00:00To me it was a normal thing, it was this instant pleasure you're chasing.
00:10There was a stage where I watched it four or five times a day.
00:14It affected my relationship with women.
00:18Your idea of sex and reality starts getting warped.
00:30Pornography, porn, or porno for short, is material that depicts nudity or sexual acts for the purpose of sexual stimulation.
00:48I'm Dylan, I'm 27 and I started watching porn at the age of seven.
00:54Excessive pornography use is recognised as a compulsive sexual behaviour disorder.
00:58It describes a persistent failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges resulting in repetitive sexual behaviour, despite negative consequences.
01:11I came from a broken background. In my primary school years my parents split up.
01:15I would say the porn thing started with walking in on my mother having sexual activities with men and I would find DVDs of my mother's.
01:25It kind of triggered something in me.
01:28Seeing porn at a young age can harm mental health, encourage sexism, and lead to unhealthy attitudes towards relationships.
01:35Viewing abusive pornography may lead children to accept harmful behaviour as normal.
01:41It was this instant pleasure you're chasing. I didn't see anything wrong with it.
01:46Watching porn can trigger the release of dopamine.
01:48That's a brain chemical linked to pleasure and anticipation.
01:51It motivates us to repeat enjoyable actions.
01:54According to a study, more than two thirds of South Africa's youth have been exposed to online pornography.
02:00In high school I would have the instant access to computers and phones and basically escalated.
02:08Seeing a woman in public walking with short skirts would trigger you.
02:12There were times where I did about four or five times a day.
02:15Because in your head afterwards, like all the stress has been relieved.
02:20Pornography can put you in a flow state that makes you lose track of time.
02:24The highly stimulating visuals, repetitive structure and constant novelty feel rewarding.
02:29Pornography is often a kind of coping mechanism.
02:35This increases its addiction potential.
02:45The agreement between my mother and my dad was that I would go to my dad in high school.
02:49But in this time he wasn't in a position to look after my duties, drinking.
02:52So a family friend, uncle of his, kind of took me from him and raised me.
03:00My adopted dad viewed women as lower than men.
03:04He viewed them as selfish.
03:10So I've known him about three years I would say.
03:14He's a great guy.
03:15But I obviously noticed that he didn't respect women.
03:18He was almost emotionless.
03:20And I used to remember asking him, like, you know, you're getting intimate with someone.
03:24Do you not feel anything?
03:25And he was like, no.
03:28Every time I'm in a relationship, I'm not getting the fulfillment I seek.
03:31And the way I'm acting things, it's disgusting me.
03:33And I am hiding my porn habits of becoming dishonest.
03:36You kind of feel like a creep at the end of the day.
03:41Over time, excessive consumption might dull the brain's reward center.
03:44That could make less intense experiences, like intimacy with a partner, feel less rewarding.
03:50The problem with porn is it causes unrealistic expectations.
03:54The more you get hooked to it, the more normal sex doesn't satisfy you anymore.
03:57It just puts you into this dark hole where you need this instant gratification, like, more and more and more and more.
04:03It fogs your brain.
04:04It makes you depressed.
04:05You're living in this fantasy world that does not exist.
04:12I started finding a love for dark humans.
04:16I would wake up with 30,000 followers the next day.
04:22And your jokes become worse and worse and more serious.
04:24At the time, I didn't realize it.
04:25The type of jokes that intrigued me that, like, I kind of wanted to recreate were kind of, like, deep-rooted issues.
04:44This one morning, I went on TikTok and I got a prophetic message saying that, like, God can change your heart.
04:50I decided, you know what, I'm going to try this.
04:51I have nothing to lose at the end of that.
04:53That was kind of the turning point for me.
04:56My conception of love changed.
04:59I started getting answers about my mother.
05:01I had breakthroughs with my dad.
05:05It does make me feel vulnerable talking about this.
05:08But millions and millions of men, even women, struggle with lust and this problem.
05:12And it's like any other addiction.
05:13You're avoiding what's actually going on with you.
05:16I know exactly how hard it is to get out of this cycle.
05:19But I'm in a healing journey now.
05:22I'm the one to choose.
05:24Baby, come.
05:25Play so big on me, you know what?
05:27I'm the winning thing, you know what?
05:29Never let you lose, you know what?
05:32I'm the one to choose.
05:34Switch.
05:35You're starting to denier them down.
05:38I'm the one to choose.
05:39The one is big and the one is big, you know what?
05:40That's all.
05:41Baby, come and eat.
05:42It goes different about cause you know.
05:43Don't choose.
05:44It goes better into your legs.
05:45You're becoming even better into your parts.
05:47Even that you have anything that can bring yourhale, you know what?
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