00:00Do you just not care about me and my feelings at all?
00:02But you broke up!
00:04I've been seeing my friend's ex-boyfriend.
00:06Uh oh.
00:06They broke up over a year ago on okay terms and he's genuinely a good guy.
00:11I didn't plan for feelings to develop, but they did.
00:13Is it ever okay to date a friend's ex?
00:16And how do I tell her and our friend group without ruining everything?
00:20I would certainly hope a little time elapsed between the breakup and your going out.
00:25And then I would definitely say to my friend, would it bother you?
00:29Don't just say, by the way, we're dating.
00:31Right.
00:32You might end up being not friendly with her anymore.
00:34If you really think there's really a chance of a serious relationship, I would go for it.
00:40But I would tell the friend, you know, I'm going to just tell you right up front.
00:43She hasn't moved on.
00:44That could be an issue.
00:45But you know what, I still think you have to try it if you really feel that strongly about
00:49the young person.
00:50I feel like there's so many men and women in the whole world.
00:53Like why do you have to go for your friend's ex?
00:55Because sometimes that's the person you're closest to.
00:58It's like very often when people get divorced, they end up going with friends that they were
01:03friendly with who also got divorced because you're more comfortable with those people.
01:06If it was my friend and they said they wanted to go out with my ex, I would not want
01:10to
01:10be friends with the girl anymore.
01:12Oh really?
01:12Okay.
01:13Because I'm like, do you just not care about me and my feelings at all?
01:16But you broke up.
01:16Even if we broke up totally friendly and there was no issues, I would find it so strange because
01:23I would wonder, did my friend have feelings for my boyfriend the entire time?
01:28Sometimes you're in a position where you wouldn't have acted on it if they were together.
01:32But sometimes in your own mind you say, you know, this is the kind of guy I would like.
01:36I feel like it's not girl code, but you believe in girl code, don't you?
01:41I don't really care.
01:43Oh.
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