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One Christmas Changed Her Heart Forever_Hallmark Movie 2025
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00:00:00with on a date knows that he's reeling from a breakup it was 12 years though you know he's
00:00:05he's healing he's working on himself he's working on clearing out our liquor cabinet
00:00:11zima he drank zima last night oh see he's got a real problem you know what if we rented out his
00:00:19room we could renovate the kitchen we could go on a trip an actual trip unlike mr travel blogger
00:00:25up there what would i even say you'd say hey ben you've spent three months and you've been sleeping
00:00:31on our sofa in that weird shirt of yours it's time to get the hell out oh he's my brother oh my god
00:00:36he's so lonely i appreciate that he's lonely i get it i do and i want him to find somebody i just don't
00:00:42give a shit who it is anymore but you said tracy is perfect for him the date is all set up for
00:00:48tomorrow night i'm not gonna say anything before the date somebody say something about a date yeah
00:00:53yeah yeah we've got a possible date for you tomorrow night i don't know
00:00:59well looks like we are out of beer oh wow that uh went quick i get it because of me
00:01:12well don't worry i've started brewing up some of ben's brew down in the laundry room oh god i can't
00:01:17wait hey ben look tracy this woman that we're trying to set you up with here she's amazing
00:01:22she's really great no bullshit she's a travel blogger just like you she lived in paris but
00:01:28now she has an amazingly spacious two-bedroom house in eagle rock okay and she's hot i don't
00:01:33care how she looks okay you say that now all right i appreciate it i appreciate everything
00:01:38i've been on a ton of dates these last few weeks and i mean they're always sitting there messing
00:01:43around on their phone or they're snap yapping or talking about the weather or whatever i mean
00:01:48i'm just done with swiping left swiping right i mean hey that chick last weekend you set me up with
00:01:53you know she almost got me involved in a tupperware pyramid scheme i just don't want to meet any more
00:01:58strangers just tired of having to start over every time i know i've overstayed my welcome don't worry
00:02:06see i just got a sponsor for my travel blog oh yeah it's a wine company i'm gonna be writing articles
00:02:15about their wine that's amazing that's really great good job ben why didn't you tell us because i didn't
00:02:21want to make a big thing about it okay but ben this is what you've always wanted yeah so like i said
00:02:28soon i'll be out of your hair and it'll be like i was never even here but for now i gotta do some
00:02:34research okay we just bought that take a bit yeah no it's gonna work out it's gonna be great he's
00:02:42gonna love tracy it's gonna be great it's gonna work then we have our apartment all to ourselves
00:02:48whatever will we do um hmm i think i could give you some coming attraction these walls are thin
00:03:00there's thin but i think we can be quiet okay i don't think you're not gonna be quiet
00:03:05trust me you're not gonna be okay maybe
00:03:09oh for fuck's sake hey god damn it
00:03:18shh shh shh shh don't stop
00:03:20it's okay it's gonna stop
00:03:24all right
00:03:25oh my god god damn it okay you gotta go no you gotta he's your brother
00:03:31no what am i gonna say to him
00:03:33not in spirit you don't want me to talk to him ah you don't you don't you don't want to hear what i
00:03:38have to say to him okay but don't just stay like this okay i'm just gonna read one article
00:03:44about fancy pelosi okay is that good yeah it's good okay is she making no not yet
00:03:51we are the luckiest people ever no offense to anyone else out there that's right well i think
00:03:57that's okay
00:03:57so enjoy following us i don't know what i'll tell you i'm bad i'm bad at the whole internet
00:04:08you're getting much better oh well thank you i'll just say i love her i love him too
00:04:13i love you i love you we'll see you later internet
00:04:18so happy
00:04:19hey there internet so we've been away for a little bit but we come back with exciting news
00:04:32guess what we've made that shit yeah we made it official
00:04:37waterworks waterworks home videos oh yeah does he have any other kind
00:04:47i'll survive was he always like this like when you were kids
00:04:52well no he always had veronica you know we were like the three musketeers
00:04:57more like the three migas anyway where were we
00:05:02no honey i'm sorry i can't i can't concentrate with him out there
00:05:07come on i'm sorry all right i look i'm giving a test tomorrow and i haven't even written it yet
00:05:15okay i'm just gonna go to sleep
00:05:17are you serious well
00:05:21can you turn off your light please
00:05:26yeah when i'm ready
00:05:30seriously
00:05:32ken
00:05:41wake up
00:05:43what
00:05:44let's go come on your date
00:05:47oh all right sorry
00:05:51come on man i'm coming
00:05:53oh my god what have you been doing all day
00:05:55ben come on
00:05:58this shirt
00:06:00no oh jesus did you ever dress yourself before
00:06:05what about this one
00:06:07makes your eyes pop
00:06:10i don't want to do this thought i was done with this stuff
00:06:14i don't like making small talk
00:06:17well okay then just don't think of it as a date
00:06:20think of it as dinner with family and friends
00:06:22huh that makes it even worse she's your friend and now it's more pressure on me
00:06:29well i'm gonna let you in on a secret no one is confident it's all bullshit
00:06:34look it's just whenever i talk to other women i always think about veronica
00:06:38oh ben
00:06:39ben come on
00:06:40come on she dumped you
00:06:42it was six months ago
00:06:44there's no going back
00:06:45you don't know that
00:06:46sometimes there is going back
00:06:48i mean we've known each other since we're two that's 35 years
00:06:49i know but think this as an opportunity
00:06:54you get to do whatever you want
00:06:58you can travel wherever you want
00:07:01hell you can dirty dance with someone all night long and not go to bed early
00:07:06you can have sex anytime you want
00:07:08hell you just want to sleep soundly and not have someone snoring next to you
00:07:13you can do it the world is your oyster
00:07:16hey how's it going
00:07:19good looks handsome right
00:07:22very nice very nice i like the sharks tracy's gonna love that
00:07:25unless of course you want a dirty dance
00:07:27so i was there i was sitting at the table and i did it
00:07:33i ordered the brain
00:07:35oh you ate brain
00:07:36yeah well i'm writing the travel article on adventurous food
00:07:41what am i gonna do
00:07:42i ordered the chicken
00:07:43what kind of brain
00:07:45wait does it matter
00:07:47i don't know i've never eaten brain before maybe it does they're all different
00:07:50seriously though what kind of question is that
00:07:52goat
00:07:53but like they cook it with like spices
00:07:57you would think wouldn't you
00:07:58no they just served it with two little leaves of lettuce
00:08:01wow that's a well-rounded meal
00:08:02did you eat it
00:08:03i mean i couldn't think or i wouldn't do it so i just dug the spoon in and i ate it
00:08:07oh no
00:08:08what did it taste like
00:08:10felt like you'd expect a metal cold fish
00:08:13oh but wow you you ate it
00:08:16i did
00:08:17well i wasn't gonna finish it
00:08:18i mean it just kind of sat there after that
00:08:20and i didn't speak turkish so they just thought i was eating it really slowly
00:08:24you are one brave lady
00:08:28what is your uh craziest uh travel food story
00:08:32uh well i took veronica
00:08:34um i took a date to uh a dark restaurant
00:08:40one of those places that doesn't have any lights
00:08:42right okay
00:08:42uh well she didn't think so
00:08:44so um we're sitting there in the dark and i'm thinking i'm spending all this money on a really unique experience that she's gonna love but
00:08:51when you know she ends up cutting her finger with the steak knife
00:08:55and uh she starts sobbing and here i am i'm trying to fly down a waiter and nobody can see me because it's a dark restaurant so yeah
00:09:04but that relationship didn't last
00:09:06uh no
00:09:09no it didn't
00:09:12i really ought to read your blog
00:09:17likewise
00:09:17you know blogging is one of the most rewarding things i've ever done
00:09:21uh what's your website
00:09:22oh it's uh well
00:09:23right now the website's being redesigned
00:09:25we got i got a whole team
00:09:27we're figuring it out
00:09:27how to best you know uh accentuate the brand
00:09:30working on my profiles
00:09:31so right now i am focusing on uh travel research
00:09:36oh well great
00:09:37well where are you off to
00:09:38oh wow
00:09:39that's that's hard to say because there's so many um awesome places to go
00:09:43so i'm really trying to get the perfect itinerary
00:09:46um
00:09:47which has been really difficult because when you're when you're high in demand
00:09:51it's hard to get your
00:09:52your attention to to certain things
00:09:54which uh sponsor aggregator do you use
00:09:57um
00:10:01that is uh you know i think we need a little more wine
00:10:05yeah i'll get it
00:10:05nope you stay right there oliver
00:10:07i will get it
00:10:08yes i will
00:10:10all right
00:10:11i'm just gonna go look up what the word aggregator
00:10:13yeah
00:10:14it's cute
00:10:14yeah
00:10:15i think so
00:10:16i mean my brother
00:10:17on a dare
00:10:18oh my god
00:10:31i don't know
00:10:33oh my god
00:10:35oh my god
00:10:36there are you
00:10:37for my new year's resolution i vowed
00:11:04never to hang out with the count of mountain digger again
00:11:08these are so crazy
00:11:11yeah
00:11:11you know
00:11:12i don't know
00:11:13i don't know
00:11:13i was a real person
00:11:14i thought i would see the book
00:11:15i don't know
00:11:15i like this for sure
00:11:16i like it
00:11:17um
00:11:17ken
00:11:18working up a thirst
00:11:20the thing about dating is that it's all anticipation
00:11:27okay so let's say you meet someone and maybe it's through an app or through friends
00:11:32you maybe have some common ground to talk about you know some straws to grasp at
00:11:37so you talk and then at the end of it you have to decide are we going to press our lips together
00:11:46are we going to go home together
00:11:48you know let's be honest here the first time you sleep with someone it's not that great
00:11:54and then what after 12 or 18 months you decide i should spend the rest of my life with this total stranger
00:12:00because that is what she is a total stranger
00:12:04see it takes a lifetime to get to know someone
00:12:08to know the fact that they'd rather lick the inside of an oreo cookie and god damn the rest of it
00:12:13and i know because i had it
00:12:15i had the perfect person i had the one true love
00:12:19did they tell you that i married my childhood sweetheart
00:12:22did they tell you to come here and have some pity on the guy who's just lost his wife
00:12:26to the cesspool that is modern technology
00:12:28no no no no no it's fine
00:12:30i just want to know if they told you to
00:12:32to come here and tell some fun travel stories
00:12:34talk about eating organs or whatever
00:12:36i don't know
00:12:37ben that's enough
00:12:38you're going to bring me in here
00:12:39and hook me up with this
00:12:41woman
00:12:42who doesn't hold a candle to veronica
00:12:44is that what you thought
00:12:45you're just going to bring me into this
00:12:46whatever she is
00:12:48fuck you
00:12:49oh that's real lady
00:12:50see i'm sorry
00:12:51no you don't get to talk
00:12:53damn it
00:12:53what did they tell you i was just going to freak out
00:12:55is that what they said i was going to do
00:12:57i'm just going to go crazy
00:12:58fuck you people
00:13:01her wedding
00:13:03you're my sister
00:13:04ben
00:13:06you weren't going to tell me
00:13:07we're just going to go and be in her fucking wedding
00:13:09ben
00:13:10how could you not tell me that
00:13:12do you expect me to have to choose between the two of you
00:13:14that's not fair
00:13:15you're my sister there shouldn't be any choice
00:13:17i have known her for 35 years
00:13:19just like you
00:13:20how would you feel if sandy ran off with some commada boy or something
00:13:23and then if i needed a fucking way
00:13:24what
00:13:24fuck off
00:13:25okay fine
00:13:26i will fuck off then
00:13:27i will happily fuck off
00:13:28and i'm going to take a bottle of your
00:13:30he needs to go
00:13:31i'm going to take this bottle of your shitty wine
00:13:33if it only takes a bottle of wine
00:13:35you don't get to come back this time
00:13:38yeah
00:13:39a wedding
00:13:42where's my backpack
00:13:45god damn it
00:13:47ben this is not cool
00:13:50son of a bitch
00:13:58god damn it
00:14:00fuck you shirt
00:14:10fuck your shitty wine
00:14:11fuck we watch films
00:14:31we read novels
00:14:32we sing songs that worship the idea of new love
00:14:36you know the idea of fresh lips to kiss
00:14:38someone new to touch
00:14:40it's like that
00:14:41you know what i mean
00:14:42yeah we do that
00:14:44yet we mock
00:14:45those who've been together all their lives
00:14:48it's everything we say
00:14:49we speak
00:14:50we sing
00:14:51is all about
00:14:52if you're married
00:14:53you're somehow missing out
00:14:54stupid
00:14:54right
00:14:55it's dumb
00:14:56i mean
00:14:56as if the idea
00:14:57that if you don't have your hand down a stranger's pants
00:15:00and you're not
00:15:01in the back of a 7-eleven
00:15:03getting it on
00:15:04you're somehow missing the elixir of life
00:15:06and see this is where they have it all backwards
00:15:08that's the problem
00:15:09they've got it all switched
00:15:10see the elixir of life
00:15:12that's not in a stranger's kiss
00:15:15and it is not in the promise of some wild night
00:15:18because of a wink across the bar
00:15:20the elixir of life man is
00:15:22it's in familiarity
00:15:24familiarity
00:15:27i mean
00:15:28we grew up next door to each other
00:15:31yes
00:15:31yes we know
00:15:33childhood sweetheart's very windy years
00:15:35that love takes a lifetime
00:15:36but i don't want a lifetime
00:15:37i just want a few days
00:15:39but what you're craving
00:15:40is someone who feels like your wife
00:15:43familiarity
00:15:43that comfort
00:15:45yes
00:15:45but with someone new
00:15:47dude
00:15:48that'll take forever
00:15:49screw it
00:15:50you need like a gap
00:15:50you need a gap year
00:15:52kind of a gap year
00:15:54that's where before we go to university
00:15:56we leave ourselves
00:15:57that limited self
00:15:59who's been shoved
00:16:01and forced to just suppress their voice
00:16:03and you go out into the wilderness
00:16:04and you reinvent yourself
00:16:06and if you could do that
00:16:07with a woman
00:16:09just for a weekend
00:16:10a gap weekend
00:16:11yes
00:16:11that's exactly what i'm talking about
00:16:14it's impossible
00:16:15i need a weekend away from my life
00:16:19to find someone
00:16:20to be with
00:16:22like we're a long-term couple
00:16:23why don't you post online
00:16:25wanted
00:16:33a partner
00:16:34no that sucks
00:16:35wanted
00:16:36the perfect person
00:16:38a friend
00:16:39no that's
00:16:40no
00:16:41a friend with benefits
00:16:42no that's too pointed
00:16:44wanted
00:16:45a date
00:16:46that's not a date
00:16:47i propose we take a gap weekend
00:16:49travel together to santa barbara
00:16:51and the wine country nearby
00:16:52just like a real long-term couple would do
00:16:54a weekend where for a moment
00:16:56we can experience the familiarity
00:16:57the bond
00:16:58and the care and love
00:16:59that only those long-term couples have
00:17:01this is not about sex
00:17:02it's not about kissing
00:17:04or anything physical
00:17:05this is about finding a bond
00:17:07for one weekend
00:17:08to be together
00:17:09to do everything a long-term couple would do
00:17:12i don't know if there's anybody out there
00:17:14who thinks like i do
00:17:16but if you are
00:17:17i encourage you to join me
00:17:19on our gap weekend
00:17:21hello
00:17:31housekeeping
00:17:35you need to check out
00:17:36yeah
00:17:37yeah i'll stay
00:17:40a little longer
00:17:41why weren't i full rate
00:17:43yeah that's fine
00:17:45you need housekeeping
00:17:47no no go away i'm good
00:17:49hey sandy it's uh it's me ben
00:17:58look
00:17:59i'm really sorry about last night
00:18:01i was
00:18:01a real asshole and i'm sorry about that
00:18:04can i come by today
00:18:06just want to talk
00:18:08hey
00:18:12look can i um
00:18:18can i talk to you
00:18:19i just need five minutes
00:18:20i'll give you two
00:18:21i should not even have let you in here
00:18:23i know that last night
00:18:25was not my best moment
00:18:26i'm sorry for that
00:18:28yeah
00:18:29you think
00:18:29tracy's oliver's best friend
00:18:32i know
00:18:32and she's great
00:18:33i
00:18:34it was me
00:18:34i was being
00:18:35ridiculous
00:18:36and i
00:18:37i was crazy
00:18:38but look
00:18:39i
00:18:39can i stay here just one more night
00:18:42but i have nowhere else to go
00:18:44i just need some time to figure out
00:18:45what i'm gonna do next
00:18:46and i'll be gone in the morning
00:18:48before you guys wake up
00:18:48i promise
00:18:49ben
00:18:50oh god i don't know
00:18:52oliver is really angry
00:18:55you can come in for now
00:19:02but
00:19:03we'll see
00:19:04thanks
00:19:05do you have a phone charger
00:19:08oh my god
00:19:08yes
00:19:09thanks
00:19:10hey
00:19:20ben
00:19:21did you
00:19:22place a classified ad
00:19:23your phone is blowing up
00:19:24um
00:19:25yeah
00:19:26i did
00:19:28did you get naughty online
00:19:29can i read them
00:19:32no
00:19:32oh my god
00:19:34this one is the best
00:19:36dear mr manifesto
00:19:38i was very taken by your post
00:19:39i too like holding hands and cuddling
00:19:42i want to spend my gap weekend with you
00:19:44p.s
00:19:45i charge 125 an hour
00:19:48i bet she doesn't take amex
00:19:49this one
00:19:51literally a dick pic
00:19:53yep
00:19:53yep
00:19:54yep
00:19:54yeah
00:19:54next one
00:19:55okay
00:19:56is this how you lure women away
00:19:58oh it is
00:20:00is it
00:20:01oh jesus christ
00:20:04they're all prostitutes opportunists
00:20:06they're fucking weirdos
00:20:07what were you thinking
00:20:09i wasn't
00:20:10i was an idiot
00:20:11hey
00:20:13before you say anything
00:20:15don't
00:20:15don't
00:20:16don't
00:20:16you gotta come read these
00:20:18for real
00:20:19trust me
00:20:19please
00:20:20please
00:20:20don't be mad
00:20:21don't be mad
00:20:22have a beer
00:20:22yeah come on
00:20:23have two beers
00:20:24you're gonna need them
00:20:25bottle one
00:20:26i'll rub your back
00:20:27oh my god
00:20:28this is gold
00:20:29these are great
00:20:31this is better than tmz
00:20:32oh this one seems nice
00:20:34the one that's literally quoting the hunger games
00:20:36i don't
00:20:36i don't have it memorized
00:20:38but i
00:20:38i didn't know that this kind of thing existed like these were out there
00:20:42okay wait
00:20:43whoa
00:20:43you're not thinking of posting a personal ad are you
00:20:47oh god
00:20:47come on honey
00:20:48absolutely not
00:20:49i don't need a gap week
00:20:51never
00:20:56good
00:20:58what about this one
00:20:59i like that one
00:21:00oh yeah
00:21:00but she's naked
00:21:01why do you watch tmz
00:21:02why do you watch tmz
00:21:02why do you watch tmz
00:21:30why do you watch tmz
00:21:31why do you watch tmz
00:21:32why do you watch tmz
00:21:34why do you watch tmz
00:21:35I'm so sorry. I had to fire it up. You gotta read this one.
00:21:42I deleted it. Come on. One still came through?
00:21:44Come on, get up. Come on.
00:21:46Dear Ben Manifesto, Gap Weekend. Cute. I'm not crazy.
00:21:52Well, I am responding to this ad, which of course means that I could indeed be putting my life in danger.
00:21:57Yeah, probably. But look, I've got nothing going on this weekend, so bring on the Gap.
00:22:03Ooh, I miss all those things you said. It's cheesy, yes, no doubt.
00:22:10But so look, you want to meet, if you're real, because FYI, I'm still not totally convinced you're not just some reality show marketing idea.
00:22:19Me neither.
00:22:20Prove me wrong. She's sassy.
00:22:23Okay, look. Yeah, you're cute, by the way. Don't hate me. I googled you.
00:22:30She's resourceful.
00:22:32There are pictures for that. Yeah, I mean, you're on a social media.
00:22:35You had a blog, right? You put your picture on it.
00:22:38It's the one, you know, the one picture of you when you're holding the pipe. That's my favorite.
00:22:41Yeah, like World Traveler. Yeah.
00:22:44Yeah, we all believed it for a second. That's good.
00:22:46You gotta call this one.
00:22:47She's probably crazy.
00:22:48This was your idea. This was you. This is all you.
00:22:50I don't know. It was a dumb idea.
00:22:52It was an inspired manifesto.
00:22:54Did you read it?
00:22:55Not yet, but clearly people respond to it.
00:22:57Look, we're gonna be gone all weekend. You can gap here. You can gap all over this place.
00:23:02Come on, just call her.
00:23:04Come on, man.
00:23:05What do you have to lose?
00:23:06My life.
00:23:07Well, yeah, but what are you doing?
00:23:09Don't be a pussy.
00:23:10Call, call, call.
00:23:12You know I love a good channel.
00:23:13Yeah.
00:23:22Hello?
00:23:23Is this Ben?
00:23:25Is this...
00:23:26Actually, I don't know your name.
00:23:28I never mentioned it.
00:23:30Your voice is hotter in real life.
00:23:31It's like a radio voice. I didn't expect it.
00:23:34Oh, uh...
00:23:36Are you disappointed?
00:23:37No, just unexpected.
00:23:39Well, um...
00:23:42Why'd you want to meet me in a park?
00:23:44Just wanted to get a sense of you.
00:23:46I mean, if I'm gonna spend a whole gap weekend with you,
00:23:48I might as well get a sense of who I'm spending it with.
00:23:54Well, uh...
00:23:55You like what you see?
00:24:00Hello?
00:24:06I'm Emily.
00:24:08Ben.
00:24:09I know.
00:24:10Yeah, um...
00:24:12Uh, so...
00:24:13So?
00:24:14Sorry, this is awkward.
00:24:16Yeah.
00:24:18Um, why did you respond to my ad?
00:24:21Well, I was actually going to give up on the whole dating thing.
00:24:25And I read your ad and I thought, wow, this is...
00:24:28This is different.
00:24:30And I thought I had to give it a shot.
00:24:32Well, what's the verdict?
00:24:34Mucho approval.
00:24:40So the thing is, is that we're still strangers.
00:24:43That is true.
00:24:45So?
00:24:47Tell me all.
00:24:48Uh, okay.
00:24:51Um...
00:24:52Well, if this was a first date like any of the many I've been on in the last six months,
00:24:59I would start off by telling you that I am a fairly well-known travel blogger
00:25:03and that I have an exciting round-the-world trip planned and that even though I am divorced, I am completely over my ex,
00:25:14and I am ready to move on and play the field.
00:25:17But?
00:25:20But...
00:25:22Because this may be our gap weekend, I will say in truth, I actually don't have a travel blog anymore.
00:25:30I let the domain expire.
00:25:32I don't have a passport.
00:25:33And my ex is getting married next week.
00:25:36And...
00:25:37I hate and loathe anything that has to do with meeting new people.
00:25:44I mean, I've known my ex since I was two.
00:25:47I'm sorry, Lee.
00:25:48Did you just say, two?
00:25:51Uh, yeah.
00:25:52We grew up across the street from each other.
00:25:54We ended up being first lovers.
00:25:57And...
00:25:58It's just, you know, I just knew her all my life.
00:26:00That's...
00:26:01That's what happened with that.
00:26:02Hmm.
00:26:05What about you?
00:26:06What about me?
00:26:07Why are you here?
00:26:09I like a challenge.
00:26:11You, my friend.
00:26:12Let's go.
00:26:13You seem like the crown contender.
00:26:14I wake up to a little bit of drool on my pillow.
00:26:16Feel like it's gonna be a bad day.
00:26:18I'm tired of shit and the coffee ain't hit yet.
00:26:21Damn it.
00:26:22And didn't you just put some round rules for the gas?
00:26:23I don't wanna go work.
00:26:24Just because it is a gas loop in the wrong line.
00:26:26So, like, I think she's just talking about how fucked up reality.
00:26:29Alright.
00:26:30Completely agree.
00:26:31Unless, of course, we want to learn more about each other, so we can better pass ourselves off.
00:26:35Oh, come on.
00:26:36That works.
00:26:37Alright.
00:26:38Alright.
00:26:39Woo!
00:26:41Woo!
00:26:42Just the beginning.
00:26:43I need a big change.
00:26:44Help me feel like living.
00:26:45I need a big swing home runs.
00:26:47I'm hittin' and I'll never look back.
00:26:48Movin' on till I get it all.
00:26:51I got you physical.
00:26:53Um, I know I've already said it, but I feel like it bears repeating.
00:26:57Just...
00:26:58It's very humorous of you.
00:26:59Well, I try.
00:27:01So?
00:27:02Hmm?
00:27:03No kissing?
00:27:04Uh, no.
00:27:05No holding hands?
00:27:07Well, I mean, if we're a long-term couple, and it feels like...
00:27:11It feels like that's something we should do, then that's fine, but it's whatever you want
00:27:15to do.
00:27:16It's up to you.
00:27:21It's okay.
00:27:23I hate licorice.
00:27:26I love purple Skittles and Puttanesca.
00:27:30Oh, and I also should not drink vodka.
00:27:33It's just a bad idea.
00:27:35I mean, I have stories.
00:27:36I feel like I should know these stories.
00:27:38Trust me.
00:27:39It's a bad idea.
00:27:42The important thing is that no one gets hurt.
00:27:45Agreed.
00:27:46Sans the hurt.
00:27:48Well, Mr. Ben, let's enjoy our gab weekend.
00:27:51Mucho approvo.
00:27:52Uh, a few years ago I read about this, um, this game that if you play it, you know, you
00:28:04fall in love.
00:28:06Oh, and you just ask a bunch of questions and then you just stare at each other until
00:28:09you fall in love.
00:28:10Yeah.
00:28:11Yeah.
00:28:12You sit there, it's like the intimacy of getting to know somebody and having to really make
00:28:15a connection.
00:28:16Cool.
00:28:17Fantastic.
00:28:18How'd you find this place?
00:28:20I'm a travel writer.
00:28:21Now, I may not actually travel much, but I still know stuff, you know?
00:28:26I should say you would think yourself lucky to have a guide such as myself.
00:28:32We're gonna see some pretty cool stuff this weekend.
00:28:34Mm.
00:28:35Would you wanna just try it?
00:28:36This, uh, game?
00:28:38You wanna give it a shot?
00:28:39See what it's like?
00:28:41Okay.
00:28:42I mean, I'm game.
00:28:43Alright.
00:28:44Can I go first?
00:28:45Yeah.
00:28:46Yeah.
00:28:47Just pull it up here.
00:28:48Okay.
00:28:49There you go.
00:28:50Nice.
00:28:51Now we have to do the eye thing, right?
00:28:53Yeah.
00:28:54Okay.
00:28:55Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you invite as a dinner guest?
00:29:01Oh, uh, alive or dead?
00:29:04I don't know.
00:29:05Let me try.
00:29:06No, you can't check.
00:29:07You have to keep looking at me.
00:29:08Okay.
00:29:09Um, Pablo Picasso.
00:29:11Seriously?
00:29:12Yeah.
00:29:13I mean, the guy like, you know, painted some really weird stuff.
00:29:15I think he'd be just...
00:29:16I just didn't expect that answer from you.
00:29:17Uh, maybe like, Chuck Norris.
00:29:19Well, why?
00:29:20Who would you pick?
00:29:21Jackie Chan.
00:29:22Where is he?
00:29:23Okay.
00:29:24Seriously.
00:29:25That's a good point.
00:29:26I need to ask him a lot of questions.
00:29:28Okay.
00:29:29Let me see my turn now.
00:29:30So, uh...
00:29:31Yeah.
00:29:32Would you want to be famous?
00:29:34No.
00:29:35No.
00:29:36Yeah, no, that'd be terrible.
00:29:38You know?
00:29:39What about you?
00:29:40Oh, only in like a limited Anthony Bourdain kind of famous way.
00:29:44Okay.
00:29:45Well, you know, that makes sense given your goals and stuff.
00:29:47Yeah.
00:29:48Yeah.
00:29:49Okay.
00:29:50Let me see.
00:29:51Mm-hmm.
00:29:52Mm.
00:29:53Okay.
00:29:54What's the perfect day?
00:29:56Um...
00:29:58This.
00:29:59Okay.
00:30:00Okay.
00:30:01That is such a kiss-ass answer.
00:30:02No.
00:30:03No, I'm serious.
00:30:04It's like...
00:30:05This has just been so easy and fun and relaxed.
00:30:08It's just...
00:30:09This is perfect.
00:30:10Why?
00:30:11What about you?
00:30:12Mm...
00:30:13I guess it's gonna be...
00:30:15The day.
00:30:16Someday.
00:30:17That I get married.
00:30:18I know.
00:30:19I just...
00:30:20I've always wanted it and that's just...
00:30:21It's what's in my...
00:30:22Wow.
00:30:23Look who's got the cliche answer now.
00:30:24Oh, stop.
00:30:27My greatest accomplishment.
00:30:28Yes.
00:30:29Well, none yet.
00:30:30Uh...
00:30:31Really?
00:30:32I haven't really traveled much.
00:30:33Even though I have a travel blog.
00:30:34But you...
00:30:35Okay.
00:30:36It's kind of weird.
00:30:37I just don't know.
00:30:38It's not weird.
00:30:39Well, it's kind of sad.
00:30:40A little bit.
00:30:41Well, I didn't say it had to be happy.
00:30:42Well, how about this?
00:30:44Let's change that.
00:30:46Okay.
00:30:48Change is change.
00:30:49Change is change.
00:30:50Whoa, wait.
00:30:51Was that an estate sale?
00:30:52Wait, stop the car.
00:30:53Stop.
00:30:54Oh, well, I was really hoping we'd just get the wine country.
00:30:56Maybe we could get you, you know, something vintage.
00:30:59Uh...
00:31:00Not really my thing.
00:31:01Hello?
00:31:02Hi, we're here for the estate sale.
00:31:03Hello?
00:31:04Are you for the estate sale?
00:31:05Huh?
00:31:06Estate sale?
00:31:07Yeah, that's it.
00:31:08Great.
00:31:09I'll buzz you in.
00:31:10Third floor.
00:31:11Okay.
00:31:12Yeah?
00:31:13I just don't want to buy with them.
00:31:14They know they're having a estate sale.
00:31:16Wow.
00:31:17You have such beautiful things.
00:31:20Oh, well, it's not me.
00:31:22It's my grandparents.
00:31:23They were collectors.
00:31:25So beautiful.
00:31:26I love, I love estate sales.
00:31:28Are you two together?
00:31:30Uh, yep.
00:31:31Yes.
00:31:32We're actually on a weekend trip and he just proposed.
00:31:37Oh, wow.
00:31:38That's fantastic.
00:31:39Yeah, you know, and we were driving by and I thought, wow, we need to buy something that's
00:31:44going to symbolize the start of our new life together.
00:31:47Yep, that's wonderful.
00:31:48Yeah.
00:31:49Um, how did you two meet?
00:31:50Well.
00:31:51Yeah.
00:31:52Ben, why don't you tell the story and tell it so well?
00:31:55Oh, no.
00:31:56You tell it.
00:31:57You like it.
00:31:58Well, now I can't wait to hear it.
00:31:59Yeah.
00:32:00Me too.
00:32:01It's a good one.
00:32:02Um, so I was walking on the beach and I bumped into her.
00:32:06Oh, Ben, stop.
00:32:07He's being honest.
00:32:08Okay, so what happened was we were, when we first met, we were actually seeing other
00:32:12people.
00:32:13Okay.
00:32:14Um, I walked into a crowded room at a circus, which is always crowded.
00:32:19Um, and he was working there, wearing a bear costume, riding a red tricycle, speaking
00:32:27Russian.
00:32:28And I just knew.
00:32:29Wow.
00:32:30I have to spend the rest of my life with you.
00:32:33Whew.
00:32:34Sorry, chills.
00:32:35Yep, that's about what happened.
00:32:37Wow.
00:32:38Also, mind you, this was before the dental work.
00:32:40That's a really unique story.
00:32:43It's great that you guys are, you know, making a go of it.
00:32:47And, you know, gonna be together forever.
00:32:49I mean, we're brave.
00:32:50I don't know.
00:32:51What can you say?
00:32:52Uh, yep, that's right.
00:32:53Uh.
00:32:54I love you.
00:32:55Oh, I love you too.
00:32:56Where are your engagement rings?
00:32:57Yeah, Ben.
00:32:58Yeah.
00:32:59Um.
00:33:00Where are our rings?
00:33:01We couldn't afford them, so.
00:33:04Oh, you, you have to have engagement rings.
00:33:06Oh.
00:33:07We're fine.
00:33:08We, we have a promise.
00:33:09And a promise, well, that lasts forever.
00:33:11I have a present for you.
00:33:13Oh, no.
00:33:14Oh, no, stop it.
00:33:15Yeah.
00:33:16No.
00:33:17Wait right there.
00:33:18It's okay.
00:33:19What the hell was that?
00:33:20What?
00:33:21Oh, come on.
00:33:22A bear costume, no teeth.
00:33:23Okay, if we're gonna have a meet cute, might as well make it a unique story.
00:33:26Well, you should make it cute, perhaps with a romantic backstory.
00:33:28The circus is romantic.
00:33:30Oh, you're just being cruel.
00:33:31I'm having fun.
00:33:32Oh.
00:33:33God.
00:33:34Uh, what is this?
00:33:38Those were my grandparents' engagement rings.
00:33:44Oh, wow.
00:33:45Wow.
00:33:46They couldn't afford very much, and my grandfather found those at an estate sale and gave them
00:33:51to my grandmother, so I think it's only appropriate that I give them to you.
00:33:56Uh, no, I, uh...
00:33:57I'm not using them.
00:33:58I insist.
00:33:59Okay.
00:34:00Um, hmm.
00:34:02Here we go.
00:34:04Oh, I feel like it'll make my grandparents' spirit live on.
00:34:10Oh, this is so beautiful.
00:34:12I'm...
00:34:13I'm sorry.
00:34:14Oh, God.
00:34:15Wow.
00:34:16I'm...
00:34:17I'm getting married!
00:34:18Sorry, I'm getting married.
00:34:19Oh, we're getting married.
00:34:20I'm really thirsty.
00:34:21Do you have any water?
00:34:23You are such an asshole.
00:34:25What?
00:34:26It made her day.
00:34:27These are her prized possessions.
00:34:28We don't deserve these.
00:34:29Okay, money green looks good on you.
00:34:31Okay, I feel like there's gonna be a lightning bolt to come down and strike me for this.
00:34:34Okay, listen.
00:34:35We made her day, and what people don't know doesn't hurt them.
00:34:38Okay?
00:34:39Okay, so you want, uh, dipsy doodles and mountain do...
00:34:42Wow, you're a real health man.
00:34:44Oh, and can you, um, get me red vines?
00:34:46Uh, I'm pretty sure they don't have those, and besides...
00:34:49Twizzlers are better.
00:34:50Hey, I beg to differ.
00:34:52Okay, well, we'll just agree that it's great.
00:34:55Uh, anything else?
00:34:57Nope, that's it.
00:34:58Okay.
00:34:59Oh, wait, actually, surprise me.
00:35:01Got it.
00:35:02Got it.
00:35:03There we go.
00:35:04Okay.
00:35:05Oh, that's your surprise.
00:35:35Lottery ticket?
00:35:39Didn't peg you for a lottery ticket, guys.
00:35:42Isn't everybody?
00:35:43Too much chance.
00:35:44Oh, I would have thought the exact opposite about you.
00:35:46No, but you're not going to win, so...
00:35:48Well, okay, you don't know that.
00:35:50I'm just telling you, you're not going to win.
00:35:53Okay.
00:35:54What, did you win?
00:35:56Indeed I did.
00:35:57What?
00:35:58Five bucks.
00:36:00Yeah, we in the money, baby.
00:36:02Yeah, we are.
00:36:03Mm-mm-mm.
00:36:22So, I don't usually taste...
00:36:25You don't drink vino?
00:36:27No, no, I do.
00:36:28It's just the last time.
00:36:29I drank a little bit too much with V.
00:36:31V?
00:36:32Veronica, the ex.
00:36:33We're at the same wine bar you want with your ex.
00:36:37Yeah, I just really like this place.
00:36:40Coincidence?
00:36:41I mean it.
00:36:42I just like it.
00:36:43The key is to spit.
00:36:44Well, that kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it?
00:36:46Everything in moderation.
00:36:48Okay, moderation it is.
00:36:49Like, she always wondered why would somebody read about travel?
00:36:52Why wouldn't somebody just travel?
00:36:54And I'm like...
00:36:55She has a point.
00:36:56People need a signpost to figure out where they're going to go.
00:36:59That's why I wrote the manifesto.
00:37:01You know, you don't just dive into everything without doing some research.
00:37:04People don't travel to Kathmandu without figuring out the climate.
00:37:08People should do the same thing with relationships and everything.
00:37:11I just, that's the thing is I feel it was just closed minded.
00:37:14I don't know.
00:37:15That was beautiful.
00:37:18Well, thank you.
00:37:21Is that you or the wine talking?
00:37:24Both.
00:37:26Thank you very much.
00:37:28Her blouse felt like the air beneath my wings.
00:37:32I thought I could fly, yet I fell.
00:37:35Her blouse felt like the wind in between my fingers and toes.
00:37:39I couldn't breathe.
00:37:41I felt her blouse in between the air of my life.
00:37:44Yeah.
00:37:45Poetry is terrible.
00:37:47Yeah, well, it's kind of my thing.
00:37:52I guess poetry just isn't my thing.
00:37:55Yeah, well, it's not everybody's.
00:37:57Do you write poetry?
00:37:58Not that I would show anybody.
00:38:00You know, it's just for me.
00:38:01I like your travel blog.
00:38:03Oh, ice cold.
00:38:05Wow.
00:38:06I got you something.
00:38:14Well?
00:38:15The winemaker?
00:38:16Yeah.
00:38:17I, uh, I talked to him after the wine tasting.
00:38:19I told him about your travel blog.
00:38:21That you could use some more hits.
00:38:23And he said he'd be happy to give you an interview.
00:38:26That's not true.
00:38:27It's a start.
00:38:28It's a lie.
00:38:29It's a start.
00:38:30And you gotta start somewhere.
00:38:39What's your most treasured memory?
00:38:41Well, it's, uh, have to be a weekend up here with my ex.
00:38:48It's the weekend I proposed to her.
00:38:50It was actually not that far from here.
00:38:52Does every memory involve your ex?
00:38:56We were childhood sweethearts.
00:38:57I mean, it's kind of hard for me to think of a memory without her.
00:39:04My favorite memory was when I was single and I just moved to Denver.
00:39:09I remember thinking, I've got this whole town in my hands.
00:39:15It's like the feeling you get, um, when you're 16 and you just get your license.
00:39:20When you get in the car, you just drive.
00:39:24Listening to Mack the Knife.
00:39:25Wait.
00:39:26A 16-year-old, you listen to Mack the Knife?
00:39:28My mom was a Pink Grinner fan.
00:39:30Okay.
00:39:32Let me see.
00:39:33What role does love play in your life?
00:39:44It scares me.
00:39:46I think about it too much.
00:39:54When I look here, I feel...
00:40:00I'm home.
00:40:03I'm scared.
00:40:09I've been in the sun too long.
00:40:11Yeah, what's up?
00:40:16I should, uh...
00:40:18Go. Give them more wine.
00:40:20Come on.
00:40:22Let's go.
00:40:24I wake up to a little bit of drool on my pillow, feel like it's gonna be a bad day.
00:40:28I'm tired of shit and the coffee ain't hit, yeah damn ain't that great.
00:40:32Nice.
00:40:33I don't wanna go to work cause my boss is a jerk and I'm not even that paid.
00:40:37I need a change in my life cause I don't feel alive and there's nothing that makes me happy.
00:40:41Oh.
00:40:42Hold my beer for a minute.
00:40:43I'm about to quit my job, cash in, book ticket.
00:40:45I'm going on a trip and I don't plan a visit.
00:40:48I'm gonna stay there until I feel like I'm winning all.
00:40:50Oh.
00:40:51And this is just the beginning.
00:40:52I need a big change help me feel like living.
00:40:54I need a big swing home runs I'm hitting and I'll never look back moving on till I get it all.
00:40:59And we all got dreams.
00:41:02We all want things.
00:41:04But what you gonna do for it?
00:41:06How you gonna move for it?
00:41:07What you gonna be?
00:41:08And do you believe?
00:41:09Do you believe?
00:41:10You can do anything.
00:41:11Know what you gonna do for it?
00:41:12How you gonna move for it?
00:41:13What you gonna be?
00:41:14What you gonna do for it?
00:41:15What you gonna be?
00:41:16What you gonna be?
00:41:17What you gonna be?
00:41:18Yeah.
00:41:19What you gonna be?
00:41:20Hey!
00:41:21Uh, just gotta find the key.
00:41:23Yeah, this is my life, my strife, my right to fight, to die.
00:41:39And this is my game to play to claim a brand new name.
00:41:44Oh, and I ain't gonna lie to you.
00:41:47I'm a bit nervous that I might screw everything up that I've ever done.
00:41:51But what's the point of living if you ain't having fun?
00:41:54Oh, you look the hell with me.
00:41:56Oh, I know.
00:41:57Watch out.
00:41:58Here it comes.
00:41:59I guess I look here, look there.
00:42:01Over where am I scared?
00:42:02Where am I at?
00:42:03I gotta make it in this life.
00:42:05Whatever makes me happy.
00:42:06Know I'm doing things right.
00:42:07Sipping in the summer on a goose and spry.
00:42:10Or find a nightclub for the end of the night, oh.
00:42:13And we all got dreams.
00:42:15We all want things.
00:42:17But what you gonna do for it?
00:42:19I gonna move for it.
00:42:20What you gonna be?
00:42:21Yeah.
00:42:22Just some work calls.
00:42:24We can do anything.
00:42:26Oh, I want to eat tugs.
00:42:28It's good for you.
00:42:29It's good for you.
00:42:30It's good for you.
00:42:35No.
00:42:36There should be no talking about sex with you.
00:42:41You rule.
00:42:45You do know there is more than one in the matchbox, right?
00:42:51I mean, Veronica is gone.
00:42:53And I want to try that amazing sauce you got.
00:42:57Is that Pantanesca?
00:42:58Uh, not yet.
00:42:59But good things come to those who wait.
00:43:01And this means two key ingredients.
00:43:04Low and slow.
00:43:06And a little bit of my special seasoning blend here.
00:43:09Mmm.
00:43:12Boom.
00:43:13Well, I bet it's damn good.
00:43:15It will be.
00:43:17Do you want me to do anything for you?
00:43:19Uh, how about you figure out what we're gonna binge watch tonight?
00:43:22Ooh, okay.
00:43:23But, you know, if we were a real couple, what we would be doing is spending an hour scrolling
00:43:29through the TV deciding what we want to watch and then end up watching nothing.
00:43:33That sounds just like fun to me.
00:43:36Boom.
00:43:39Mmm.
00:43:40This is so good.
00:43:42Honey.
00:43:43Well, thank you, honey.
00:43:45Mmm.
00:43:46To Ben and Emily.
00:43:48Mmm.
00:43:49To Ben-ily.
00:43:50Oh, my God.
00:43:51Wait, is that our celebrity name?
00:43:52I think it is.
00:43:53And you know what they say when you have a celebrity name.
00:43:54No, tell me.
00:43:55Well, it's meant to be.
00:43:56You know what?
00:43:57We need inside jokes.
00:43:58Yes.
00:43:59We need something that makes us laugh that nobody else knows about, so.
00:44:02These.
00:44:03You mean this?
00:44:04Very ladylike.
00:44:05Oh, my God.
00:44:06We're such a dork.
00:44:07We are.
00:44:08We are.
00:44:09But we're good dorks.
00:44:10We're good dorks.
00:44:11Yeah, we're good dorks.
00:44:12Yeah, we're good dorks.
00:44:13We're good dorks.
00:44:14Yeah, we're good dorks.
00:44:15This is, um...
00:44:16This is fun.
00:44:17This is fun.
00:44:21I'm really glad you should click the ad.
00:44:36I gotta pee.
00:44:38Excuse me.
00:44:39Oh, that's a little bit of an overshare.
00:44:41It's not an overshare if you're in a long-term relationship.
00:44:44Okay, well, that is true.
00:44:46Gonna puke the door open.
00:44:48I'm not gonna peek.
00:44:49I said, I don't mind.
00:44:51Well, I'm still not gonna look.
00:44:54Because I am a gentleman, and...
00:44:57Yeah, yeah, chivalry's not dead.
00:45:00Exactly.
00:45:01And a gentleman never watches his fair lady peep.
00:45:06Well, that gentleman is a chivalrous gentleman.
00:45:16Okay, those are very short shorts for watching TV.
00:45:19Oh, are they?
00:45:27What's that?
00:45:28Um, our song.
00:45:30Our song?
00:45:31Yes.
00:45:32Every long-term couple has a song.
00:45:37Alright.
00:45:43So...
00:45:45So...
00:45:46If we were in a real relationship, what would we do next?
00:45:54I could think of a couple things.
00:45:58Well, why don't you show me and stop?
00:46:00What will I do?
00:46:01When I am...
00:46:10Now, why does that really have a long-term couple with Tiss?
00:46:15Well...
00:46:16Says you.
00:46:18Kissing you.
00:46:22What will I do?
00:46:24What is this?
00:46:33What the fuck is this?
00:46:35I can...
00:46:36I can explain that.
00:46:37What?
00:46:38You would just...
00:46:39I, um...
00:46:41I, um...
00:46:42What?
00:46:43Maybe...
00:46:44You thought you'd what?
00:46:45You'd put a nap out, and I would just fuck you?
00:46:46No, no, no, no, no.
00:46:47I just thought I was gonna be safe.
00:46:48What?
00:46:49Safe?
00:46:50Yeah, that sounds bad.
00:46:51Fuck your safety.
00:46:52No, I...
00:46:53Wait, what?
00:46:54You're sitting on the fucking couch tonight.
00:46:55Cause that's what real couples do.
00:47:19Bacon.
00:47:20Bacon, bacon, bacon, bacon, bacon.
00:47:21Hey.
00:47:25Morning.
00:47:29You cooked?
00:47:30Figured you'd be hungry.
00:47:34You do know me well.
00:47:36I try.
00:47:38Where are you going?
00:47:41Come on, stop.
00:47:42Sit.
00:47:45Okay.
00:47:46Listen, um, I know this is new for both of us.
00:47:52Yeah, well, talk about uncharted territory.
00:47:55But I still...
00:47:56I shouldn't have got those and just...
00:47:58I know you didn't mean it the way it came across.
00:48:03Thanks.
00:48:05Besides, we got our first big fight out of the way like real couples would.
00:48:09Yeah.
00:48:10True.
00:48:12I'll start over.
00:48:13I mean, it's like no way to start the day.
00:48:17Where's yours?
00:48:20I already ate.
00:48:21Oh, you fucking asshole.
00:48:22God.
00:48:23So that guy, he's, um, he's out running errands.
00:48:28And, ooh, his wife is so pissed at him because he forgot pretty much all of her ingredients.
00:48:35Oh, good.
00:48:36Yeah, he definitely forgot the pimentos.
00:48:39And the anchovies.
00:48:42That guy, he got in the car this morning and started to drive.
00:48:47And he's wanted to keep driving all the way to Mexico.
00:48:51What about her?
00:48:53Oh, well, she's gonna get married next week.
00:48:55But she just ran off with a stranger for the weekend.
00:49:01Why haven't you found someone?
00:49:03I don't know.
00:49:04All of us had the luxury of growing up next to our one true love.
00:49:09Yeah, that's all right. Kick me when I'm down.
00:49:11Hey, you asked for it.
00:49:14Hey, you think the turtles are fucking?
00:49:17Oh, yeah, they're definitely fucking.
00:49:18Most definitely.
00:49:19I mean, everyone's boring.
00:49:20Everyone?
00:49:22Okay, look.
00:49:23It's like, you want to spend forever with your one true love, right?
00:49:28Well, I don't see it that way.
00:49:29I see, like, life as, you know, where you move, who you date, who you end up marrying.
00:49:33It's just, it's just one more thing you're painting on the floor of your life.
00:49:41What paint?
00:49:43Okay, it's like, you know when you were little and you watch cartoons?
00:49:46Cool.
00:49:48And, you know, you'd see them painting.
00:49:50Painting the walls and all of a sudden they'd be painting the floor and then all of a sudden they're stuck in a corner and...
00:49:55I just don't want to be painted in.
00:50:01So you're saying just don't even paint the house?
00:50:05Yeah, pretty much.
00:50:07How do you know about this place?
00:50:10Travel article.
00:50:11You really know how to charm the ladies, don't you?
00:50:17It's gotta be around here somewhere.
00:50:21Ah.
00:50:24There it is. Read that.
00:50:29Matilda and Ruben.
00:50:31Whoa, those are names.
00:50:33Look at the dates.
00:50:35Wow. 75 years.
00:50:38That's a marriage.
00:50:40Yeah, but you don't know if they were happy or not.
00:50:43Well, I mean, they died a few days apart.
00:50:45I'd say that they couldn't stand living without one another.
00:50:47Mmm.
00:51:13Mmm.
00:51:15Ben!
00:51:16This is Ben.
00:51:17Uh, indeed.
00:51:18Ben, this is Kyle.
00:51:19Oh, hey man, what's up?
00:51:21She told me you guys are on a... a gap weekend?
00:51:24Uh, yeah. Indeed.
00:51:26Hmm.
00:51:27Well, let me buy you two a drink.
00:51:29Alright.
00:51:31You just gotta get back on the horse, man.
00:51:32You find somebody. You're a catch. He's a catch, right?
00:51:35I mean, that's what I said.
00:51:37I was lost without my first wife.
00:51:40When she was gone, I cried like a baby.
00:51:42Screw her for leaving you. What a bitch.
00:51:44What a bitch.
00:51:45She passed away.
00:51:47Cancer.
00:51:49I was with her till the end.
00:51:53Well, I'm sorry.
00:51:54No, no, no. She's in a better place.
00:51:56But I wasn't.
00:51:57I just wandered Ethiopia.
00:52:00Ethiopia?
00:52:02Oh, uh, yeah. I started a nonprofit in her name that builds houses.
00:52:06It creates a sustainable economy for third world towns and villages.
00:52:10Wait, so you run a nonprofit?
00:52:12Yeah, I own a nonprofit. I actually have too many companies to run one.
00:52:17But I never thought that I would find anyone again, let alone sleep with anyone.
00:52:25But it's possible. I mean, look at me. I'm getting married in a few weeks.
00:52:28Oh, well, congratulations. I'm going to need to buy you a drink.
00:52:34Don't. All I ask is that you get my app.
00:52:39Whatever you were going to spend on that drink, donate to my charity.
00:52:44Well, congrats anyway.
00:52:45Like we just said, you got to have a little bit of...
00:52:49You just got to get back out there, man. You got to get out there and do it again.
00:52:52You guys want to see a picture of her?
00:52:53Oh, yeah.
00:52:59Veronica?
00:53:02Ben, what the hell was that?
00:53:04Him? She went with him? What could she possibly see in that guy?
00:53:08Um, I don't know. The fact that he's really hot, is a widower, and also, oh, builds houses in Africa for fucking charity.
00:53:13Well, we spent our lives together. That has to count for something.
00:53:16Okay, you know what? I know. I get it. I know. You're not over it yet.
00:53:18Oh, no, no, no, no. I am over it or else why would I be on this trip with you?
00:53:20What is this then?
00:53:24Are we seriously going to every single spot that you guys went to right after you got engaged?
00:53:33Where's that going to accomplish?
00:53:38I don't know.
00:53:39You need closure, not a tour of your failed engagement.
00:53:46There's more than one match in the matchbox, and she's not coming back.
00:53:53You know, I've been hurt before.
00:53:57Honestly.
00:53:58You only think that's happened to you?
00:54:05You just got to have it a little bit of faith or something.
00:54:08You see that up there?
00:54:25Yeah.
00:54:27For, uh, our first anniversary.
00:54:30She named a star after you.
00:54:34She named a star after you?
00:54:36Yeah, you know, there's these, uh, there's these companies that you pay, you fee,
00:54:40I don't know how legal or binding is, but, you know, they name a star after you.
00:54:47They send you paperwork so you can find it, and there's, uh, there's a certificate and everything.
00:54:52But the thing that gets me is that she, she thought enough about me that she bought her husband a star.
00:55:06I mean, who reaches out and names a star after somebody?
00:55:09I mean, if you think about how many stars there are up there, and, and that each of these could be, you know, revolving near a planet that has life like ours.
00:55:19I mean, the chances are so inconsequential.
00:55:21It's, it's like the same as if two people would grow up across the street from each other and end up together.
00:55:28And I can't, I can't help thinking about that.
00:55:32And she named the, she named the star after me.
00:55:37Look, you can stand here and talk about your ex and stars, but you're standing next to a girl who just lost a very bad battle with a bottle of wine.
00:55:56And you want to know what my advice would be to you?
00:55:59What?
00:56:02Kiss her.
00:56:07Kiss her.
00:56:08Kiss her.
00:56:09Kiss her.
00:56:10Kiss her.
00:56:11Kiss her.
00:56:12Kiss her.
00:56:13Kiss her.
00:56:14Kiss her.
00:56:15Kiss her.
00:56:16Kiss her.
00:56:17Kiss her.
00:56:18Kiss her.
00:56:19Kiss her.
00:56:20Kiss her.
00:56:21Kiss her.
00:56:22Kiss her.
00:56:23Kiss her.
00:56:24Kiss her.
00:56:25Kiss her.
00:56:26Kiss her.
00:56:27Kiss her.
00:56:28Kiss her.
00:56:29Kiss her.
00:56:30Kiss her.
00:56:31Kiss her.
00:56:32Kiss her.
00:56:33Kiss her.
00:56:34Kiss her.
00:56:35Kiss her.
00:56:36Hey.
00:56:57Are you watching me sleep?
00:57:00Yeah.
00:57:01Okay.
00:57:02Weird, but okay.
00:57:05It says you're pretty comfortable around someone if you can sleep next to them.
00:57:09Yeah.
00:57:10More could have been the wine.
00:57:14This is kind of the perfect morning.
00:57:17The kind of morning I wrote about in my manifesto.
00:57:25What if this were real?
00:57:30This, this isn't real.
00:57:32No, I mean, the Gap Weekend doesn't have to end.
00:57:37All right, well, now who's the one who's drunk?
00:57:47This is the last day of the Gap Weekend, so.
00:57:50What the?
00:57:59What the?
00:58:09Sandy.
00:58:10Ben!
00:58:12Sandy.
00:58:13What the fuck?
00:58:15Ben!
00:58:16Ben!
00:58:17Ah!
00:58:18Holy crap!
00:58:19What are you doing here?
00:58:20I'm sorry I didn't tell you.
00:58:22I knew the folks weren't going to be using the place, so.
00:58:25That's cool.
00:58:25Yeah, it's totally cool.
00:58:27What are you doing here?
00:58:29Um, we're nothing.
00:58:30It's not a big deal.
00:58:31We're just, you're here.
00:58:32We're partying in the condo, just like old times.
00:58:34Huh.
00:58:35Who is that?
00:58:37What's up, man?
00:58:38He's a model.
00:58:45Where's Oliver?
00:58:46Um, he's, uh, he's still at the hotel, he's sleeping.
00:58:49Rick and I were out dancing, and, uh, we thought we'd come back here and get some sleep.
00:58:55Is this the lady who responded to your manifesto?
00:59:04Uh-huh.
00:59:07They say Craigslist doesn't work.
00:59:09Ben, here.
00:59:10He's quite the catch.
00:59:13Mm-hmm.
00:59:13Yeah, he is.
00:59:15Okay.
00:59:17Can I talk to you for a minute?
00:59:19Excuse us, everybody.
00:59:21Come on.
00:59:23Great.
00:59:24You got it.
00:59:24what the hell was that it's called dancing blowing off some steam have you done anything
00:59:32dance does oliver know christ what's wrong with going out and dancing i'm still alive
00:59:38there's nothing wrong with going out dancing but you brought this guy home
00:59:43don't bust my balls you know i've been feeling really down lately oh really yeah i wouldn't
00:59:49have known you know what got me through it what knowing that there was always sandy and oliver
00:59:54you guys are the perfect couple you get each other you really get each other you know you still laugh
01:00:02at the same jokes and you have passion and you have fun i don't want to be anyone's lighthouse ben
01:00:08you're gonna tell me that what this guy has is better than what you and oliver have
01:00:12forget it sandy
01:00:16i never told you why veronica left
01:00:22i had a fling she never got over it i thought that there was something better out there something
01:00:32i was missing something more unique but i was wrong i had the perfect thing from the very beginning
01:00:40it's not too late for you don't make the same mistake i did okay
01:00:47yeah so this one this one got 89 likes
01:00:53but this one right here that shit totally blew up
01:00:57almost 400 likes
01:01:00yeah it was the best i think it was the filter i used or the fact that you're on the beach wearing a speedo
01:01:09you think
01:01:12come on we're going i thought we were napping
01:01:18no we're not
01:01:20then where are you off to
01:01:22um there's a luncheon thing for the wedding
01:01:26right
01:01:28take care
01:01:32hey uh don't forget to follow me girl
01:01:35yo bro i got you
01:01:36are you gonna be okay
01:01:57sure
01:01:58we're gonna go see veronica
01:02:10no
01:02:14no no no no
01:02:16ben you need closure
01:02:16come on
01:02:17not now
01:02:19when
01:02:19when's gonna need enough time
01:02:21who was she
01:02:25who was what
01:02:27i overheard you and sandy talking about a girl
01:02:30i have no idea what her name was
01:02:34it was just a
01:02:36a drunken stupid flame
01:02:39ouch
01:02:39i think
01:02:43that
01:02:45she was just waiting for an excuse
01:02:48i mean i guess i think we both were in some way
01:02:52but
01:02:54i mean it happens
01:02:57i just thought
01:03:01we were gonna take a pause
01:03:02that we would
01:03:03take a break
01:03:05we'd figure it out
01:03:06and then we would naturally dovetail back together eventually
01:03:08but
01:03:09then kyle happened
01:03:12i almost had the same thing happen to me
01:03:19once
01:03:20really
01:03:23yeah
01:03:25i ran away
01:03:28from the commitment
01:03:30i ran away with a stranger
01:03:35shit
01:03:37and i just realized
01:03:39i was scared that i had this
01:03:45perfect thing that
01:03:46you know might not even be that perfect
01:03:48and
01:03:48you know that's like kind of the point right
01:03:52all these beautiful little imperfections in our lives
01:03:55and i just realized that there's
01:03:59always gonna be something better
01:04:02just
01:04:05i realized that there's always someone else
01:04:09and i should just be happy with what i have
01:04:11did she go back
01:04:13yeah
01:04:20yeah
01:04:23yeah
01:04:23yeah
01:04:23what are you doing
01:04:51i gave her aeonium seeds on our second anniversary
01:04:56still planting them
01:04:59oh shit
01:05:02what are you
01:05:05i don't ever slow up
01:05:18i don't ever slow up
01:05:20no i don't take shit
01:05:21i got no love
01:05:24I don't take shit, I got no love, but the fake is
01:05:27If you wanna play tough and wanna hate this
01:05:29I'll always show up and make a statement
01:05:32I don't ever slow up, no I don't take shit
01:05:34I got no love, but the fake is
01:05:37If you wanna play tough and wanna hate this
01:05:40I'll always show up and make a statement
01:05:42Everything I do so instinctive and surpassing it
01:05:44Every word I move so descriptive like an adjective
01:05:47I gotta bend better against people who patented
01:05:49Being negative when you should be getting after it
01:05:52I'm good
01:05:53I got facts over facts over tracks
01:05:55Fitting slow, spitting fast
01:05:57Like a roast, like a gas
01:05:58You were dancing
01:06:02Yes
01:06:03You were dancing until 6am
01:06:04I just wanted to go dancing
01:06:05I don't believe you
01:06:08Okay, I don't believe you
01:06:09It's the truth
01:06:10Ben
01:06:12Hey
01:06:12What the hell are you doing here?
01:06:14We were just leaving
01:06:15Were you gonna leave before telling me she's been seeing somebody else?
01:06:18Ben, tell him
01:06:19Nothing happened
01:06:20Nothing happened
01:06:21She stayed out until 6am
01:06:22Nothing happened?
01:06:23It's true
01:06:23Nothing happened
01:06:24How the hell would you know?
01:06:25Ben
01:06:25Were you there?
01:06:26Yes
01:06:26He talked me out of it
01:06:27Oh
01:06:28Oh, you talked her out of it
01:06:30She needed to be talked out of it?
01:06:31Oh, that's so much better
01:06:32Thank you, Mr. Rogers
01:06:33Oh, come on, guys
01:06:34Don't fight
01:06:35The relationship expert's gonna give me advice
01:06:37Ben?
01:06:37Sandy?
01:06:39Sandy?
01:06:39Oliver?
01:06:40Hi, Veronica
01:06:41It's good to see you
01:06:46We were just hanging out
01:06:48And, well, it's
01:06:49You look good
01:06:51Really good
01:06:52Have you lost weight?
01:06:54Or maybe you've got a haircut
01:06:57Look, I just wanted to wish you a happy wedding
01:07:02And hope your marriage is great
01:07:04Okay
01:07:04And I want to apologize for everything
01:07:07And I needed to
01:07:09Hey, guys
01:07:09Ben!
01:07:11Nice!
01:07:12You guys ran out of there so fast
01:07:13I didn't get to buy you a drink
01:07:14Wait, what?
01:07:15Do you know?
01:07:16Hey, yo, Sandy
01:07:17No, no, no
01:07:17You gotta go
01:07:18Can I get my phone charger back this morning?
01:07:19Oh, yeah
01:07:20Nothing happened
01:07:21Oliver, she's telling us
01:07:22Shut the fuck up
01:07:22Who?
01:07:23I don't even know why you're here
01:07:24I didn't set this whole fucking thing up
01:07:26Just so you could show up here like I knew you fucking would
01:07:28What the hell are you talking about?
01:07:29You got no right to tell me what to do
01:07:31No, we can't tell him
01:07:32He's too delicate
01:07:34Oh, Ben, he's a little porcelain doll
01:07:35We can't fucking hurt his feelings
01:07:37Sandy, what is he talking about?
01:07:38I didn't hire her
01:07:39To spend the whole weekend with you
01:07:41Just so you'd fucking show up here and make an ass of yourself
01:07:44Hired her?
01:07:45You think you had something special with her all weekend?
01:07:48Really?
01:07:49You didn't
01:07:50I hired her
01:07:52No, that's not true
01:07:53Though Emily and I had more in these two days than you and Sandy have your entire fucking marriage
01:07:58Okay, stop, please
01:08:00No, screw you, man
01:08:01Whoa
01:08:02Screw you, man
01:08:03Guys, guys, guys, guys, calm down
01:08:05Goddammit
01:08:05Whoa, hey, guys, guys
01:08:08Okay, now
01:08:09I own a conflict resolution wellness retreat and I think that you should both take it
01:08:15Shut up, Kyle
01:08:15Don't hurt Ben
01:08:16Don't hurt Ben
01:08:17You're so fucking delicate
01:08:18Stop it
01:08:19Don't hurt Ben
01:08:19Stop it
01:08:20Can't hurt Ben
01:08:20Stop it
01:08:21Stop it
01:08:21Ben
01:08:22Oh, fuck
01:08:24Goddammit
01:08:25They hired you?
01:08:30Ben, I'm...
01:08:31She's just an actress from my class
01:08:32She's never read your fucking manifesto
01:08:35Emily, what is he talking about?
01:08:43Oh, fuck you guys
01:08:45Fuck every single one of you
01:08:48Ben
01:08:50Ben
01:09:18What are you saying?
01:09:31What are you talking about?
01:09:32No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
01:09:34I look at you
01:10:35Fine. Well, I got the cure for you, and it is some penicillin.
01:10:39I'm sorry. That's a terrible joke. It's going to only get better from here.
01:10:42So what I'm here to do is talk to you about Pinot Noir.
01:10:45Here we are at Toddwood Vineyards in beautiful Santa Barbara.
01:10:48Hi, I'm Ben, and welcome to another episode of the Bop Around Travel video podcast.
01:11:01And in this series, we will be exploring a host of great weekend locations, interviewing some fabulous people,
01:11:06and really exploring the idea that to get yourself out there, you just have to take that first step.
01:11:13Hey.
01:11:22Hey, Ben. Can I join you?
01:11:26Yeah, sure. How did you find me?
01:11:30I read all your travel blogs. I don't know how much you love it here.
01:11:37Ooh, fancy recording setup.
01:11:40Well, I try.
01:11:42Listen, um, I'm sorry. I'm really sorry.
01:11:48Thanks.
01:11:51I read your manifesto. I finally read it. It's really good.
01:12:00Have you seen Emily?
01:12:04She disappeared.
01:12:06Wouldn't even know how to find her.
01:12:09For what it's worth, we really were trying to help.
01:12:13I know.
01:12:14So, I come with peace offering.
01:12:22Oliver's class roster.
01:12:24Okay.
01:12:26Which has Emily's home address.
01:12:32I don't know.
01:12:34It was all fake.
01:12:36Well, it is yours now.
01:12:38Do with it what you wish.
01:12:40Yeah.
01:12:47Want me to go in with you?
01:12:49No.
01:12:50No, I'm good.
01:12:52Look at you.
01:12:53I'm good.
01:12:59Sandy.
01:13:00Yeah.
01:13:01You know if you need my help with Oliver.
01:13:05Oh, yeah.
01:13:07One thing at a time.
01:13:08Here we go.
01:13:13We'll get her.
01:13:14Hey.
01:14:00Hi.
01:14:03Hi.
01:14:04I brought you a gift.
01:14:06Purple Skittles.
01:14:08I just wanted to apologize.
01:14:10How did you find me?
01:14:11Through Sandy and Oliver.
01:14:12Okay, but you really can't be here, so...
01:14:15Who's that, honey?
01:14:15Oh, um...
01:14:17Um...
01:14:19I'm Wes.
01:14:22Hi, Wes.
01:14:23I'm her fiancé.
01:14:25Ben is, uh...
01:14:26Yeah, Ben... Ben's a friend.
01:14:29Okay.
01:14:30I know him.
01:14:31He, um, uh...
01:14:33We're cousins.
01:14:33I don't know why you're so shy.
01:14:35Oh.
01:14:36Nice to meet you.
01:14:37I know.
01:14:38She doesn't like to talk about her family.
01:14:39Well, tell me about it.
01:14:40She won't let me meet any of her family.
01:14:42Oh, well, um...
01:14:43I'm down from Santa Barbara.
01:14:44I was in the area.
01:14:44I figured I'd stop by and say hello.
01:14:46Well, come on in.
01:14:47This is a big day.
01:14:50Okay.
01:14:55I, uh, really can't stay long.
01:14:57Well, let's grab a drink.
01:14:58You gotta come to the wedding.
01:15:00Oh, I...
01:15:00I'm sure Ben's tired, so...
01:15:02We're getting married in Denver in a week, just before our move there.
01:15:05Oh, I...
01:15:06I'm sorry.
01:15:06I'm not gonna be in town.
01:15:08Well, at least stay for dinner.
01:15:10She made some putinesca.
01:15:12Well, that's her favorite.
01:15:13Yes, it is.
01:15:14Oh, you gotta tell me all the stories.
01:15:15I wanna hear everything.
01:15:17There's no...
01:15:18Oh, we're not really much of a close family, though.
01:15:20I am trying to make up for that.
01:15:22I'm...
01:15:22I'm gonna get some beer from the garage.
01:15:30Why did you lie?
01:15:38Because I was scared.
01:15:41Wes is great.
01:15:43I'm freaking out.
01:15:45I'm scared that I'm gonna screw everything up like everybody else.
01:15:48I mean, unlike you, I've been alone my entire life, so...
01:15:53I didn't know that Oliver knew you or that you were living with them.
01:15:58And he had no idea that I was even engaged, so...
01:16:02He just showed me the ad and, um...
01:16:05He didn't pay me.
01:16:12I just...
01:16:12I just wanted to know what a weekend would be like with the man who wrote that manifesto.
01:16:20Because, you know, you're not the only one who needed a gap weekend.
01:16:22Well, did it work?
01:16:26Did what work?
01:16:28Did you get perspective?
01:16:32I think so.
01:16:34I'm in a good place.
01:16:35So when you told me that one time that you got cold feet and you ran off with a stranger...
01:16:47I was talking about you.
01:16:48So, that winery called me.
01:16:57They want to do a travel show with me.
01:16:59They want to sponsor it.
01:17:01Get out!
01:17:02That's amazing!
01:17:04Yeah, well, I...
01:17:05I have you to thank for that.
01:17:10What are you thinking about?
01:17:13Nothing.
01:17:14You seem good.
01:17:17I am.
01:17:19This is my special batch of answers.
01:17:22Well, I brew, too.
01:17:24Oh!
01:17:25Really?
01:17:26A fellow brewer.
01:17:27We need to chat.
01:17:28No.
01:17:28Oh, I almost forgot.
01:17:31I wanted to give you both a wedding gift.
01:17:33Oh, you don't have to do that.
01:17:34Well, I know that they're not much to look at, but they do have sentimental value for Emily's family.
01:17:46They were her aunt's engagement rings.
01:17:51I love them.
01:17:55I'll tell you what, we ended up getting the shot, and, you know, I pretended to be a policeman.
01:17:59Oh, my gosh!
01:18:05I'll tell you, this, uh, this spice is amazing.
01:18:09Well, it's a family recipe.
01:18:11Family secret.
01:18:13You know?
01:18:13Well, I do travel videos, mostly online.
01:18:16It gives me a great excuse to see the world, meet new people.
01:18:19That's exciting.
01:18:20Well, yeah, it certainly beats sitting on a couch.
01:18:23What about you?
01:18:24Do you know how many dates that I've been on since I got divorced?
01:18:26It's like they're just staring at their screens, waiting for the next best thing.
01:18:33Oh, boy, I get that, believe me.
01:18:34I was with my ex for a long time.
01:18:38I think about my ex and the ease that we had between us.
01:18:44And that only happens when you're with somebody for a really long time.
01:18:49I just don't think that's ever going to happen again.
01:18:52You just have to have a little faith.
01:18:53I mean, there's more than one match in the matchbox.
01:18:56I mean, there's more than one match in the matchbox.
01:18:58I mean, there's more than one matchbox.
01:19:26I mean, there's more than one matchbox.
01:19:32There's more than one matchbox.
01:19:33But above all, I guess that's the same háb contraình.
01:19:38But by it's probably a place where there's more than one matchbox.
01:19:44And I go to the The List.
01:19:46You just have to have...
01:19:48Yeah, well...
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