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90 Day Fiance: The Other Way - Season 7 Episode 14 -
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00:00Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:03So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:06What the f***?
00:10He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:12What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:16My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:20And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:23I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:29Chloe, show me that you can take care of yourself here, please.
00:33All right.
00:34I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:39a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:42Okay.
00:42Okay.
00:48That's mom.
00:49She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:54She calls every day.
00:56It's not normal.
00:59I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:01I know, but baby...
01:01You guys act like best friends.
01:02You're saying, is it resolved?
01:04You're saying, you know what, mom, but she is right.
01:09The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:13I don't think I love you anymore.
01:18We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:48Okay.
01:49You ready?
01:50Yes.
01:55Sorry.
01:56A bit hard.
01:56Okay.
01:58Oh!
02:01Don't worry about the ball.
02:02Okay.
02:03You want me to keep going?
02:04Yeah.
02:04I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:12Ah!
02:13And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:21I've got one for Tia.
02:24Oh!
02:26Fertie love.
02:27I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:31She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:33I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:38Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:39Okay.
02:40My point.
02:46What do you love?
02:48I suck!
02:49Oh, God.
02:51She kicked my ass at tennis.
02:57Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:00Just like, oh, God.
03:01Are you thirsty?
03:03Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:04Let's go.
03:04Have a break.
03:05I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:13And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:17Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:21It's a beautiful place.
03:23Oh, thanks for coming.
03:25Yeah.
03:25To be honest with you, Joe, like, the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:36No.
03:37Because I don't want to come off as...
03:38I'm very open.
03:39Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:41Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:43Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:53Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:05Did you say that?
04:06I did.
04:07Yeah.
04:08Yeah.
04:09So I was concerned about that.
04:11I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:13I know, that's horrible.
04:14It's how I felt.
04:15Yeah, I know.
04:15I thought it was horrible too.
04:18That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:21I know.
04:21I want you both to be happy.
04:22No, seriously, I do.
04:24I never, ever resented you.
04:25Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:31Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:32The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:39Well, I stopped spending.
04:40You say you've stopped spending.
04:44You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:45Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:47So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:51He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
04:58Yes.
04:58I feel like he owes me that.
05:00Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:05That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:08But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:14This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:19Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:23First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:25She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:27I really need for her to back off.
05:30I wanted to say something else.
05:33In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:39Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:42So that's still bothering you?
05:44Yes.
05:46Oh, my God.
05:47But I thought we got past that.
05:48Yes, we did get past that.
05:49But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:51Yeah.
05:51Yeah.
05:52I want to get past it.
05:55It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:00But isn't that a good thing?
06:01Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:04Yes.
06:04Because you're important to him?
06:05Yes.
06:06But unless it's an emergency, you know?
06:08I don't know about that.
06:09Yes.
06:09I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:13I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:16Oh, you're joking.
06:17No.
06:20Here's the deal.
06:21I'm not needy.
06:22I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:23So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:25So I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:29I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:34I think that problem lies within her.
06:37I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that, though.
06:41Asking me not to call.
06:44Doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:46But I mean, I'll do it.
06:47I know.
06:47That makes you happy.
06:48And if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:50It will.
06:50But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night.
06:52I'll say, what do you want, Dil?
06:53And he wants to chat.
06:54So it's not just me.
06:56It could be yes.
06:56You better get in his ear, too.
07:19Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:21Benny's sleeping on Grandpa tonight.
07:23You can probably sleep all night on their bed, since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:27Yeah.
07:29So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:32I have no idea.
07:34My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this, like, grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the goat farm.
07:43So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:47But this is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
07:55But, of course, earlier today, we had a fight.
07:59So I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:02Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:06It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:09That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:12I can do them for you.
08:13Has your mom got nail polish?
08:15Okay, not a good joke either.
08:17But that's fine.
08:18It's not a joke.
08:19It's how you save money.
08:21And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:22No.
08:23Great.
08:24Oh, my God.
08:24So what do you want to say about this afternoon?
08:29There's nothing to say.
08:30We're on the same page.
08:32We got it.
08:32We're good.
08:33What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:37Earlier today, when we were down in this, like, historic part of Marseille, there was this little shop that had some seashell earrings.
08:45And she didn't have her purse on her, and she was asking if I had my wallet.
08:50And I said I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
08:55I'm, like, coming from this, like, sense of you spend money all the time, there's no money coming in, and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:02And then me, being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as we're leaving the shop to show her, and I shouldn't have done that.
09:18I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now because I have something planned.
09:24Voilà.
09:24Or something like that.
09:25But even $20?
09:27Okay.
09:27I know you're saying $30.
09:28$100.
09:29It wasn't just $30.
09:30Max $100, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you would have said, can you don't buy them, or can you buy just one piece?
09:39I would have not pushed you.
09:42Really?
09:43Yes, really.
09:45Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:48Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:51You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:57Hmm?
09:57I, like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some really bad and I just don't want to go.
10:04Oh, wow.
10:04So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:06Do I have more stuff?
10:06It's like, what about you?
10:08Your apologies?
10:10Huh?
10:10Like, we can, this can go on all day of like, you, me, you, me.
10:14It can.
10:17I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:19I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything and Manon does not hear how, you know, she comes across to me.
10:26We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from L.A.
10:32And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:36My family's over there.
10:38My only support system is her and there's none.
10:45I apologized.
10:46I said where I'm coming from.
10:48But.
10:48But like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it.
10:52Which you did.
10:54I don't invalidate.
10:57You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:03Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the moment.
11:07And I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies.
11:11And get on my knees and beg for your forgiveness.
11:15I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:17You just don't.
11:20You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:23Just like you do.
11:24Because it's how I feel.
11:25Like divorcing.
11:25Oh, we're not compatible.
11:26Go find someone that's good for you.
11:27Because you make me feel this way.
11:29Mm-hmm.
11:30Putain.
11:32You just don't care about losing me then.
11:34You just don't care about saving us then.
11:36You just don't care about me.
11:38Period.
11:42When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:45Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:49Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
11:52I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:03But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:04I cannot change for you.
12:06I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:15Today is a big day.
12:16I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:18To legalize your status in Naruba, it'll take approximately five months.
12:22Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:26Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:29Not...
12:30Not at all.
12:31Is it a dog?
12:59Don't tell me.
13:01It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:06Looks like a dog, didn't it?
13:08No.
13:08Oh, thank God.
13:09Relax.
13:10When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:16that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:19this done.
13:20So today is a big day.
13:22We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
13:24And hopefully you can give me some really good information and what steps we should take
13:28next.
13:28Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:39The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:45I've known people that have done it before.
13:47First thing is partnership papers.
13:49And then for the job, we have to find an employer that wants to hire her and willing to pay for
13:53her work permit.
13:53I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
13:57Yes.
13:58We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:05to cost.
14:06And we're very interested in a work permit because without work, I have no money.
14:11So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:15The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:20Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:24Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:27How much would the permits cost?
14:30How long is it going to take?
14:33It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:37When you marry, he can bring you in automatically.
14:41And the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal, but it can go very
14:47fast.
14:48The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:54But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
14:59Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:04to Aruba.
15:05Well, there's the bad news.
15:06I knew that was too good to be true.
15:09If you married, there's no problem.
15:11But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:14Yeah, how long would it take if we did file the partnership papers for me to be able to
15:20work?
15:21After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you to
15:27get a job.
15:28The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:33That's a long time.
15:34That's a long time.
15:35I know.
15:36With a marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:40But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:42Right.
15:43No, it's not a little step.
15:45You know, it's a big step.
15:50I'm shocked.
15:52This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
15:58And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:03In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:10My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to
16:16just break my trust again.
16:19So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:22Not at all.
16:24Not in the slightest.
16:25Jonathan and I have talked about getting married and he's definitely someone that I
16:46see myself marrying, but there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:52But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
16:58When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:02I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:04Maybe we should just go for it.
17:22The honest truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:40Thank you for being honest.
17:57Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:01Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:03Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:05But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:17And, like, I love you as a person.
18:21And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:24I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself that I just, like, need to know
18:38about before I can commit to someone.
18:41I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:52It's been three or four days here.
19:02I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:06Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:12Just get somewhere.
19:13Just feel it out.
19:16No commitment.
19:17But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:28Like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:37I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:42I was not being very affectionate.
19:44I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:47I wasn't calling you as much.
19:48I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:50And I've been, like, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decided to see each other
19:56in person again and then, like, then I would know.
20:00We've only seen each other with a camera.
20:04It doesn't have to do with the cameras.
20:07Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:10I just know it in my gut.
20:14Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:16Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:20Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:28Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:32You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:39These things build up over time.
20:44And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:48There is so much life still ahead of us.
20:55Yeah, I know.
20:57I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:05Every single second.
21:07I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you
21:33and how we helped each other grow.
21:38And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:42And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:45That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:56When I put that ring on her finger,
22:00I never intended to take it back.
22:09Well, what do we do now?
22:10We just move forward.
22:20Our individual ways.
22:25I'm just...
22:26I'm sorry.
22:30I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:32Um, I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess.
23:01Gretta is always chasing a frill in life.
23:13And I think...
23:15the roller coaster just ended.
23:17all right grab your bag oh no what the is this i was definitely not expecting a a sex dungeon
23:35yeah i was not expecting a sex dungeon just there's no windows and it's soundproof
23:39oh
23:47i don't want you to change
23:57but it don't feel the same
24:01you say i don't care about you is complete bull
24:05i wouldn't be here in france if that was the case
24:08are we getting out
24:17right on i mean it's been a while since we had any alone time to be intimate and i was looking
24:27forward to having like this nice time and now we're walking up to the hotel not in a good headspace
24:32love room oh no
24:40what the is this
24:45check it out
24:54oh wow that is cool
24:56uh-huh
24:57that's a good jacuzzi huh
25:00uh-huh
25:01cool cool it's just there's no windows that's the thing that's freaking me out right now
25:06and it's soundproofed oh when i was asking antoni for a sexy romantic night away i was definitely
25:19not expecting a um how can i put it without uh being uh um insensitive a sex dungeon yeah i was not
25:30expecting a sex dungeon thank you exactly well it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon it's what a love
25:37room for you love room oh okay a strip bowl okay i get it the effort was it's still better than
25:46the mine so thank you okay um so i have a surprise for you oh so you stay over here and i'll get that
25:58ready okay manon loves the fact that i was in the military i mean i think she just loves the uniform
26:08i'm scared so i decided to dust off my old army of fatigues
26:14that will at least at a minimum put a smile on her face which i think is a stepping stone to having a
26:21better night what is he doing what is it's what you want yeah but you always said you will never
26:36wear it you hate it i'm doing it for you and opportunity awaits oh yeah
26:43uh-huh let's go come on can it hold my weight oh peter you ready
26:51you're a very very rare breed
27:18it's just very cute it's very sexy it's very cute okay let's go let's go to the hotel you're a nice
27:25guy it's nice i love that i'm a nice guy yeah you are yeah anyway and i'm the bad girl we always
27:31know that i'm the bad girl i'm the crazy one i'm the loud one the big one you know i take space we
27:37know that dramatic emotional i'm not dramatic
27:40you are very sexy my new soldier yeah but you are also very sexy yeah sure you are
27:51thank you you're welcome
27:58i'm really happy with antoni doing the effort and the thing is like you know when we are good we are
28:04good it makes me feel good you love me and everything it's just made me feel more like okay
28:09my heart can be full of joy full of love i'm home which is antoni antoni is my home
28:16beautiful ass well also that je t'aime beaucoup oh my gosh
28:33are you ready to get married
28:37i'm hesitant is this something really she wants you know i'm afraid that i'm gonna get too hard you
28:44might need
29:02hungry i'm just actually starving
29:14i want my sweet potato fries what are you gonna eat with that oh the caesar side with shrimp
29:21okay so what did you think about the the law firm today i think we got really useful information out
29:28of it yeah earlier today we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working
29:37and be legal here if we just got married i don't know how my mom will react when we tell her like
29:44it could be potentially eight months before i can work it definitely probably will be a i told you so
29:49moment we definitely did not see that one coming oh god you know what is that going to look like
29:57for us in the meantime if i can't work you know i don't want to put it on you
30:02the eight nine months no problem me taking care of you the problem i have is the lifestyle that you
30:08like to live you like to go out have drinks go to dinners and stuff like that i i can't support that
30:15aspect no i understand everything else i can help you with but you would have to be patient oh i
30:23i understand i think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point regardless we're
30:29going to be waiting around yeah but if i marry you it's in two weeks well are you ready to get married
30:41yeah i am i'm hesitating i'm already at an age that i'm ready to get married it's not about age it's
30:46about me like you can marry anyone at any age no but like i'm looking for someone to marry
30:52and i really really love you so i would expect you to be the person i want to be
30:58but i don't know if you're ready for that because you're very young
31:03you're nine you're nine years younger i don't know if you still want to live life and party and
31:08all that you know i wouldn't say that i'm not ready i think we just have some work to do you know
31:22you know of course the marriage is a much easier option but you know is this something really she
31:27wants you know because partnership papers is one thing you know if it goes bad hey you know we go
31:32separate ways but if you marry somebody it's much easier to get married than to get divorced i think
31:39you're very concerned about like you're so young you shouldn't settle down and this but
31:43i think the way i grew up and like how blessed i was to travel and do all the things that i have
31:48like i feel so comfortable with the life that i have lived and i've never felt like how i feel with
31:53you with anyone else so why would i want to like put this on the back burner and not go all in like
32:00i'm already where i want to be like i'm still gonna have martini nights obviously but i would like to
32:05have a martini night and then come home like to you i just want you to know for sure what you're
32:13putting yourself into i'm going to tell you right now it's not going to be easy and i'm afraid that
32:20when it gets too hard you might leave because i've been through that situation before and i'm not
32:25trying to compare you to anybody but you know like i was in a relationship for a very very long time and
32:30i gave that person everything and that person at the end of the day left me for something easier
32:37so i don't think it's only you risking everything i'm also risking life
32:44i think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that i'm not ready to get married because he
32:48doesn't actually know how i feel in my eyes i mean i'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs and i feel
32:56that i'm ready to get married i think if i thought in my head this isn't going to work would have
33:02already left and i'm telling you that i'm more than okay with it so don't have this you know second
33:09doubt of exactly of me and every day you show me that you love me and you care for me then i won't
33:14have that doubt in my mind i already gave up my entire life and moved to another country so there's
33:22nothing else i could really give up to prove to him how much i do love him i know it's fast and we
33:28definitely have our issues but to me this feels right well i think at the end of the day it's
33:34something to think about so we can be together in the end we'll figure it out
33:43every day you have to talk to your mom it's ridiculous you're just trying to destroy everything
33:49i think you're worried that i'm going to abandon you you better start picking your battles because
33:55you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead
34:05okay guys i've got to be somewhere we'll catch up another day yes
34:11okay see ya bye it's good to see you you too and thank you
34:16after tennis i feel a lot better i finally got
34:21We thought we had a ball, didn't we?
34:23Yes, we did.
34:24She did.
34:25She kicked my ass.
34:26Oh, not really.
34:27We're both winners on the day.
34:29She's really good.
34:30OK, guys.
34:31I've got to be somewhere.
34:33We'll catch up another day?
34:34Yes.
34:35See ya.
34:36Bye.
34:37It's good to see you.
34:38You too.
34:39And thank you.
34:40Yes, it was.
34:41After tennis, I feel a lot better.
34:44I finally got all the issues off my chest.
34:48Other side.
34:49Remember, we're in Australia.
34:50Huh?
34:51Of course.
34:52Where are you going?
34:53Oh, wait.
34:54Here.
34:55I'm sorry.
34:56I'm still trying to get used to the side.
35:00She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much.
35:05So maybe it's not all on her.
35:07But I'm glad we talked about it.
35:09And hopefully things can be different moving forward.
35:13We had a good tennis match.
35:15She kicked my ass.
35:16It's been a long time since I played.
35:18She might have had to get some frustration out.
35:21Yeah.
35:22At least she didn't hit me with the ball.
35:24I was expecting her to hit me with the ball a couple of times.
35:29Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother?
35:32I feel like it's resolved.
35:34I just said, you know, maybe she should not call so much.
35:37Twice a week.
35:38Twice a week?
35:39But not every day.
35:40Three times a day.
35:41That's too much.
35:42What do you think about that?
35:45I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit.
35:50It's your great idea.
35:51It's not a great idea for me.
35:53Okay.
35:54We enjoy having a chat here and there.
35:55Yeah, but if it bothers your partner, then how is that enjoyable?
36:00It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:01If it's a problem for me, then you should, you know, you should respect how I feel.
36:14Why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them happy?
36:19Listen, I'm not stopped, no.
36:21Yes, you are.
36:22Babe, every day you have to talk to your mom.
36:25It's ridiculous.
36:26I don't talk to you every day.
36:27Sometimes it's free time to date.
36:28Yes, you talk to her free time to date, and it's been an issue with us for 12 years.
36:33Can't you just work on, like, getting over that?
36:36Can't you work on, like, helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
36:43Since I was a little kid, Mom and I have always been close,
36:46and Patia has never really been close to her mom,
36:49so she doesn't understand that closeness.
36:53I think Patia feels fearful that my mom is going to influence me in some way
37:01or take me away from Patia in some way,
37:04but if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem,
37:07then I don't really know what to say.
37:11I mean, if I'm asking, if I'm saying,
37:13hey, babe, you're talking to your mom too freaking much,
37:16you should be like...
37:17And then what if she dies?
37:19How would you feel?
37:20Stopping me to talk.
37:21She's not going to die.
37:22She's freaking healthy.
37:23She's pushing 70.
37:24Babe, she plays tennis every day.
37:25Are you kidding?
37:26She's freaking healthy.
37:28I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
37:31I think that's really, like...
37:33That's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in life.
37:38You're worried about that.
37:39Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have?
37:42You got me into it.
37:45I've already told you about it.
37:46No, I didn't.
37:47Yes, you did.
37:48It's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life.
37:50I get the blame for it.
37:51Yes, you caused me a lot of the money issues.
37:52No, I didn't cause you anything.
37:53I saved you money.
37:55I taught you...
37:56Oh, you did not save me money.
37:58Are you kidding me?
37:59You've got lots of issues.
38:01Big, big, big spending issues.
38:03Excuse me, Mr. Controlling.
38:04You have a lot of issues.
38:06You're very controlling.
38:08You're always trying to tell me what to do.
38:10It's always my way or the highway.
38:12You know what?
38:13I think that's the pot call and the kettle black,
38:15because you're the most controlling one of us all.
38:17You love controlling me.
38:19Absolutely.
38:20You're always trying to tell me what to do.
38:22And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother,
38:24because you like to manipulate, influence, and control me.
38:26And when I speak to her, you feel like she's, you know,
38:30taking that away from you.
38:33You're just trying to destroy everything.
38:35I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
38:38No, but I'm going to abandon you.
38:40You know, freaking respect my wishes.
38:43Dylan tells me I'm controlling.
38:45I'm like, what?
38:47How am I controlling?
38:48You're the controlling one.
38:50Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist.
38:53It's always about him.
38:55You know, it's my way or the highway.
38:57It's so annoying.
38:59Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not,
39:01his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
39:05I don't know how much longer I can take this.
39:08It's not that hard.
39:10You keep fighting me on it, which makes it worse.
39:12Well, it's like, obviously, my relationship with my mom
39:15is not going to change, so...
39:17You better start picking your battles,
39:19because you're just picking this battle,
39:21and you're just going to be nagging me
39:22until we're both dead,
39:23and we're going to have a miserable life.
39:27Things are clearly not going well,
39:29and there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about,
39:33and I think it might make it worse.
39:35Next time on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way.
39:41Let me get you some change.
39:43How much money you have given back?
39:45All?
39:46You've given them all the change I've given to you.
39:49You haven't charged anybody?
39:51She's saying, I don't know how any money works.
39:53It's a basic man.
39:54If you buy something for 60,
39:56if somebody pay you 100,
39:58it's easy.
39:59Give them 40 back.
40:00I don't understand the change.
40:04So I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
40:10I do feel alone,
40:12and it's, like, starting to hit me that I am alone.
40:14The last thing I want is for you and Greta
40:16to split up some things that we're fighting for.
40:19And I am upset with Greta,
40:21but I really want them to work out.
40:23I think you should have a talk with her.
40:29When I met with Dorian,
40:31we already started working together
40:33on the skincare brand.
40:35And, uh, we need to invest money.
40:39We're trying to buy a home,
40:41and I feel like this is gonna set a lot of things back.
40:44You working and living at your parents,
40:48how much time before you crack?
40:51You crack.
40:55What's wrong?
40:57I feel so dizzy.
40:59You okay?
41:00No.
41:01This is not the way I want to start my weekend,
41:04wherein.
41:06Oh, my syrup.
41:12I say no, no, no.
41:14I don't pregnant.
41:15I don't pregnant.
41:16Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
41:18I told you so many times,
41:19we even be careful when we have sex.
41:22I told you so many times,
41:23we even be careful when we have sex.
41:25I say no.
41:28Good evening,
41:29everybody友yy.
41:30it?
41:32Boo.
41:33Woo.
41:35We, good afternoon.
41:37Isn't that alright?
41:38Uh.
41:39That ls.
41:40God is like the have crap here.
41:41Oh my God.
41:42You are better than me.
41:44You are the occult.
41:45You are all about that.
41:46Euchy?
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