00:00Sir, can you please explain what is love, exactly?
00:10At the most fundamental level, it has to be tied again to the fundamental human condition
00:15itself.
00:16You are not right.
00:21You want to be right.
00:23That's love.
00:24You are suffering, you don't want to suffer.
00:27That's love.
00:30You are in bondage, you want to fly in the sky, that's love, at the inner level.
00:40Between persons, the one who can help you fly in the sky, is the one you ought to love.
00:57Instead, we often find ourselves loving those who propose to us with chains.
01:12Come, hold my hand.
01:16I'll give you a mansion to live all day in and you'll think that's great love.
01:24No, you are being confined to a mansion.
01:29Sir, another question.
01:34When you told him that sometimes we have to be daring to challenge our own relationship,
01:39that if it doesn't happen, I am walking out.
01:41Doesn't it enforce, doesn't it kill their own free will?
01:45There is no free will, there is no free will.
01:50If there is free will, then they are already free.
01:54Then, why do you need to disrupt the relationship?
02:00How can an unfree entity have free will?
02:06Your desires, your thoughts, hopes, ambitions, they are all conditioned.
02:11They are very unfree.
02:16Tradition, media, influences, biology, movies, culture, they decide even your most intimate matters.
02:27Where is freedom really?
02:33So, it's not a question of free will.
02:39Because there is no free will.
02:43But sir, then who am I to force someone?
02:47That's a good question to answer.
03:00The kid is putting his finger into the electric socket.
03:06Who are you to stop it?
03:10Let the kid exercise its free will.
03:15Who are you?
03:17And obviously, the question is not just rhetoric.
03:24Because first of all, you have to be more mature than the kid.
03:33It is actually possible that the kid might be doing nothing wrong.
03:37And you are worse than the kid.
03:39And you pull the kid away or slap it or do something very stupid.
03:46You have to decide whether really you are in a position to help.
03:53In this same concept, how do we stop moral arrogance?
04:01Do you know something that is right?
04:03Is it my duty to tell you that even if it wounds you a lot?
04:09Even if it breaks the fabrics of our relationship?
04:13Is it still my duty?
04:14It all depends on the intensity of your love.
04:17You see, if you are speaking to an unwilling one and telling him things he is not yet ripe enough to appreciate, it will hurt him and he will retaliate.
04:30So, it depends on the intensity of your love whether you want to suffer the retaliation.
04:38Are you getting it?
04:40Are you getting it?
04:41There are those who are ready to listen and it is good to talk to them.
04:46But it takes a lot of heart to talk to those who do not want to listen.
04:54You don't talk to them.
04:57First of all, you chase them.
05:00Because they would never come to you on their own.
05:05So, first of all, it takes a lot of stamina to chase them and always chase them because they want to run away.
05:11Even if you somehow gather them, they want to run away.
05:16There is always a bit of coercion involved.
05:21And then, if you have gathered them and you speak to them, it will hurt them and there will be a reaction, a retaliation.
05:32What remains to be seen is, how much can you suffer for their cause?
05:40That is where your love is tested.
05:46And that is not an obligation by the way.
05:49You can always say, I will speak only to the willing ones.
05:53Why should I risk my own wellness, my own peace, sometimes even my own life,
06:01for the sake of unwilling idiots.
06:03You can always say that.
06:11A point comes when you don't want to say that.
06:14A point comes when you find yourself unable to say that.
06:24A point comes when you can't help risking your own wellness.
06:36Everything is just so important, so urgent.
06:46It deserves a sacrifice maybe.
06:52Yes.
06:53So when you mentioned that to change someone else, you have to be mature yourself.
06:58But what do we mean exactly by mature?
07:01In a case of a small child, for example, a toddler, they question a lot of things.
07:06Maybe the parents, they might have questioned when they were toddlers, but may have forgotten.
07:11And then they learn newer things from the toddler, from their questions.
07:15Or another example is if we keep pets, by observing what the pets do every day,
07:22we can learn about our own basic biology, which might be common between us,
07:28our needs and stuff like that.
07:30So, in this case, the toddler or the pet, generally we do not consider them as mature than the adult.
07:38Yeah, but you are more mature because you can learn by looking at the dog.
07:43And the dog cannot learn by looking at you.
07:46So you are more mature than the dog.
07:48And in the case of the toddler, when the…
07:50Same thing.
07:51Same thing.
07:52A good indicator is if you can look at the other and see your erstwhile self there,
08:00then there is a realistic chance that you have matured.
08:05When you look at the other and you see your former self there, the self that you have outgrown.
08:16Then there is a realistic chance that yes, you are in a good position to help.
08:24You see someone committing the same mistakes you made in the past, there is a chance you are
08:29qualified to help.
08:40And there is a risk involved.
08:42I just said chance.
08:43Chance is risk.
08:48You are not a child.
09:02I am a child.
09:03Happy birthday.
09:05I am a child.
09:06This is my child.
09:07I am a child.
09:08I am a child.
09:10I am a child.
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