:15:56What about you? Are you excited?
00:15:58I'm excited.
00:15:59Whereas others will start to really fall apart and question their overall compatibility with their matches.
00:16:08It's noisy.
00:16:10They'll hear that in the mics, they'll hear that.
00:16:12And you do that all the time, you don't even realise.
00:16:19Well, the homestays throws up the ultimate question.
00:16:22Could this relationship last in the outside world?
00:16:25We're going to see you tonight.
00:16:32Aw, first in.
00:16:34First one's in.
00:16:37Rachel and Steve-o.
00:16:39No one to talk to you, but ourselves.
00:16:41Are you sick of talking to me yet?
00:16:44Straight to the bar.
00:16:46Straight to the bar, babes.
00:16:47I don't think I've seen Stephen look so relaxed and so really walking in with Rachel.
00:16:53Yes.
00:16:54As he is today.
00:16:55Very unified.
00:16:56Tell me when.
00:16:57Thank you, that's good.
00:16:59Oh my gosh.
00:17:00Thank you so much.
00:17:02Gotta look after you.
00:17:03Aw, I appreciate it.
00:17:05Me and Rachel, we're good.
00:17:07We've walked into the cocktail party.
00:17:08We're first in there.
00:17:09We're pouring drinks.
00:17:10We're cracking jokes.
00:17:11I'll just take this with me.
00:17:12Oh, you're going to take that?
00:17:13Okay.
00:17:14Probably the most relaxed I've ever been in a cocktail party.
00:17:17We're in a good place.
00:17:19Mmm.
00:17:20Do you want me to open it?
00:17:23Do you want me to open it?
00:17:24Is there a real opener?
00:17:27Got it?
00:17:27There you go.
00:17:28We're both so keen to get out of this experiment.
00:17:32See where life takes us.
00:17:34Especially after the homestays.
00:17:36Alrighty.
00:17:37Oh my gosh, babes.
00:17:38Here we are.
00:17:39Cheers.
00:17:40Hopefully, uh, you know, it's just us.
00:17:43We can have all the food and the drink.
00:17:45I mean, I wouldn't be mad about it, babes.
00:17:49I mean, I'm just, I think I'm just really, really excited to share how much fun we had.
00:17:54And like, and how good.
00:17:58Isn't that nice that a couple is sitting here talking about themselves.
00:18:01Not everybody else.
00:18:03Yes.
00:18:03This is great.
00:18:05Chicken.
00:18:06Yeah, babe.
00:18:07Gonna make you blush.
00:18:09And the enthusiasm.
00:18:10Yeah.
00:18:11In Rachel's voice and face as she is just excited to tell people the good news.
00:18:15We'll say, had a good week.
00:18:18Mom.
00:18:27Stop rubbing your name.
00:18:28Oh, man.
00:18:32I'm trying to understand you.
00:18:33Because I don't understand you.
00:18:34We're all confusing the .
00:18:35That's it.
00:18:36Well.
00:18:51This whole, I'm at my limit.
00:18:53I need space.
00:18:56It sounds really bad.
00:18:58Does it?
00:19:00Yes.
00:19:01So maybe we've got to word it different.
00:19:03It's not taking space from each other.
00:19:05It's just taking space to process everything.
00:19:10Okay.
00:19:14Oh, look who it is.
00:19:22This whole, I'm at my limit.
00:19:24I need space.
00:19:25It sounds really bad.
00:19:27Does it?
00:19:28Yes.
00:19:28Yes.
00:19:29I need space.
00:19:31So maybe we've got to word it different.
00:19:33It's not taking space from each other.
00:19:35It's just taking space to process everything.
00:19:38Okay.
00:19:41Oh, look who it is.
00:19:42Oh, my God.
00:19:44Oh, my God.
00:19:45Oh, my God.
00:19:46Oh, my God.
00:19:47Oh, Alissa and David.
00:19:48Oh, my God.
00:19:52Hang on.
00:19:52How are you, mate?
00:19:53Dude, that's all I can do.
00:19:55Handshake.
00:19:55It's good to see you, bro.
00:19:56Likewise, you're looking good.
00:19:58Oh, that's some energy there, isn't it?
00:20:01Oh, at first. Yeah, at first.
00:20:03We got so much done.
00:20:05Oh, yeah, we've got a lot to evaluate.
00:20:07Let's just get some...
00:20:09Evaluate? Okay, okay.
00:20:18So, are you prepared for everyone to find out
00:20:20that I'm a better fisherman than you, or...?
00:20:22Oh, hang on. Whoa.
00:20:28Walking into the cocktail party tonight, you know, I was...
00:20:32Obviously, I've been on a low post the homestays.
00:20:36I've sort of just been feeling deflated.
00:20:39Ooh, cried in my face.
00:20:41And I did make it known to Alyssa that, you know,
00:20:43I am sort of one in my own space, you know,
00:20:46in my head, just to sort of figure things out.
00:20:49So I did walk in on a low.
00:20:55Oh, who is it? Hey!
00:20:56Here we go! What's up?
00:20:59Scott and Gia.
00:21:00Do you want to spin?
00:21:01A little hotness right here.
00:21:04Oh, so pretty are you both.
00:21:06Hi!
00:21:07Look at me some love.
00:21:08Gorgeous! Hello!
00:21:12Walking into the cocktail party tonight with Gia,
00:21:14like, you know, we're not perfect.
00:21:16We still have a couple things to work on.
00:21:17Get a drink and get in here, brother.
00:21:19I always look at the bright side.
00:21:20If there's something that's really bad,
00:21:22I just see the more good in someone.
00:21:24Can we carry that?
00:21:25Thanks.
00:21:25Yeah.
00:21:29All right, Chris, why don't you tell me
00:21:30what's running through your head going into this?
00:21:33One saving grace for me is that
00:21:35last time I was in this car with Sam,
00:21:38it was just so yucky and awkward.
00:21:39So I'm grateful not to have that, you know, at the moment.
00:21:44Well, it was so awkward you could cut the tension with a knife.
00:21:46And I could not wait to get out of the car.
00:21:49I just hope this, you know, situation with Sam and I can get squashed pretty quickly
00:21:56so I can have a couple of shams and try and enjoy my night.
00:22:01Yeah, no, this is definitely not how I expected to be going to a dinner party in the experiment.
00:22:05I think Chris and I started off really strong and everything was going good.
00:22:08And then at some point he just flipped and it all just sort of fell apart.
00:22:11And I don't really know what that flip was into him.
00:22:17You know if Sam's coming tonight?
00:22:19Oh, I definitely know he'll be going.
00:22:21Yeah.
00:22:21He wants to go to get the whole group's opinion
00:22:24and two cents on our dirty laundry.
00:22:28But you know what? There's two sides to this story.
00:22:31And coming to the dinner party to back myself and say my side of the story.
00:22:48Oh, Chris is alone.
00:22:50Ew, how you going?
00:22:51Okay, that's a surprise.
00:22:53Hi.
00:22:54Hey, bud.
00:22:55So Chris walks in solo.
00:22:58Well, shit.
00:23:00That's not my prediction.
00:23:02Drink, drink, drink, drink.
00:23:04I mean, they were very bad at the commitment ceremony.
00:23:07Chris had written leave.
00:23:08Sam was absolutely in tears about it all.
00:23:11There was a hope at the homestay.
00:23:12They might be able to turn it around.
00:23:13But this looks like it's actually not been salvaged.
00:23:19Yeah, I'm all right.
00:23:20You look very tan.
00:23:21Thanks, babe.
00:23:22The fit's good.
00:23:23The fit's good.
00:23:23My life's not.
00:23:24I would love one, babe.
00:23:25Your life is okay.
00:23:26Yeah, thanks, babe.
00:23:27You've got this shit, babe.
00:23:28You've got this shit.
00:23:29Yes, obviously it didn't work out.
00:23:31Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:23:32Yeah, I feel like maybe Sam and I can unpack it together.
00:23:36Okay, all right.
00:23:37You don't want to talk about that?
00:23:38No, I'll give you a little run.
00:23:39You give us yours.
00:23:39I'll give you a little rundown.
00:23:41It's really hard seeing them not walking together
00:23:43because I genuinely had hope that they would get past this.
00:23:48Seeing Chris walking in by himself, like, it was genuinely,
00:23:51like, pretty heartbreaks.
00:23:54Basically, um, yeah, Sam ended it with me two days into homestays.
00:23:59He ended it with you.
00:24:00The second day.
00:24:01He ended it.
00:24:02Yeah.
00:24:03Yeah.
00:24:03He ended it with you.
00:24:04Yeah.
00:24:05Oh, Sam ended it.
00:24:07I wonder why.
00:24:08Yes.
00:24:08I wonder why.
00:24:10Obviously we had, like, a, you know, a pretty bad couch session.
00:24:14I took accountability.
00:24:15I decided that I wanted to learn and grow from the feedback that I got.
00:24:18Yeah, that's what you said.
00:24:19Um, so I went into homestays trying to turn it around.
00:24:21Gia knows.
00:24:22I spoke with you about it.
00:24:23Yeah.
00:24:24Boarding flowers, made him dinner.
00:24:25I tried everything that I could to turn it around,
00:24:27but unfortunately, um, yeah, it didn't work for us.
00:24:30And it was really, it was a real shock because I thought
00:24:32we were actually doing quite well.
00:24:33Like, you know, I started to get those feelings back for him again, so.
00:24:37So Chris was saying he started getting feelings for Sam again.
00:24:40Okay, so he was shocked by it.
00:24:43Blindsided.
00:24:44Wow.
00:24:45So, it's pretty, it's pretty sad, um, but I respect Sam's decision to exit.
00:24:50Um, and we actually weren't even going to come tonight.
00:24:52Like, they, we, he left the farm and we were just going to leave it at that
00:24:55because we unpacked a lot of it.
00:24:56Um, but I've decided to give Sam the respect of coming tonight
00:25:00so we can both talk to you guys about it and, um, let you know what's happened
00:25:04and then sit in front of the experts and get their advice.
00:25:07But, like, no ill feelings towards Sam. I respect his decision.
00:25:10But, yeah, she's single again.
00:25:13Oh!
00:25:14Yeah.
00:25:15I love you.
00:25:16Yeah.
00:25:18Alyssa, how was yours?
00:25:23Uh...
00:25:23I feel like I'm still processing everything.
00:25:27It's crunch time, right?
00:25:28It's crunch time.
00:25:28For you guys, yeah.
00:25:31Um, but we'll talk about it later at the dinner party.
00:25:35Okay.
00:25:40Phil!
00:25:41Hey!
00:25:44Philip and Stella!
00:25:46How are you?
00:25:46Hi babe!
00:25:47You look amazing.
00:25:48How you going?
00:25:49How you doing?
00:25:51How you doing?
00:25:52I was feeling good at you.
00:25:53How are you?
00:25:54For the best part, we had a really good home state, you know?
00:25:57I got clarity, so it's been decided.
00:26:00I will be making that move happen sooner rather than later.
00:26:03He looks tan. Do you get a spray tan?
00:26:06Huh? No, no, we went to the beach.
00:26:08What the hell?
00:26:08And I just thought, you know what, like, it's time to go for an adventure.
00:26:20Ah, he's Beck and Danny.
00:26:22Beck and Danny.
00:26:24Hello.
00:26:26I'm feeling phenomenal walking into this cocktail party tonight.
00:26:29Danny and I are in a great spot.
00:26:32We are planning our future together.
00:26:35Cheers.
00:26:36We had great homestays and I've got no beef with anyone.
00:26:39Oh, my God, pigs fly.
00:26:40What the hell?
00:26:41I'm not arguing with anyone.
00:26:44Hello. How was homestays? Cheers.
00:26:47How'd you go? How was Adelaide?
00:26:49Oh, my God. Yeah.
00:26:51We had a great time.
00:26:52It was going to be hot.
00:26:55Like, I got back and I was a bit drained, to tell you the truth.
00:26:58It was, it's a lot.
00:26:59Like, I felt a bit uncomfortable in our house and I felt a bit out of place.
00:27:03And it made me think about, like, the logistics of the move more.
00:27:07Like, how it's going to work.
00:27:09Because I'm not just going to move in with that.
00:27:11Of course.
00:27:11And live, like, oh, put my feet up, this is rent-free.
00:27:15Like, that doesn't sit well with me.
00:27:16So, it just solidified there's more things we need to talk about.
00:27:20Of course.
00:27:23So, yeah.
00:27:24We're going to do it, I think.
00:27:25Yeah, awesome.
00:27:26Crazy.
00:27:28Love it.
00:27:29I think Danny and I are probably the strongest in the experiment, if I'm honest with you.
00:27:33And, like, it feels like it can only go up from here.
00:27:41Coming up.
00:27:42I would never just move in.
00:27:44Danny's jaw-dropping confession.
00:27:47From my point of view, anyway, I suppose everyone looks at it different.
00:27:49But it makes you feel like a ****.
00:27:51Has the whole table talking.
00:27:53What are you on about?
00:27:55I'll be honest.
00:27:56I'll be honest.
00:27:56I'll be honest.
00:27:57Oh, my God.
00:27:58Oh, my God.
00:28:11Here we go.
00:28:17When did you talk to him last?
00:28:18Um, the last time he spoke to me was, um, the Friday after he left.
00:28:24And all he said was that he wanted to come to the dinner party for the ceremony.
00:28:29Yeah, I don't know what the energy is going to be like with Sam.
00:28:31I hope he comes in, like, nice.
00:28:34I just, yeah, I just can't deal with any more, you know.
00:28:45Yo!
00:28:48Hello, everyone.
00:28:48Oh, here's Sam.
00:28:50Oh, here he is.
00:28:50How you going?
00:28:52Good, how are you?
00:28:53Good.
00:28:53You good?
00:28:53You look nice.
00:28:54Yeah, how are you?
00:28:55Not too bad.
00:28:56Hello.
00:28:59Sam.
00:29:00How are you, Matt?
00:29:01I'm hugging, like, chest height, but I've got a vertical problem.
00:29:06Hey, look at me, brother.
00:29:07Thanks, thanks, thanks.
00:29:08You're gonna get a drink, but come on, let's get you a drink.
00:29:09Let's get a drink.
00:29:10I hope he doesn't come at me, like...
00:29:12Why are you worried?
00:29:13Oh, I just...
00:29:14Don't worry.
00:29:15No, I just can't deal with it, like...
00:29:18Alright.
00:29:19No, you're okay.
00:29:21How are you?
00:29:23Are you okay?
00:29:24I just feel a bit like there was no real effort while we were away.
00:29:29Really?
00:29:29But we'll get into it at the table, yeah.
00:29:31No, no, he's given us a bit of a grief.
00:29:35What was he saying?
00:29:36Just, um, that you guys, you know, went to homestays and, like, he cooked dinner one night,
00:29:40or you guys had dinner together one night, and he thought the first night was going okay.
00:29:44Um, and then obviously you guys both had a chat and decided that it wasn't right.
00:29:49Yeah.
00:29:51Dude, he didn't drive.
00:29:54You're eating up this bullshit.
00:29:57Don't eat up this bullshit.
00:30:02Dinner is served.
00:30:03Okay, let's go eat.
00:30:05Let's go, babes.
00:30:06You got it.
00:30:06Let's go, mate.
00:30:10Alrighty.
00:30:12Well, let's hope that now that dinner's about to begin, we will get to the bottom of what
00:30:16actually happened at the homestay between Sam and Chris.
00:30:19Yes.
00:30:20We need to understand what actually went on there.
00:30:23Cheers, guys.
00:30:25Cheers.
00:30:32You got the, um, you got the tits out again?
00:30:34Oh, yeah.
00:30:35What, yeah, what?
00:30:37Tits are for the boys.
00:30:38I love it.
00:30:41Dull.
00:30:41Yes!
00:30:42Yeah!
00:30:54Wow.
00:30:55It's very teens, isn't it?
00:30:57Chris, Sam.
00:31:07I
00:31:07Really want to talk about from our perspective what led me to the decision to end things. Yeah, and how
00:31:13I felt the whole homestay. So yeah
00:31:18Tonight is going to be shit I
00:31:24Sam and I've already hashed this out at the farm
00:31:27We're revisiting it in front of the group. So for me, this is not comfortable
00:31:32I'm hoping that we can get it out of the way quickly and I just want to get this over
00:31:35and done with
00:31:39Hope Sam gets the closure that he needs and we can yeah move on. I
00:31:44Thought we both just need to say
00:31:46Everything that got us to this point
00:31:49Especially with meeting the experts tomorrow. I want to get as much as I can out of this experience
00:31:54Yeah, we've mentioned it at the cocktail party that we you know well you decided to
00:32:00end it so
00:32:01Yeah, like I didn't really fight that at all you were like
00:32:06Also, just like okay because I I had given so much to try and make it work. I don't want
00:32:11to come
00:32:15My god here we go again
00:32:20If Chris thinks that's loads of effort I feel sorry for anybody he ends up with in the future like
00:32:27Yeah
00:32:31I
00:32:32Can I ask a question?
00:32:34How did Sam end the relationship and where and how did it happen? I could I tell that's what I
00:32:38want you guys both to say yeah
00:32:41Yeah, so homestays obviously you all saw the last commitment ceremony
00:32:46I wrote stay and Christopher at leave and that was really hard for me to battle with personally because I
00:32:51did have feelings for Chris
00:32:53So like obviously now I'm very nervous going into homestays and we get to the car to drive down and
00:32:58I'm like
00:33:00Just sitting in the car and it's so uncomfortable and I'm I like literally just like shut my eyes and
00:33:05kind of pretend that I'm sleeping
00:33:07And then I get to the farm and then I do try to have fun and have a good time.
00:33:12I'll wake up the next morning
00:33:14And Chris is nowhere to be seen
00:33:17No message no no
00:33:21I'm just there sitting for an hour in his house at his place with no car
00:33:25Just by myself and then he rocks up his eyes went to the gym this morning was really windy last
00:33:30night and I'm like, okay cool
00:33:32And like this is what I'm starting to feel like are you really do you really want me here?
00:33:35Do you like really want to show me how much you want this relationship to work?
00:33:42Look for me it was letting him sleep a little bit longer
00:33:48We're not interrupting each other tonight, right?
00:33:54Okay, can I keep going my story then yeah
00:33:58So then we come to the fire the next night, and this is when I'm like this is my last
00:34:03play here
00:34:04Like I'm gonna try and see if he really wants to fight for this if he really wants this relationship
00:34:08to work and I had written down
00:34:11Questions that were all just about what the expert said
00:34:15Going through all these questions and then he starts to get a bit shorter with him because he's sick of
00:34:18talking about it
00:34:19And then I'm like Chris do you even have feelings for me?
00:34:23And he goes oh, you know with what's happened over the last couple of weeks
00:34:26I feel like my feelings are pretty damaged and like I don't really know if I do anymore
00:34:35And I'm like well then what am I doing here
00:34:40Then I was just like well then do we just end it here and you were just like yeah, I
00:34:43think that's probably like right to do
00:34:46And what I don't understand is where I hurt your feelings and where you lost your feelings for me
00:34:56What I honestly feel like happened is that you just like did the bare minimum
00:35:01Got me flowers so that you could come here tonight and say I did this for Sam
00:35:05I tried but like I know that you were checked out of this relationship already. I know you didn't want
00:35:10to give it a go
00:35:16If I'm honest and I'll have to be honest
00:35:19It seems like you're putting a lot on Chris. Yeah
00:35:23And just because we have expectations to fill our cup fully doesn't mean this other person is trying hold on
00:35:30a second
00:35:33Let's not forget that like the week before Sam was in a world of pain alone
00:35:41Being yeah, correct. Sorry. I'm gonna say something here
00:35:48Beck needs to mind her business
00:35:50I don't know how her homestays went but that should be her focus for a couple weeks out of final
00:35:55bowels
00:35:56Don't worry about your man doll
00:35:59I'm not gonna sit let anyone sit here and say your expectations are too high when Sam sat there in
00:36:05tears by himself
00:36:06Not knowing which way was up and which way was down for a whole week because the person that he
00:36:11has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him
00:36:14Like let's all just take a step back
00:36:16You've been aggressive too at the dinner at the dinner at the dinner parties
00:36:20You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behavior honey, so
00:36:25Just pipe it down a little bit
00:36:34Sam sat there in tears by himself not knowing which way was up and which way was down for a
00:36:40whole week
00:36:40Because the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him like let's all just take a
00:36:46step back
00:36:47You've been aggressive too at the dinner at the dinner parties
00:36:52You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behavior, honey, so just pipe it down a little
00:36:57bit
00:36:58And I've never been aggressive to you
00:37:02Can I speak now first of all
00:37:05Like hand on heart I tried my hardest to turn it around I
00:37:10Got the feedback from the experts. I took it on board. I took accountability
00:37:14I realized that I wanted to grow and learn as a person and I wanted to come out the other
00:37:18end and I'm sorry
00:37:19But I was doing that and I thought we had a good day and like you pulled the notepad out
00:37:24and then asked me the questions
00:37:25And I just for me I felt like you know like can we just live in the moment?
00:37:30Can we just have a bit of fun and but you understand with the questions there things that were burning
00:37:34inside course?
00:37:37Yeah, cool. I'll keep talking babes
00:37:40So I I felt uncomfortable, but I stayed calm and I answered the question I answered the questions as best
00:37:46as I could
00:37:47But it would you ended it with me you said like yeah, yeah
00:37:51Can I just say it's like the reason I ended up is because I asked Chris do you still have
00:37:57feelings for me?
00:37:59If if you were trying so hard and you thought that everything was what you're saying then at that point
00:38:05you should have said
00:38:05Sam yes, I have feelings for you
00:38:11Can I ask a question?
00:38:13Do you feel like when Chris said leave the other week at the last commitment sir?
00:38:18I know really hurt you like you were really upset we could see that
00:38:21Do you think that that really hurt you to a point where had you already made up your mind?
00:38:27I don't my mind that just hurt me to the point where this is why I think I needed so
00:38:31much for Chris because I was really hurt that
00:38:33He said he wanted to leave that he had already given up
00:38:35So I'm like I need to see from you that you haven't given up completely and I get maybe for
00:38:39you what you did was enough
00:38:41But for me it was and then I decided that based on the fact that what you did wasn't enough
00:38:45my expectations to call it happened
00:38:46I ended things because I wasn't getting what I wanted from Chris and if that's not what he can give
00:38:51Because he's got kids and he's got fun got everything else then you're not ultimately a good man
00:39:02It's really upsetting that there hasn't worked out between Sam and Chris because I care for both boys
00:39:08but listening to both sides of the story I'm like
00:39:13They're not speaking the same language and they're seeing different things and I don't think they're gonna align tonight
00:39:22Just unfortunately it hasn't worked. I don't want this to be yucky. I just want to be amicable
00:39:26I don't want to be yucky either. It's not yucky though, is it? It's not yucky
00:39:30Don't mistake passion for anger. I think you're both passionate. It's not yucky in my opinion. You're both just ironing
00:39:35it out
00:39:37We do love you both. We love you a lot. Yeah, I'm sure things I think it's really sad what's
00:39:44happened with Sam and Chris
00:39:45I love them as people and I love them together and I'm getting this feeling of like Chris did try
00:39:52The way he knew how and it wasn't enough for Sam
00:39:56It's it's it's a hard one
00:40:07So Beck and Danny how about you guys your next how was your homestays we had such a good homestays
00:40:15didn't we
00:40:18Give my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you they would I think obviously because Danielle fancy
00:40:26me
00:40:29I'm joking you should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say all
00:40:34your cousin wants to
00:40:34Me I never said that there's a camera in my face and you're abusing me over a joke dude
00:40:39There's a camera in my face and you're making a joke of what I'm saying. Yeah, I'm done
00:40:45Well, we have like a like two perfect things and then like the top we had a little argument at
00:40:53the end
00:40:56we
00:40:56We had a tiny little ding-dong at the end
00:41:00It lasted about 15 minutes
00:41:02I think like for me. I don't know for anyone else who experienced like going into your partner's home
00:41:10In that moment. I felt like a bit out of place in the house like up until that point. I
00:41:14felt so comfortable
00:41:16Like so welcome. Not that I was ever like unwelcome
00:41:20But in that moment arguing like
00:41:22Hardly an argument a ding dong
00:41:24But yeah, or whatever you want to call it
00:41:29Whilst Danny did call it an argument
00:41:31Bec called it a ding-dong so she's wanting to really contain it
00:41:34Yes, when we had the disagreement at the house. I felt really uncomfortable because it's not my space is your
00:41:39space
00:41:40Yeah, I don't know if anyone else can
00:41:42Yeah, so that was sort of something that stuck with me in the sense of like
00:41:48Moving for it made me look at it things in a different way in the sense that
00:41:53I probably want to I don't know how I'd want to navigate
00:41:59If I was to move to Adelaide how the logistics of it would look as a man
00:42:06Ah, as a man
00:42:10I feel like like do you know what you mean like it's more Bec's house than it is my house
00:42:14Like moving into her house, yeah
00:42:15Yeah, correct like like I'd want to sit down and speak to Bec on a deeper level about that
00:42:22Because like I feel like if you move in with a woman and like I would never just move in
00:42:30Like we'd have to talk about that on a deeper level in the sense that like
00:42:35I'm not moving out of my house
00:42:39No, I'm not asking you to but what I'm saying is like
00:42:42It's how he fits into it babe
00:42:44Like yeah, how I fit into it. That's that's more what I'm saying
00:42:47And to you right now you're probably like that that like that's easy
00:42:51I know like it's just like I get from Danny's perspective
00:42:54He's like yeah, I move in so like he's got to get his stuff out
00:42:57Where does he put his stuff and like and we would make space 100% for that
00:43:01But from my point of view anyway, I suppose everyone looks at it different
00:43:04But it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman
00:43:08What are you on about?
00:43:25Oh
00:43:36Oh no, that's not what I was getting at. Oh God. Oh my God. He's talking about feeling emasculated
00:43:43If she was the one who owned the house
00:43:46And let's not use the term bitch in that way either Danny. Not cool
00:43:50We're on 800 square meters five minutes from the city
00:43:54With a $97,000 mortgage and a $3 million house
00:43:59F*** me
00:44:03Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa
00:44:05Like firstly
00:44:08You've never said that to me
00:44:10Women have worked really really hard to make sure that we've got this multi-million dollar home
00:44:15In the most affluent suburb of South Australia
00:44:18So yeah, you're not gonna be a bitch moving into my house
00:44:22That was not what I was getting at
00:44:25Are we serious for this?
00:44:27We're in the 2020s
00:44:31Emasculated
00:44:31By moving into a home with your woman
00:44:35I'll be honest, I couldn't go to hers
00:44:36I want to
00:44:37Grow up
00:44:38You like to be a provider
00:44:40Correct, correct, yeah
00:44:41I'll be honest, I couldn't go to hers
00:44:42I'm gonna buy the house
00:44:44I'm gonna pay for everything
00:44:44Like that's just a manly thing
00:44:48Dan's a bit like me
00:44:49He likes to feel like the man, the boss, the alpha male
00:44:52So I understand where Danny's coming from
00:44:54He just wants to feel more masculated in the relationship
00:44:58We're more traditional in that way too
00:44:59No, but like I get it
00:45:01Like I have it, my house is bigger than yours
00:45:03But it's like, yeah, like
00:45:05It's a different vibe
00:45:06I do agree with Danny
00:45:08I think for a man to feel masculine and his masculine energy
00:45:12They want to have the house and the woman move into it
00:45:15I know that's not like the norm these days
00:45:17But like I like that
00:45:18And that's what me and Scott are doing
00:45:19So I do agree with Danny on that
00:45:22I think he wants to feel like the man
00:45:24And he has every right to feel like that
00:45:26I feel like it's emasculating
00:45:28Like I get what you're saying
00:45:29Like you want your place to be like
00:45:30Here babe, like come to me
00:45:32Like I'm the man
00:45:34Like I think that's like where you're coming from
00:45:36Yeah, that's what I'm saying
00:45:38I felt uncomfortable when we argued
00:45:40And it sort of, it made me feel demasculated to like be in her house
00:45:44Yeah, like a bit of a bitch
00:45:46I've had that discussion with Bec two or three times
00:45:49I'm not a hit 1990s song on R&B radio
00:45:53That keeps repeating itself, do you know what you mean?
00:45:55I didn't feel uneasy until we had the disagreement
00:45:57But then I was just like, do you know what you mean?
00:46:00No, I don't know what you mean Danny
00:46:02I do wonder if Danny's showing a little insecurity there
00:46:05You know, I think some men
00:46:08Would not see a barrier to moving into a house owned by the woman
00:46:12It wouldn't feel emasculating
00:46:13He's really dropped the ball here
00:46:16And I'm old school too
00:46:18I'm exactly the same, I can proudly say it as well
00:46:20That if me and Rachel do something
00:46:22I would feel more comfortable if Rachel moved into my place
00:46:26Feel like a provider
00:46:27Well I don't think that's very fair
00:46:30Because at the end of the day
00:46:31The difference is that I've got a massive house with a lot of space
00:46:35Five minutes out of the city with a mortgage of 97 grand
00:46:38I feel like you're a team
00:46:39I feel like you're a team
00:46:40A hundred percent
00:46:41I was brought up on those values
00:46:43That's just the way I think
00:46:44If I moved to Adelaide, I'd be gambling
00:46:46Yeah, it's over
00:46:48But I think that's why it's so good to be like, I guess
00:46:50Really?
00:46:51I wouldn't, yeah
00:46:52But I wouldn't like, we're gonna work together
00:46:54I know we work together, but as a man it's just something that I do
00:46:59As a man, maybe I'm old school like that
00:47:01But I believe like, the man should be the man of the house
00:47:04And take care of the big bills
00:47:06It's nice to have your own thing, but ultimately you work together, right?
00:47:10Exactly, yeah, ultimately you work together
00:47:12It's about how can we work together, how can we make this work?
00:47:15What are your needs, you know, vice versa?
00:47:18It doesn't have to be a demasculating thing, it just has to be teamwork
00:47:22Like you're a team
00:47:23No, you're a team
00:47:24For some reason, it's just a mental thing
00:47:28It just works like that
00:47:31Females feel more secure when it is like that
00:47:34It's just how it is, unfortunately it's a double set
00:47:36It's just how it is
00:47:37Gays don't have that problem
00:47:41I understand where Danny's coming from
00:47:43Don't agree with it, but I understand where Danny's coming from
00:47:47Beck and Danny's homestay, I don't think was as great as they made it out to be
00:47:53There's something, there's something not right there
00:47:55This is a serious conversation you guys want to talk
00:47:58Uh, yeah, I know, for a dinner party
00:48:02Shut up! Great! Excellent!
00:48:05So glad we're talking about it with everyone
00:48:09Oh goodness
00:48:11No, I said it to you already
00:48:12Not to that level, babes
00:48:14I have, 100% have
00:48:15You haven't? No
00:48:25Still to come
00:48:27I did spiral a little bit
00:48:29Dave, what's going through your head, bro?
00:48:31David finally finds his voice
00:48:33I've hit my wall
00:48:35I've been calm throughout this whole thing
00:48:37But I'm at my limit
00:48:39This is really a relationship in peril
00:48:42Yeah
00:48:43Before Beck confronts Danny
00:48:46I would have appreciated it
00:48:47Having been that open
00:48:49It's in a lot of relations
00:48:50It's just more
00:48:51Before hindsight
00:49:03How about you?
00:49:04Alyssa
00:49:05How was yours?
00:49:07Um
00:49:10Do you know what?
00:49:12Alyssa and David really have not spoken about themselves at all
00:49:15No
00:49:16And that is not usual for them
00:49:18David looks quite uncomfortable actually
00:49:20Yeah
00:49:23I feel like
00:49:25We had highs and lows
00:49:27I did spiral a little bit
00:49:29Like I did get in my head
00:49:31Because you know
00:49:32As soon as we touched down
00:49:33In Adelaide
00:49:34I felt like
00:49:36This weight
00:49:39I felt like
00:49:40Oh my goodness
00:49:41I, you know
00:49:42I said I was going to move to Sydney
00:49:43And like we're going to make this thing work in Sydney
00:49:45And we'll meet halfway
00:49:46But I have a lot of responsibilities in Adelaide
00:49:50I have contracts in place
00:49:51I have my business
00:49:52I have a house
00:49:53I have a cat
00:49:54But I'm almost 34
00:49:56And in the next few years
00:49:57I want to start a family
00:49:58So I kind of put pressure on myself
00:50:01And that's where I started to spiral
00:50:02On homestays
00:50:03Because I was like shit
00:50:04This is not going to work
00:50:07Like I don't think I'm going to be able to stretch myself out of Adelaide
00:50:10Like in the next three months
00:50:12It might look like six to twelve months
00:50:14If we're going to make this work in the real world
00:50:21Beforehand you were saying
00:50:22Potentially you'd give it three months to move to Sydney
00:50:25Is it the move to Adelaide now?
00:50:27Well that's what it would probably be
00:50:32It would be Adelaide, yeah
00:50:33Oh
00:50:35We haven't heard that from her before
00:50:37A lot came out of homestays
00:50:39But it's just like how do we move like forward
00:50:42But I feel like the way that we process things are very different
00:50:45And I'm wondering why am I spiralling
00:50:48You know we're all under pressure
00:50:49But some people also deal with pressure differently
00:50:51When I need to just process
00:50:53My mind's going bing, bing, bing, bing
00:50:55I retract
00:50:58Things have kind of turned on its head a little bit
00:51:01Yeah Alyssa's now saying I can't move
00:51:04David's going look I'm willing to sacrifice everything
00:51:06And move down to Adelaide to give this relationship the best chance
00:51:10But her retracting and pulling away from Dave, freaking Dave out
00:51:14You know I sort of felt for Dave a little bit
00:51:16If anything all the risk is on David
00:51:19And there was one other thing
00:51:22I know that I can be a bit full on
00:51:25And like he does ground me
00:51:28But maybe I'm finding a little bit sometimes too much
00:51:31Where I feel like I'm not myself
00:51:33Like it's really shifting my energy
00:51:36And that's not something I'm used to
00:51:39My husband also snores
00:51:40So I've had like lack of sleep the last three months
00:51:43Like it's just, it's a compiling thing
00:51:48I feel like right now Alyssa is trying to look for any little things she can pull from the sky
00:51:56To question things in the relationship
00:51:58And that is pushing me away
00:51:59She says she doesn't want to push me away
00:52:02But her throwing all these doubts
00:52:04There's only so much I can take before I start feeling like an idiot, you know
00:52:09I think I was fine with just continuing to be that emotional
00:52:16Shoulder to lean on until homestay
00:52:19We've been on this experiment for two months
00:52:21And it's been long enough for her to like be a bit more certain
00:52:25You know if this ultimately isn't going to work
00:52:28I'm not going to force anything
00:52:30Like it's up to her to come from her head into her heart
00:52:33For this to work long term
00:52:37Dave what's going through your head bro?
00:52:45I've hit my wall, I've been calm throughout this whole thing but I'm at my limit
00:52:51And I sort of need that mental space as well just as much as she probably needs it from coming
00:52:56back from homestay
00:52:57And it's something we both need
00:52:59But it's at the point emotionally I don't have much to give
00:53:03I'm invested in this relationship
00:53:04I am prepared to move for this relationship
00:53:06But for me I bonded with her mom and her two best friends
00:53:10And I've got her mom saying this is all good for you, her friends saying this is good for you
00:53:14They really love David a lot
00:53:17So I'm just like
00:53:19What other green checks do you need ticked off like you know?
00:53:27Well this is David being really raw isn't it?
00:53:30I mean he's saying that he's exhausted
00:53:32And also he's hit his limit
00:53:35And I know that they talk about it in relation to the experiment
00:53:40But actually you know the experiment for some people it brings them closer right now
00:53:45And I get some real worries that he's started to step back
00:53:49We got cracks man
00:53:51We've got cracks like everyone
00:53:53But that's something that you know we will talk to the experts about
00:53:58We actually haven't seen them in this state before have we?
00:54:02I'd say absolutely more questions than answers we got tonight
00:54:06So that's where we got to go tomorrow night
00:54:09We are going to need to ask about the homestays
00:54:12And particularly where they see themselves in the future
00:54:17This is really a relationship in peril
00:54:19Yeah
00:54:28How are your homestays guys?
00:54:30I went out on his Harley
00:54:31Like I grew up there so I'm like I went to school there
00:54:35I had my first kiss there
00:54:36I did this there and it's like it's not like a foreign place for me
00:54:39Yeah it's just easy the fact that she's lived there before
00:54:41So that was pretty big for us to have
00:54:43That's amazing
00:54:44The taste of the outside world you know what I mean like
00:54:48We know
00:54:48Yeah
00:54:49So what's your plan?
00:54:50I'll reflect guys
00:54:52After the experiment
00:54:53I do like Cronulla
00:54:54Yeah?
00:54:56That's good
00:54:56I could see myself there
00:54:57That's very important
00:54:58That's the whole point of it
00:54:59That's great
00:55:00The home visit is like can I see myself there?
00:55:02Yes I can
00:55:03Let's just do it
00:55:04Just give it a go
00:55:06That was a realisation I had
00:55:08And you have a plan moving forward
00:55:10Yeah
00:55:11You guys are great
00:55:12Yeah
00:55:14Rachel and Stephen homestays
00:55:16Hey guys
00:55:17Who's talking?
00:55:19I didn't know you missed
00:55:19You can talk
00:55:20Captain Steve-o
00:55:21I reckon Rachel go first and I'll
00:55:23Captain Steve-o
00:55:23No I reckon Steve-o go first please
00:55:24I agree
00:55:25I think Steve-o can go first
00:55:27Thank you
00:55:27I'll go first
00:55:28I always talk
00:55:29Can you hear me down there?
00:55:31Yeah
00:55:31Loud and clear
00:55:33Alright
00:55:33So look
00:55:35I'm happy to say that Rachel and my family did get along
00:55:38Everyone loves each other
00:55:39Like the drinks were flowing
00:55:40Everything was fantastic
00:55:42And yeah we had a really good time
00:55:44And took Rachel out on the boat
00:55:47And she got to experience a little
00:55:49You know a little snapshot of what my life is about
00:55:53And what I'm passionate about
00:55:54So I took her out fishing
00:55:56And I can definitely say very impressed with Rachel
00:55:59She full on
00:56:00She's a country girl
00:56:00Full on leaned in
00:56:02She's a catch
00:56:03I am the catch
00:56:05She's a catch
00:56:05That's right
00:56:06The catch of the day
00:56:07Right
00:56:07Amen
00:56:09And look
00:56:10I was very impressed with her fishing skills
00:56:11She kissed a couple fish
00:56:13I did
00:56:13But I'm looking at this woman going
00:56:16Look it's not just that she's leaning into fishing
00:56:19It's more the fact that I'm seeing a woman there that is having a crack
00:56:23And I can see that outside fishing Rachel will have my back in things
00:56:33I can see we can do life together but I feel a lot more confident now that the foundation has
00:56:38been laid on my side anyway with Rachel that we can take this out onto the outside
00:56:44Here you go
00:56:46And have somewhere to start because it's been done and dusted
00:56:50I'm still going to meet her side but I feel more confident on my side that Rachel and my family
00:56:55and my lifestyle will match now so we had a good time
00:56:57That's a day
00:56:59That's a day
00:56:59That's a day
00:56:59That's a day
00:56:59That's a day
00:56:59That's a day
00:57:03That's a day
00:57:04Who would have thought?
00:57:06He would have thought?
00:57:09Hearing Stephen talk about our home say and like the beautiful things he was saying
00:57:13yeah you sound emotional i am emotional i'm so emotional about it because
00:57:21i've got this guy that i truly truly care about and i'm developing such strong feelings for and
00:57:29every time he talks about us with the group and everything it's beautiful it's just so nice and
00:57:37what what an amazing journey and opportunity we've had and the fact that we get to be with each other
00:57:44is just even better some guys are going to buy girls flowers my guy bought me a fishing rod
00:57:52and i was happy your girl's got her first fishing rod oh rachel looks so happy
00:58:02look at steven's smile we've never seen him smile like this we've never seen him as relaxed and as
00:58:09confident as he has been tonight that was a full-bodied smile he's really transformed but
00:58:16watching him now is just such a joy and he's so comfortable in her space look we went through
00:58:23hard times at the start of our relationship you all saw it and you know what we we've just saw
00:58:29it and
00:58:30you know we're now hitting weeks where it should test us and instead it's strengthening us and it's
00:58:35really nice i love it yay well done rachel and spievo
00:58:54at the dinner table tonight danny said that he
00:59:00would feel like a bitch moving into a girl's house
00:59:05i hadn't heard that yet and like i would hope that my husband knows that he can talk to me
00:59:12like
00:59:12we talk about everything so yeah i feel blindsided by him
00:59:23i feel completely utterly betrayed by my husband
00:59:35if i was to move to adelaide as a man it makes you feel like a bit of a
00:59:41bitch moving in with a woman
00:59:51i've never experienced a slow burn before and here i am with a slow burn and like i said we
00:59:59we went
00:59:59through hard yards earlier and now we're so strong because of that and so yeah but not to that level
01:00:06like i think i think i would have appreciated having been that open it's in a lot of relations
01:00:12it's just more a whole group of people yeah before home stage
01:00:17frankly danny time and time again has not stepped up and made the commitment that she
01:00:22wants and craves she's been transparent he hasn't said that he loves her back he's now saying i don't
01:00:29want to live in your house so there's a number of things that are now adding up yeah that beck's
01:00:34starting to worry about when it comes to danny's level of commitment yes and rightly so
01:00:40i mean
01:00:44the idea that like that it like that you like you basically just said if i was to move to
01:00:52adelaide
01:00:52i don't know if i want to move into my house i was saying i didn't as long as i
01:00:57would i would have
01:00:59rather that you said that to me before announcing it to a table of people i didn't say i didn't
01:01:03say
01:01:04that i was saying we have to like i put money into a house and we renovate it or i
01:01:09pick up the
01:01:09mortgage because we're just moving it was how it is would make you feel demasculating right
01:01:27i think beck revealed how hard that conversation was for her you know when she said oh here we are
01:01:34having this conversation in front of everyone she felt really uncomfortable and i think
01:01:37after the dinner tonight they'll be going home for quite a big conversation
01:01:59okay so the purpose of this conversation is to talk about what's been happening within
01:02:04the group of women hello ladies welcome to your hens night not to make comparisons between men and
01:02:13women and who does it better wow i just hope that there's some insight here with with the ladies that
01:02:18yes in the future you are going to be in contact with other women who have strong personalities
01:02:24have strong judgments about you or opinions about you
01:02:31but that doesn't mean that you have to play dirty as a woman i think it's important that
01:02:36we support each other what each other love that
01:02:44that we empower each other are each other i'm so excited this is amazing
01:02:55that we give other women an opportunity to shine jules were you married
01:03:06just like we do i'm falling in love with you and that does not take away any of our power
01:03:12you
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