00:11My children become rebellious.
00:20See nagging of the parents for small little, little things.
00:34Why you have kept your bag here? Why your shoes are here and there?
00:40Why you have made my whole house mass?
00:45It's like simple, simple. Why you are eating this food? Why you want junk food?
00:51Isn't that discipline, Mother?
00:53Discipline, if they try to understand, then it's okay. Otherwise not.
00:58See, when they learn at very small age and they continue that discipline, then it's fine.
01:06But if they don't learn...
01:09See, generally teenagers, boys and girls, they keep the house mass, they keep their room mass.
01:19This is now tradition. You can't go, you can't make them in discipline for this.
01:25Now change the definition of discipline.
01:31Not external discipline but internal discipline.
01:34So what are we doing wrong here that we can rectify?
01:39See, whatever you try to make your children disciplined, just by simple and giving some advice, and that too without
01:53nagging, without forcing them to do like that.
01:59Don't force them.
02:02See, if you force them, then what will happen?
02:06They won't accept it.
02:08On the contrary, their ego will be much more spoiled, much more be spoiled.
02:15So, with love and affection, we try to, first of all, try to control your emotions, your anger, your force.
02:28Because the belief that I am mother, I have to teach them discipline.
02:35This is my responsibility, to make them humble and more smart and this and that.
02:45They should wear it like this, they should keep their books like this, they should keep their clothes like this.
02:52See, this is our strong belief, opinion, which makes us more and more agrahi.
03:05See, just whatever I have told, children has to follow it.
03:12And even you try to become more affectionate with them or try to be humble with them, still that impression
03:23in their mind will remain.
03:24So, when some certain circumstances come, that impression will come out.
03:32After sixteen, one thing you remember, after sixteen, kids are not kids, children are not children.
03:38You are not mother, your daughter or son, they are not son or daughter, but treat them as your friends.
03:47Communicate with them like a friend after sixteen.
03:51Forget that you are mother, mom or forget your dad.
03:56Because unless and until you behave with them as a friend, they won't communicate with them, they won't talk about
04:03their problems, they won't tell anything about their boyfriend or girlfriend,
04:09what things are going on, right or wrong, they don't tell.
04:15Tell your families here.
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