00:00Just because you are able to empathize and understand does not mean that you have to
00:04tolerate their behavior. Let me say that again. Just because you are able to empathize and
00:10understand does not mean that you have to tolerate their behavior. When you are a person
00:17with high self-awareness and emotional intelligence, people expect you to bend over backwards for
00:22someone else's horrible behavior. They expect you to always take the higher road. They expect
00:27you to be mature, to be understanding. And ultimately what happens is you become this
00:32emotional landfill for other people's dysfunction. Let me introduce you to a concept called as the
00:38tolerance paradox by Karl Popper. The idea is a political theory and it's essentially the argument
00:44that if we are unlimitedly tolerant towards anything intolerant in our society, it will lead to the
00:50disappearance of tolerance, which means that the intolerance will destroy the tolerance in itself.
00:56So in order to protect any tolerant society, we have to be intolerant towards intolerance.
01:03What this means is if we are actively seeking out an inclusive society, it automatically means that
01:10we cannot include racist people, violent or anybody who is advocating against a group of community or
01:18the survival of some other humans within that society. So we have to be intolerant towards certain
01:25people and only then we can have a tolerant society. This is a political theory with a lot of ideas and
01:32competence to it. And I will talk about it later on a much grander scale. But today I want to show you
01:37how this could influence your relationships. If you tolerate everything from your partner, the name
01:43calling, the boundary crossing, the dismissal, this is not going to stay there. It is going to escalate to
01:50a point where one day it is going to break you. And the reason why they are able to do this to you is
01:56because you have convinced yourself and them that you have this person with unlimited amount of kindness
02:03and tolerance. So please don't let people brainwash you into thinking that your kindness and tolerance
02:10should be unlimited. The very survival of your identity and your existence is dependent on the fact that
02:18your tolerance and kindness is limited.
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