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00:00:02Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:05It's so embarrassing. I'm sorry.
00:00:06This is my first time I'm buying condoms.
00:00:10For the past 21 years, I have been with women only.
00:00:13But Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.
00:00:17I'm terrified to tell him because a couple of months ago,
00:00:21I told him I had a fling with a woman.
00:00:24And he was disgusted.
00:00:28He's 20 years younger than I am.
00:00:30I think I got hair on my chin older than that.
00:00:34Don't make jokes.
00:00:36He doesn't love you. That's not what love is.
00:00:38He wants a ticket to America.
00:00:41There's an absolute possibility this is going to blow up in my face.
00:00:44But if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,
00:00:48then what am I willing to take a risk for?
00:00:53We can't make more than hugs or kiss and check
00:00:57until we get married.
00:00:59But that's just not what you said.
00:01:01A couple weeks ago, I realized that he followed thousands of women.
00:01:05And it turns out that he was talking to one of the girls.
00:01:09Good night.
00:01:09Good night.
00:01:10Now seeing how he's acting in person,
00:01:13it's making me question things.
00:01:19Oh, my goodness.
00:01:22Sheena and I have been waiting seven years to meet up with each other.
00:01:25And I just want everything to go smoothly.
00:01:29But my mom did not take kindly to Sheena lying about the money again.
00:01:38Apology aside, there's still some things that have to be discussed before we can proceed.
00:01:54I'm scared that I'm going to pee all over the floor
00:01:56because every time I get nervous, I pee.
00:02:01I'm going to see his face and it's just going to flow out of me,
00:02:03drip down my legs.
00:02:04And what an impression that's going to be.
00:02:14I am nervous and I am excited and I'm scared to death
00:02:19because things can be different when he meets you in person.
00:02:23What if he hides?
00:02:24What if he changes his mind once I get there?
00:02:26I don't know what he's going to think about me.
00:02:28I don't know if he's going to be like,
00:02:30wow, she's a lot older than I thought.
00:02:36Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel for the first time.
00:02:40And I'm feeling overwhelmed and excited and nervous.
00:02:47My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns at dinner the other night
00:02:51that Daniel could be scamming me and I'm not ignoring them.
00:02:55But all I can think about is how I just want to touch his face
00:02:58and feel the dimples in his cheeks and feel his beard.
00:03:02I want to pull him in and just kiss him.
00:03:06These are the wigs I am taking with me.
00:03:09They're brand new.
00:03:10I have three because they get ruined very fast.
00:03:15I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.
00:03:18My plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.
00:03:22It just needs to go on my carry-on bag.
00:03:25Wearing a wig, it's a process and it's not fun.
00:03:30It sticks to your hair, it sticks to your skin, you have rashes, you have all kinds of sores.
00:03:36It's going to be stressful to deal with in Nigeria, but it makes him so happy.
00:03:42I want to look beautiful for Daniel.
00:03:44So I will be keeping it on all day and all night.
00:03:47I'm sleeping in my wig.
00:03:51So today, mom is going to Nigeria.
00:03:56I'm pretty nervous.
00:04:00I'm not sure how it's going to go.
00:04:03She's horrible with directions.
00:04:06I am hopeful she gets the answers and the relationship she's hoping for.
00:04:12But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.
00:04:18Hi, Faith.
00:04:19I have some toast and coffee for you.
00:04:22Oh, wonderful.
00:04:24Yeah, especially brood.
00:04:26That's the first thing I want.
00:04:28I know.
00:04:29All right, listen.
00:04:30Here's something really important.
00:04:31The certified letter is coming for the divorce.
00:04:34Yeah.
00:04:35So you have to go to the post office to mail it.
00:04:38That has to be done.
00:04:40Like immediately.
00:04:41Yes.
00:04:41Because the court hearing date that the judge signs the paper is on the 29th.
00:04:46So that the divorce becomes finalized on the 29th.
00:04:49I want to come clean and tell him that not only I was still married, but the divorce is there.
00:04:55And I want to show him the papers of the divorce.
00:04:58If I'm just, mom, you not only lied about the fact that, oh, you didn't just have a fling with
00:05:04a woman.
00:05:05No, you've been married to women several times.
00:05:09But you also told him you're not married.
00:05:14Not only does he not know that I've been with women for the past 21 years, Daniel doesn't know that
00:05:20I am technically still married to a woman.
00:05:27He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started talking to me.
00:05:31And I said, yeah, I'm free to marry because in my heart, I have been free to marry because my
00:05:36ex-wife and I have been separated for over nine years.
00:05:39We just never got around to signing the divorce papers until now.
00:05:44If that happened to me, I would be devastated.
00:05:47I wouldn't be able to trust that person.
00:05:49Well, I'm going to come clean on this trip and tell him everything.
00:05:52I'm not going to accept the marriage proposal until we have this conversation.
00:05:56He's going to know about it beforehand.
00:06:02Just trust me.
00:06:03I'm just worried, mom.
00:06:04Don't worry.
00:06:05Don't worry.
00:06:06I got this.
00:06:07Let's get going.
00:06:08We need to get to the airport.
00:06:09It is getting late and we need to get to get to.
00:06:13I do have a flight.
00:06:15I struggle trusting my mom that she's not going to somehow try and get married in there.
00:06:21Please do not ruin your life for getting married to somebody before you're ready.
00:06:26I need to grab my phone.
00:06:28That's the last thing I need.
00:06:33So if Daniel was asking you to get married while you were in Nigeria, would you keep your hands to
00:06:37faith?
00:06:37Would I go against faith's wishes?
00:06:44I want to say no.
00:06:48But my heart says, hold on to Daniel and do it.
00:06:53Jump with both feet in.
00:06:57I want to be Mrs. Daniel.
00:07:00I want to be with him.
00:07:02I want to be a part of him.
00:07:04I want to be his wife.
00:07:07So I don't know what I'll do.
00:07:09I really don't know.
00:07:12Will you grab one of the suitcases?
00:07:14Yeah, I can do that.
00:07:16Woo, here we go.
00:07:26Here we go.
00:07:29Oh, 61.
00:07:32What?
00:07:33Oh, 61.
00:07:35I got three.
00:07:37Oh, you've done good.
00:07:39Oh, 70.
00:07:42I met my husband when I was in high school.
00:07:45I was married to a soldier.
00:07:48He lived up the street.
00:07:51My husband and I met in junior college.
00:07:53We loved to skate.
00:07:55So our first date was going skating.
00:07:58The first date, we went to a fair.
00:08:02And I sort of thought, you know, I like him.
00:08:10I didn't want to be with anybody else.
00:08:13That was just, that was it.
00:08:17He said, I wanted you to have a heart ring.
00:08:23And here it is.
00:08:29I'm done waiting.
00:08:31No more.
00:08:33Hensitating.
00:08:35There is nothing more to once more.
00:08:39You got to feel it.
00:08:41You got to believe it.
00:08:44There's a whole new world you're looking for.
00:08:47Be poor.
00:08:50Good afternoon.
00:08:52Lemonade.
00:08:54Oh, boy.
00:08:55My name is Javon.
00:08:57I'm 38 years old.
00:08:58And I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.
00:09:02Who's winning?
00:09:03Who has a bingo?
00:09:04I've got several bingos.
00:09:06Oh, nice.
00:09:08I work at a nursing home.
00:09:10And I like my job.
00:09:14You know, old people, they just say some of the first things that come to their mind.
00:09:19They have no filters.
00:09:20And it's just pure comedy.
00:09:22What did you bring us today?
00:09:23We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.
00:09:28Ooh.
00:09:29Look at all that cheese.
00:09:31But it's just a low-paying job.
00:09:33Anybody else need any silverware?
00:09:35I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.
00:09:39American women, they want six-pack, six figures, six inches.
00:09:46I call them the three sixes.
00:09:48And it's not me.
00:09:53That's good.
00:09:56We hear you're going to the Philippines.
00:09:58Oh, yeah.
00:10:00Yeah, it's a trip way overdue.
00:10:01I'm going to see my wife.
00:10:04When was the last time you saw her?
00:10:07Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.
00:10:15So, this would be actually our first meet.
00:10:19Oh, okay.
00:10:22Really?
00:10:23Yeah.
00:10:25Aw.
00:10:26My wife is Anna Lynn.
00:10:28She's 38 years old.
00:10:29And she's from the Philippines, Cavite.
00:10:33Hey, boo, it's your wife.
00:10:35I hope you're having a great day.
00:10:42We connected online about five years ago.
00:10:45And we've been married for about two years.
00:10:50He said that?
00:10:52No, that's wrong.
00:10:54We have been in a relationship for six years.
00:10:57And we have been married for almost three years.
00:11:00Okay?
00:11:03Hello, boo-boo.
00:11:04I love you, and I appreciate you.
00:11:08Boy, the moment I saw him, he's so good to look at.
00:11:13Yummers.
00:11:19Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,
00:11:22we would talk for hours every day,
00:11:24and he just made me feel like the happiest that I've ever been.
00:11:30Maybe a year after we started talking online,
00:11:34I wanted to meet Anna Lynn in person.
00:11:36But when COVID hit, I couldn't no longer travel.
00:11:41There were flight restrictions.
00:11:43I was kind of feeling hopeless,
00:11:46and I was afraid that I'm going to lose him.
00:11:49And then I was scrolling on social media,
00:11:52and I saw these couples getting married online.
00:11:56And I thought if we were married legally,
00:11:59he would be able to enter the Philippine border
00:12:02because they allow family, which means blood or your spouse.
00:12:08When Anna Lynn first brought up online marriages,
00:12:14I was just like, what the hell?
00:12:18I had doubts, of course, because it's unorthodox,
00:12:22but I just had a lot of faith.
00:12:26When you meet the one that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with,
00:12:28you can't even actually put it into words.
00:12:30It's like, that's what they say.
00:12:31When you know, you know, it's kind of like that.
00:12:36All right.
00:12:37Place the rings on your fingers
00:12:39as a symbol of the love that you share
00:12:41and the commitment that you're making.
00:12:44How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.
00:12:48Absolutely not.
00:12:49But it was still the happiest day of my life.
00:12:52It is now my privilege to pronounce you
00:12:54lawfully wed as husband and wife.
00:12:59Congratulations.
00:13:02I finally have my perfect wife.
00:13:05I just need to meet her in person.
00:13:08How could you be married for years
00:13:09and never go to the Philippines to see your wife?
00:13:15The whole thing is very expensive,
00:13:17so, you know, and then I have to save up for it.
00:13:19So that's mostly the reason why.
00:13:23Over the years, me and Anna Lynn
00:13:25have tried to meet up several times,
00:13:28but work and finance has gotten away.
00:13:30And having a marriage online has been challenging.
00:13:36Especially because Anna Lynn has changed.
00:13:40When I first met Anna, she was more patient, sweeter.
00:13:45She just had more positive vibes about her.
00:13:48I'm like, hold on.
00:13:50What's going on here?
00:13:52I've always been feisty.
00:13:55He knows that.
00:13:57And I'm not the typical Filipina.
00:13:59I don't like being told what to do.
00:14:01I don't like being controlled.
00:14:03After a period of time,
00:14:05I had to fight to actually speak, to be heard.
00:14:09Lately, it feels like we're fighting more than we're getting along.
00:14:12I know we're already committed as man and wife.
00:14:15But before I apply for that spousal visa
00:14:18and move Anna Lynn to the U.S.,
00:14:21we need to spend physical time with one another
00:14:23to make sure I made the right choice.
00:14:27I'm going out there because I love her.
00:14:30I'm going to give it everything I got.
00:14:32But I'm worried that our problems
00:14:34are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.
00:14:37And if we can't,
00:14:38I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:14:51I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:15:11I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:15:12that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:15:14What? What's happening?
00:15:20Emma.
00:16:00I wanted to get out for a bit this morning
00:16:02and clear my mind
00:16:03because my night with Emma was horrible.
00:16:07I want to be her husband,
00:16:09but we need some time to know each other.
00:16:12I hope things better today.
00:16:19I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.
00:16:21Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him
00:16:24and he would be, like, bringing me coffee in the morning
00:16:26and cuddling with me.
00:16:27And that's not how it went at all.
00:16:30We've actually just been completely separate.
00:16:35Zia's behavior last night,
00:16:36it's making me a little suspicious,
00:16:39but I'm trying not to just be in my head
00:16:41and overthink things.
00:16:43I want this to be fun
00:16:44and I want us to just focus on
00:16:47the positives.
00:16:49I'm really determined to turn things around.
00:16:58Zia's behavior last night.
00:17:21That's it.
00:17:22This is your place.
00:17:23I hope you will like it.
00:17:24Thanks, babe.
00:17:31Hello.
00:17:37She's adorable.
00:17:40My favorite.
00:17:43I don't like eggs,
00:17:44but I'll eat it because she cooked it.
00:17:47Do you want to talk about yesterday?
00:17:50What do you want to start for what?
00:17:52I mean, it wasn't really, like,
00:17:53a good start to my trip.
00:17:56I don't like that we were fighting all day.
00:17:58Yeah.
00:17:59That's not how I expected, like,
00:18:00my first night to go.
00:18:03Can you pour me some more tea, please?
00:18:06Yeah.
00:18:06Oh, you drink that all quickly?
00:18:08I love the tea here.
00:18:10Okay.
00:18:11Um, but yes,
00:18:12I did want to say sorry
00:18:14to you.
00:18:14I don't hear you.
00:18:16I don't hear you.
00:18:17I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:18Can you repeat?
00:18:19I don't hear what you said.
00:18:20I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:21For what?
00:18:24For running away from your kiss.
00:18:27And?
00:18:29Walking away from you
00:18:30when you were talking.
00:18:34I mean, I'm sorry.
00:18:35Yesterday got, like, really dramatic,
00:18:36but I think it was just a long day for me
00:18:38because I was traveling for, like, 20 hours.
00:18:41I know it's difficult.
00:18:43And it was just, like, a lot going on.
00:18:44There was, like, a lot in my mind.
00:18:45And actually, there's something else
00:18:48I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:18:50that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:19:02What?
00:19:02What is this?
00:19:03What's happening?
00:19:07I was just, like, upset the past couple days
00:19:09because you know how much I love my job.
00:19:12Like, I've been there for five years.
00:19:16And well, I got fired.
00:19:21Really?
00:19:24I don't know if I want to talk about it
00:19:25because I'm going to cry.
00:19:26No, no, you don't mean this.
00:19:29Listen, listen.
00:19:32I just need a minute.
00:19:35Emma.
00:19:42Sorry.
00:19:44I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:48It's...
00:19:48I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:50It's just a walk.
00:19:52It's perfect.
00:19:55And you don't need to cry for it.
00:19:57So just enjoy your moments.
00:19:59No, don't cry.
00:20:00Don't cry.
00:20:00Okay.
00:20:01Don't cry.
00:20:02Okay?
00:20:09I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:20:11I don't have any, like, options right now.
00:20:14It's difficult and it's hard.
00:20:16But at the end, there is a lot of jobs.
00:20:18Yeah.
00:20:35I think we definitely started this trip, like, on the wrong foot.
00:20:39It was like a tornado.
00:20:42But right now, he's showing me that he cares about what I'm going through.
00:20:46I love you, babe.
00:20:47Yeah, he is.
00:20:47I love you more.
00:20:49But what's...
00:20:50What's mean, tornado?
00:20:51Like an earthquake.
00:20:52Like a natural disaster.
00:20:54So, like, when I got off the plane, what happened between us was like an earthquake.
00:20:59Yeah, yeah.
00:20:59That's an amazing example.
00:21:01Yeah, really.
00:21:05My future hubby.
00:21:07Oh.
00:21:08Do you know what that means?
00:21:10No.
00:21:10Can you explain?
00:21:11What's mean?
00:21:12It's short for husband.
00:21:13Really?
00:21:14Yeah.
00:21:14Where's...
00:21:15Hubby.
00:21:17One feet.
00:21:18Yeah.
00:21:20Exactly.
00:21:42God, I can't believe the trees, how beautiful they are.
00:21:46I gotta believe how hot it is.
00:21:48I'm probably gonna...
00:21:48I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:50I'm gonna have a sunburn in about 10 seconds.
00:22:01All right, see you later, Deb.
00:22:03See you later.
00:22:06I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents and finally met the girl of my dreams after
00:22:13seven years.
00:22:15Just being able to touch and hold her hand, it was so amazing.
00:22:19Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.
00:22:22Luka, luka.
00:22:24Yeah.
00:22:28Oh, this is incredible.
00:22:30Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.
00:22:33Crazy.
00:22:34This is definitely controlled chaos.
00:22:37If I could describe the Philippines in one word, it'd be hectic.
00:22:43It's got people, like, almost running into each other or running each other over constantly.
00:22:48Oh, man.
00:22:49Glad I'm not driving.
00:22:51Yeah.
00:22:52But it's got its own, like, charm to it.
00:22:56Look at that.
00:22:56That thing is pretty good.
00:22:58Yes, this is the jeepney.
00:22:59This is locally here in my country.
00:23:01They have converted old jeepneys from the World War II who have been left with Americans,
00:23:05so they converted for, like, taxis.
00:23:08Incredible.
00:23:10You can see the big building there.
00:23:12That's the condo we're gonna stay.
00:23:14I wish I could stand for a place.
00:23:18Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila, but we're not staying there because her parents
00:23:24said we had to pay for it if we did stay.
00:23:28When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset because I'm planning on marrying their daughter and I would
00:23:34be their son.
00:23:35And to charge family to come stay at their house is just absurd, especially because we have been saving for
00:23:42the last seven years just to afford the plane ticket to actually just meet her.
00:23:46Sheena said, I know it doesn't make sense, but it's what my parents want.
00:23:50It's their wishes.
00:23:50I can't really go around that.
00:23:54But I'm not paying them money.
00:24:13Sheena is an extreme foodie, and she likes to make sure that I'm well fed.
00:24:19Well, that's a cultural thing in my country.
00:24:22Whoa!
00:24:23I'd sure like to open him up and see what he's about.
00:24:26Oh, my goodness.
00:24:26I can definitely smell him.
00:24:28Oh.
00:24:29Yeah, you know.
00:24:30Yeah, he's a little excited at the top.
00:24:32Don't go for that.
00:24:33Yeah, okay.
00:24:38So, sorry, baby.
00:24:39This is all I could get for you guys.
00:24:42You can see that we have two bedrooms here.
00:24:45It's like a simple home, but comfy, so.
00:24:49The place is nice.
00:24:50It's pretty.
00:24:51But it could have been a little bit bigger.
00:24:56I state this claim in the name of Forrest.
00:24:59It feels good.
00:25:01Get your bag, too.
00:25:02Here, I'll throw these in here for you.
00:25:04It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing with my parents.
00:25:07If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down, I really just hope my parents don't hear us.
00:25:16Sheena.
00:25:17What?
00:25:18This feels more than online right now.
00:25:22Oh.
00:25:22You know, it's making me more nervous.
00:25:25Oh, you don't have to be.
00:25:27I'm here right with you.
00:25:28Oh, I know.
00:25:29I can see.
00:25:30Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:25:32Oh, yeah.
00:25:33Because I got some good stuff here.
00:25:37Excuse me, baby.
00:25:39Boom.
00:25:39What is that?
00:25:40This is something amazing, and I want you to try it on for me if you want.
00:25:48Whoa, what's that thing?
00:25:51I think it is a cloth that goes on your body.
00:25:55It accentuates your sexuality.
00:26:01Oh, that's nice.
00:26:02I love the color.
00:26:04Oh, yeah.
00:26:05I guess what?
00:26:06There's even more.
00:26:08What?
00:26:08You have more?
00:26:09I have more.
00:26:11Oh, wow.
00:26:12I got you a pretty thong.
00:26:15Wow.
00:26:17To be honest, I feel quite nervous because I am a virgin.
00:26:23But forest makes me feel confident of my body.
00:26:27This is another one for you in case you want to.
00:26:31Oh, that's great.
00:26:31That's cool.
00:26:32That's beautiful.
00:26:33Oh, okay.
00:26:34Oh, okay.
00:26:35Okay.
00:26:42You're so handsome, always.
00:26:43I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:26:45Okay.
00:26:45Go for it, Mendo.
00:26:46Debrush.
00:26:47All right.
00:26:48Here you think, Mendo.
00:26:51You know, when I was making, like, sexy talk with her, I was really just trying to, like,
00:26:56put her at ease, make her laugh, you know, just calm the mood.
00:27:02I've been waiting seven years to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:27:06But to be honest, I'm actually kind of still nervous about what is in my virginia.
00:27:13I mean, I'm not saying I can't pull her socks off, but having sex with Sheena, I feel like
00:27:21it's an important thing for the both of us to be in the right mindset.
00:27:24But it's just a big deal.
00:27:29I love you.
00:27:30I love you.
00:27:31Do you want the lights on or off?
00:27:32Well, turn off the lights, babe.
00:27:40It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:27:45I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that BeerCon won't be as attracted
00:27:52to me in person.
00:27:54Oh, my God.
00:27:55Here we go.
00:28:00We are in the process of landing, and I don't know if it was the cheese sandwich or BeerCon,
00:28:07but I'm excited.
00:28:19So this is the most important day, actually, in my life.
00:28:23I'm trying to look good, you know, for our big meeting, for the first time.
00:28:29Everything has to go perfect, so I will iron it until it's perfect or it's burned.
00:28:35Laura is arriving tricky today, and today might be the first day of my rest of my life.
00:28:45Laura rented this Airbnb for us.
00:28:49I never saw this big of a place.
00:28:54It just thrills me.
00:28:57Right now, I'm staying with different friends, sometimes Izmir, sometimes Istanbul.
00:29:05That's why Laura couldn't stay with me.
00:29:08But the privacy of our place is going to be nice, because we have a lot of things to discuss
00:29:15face to face.
00:29:28It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:29:32I'm so excited now.
00:29:34I just want to run out of this airport and leave all my luggage here.
00:29:44Oh.
00:29:48Oh, my gosh.
00:29:49She come early.
00:29:59It's slightly cold that I am having a heart attack, or I am excited.
00:30:04Yeah, we will see.
00:30:07I am going to wear a dress to meet this man.
00:30:11I think that will be a lot cuter than the hot mess that I'm currently wearing.
00:30:17I'm really proud of the progress that I've made over the last 14 months.
00:30:21But I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that Birkan won't be as attracted
00:30:30to me in person.
00:30:32And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:35And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:36All right.
00:30:41The woman I love is coming, so I'm thrilled.
00:30:45My hopes are we will get engaged and go to America, live together, and get married.
00:31:19All right.
00:31:22All right.
00:31:23Welcome, gorgeous.
00:31:25How are you?
00:31:26I'm good.
00:31:27Are you?
00:31:27I'm good.
00:31:29How are you doing?
00:31:30How are you doing?
00:31:30It was so long.
00:31:32Yeah, I know.
00:31:33I am still thinking about, oh, my God, America.
00:31:36You know?
00:31:39Ooh.
00:31:41Ooh.
00:31:43Ooh.
00:31:46I think everything's perfect.
00:31:49Right now.
00:31:49Yeah.
00:31:50That's really sweet.
00:31:51Yeah, that was.
00:31:52I know.
00:31:53I know.
00:31:54Yeah.
00:31:57So let's go this way.
00:32:00OK.
00:32:01These bumps are a pain with suitcases.
00:32:03Yeah.
00:32:03He looks amazing.
00:32:04Exactly the aesthetic that I've been describing, which is that dark romance male main character.
00:32:12When you look at her, what do you think?
00:32:13She's perfect.
00:32:14I don't need to look at her.
00:32:16I don't need, because I feel it, you know?
00:32:18I'm complete, so we don't need to see.
00:32:21That's probably the best answer ever.
00:32:28That was, like, the best flight I've ever taken.
00:32:31Yeah.
00:32:31Seriously.
00:32:33I'm glad.
00:32:34I'm really glad.
00:32:36Yeah.
00:32:51It's good to see you.
00:32:52You too.
00:32:58I don't know what's happening.
00:33:01It's very awkward right now.
00:33:06I really wasn't expecting that, because, you know, it was, like, great when we first met.
00:33:10He hugged me.
00:33:11He kissed me.
00:33:12And then we sit on this train, and it's like he doesn't know who I am.
00:33:15And I don't know who he is.
00:33:23I think we're close.
00:33:27I'm hoping that, as time moves forward, that this will turn around, and it will feel more like it did
00:33:35when we were online.
00:33:36But right now, something is off, and it's freaking me out.
00:33:41I don't know who I am.
00:33:43I don't know who I am.
00:33:46I don't know who I am.
00:33:48Anna called me like it were, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:33:53I know that Anna is 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:33:58She was just talking about that woman.
00:34:01Uh, yeah.
00:34:05Who is the woman?
00:34:23This is nice.
00:34:27Really?
00:34:28This is screaming, I failed a pottery class.
00:34:31No, but she doesn't like how you dress, so you got to do something else.
00:34:34Ugh.
00:34:42I think you got some good purchases.
00:34:48Ugh.
00:34:49Yeah, I don't have a lot of faith in that shirt.
00:34:52It'll be fine.
00:34:54It's gonna be fine.
00:34:56I'm running some last minute errands.
00:34:58with my sister, Ashley.
00:34:59Because I'm flying to the Philippines in a couple of days to meet my wife for the first
00:35:03time in person.
00:35:06I'm excited and I'm super nervous because we've been married for three years.
00:35:11But we've never been in the same room or even the same continent with each other.
00:35:17So, are you all packed up?
00:35:20You ready?
00:35:20Uh, I think I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be.
00:35:24And you know, me and Anna's relationship, it's just been this spiraling, like, up and down, loop-de-loop rollercoaster
00:35:31ride.
00:35:32But when things are good, I'm, like, really happy to be in a relationship.
00:35:36I think Anna's very funny.
00:35:37Yeah.
00:35:38Like, Anna seems like she's a good time.
00:35:41She's just a lot.
00:35:45But, Javon, marrying somebody online was actually wild to me.
00:35:50I do think they love each other.
00:35:52But I don't know, like, I wouldn't just call this, like, a normal marriage.
00:35:56This is something I've never seen or heard of before.
00:36:01You know, like, Anna actually called me.
00:36:05You spoke to her?
00:36:07Mm-hmm.
00:36:09She called me, like, at work.
00:36:11I'm working.
00:36:12I'm with customers.
00:36:14And she's just, you know, talking about, your brother, your brother.
00:36:17I don't know what to do with him.
00:36:18Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
00:36:22And I was like, can't even get her off the phone.
00:36:24Yeah.
00:36:24She was just talking about that woman.
00:36:31Uh, yeah.
00:36:35So who is the woman?
00:36:43So the woman is just, like, a friend of mine that I've known for a long time.
00:36:51We communicate so well.
00:36:53And we can stay on the phone for hours.
00:36:55I think because we're both having problems in our, you know, relationship.
00:36:59It's definitely more easygoing and it's more positive.
00:37:06So, but what is it that, that Anna's so, like, threatened and bothered by her?
00:37:12Like, what, what is it?
00:37:14Because I feel like I'm missing something.
00:37:18Yeah, I mean, there used to be this, this, this, this, this small thing between us.
00:37:23But we're bad.
00:37:25Oh, so that, so, so, Javon, that's not okay.
00:37:29That is no good.
00:37:31I know, you know, and I'm not.
00:37:33So, so that's why she's so upset then.
00:37:35Yeah.
00:37:37Me and my friend, we never officially dated, but there was feelings for one another.
00:37:42We lost touch for a while, but I reached out to her because I was going through a rough time
00:37:50in my marriage.
00:37:52And I needed someone that knew me and that understood me.
00:37:56I wasn't trying to hide anything.
00:37:58So I just came out and told Anna Lynn I was talking to this other person.
00:38:03I don't think it's a big deal, but obviously she does because she's extremely pissed off and upset.
00:38:12I'm not saying she don't have a valid reason to be upset, but it's just completely platonic, you know, and
00:38:19she don't have to worry about that.
00:38:22Have you tried to call her?
00:38:25I have, but, you know, she, she blocked me.
00:38:30For real?
00:38:33She gets so aggressive.
00:38:35See, this is the problem.
00:38:36Like, this is how, this is why I had to go outside of our marriage to talk to somebody else
00:38:43about our marriage.
00:38:45And it shouldn't be that way.
00:38:48Obviously, Anna feels disrespected.
00:38:51And I do get that.
00:38:53I know that she's 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:38:59But I do feel like he presses her buttons.
00:39:01Javonja needs to say sorry and try and talk to her.
00:39:05And if they don't know how to talk, then they don't need to be married.
00:39:08You're about to see your wife for the first time.
00:39:11You all don't need to be in the middle of a fight.
00:39:14I don't know what the to do.
00:39:17I don't know what to do.
00:39:22I heard some interesting things from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:39:28Did you guys do the old knockin' knockin'?
00:39:32I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:39:37Now, now you're kind of, now you're kind of being really disrespectful.
00:39:46How are you doing?
00:39:51It's okay, this video.
00:40:01Oh, yeah, we got to grow.
00:40:06Hey, guys, we're going to go down and have some coffee by the board.
00:40:09pool, so we'll be up in a little while.
00:40:12Talk to you in a bit.
00:40:14Later.
00:40:20It's very content.
00:40:28Oh, you're crazy.
00:40:35I'm crazy, do you?
00:40:40I arrived in the Philippines yesterday,
00:40:42and the first night with the woman of my dream, Sheena,
00:40:45was amazing.
00:40:47You're crazy.
00:40:48Oh, man, you're strong.
00:40:49I gotta watch it.
00:40:49Oh, yeah?
00:40:49I have a strong beard.
00:40:56I'm gonna tickle you crazy, baby.
00:41:00There's a lot of new and fun things
00:41:02on finding out being with Sheena physically.
00:41:04I found out there's a night Sheena.
00:41:07What?
00:41:07And she's kind of grabby.
00:41:09Oh, really?
00:41:10I'm not.
00:41:11You're very into being physical.
00:41:13Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:14Night Sheena.
00:41:15Rawr, rawr, rawr.
00:41:18You know, just finally being able to hold you and be with you
00:41:21and kiss you, it just felt awesome.
00:41:25And I know that I talked of a big game last night about sex and everything like that, but I
00:41:33really believe that we should wait, you know, till we know each other a bit more, you know, in person.
00:41:41I understand my love.
00:41:44I really feel like after seven years, me coming here to the Philippines and just having sex with Sheena straight
00:41:51up, it's not what I want to do.
00:41:54Yeah, I agree with that.
00:41:56I just want to get to know you much better.
00:41:58We all know when the time is right.
00:42:00I agree to that.
00:42:03Also, probably when my mom's not around.
00:42:04Yeah.
00:42:12We'll see you later.
00:42:14I don't need a coat, that's for sure.
00:42:17Ooh, nice and cool in here.
00:42:21I'm excited.
00:42:22I'm excited.
00:42:29So, where exactly are you taking us again?
00:42:32So, it's a Chinatown here in Manila.
00:42:35Actually, one of the oldest Chinatown here in the whole world.
00:42:39Because Chinese people have been trading with the Filipinos before Spanish people arrived.
00:42:46Wow.
00:42:47So, there's a lot of historical sites around and good foods.
00:42:50I'm ready to eat it all.
00:42:56So, I got a little curiosity question to ask you guys.
00:43:01I heard some interesting things, you know, coming from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:43:08The little giggles.
00:43:11So, did you guys do the old knockin' knockin'?
00:43:19No.
00:43:20No.
00:43:20No.
00:43:22No.
00:43:24So, why didn't you guys?
00:43:29Well, it just wasn't the right time or place to do that.
00:43:33Oh, okay, well.
00:43:36You guys can always come and talk to us if you have questions.
00:43:40It's not an embarrassing subject to me.
00:43:43It's life.
00:43:44It takes practice to be good at it.
00:43:48Yeah.
00:43:51My parents are just, it's a little too much.
00:43:56It's a little bit rude and awkward for me.
00:43:58I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know.
00:44:03I respect you guys for waiting.
00:44:05And there's nothing wrong with that.
00:44:07There are other things that you can do if you guys didn't want to do the nookie nookie.
00:44:14There's oral sex.
00:44:15There's fondling.
00:44:18Now, now you're kind of being really disrespectful here, Mom.
00:44:21I get it.
00:44:21You're trying to be helpful, but you're pushing too far.
00:44:25You know, if we want to talk about sex with you, we'll come up and ask about it.
00:44:31Okay.
00:44:33Excuse me.
00:44:37I thought it was nice that he was defending her honor.
00:44:41That's admirable.
00:44:42But I was very shocked by Forrest's reaction.
00:44:46Thank you very much.
00:44:49Well, Forrest, why is this a, you know, a total 180 from our normal discussions where you're right in there
00:44:55using the same language, the same talk, saying, yeah, I'm going to get into that, do that.
00:45:00It's drastic night and day.
00:45:02I see where this is headed.
00:45:04Oh, my God, I miss this place.
00:45:06It feels at home.
00:45:09Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.
00:45:12Let's not forget, she was lying to him for years, getting all of her money to her parents instead of
00:45:18saving for their future.
00:45:19And I don't know if Forrest will actually hold her accountable.
00:45:23But we need to get some answers.
00:45:33You don't need to talk about your past.
00:45:36I know, I know everything about your life.
00:45:39You don't know everything.
00:45:41I really want to tell the end about my last engagement because I think it's the only way that we
00:45:46could move forward.
00:46:02Ooh, look at the mirrors.
00:46:04Yep.
00:46:05Wait, I want to check my outfit.
00:46:07Here, hold that.
00:46:10We look cute.
00:46:13I can see you.
00:46:14Can you see yourself?
00:46:15I can see you.
00:46:18I can see you.
00:46:36I can see you.
00:46:37Today, I want to take Emma to old Middina.
00:46:40I feel so bad, because Emma, she loves her job.
00:46:43I want to make her feel so better, and she loves chopping, so.
00:46:48Oh, look at those bags.
00:46:50Those are cute.
00:46:52The market place in the Middina, they have a thousand stores there.
00:46:57Oh, my gosh.
00:46:57I love all of these clothes.
00:47:00you can find anything you want oh look at these rugs those are nice oh wait there's bags let's go
00:47:08look at the bags let's let's let's see what you want oh this is so cute can you hold this
00:47:16i want
00:47:16to look at everything hey look for anything you want i think i like these little wallets
00:47:22these are cute i think i'm gonna buy these three not you me you're gonna get them yeah
00:47:30it's like my gift to you can i give you a kiss not hair hair kiss maybe is that okay
00:47:38yeah can i do that
00:47:39from now on yeah yeah just give you air kisses whenever i want to kiss you yeah
00:47:46it's really nice to have ziad offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me that was so romantic
00:47:53because that's never something i've had in the past it's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than
00:47:59i was feeling yesterday where are you taking me babe this it's popular here in marrakesh what is this
00:48:12what is that what's we call them in english snails snails i like don't want that really no
00:48:20it's like it's was just no i'm not trying it no i literally would throw up
00:48:30that is the grossest thing i've ever seen in my whole life it's a slimy snail
00:48:35snail and you just stuck it down for me it's delicious
00:48:44that's like really gross what's like the weirdest food you've ever tried like snails would be weird
00:48:51for you for me no so for me sushi for example i love sushi yeah it's we are different it's
00:49:07can you hold my other bag actually what else can we do like while we're here
00:49:13did you like horses i love horses i think we have to choose this one i like the white one
00:49:22just one by one one by one oh my god this is so romantic this is like a romantic love
00:49:33ride
00:49:40this is three kisses you kiss me today
00:49:45i'm happy that we had a better day today yeah me too it was a big difference between this day
00:49:51and last
00:49:51day
00:49:54yesterday was like really hard for me it like brought up old feelings
00:49:59because you know i've like been lying to a lot like in my past like with past boyfriends
00:50:04so when when you kind of lied to me it was like a trigger for me
00:50:09yeah so you don't need to talk about your past
00:50:13your bad experience
00:50:14do you not care about my past
00:50:14no i know you right now not in past so
00:50:18yeah but don't you want to know about my life
00:50:21just like things i've been through like don't you want to know about me
00:50:23yeah i know i know everything about your life you don't know everything
00:50:29no i know everything i know your family i know uh where do you live i know i know but
00:50:33there are things that like i that have happened in my life that you don't know about
00:50:41like i thought we can leave the impasse something passage it's passage
00:50:49i want to be vulnerable i want to share you know details about who i am and my past
00:50:53and i really want to be able to tell zied about my last engagement because i think it's the
00:51:00only way that we could move forward but for him to shut me down it does make me wonder
00:51:06if zied just doesn't want to talk about the past because maybe he has something that he's
00:51:11hiding or that he doesn't want to tell me
00:51:17since i've gotten to morocco i've just felt really rejected by him
00:51:21and so now i'm just feeling a little concerned about everything
00:51:31i need you to be able to look me in the eye why have you lied to us all along
00:51:36i was so fearful of my parents they would say bad things to me they would say bad things to
00:51:43other
00:51:43people and it affects me emotionally mentally drains me and i know i need that direct answer
00:51:50as to why you continue to hide it
00:52:16hello javon
00:52:28i'm leaving for the philippines tomorrow to meet with my wife anna for the first time
00:52:34but me and anna we haven't spoken to each other in about a week
00:52:39my sister talked to anna lynn and she actually unblocked me but she's still really upset that
00:52:45i'm back in touch with a friend i once had feelings for there's so much riding on this trip
00:52:53anna being as angry it's just not good
00:52:58hey what's going on
00:53:00what's going on ask yourself what's going on javon
00:53:06i mean uh you know anna don't don't be so aggressive
00:53:10i'm not being aggressive
00:53:13you told me yourself if we're going to be married
00:53:17we can't be keeping anyone special from the past but you're doing it
00:53:26and i'm not saying that you're cheating on me but it's like a baby step
00:53:34i'm dealing with so much over here by myself i'm dealing with your problems i'm dealing with my
00:53:40problems and sometimes i don't feel like i'm being emotionally supported by you
00:53:45so you know i kind of felt like i was just a little bit desperate just to
00:53:50just to be understood and just heard
00:53:56if you feel like sometimes you can't talk to me
00:54:01you have siblings you have a dad you have a mom
00:54:05but if your big circle is still not enough
00:54:09you're american get the therapy
00:54:13i mean but like who could afford therapy right now
00:54:23she's not taking any accountability that you know she played a part in why i reached out
00:54:29to a friend i need to be able to rely on my wife but she makes it impossible
00:54:36even when i'm like at work you're going through something i always try to be there for your
00:54:42emotionally
00:54:42okay okay okay listen i try but i don't see you trying for me when do you show up for
00:54:49me in that way
00:54:50oh god
00:54:55like hello i've been i've been waiting for you for six years i have devoted invested so much love
00:55:09if you don't feel like that's understanding enough waiting for you for that long
00:55:15i don't know i know you've made you know some sacrifice by waiting for me for this long
00:55:31and i do apologize and i do take accountability for what i've done
00:55:39okay
00:55:40okay
00:55:43so you're gonna stop talking to her
00:55:47i can stop but can we at least work on our communication
00:55:55okay okay okay that's all i want boo that's that's it
00:56:00with jubon coming out to the philippines i do feel like i could let go of some negative feelings
00:56:08about this situation but even though he agreed that he's not gonna talk to that woman anymore
00:56:16do i believe it no not really so i will definitely talk about this again in person
00:56:28do you think we can like move past it like when we see each other
00:56:34i don't know baby
00:56:54whoa look at this place
00:56:55this was a church
00:56:57oh
00:56:571588 man that is old
00:57:00it's old
00:57:00here we got some great cheer
00:57:03what's this you guys
00:57:07yes
00:57:11yeah it's precision
00:57:14oh my goodness
00:57:15we call that fiesta
00:57:16oh yes
00:57:17that's a culture of a catholic here in my country
00:57:20goodness
00:57:22yes
00:57:22oh my god
00:57:23yeah it's really cool
00:57:24look at this
00:57:25ah
00:57:28i decided to take courses
00:57:30i decided to take courses
00:57:30my mom and his family to chinatown because i'm a chinese mix
00:57:34my mom is chinese descent so i wanted to show how chinese culture interbonded with filipina culture
00:57:42you smell that
00:57:45oh that smells so good
00:57:46so this is a place that they make handmade noodles
00:57:50i eat that air
00:57:52hello
00:57:52oh
00:57:53yesterday i was quite a little nervous to meet four's parents especially molly
00:57:59okay thank you thank you
00:58:01thank you
00:58:02there's been problems between me and molly but i'm so glad that she happened to accept me
00:58:08and i wanted to provide them the best first day here in the philippines
00:58:14yum
00:58:15yum
00:58:16oh thank you
00:58:17slurps up
00:58:18slurps up
00:58:18slurps up
00:58:19huh
00:58:19yeah actually that's here in the culture you want to slurp it means you're eating the good noodles so that's
00:58:25a good sign
00:58:25so the loud are the best right
00:58:26yeah yes
00:58:27here i go
00:58:29yeah you are the king of slurps forest
00:58:32i made sure to get on my glasses that's the that's the key
00:58:35this is all good
00:58:36yeah
00:58:38well sheena
00:58:40i wanted to to thank you for your apology yesterday i mean that really showed a lot um to me
00:58:48but i did i did want to uh ask you about a few things
00:58:58okay
00:58:58okay mom i'm listening
00:59:00and i need you to be able to look me in the eye and i need you to be truthful
00:59:05with me
00:59:06one hundred percent
00:59:10you lied to us about giving your parents the money
00:59:16this was supposed to be you saving up money so you could come to america to be a family with
00:59:22us
00:59:22and these were the plans all of these years
00:59:25and then for it to just find out
00:59:29now
00:59:30before we come here
00:59:32that hasn't been happening
00:59:36why have you lied to us all along
00:59:43i really owe you millions and thousands of explanations i need
00:59:47i hope you can listen to my situation
00:59:50the reason why that i happen to give my money to my parents is because being a breadwinner
00:59:58it's a cultural thing in my country that we are obligated to help our parents around
01:00:04i mean i completely understand giving your parents money needing to help your family
01:00:08that's what family does
01:00:09but my issue with it is that you lie
01:00:20to be honest the reason also that's the reason i was so scared because my parents my mom happened to
01:00:29guilt tripping me from time to time
01:00:32if i don't give them money she makes me feel that i'm such a selfish person and it hurts me
01:00:38a lot
01:00:39okay but if i'm asking you a direct question i need that direct answer and even now you haven't given
01:00:47me a direct answer as to why you continue to hide it
01:00:55watching sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful
01:01:00i i'm wanting to step in and defend her and protect sheena
01:01:04but at the same time i i don't understand what fear she had of telling me
01:01:11i was so fearful of my parents
01:01:14they would say bad things to me they would say bad things to other people
01:01:18okay and it affects me emotionally mentally
01:01:20it drains me every day
01:01:21no
01:01:22and it makes me feel so bad
01:01:24no
01:01:24no
01:01:25sheena i'm not asking you that i'm asking you why you did not tell us
01:01:35i couldn't handle myself anymore because i don't know
01:01:39i can't sheena i can't understand what you're saying
01:01:42i am sorry
01:01:42oh my god
01:01:43i don't know
01:01:44see there's your manipulation
01:01:45with the tears
01:01:46please put your tissue down
01:01:48please
01:01:51i'm trying to have sheena acknowledge actions that she did that weren't acceptable
01:01:58so even if she did have good reason to give it all to her parents
01:02:01what's the motivation for hiding it
01:02:04we gotta get answers
01:02:12oh my god this is really happening
01:02:14oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god i can't believe i'm doing this
01:02:19i love this but i am worried about some things she was physical with a woman
01:02:27my jaw
01:02:37oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my my god
01:03:00thank you oh my gosh i'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life daniel in nigeria
01:03:08for
01:03:08the very first time what am i doing i don't know mom what are you doing certainly not what i
01:03:14would
01:03:15be doing it still feels surreal to me that after 21 years of only being with women i'm traveling
01:03:22across the world to meet a man and i love him i love him you're gonna see when i come
01:03:30home how
01:03:30excited and happy i am you're gonna see when i talk to you there how happy i am and you're
01:03:35gonna
01:03:36be happy for me i just i don't want it to ruin your heart
01:03:48i'm gonna pee my pants oh god please don't
01:03:57all right you remember the rules don't get married on the trip even when the divorce comes
01:04:02through yes and i would come clean about everything it'll be a foundation and if you have questions
01:04:08i will ask them
01:04:12i love you i love you too i'm gonna miss you so much
01:04:17be safe oh god
01:04:20this is the biggest risk i've ever taken flying across the world to another country to nigeria
01:04:26africa to be with a man i have never met before i can't believe i'm doing this
01:04:32oh my god this is really happening
01:04:35oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god i can't believe i'm doing
01:04:39this
01:04:44i hope daniel will accept me for everything that i am and who i am and that he will become
01:04:51my sixth
01:04:51and final spouse
01:04:53and final spouse
01:05:27Yeah, I know I'll be
01:05:30Yeah, I know I'll be
01:05:32Yeah, I know I'll be not baboo
01:05:45Please, give me 500 nera, um, Pepe
01:05:49My name is Daniel, I am 29 years old
01:05:52I am a Christian from the Igbo tribe
01:05:57We have traditions and we believe in traditions
01:06:00As an Igbo man, we love competition
01:06:03We work hard and we have to be honest
01:06:16I grew up very poor
01:06:17Sometimes we eat once in a day because there's no food
01:06:22My family do the best they can do
01:06:25And I am really close to my family
01:06:28But some years ago, I lost my mom
01:06:31Before she died
01:06:32She told me that during war, she nearly be killed
01:06:36That a white woman protected her
01:06:38And I have to make sure that I get married to a white woman
01:06:41So I decided I will do it
01:06:43And that's how I found Lisa
01:06:49Lisa is 52 years old
01:06:51She lives in Pennsylvania
01:06:53She's a beautiful woman
01:06:54She has, um, she has a good body structure
01:06:57She's thick, she has boobs
01:07:00She has what I want
01:07:04She don't hide anything
01:07:05She supports me financially
01:07:08She makes me feel loved
01:07:10That's why I fell in love with her
01:07:17She makes me feel very shy
01:07:20And that's how I'm scared
01:07:20It's how Alice saw her
01:07:21Sheimos
01:07:22I'm pregnant
01:07:26Get this stuff
01:07:28You need help
01:07:33You need help
01:07:36You need help
01:07:38You need help
01:07:40You need help
01:07:40You need help
01:07:41You need help
01:07:42You need cela
01:07:42People you need help
01:07:42You can help
01:08:04In our tribe, we do see spiritual leaders to consult the ancestors.
01:08:13I love Nisa, but I am worried about some things.
01:08:18One, she vaped.
01:08:20Two, she told me that she had gotten married twice.
01:08:24And three, she was physical with a woman.
01:08:28One time.
01:08:29This is the worst.
01:08:37We don't believe that same sex exists in our culture.
01:08:43Anyone caught in the arts will be banished or killed.
01:08:47So we don't do it, we don't accept it here.
01:08:50She gave me her promise that she have stopped it.
01:08:54But I'm nervous.
01:08:54I'm nervous.
01:09:24was approved i want to move forward on this relationship i'm planning a big surprise for
01:09:35lisa when i meet her at the airport i've been talking to god almighty to take me away from
01:09:42nigeria if i marry lisa to make me change the story of my family and if i should make it
01:09:49to
01:09:49america this will change my life too good it feels so bad you're dragging my suitcases yes
01:10:10oh it feels like it got colder it gets cold or gets hot no straight weather
01:10:27wow
01:10:29here we are oh we're here
01:10:34here you go i will take this thank you you're welcome after all of this excitement anticipation
01:10:41and build up of coming to turkey and meeting beer con face to face it's starting off a little bit
01:10:48awkward but i'm still so happy to be finally standing here with him it just feels so right
01:10:57i'm excited to see this
01:11:01here you go oh you want me to go first yeah of course okay oh my god this is huge
01:11:08oh yeah
01:11:09this is way bigger than it looked in pictures this is amazing
01:11:18this kitchen is bigger than almost my every house so this is incredible
01:11:25you like this oh my god i love this i'm gonna move here you can see the sea everything oh
01:11:35my god wow
01:11:39this is amazing i'm so excited to finally be here and to finally be doing this
01:11:43did worth it all the trip yeah i know it's worth it yeah i know so how about you change
01:11:56and we will see
01:12:00because that sounds awesome let's do that let's do that all right okay
01:12:09this is the best part of this mirror this is incredible i would love to like live right there
01:12:17like with this view every day yeah i like these old buildings i do too yeah
01:12:26like architecture is the art we live in i love that yeah i like really profound yeah i love that
01:12:35phrase
01:12:36birkan has so many like random comments for things and he has a way of taking things that are just
01:12:42very
01:12:43simple and creating this like giant philosophical discussion around it it's really pretty now that the
01:12:49sun's gone down yeah when the darkness comes the light shines out sometimes it's a little exhausting
01:12:59because i'm like oh my god it's just the sunset i guess we gotta go this way go back this
01:13:03way yeah
01:13:03i feel like a walking zombie right now actually not you the people are no they have no idea
01:13:13i don't know where he comes up with all of this i mean it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes
01:13:19but
01:13:20ultimately i like it and i wouldn't change it
01:13:25ah how was your day yeah it was good i enjoyed it how about you i mean i'm exhausted i
01:13:34traveled the time to
01:13:35get here but it was really fun to see some of the sights and
01:13:48i'm exhausted and i have got to get some sleep okay you want to go to bed
01:13:56actually it's just nine o'clock and i have no sleep so why don't you go some sleep and i
01:14:06will watch
01:14:07some tv and join you after
01:14:13have a nice night all right good night good night
01:14:40um michael just has been blowing up my phone since i got here he tracked my flight texted me like
01:14:47as soon as i landed to say i saw you landed and then he just kind of checked up on
01:14:52me
01:14:53i said everything's good and then he was like your tone is less than excited my dear so i think
01:15:02it's
01:15:02interesting that he can pick up on that but i just have a lot of things to process right now
01:15:14him just staying out there watching tv it's just i don't know different maybe than what i was
01:15:20expecting i feel like it's not this like super great magical moment
01:15:26just feels off i don't know how to explain it just feels off
01:15:31it is so ironic and kind of concerning that i'm getting more attention from michael
01:15:38than i am from the man that i flew halfway around the world to meet
01:15:44and so i feel like there's something really wrong and i don't know maybe he's hiding something or maybe
01:15:52he's just not attracted to me in person but either way i'm just kind of questioning why i'm even here
01:15:59at
01:16:05this point
01:16:05ain't there colin
01:16:13does this story make any sense to you at all
01:16:16i couldn't handle him anymore
01:16:17It doesn't make any sense to me.
01:16:20Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:16:22I want to end this now.
01:16:24You're acting all hostile?
01:16:25I'm not.
01:16:26Yeah, you are.
01:16:27Forrest?
01:16:36My family had been the one who had been influenced since I was a kid.
01:16:42For they should be helping me around.
01:16:44They kept always promising to me that they would do anything.
01:16:46They can't understand you.
01:16:50You have to speak.
01:16:51You have to be strong and you got to speak clearly.
01:16:57I need you to really please point blank.
01:17:02You were giving your parents money.
01:17:05Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?
01:17:17Because I feel so scared that if I happened not to give them money, they would say bad things.
01:17:27They say so many mean things that I don't want to accept it.
01:17:31And I was afraid that I was running back, running back.
01:17:35Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:17:38Honestly, when you try to look at it and without the tears and without...
01:17:42I didn't have to lie them anymore.
01:17:45No.
01:17:45It doesn't make any sense to me at all.
01:17:48The pieces aren't just lining up.
01:17:50I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.
01:17:59It's very concerning because how do I even know that your feelings and plans are actually genuine?
01:18:09Oh, you were scared.
01:18:10Forrest would have come to me and said,
01:18:13Mom, I got to get it on a freaking plane right now.
01:18:16I got to go over there and save her.
01:18:18But it sounds to me you obviously weren't that scared that you couldn't tell him
01:18:22and that you could put up with it all that years and hide it.
01:18:27Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:18:35A lot of it, yeah.
01:18:37I understand that if you love your parents and you want to have love from them,
01:18:43you would try to do anything to make them love you.
01:18:47Forrest.
01:18:48It's hard to say no to a parent, especially when...
01:18:51But that still didn't answer the question as...
01:18:54It's hard for me to say no to you.
01:18:55It's hard for me to stick up for her against you.
01:19:02I believe Sheena is not trying to lie
01:19:05or use things as excuses.
01:19:07I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say.
01:19:10And...
01:19:11She gets so overwhelmed, all she can get is...
01:19:15You know, diary of the mouth.
01:19:21I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena
01:19:24if I just sat there and watched her flounder.
01:19:29Obviously, she knows she did wrong.
01:19:31What's your goal here?
01:19:33Just to sit here and keep beating her down?
01:19:36I think what we have to do is we need to get Sheena away from her parents.
01:19:44Because ultimately, the root of this nasty tree is the parents.
01:19:52Sheena, we need to hear from you that you're ready to move forward
01:19:56and confront your parents about what we're going to do from now on.
01:20:02I'm willing to take the risk to confront my parents.
01:20:06It is the only way to end this kind of problem.
01:20:09Which is what she should have done to set up with you years and years ago.
01:20:14And we can sit there and we can talk about the past
01:20:15and he said, she said he could do that, she cannot do that.
01:20:19It's time to move forward now.
01:20:21Forrest?
01:20:22I want to end this now.
01:20:27I don't even want to talk about the parents anymore.
01:20:29I don't want to talk about anything.
01:20:31You're acting all hostile.
01:20:33I'm not hostile.
01:20:33Yeah, you are.
01:20:35And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.
01:20:38You're causing me a lot of stress.
01:20:40I tried to have a nice dinner
01:20:41and our nice dinner turned into a disaster.
01:20:47It's okay, babe.
01:20:52I now see that Forrest is too deep.
01:20:55He's just got the blinders on,
01:20:57only wanting to believe her.
01:21:01Now he sees us as the big, bad nasties
01:21:04that attacked his poor Sheena.
01:21:07But still, I have to always protect Forrest
01:21:10because I know that he really loves her.
01:21:13And I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.
01:21:24Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:27I will not meet my wife for the first time.
01:21:29This is so surreal.
01:21:31Come on.
01:21:32Where are you?
01:21:34This is like ordering something online
01:21:36and we're just excited to unpack the package.
01:21:43Oh my...
01:21:44Are you nervous?
01:21:45A little bit, yeah, actually.
01:21:47Before I came to Turkey,
01:21:49I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.
01:21:52I have some, like, loose skin in places
01:21:54that I am looking to have removed.
01:21:57This part is best as possible.
01:22:00But I'm immediately regretting having Fearcom come with me.
01:22:04I will just show you some pictures.
01:22:11I've been looking at your page.
01:22:13Every day, you follow new girls.
01:22:16Just girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls.
01:22:18No, no, there is no...
01:22:19Yeah.
01:22:20I downloaded this extension on my laptop
01:22:22and it shows you who people follow.
01:22:26This morning, I saw that he was still following thousands of women.
01:22:29So since we've been dating,
01:22:31have you talked romantically to any other girls?
01:22:35Sheena and I had a discussion
01:22:36about going by ourselves to meet your parents
01:22:38and how it's important that I meet them
01:22:40before Mom and Dad meet them.
01:22:43I can't even imagine what her parents would try and do
01:22:45if Forrest went over there by himself.
01:22:47I need to be there with Forrest.
01:22:51Sheena, your parents are going to do
01:22:53the same line that they've used on you all along.
01:22:57Well, my family isn't a bad people.
01:22:59And now the story changes again.
01:23:02I still don't know if this isn't something
01:23:04that you're involved in either.
01:23:08What the heck?
01:23:12I can't get out of there, though.
01:23:15I love him with everything I am.
01:23:17But he doesn't know that I've been married five times
01:23:21and I'm still married to a woman.
01:23:24What are you doing?
01:23:26We did it all.
01:23:26All right.
01:23:27All right.
01:23:28Now...
01:23:29You
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