Avoidant attachment often creates a powerful illusion of transformation. Early intensity feels like emotional growth, but without healing the core fear of closeness, that growth reverses over time.
What begins as attention and connection gradually becomes distance, emotional withholding, and disengagement. The avoidant partner may remain physically present while emotionally retreating—leaving their partner starving for the intimacy that once felt effortless.
This dynamic isn’t caused by loving too much or doing something wrong. It’s the result of unmet attachment wounds colliding with sustained intimacy.
Recognizing the anti-butterfly pattern isn’t about labeling or blaming. It’s about understanding when a relationship is no longer evolving—but eroding.
You don’t have to stay long enough to lose your joy, your voice, or your sense of self.
Healthy love expands you.
Anything that requires you to fold yourself smaller deserves to be questioned.
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