You Don’t Find “The One” by Saying Yes to Everyone

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Most people delay finding the right partner not because love is rare — but because they hesitate to walk away from the wrong ones.  Dating is not just about attraction. It is filtration.  Every opportunity to meet someone new increases two probabilities:  The chance you meet someone aligned.  The chance you meet someone misaligned.  Growth in love requires two parallel skills:  Proactivity (putting yourself in environments where connection is possible).  Discernment (ending misalignment quickly and cleanly).  The inability to say “no” is often disguised as patience, hope, or potential. But misalignment compounds over time. Months turn into years. Emotional investment clouds judgment. Momentum keeps you stuck.  The disciplined dater understands something crucial: Speed of disqualification determines speed of alignment.  The right person is not found by endurance. They are found by standards.  Saying no faster is not cold. It is strategic clarity.

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00:00how do you know when you found the one well you'll find the right one faster if you say no

00:05to the

00:06wrong one quicker so you have to get good at saying no at the same time as you're creating

00:12opportunities because opportunities are not just going to bring you more of a chance that you meet

00:15the right person they're also going to bring you more of the wrong people and you're going to have

00:19to get very good at disqualifying people along the way the right person for you is number 15

00:25it's a crude way of looking at it but if they're number 15 and you need to get through the

00:29next

00:2914 well if you spend three years on each one of these you may never get to this person but

00:36if you can zip through those 14 a lot faster you're going to get to 15 at a completely different

00:42rate

00:42so that proactivity and the ability to say no faster are two big ones if you want to find love

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