00:00Hello, my name is Amelia Van Der Beek and as you all know, probably know, my dad has passed away.
00:13But I'm just going to tell you a little tips or anything that helps you getting through anybody you love
00:25is passing.
00:25Okay, so today is my dad's birthday and the number one thing for somebody's passing is to talk to them
00:40and let your emotions out.
00:43If you miss them, you can cry, you can talk to them.
00:47And I talk to my dad every day and I start with a sentence and I say, hi, dad, I
00:57miss you and I love you so much and I'll never stop loving you.
01:01And I just tell him about my day, how I'm feeling.
01:08And I tell my family how I'm feeling.
01:12And I know he can hear me, but I can't hear him.
01:16My mom can.
01:19And you just, you have to feel them in your heart because they're in your heart.
01:24They're watching over you.
01:26They're a part of your body and in a good place.
01:32I know that my dad's in a good place.
01:34He's not in pain anymore.
01:38He's in heaven.
01:41Above the clouds with God and the Lord.
01:50And just cry.
01:54Cry, cry, cry.
01:57Be happy they're in a good place.
01:59Be sad because you miss them.
02:02You can be angry, but don't blame yourself.
02:07Blaming yourself, it's not a good strategy for someone's passing.
02:15And if somebody also lost their dog, like somebody they love and you did too, and they try to tell
02:27you,
02:27I know how you feel, I felt worse.
02:30They don't know how you feel.
02:33Everybody has different emotions in their body, and they express it in different ways.
02:39Many, many different ways.
02:44And don't, just don't let anybody tell you that.
02:48Be like, no, you don't know how I feel.
02:53And this is hard.
02:56It's going to be hard.
02:58And even if you hear that they're passing, it's okay.
03:04If they do, it's a miracle.
03:08Still, everything is meant to happen for a reason.
03:13Something my dad told me was, if this doesn't work out the way he wanted it to, and the way
03:19we wanted it to,
03:21for him living, I still have to believe in miracles.
03:28Miracles can still happen, just later on in life.
03:34And they'll keep coming.
03:36But maybe when you want them to come, they might not.
03:44But if they do pass, if they do go,
03:50just remember, they have some work to do on the other side.
03:55And also, something that I have done with my dad's passing,
04:01is I stole his hat.
04:04I steal anything of theirs, and just keep it.
04:08My dad's hat smells like him.
04:11And I love it so much.
04:14And I praise my dad.
04:17I know that he was a good man.
04:20A lot of people loved him.
04:24And people prayed for him.
04:29And he was loved by many, many hearts, and many, many people.
04:35Also, if you donated to the Kimberly Vanderbeek Fundraiser,
04:42thank you so much.
04:44I checked it.
04:47Holy moly.
04:48Thank you so much.
04:50I am blown away.
04:53I am blown away.
