00:00There are lots of ways to deal with negative emotions and cope with different situations.
00:06Ang tawag ng ilang psychologist dito, emotional tools.
00:09At yung gabi, sishare namin sa inyong ilan sa mga laman na aming emotional toolbox dito sa ating Mars Sharing Group.
00:15Okay, can we start from Lindsay?
00:18Oo.
00:25When I'm angry,
00:27when I'm angry, I pray.
00:32Oh, nice.
00:33Kasi for me, anger is really dangerous.
00:37Marami kang pwedeng masabing bali or magawang bali through anger.
00:40So when I'm angry, nagkukulong ako sa room ko or in the bathroom or any space na ako lang mag-isa.
00:46And then, kunyari sa room ko, I have a stuffed toy.
00:49I just hold it and I'm praying lang na mawala yung anger or parang,
00:53for the benefit, parang a lot of people say there's benefit of the doubt.
00:57But when I pray, I say,
00:58God, please guide me and help me na mawala yung anger.
01:01Cause anger is not a gift from you.
01:03Oh, please take away this negative feeling.
01:04Ang tawag ng ingress.
01:06Sorry.
01:07Ang ganda nung ginagawa niya.
01:09Na yun yung kasaguta niya pag galit siya.
01:11Hindi yung nagigiv in kapat to that feeling.
01:13Then you'll learn it to nurture.
01:15Yes.
01:17One of the new 2019 goals.
01:19I love it.
01:20But you drink water.
01:21Control.
01:22You drink water.
01:23It's water.
01:24It's water.
01:24It's so good.
01:25It's a hard time.
01:25It's a high blood.
01:26Yes.
01:27And then pray.
01:28Ganon.
01:29Ganon.
01:30Ate Ge.
01:30Ako naman.
01:33When I feel jealous.
01:34Ay!
01:35Ganon.
01:35Ganon.
01:36Aamdamang ku bat to.
01:38Atahimik lang ako.
01:39Ay, pareho tayo.
01:41Atahimik lang ako.
01:41Yung,
01:42Siyempre eh.
01:43Kasi lumalaki ulo ng mga pinagsilosaw pag ganon.
01:47Okay.
01:47Oka naman.
01:48Anggeri akong dyan.
01:49Ikaw affected.
01:50Affected ka.
01:50Piling naman ako kaseloselos din naman ako.
01:53Palang ganon.
01:53Sinusuyo-suyo ka naman.
01:55Pinapaliwanagan.
01:56Tapos pinagsis na naman ako ganon.
01:58Hindi naman ako ganon.
02:00Hindi naman.
02:02Ay, nako ate Ge.
02:03Okay, ako naman.
02:06Ito na.
02:07When I am sad, I cry.
02:09Actually, halos lat nung sagot ko dito.
02:11I cry.
02:12I cry.
02:12Kasi yun yung parang...
02:14May buntis ka, hindi naman.
02:15Hindi, pero Mars kasi parang for me, ito weird talaga to.
02:19Parang I'm so scared or growing up, never, hindi ako comfortable to show my emotions.
02:26Kasi parang feeling ko, hindi ko alam.
02:28Sign of weakness, hindi naman.
02:29Hindi naman eh, kasi bata pa lang ako.
02:32Bata ka pa.
02:32Parang hindi ko lang siya alam i-express.
02:35Kasi dahil all my life, yun yung trabaho ko.
02:38Parang kunwari, nakikita mo ko umiiyak, di ba?
02:41Kasi okay lang mo umiiyak.
02:42Pero pag totoong buhay na, hindi ko yan ipapakita.
02:45Itatago ko yan, Mars.
02:47Kahit iyak na iyak.
02:48Kahit iyak na iyak ako.
02:50Ganun lang talaga yung mga.
02:51Pero pag pasok ko ng kwarto ko, kaila, hindi ako comfortable other people seeing me cry.
02:58Hanggang ngayon?
02:59Oo.
03:00Parang feeling ko, pag may nakakita sa akin na umiiyak, parang feeling ko nakahubad ako.
03:03Ganun.
03:04Parang I feel so...
03:05Vulnerable talaga.
03:07Pero siya yung parang, pag nagagalit din ako, yung parang quality pa lang.
03:11Sobrang galit na iyak na.
03:12Hindi ako masyadong koncentration.
03:14So kahit kay BJ, hindi ka nagpapakita umiiyak ka masyado?
03:18Well, may mga times kasi na kapag hindi ko na nagsasalita, kaya kaya quiet ako.
03:23Most of the time, then try ko talaga na ayoko pa muna pag-usapan.
03:26Kasi alam ko nandiyon pa yung emosyon eh.
03:28Hindi dito, no?
03:30So papakalmahin ko muna yung pagkumalman na.
03:32Tsaka kami mag-uusap, tapos na yung naiiyak ko na siya or something.
03:36Pero siyempre may mga pagkakataon na hindi mo na napitigilan.
03:39Pero talagang it's so uncomfortable for me.
03:42Wow, that's quite a revelation.
03:45O BJ, alam mo na, kaya pag may lakikwento sa akin, Mars, na.
03:47Kayabe umiiyak nga ako sa ganito, ganito parang, ang galing mo.
03:50Kasi naiiyak mo yung sama ng loob mo or whatever.
03:54Parang, I feel like ang galing-galing nila to be able to, you know,
03:58show their emotions right away.
03:59Just like that, freely express themselves.
04:02Wow, weird!
04:03O BJ, alam mo na, pag matagal sa CRC si Camille.
04:05Baka doon na, doon na muna nag-hoose na ka na.
04:09Correct, correct.
04:10Yung kalungkutan.
04:11Ganon.
04:12Tapos na ba yung frustrated?
04:14Hindi pa.
04:14Hindi pa.
04:15When I get frustrated, I talk to my husband.
04:18Kasi siya naman talaga yung sounding board and voice of reason ko.
04:21So parang pag, kunwari, may bagay na either gustong-gustong talagang gawin
04:26or nag-fail ako sa kanya, hindi na ako sanayin nag-fail.
04:30Kasi, alam mo yun.
04:32You're doing your best at everything.
04:33Yun eh.
04:34Kaya pag na-frustrate ako, kunwari, when I cook, tapos hindi siya umuokit.
04:37Tapos parang sabihin ko, taon na ako nagluluto, taon.
04:41Tapos papalpak pa rin.
04:42I'm so frustrated.
04:43It's a recipe.
04:44Kunwari, paella, frustration ko yan.
04:46As in.
04:48Kaya pag ganun na, hindi, masalap naman siya.
04:50Kasi bibigay siya ng constructive criticism.
04:52Na parang, siguro next time, you can cook the rice a little longer or a little less or mga ganyan.
04:56So gina yung yung way na tutunan.
04:58Pero siya naman, lagi niya ako yung na comfort na,
05:00we appreciate what you're doing.
05:02So kung ano man yung kalabasa niya paminsan kahit hindi siya win na win,
05:05basta kami yung fact na parang pinagluto mo kami, okay na mo ka niya.
05:08That's nice, pao.
05:11Sweet.
05:11Ayan naman.
05:13Round two.
05:14When I'm angry, I talk real loud.
05:17Lakas ng boses ko.
05:19Talaga.
05:20Tsaka yung hindi ko siya napipigilan.
05:21Umaangat lang siya nung umaangat ng umaangat.
05:24Okay, okay.
05:24Kasi hindi ko na nahahalata na,
05:25even pag, kunwari, nagkakwento lang kay Paolo ng small things.
05:28Kunwari, so anyway, so diretsyo naman ako mag-manail.
05:31Tapos nag-cut ba naman sa akin.
05:32Kano'n sabi ko, ano to?
05:34Tapos mag-isa siya ito, nage-escalate yung boy.
05:36Bumaboy yung up.
05:37Tapos yung parang, to the point that parang kaya't ako na bibingi na ako doon sa lakas nung,
05:42buong sarili mo.
05:43Tapos parang okal.
05:44Ang hinamagsalita niyo parang okal ma.
05:46Mananano ko na pag binababaan din niya yung tone niya yung voice niya,
05:49signal ko na rin niya na parang, okay, relax.
05:52Kasi narile up ka din as you get more and more into your anger.
05:55Naaalala mo yung pangyayari.
05:56Ang lakas ng boses.
05:59Kaya, ikaw Mars!
06:01Okay ako na nga ito.
06:02Kasi lahat ng sagot ko dito, I cry eh.
06:05Kaya dito na ako sa, when I feel jealous, yun nga, I keep quiet.
06:10Tatahimik ako, tapos...
06:12Hindi ka nagaal sa balutan.
06:13Tumatahimik ako, tapos kapag nag-usap ka kami, sarcastic na yung sagot ko.
06:17Parang gagawa na ako ng paraan na maipasok ko yung pinagsiselosan ko.
06:22Kaya nagsiselosan ko, ina-sarkastic ko yun na, saan galing yun?
06:26May kasi...
06:27Yung gano'y na-reaction, parang, ha?
06:29Saan galing? Parang hindi naman connect yun sila.
06:30Well, sa aking connect siya.
06:31So, i-figure out muna lang kung paano nangyari yun na.
06:33Umabot na yung sinabi ko, dun sa sinabi mo.
06:35For seeing it, bye!
06:37Gano'n!
06:38It's mechanism!
06:39Oo!
06:40Gano'n siya.
06:41Kaya, ayan.
06:42Mabipiguro na na, ah!
06:43Bothered siya dun sa ganito, gano'n.
06:45But I think, at...
06:46Kapag gano'n ka magselos, I think,
06:48makikitan sa'yo yung pinagsiselosan ko.
06:50Kaya gano'n.
06:51Hindi yun yung gusto kong ma-achieve eh.
06:53Ah!
06:54Kasi when I was watching you, parang, ang cute!
06:56Hahaha!
06:57Dahil hindi ko yung asawa niya.
06:59Oo!
07:00Kasi, parang, oh my gosh!
07:02Ano yung ginawa ko?
07:03Ba't gano'n yung tabas nun, di ba?
07:04Iba yung, ano, delivery eh.
07:06Parang, nagiging sobrang sarcastic ako, Mars.
07:08Sarcastic.
07:09Sarcastic to a point na it's...
07:11Probably annoying on his part.
07:13Right.
07:14Kaya ganyan ka sumagot?
07:15Tapos, wala ka lang makukuwang matinong sagot sa'kin.
07:17Oh my gosh!
07:18Puro lang kakabuisip ng lahat nung isasagot ko pabalik.
07:20Kasi katulad siyami mo kanina, Ate Gaye, parang, naakaya na maaminin na nagsiselos ka.
07:24So, parang, kung ano-ano yung ibang emotions yung ginagamit mo to mask that feeling.
07:28Yes!
07:29Iniikutan mo yung jealousy, di dito-dito ka.
07:31Yes!
07:32Kasi, parang, shucks!
07:33Ibig sabihin, parang, kung nagsiselos ako, parang, na-insecure ako.
07:35Hindi ako papayag.
07:36Yeah!
07:37Hindi ako papayag, gano'n.
07:38Oo!
07:39Ang komplikated ang feelings sa mga paon!
07:40So, hard saka, jealousy, it's such a hard emotion to show.
07:45Yeah, totoo.
07:46Yeah, totoo.
07:47Ate Gaye!
07:48Ah!
07:49Ano yung sa'yo, Ate Gaye?
07:50When I feel hungry, ay, nakalala.
07:52I don't like that.
07:53Natutulala ako.
07:54I eat suman.
07:55When I am sad.
07:57Ayan.
07:58Snape!
07:59Ano ba ito, charot?
08:00Nakatulog ako.
08:03Ha?
08:04Nakakatulog ka?
08:06Nakakatulog ako pag sad ako eh.
08:08Parang hirap ko.
08:09Pero dahil iyak hanggat nakatulog ka.
08:11Okay, yes.
08:12Tapos pag nagising mo.
08:13Tapos, pray pray ganyan.
08:15Kurish.
08:16O, let's say, kaw naman.
08:17Kaw naman.
08:18Armia, hindi napunut this round.
08:19No.
08:20Si English era na.
08:21When I feel young.
08:22When I feel young.
08:23Ah!
08:24Ba't yung napalagi ingles, balik bayan ka?
08:27Hindi.
08:28My dad's British.
08:29Lindsay Johnson niya.
08:30Ha?
08:31Your dad is British.
08:32Ah!
08:33Ayun na iinggit ako laging ingles.
08:34Tira ka daw sa kanila, tagi.
08:36Toto nga.
08:37Totoo.
08:38I'm just frustrated.
08:39When I'm sad na lang din.
08:41When I'm sad.
08:42When I'm sad, wala akong kinakausap.
08:45Nagkukulong ulit ako.
08:47Nagkukulong ulit ako.
08:48When I'm sad, it's also...
08:49I think, honestly, lahat ng mga negative feelings for me are very dangerous.
08:53When I'm sad, kung ano nung pumapasok na sa isip ko.
08:57That's true.
08:58Wala akong kinakausap.
08:59Because when I'm sad, actually sa lahat yata nang nandito, I think I would've said I pray.
09:04Because it's really hard talaga.
09:06I don't know how to confront it.
09:08Especially, ayoko na may kausapin ako.
09:10Because...
09:11I like it when someone listens to what I have to say.
09:13Yung parang may nangyari sa akin.
09:15And then, I just wanna talk about it.
09:17Pero ayoko na parang...
09:18I'm not the type na parang...
09:20I wanna hear your advice.
09:21What should I do?
09:22More like, please listen to me.
09:24I just need to bring this out.
09:25Right.
09:26And then you'll be okay na.
09:27And get it off my chest.
09:28And I'll feel okay again.
09:29Because when someone parang magbibigay pa ng opinion.
09:31So like, am I wrong?
09:32What am I doing wrong?
09:33Is it my fault again?
09:34Oh, sorry.
09:35Is it...
09:36Kasalaan ko na naman ba ito?
09:37Did I do something wrong?
09:38Ganon.
09:39So I don't talk to anyone.
09:40So I don't talk to anyone when I'm sad.
09:42Okay.
09:43But I like process it on my own.
09:45Para it's really more fixed.
09:48Pero meron ka bang kunari...
09:50Kaibigan...
09:51O parent...
09:52O kamag-anak na...
09:53Pag kunari kailangan mo talaga ng advice.
09:55Yung talaga you're stumped.
09:56My brother.
09:58Okay.
09:59Kambal tawag...
10:00At kini tawagan namin.
10:01Because...
10:02Um...
10:03Personality...
10:04And sa pag-iisip...
10:05We're kinda like...
10:06And he's older than you?
10:07Yes po.
10:08My older brother.
10:09Oh...
10:10He's the only one I rely on.
10:11He's handsome!
10:12He's handsome!
10:13Yiyempre!
10:14Yiyempre!
10:15Sa pabang kukuha ng...
10:16I don't think I'm gonna curse on you.
10:17I don't think I'm gonna curse on you.
10:18The definition of handsome.
10:19A check of the picture.
10:20A check of the best!
10:21I put it in my bag!
10:22A check of the picture!
10:23Later!
10:24Later!
10:25It's a break!
10:26Oh!
10:27Because what is the emotion?
10:28Lalo na pag kunari...
10:29Malakas yang emotion.
10:30Yes.
10:31Malungkot siya or...
10:32Yung pag-free ka nga naman, no?
10:34And saka yung...
10:35You feel a lot better.
10:36Magpadala sa emotion.
10:37Yes.
10:38I mean it's hard of course.
10:39Pero minsan kasi may mga bagay tayong nagagawa.
10:42Nasasabi na pinagsisisihan natin.
10:43Oh!
10:44Because they are driven by emotion.
10:45So siguro,
10:46we should also practice to control them.
10:48Yes.
10:49Kasi dapat hindi yung emotion yung nagkocontrol sa atin.
10:52I love it.
10:53Well said, Mars.
10:54Samatala, ito na guys.
10:56Thank you so much, guys!
10:57Thank you!
10:58Thank you!
10:59Pag nalakot kya, sayo-sayo lalad tayo.
11:01Yiyempre!
11:02Saka bando tayo sa comedy bar!
11:03Exactly!
11:05Dancing is another way to replace bad vibes with good energy.
11:08And after the break,
11:09that is exactly what we're gonna do.
11:11Ikaambot natin yan sa pag-umalik ng...
11:13Mars!
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