00:00And now it's time for Love Bites, a VRT segment brought to you by Sonic.
00:02What in honor of Love Bites.
00:04We do need an update on this whole wedding situation.
00:07You called things off, but it was a mutual decision between you and Alex.
00:11What went into making that decision?
00:13It was, well, we're still together, and it was a decision that we made together.
00:18And honestly, it just, we had so much stress about things post-wedding.
00:26And I think we were, like, kind of scapegoating the wedding planning as, like, oh, this is just why we're
00:31stressed.
00:31This is why we're stressed.
00:32But then three weeks out from the wedding, the wedding's done being planned.
00:35Like, you're done.
00:36So, and we're still feeling that stress.
00:39And so we had a lot of difficult conversations, but they were essential.
00:45And we realized, like, we were both feeling stressed and nervous about things post-wedding.
00:50And we talked to our families, and we're incredibly close with them.
00:54And we have the best friends and family and support system.
00:56And it was just, like, we can take a beat for ourselves.
00:59Like, we can hit pause and just kind of get back in alignment with each other and, like, what we
01:07want to do and focus.
01:08We both really want to focus on our careers and having our family in support of that and, like, letting
01:14us know.
01:15Like, you can slow down.
01:16Like, you know, the wedding, it got very big.
01:21And as much fun as I had planning it, it did kind of, like, get away from me.
01:26And to, you know, it's a celebration.
01:28It's a party to everyone with all our people.
01:31And we love that.
01:32But to us, it's a step into forever.
01:35And we take it very seriously.
01:37And we just wanted to give ourselves a little bit more space to get back at feeling that, like, we're
01:44good with this.
01:46We're excited with this.
01:47And, you know, just have that space.
01:49I feel that's very, it's very relatable for what people go through.
01:52Because, like, a lot of people get lost in wedding planning.
01:54And it's almost like it starts to become, like, an event production thing.
01:58Which is it, because you're planning a wedding.
01:59But then you're like, okay, at the end of the day, we just love each other and want to be
02:02together.
02:03And you start to, because some of my friends have been, like, they're like, what are we doing?
02:07Who are we even planning this wedding for?
02:09It starts to feel like it's not for you.
02:10It's not for you.
02:10Then you're developing.
02:11Right.
02:12That saves you so much time and money.
02:13But did you kind of start to feel like you guys were like, okay, this isn't even becoming, like, our
02:17wedding.
02:18It's, like, becoming something for everybody coming to it.
02:20It, it's, it, I can't say it felt like that.
02:23Because we were very excited about it.
02:24And, like, we had a great wedding planner.
02:26Everything was really, like, coming together.
02:27But we just started thinking about, like, like, a lot.
02:30We were engaged for over a year.
02:32So, like, things were changing.
02:33Like, his career needed him in another city.
02:34I want to be spending time more in New York.
02:37And it was just a lot of moving parts.
02:39And, like you said, like, the decision was made in love.
02:41But we were just, like, let's just pivot here and give ourselves some time.
02:46And, um, the, but the wedding itself, I mean, that was really, as, as good as I felt after making
02:52the decision with him,
02:54it was really hard.
02:56Like, when we got to the date.
02:57I was going to ask, what was, did you guys wake up and you're like, good morning?
03:01Did you go for a cute dinner?
03:02Did we just, did you not address it?
03:04Like, what went down with that?
03:05No, I mean, we couldn't not address it.
03:07That's, like, five elephants in one room.
03:09Um, I, if I, I went to Greenville, South Carolina, which is, like, one of my hometowns.
03:15And he went to Dallas and spent it with his family.
03:17And if I can say one thing, my bridesmaids know how to pivot a party.
03:21Okay.
03:22Resourceful?
03:23Yes.
03:23Very, very good.
03:24So, we just pivoted.
03:25We went and all my best friends, we just had, like, a movie night.
03:28We made food.
03:29And we just kind of took our mind off things.
03:34But it, um, it definitely, yeah, it was, it was tricky.
03:38We weathered the storm together.
03:39But, like, we could not have done it without the friends.
03:42But it, it just, it was kind of like a reality check.
03:45Like, everything's fine.
03:46Your people are here.
03:48No one's, no one died.
03:51Everything's, like, I mean, the budget, that got hurt a little bit.
03:54But, like, we'll bounce back.
03:55Yeah, yeah, yeah.
03:56How do you feel like your relationship has changed since deciding to call off the wedding?
04:01Does it feel like there's less pressure now?
04:02Yeah, the pressure definitely is gone.
04:05And we stayed so united during this.
04:08And it did make us stronger.
04:10And once we kind of weathered the storm and the logistics of making that decision,
04:15we just fell into, like, our support group.
04:17And we fell into each other.
04:18And as long as, like, we were on the same page and knowing what this is.
04:22Because this is the first time I'm talking about it, you know, publicly.
04:26So, I just wanted to be good with him.
04:28I wanted our families to be good.
04:30And then, when the time was right, talk about it.
04:34And do you guys feel you're kind of almost in a new stage?
04:36Because you guys say together this is all, but, like, a new stage of, like, dating each other?
04:39Like, are you kind of, like, using this as, like, okay, you know what?
04:42It's not a restart, but it's a pivot.
04:44Like, let's, like, fall in love in new ways again.
04:47You know what I mean?
04:48Yeah, it's definitely, like, a level up in the relationship.
04:51Like, there's, like, a whole new space of authenticity and just, like, talking to each other.
04:58Like, that is how we reach the decision is finally being, like, something's off here.
05:02It's acknowledging the disconnect that we were having.
05:05And it was because we were both feeling the stress and pressure of, like, what's to come next.
05:09So, taking the time, we really prioritize communicating.
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