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Love Is Blind
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00:00:01Every time I build you up, you make me feel so small.
00:00:10Have you talked about how you're going to deal with the situation with the wedding coming up in a few weeks?
00:00:15I mean, in terms of external pressure or expectations, etc.
00:00:20We don't feel the pressure to get married, but it seems logical right now, which is weird, but...
00:00:26Yeah, I'm also kind of lacking that time period, because you feel like you don't really know the person yet.
00:00:34For me, it's like, sometimes I get the feeling like, yeah, okay, I could see it.
00:00:40But often I still think it would really be irresponsible.
00:00:44I'm not approaching it with fear, instead I'm thinking that I'm excited about it.
00:00:48Right, let's see what happens. Challenge accepted.
00:00:51Challenge accepted, I think yes.
00:00:53That's why I'm a little tense, because I don't know how it's all going to turn out, you know?
00:00:58There's no need to be afraid.
00:01:00No, you shouldn't anyway.
00:01:01You shouldn't be afraid of anything in general, you know?
00:01:04Yeah, that. I love your mindset, really.
00:01:08Well, you don't have to decide for another four weeks.
00:01:11Yeah, but I don't feel like having the whole wedding and then saying, yeah, I have cold feet after all, that's really mean.
00:01:17It's been a while since I've shown my heart, how to live, live without each other.
00:01:33But we're going strong, I know.
00:01:38These days, everything behind us feels like something already.
00:01:46Show me where there'll be tomorrow.
00:01:50Help me, there'll be.
00:01:54Oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:01:58Help me, there'll be.
00:02:02You two are actually really cute, aren't you?
00:02:05Yeah, the emotional connection is definitely there.
00:02:09But I also need the physical aspect to sustain the emotional one.
00:02:15But for Jan, he wants to feel it 100% before he gives anything, so he won't give me the wrong impression.
00:02:21Yeah, I get that. But sometimes you have to give in order to feel.
00:02:25It's difficult when you don't speak the same language about physical intimacy.
00:02:30And I'm someone who likes to be held and even more by my partner, you know what I mean?
00:02:35Yeah, otherwise you build a distance or it solidifies, right? You can't break through.
00:02:40But I can totally understand him. It's just not my perspective. That would be totally unfair to him.
00:02:45She's so considerate. She's so selfless. Really, she, you know, she has such a pure heart and that makes it even worse for me.
00:02:58Because I would really like to be able to give her that back, you know?
00:03:03But you can't wait forever, though.
00:03:06I think time isn't on your side and it doesn't always help.
00:03:09The more time passes, the harder it gets, unfortunately, in your case.
00:03:12So waiting is tricky.
00:03:15But I haven't given up hope yet.
00:03:19The hope for love is what keeps me here.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Because I've never had that, guys. I've never had it.
00:03:28If you keep this up every night, nothing will happen.
00:03:30At some point, one of you has to take a step towards the other one.
00:03:33At least a little bit. Very gently. Very, very, very small steps. Nothing major.
00:03:38No need to stick your tongue in his mouth.
00:03:41Yeah, Jessie.
00:03:43Well, she's right.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:52Jan is so smart and so dumb. It's really...
00:03:55That sums it up well.
00:03:58Thinking doesn't help.
00:04:01You guys should be dumb.
00:04:03Oh, Consti, I don't know, man. I really don't know, man.
00:04:16I hope that attraction happens for you guys.
00:04:18Cannonball competition!
00:04:38I'm coming more gently.
00:04:40Oh, Cassie.
00:04:41Cannonball competition!
00:04:42I'm coming more gently.
00:04:45I'm coming more gently.
00:04:46I was sitting with Gunnar in the lounge and I talked to him about how he's approaching the
00:05:02subject regarding the wedding, that it's only four weeks away. Oh, really? Yeah, I chose his
00:05:08opinion and wanted to know what his thoughts are. And he says that they're thinking about
00:05:13how it's not very long too. But he says that they're using this time to get clarity for
00:05:20themselves. And that kind of made me feel calmer because I thought, hey, no one's forcing me to do
00:05:26anything here. So that was a good chat. Nice to know I'm not the only one here who's thinking about
00:05:31this. You're thinking a lot. How come I don't know about this? Yeah, but I'm chill, you know,
00:05:42just normal thoughts. Honestly, I don't think about it that much. I know it's coming. A lot of
00:05:52hurdles are maybe just about the wedding. I'll really start thinking about it when I know there
00:06:02isn't much time left. Hearing that he talks about this and with other people, I wish he'd talked to
00:06:09me about it at first. But yeah, I think Andy sometimes does things without thinking.
00:06:14Have you come to any conclusions about Crete now that it's almost over?
00:06:37Mm-hmm. Yes. That bad? No. However...
00:06:49Oh, yeah. I love this topic. How easy it is for me to talk about.
00:06:54You're going quiet. I can tell you're serious. Yeah. It's so funny. You're always so quick-witted
00:06:58and direct. And as soon as it comes to feelings, you're either quiet or sometimes ironic. So
00:07:02those are the two. No. Yeah. You're not that hard to read.
00:07:08What is that supposed to mean? I'm totally mysterious. You're a mystery, yeah. Yes.
00:07:18I realize that I can't define for myself what being in love or I love someone actually means.
00:07:25Because when things are very chaotic, I like to get in control by doing that. And I think
00:07:32you can't define love. It's basically a feeling. There's no checklist. It's not like check,
00:07:39check, check. I love her now. I don't love her now. There was an attempt at that, which is
00:07:44of course, stupid. Because the feeling's already here. I love you, Josie.
00:08:02I won't say anything else. That's it.
00:08:04But I will. I love you.
00:08:12I love you, too.
00:08:14I'll take that.
00:08:21I was a bit scared that I was being too fast for you again and that I would overwhelm you,
00:08:26but it's nice to say it.
00:08:28Yeah, right? It feels right.
00:08:34Shall we eat?
00:08:35Yeah, I'm done.
00:08:37Oh, God, no.
00:08:39Kidding.
00:08:40Okay, I thought so.
00:08:42Done with this emotional stuff.
00:08:45Interesting how hard that was for you.
00:08:47We can talk about everything so well, but...
00:08:50Let's just shush.
00:08:51Okay.
00:08:52Yeah.
00:08:52Got it.
00:08:53Okay.
00:08:53About earlier.
00:09:07Earlier?
00:09:08Yes.
00:09:09What happened?
00:09:10Your chat with Gunner that you told me about.
00:09:13What about it?
00:09:15That you're thinking about stuff?
00:09:19About yes or no?
00:09:21I didn't want to make you feel insecure or anything, so I talked to him first.
00:09:25But it still shocked me a bit that you talked to the others about it,
00:09:30because that actually shows that you are a little unsure about things.
00:09:38Well, I wouldn't say that I'm unsure, but I just feel like it needs to be thought out.
00:09:43I want to make a rational decision, and that's what it was about.
00:09:47I'm not unsure about you at all, so everything's great.
00:09:50Honestly, I thought it would bother me a little less, but somehow it's a little...
00:09:59My head is spinning a little...
00:10:01I don't think so much better.
00:10:01Well, I'm not sure.
00:10:01I'm not sure.
00:10:02How was your workout?
00:10:02I was a little bit there.
00:10:10Hiya.
00:10:12So, how was your workout?
00:10:18Good.
00:10:20Good?
00:10:20Good.
00:10:23What?
00:10:24It's really nice to get a fart-smelling kiss right after working out.
00:10:30Mm-hmm.
00:10:32It bothers you?
00:10:35It's a lot, isn't it?
00:10:37Yeah, but I told you from the start that I smoke.
00:10:40Yeah, I know, but now I like you more than I did back then,
00:10:43and now I'm more worried than I was a few days ago.
00:10:46Mm-hmm.
00:10:49I think it's just that the health issue is really...
00:10:53I don't know.
00:10:53When people are important to me, plus I've had my own issue,
00:10:56then I'm just different from a few years ago
00:11:01when I really wouldn't have cared at all.
00:11:06Yeah, I just think there are so many factors that also affect my health
00:11:10that it doesn't make much of a difference anymore, so...
00:11:14Yeah, I hear you, but you don't have to smoke 50 cigarettes a day on top of that.
00:11:21I do not think it's 50.
00:11:2340?
00:11:24No, 20.
00:11:25By the time we've had breakfast, you've already smoked three or four.
00:11:29That's possible, yeah.
00:11:30So, I'm not a doctor, but I do know that if you smoke 40 cigarettes a day,
00:11:36it's not good.
00:11:36It's not 40 cigarettes.
00:11:3835?
00:11:39I don't know.
00:11:3920.
00:11:41You've smoked that by noon.
00:11:42You're talking such bullshit.
00:11:46You have no insight, or it doesn't even occur to you
00:11:51that it increases the chance of getting sick and of getting sick sooner?
00:11:57Well, it has to click in my head first for me to say,
00:12:06okay, I will just stop right there and then.
00:12:09Right now, I'm just not feeling it.
00:12:15Oh, I don't know.
00:12:17I think I need a moment to myself.
00:12:18That is exactly the right solution.
00:12:21Yeah.
00:12:22Excellent.
00:12:23Great.
00:12:24My head is spinning.
00:12:49I think it fed a little fear and anxiety in me that was already there.
00:12:54This should actually be the most beautiful phase here,
00:12:59and I'm sitting here with these thoughts.
00:13:03I have a lot of mistrust.
00:13:05Now I'm paying attention to details to see if his feelings are real or not.
00:13:13So, how are you doing?
00:13:17I'm good.
00:13:19And you?
00:13:21You're here, and it's nice.
00:13:24There are a few things that feed the fear a little bit.
00:13:29He tends to use the same phrase quite a lot to describe something.
00:13:34Oh, that's nice.
00:13:35Oh, that's nice.
00:13:36And always with the same wording, with the same tone.
00:13:39Really?
00:13:39It's not supposed to be a line from a picture book.
00:13:42But when I look into your eyes, I just feel better.
00:13:44Yeah, it's really nice.
00:13:45I don't know right now if I should say something, when, or what I should say.
00:13:56Yeah.
00:13:57Should we pet them?
00:14:15Okay.
00:14:16No, he doesn't want to.
00:14:17He's walking away.
00:14:18It's okay.
00:14:18He also needs to build that trust, right?
00:14:21Okay.
00:14:21Can you imagine living in the countryside?
00:14:27I'm developing the dream of a, oops, a farm with you.
00:14:32A farm?
00:14:32Okay, what animals should we have?
00:14:34Definitely goats.
00:14:35Let's name him Theo.
00:14:36This is Theo.
00:14:38Why?
00:14:38Why do you think he's a Theo?
00:14:40Let's see.
00:14:41Eat if your name is Theo.
00:14:43See, we understand each other.
00:14:44I don't know.
00:14:47I think we can take Theo with us to Berlin.
00:14:50Berlin City apartment.
00:14:54Oh, my God.
00:15:01Bless you.
00:15:06Bye-bye.
00:15:07The city kid's on the farm.
00:15:16So, it's weird this is our first time.
00:15:19First time I had a farm.
00:15:20That's right.
00:15:31What do you call this part of the bread?
00:15:34Good question.
00:15:36The bread's heel.
00:15:38Yeah, right?
00:15:38Same for me.
00:15:39And there are different words for it in different regions of Germany.
00:15:42I can't name them, but for me, it's the bread's heel, too.
00:15:45Very nice genitive, I admit.
00:15:47Um, do you like eating that piece?
00:15:50Some people don't.
00:15:51I eat everything.
00:16:03I think that just because we did something new
00:16:07and different today.
00:16:08I definitely feel better.
00:16:10I also feel calmer.
00:16:11Good.
00:16:12I think that you can tell.
00:16:14I thought it was, uh, funny.
00:16:16I still think it's funny how we're both sitting here in our clothes at a farm.
00:16:20Yeah.
00:16:22We were here at this farm with these outfits and...
00:16:25Yeah.
00:16:25And there's a certain lightness that I can feel.
00:16:30I think, uh, we should just be more present and live more in the moment.
00:16:35And I hope that we can also keep the light-heartedness.
00:16:43It's really nice that we just turned the corner and wanted to do a reset.
00:16:48And now we're actually doing it, and it does feel like it.
00:16:52That's how we'll get to know each other better.
00:16:58Luan has everything I've ever looked for in a woman.
00:17:03And I realize that a great opportunity is waiting for me here.
00:17:06It's what I've always been looking for, a sincere love.
00:17:09And that's why I have an even stronger desire to do all I can.
00:17:15And a will to get things right.
00:17:30What's that there?
00:17:32Wow, nice.
00:17:32They're bracelets.
00:17:34Cambloi are also called worry beads because in many cultures, especially in Greece,
00:17:38they're used as a means of calming and relieving stress.
00:17:42And helping with nervousness, I could really use one right now.
00:17:48Yeah, I noticed that you were a little...
00:17:50a little tense.
00:17:57Well, I think it's normal to continually wonder
00:18:00how serious the other person is about you.
00:18:04Because I...
00:18:05I mean, I keep asking myself,
00:18:08when you say something,
00:18:10how serious you are about me.
00:18:13I mean, sometimes I'm afraid that
00:18:16it looks too perfect
00:18:19and also too artificial.
00:18:21I feel...
00:18:28I don't feel it when you say it to me in the moment.
00:18:33Yeah, I hear you, but I can assure you that I mean it.
00:18:37Maybe sometimes I get a little carried away with my words and passion for you.
00:18:41But it's because I feel it in the moment.
00:18:42But it's because I feel it in here.
00:18:46I can tell you, I never tell a woman what she wants to hear.
00:18:50I did that once, a long time ago, and I've always regretted it.
00:18:53It creates a false impression.
00:18:56You should get to know me as I am.
00:18:57And it would be difficult for me to try to change my personality
00:19:01just so that you'd believe me.
00:19:02I want to be able to be myself and be loved for who I am.
00:19:09And only then can it work in the long run.
00:19:12It might also make sense to maybe check into how you're feeling regarding this.
00:19:16And I'll make sure that I also consider how I say things.
00:19:20I know it's not nice to hear something like that.
00:19:22No, it isn't nice.
00:19:24No, some things hurt and are just nasty and shitty.
00:19:27But it's also good because that's how we grow together.
00:19:30There's no other way.
00:19:31And that's why it's great that we're starting to talk straight now.
00:19:35And if this...
00:19:36Oh, the real straight talk is still to come.
00:19:38Believe me.
00:19:38We're a little worried and stressed.
00:19:40We'll just take this little bracelet and then...
00:19:42And then we beat up the other person with it.
00:19:44That's what it's good for.
00:19:45Now I get it.
00:19:48Of course, I will do everything I can to make her realize that I'm serious.
00:19:51That I really mean the words that I say and I stand by my actions towards her.
00:19:55But on her end, she also has a job to do, which is to strengthen her trust in me and let go sometimes.
00:20:03Then we'll move forward.
00:20:11If you really think about it, what were the reasons why your past relationships have usually ended or failed?
00:20:18Over the last few years...
00:20:24I've had to learn to communicate better and to express the things I don't like.
00:20:31yeah what was always an issue was i felt that in the beginning
00:20:38everything was always great and then it got to a point when i always felt like uh
00:20:43someone uh was trying to change me a little bit yeah same for me too yeah
00:20:52yeah that's why now i have a few trigger points like smoking
00:20:56in the beginning everything was accepted and then i don't know after two three months well
00:21:06it wasn't okay anymore yeah and that's the reason why i'm bringing up these subjects early on
00:21:14it's really important to me that we're always totally honest with each other and
00:21:20talk to each other to make sure none of this happens
00:21:26i've never had anyone i could talk to so openly about all this and we can also resolve it in a
00:21:37normal way and hopefully find a healthy middle ground for both of us yeah i just want to do
00:21:43everything right this time i had the sense that the first two days you were one step ahead
00:21:54i couldn't help but notice that while i was still totally in my head at the beginning
00:22:02always thinking negatively like something's bound to happen don't get carried away and
00:22:09now i notice that i completely let go and that i'm completely letting myself fall and
00:22:15that i feel so good about it yeah i'm falling deeply in love right now
00:22:24me too
00:22:38i thought there'd be more relationship work here and it seems so casual yeah i feel the same way
00:22:58yeah but also we did cover very difficult topics had such a deep dive that uh there were no question
00:23:07marks left i don't wonder about how you think about the world or how you think about
00:23:14children or anything else because we kind of already talked about all that
00:23:18are you a little worried that in the everyday phase you'll have to kind of confess or tell
00:23:25your friends about the children thing it's such a huge topic yeah and i think that pushing it away
00:23:30is so wrong in every sense yeah but explaining that to someone who is as close to me as my best
00:23:38friends or whatever i think that will definitely be a challenge you know what i hate what packing
00:23:58why do you hate it in this case because i'm very sad you're hiding things here i was wondering what
00:24:06that was doing in my suitcase okay no so that's my bikini yeah and my women's sweater right yeah
00:24:22it was a vacation with a lot of romance with a lot of cuddling but also with a lot of drama
00:24:28and also a breakup and time is running out because the weddings are in just three weeks
00:24:34now our four couples are moving in together for the first time into their first shared
00:24:38apartment in munich and that could put their relationship to the test once again back to
00:24:43harsh reality right i think this is an exciting phase yeah i think i'm also happy i'll be getting
00:24:47my phone back me too i also love cleaning cleaning the bathroom that's my favorite i'll do that
00:24:56really yeah i love cleaning nobody clean the bathroom awesome
00:25:04i'm excited to see what's coming yeah you've managed to handle me
00:25:09well you've really seen me at my absolute worst and uh we're still here
00:25:16i'm going back to my everyday life and i now have a strong desire to do better
00:25:20especially at the things i failed to do here
00:25:32will the bond from the pods take them to the altar will it be enough for a yes
00:25:37all right are you the one i'll be with for the rest of my life
00:25:54yes look how lovely our first apartment together
00:25:58scared scared yeah good
00:26:16beautiful wait for me no you can stay there hey oh look our home this is lovely look pictures of us
00:26:28oh my god cool our balcony we could have breakfast out here you can bring me my coffee here in the morning yeah sure
00:26:40i'm absolutely not a bath person yeah me neither and who would have ever thought
00:26:48um what i find very important in the bathroom um don't flood the place otherwise clean it up please
00:26:56no hair in the sink or toothpaste stains if possible can we somehow manage that i find that pretty gross
00:27:04yeah okay great great i'm house trained yeah yeah i don't like it either okay
00:27:10it would also be pretty cool if we could extend this cleanliness program to the rest of the place
00:27:15i think we can just agree that we try to not leave any mess when we've been somewhere
00:27:20when you visit my apartment you'll understand yeah same here i had to learn how though like
00:27:24a few years ago you wanted more to know me okay well then i'm really glad i'm getting domesticated you
00:27:29should be pleased very good very good
00:27:31that's odd that really is
00:27:42crete was so perfect a bubble now we're back to real life which is nice but you have to find a way to
00:27:49balance it um other people are coming into the picture um other influences and that won't be all smooth
00:27:57i could just call my mom well i should call my mom and i want to call her
00:28:09are you ready
00:28:17i'm really nervous inside of course you always think about how you'll be received will she like me or won't
00:28:22oh god
00:28:37not available
00:28:40you want to be liked you want it to work you want to fit in that's my thing i've been like that my
00:28:47whole life and um especially now with someone so important i'll call dad then or my sister it'll be
00:28:56funny she'll be shocked i'll call her brother hey dear sister you're alive i'm alive and well
00:29:07how are you good good should i show you someone frauca yeah show me yes uh this is my fiancee hello josie
00:29:21yeah this is my sister hello you're both grinning yeah you look really really happy yes we are yes
00:29:30i shouldn't tell mom anything until you've got a hold of her right you can tell her if you like
00:29:35have you tried dead too later yeah okay bye see you see you have fun bye bye bye
00:29:45well she's really lovely she's really sweet yeah do you want to call someone
00:29:53after that experience i need a break
00:29:55josey and i have very different pasts mine's very easy hers is more difficult um i had the luxury
00:30:06of having a very picture-perfect family not everyone has that and she doesn't so i understand it can
00:30:12be difficult for her sometimes
00:30:15i need to feel sexually attracted to the woman that i plan to marry right yeah i mean that that this
00:30:34attraction and excitement between two people um yeah it makes everything a lot deeper i think
00:30:43there are different ways that can happen i mean
00:30:46sex and lover i mean they're two different things i don't think they always go together
00:30:50uh-huh yeah have you had a lot of sex with that love
00:30:56probably once or twice but that's not my preference to be honest i never have yeah right sure
00:31:03but it's true isn't it sex with love is just something completely different and it's definitely
00:31:14the better kind it really makes you feel connected to the other person
00:31:17i'm very happy with the way things are that's important yeah would it be difficult for you if maybe you
00:31:31didn't get that kind of affection for a few days speaking of didn't we have a day or two like that
00:31:39you got a little bitchy yeah hold on a sec not bitchy but i have to say um you do feel kind of
00:31:52rejected indirectly in a way because you didn't get sex for a day no it wasn't just one day two yes yeah
00:32:00yeah yeah but we're still in the early stages my friend yeah okay on that note
00:32:12let's just
00:32:22so this is the glockenspiel i think those are the flags of lorraine and
00:32:34bavaria right although the austrian eagle was on the left yeah i didn't think i'd be so impressed
00:32:39by this it's incredible really fascinating oh it's already over should we clap super
00:32:50it's surprisingly easy for me to settle in here with lawan
00:32:55left right left right left right left right it's something i really appreciate and that i am
00:33:02um very much aware of as i experience these moments with him i catch myself looking at him with
00:33:13different eyes so it's not purely platonic something is definitely happening
00:33:22do you want to go back to crete or are you more comfortable in munich i feel much more comfortable in
00:33:27munich i feel like we've got this this lightness that we had in the pods again i feel like we have
00:33:36it back and that feels really good yeah i totally agree lawan and i are going at a different pace
00:33:45especially when you compare to the other couples
00:33:50there's room for more action it could happen and i'd like that i think lawan deserves to be desired
00:33:57and as far as i can do that once i'm actually feeling it um i will of course be happy to oblige
00:34:04it's important that we listen to our feelings let our gut decide not our head yes that's i think
00:34:10that would be good that is yes that's a very good suggestion but i think we are at a really really
00:34:16good point we're just who we are and i think that's nice yeah totally
00:34:28yes a lot it's yes
00:34:35lawan is probably the most the most selfless person that i have really ever met
00:34:43she's just really empathetic very understanding very considerate such a feel-good person
00:34:58oh god she's so cute god she has such huge blue eyes oh she's a little mouse i really miss her
00:35:14what breed is she sacred burman sacred burman and she's just so beautiful so good-natured it's
00:35:21time to bring her here yes we'll make things nice for her maybe we could prepare a little spot where
00:35:27she can lie down like put a blanket on the floor so she feels comfortable yeah sure and then you can
00:35:32sleep here and her in the bed exactly it's lovely that he's so attentive even when it comes to my cat
00:35:40it shows that he's ready to take this step with me like a little cave or something where she can go
00:35:46in and snuggle up like so like a cube with sides of 13 inches it's cool a little shared project that'll be fun
00:35:56best to go to the hardware store with you though
00:36:09so welcome to beautiful sabbia right beautiful my sweet and lovely homeland yeah it doesn't give
00:36:17countryside at all a little culture clash here it's cozy yeah it's cozy very rural nice
00:36:31wow my new home yes nice it is right yeah
00:36:36so welcome to my place
00:36:46okay wow i'm really curious to see what your place looks like yeah you should be
00:36:53but first would you please take your shoes up yeah because you know of course things have to be in
00:37:00order order order is a must this is my hallway and this is my office start here look at that
00:37:22so for me it goes without saying that this will also naturally be consti's place
00:37:27my place is his place
00:37:33so this is my bedroom very important you check everything out first and then you sort things out
00:37:42yeah but we're gonna have a huge problem yeah the closet is way too small it's way too small
00:37:48so i think in general he definitely likes my apartment
00:37:50good figure it out right good yeah yeah yeah yeah it's just how you described it and how i
00:38:01imagined meaning meaning yeah just how it is just how it is the thought that we'll spend a lot of time
00:38:10here together is really nice
00:38:12yeah not bad for a provincial apartment
00:38:20yeah but it is it would still be a big change for me really yeah
00:38:28yeah okay not a lot of bars restaurants and places to walk to i agree with you there but we'll have that
00:38:34in majorca
00:38:38what's wrong life in the countryside is a compromise i like the hustle and bustle of living in a city
00:38:45it's going to be a huge change the things you do for love right exactly exactly
00:38:51i'm getting to know an area here a place um that'll probably soon be a part of my life
00:39:03i have to get used to that because i would never have chosen to live here
00:39:18what kind of diy have you done all the stuff you would do for an apartment like building furniture
00:39:30laying floors yeah laying floors too of course plastering walls sanding wallpapering painting
00:39:37covering pipes cladding building pipe ducts and stuff like that i've done all kinds of stuff good
00:39:43yeah this means looks don't really match what you'd expect her to be able to do in terms of manual
00:39:48skills i like this distribution of labor you should definitely put on the gloves because you can
00:39:54really hurt your hands while vacuuming that's why i kind of asked you to put on the gloves right thank you
00:39:59it's smooth right yeah now we can lift it yeah it already looks good you don't have to file that
00:40:16much to be honest which side looks better rings my tinnitus you poor thing yeah you too right no
00:40:24i don't think i've ever done a craft project with a woman in my life me neither not with a man
00:40:30funnily enough yeah but it works well right i mean it's really fun for me this joint project is
00:40:36definitely a step forward because we're building something together and we have a really nice harmony
00:40:42that just shows me that she's the right woman for me because she can do that i can definitely tell
00:40:47that you've done this kind of thing before well not exactly this well i don't think i could have done
00:40:51it without you it was fun i feel like we're both on the same level now this is this is a time when
00:41:00you get to know your partner better without asking a ton of questions just through everyday life and how
00:41:06your partner behaves look at this how cool it fits so cool he likes it sweet
00:41:21it means a lot to me to meet the family i'm just really nervous about how they'll react to me
00:41:42so show me hello hello hi lia right yes hello nice to meet you hi lovely to meet you totally nice to
00:42:00meet you hello hi hi great to meet great to meet you too really good hi hi nice to meet you hello hello
00:42:13hello hello hi ellie nice to meet you ellie hi constancy nice to meet you great hug you two look so happy
00:42:26so you can i feel really warm now yes of course please so you know what i always think oh i'm really
00:42:33chill and relaxed but that's not true i'm actually a nervous wreck it's weird right i didn't even notice
00:42:40yeah i think we all need a bit of alcohol now shall i do it or will you yeah uh let's do it together
00:42:48okay yeah yes um oh oh no of course oh man look at that it's such a rookie mistake better on the plate
00:42:57than here what are you doing uh of course it had to happen help now you're not happy are you no a cloth a
00:43:05cloth nope this is very dangerous i was warned not to get anything on the floor napkins man why not
00:43:14can i have a cloth dude but why not okay but this is exactly how she is
00:43:23look it's all good nothing happens ah great considering the stress levels that was okay
00:43:28i haven't taken it in yet still haven't that you're engaged now yeah engaged yeah engaged and you
00:43:38have to process your head around that yeah we kind of skipped the whole relationship part yeah it's like
00:43:45you're always in the fast lane but that's actually all you're doing because that's all you have to focus
00:43:51on hmm i don't know then it just we just clicked very quickly i mean you either click or you don't
00:43:59yeah yeah and i think the feeling is heading in the right direction
00:44:08guys this is my dream man really i'm not bullshitting you
00:44:12i wanted to ask if i could if i could talk to you in private to ask the same thing great let's go
00:44:23outside then
00:44:30first of all i'm really happy that we got to meet each other
00:44:36it was really important to me to have the chance to talk to you alone
00:44:40because in some ways i'm very traditional um if a wedding is coming up uh to get your blessing
00:44:46and uh ask you if i can marry jesse and whether i can get your um okay to marry her
00:44:59i know my jesse very well and when she when she has a grin like that on her cheeks or on her face
00:45:05i know that that this is a special man and that's what i want as a father and so of course um i give
00:45:13you my blessing that means a lot to me and i want to promise you that i will always be there for jesse
00:45:19and for her to be uh a good husband and um yeah thank you very very much i really appreciate it come
00:45:26here i really appreciate it no problem thank you thank you i'm really very happy
00:45:32i know you know me and you've um you've been through a lot with me and i can be skeptical
00:45:50but i haven't found anything wrong normally i would already have found 50 things that bothered me but
00:45:55this time it's not like that at all it's almost too good to be true no it isn't there has to be a
00:46:01catch there's nothing we don't nothing we don't agree on
00:46:10you're having such an exciting time but you've known each other only a few weeks
00:46:14you don't know everything about him yet you're still getting to know each other
00:46:18we already know each other inside and out we're spending every day together all day 24 7.
00:46:28but are you really aware that things won't always be like this
00:46:34yes because you know how i know that things can change but i know with the with the drive we have
00:46:41now we can do it so but you won't always have that drive right there may this is not even no no no
00:46:47no no this isn't the honeymoon phase it's never been like this before she is incredibly in love
00:46:54and she is firmly convinced that he is absolutely the man of her dreams
00:47:02at some point everyday life will kick in then things will start to get on your nerves
00:47:09she has to be aware of how difficult it is to maintain a marriage
00:47:17she has to be aware of how difficult it is to maintain a marriage
00:47:35good morning morning
00:47:38crazy our first night yes and lovely too
00:47:52i like how we're so comfortable in that respect
00:48:00he loves every roll of fat on me every inch he thinks it's all really beautiful so even if i think
00:48:06okay um i don't think i look so great or attractive right now especially when i'm completely naked um
00:48:14you see your own problem areas even more but he he loves every part of my body
00:48:29yes getting physical was very nice we generally have a different pace when it comes to emotions and
00:48:34physicality we're very unrestrained with emotions but a bit slower with the physical but um it was worth the wait
00:48:53i think what i uh can't quite gauge yet is what kind of lifestyle you have in mind
00:48:58um for example how often we go on vacation or how often we go out to dinner so yeah what are you
00:49:05seeing for our life together yes well for me this still means living the life i want to live
00:49:13for example that i have a decent clean and safe car and not some old set of wheels and i like to go to
00:49:21the hairdresser regularly it's not because i would have children that i would need to keep track of my
00:49:25money or that i can't go to the hairdresser but these are all things i can pay for myself i think
00:49:30we should each have our own account that is ours to do whatever we want with and then we could also
00:49:35consider having a joint account where we each put a determined amount of money into it and we use it to
00:49:42pay for joint stuff i think our opinion is different on that matter
00:49:44so in my ideal world i see it like this if i enter into a marriage with someone we should be a unit so
00:49:55you should be okay with what i do with the money and i would expect the same from you that you check
00:50:00in with me if i think it's okay what you do with the money so your ideal scenario is that we have one
00:50:06account you pay and i pay and we pay for everything from that whatever that is that's what a family is to me
00:50:12yeah well i think that's an interesting idea because if i want to buy a car or something then
00:50:18we have to our car it's not yours or mine yeah and then it's a joint investment i know other people
00:50:27who do things the way you said but that's not me so you can forget about that with me i i don't
00:50:33want to do it like that yeah then there's no point in getting married
00:50:36that's my opinion so what's wrong with a marriage in which you do things that way you said there's
00:50:44no point in getting married it's really a minor point i don't see it as a minor point to be honest
00:50:54it's i know to me it shows mistrust at some level
00:51:01in principle there's no lack of trust because like i said you could do whatever you want you
00:51:06misunderstand me there's no mine and yours i always want it to be us i don't want to give up on that
00:51:11idea i really won't this is an issue that really worries me especially now that i know things are
00:51:21getting serious i just want him to give me the security i need is he really the man i can spend my life with
00:51:36this will be the first time since we cleared things up that will see the other couples again i feel secure and
00:52:03comfortable and that is why i am not at all um prejudiced about the meeting quite the opposite
00:52:11knowing that definitely puts me at ease thank you
00:52:20who do you think i'll be there today of course i hope that some of my boys will be there
00:52:24i hope well i'd be really happy to see my friend jubilee of course for one yeah extremely
00:52:32okay weird right kind of more excited about the men than the women
00:52:36although i have to say i'm i think that dustin will also be there tonight but i don't think there's
00:52:44any bad blood between us quite the opposite i think we got along very well despite the whole thing over
00:52:50you but i'd like to see him i would genuinely be happy to see dustin today um because dustin and i
00:53:04had a very deep emotional connection
00:53:09maybe um then i'll also feel like yes i got everything right and what if you know feeling of i
00:53:16got it all wrong i think seeing him will stir things up for me emotionally
00:53:25i'm curious to see if anything comes up today in terms of hurt feelings or i don't know any
00:53:32behaviors right so well i think some stuff will come up not for us i hope yeah me too
00:53:46thank you thank you hello welcome hello hello
00:54:11hello hello hello
00:54:21what about you guys i mean when we left crete i know things were still a bit yeah everything's
00:54:26completely changed awesome really i mean the connection i have with her right now i wouldn't
00:54:31describe it as perfection because of course what does perfection even mean but it's true there's nothing
00:54:36missing so right the question is though when do the feelings kick in
00:54:44if i could i would muster those romantic feelings and the hope and certainty are that they will develop
00:54:50if i give myself time but those are not things you can force
00:54:55i've got to know him as the person i've always wanted to have in my life and you don't want to
00:55:03miss out on someone like that right but we've agreed the focus is still on us so yeah that's why
00:55:11i was really relieved when i came here today yes
00:55:25you're surprised oh nice to see you
00:55:37whoa are you stressed yes i'm really nervous oh you look good really nervous
00:55:43the second coolest berliner
00:55:46dustin hi hi hi hi hey dustin i think dustin's very um nice
00:56:00what would you like andy andy's bang anything very good looking
00:56:05what it's quite funny that andy gets on with him so well ah it's so great to see you man
00:56:15really nice justin ah dustin i still wanted you to be here today yeah dustin is a bit like a
00:56:23little brother to me and i feel a very very strong connection to him how are you guys um well what's up
00:56:31i'm doing great
00:56:36regardless of anything else that uh played a role i was very happy to see him
00:56:41of course i'm feeling a lot of emotions uh but with jasmine our journey i don't know if you want
00:56:46to hear it or not i mean you also dated for a long time and that must have been emotional too
00:56:51it's going really well you know of course we have our ups and downs during the process of getting to
00:57:00know each other there are moments when maybe we're at odds but the two of us are definitely a unit no
00:57:07one can come between us it's surprising that andy is suddenly with him the whole time as if to say
00:57:14i know you want to talk to him but you can't come over dustin and i have a really cool connection
00:57:21i'd like to talk to i'm so happy to see him and uh yeah i feel like um andy doesn't trust me
00:57:30and so it was like if dustin doesn't come to me i'll go to him because i think we should talk to each
00:57:35other well how are you good and you i'm good too um i could have i mean i could i could have
00:57:55been imagined that things might have also worked out pretty well with him andy already told me how
00:58:00great things are between you i want to hear your side how have the last few days or weeks been for you
00:58:05um hard work that's what springs to mind yeah i don't know
00:58:15i have a problem with authenticity with uh andy because i felt that he was talking to me
00:58:22in kind of a forced way it comes across as a bit of acting to me
00:58:30whenever he talked about his feelings or whatever he kind of looked away
00:58:34and he always spoke in this forced voice yeah and i'm so in love with you he says that but i
00:58:40don't feel it from him within i'm still in protective mode yeah a little
00:58:46can i get you two anything yeah i'll have the same again how do you know that's exactly what it is
00:59:00me i'm still good we're chatting and the same again for the gentleman
00:59:06i do feel like i'm being respectful and keeping my distance a bit when yasmin and dustin are talking
00:59:25i may have stayed close around them a bit just to hear what they were talking about uh because yes i'm a
00:59:32a little curious i feel like you're talking about yeah yeah your ear was really pricked up
00:59:38i had the feeling it might be a good time to join them because look i don't want anyone to come
00:59:42between us and what we have and i just want to make sure that everything turns out well for us
00:59:47well i'm feeling it and uh it's really nice yeah beautiful and uh just growing together and now
00:59:56we're getting our cat living together that's a commitment it feels totally awesome yeah yeah
01:00:04so now let's wait and see
01:00:07we wait another week yeah do you want some water maybe i'll get some water for you you're really
01:00:12the alcohol gone to your head yeah you just put down some water for me so who's drunk now
01:00:19you gave it to me two minutes ago yeah i'm just looking out for you
01:00:27so it's not at all my intention to mark my territory because i'm 100 sure about yasmin and so is she
01:00:33about me there's no gap for anyone to squeeze into it's hard for me to express my feelings for her
01:00:39when you're watching because i think i can leave no no i'll stop saying that because no you can stay
01:01:04so yeah
01:01:09i'll leave you alone for a bit yeah if you want it's all good it was nice meeting you
01:01:22i really can't have someone by my side who is so insecure to be honest i don't find it attractive
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