00:00Am I the a-hole for cancelling my boyfriend's surprise birthday dinner, right as we were about to leave the
00:07house?
00:08Let's get one thing straight.
00:12I, 26F, have been with my boyfriend, let's call him Mark, 29M, for three years.
00:21My mom raised me alone.
00:23She is my rock, my best friend, and honestly, the sweetest woman you'll ever meet.
00:32She isn't overbearing, she just cares.
00:36Mark, on the other hand, has always had this weird thing about her.
00:42He claims she's too involved, which is hilarious because he's the one who's been stressed about money lately, and I'm
00:52the one paying for his lifestyle.
00:55So, for his 29th birthday, I went all out.
01:00I booked a private table at a fancy restaurant, invited all his closest friends, and paid a massive non-refundable
01:10deposit myself.
01:12I wanted him to feel special.
01:15While we were getting ready, my mom called.
01:19I put it on speaker because my hands were busy with my makeup.
01:24She was being an angel, telling Mark how proud she is of his hard work and wishing him a great
01:32year.
01:33After I hung up, I expected a thanks or a smile.
01:40Instead, Mark started laughing.
01:44He looked me dead in the eye and said,
01:47Your mom acts like she's my second girlfriend.
01:51It's honestly kind of embarrassing.
01:54I froze.
01:56I thought he was joking, but he kept going.
02:01He said our closeness was weird, and that once we get married, I need to learn to prioritize my real
02:09family.
02:11Excuse me?
02:13My mom I asked my real family.
02:16He just rolled his eyes and said,
02:19You know what I mean.
02:22Suddenly, all the excitement for the dinner vanished.
02:26I looked at this man, who I was literally about to treat to a five-star meal,
02:32and I realized he didn't respect the woman who made me who I am.
02:38So, I did it.
02:40I pulled the plug.
02:42I texted his friends and told them the reservation was canceled.
02:48I told the restaurant to keep the deposit.
02:52Mark was furious.
02:55He called me petty and said I ruined his big night over a joke.
03:01Now his friends are blowing up my phone, saying I overreacted and that I let my mom control my emotions.
03:10But here's the thing, if you can't respect my mother, you don't deserve my money or my time.
03:25So, Reddit, was I too harsh for canceling the dinner, or is he showing his true colors before the wedding?
03:33So, I'll see you next time.
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