00:00Am I the a-hole for planning to leave my husband while I am 35 weeks pregnant with our first
00:07son?
00:08Let's talk about invisible pain.
00:11I'm 25, and for the last month, my body has felt like it's breaking apart.
00:19Every single movement from my baby feels like a kick to the ribs that leaves me breathless.
00:26My back is screaming, my ankles are swollen, and honestly, I am emotionally exhausted.
00:36My husband, let's call him Dave, 30M, has been living with me for a year.
00:43Last week, Dave caught a deadly case of allergies.
00:49Yes, you heard that right.
00:52Pollen.
00:53I spent seven days catering to his every whim.
00:59I brought him tea, I rubbed his back, I handled all the chores while carrying his child in my belly,
01:07and I didn't complain once.
01:09Not a single word.
01:12But the moment Dave felt better?
01:15It's like I ceased to exist.
01:18I've become a ghost in my own home.
01:21For the past four nights, I've been lying right next to him, literally grunting in pain because the baby's kicks
01:30are so strong they make me dizzy.
01:33I tell him, hey, it really hurts right now, hoping he'll just reach out.
01:40Just a hand on my belly.
01:43Just a, you're doing great, honey.
01:47But nothing.
01:49Instead, I'm greeted by the blue light of his phone screen.
01:54He sits there for hours, glued to MrBeast's videos and scrolling through endless, brain-riding reels.
02:04I have literally sat there and sobbed, ugly, silent tears, for over an hour, right beside him.
02:13He doesn't even turn his head.
02:17He doesn't even ask if I'm okay.
02:20He is more connected to a stranger's YouTube stunt than he is to the woman carrying his firstborn son.
02:28I feel so lonely that it's physically crushing.
02:33I'm starting to realize that if he can't put his phone down while I'm in pain now, what's going to
02:40happen when I'm in labor?
02:42What's going to happen when the baby is crying at 3 a.m.?
02:47Will he just put on his headphones and keep scrolling?
02:52So, I've made a decision.
02:55I'm thinking about packing my bags and going back to my parents' house.
03:01When I told him I was feeling neglected, he didn't even apologize.
03:07He just rolled his eyes and told me I was being hormonal and dramatic.
03:14He said he needs his downtime after work.
03:19I don't think wanting to be seen by my husband is dramatic.
03:24I don't think asking for a hand to hold while I'm struggling to breathe is being hormonal.
03:32At my parents' house, the physical health might be the same, but at least I won't have to witness the
03:39person I love most
03:40completely ignore my existence for a TikTok trend.
03:45So, Reddit, tell me straight.
03:49Am I the a-hole for wanting to leave him before the baby is even born?
03:55Or am I finally seeing the man I married for who he truly is?
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