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90 Day Fiance: The Other Way - Season 7 Episode 14 -
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00:00Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:03So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:07What the f***?
00:08What's he doing?
00:10He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:12What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:16My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:20And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:23I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:30Show me that you can take care of yourself here, please.
00:33All right.
00:34I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:39a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:42Okay.
00:42Okay.
00:48That's mom.
00:49She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:54She calls every day.
00:57It's not normal.
00:58I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:01I know, but baby...
01:01You guys act like best friends.
01:02You're saying, is it resolved?
01:04You're saying, you know what, mom, the key is right.
01:08The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:13I don't think I love you anymore.
01:18We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:48Okay.
01:49You ready?
01:50Yes.
01:55Sorry.
01:56A bit hard.
01:56Okay.
01:58Oh!
02:01Don't worry about the ball.
02:02Okay.
02:03You want me to keep going?
02:04Yeah.
02:04I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:12Ah!
02:13And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone, because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:22I've got one for Tia.
02:24Oh.
02:26Fairly love.
02:26I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:31She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:33I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:38Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:39Okay.
02:40My point.
02:46Party love.
02:48I suck!
02:51Oh, God.
02:51She kicked my ass.
02:52Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:00Just like, ugh.
03:01Are you thirsty?
03:03Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:04Let's go.
03:04Let's have a break.
03:07I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe, because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:13And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:17Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:21It's a beautiful place.
03:23Oh, thanks for coming.
03:25Yeah.
03:29To be honest with you, Joe, like the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:37No.
03:37Because I don't want to come office.
03:38I'm very open.
03:39Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:41Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:43Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, but Tia's going to be moving here?
03:50Even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:54Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it.
03:58But he did say, Mom, but Tia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:05Did you say that?
04:06I did.
04:07Yeah.
04:08Yeah.
04:09So I was concerned about that.
04:11I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:13I know, that's horrible.
04:14It's how I felt.
04:15Yeah, I know.
04:15I thought it was horrible, too.
04:18That's just screwy.
04:19Because I don't mean you any harm.
04:21I know.
04:21I want you both to be happy.
04:22No, seriously, I do.
04:24I've never, ever resented you.
04:25Oh, I did, because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:31Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:32The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:39Well, I stopped spending.
04:40You say you've stopped spending.
04:44You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:45Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:49So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:51He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
04:58Yes, I feel like he owes me that.
05:01Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:05That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:08But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:14This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:19Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:23First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:25She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:27I really need for her to back off.
05:30I wanted to say something else.
05:32In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:39Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:42So that's still bothering you?
05:44Yes.
05:46Oh, my God.
05:47But I thought we all got past that.
05:48Yes, we did get past that.
05:49But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:51Yeah, I want to like get past it.
05:55It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:00But isn't that a good thing?
06:01Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:04Yes.
06:04Because you're important to him?
06:05Yes, but unless it's an emergency, you know.
06:08I don't know about that.
06:09Yes, I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:13I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:15Oh, you're joking.
06:18No.
06:20Here's the deal.
06:21I'm not needy.
06:22I'm not needy in any relationships.
06:23I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:25So I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:29I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:34I think that problem lies within her.
06:37I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that, though.
06:41Asking me not to call doesn't seem normal or natural, but I mean, I'll do it.
06:47That makes you happy, and if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:50It will.
06:50But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night and say, what do you want, Dylan?
06:53And he wants to chat.
06:54So it's not just me.
06:56It could be yes.
06:56You better get in his ear, too.
06:57Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:21Benny's sleeping on Grandpa tonight.
07:23You can probably sleep all night on their bed, since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:27Yeah.
07:29So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:32I have no idea.
07:34My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the go farm.
07:43So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:47And this is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
07:55But of course, earlier today, we had a fight.
07:59So I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:03Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:06It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:09That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:11I can do them for you.
08:13How does your mom got nail polish?
08:15Okay, not a good joke either, but that's fine.
08:18It's not a joke.
08:19It's how you save money.
08:21And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:22No.
08:23All right.
08:24Oh, my God.
08:26So what you want to say about this afternoon?
08:29There's nothing to say.
08:30We're on the same page.
08:32We got it.
08:32We're good.
08:33What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:35Earlier today, when we were down in this, like, historic part of Marseille, there was
08:42this little shop that had some seashell earrings, and she didn't have her purse on her, and
08:48she was asking if I had my wallet.
08:50And I said I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
08:55I'm, like, coming from this, like, sense of you spend money all the time, there's no
08:59money coming in, and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:02And then me, being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as
09:10we're leaving the shop to show her, and I shouldn't have done that.
09:18I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now
09:22because I have something planned.
09:24Voilà .
09:24Or something like that.
09:25And even 30 bucks?
09:27Okay.
09:27I know you're saying $30.
09:29It wasn't just $30.
09:30Max 100, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you would
09:35have said, can you don't buy them, or can you buy just one piece, I would have not pushed
09:40you.
09:42Really?
09:43Yes, really.
09:45Stop assuming that I am a bitch.
09:48What do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:51You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:57Hmm?
09:57I like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some
10:02really bad s**t and I just don't want to go.
10:04Oh wow, so you have more stuff to say to me?
10:06Do I have more stuff?
10:06It's like, what about you?
10:08Your apologies?
10:10Huh?
10:10Like we can, this can go on all day of like you, me, you, me.
10:14It can.
10:14I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:20I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything and Manon does not hear how,
10:24you know, she comes across to me.
10:26We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from
10:32L.A.
10:32And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:36My family's over there.
10:38My only support system is her and there's none.
10:45I apologized.
10:46I said where I'm coming from.
10:48But.
10:48But like I said.
10:49But.
10:49You would invalidate the way I felt about it, which you did.
10:54I don't invalidate.
10:57You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:03Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the moment
11:07and I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies and get on my knees and beg for
11:13your forgiveness.
11:15I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:17You just don't.
11:20You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:23Just like you do.
11:24Because it's how I feel.
11:25Like divorcing.
11:26Oh, we're not compatible.
11:26Go find someone that's good for you.
11:27Because you make me feel this way.
11:29Mm-hmm.
11:30Putain.
11:32You just don't care about losing me then.
11:34You just don't care about saving us then.
11:37You just don't care about me.
11:38Period.
11:42When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:45Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:48And is it even possible for us to be happy long-term if we are that different?
11:52I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:00But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:04I cannot change for you.
12:12I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:15Today's a big day.
12:16We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:18To legalize your status in Naruba, it'll take approximately five months.
12:22Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:26Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:29Not...
12:30Not at all.
12:31Is it a dog?
12:59Don't tell me.
13:01It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:06Looks like a dog, didn't I?
13:07No.
13:08Oh, thank God.
13:09Relax.
13:12When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:16that I feel like really put both of us in a taste like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:20this done.
13:20So today is a big day.
13:22We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
13:23And hopefully you can give me some really good information and what steps we should take
13:28next.
13:38Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:39The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:44I've known people that have done it before.
13:47First thing is partnership papers.
13:49And then for the job, we have to find an employer that wants to hire her and willing to pay for
13:53her work permit.
13:54I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
13:57Yes.
13:57We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:05to cost.
14:06And we're very interested in a work permit because without work, I have no money.
14:11So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:15The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:20Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:24Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:27How much would the permits cost?
14:30How long is it going to take?
14:33It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:37When you marry, he can bring you in automatically.
14:41And the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal.
14:46But it can go very fast.
14:49The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:53But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
14:59Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:04to Aruba.
15:05Well, there's the bad news.
15:06I knew that was too good to be true.
15:08If you married, there's no problem.
15:11But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:15Yeah, how long would it take if we didn't file the partnership papers for me to be able
15:20to work?
15:21After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you
15:27to get a job.
15:28The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:33Yeah, that's a long time.
15:34That's a long time, I know.
15:36With a marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:40But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:42Right.
15:43No, it's not a little step, you know, it's a big step.
15:50I'm shocked.
15:52This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
15:57And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:04In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:10My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to
16:16just break my trust again.
16:19So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:22Not at all.
16:24Not in the slightest.
16:25Jonathan and I have talked about getting married, and he's definitely someone that I
16:46see myself marrying, but there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:52But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
16:58When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:02I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:04Maybe we should just go for it.
17:06Be honest.
17:33Be honest, like truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:40Thank you for being honest.
17:57Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:00Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:03Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:05But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:17And, like, I love you as a person.
18:21And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:24Like, I just, like, I just, like, I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself
18:35that I just, like, need to know about before I can commit to someone.
18:41I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:52It's been three or four days here.
19:02I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:06Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:12Just get somewhere.
19:13Just feel it out.
19:15No commitment.
19:18I think there's something to explore still.
19:21I really do.
19:24But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:28Like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:35I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:43I was not being very affectionate.
19:44I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:47I wasn't calling you as much.
19:48I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:50And I've been, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decided to see each other in person again.
19:57And then, like, then I would know.
20:00We've only seen each other with a camera crew around us.
20:03It doesn't have to do with the camera.
20:07Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:13I just know it in my gut.
20:14Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:17Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:20Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:28Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:33You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:39These things build up over time.
20:44And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:51There is so much life still ahead of us.
20:54Yeah, I know.
20:57I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:05Every single second day.
21:07I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you.
21:33And how we helped each other grow.
21:38And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:43And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:45That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:56When I put that ring on her finger,
21:59I never intended to take it back.
22:03Well, what do we do now?
22:14We just move forward.
22:20Our individual ways.
22:21I'm sorry.
22:30I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:32I'm going to go to a hotel, I guess.
23:01Greta is always chasing a frill in life.
23:13And I think the roller coaster just ended.
23:17All right.
23:26Grab your bag.
23:28Oh, no.
23:29What the f*** is this?
23:32I was definitely not expecting a...
23:34A sex dungeon.
23:35Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon.
23:37Just there's no windows.
23:39And it's soundproof.
23:41Oh.
23:41You say, I don't care about you.
24:04It's complete bulls***.
24:05I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case.
24:11Are we getting out?
24:19Right on.
24:20I mean, it's been a while
24:21since we had any alone time to be intimate.
24:26And I was looking forward to having, like, this nice time.
24:29And now we're walking up to the hotel,
24:31not in a good headspace.
24:37Love room?
24:39Oh, no.
24:43What the f*** is this?
24:45Check it out.
24:55Oh, wow.
24:56That is cool.
24:57Uh-huh.
24:58That's a good s*** jacuzzi, huh?
25:00Uh-huh.
25:01Cool.
25:03Cool.
25:04It's just there's no windows.
25:05That's the thing that's freaking me out right now.
25:07And it's soundproof.
25:09Oh.
25:10When I was asking Antoni for a sexy, romantic night away,
25:17I was definitely not expecting a, um,
25:22how can I put it without, uh, being, uh, um, insensitive?
25:28A sex dungeon.
25:29Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon.
25:31Thank you exactly.
25:33Well, it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon.
25:36What a love room for you.
25:38Love room.
25:40Oh, okay.
25:41A strip bowl.
25:42Okay.
25:43I get it.
25:45The effort was, it's still better than mine.
25:47So, thank you.
25:49Okay.
25:51Um, so, I have a surprise for you.
25:54Oh, another one.
25:55So, you stay over here, and I'll get that ready.
25:59Okay.
26:01Manon loves the fact that I was in the military.
26:05I mean, I think she just loves a uniform.
26:08I'm scared.
26:09So, I decided to dust off my old army of fatigues.
26:14That will at least, at a minimum, put a smile on her face,
26:18which I think is a stepping stone to having a better night.
26:22What is he doing?
26:24You ready?
26:25What the f***?
26:32What is it?
26:32It's what you want.
26:34Yeah, but you always said you would never wear it.
26:36You hate it.
26:38I'm doing it for you.
26:39And opportunity awaits.
26:42With the outfit.
26:42Oh, yeah.
26:43Let's go.
26:46Come on.
26:47Can it hold my weight?
26:49Oh, Peter.
26:50You ready?
26:51I'm not.
26:55Yeah.
26:57Oh, my God.
26:58Oh, I'm thinking there.
26:59I'm going to break it.
27:00Oh, my God.
27:01What's the military boy?
27:03You can't look like, oh, I put like this pose.
27:05Oh, yeah.
27:06What?
27:06Yeah, hey, that's what you want.
27:08Ooh.
27:09Ooh.
27:13Ooh, yeah.
27:14Oh, yeah.
27:16You're a very, very rare breed.
27:19It's just very cute.
27:21It's very sexy.
27:22It's very cute.
27:23Okay, let's go.
27:23Let's go to the other time.
27:25You're a nice guy.
27:26It's nice.
27:26I love that.
27:27I'm a nice guy.
27:28Yeah, you are.
27:28Yeah, anyway, and I'm the bad girl.
27:31We always know that.
27:32I'm the bad girl.
27:33I'm the crazy one.
27:34I'm the loud one, the big one.
27:36You know, I take space.
27:37We know that.
27:38Dramatic, emotional.
27:39I'm not dramatic.
27:42You are very sexy, my dear soldier.
27:45Yeah, but you are also very sexy.
27:48I'm sure.
27:49You are?
27:50Mm-hmm.
27:50Mm-hmm.
27:52You're welcome.
27:53Mm-hmm.
27:58I'm really happy with Anthony doing the effort, and the thing is like, you know, when we are
28:04good, we are good.
28:05He makes me feel good.
28:06He loves me and everything.
28:08It's just made me feel more like, okay, my heart can be full of joy, full of love.
28:13I'm home, which is Anthony.
28:15Anthony is my home.
28:16Well, also that, je t'aime beaucoup, beaucoup.
28:29Oh, my God.
28:33Are you ready to get married?
28:37I'm hesitating.
28:39Is this something really she wants, you know?
28:42I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
28:44I'm hungry.
29:03I'm actually starving.
29:04If I could make a bitch here for this, it's only you and me.
29:14I want my sweet potato fries.
29:18What are you going to eat with that?
29:19Oh, the Caesar salad with shrimp.
29:21Okay.
29:22So what did you think about the law firm today?
29:25I think we got really useful information out of it.
29:28Yeah.
29:30Earlier today, we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working
29:37and be legal here if we just got married.
29:42I don't know how my mom will react when we tell her, like, it could be potentially eight
29:46months before I can work.
29:47It definitely probably will be a I told you so moment.
29:50We definitely did not see that one coming.
29:53Oh, God.
29:54You know, what is that going to look like for us in the meantime if I can't work?
29:59You know, I don't want to put it on you.
30:03The eight, nine months, no problem me taking care of you.
30:07The problem I have is the lifestyle that you like to live.
30:10You like to go out, have drinks, go to dinners and stuff like that.
30:14I can't support that aspect.
30:17No, I understand.
30:18Everything else I can help you with.
30:20You would have to be patient.
30:22Oh, I understand that.
30:24I think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point.
30:28Regardless, we're going to be waiting around.
30:30Yeah.
30:31But if I marry you, it's in two weeks.
30:35Well, are you ready to get married?
30:41Yeah, I am.
30:42I'm hesitated.
30:43I'm already at an age that I'm ready to get married.
30:45Well, it's not about age.
30:46It's about me.
30:47Like, you can marry anyone at any age.
30:48No, but, like, I'm looking for someone to marry.
30:52And I really, really love you, so I would expect you to be the person I want to marry.
30:58But I don't know if you're ready for that, because you're very young.
31:02Why?
31:03You're nine years younger than me, though.
31:06I don't know if you still want to live life and party and all that, you know?
31:10I wouldn't say that I'm not ready.
31:13I think we just have some work to do, you know?
31:19You know, of course, the marriage is a much easier option, but, you know, is this something
31:27really she wants, you know?
31:28Because partnership papers is one thing, you know?
31:30If it goes bad, hey, you know, we go separate ways.
31:33But if you marry somebody, it's much easier to get married than to get divorced.
31:38I think you're very concerned about, like, you're so young and you shouldn't settle down
31:42and this, but I think the way I grew up and, like, how blessed I was to travel and do all
31:47the things that I have, like, I feel so comfortable with the life that I have lived, and I've never
31:52felt like how I feel with you with anyone else.
31:54So why would I want to, like, put this on the back burner and not go all in?
32:00Like, I'm already where I want to be.
32:02Like, I'm still going to have martini nights, obviously, but I would like to have a martini
32:06night and then come home, like, to you.
32:08So I just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into.
32:15I'm going to tell you right now, it's not going to be easy.
32:18And I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
32:23Because I've been through that situation before, and I'm not trying to compare you to anybody.
32:28But, you know, like, I was in a relationship for a very, very long time, and I gave that
32:31person everything, and that person, at the end of the day, left me for something easier.
32:35So I don't think it's only you risking everything, I'm also risking life.
32:44I think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that I'm not ready to get married, because
32:48he doesn't actually know how I feel.
32:51In my eyes, I mean, I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs, and I feel that I'm ready
32:57to get married.
32:59I think if I thought in my head, this isn't going to work, I would have already left.
33:02And I'm telling you that I'm more than okay with it.
33:05So don't have this, you know...
33:08Second doubt.
33:10Of me, exactly, of me.
33:11If every day you show me that you love me and you care for me, then I won't have that
33:15doubt in my mind.
33:18They already gave up my entire life and moved to another country, so there's nothing else
33:23I could really give up to prove to him how much I do love him.
33:26I know it's fast, and we definitely have our issues, but to me, this feels right.
33:32Well, I think at the end of the day, it's something to think about, so we can be together
33:36in the end.
33:38We'll figure it out.
33:39Every day, you have to talk to your mom.
33:46It's ridiculous.
33:48You're just trying to destroy everything.
33:49I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
33:53You better start picking your battles, because you're just going to be nagging me until we're
33:56both dead.
33:57Hi, babe.
34:19Hi.
34:19How are you?
34:21How was the game?
34:21We had a ball, didn't we?
34:23Yes, we did.
34:24She did.
34:25She kicked my ass.
34:26Oh, not really.
34:27We're both winners on the day.
34:29She's really good.
34:31Okay, guys.
34:31I've got to be somewhere.
34:33We'll catch up another day?
34:35Yes.
34:35Okay, see ya.
34:36Bye.
34:37It's good to see you.
34:38You too.
34:38And thank you.
34:39Thanks for the hit.
34:39We'll do it again.
34:42After tennis, I feel a lot better.
34:44I finally got all the issues off my chest.
34:48Other side.
34:50Remember, we're in Australia.
34:51Huh?
34:52Of course.
34:53Where are you going?
34:54Oh, wait.
34:55Yeah.
34:55I'm sorry.
34:56I'm still trying to get used to the side.
35:01She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much.
35:05So, maybe it's not all on her.
35:08But I'm glad we talked about it.
35:10And hopefully things can be different moving forward.
35:12We had a good tennis match.
35:15She kicked my ass.
35:17It's been a long time since I've played.
35:19She might have had to get some frustration out.
35:21Yeah.
35:22At least she didn't hit me with the ball.
35:24I was expecting her to hit me with the ball a couple of times.
35:29Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother?
35:33I feel like it's resolved.
35:35I just said, you know, like, maybe she not calls so much.
35:38Twice a week.
35:39Twice a week.
35:40But not every day, three times a day.
35:42That's too much.
35:43What do you think about that?
35:47You feel like you're bothered by that a little bit?
35:51It's your great idea.
35:53It's not a great idea for me.
35:54Okay.
35:54Because we enjoy having a chat here and there.
35:56Yeah, but if it bothers your partner, then how is that enjoyable?
36:00It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:03It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:33Can't you just work on, like, getting over that?
36:36Can't you work on, like, helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
36:43Since I was a little kid, mum and I have always been close.
36:47And Patia has never really been close to her mum.
36:50So she doesn't understand that closeness.
36:54I think Patia feels fearful that my mum is going to influence me in some way
37:01or take me away from Patia in some way.
37:04But if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem,
37:08then I don't really know what to say.
37:11I mean, if I'm asking, if I'm saying, hey, babe, you're talking to your mum too freaking much,
37:17you should be like, well, what?
37:18And then what if she dies?
37:20How would you feel?
37:21She's not going to die.
37:23She's freaking healthy.
37:23She's pushing 70.
37:25Babe, she plays tennis every day.
37:26Are you kidding?
37:27She's freaking healthy.
37:29I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
37:32I think that's really, like, that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that
37:37over all things in life.
37:39You're worried about that.
37:40Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have?
37:45You got me into it.
37:46I've already talked to you about it.
37:47Yes, you did.
37:48No, it's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life.
37:50I get the blame for it.
37:51Yes, you caused me a lot of money.
37:53No, I didn't cause you anything.
37:54I saved you money.
37:55Oh, you did not save me money.
37:59Are you kidding me?
38:00You've got lots of issues.
38:02Big, big, big spending issues.
38:04Excuse me, Mr. Controlling.
38:05You have a lot of issues.
38:07You're very controlling.
38:10You're always, like, trying to tell me what to do.
38:11It's always, like, my way or the highway.
38:13You know what?
38:14I think that's the call in the care of black because you're the most controlling one of us all.
38:19You love controlling me.
38:21Absolutely.
38:22You're always, like, trying to tell me what to do.
38:23And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother, because you like to manipulate, influence, and control me.
38:27And when I speak to her, you feel like she's, you know, taking that away from you.
38:34You're just trying to destroy everything.
38:36I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
38:39No, but I'm going to abandon you.
38:40You know, freaking respect my wishes.
38:44Dylan tells me I'm controlling.
38:46I'm like, what?
38:47How am I controlling?
38:49You're the controlling one.
38:50Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist.
38:54It's always about him.
38:55You know, it's my way or the highway.
38:58It's so annoying.
39:00Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not, his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
39:06I don't know how much longer I can take this.
39:09It's not that hard.
39:11You keep fighting me on it, which makes it worse.
39:13Well, it's like, obviously, my relationship with my mom is not going to change.
39:17So, you better start picking your battles, because you're just picking this battle, and you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead.
39:24And we're going to have a miserable life.
39:26Things are clearly not going well, and there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about, and I think it might make it worse.
39:39Next time on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
39:42Let me get you some change.
39:45How much money you have given back?
39:46Oh.
39:47You've given them all the change I've given to you.
39:51You haven't charged anybody?
39:52She's saying, I don't know how Indian money works.
39:54It's a basic man.
39:56If you buy something for $60, if somebody pays you $100, it's easy.
40:00Give them $40 back.
40:01I don't understand the change.
40:05So, I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
40:11I do feel alone, and it's starting to hit me that I am alone.
40:15The last thing I want is for you and Greta to split up some things that we're fighting for.
40:19I am upset with Greta, but I really want them to work out.
40:25I think you should have a talk with her.
40:28When I met with Dorian, we already started working together on the skincare brand, and we need to invest money.
40:40We're trying to buy a home, and I feel like this is going to set a lot of things back.
40:46You working and living at your parents, how much time before you crack?
40:52What's wrong?
40:57I feel so dizzy.
41:00You okay?
41:00No.
41:02This is not the way I want to start my weekend wedding.
41:07I'm going to nurse her.
41:13I say no, no, no, I'm not pregnant, I'm not pregnant.
41:17Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
41:19I told you so many times, we even be careful when we have sex.
41:23I told you so many times, we even be careful when we have sex.
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