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90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days - Season 8 Episode 8 - Please Remain Seated
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00:00:01Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:04We put it there?
00:00:06Oh, what?
00:00:09I may not be able to give you everything you want,
00:00:12but everything you need, you don't have to worry about.
00:00:15Do you think that I'm enough for you?
00:00:18Sure.
00:00:19That's what I need to feel, that I'm enough for her.
00:00:23I really do want this to work.
00:00:25You do love me.
00:00:26Of course, baby.
00:00:29I just want the world for your daughter,
00:00:31and I was hoping I could get your blessing to marry her.
00:00:36Well, Forrest, you have my blessing.
00:00:40I'm really looking forward to meeting your parents tomorrow.
00:00:44I feel like Chena hasn't been 100% honest with me.
00:00:48Even though her family needs her help with money,
00:00:51what I've seen, the way they live,
00:00:54it's not the same as what I've been hearing for the last seven years.
00:00:58So I'm really worried that tomorrow,
00:01:00my mother is going to basically flip out.
00:01:05We had that argument, and you called my sister,
00:01:09and you were a little bit unhinged.
00:01:11I mean, you're upset with me, but you ran to other women.
00:01:17I mean, Anna, I love you, but you are a handful.
00:01:21Here we go again.
00:01:23I thought the reason we were fighting so much
00:01:26was because we were in a long-distance relationship,
00:01:29but we're still fighting.
00:01:31What does it say about our marriage?
00:01:34I don't trust Michael.
00:01:39I want you to cut him out of your life.
00:01:42He's just my friend,
00:01:44and he's not trying to make me cut you out.
00:01:47I just get some air, maybe, or some peace.
00:01:54I am shocked that Birkan decides to walk out on me.
00:01:58It absolutely feels like a sight of him
00:02:00that I haven't seen yet, and I really don't like.
00:02:03Michael.
00:02:06The blessing we are getting from my uncle is very important.
00:02:09If your uncle does not give you the blessing,
00:02:11does that mean that we are not getting married?
00:02:14That's it.
00:02:16I have to try to impress his uncle,
00:02:18but what kind of questions are going to be asked?
00:02:20I'm worried I may have to reveal things
00:02:22that I'm not ready to reveal.
00:02:24I don't want to lose Daniel.
00:02:36I can't wait.
00:03:00Yesterday, I arrived at Sheena's family home
00:03:02in the province.
00:03:03And even though the family accepted me,
00:03:06what I've learned is just leaving me confused and bothered.
00:03:15First off, I believe that the entire time
00:03:17I was coming here to save Sheena from horrific evil monsters,
00:03:21and it turns out her family has this nice, beautiful home
00:03:25and are just normal, caring people.
00:03:28So last night, I tried to talk to Sheena.
00:03:31You have to be honest with me.
00:03:32You described your family as almost like terrible monsters
00:03:36that were stealing from you.
00:03:37Are they just, are they just, is this an act for me?
00:03:41No, they're not an act.
00:03:44They're great people.
00:03:45But they're not really great people
00:03:47if they're mistreating their daughter.
00:03:49You don't have to think anything about worry.
00:03:53They gave their blessings to you,
00:03:54even though it's the first meeting.
00:03:56So it's a good thing.
00:03:59Boom.
00:04:01I wish her answers were more, you know, answers and not more like dodging around.
00:04:08Now I'm left with more questions than what I started with.
00:04:12I feel like I know bits and pieces of the most important parts of the story,
00:04:18but there's still many other things that need to be uncovered.
00:04:22I do believe my mom is going to show up and she's going to see the nice place.
00:04:26She's going to see this, this, and she's going to say,
00:04:28why did you need a bunny in the first place?
00:04:31And she's going to express herself and say exactly what's on her mind.
00:04:34I'm kind of relieved that my mom is coming because she can get the third perspective
00:04:40and see what's really going on.
00:04:42Coffee time, got to get my coffee time.
00:04:45Sheena's family seems to be under the impression that she's going to financially support them
00:04:50going forward.
00:04:51So I still want to tell Sheena's family that we are cutting them off.
00:04:55And hopefully my mom and Dev can back me up and kind of just get past the big hurdle that is impending.
00:05:05That's a strong cup of joe right there.
00:05:12Okay, Sheen, they should be here any second.
00:05:15Okay.
00:05:16Come on, dude.
00:05:18Okay.
00:05:18Yeah.
00:05:25Are you nervous, baby?
00:05:27Yeah, so nervous.
00:05:29I don't know what's going to happen today.
00:05:32I know Molly will bring up the finances.
00:05:35And it's a conversation that we need to have.
00:05:38But Forrest wanted to impress my family.
00:05:41So he is kinder.
00:05:43I'm quite worried Molly would act not as nice.
00:05:48Oh, yes.
00:05:49Moment of truth.
00:05:51Oh, oh, boy.
00:05:58Wow.
00:06:00Hey, guys.
00:06:00Wow.
00:06:01Hi, Mom.
00:06:02Hi, Dev.
00:06:03Mm-hmm.
00:06:03This is so beautiful here.
00:06:05Well, thank you.
00:06:06Wow.
00:06:09Wow.
00:06:10Right off the bat, alarm bells are going off in my head.
00:06:17My family is out right now.
00:06:19So come here, guys.
00:06:19I'll give you a tour.
00:06:22Here's the garden and stuff.
00:06:23Man.
00:06:26Sheena's told me that her family runs this struggling bed and breakfast.
00:06:31So I'm expecting something kind of quaint and rough around the edges.
00:06:35We had different kinds of plants here.
00:06:37We have fruit-bearing trees, red palm, orchids.
00:06:41Huh.
00:06:42I don't know this plant, but this is very rare to have flowers.
00:06:45Oh.
00:06:46So my first reaction, holy sh**.
00:06:51Sheena, who did your grass?
00:06:53Actually, before when he got this place, it doesn't have anything.
00:06:58So you guys did all of this?
00:06:59Yes, from scratch.
00:07:00Sheena's expecting me to believe that if they don't take her money, that they're going to starve.
00:07:10I mean, they're living better than Forrest and I back in the United States.
00:07:15This is not adding up at all.
00:07:21And this is the pool area.
00:07:23Oh.
00:07:24Then if it's around the nighttime, it would have different color, light color.
00:07:28Well, would you look at that?
00:07:29So when do I get to meet your family, Sheena?
00:07:34At dinner?
00:07:35Yes, Mom.
00:07:36Okay.
00:07:38I'm definitely going to tell Sheena's family every single thing that Sheena has told me,
00:07:44this whole story of the past seven years.
00:07:47And then I want to see how they react.
00:07:49I want to see if they're going to be shocked or if they're part of it or whatever.
00:07:55Yeah, thank you for giving me the grand tour.
00:07:58It's just beautiful.
00:07:59Yeah.
00:08:00Tonight, I will get the truth for Sheena.
00:08:02I think I'm just going to go put my legs up for a bit until dinner.
00:08:06Okay, Mom.
00:08:18Is there upper?
00:08:22I wish I can tie it to my waist.
00:08:24You can.
00:08:24Show me.
00:08:26You have to spread your leg.
00:08:28You know, I don't have much waist, so...
00:08:30I don't.
00:08:31You're tight.
00:08:32Okay.
00:08:32On the side?
00:08:33Yeah, on the side.
00:08:34I'm looking like a woman already.
00:08:36You look beautiful.
00:08:37Oh, la, la.
00:08:38You have to forage a little bit.
00:08:51On the first one, the inner one is shorter than the...
00:08:54The inner one is shorter?
00:08:55The outer one, yeah.
00:09:00It's okay.
00:09:02It's beautiful.
00:09:05Look at me.
00:09:06It is not a kiss.
00:09:08Daniel and I are going today to meet his uncle
00:09:12and get a blessing so we can get married.
00:09:14And I'm nervous.
00:09:17I don't know the traditions.
00:09:19I don't know the culture.
00:09:20And I don't know what his uncle is going to ask me.
00:09:22I'm scared I'm not going to get the blessing,
00:09:24and Daniel will blame me.
00:09:26You will be the one to hold the wine, okay?
00:09:29When you kneel down there, you give me the wine.
00:09:31I will be the one to present it to my uncle, okay?
00:09:33But I kneel with it first.
00:09:35Yes.
00:09:35I will be kneeling down with you, okay?
00:09:40Good.
00:09:40You give it to me.
00:09:42Then I will hand it to my uncle, okay?
00:09:46Lisa is from another country.
00:09:48She don't understand our culture.
00:09:50I have to instruct her on what to do
00:09:51so she doesn't prefer my uncle.
00:09:55Let's try.
00:09:56Daniel wants me to have traditional attire
00:10:09to meet his uncle,
00:10:11and I'm expected to learn how to put it on myself.
00:10:14I think I'm going to look like a clown.
00:10:16I can't hear anything
00:10:17because the hair tie is like plastic
00:10:19and it's rattling in my ears,
00:10:21but he's telling me this is Igbo traditional attire
00:10:24and this is what I must wear.
00:10:25So this is going to be pretty interesting.
00:10:28Maybe my bangs should be back.
00:10:34I don't mean to laugh, honey.
00:10:35I just got cute.
00:10:40All right, let me try again.
00:10:41What are you doing, baby?
00:10:48It doesn't look too bad.
00:10:50Oh, my God.
00:10:51All right, can you help me?
00:10:53But you were there when the woman was teaching you yesterday.
00:10:56I didn't have a mirror.
00:10:57Where was my mirror to watch her?
00:10:59I had my head and I was holding it.
00:11:01You must help me.
00:11:03Oh, my God.
00:11:08Lisa doesn't know how to put on the attire, tango,
00:11:11all these things.
00:11:12I know them from when I was growing up,
00:11:15when my mom was alive.
00:11:17I used to see her when she started and I remember.
00:11:20But I never knew that someday
00:11:22I would be the one to help my girlfriend to tie her up her.
00:11:27You have to make it hot
00:11:28or it's going to fall off.
00:11:35You got this.
00:11:36Okay?
00:11:38Okay, how do I look?
00:11:40That's good.
00:11:40You look good.
00:11:52I'm nervous.
00:11:54Why are you nervous?
00:11:56Because I am.
00:11:57This is a big deal.
00:12:00I want to impress her.
00:12:01Impress my uncle?
00:12:02Yes, I want to give a good...
00:12:03I want to put my best foot forward.
00:12:06I want to show him that I am willing to go above and beyond
00:12:10to be a good...
00:12:19I know, but what you're considering a lie
00:12:21and what I consider a lie
00:12:22might be two different things.
00:12:23I'm from America.
00:12:24My culture is different than yours.
00:12:25Baby, lie is lie.
00:12:31I want to show him that I am willing
00:12:33to go above and beyond
00:12:34to be a good...
00:12:36I'm trying to be positive about Lisa.
00:12:52Meeting my uncle.
00:12:54But I'm nervous.
00:12:56I told my uncle a little bit about Lisa,
00:12:59but not only her vaping.
00:13:02There are some other things she told me.
00:13:04It is a big, big sin.
00:13:06She told me that she has changed for good,
00:13:08but I want to make sure she's being honest.
00:13:12And I am worried
00:13:13that my uncle will not give us the blessing
00:13:16if she cannot explain herself.
00:13:19And I will have to walk away.
00:13:21Remember what you promised me,
00:13:30that you're not gonna talk to her again.
00:13:32Yeah.
00:13:33I need you to show me
00:13:35that you keep your promise.
00:13:37I've been very concerned
00:13:39ever since she's been watching
00:13:40all this masculinity podcast.
00:13:43They really encourage cheating.
00:13:45Can I see your phone?
00:13:48Now?
00:13:51So, we're gonna go meet your friends.
00:13:54I do not think this is an ideal time
00:13:57to meet Memo and Tuba.
00:13:59But part of me really wants
00:14:00to ask them questions
00:14:01because there's a lot more
00:14:03I need to learn about beer con.
00:14:05Tell me something interesting
00:14:07about beer con.
00:14:09I'm sorry.
00:14:11I'm sorry.
00:14:21I'm sorry.
00:14:31I'm sorry.
00:14:34Here we go.
00:14:45I know.
00:14:45I know.
00:14:47I've been in the Philippines for a couple of days now,
00:14:53and me and Natalyn are on our way overdue honeymoon.
00:14:59It's a strange feeling to have all these firsts with me and my wife.
00:15:04After three years of being married, first time sleeping together,
00:15:08first time eating together, first time waking up beside each other together.
00:15:13And then we had our first in-person fight.
00:15:17So right now it seems like I'm in the doghouse.
00:15:26Okay, she made her side of the bed.
00:15:29Anna, last night things got a little bit tense
00:15:34because I told Anna not to call my sister and vent about our issues in our marriage.
00:15:40Last night during our couple's massage, I am trying so hard to show him a good time,
00:15:49trying to be romantic, but he's always trying to find ways to criticize me.
00:15:56I would rather Anna come to me about our issues in our marriage.
00:16:01Why can't I reach out to his sister? She's my family too.
00:16:04So why can't I confide to her when he can confide to any bitch?
00:16:10What? Are you going to brush her teeth or are you just going to look at me?
00:16:21I mean, Anna, are we going to talk?
00:16:23Talk about what?
00:16:24I mean, about last night.
00:16:26I mean, I apologize for, you know, bringing that up at the wrong time.
00:16:30I want to enjoy the trip. Can we do that?
00:16:41Okay.
00:16:44All right, we're good? Okay, I hope.
00:16:47It's all right.
00:16:49I'm happy that he apologized, but that doesn't mean all is good.
00:16:55Last night, it wasn't just really about him criticizing me.
00:17:02It's way deeper than that.
00:17:05It's about him doing things that's giving me trust issues.
00:17:12Now that I'm in person with my husband, there are things that I question about him.
00:17:18I noticed that it's beautiful out today.
00:17:21Yeah.
00:17:22You want to head to the beach?
00:17:24Yes.
00:17:24Okay.
00:17:25But I don't want to waste this moment, especially this is the last day of our honeymoon.
00:17:40What's going on over there? Kayaking?
00:17:43Yeah, and this one is like a bicycle.
00:17:46Yeah.
00:17:47This one is so cool.
00:17:49We're definitely going to do these.
00:17:51Are we interested in renting this?
00:17:53Yeah, you can do it, sir.
00:17:54Okay.
00:17:55Have you been in one of these before?
00:17:57No.
00:17:59Are you excited?
00:18:00I'm excited.
00:18:01All right.
00:18:03Woo-hoo!
00:18:04Bye-bye.
00:18:05Go on, out this way.
00:18:09It's so fun.
00:18:10Yeah.
00:18:13I just love this.
00:18:15Just remember this moment.
00:18:16It's so long.
00:18:26It's like a stork.
00:18:27It's pedaling out here.
00:18:31The aqua bike is a little bit uncomfortable because I'm so tall.
00:18:34I couldn't...
00:18:35You have long legs.
00:18:36Yeah.
00:18:36It's difficult.
00:18:40They're not built for people over six foot.
00:18:47Maybe jet skis next time.
00:18:52Oh, my God.
00:18:54That was so fun.
00:18:54Cheers.
00:18:58Cheers.
00:18:59Cheers.
00:19:01Come on.
00:19:05It's pretty good.
00:19:07Mm-hmm.
00:19:07So, you know, this is the last day of our honeymoon.
00:19:15Mm-hmm.
00:19:16So, we're about to go back home really soon.
00:19:19You're going to meet my mom.
00:19:21But, there's something I want to talk about.
00:19:26Okay.
00:19:27You know what we argued about last night?
00:19:31That was about my sister.
00:19:33Yeah, also because you remind me why I did what I did.
00:19:39Because you talk to this person, I don't want you to.
00:19:44I need to make sure that you keep your promise.
00:19:47Remember what you promised me when you were on the phone
00:19:53before you came down here.
00:19:56That you're not going to talk to her again.
00:19:59Yeah.
00:20:00But I need you to show me.
00:20:02Okay.
00:20:03That you keep your promise.
00:20:04Okay.
00:20:05So, can I see your phone?
00:20:10Now?
00:20:14Okay.
00:20:17I know that checking Yvonne's phone is bad.
00:20:21I wish I don't have to do that.
00:20:23But, having an online marriage,
00:20:25we are not together physically.
00:20:27For me, to know what he's really doing.
00:20:32I have been very concerned
00:20:35ever since he's been watching all this masculinity podcast.
00:20:39Because they really encourage cheating.
00:20:44You okay?
00:20:46Yeah.
00:20:46Are you nervous?
00:20:50They really say that
00:20:52if he cheats, it's okay
00:20:54as long as he provides.
00:20:56It really scares me a little bit.
00:20:59So, for my peace of mind,
00:21:01I need to be totally sure
00:21:03that there's nothing going on.
00:21:08Wow.
00:21:09Wow.
00:21:09Wow.
00:21:09Wow.
00:21:09Wow.
00:21:09Wow.
00:21:09Wow.
00:21:10Wow.
00:21:10Wow.
00:21:10Wow.
00:21:10Wow.
00:21:11Wow.
00:21:11Wow.
00:21:16Wow.
00:21:17Wow.
00:21:18Wow.
00:21:18Wow.
00:21:19Wow.
00:21:20Wow.
00:21:21Wow.
00:21:22Wow.
00:21:22Wow.
00:21:22Wow.
00:21:22Wow.
00:21:23Wow.
00:21:23Wow.
00:21:23Wow.
00:21:23Wow.
00:21:25Wow.
00:21:26Wow.
00:21:26Just going to leave me?
00:21:29You're just going to leave me in a hut in a village.
00:21:31And you are making conversation about Michael, person I hate.
00:21:43I don't care about Michael.
00:21:46You don't care about a lot, do you?
00:21:48No.
00:21:52Birkan's plan for us today was to make evil eye beads
00:21:56and then go meet his friends, Memo and Tuba.
00:21:59But I'm just really unsure of everything right now.
00:22:07After keeping some pretty big secrets from me,
00:22:11Birkan has a lot of balls to try to tell me
00:22:14who I can and can't be friends with.
00:22:17I knew that Birkan had a lot of issues
00:22:20with my relationship with Michael,
00:22:22but to tell me he wants me to cut my best friend out of my life,
00:22:26this is a whole new controlling side of him
00:22:29and it's really concerning to me.
00:22:34You left me sitting in a hut alone.
00:22:37Because I don't like him.
00:22:40Actually, I have nothing in common with him, okay?
00:22:43You both care about me.
00:22:45You have that in common.
00:22:45I think he's more than caring about you.
00:22:49But you always said you trust me.
00:22:51You have to trust me on this
00:22:55because man knows man, okay?
00:23:00Step back and see your relationship with him.
00:23:06And so you think he has some sort of
00:23:09intention that's other than just being my friend?
00:23:13Yeah, exactly.
00:23:15I don't agree.
00:23:17Okay.
00:23:17So, we're going to go meet your friends
00:23:22and I want to do that.
00:23:25I would like for you to give me that same respect.
00:23:28So, could you at least at some point
00:23:32be open to meeting him or calling him?
00:23:37You are pushing my will.
00:23:42I'm not trying to push your will.
00:23:43I'm trying to make you see the hypocrisy in it
00:23:47because otherwise it feels like
00:23:49you just get to determine
00:23:50who's important in our lives,
00:23:52in our lives.
00:23:54Okay.
00:23:54I don't want to talk about this discussion anymore, so...
00:23:58Okay.
00:24:02I do not think this is an ideal time
00:24:06to meet Memo and Tuba.
00:24:08But part of me really wants to take the opportunity
00:24:10to meet them, to ask them questions.
00:24:14Especially since the last few days
00:24:16have proven that there's a lot more
00:24:19I need to learn about beer con.
00:24:21So, this is my usual table.
00:24:37Maybe we should sit here.
00:24:39Okay.
00:24:39You know everyone.
00:24:41Yeah, I know.
00:24:42It's so good to meet you.
00:24:49I'm Laura.
00:24:51I'm Tuba.
00:24:52Nice to meet you.
00:24:53Nice to meet you.
00:24:54I'm Laura.
00:24:55Nice to meet you.
00:24:57Even though I am feeling bad about the argument,
00:25:00I think this is the best time
00:25:02for Memo and Tuba to meet Laura
00:25:04because they're the best two people
00:25:08can teach her that I'm not a bad guy.
00:25:12I'm just trying to protect the one I love.
00:25:16I will translate.
00:25:17You guys are gonna mix up and...
00:25:20And I'm gonna ask lots of questions about you.
00:25:22Okay.
00:25:24Yeah, this sounds like a threat.
00:25:26It's not a threat.
00:25:26Yeah, it's a threat.
00:25:27It's not a threat.
00:25:28Okay.
00:25:28How long have you known Birkan?
00:25:42Kaç yıllar beni tanıyorsunuz?
00:25:44Üç sene.
00:25:44Üç sene oldu.
00:25:46Three years.
00:25:47Three years.
00:25:48Birkan'ın Laura'yı gerçekten bir şeyler hissettiği için
00:25:52birlikte olmak istediğini düşünüyorum.
00:25:53Ve hala tam anlamıyla hani bir şeyleri
00:25:56Laura'yı tam anlamıyla anlatmamış olabilir.
00:25:59Bu da beni korkutuyor.
00:26:01Laura'yla problemler çıkartması açısından.
00:26:04Thank you, sir.
00:26:08Birkan'ın hayatı.
00:26:10Ah, ÅŸiÅŸe.
00:26:11Life of Birkan, he said.
00:26:13No, this is my life, actually.
00:26:15Oh.
00:26:15This is actually what I do every day.
00:26:17This is something for relaxing.
00:26:20It's like medication.
00:26:21I have my tea.
00:26:22I have my ÅŸiÅŸe.
00:26:23I will be fine.
00:26:23Birkan'ın hayatı.
00:26:25While it's fun to see this side of Birkan
00:26:28hanging out with his friends,
00:26:30it's also kind of eye-opening.
00:26:32He knew everyone when we walked in.
00:26:35He has a regular table.
00:26:37And now I'm hearing that he comes here
00:26:39literally to smoke ÅŸiÅŸe every day.
00:26:43I mean, he just told me about this massive amount of debt
00:26:46that he has.
00:26:47I feel like he should be doing something
00:26:49more productive with his time.
00:26:51Tell me something interesting about Birkan.
00:26:55Birkan hakkında ilginç bir şey söylemeni istiyor.
00:26:57That's a new translator here.
00:27:00Nice job.
00:27:04İnsanlar buna ulaşamadığı için onu sert görüyorlar.
00:27:07People can't reach the inside inner me, you know?
00:27:10That's why people think I'm tough and I am angry 24-7.
00:27:15Aslında içinde çok yumuşak bir insan.
00:27:17Inside, I have a little kiss.
00:27:19But I also like the dark parts and the protective nature.
00:27:28Aynı zamanda karanlık ve koruyucu olmasını seviyorum.
00:27:33It's a good combination.
00:27:34Birka'nın bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:27:47Ben söyleyeyim.
00:27:51Çok da saklama ama.
00:27:56What?
00:27:57You know that I want my aunt kids, so this is the time to talk about it.
00:28:07I can't put a time frame on that.
00:28:10I'm 52 years old, getting up there in age, so I don't think I'm ready to have another child.
00:28:17What do you want?
00:28:18Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:28:24Ooh.
00:28:26I don't know which version of my mom I'm going to get.
00:28:29Am I going to get the nice sweet mom?
00:28:31Or am I going to get hard nose, rock hard, battle, battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:28:34I want to talk about Sheena.
00:28:36There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:28:38There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:28:41I love to see that smile on your face.
00:29:11The lemurs here are kind, you just bring banana and you just give them and you're playing
00:29:18with you.
00:29:19Sound like fun.
00:29:21Lemurs make good pets?
00:29:22You know, like a cat or a dog.
00:29:24Oh, no, no.
00:29:27That's illegal with me.
00:29:29Oh, it's illegal, okay.
00:29:32Today we're taking a boat to Nosy Coma to see some lemurs.
00:29:37This is something that I've been looking forward to because I think that Madagascar is the
00:29:42only place that you can find lemurs.
00:29:46Here, huh?
00:29:49Also, for a long time, that's the only thing I knew about Madagascar from the movie.
00:29:55So I'm really excited to see them in person.
00:29:59Oh, oh, oh.
00:30:06So cute.
00:30:08Look at the black one.
00:30:09There's three of them.
00:30:11So do they ever come down?
00:30:13Yeah.
00:30:14They run like this everywhere.
00:30:16And what do they eat?
00:30:18Whenever they see the fruits like that, they eat all of it.
00:30:21Oh, all of it.
00:30:22Huh.
00:30:23These lemurs.
00:30:24They're cute and they're strange at the same time.
00:30:28To me, they act similar to monkeys, but they're not as human as, like, monkeys are.
00:30:35They look like squirrel monkeys.
00:30:38Oh, wow.
00:30:40This one's right next to us.
00:30:43Hey, man.
00:30:45What's that noise you're making, baby?
00:30:47That's their...
00:30:48Is that their language?
00:30:49I can't leave it.
00:30:50I can't leave it.
00:30:53I tell him I'm like a big...
00:30:55You close your mouth and do it like that.
00:30:58Monkey, monkey, monkey.
00:30:59Is it monkey or what do you say?
00:31:01Maki.
00:31:02Maki.
00:31:03Maki, Maki.
00:31:04Maki, Maki.
00:31:05Yes.
00:31:06You see?
00:31:07Oh, he's looking around.
00:31:08Let's get a picture.
00:31:09Come on, let's get one together.
00:31:15Man, the kids will love this.
00:31:17Yeah.
00:31:18My boys, I miss them.
00:31:21But it'll be worth it if I can bring the stepmommy home.
00:31:25Yeah, I'll be there.
00:31:27I envision that we can have this family unit, just the four of us.
00:31:33You know that.
00:31:34I love your kids, right?
00:31:35But I cannot just, you know, being a stepmom, like, forever.
00:31:48I want to have my own.
00:31:50I mean, I love kids, but, like, right now, I'm not in a position to have another child.
00:31:59What's the issue?
00:32:00Well, there's...
00:32:02I know it's a hard time, but I know what it is.
00:32:09I know.
00:32:10I took care of my little brother and sister without any help.
00:32:14Like, my dad going to work, and only them and me was in the house.
00:32:21And before, when I told you that I want my own kids, then you say, oh, we should talk about it when you're coming here.
00:32:30So this is the time to talk about it.
00:32:34You should decide you want what you don't want.
00:32:41I don't know, Trish.
00:32:42I'm not ready to make that decision right now.
00:32:49At this point in my life, I don't think I'm ready to have another child.
00:32:54I'm 52 years old, and I'm getting up there in age.
00:32:58So having another child is going to be, like, starting all over again.
00:33:04And it's hard enough, as it is, dealing with my two little ones.
00:33:11And I haven't even told her about what I did in Columbia.
00:33:17She might not even want a child with me after she finds that out.
00:33:24What do you want?
00:33:27I mean, I'm not totally closing the door on the idea of having a child.
00:33:40I can't put a time frame on that.
00:33:45I wish he would stop making excuses and tell me what he really wants.
00:33:51I need to know, and it's very important, and not only for me, but for my family.
00:33:58In my culture, it's very important to have kids.
00:34:03And it's not a question.
00:34:05I'm going to take Rick to my hometown in a few days, and I'm worried.
00:34:13If he decided he does not want to have kids anymore, I'm not sure if I will be able to stay with him.
00:34:20I had heard that you guys had been taking all of Sheena's earnings.
00:34:35She told us if she didn't give the money to you guys, that you would threaten her and mistreat her.
00:34:46You forced her.
00:34:48Do you usually do?
00:34:49Oh, big up.
00:34:59Okay.
00:35:03Wow.
00:35:05Oh, big one!
00:35:16Okay.
00:35:17Wow.
00:35:20It's not very ripe.
00:35:22Hello.
00:35:23Hello.
00:35:24Hello.
00:35:25Um, mom, Dev.
00:35:26And this is my sister, Katrina, and my dad, Steve.
00:35:29Uh, hello.
00:35:30Hello.
00:35:31This is my mom, Molly, and my dad, Dev.
00:35:33So very nice to meet you, sir.
00:35:35There's Dev.
00:35:36Hello.
00:35:37Good to meet you.
00:35:38Steve, Dev.
00:35:39Steve.
00:35:40Dev.
00:35:41Dev.
00:35:42Hi, I'm Molly.
00:35:43So very nice to meet you.
00:35:44It's a pleasure.
00:35:45I'm Katrina.
00:35:46Oh, nice to meet you.
00:35:47Good to meet you, Katrina.
00:35:48Hi, Forrest.
00:35:49Hey, Pops.
00:35:50How's it going?
00:35:51Yeah.
00:35:52So, mom, we're just trying to show you how we make jackboots.
00:35:55That is a knife.
00:35:56Yeah.
00:35:58Tonight, I'm worried about, you know, everything that's going to happen.
00:36:02Anyone want to try?
00:36:03Yeah.
00:36:04Oh, I sure do.
00:36:05Oh, thank you.
00:36:06I don't know which version of my mom I'm going to get.
00:36:09Am I going to get the nice, sweet mom who loves and cares everybody?
00:36:12Or am I going to get hard-nosed, rock-hard, battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:36:16Want to go sit down for a while?
00:36:17Yeah.
00:36:18Oh, yeah.
00:36:19That would be great.
00:36:20Yeah.
00:36:21That would be great.
00:36:22Yeah.
00:36:23But at the same time, I'm starting to get kind of tired and overwhelmed with learning
00:36:27new things every single time about Sheena.
00:36:29So, I'm hoping that we can get the truth all out on the table.
00:36:36Oh, look at that.
00:36:38So, these are banana leaves.
00:36:39We use this as a buddle fight.
00:36:41Very traditional.
00:36:42This usually was practiced in the military when they went up to the mountains.
00:36:48Yeah.
00:36:49So, no plates.
00:36:50Just the banana leaves.
00:36:51Yes.
00:36:52All the food.
00:36:53All natural stuff.
00:36:54Yes.
00:36:55It's wonderful.
00:36:56A buddle fight is like a traditional Filipino culture of everyone to eat in one whole dime
00:37:04leaf.
00:37:05So, it's like this.
00:37:06They have to do like this in a line.
00:37:08Ah.
00:37:09I just thought Molly would really enjoy this because she's interested in learning about
00:37:14my culture, especially when it comes to food.
00:37:17Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:37:19Oh.
00:37:20I hope that the buddle fight is the only fight that would happen tonight.
00:37:26Next batch.
00:37:27Next batch, the whole thing.
00:37:29Seafood.
00:37:30Oh, shrimp.
00:37:31Oh, my gosh.
00:37:32Those look delicious.
00:37:33Mussels.
00:37:34The big fish goes in the middle.
00:37:37Yes.
00:37:38My first impression of Sheena's family was they're hospitable.
00:37:42They're very welcoming.
00:37:44I mean, I've never quite seen a spread as nice as this.
00:37:48Usually, uh, make a rice bowl, for instance.
00:37:51Just pick around then.
00:37:52Scoop it in your mouth.
00:37:53Shove it in your mouth.
00:37:54Shove it up.
00:37:55Shove it up.
00:37:56Shove it up.
00:37:57Shove it up.
00:37:58Shove it on up.
00:37:59Mm.
00:38:00Mm.
00:38:01That be told, that does not line up at all from what I heard about them from Sheena.
00:38:08God, the flavors that just come through.
00:38:11Yeah.
00:38:12Mm.
00:38:13Mm.
00:38:14I was under the impression that they were these money-grubbing, cruel people that pretty
00:38:22much locked Sheena away and wouldn't let her out only to go to work and then to hand
00:38:27over her check.
00:38:28That's what I was led to believe.
00:38:31I just wanted to say, this meal that you prepared is just incredible.
00:38:38I'm just so grateful.
00:38:40Mm-hmm.
00:38:41And you have created such a beautiful home, I must say.
00:38:44Thank you, thank you.
00:38:46It must have been so expensive.
00:38:51But I was actually quite surprised to see how it really is.
00:38:57I expected something very different.
00:39:00But you guys made us feel very, very welcome and I appreciate that so much.
00:39:07So I wanted to ask, are you guys okay with Sheena moving to the United States?
00:39:14Actually, that is already her dream years ago, to work there in the U.S.
00:39:23Oh.
00:39:24Okay.
00:39:26That's interesting.
00:39:30Yes.
00:39:31But yesterday, Forrest made it clear that he's a little low on budget also and so I don't
00:39:40know what the situation is, you know?
00:39:42Actually, let's put Forrest's finances to the side and I want to talk about Sheena.
00:39:52There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:39:55And I had heard that you guys had been taking all of Sheena's earnings.
00:40:06And she told us that if she didn't give the money to you guys, that you would threaten her and be cruel to her and mistreat her.
00:40:27That you forced her.
00:40:28No.
00:40:29Did you say that?
00:40:30No.
00:40:31Did you say that?
00:40:32No.
00:40:33If he doesn't give me the blessing I will have fierce words.
00:40:34You're done.
00:40:35Don't you know that culture?
00:40:36I'm here to make sure that Issa is a good woman.
00:40:37It is our tradition.
00:40:38You are not an Igbo woman.
00:40:43Tell me, do you drink?
00:40:44Do you smoke?
00:40:45Are you a practicing Christian?
00:40:46I have not always been a very good Christian.
00:40:47I have not always been a very good Christian.
00:40:53I have not always been a very good Christian.
00:41:23I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:24I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:25I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:26I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:27I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:28I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:29I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:30I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:31I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:32I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:33I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:34I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:35I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:36I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:37I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:38I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:39I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:40I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:41I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:42I have not always been a good Christian.
00:41:43Photos here, it's all Zoey's photo.
00:41:50My dog?
00:41:52Mm-hmm.
00:41:54I was ready to find something to prove that I can't trust him.
00:42:00Instead, I found a bunch of cute photos of his dog.
00:42:07And photos of me that I sent him.
00:42:10Actually, lots of photos of me.
00:42:13I'm realizing that maybe I should cut him some slack.
00:42:19But I guess I'm still learning how to trust him.
00:42:25Well, for now, I don't see any red flag, honestly.
00:42:31You know, I told you I was going to stop talking to that person.
00:42:37And I did.
00:42:40I mean, did you think I wasn't telling the truth?
00:42:42I think I never know.
00:42:46So...
00:42:47Well, now you know.
00:42:48It's a little bit offensive that she feel like she needs to look through my phone in order to feel comfortable.
00:42:58Anna's supposed to trust me regardless.
00:43:01She's actually supposed to trust me before, you know, we got married, you know.
00:43:07But at the same time, I watch a lot of relationship podcasts, and one of the hosts, he sometimes makes good points about a little paranoia is healthy.
00:43:18I mean, most women only act right when they feel like they feel like they can be replaced.
00:43:27So, I'm not saying go out and cheat, but a little bit of paranoia, a little bit of fear is healthy.
00:43:32Are we good?
00:43:35I do want to trust you, but I'm not going to lie.
00:43:40I'm not still, like, 100%.
00:43:44And if you talk to her again, I'm going to break this phone.
00:43:54I don't care.
00:43:58I mean, Anna, just look at it this way.
00:44:00I mean, I passed all your tests.
00:44:03For now.
00:44:04Okay, for now.
00:44:05For now.
00:44:05For now.
00:44:06Do you want to go through my luggage up in the room?
00:44:08Yes, I will.
00:44:09All right.
00:44:11Do you have extra phone?
00:44:14I'm just kidding.
00:44:15Nah, then I'll work with you.
00:44:17I'm just kidding.
00:44:39As soon as I go in, do I kneel down before him?
00:44:46Okay.
00:44:47Stop being nervous, okay?
00:44:48Okay.
00:44:51I am in a very uncomfortable situation.
00:44:54I'm sitting next to the man I love, and he doesn't know about me.
00:45:01He doesn't know that I'm still married.
00:45:03He has no idea I've only been with women for 21 years.
00:45:07And right now, I'm feeling scared because I don't want to lie to his uncle,
00:45:11but I don't want to tell him any of my secrets.
00:45:14I want us to have this blessing more than anything in the world.
00:45:17I want to be with Daniel.
00:45:26We're going to do this.
00:45:27If he doesn't give me the blessing, I will have fierce words.
00:45:32Hey.
00:45:47Uncle.
00:45:48Where are you doing, sir?
00:45:54Shut up.
00:45:55Where are you doing there?
00:46:00Where are you doing?
00:46:01Don't you know our culture?
00:46:12I'm here to make sure that Pisa is a good woman.
00:46:17Before I give them the approval to go ahead and hire it.
00:46:24It is our tradition.
00:46:27Stand up. Come and have your seat.
00:46:31Come on.
00:46:43It's very well.
00:46:48This is the one.
00:46:54This is the one.
00:47:00My good lady, how are you?
00:47:03Nervous, uncle.
00:47:05I'm very nervous today.
00:47:06today. Yes. You are not an Igbo woman. I want to know you more. I will ask you some pertinent
00:47:21questions. Tell me who are you. I am a Native American. I am part Irish also. I come from
00:47:34a mother who gave me up for adoption at a very young age. I have a family that adopted me
00:47:40and they took very good care of me. I am a hard worker. I make sure I take care of my
00:47:47household. I make sure when Daniel needs money that I take care of his household.
00:47:54Are you a practicing Christian or Christian by name? I am a practicing Christian. I have
00:48:02not always been a very good Christian, but Daniel makes me into a better woman. He makes
00:48:09me into a stronger Christian. Do you drink? I do drink very, not a lot, but I do drink
00:48:19some, yes. Do you smoke? I do not smoke. I have smoked in the past. I have given it
00:48:28a lot. Are you or were you a lesbian? Do you practice Libyanism?
00:48:49Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt. I don't want to make things bigger.
00:48:57Laura is already worried about my finances. I am going to use something to save my
00:49:00life. I think the feedback will raise my life. Wait, what did she say?
00:49:05What do you say?
00:49:35What?
00:49:38Go.
00:50:06Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:50:11I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:19But where?
00:50:35I don't like pressure, I hate it.
00:50:52I don't like pressure, I hate it.
00:51:05It's like, Birkan don't do that, Birkan don't do this.
00:51:10I hate that.
00:51:13Good to know.
00:51:17This is really awkward because the three of them
00:51:20are just having this conversation in Turkish,
00:51:22and nobody is translating for me
00:51:25or filling in any of the gaps.
00:51:28This definitely feels kind of off and a little shady.
00:51:32I'm already feeling unsure,
00:51:35and now I definitely think it's possible
00:51:37that he's hiding something else
00:51:39that his friends know about,
00:51:41and for whatever reason, no one's telling me.
00:51:45And I don't like that.
00:51:50We're having a picnic.
00:51:55Is that the blanket we're laying on?
00:51:58You're a splash blanket.
00:51:59I mean, it's kind of...
00:52:00Ooh!
00:52:01That would have been better.
00:52:06The splash pad would have definitely been better.
00:52:10Is this where we're going to eat?
00:52:11Yeah.
00:52:12Wow.
00:52:13Fried fish.
00:52:14They put some garlic and ginger and little salt.
00:52:19And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:52:20Yeah.
00:52:21With the ginger and the salt.
00:52:22Yeah.
00:52:23They mix it up like this.
00:52:24It makes me miss home,
00:52:25because we are doing the same thing like this.
00:52:26When we're at home.
00:52:27Got some nice big ones in here, bae.
00:52:29Mm-hmm.
00:52:30So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:52:31Yeah.
00:52:32Yeah.
00:52:33So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:52:34Yeah.
00:52:35Yeah.
00:52:36Yeah.
00:52:37Yeah.
00:52:38Yeah.
00:52:39Yeah.
00:52:40Yeah.
00:52:41This type of food stands on the beach are very good.
00:52:42And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:52:43Yeah.
00:52:44And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:52:45Yeah.
00:52:46With the ginger and the salt.
00:52:47Yeah.
00:52:48They mix it up like this.
00:52:49It makes me miss home,
00:52:50because we are doing the same thing like this when we're at home.
00:52:52Got some nice big ones in here, bae.
00:52:55Mm-hmm.
00:52:56So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:52:58Yeah.
00:52:59This type of food stands on the beach are very common in here.
00:53:13I love them since they have fresh seafood.
00:53:17This is how my family prepare food also.
00:53:20Lighting a fire and making a barbecue or frying something.
00:53:26So it's nice to have a reminder of home.
00:53:32You want to try?
00:53:33Try what?
00:53:34How to cook it.
00:53:35I don't know anything about it.
00:53:36You've never done that?
00:53:37Nah.
00:53:38And I've never been fishing either.
00:53:40So I've never dealt with, you know, live fish.
00:53:43I'm going to teach you.
00:53:44And when you are in my hometown,
00:53:46you can do the same thing to impress my family,
00:53:48like you know how to do it.
00:53:50I mean, that sounds like kind of a good idea.
00:53:52You know?
00:53:53Yeah.
00:53:54I'm nervous that Rick is going to meet my family.
00:53:58I hope they will love him.
00:54:00But the conversation we had earlier about kids
00:54:04is making me doubt that it's possible.
00:54:07And also, there are other things working against us
00:54:12that Rick doesn't know about.
00:54:15I love you.
00:54:16You don't mind losing it?
00:54:18Yeah.
00:54:19You used to squatting like this long periods of time?
00:54:24Yeah.
00:54:25What's your problem Rick?
00:54:28You don't even help.
00:54:29I mean, I'm old.
00:54:30I used to being in this type of position for long periods of time.
00:54:34In my home, you'll sit on the ground.
00:54:37Like this.
00:54:38I'm a city boy baby.
00:54:40You a village girl.
00:54:42I'm a village girl.
00:54:43You want to sit on a chair?
00:54:45If there's a chair available, yeah.
00:54:47That'd be nice.
00:54:48What?
00:54:49You complain a lot.
00:54:52So what can I expect when I meet the family?
00:54:56They will ask you some questions.
00:54:58Who are you?
00:54:59What do you want from my daughter?
00:55:02What's your plan for her?
00:55:04Okay.
00:55:05I know that this is a big step,
00:55:08and I feel honored that you want to introduce me to your family.
00:55:16And when I'm about the same age as your dad, right?
00:55:19You're older than my dad.
00:55:22How old is your dad?
00:55:24Fifteen.
00:55:26But your father does know how old I am, right?
00:55:30Mm-hmm.
00:55:32You haven't told your dad my age?
00:55:34No.
00:55:38Mm-hmm.
00:55:39I didn't say that she already married twice.
00:55:43I didn't say that she have kids.
00:55:45Aw, Trish.
00:55:47My dad, he doesn't want men older than me
00:55:53and men who have a lot of kids
00:55:56and men who already been married, divorced.
00:56:01So that's why I didn't tell my dad much about rape.
00:56:06Otherwise, I think my father would just refuse to meet him.
00:56:11But blessing for my dad, it means a lot for me.
00:56:14So what's going to happen to us if your dad doesn't accept me?
00:56:20My dad would say, oh, you have to choose then between you and my dad.
00:56:29And if you don't have kids, they won't give the blessing.
00:56:35It's really important to my family.
00:56:39I'm being put in such a disadvantage.
00:56:44She hasn't given her family any information about me.
00:56:48They don't know my age.
00:56:49They don't know that I've been married, have kids.
00:56:52Nothing at all.
00:56:54I'm just getting thrown into the lion's den.
00:56:57They really want Trish to have a baby.
00:57:01And that's the part that I'm most worried about.
00:57:04Because at this point, I don't know if I'm ready to make that decision.
00:57:12I just want to go in there and be as open and honest as I can.
00:57:18And, you know, show them that I'm a good person,
00:57:22that I'm a loving father.
00:57:24And that I'm here for their daughter.
00:57:28And I'm going to treat her well.
00:57:30And do the best that I can to make you happy.
00:57:36I mean, hopefully that's enough for him to accept me.
00:57:43I know that this trip is very important.
00:57:46I know that I need to meet her family, get to know them,
00:57:49and get to know more about Trish through her family.
00:57:53But I feel even worse about not telling Trish
00:57:57about spending time with my ex in Colombia.
00:58:03I have to tell Trish before we meet her family.
00:58:06And I just don't know how she's going to take it.
00:58:09I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
00:58:25Most Americans would find that very weird.
00:58:27This is just a very delicious dessert.
00:58:31It's not like an execution.
00:58:37It's an aberration.
00:58:39And it is not in our blood.
00:58:41Uncle.
00:58:42She told me this was one time chain.
00:58:45Do you lie?
00:58:46Do you lie?
00:58:49Is she saying the truth?
00:59:00It's a nice night.
00:59:01Yep.
00:59:07You hear those waves?
00:59:08Yeah, I do.
00:59:09It seems like they're louder at night.
00:59:12Oh!
00:59:13My shoes.
00:59:15Did they break?
00:59:17They break.
00:59:18Oh, .
00:59:19Well, you can be my Trish Charming and carry me.
00:59:29In your dress?
00:59:31Like, oh, if you don't want to, that's fine.
00:59:34I mean, I want to, but it's like you're in a dress, though.
00:59:38Well, just so...
00:59:40What?
00:59:41You're the most unromantic guy I've ever met.
00:59:43Okay.
00:59:44It's like I've never been with a woman before.
00:59:47Tonight is the last night of our honeymoon.
00:59:50And I'm glad that we were able to work through some trust issues.
00:59:54Because after this, we're going to Cavite, where Anna Lynn lives.
01:00:00And while I'm there, we're going to have our vow renewal
01:00:02with our family and friends, and hopefully that'll be good.
01:00:05Well, I can still walk with one straw, but it's just...
01:00:08You sure?
01:00:09Yeah.
01:00:10I'm not really unhappy that our honeymoon is ending,
01:00:13because I think the real test for us is day-to-day life.
01:00:19Are we able to live in the same space for long periods of time
01:00:23without trying to kill one another?
01:00:25You know, we'll see.
01:00:28Hey.
01:00:29Is that a hola hola?
01:00:30Yes.
01:00:31They have a hola hola set up.
01:00:32Oh, okay.
01:00:33Welcome to the hola hola bark.
01:00:36We have the sweet potato and gulaman.
01:00:39We have purple yam and some cheese and corn.
01:00:43Something.
01:00:44Okay.
01:00:45Halo halo is a popular Filipino dessert.
01:00:48Halo halo in English means mix, mix.
01:00:51So you have to mix all the ingredients together with the milk and ice.
01:00:58It doesn't count unless I put the cheese in it.
01:01:01No.
01:01:02Cheese and corn, okay?
01:01:03Okay.
01:01:04Okay.
01:01:09This is just a very delicious dessert.
01:01:12It's not like an execution.
01:01:17I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
01:01:20Most Americans would find that very weird.
01:01:22I'm not forcing you to do something you don't like.
01:01:26However, I wish you will be more open-minded that when I suggest something you will try it at least once.
01:01:33Just once.
01:01:34I mean, I try almost anything just once, but cheese and corn and ice cream and jelly?
01:01:41Really?
01:01:43Yeah.
01:01:44But I'm willing to accept the challenge.
01:01:46Oh.
01:01:47Yeah.
01:01:49So cold.
01:01:50Is it?
01:01:51Uh-huh.
01:01:52But you enjoying it though.
01:01:54Enjoy it.
01:01:59So we just mix it, right?
01:02:01Uh-huh.
01:02:02All right.
01:02:04Mmm.
01:02:05Oh my God.
01:02:07Do you realize this is our first halo halo together?
01:02:10Yes.
01:02:11Really nice.
01:02:17I mean, Anna, there's a lot going on in here.
01:02:19Mm-hmm.
01:02:21But it is good though.
01:02:23Excuse me, ma'am.
01:02:24I'm sorry.
01:02:25Do you need anything else?
01:02:26Ah, yeah.
01:02:27Can we just take a photo of us?
01:02:28Sure, ma'am.
01:02:30We're at a honeymoon.
01:02:31Okay.
01:02:32Is that okay?
01:02:33Yes, ma'am.
01:02:35And one, two, three.
01:02:37There you go, ma'am.
01:02:40Uh-huh.
01:02:42I hope you knew you had a halo halo, ma'am.
01:02:44Look at that.
01:02:45Yeah.
01:02:46Aw, yeah.
01:02:47That's a good photo.
01:02:50I don't think so, but okay.
01:02:53What's wrong?
01:02:56You know, the face that you're giving me, you look miserable.
01:03:03You know I don't mean to though.
01:03:05But I don't believe.
01:03:06You don't believe?
01:03:07This is your thing.
01:03:09Whining and being unromantic.
01:03:12Uh-huh.
01:03:13I mean, how am I unromantic though?
01:03:17Like the faces that I make?
01:03:18Yeah.
01:03:19And then, you know, how you say things.
01:03:25Okay.
01:03:27For example, on our second anniversary, I said, hey boo, you know what it is?
01:03:33You're like, oh, yeah.
01:03:36And then you just move on.
01:03:38Oh.
01:03:39Like, wow.
01:03:40You forgot.
01:03:43I mean, I work 15 hours a day.
01:03:45So, it's kind of a luxury that you can, you know, keep up with days like that.
01:03:51Because you're just sitting at home.
01:03:53I don't have that luxury.
01:03:55And I'm just so drained all the time.
01:03:59Some other people are working too.
01:04:02But they don't do that.
01:04:03They still have time to be sweet to their wives.
01:04:07Well, I'm sorry.
01:04:09Maybe I'm just not a good husband.
01:04:20It's frustrating because, for me, this is love.
01:04:23I'm showing up.
01:04:24I'm providing.
01:04:25I don't know.
01:04:26I don't know.
01:04:27I don't know.
01:04:28I mean, I thought that meant something.
01:04:30But Anna, seeing it through the female lens, she has this perception built up in her head that I have to be just over-the-top romance for her living in a fantasy. I don't know.
01:04:40My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.
01:04:44I always make sure that my partner knows that I find him attractive.
01:04:49But just because you are supposed to provide and protect doesn't mean you always have to have this machismo energy. Like, you can't show vulnerability. You're still a human being.
01:05:01I am afraid that Juban is never going to understand me and my needs. He hears me, but he doesn't really listen.
01:05:10I just want you to have just more understanding because what I do is not easy. I mean, is that not romantic? Like, making sure your lights is on because, you know, you're at home and then I'm working.
01:05:25I'm getting tired of this.
01:05:26Okay.
01:05:27Every time you do something for me, you throw it to my face. Because you have to remind me that you're the man. That's what man does.
01:05:38I'm not trying to, Anna. I'm just trying to get you to understand, like, what I do is just not easy and I can't remember everything, you know?
01:05:53Anna, why are you so emotional?
01:05:56Something you will never understand if you don't have that.
01:06:03Well, I mean, I'm sorry, Anna.
01:06:06It seems like I can't do anything right around you, so...
01:06:10From now on, I don't want you to give me anything anymore.
01:06:19I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:06:22Why did you say that, Sheena?
01:06:24I'm sorry.
01:06:27Your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.
01:06:34She told us if she didn't give the money to you guys that you would mistreat her.
01:06:51No.
01:06:52Did you say that?
01:06:54No.
01:06:55Did you say that?
01:06:56No.
01:06:57Did you say that?
01:07:03She said that you guys mistreated her if you didn't give her the money.
01:07:07I don't know how mistreated her.
01:07:08That you called her names and you threatened to throw her out and make her homeless?
01:07:17What?
01:07:18What?
01:07:19No.
01:07:20No.
01:07:21No.
01:07:22You sure you didn't say anything that would have been...
01:07:26Sweetie, I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:07:30Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:07:32Why do you feel like you have to lie all the time?
01:07:45I want to admit that I lied.
01:07:46Just to cover things up so I don't want to lose for us because it is hard for me to save money.
01:08:00I try to help you guys because you need all the help, but every time that I want to save, it's not even enough for me to get the visa.
01:08:08It is absolutely insane that Sheena would lie about her family in the first place.
01:08:20It makes no sense.
01:08:22And the hysterical theatrics aren't helping at all to clear any of this up.
01:08:29I'm just disappointed.
01:08:30That we got told that we were kind of abusing you.
01:08:34I'm sorry, Bill.
01:08:35I do.
01:08:36And I do only apologize.
01:08:45I'm...
01:08:47I just don't understand why she would tell us stories that she's given every penny to you guys.
01:08:55Well, actually, it's...
01:08:57She gave it to us and it's all listed, you know?
01:09:00So, when the time she needs it, we can, I don't know, give it back to her.
01:09:07Really?
01:09:09Of course.
01:09:10She's always alone.
01:09:11Sheena, I'm really kind of surprised.
01:09:24Here I thought they were mistreating you and taking all your money and finding out that they were just borrowing it.
01:09:29It's a way different story than everything you told me.
01:09:32No, I'm sorry.
01:09:34No, I...
01:09:35I'm sorry.
01:09:39My family beat all my help.
01:09:41Thinking of being breadwinner is hard for me.
01:09:45And I don't want to lose you because, Boris, you told me that they have to save money, that you shouldn't give money to your family.
01:09:54But now I'm feeling even worse because your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.
01:10:06I haven't told you the right things because I'm worried that you might give up on me.
01:10:10I mean...
01:10:13Huh.
01:10:18Shenebraith, I know that you've been trying hard.
01:10:22I don't approve of the stories and keeping everything hidden from everybody.
01:10:26Yes.
01:10:27That's not something that was cool.
01:10:28Yes.
01:10:29But for years, you've been fighting for yourself and sorta, unfortunately, it got all mixed up.
01:10:35We knew that she was trying to save up for a visa, but we didn't know how would she even acquire that.
01:10:42She doesn't tell us what's the process.
01:10:46We're not gonna guess it.
01:10:48She wasn't really telling us the real truth, you know, the...
01:10:52What's really happening.
01:10:55Shene...
01:10:58You need to make sure to say I'm never gonna lie to anybody again and I will be open with everybody.
01:11:06To everyone.
01:11:08I promise.
01:11:10I would never lie again for whatever I said to you guys.
01:11:15I regret for doing everything.
01:11:17I'll do my best to be much more open up to you guys.
01:11:22It hurts to find out that for the last seven years, Sheena had, you know, lied about everything with her family and the money situation.
01:11:31I thought she had more, more faith in me.
01:11:34But I'm glad that everything is out of the open now.
01:11:37And I hope that we can finally work towards our future.
01:11:40I think I'm gonna jump in here.
01:11:46Pops, let me understand here.
01:11:49So you've mentioned that you're borrowing the money, right?
01:11:53Yes.
01:11:54So, how long would it take to provide, you know, if she asked for her money back?
01:12:02You haven't given us, asked us for a certain amount.
01:12:06So we don't, we don't know.
01:12:08I'd say about maybe $4,000.
01:12:16We'll have to check our finances.
01:12:18I was surprised because if they plan to get married, it's a guy who should provide for her.
01:12:30We didn't expect she'd be asking us for that amount, no?
01:12:33Yeah.
01:12:34I was surprised when she said that the first time she said that she mentioned that.
01:12:38But, because when we're talking about it, it's painful for us.
01:12:44First impressions, Molly and the stepfather.
01:12:49First impressions of us is, of course, that's right.
01:12:53If she came and said, hey, I can't keep, you know, giving you guys a loan, would you guys not be taking the loan?
01:13:09I think if it's feasible, you know, that for us not getting any help, we would do that, you know?
01:13:23But I just wish that she talked to us and explained it to us more.
01:13:30See, after all these years, Shane, we could have just came and did this.
01:13:33Instead of going and, you know, making stories, putting things around about.
01:13:38I lie because I fear of losing him.
01:13:42Shane, you're going to lose me if you don't.
01:13:45Stop lying.
01:13:46You gotta be honest with us.
01:13:47Yes.
01:13:50I'm very, very sorry.
01:13:52And I'm trying to strive my best to work hard for me to save.
01:13:56That's all I wish.
01:14:01I'm relieved that the truth is out.
01:14:03But I'm afraid that Forrest is taking everything he heard tonight at face value.
01:14:07Now, it's just to the point where I gotta just say, you need to think about what's happening in this relationship that all she's doing is lying.
01:14:18Maybe someday she'll come down the road and tell us some other secret that we don't know that will tear the relationship apart.
01:14:24I don't trust her as far as I could throw her, but time will tell.
01:14:28Time will tell.
01:14:29her as far as I could throw her apart.
01:14:30Love is not so much longer.
01:14:31She wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture.
01:14:34There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:14:37Please tell me the truth.
01:14:38If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture.
01:14:47There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:14:50Please tell me the truth.
01:14:53I'm so guilt-ridden.
01:14:55I just want to be open and honest and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:14:59Are you okay?
01:15:08Do you practice lesbianism?
01:15:20Daniel told me that Lisa practiced lesbianism in the past.
01:15:26I know lesbianism is rampant in America.
01:15:31Here, we don't do it at all.
01:15:32If she wants to live with my nephew, she must abide by our culture and tradition.
01:15:42Please, my young lady, don't be offended.
01:15:47I'm not insulting you for lesbianism.
01:15:52It's an aberration, and it is not in our blood.
01:15:57There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:16:02Please, tell me the truth.
01:16:07What the is happening?
01:16:10I am shocked by the question.
01:16:15I don't know what to say about it.
01:16:17My sexuality being called an aberration hurts me a lot.
01:16:23I am who I am, and I'm not ashamed of it at all.
01:16:26I just want to be honest and tell the truth, but I'm struggling inside with what's right
01:16:32and what's not right and what I want to do and what I don't want to do.
01:16:35It's an inner battle.
01:16:36I have been with a woman before, yes, sir.
01:16:52You don't practice it anymore?
01:16:56No, sir.
01:16:56It was a fling.
01:17:00It was one time.
01:17:05Do you lie?
01:17:10I think everybody says a fib once in a while.
01:17:13That doesn't make it right.
01:17:14I have lied in the past, but I am not a liar.
01:17:25Is she saying the truth?
01:17:29Tell me.
01:17:30Yes, uncle.
01:17:31She's telling the truth.
01:17:35Okay.
01:17:36I am not a liar, uncle.
01:17:38Okay.
01:17:39Why does your uncle ask me if I partake in lesbianism?
01:17:53Why would he ask me that?
01:17:54I told him that you have done it before, but it was a mistake.
01:17:59Yeah, you told him everything.
01:18:01You told him everything.
01:18:03That wasn't for you to tell anybody.
01:18:04That was between us.
01:18:05No, no, no, no.
01:18:06Yes.
01:18:07You're wrong.
01:18:08This is my uncle.
01:18:08I don't care if it's the Pope of the Catholic Church.
01:18:11You don't tell anybody.
01:18:11Are you trying to insult him?
01:18:12I'm not insulting anybody.
01:18:14I'm telling you, you don't tell people certain things.
01:18:16My uncle is like father to me, so I have to discuss everything with him.
01:18:19You don't even tell me what you've already spoken to your uncle about.
01:18:22I ask you what kind of questions he's going to ask me, and you're like, I don't know.
01:18:27I don't know.
01:18:28I don't have to tell you.
01:18:29You don't want me to know, but you want him to know everything.
01:18:32Oh, my God.
01:18:33Yes.
01:18:34Oh, my God.
01:18:36Are you okay?
01:18:38Yes, uncle.
01:19:09I've been hearing from you.
01:19:39And I will give you guys my blessing.
01:19:45Thank you, son.
01:19:48Thank you, uncle.
01:19:49I am thrilled.
01:20:05I have the blessing.
01:20:08But I feel guilty as all hell.
01:20:10Because he kept bringing up the fact, are you a liar?
01:20:14We do not lie.
01:20:16We do not.
01:20:17And that's making me feel guilty because I am lying.
01:20:19Amen.
01:20:24Go.
01:20:26We shall beware with you.
01:20:28In the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord.
01:20:30Amen.
01:20:31Amen.
01:20:32We shall beware with you.
01:20:33I want Daniel.
01:20:37But I have the secret that I've been with women for the past 21 years.
01:20:41I have the secret that I'm married still to a woman.
01:20:45But it's 21 years.
01:20:47It's not a mistake.
01:20:48It's who I am.
01:20:49And I'm so scared he's not going to understand that.
01:20:52Stop crying.
01:20:53Daniel is yours.
01:20:55You are his girl.
01:20:57I am so guilt-ridden because I love this man.
01:21:02And I just want to be open and honest and get this over with
01:21:06and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:21:08But it's getting harder and harder as the time goes on.
01:21:11I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
01:21:24Next time on Before the 90 Days,
01:21:27I get to be the princess and now in the castle.
01:21:29Now I'll always be a princess.
01:21:31We're on this surprise romantic getaway.
01:21:34But I'm honestly having mixed feelings about it.
01:21:37I'm worried he's hiding more secrets.
01:21:40Can you tell me where your debt came from?
01:21:42Do you want the truth?
01:21:44Yeah.
01:21:46When the COVID hits, I bankrupt.
01:21:49I find another way to pay that debt.
01:21:52Do you realize everything you said about me since I got here has been negative?
01:21:58It makes me feel like we're never going to get married.
01:22:01We're never going to get engaged.
01:22:02This whole trip was a waste of my time.
01:22:04I'm just at my breaking point.
01:22:08I deserve some answers.
01:22:10Am I the girl that you want to be with?
01:22:13It's glued on to the point where my wig is like bubble gum right now, stuck to my head.
01:22:18I have to take it off.
01:22:21Oh my God.
01:22:22I've been keeping my wig on because I know Daniel loves me with my long hair.
01:22:27I have no idea what he's going to think.
01:22:30But if he's going to marry me, he has to get used to it.
01:22:34Hey.
01:22:34All I hear is like you're just constantly complaining about me all the time.
01:22:47I mean, you tell me I'm a downer.
01:22:49You tell me I'm not romantic.
01:22:52Sometimes I feel like I'm stepping on landmines and I don't know how to navigate around the
01:22:58landmines.
01:22:58I mean, Anna, do you regret, like, marrying me?
01:23:04I mean, there's something I've been keeping from you.
01:23:10Explain yourself.
01:23:12In those five days when you weren't talking to me, I decided to book a trip to Colombia and
01:23:19be with my ex.
01:23:22Shut up.
01:23:23It was a mistake.
01:23:23Shut up.
01:23:28Jesus.
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