00:00He did not say that pronouns were dumb. He would never say that. He accidentally said wife and
00:06you know when he said wife I said and I knew it was he did say they earlier in the conversation
00:12because I told him and I explained it and it was kind of the first time he was learning about it
00:17and he was trying to be good and he said they earlier in the day up at her house. This was
00:21also two years ago. This wasn't like a recent thing. This was two years ago and then he said
00:25wife when he said when is your wife going to come back from Australia. I corrected him
00:31because I knew I wanted to be sensitive. I'm super sensitive about the situation so I corrected
00:35him and he said oh my bad my bad. We're from the south and we don't really do it there and
00:40that's exactly what was said and you know it rubbed her the wrong way and she's protective
00:46of G and G's an amazing person so I don't blame her for that but he didn't mean anything by
00:52he did not say pronouns are dumb or was stupid whatever whatever was said. He did not say
00:57pronouns are dumb or stupid. He accidentally said wife and apologized. I was right there. He apologized
01:04for saying it. I think that it's one of those things where their personalities will just they'll
01:09never see eye to eye. They are on two ends of the spectrum in the sense where like you know she
01:15doesn't appreciate certain things that he does. He doesn't appreciate certain things that she does
01:20and unfortunately I am in the middle and it was like there was a point where I loved them both
01:25so much. My ideal situation is for my best friend and my boyfriend to love each other and I knew right
01:34away that that was just not going to be the case. So ultimately I feel like it was the hardest on me
01:39because it was really difficult to watch my I didn't want to make a choice because I really wanted
01:45to to work with both. She's been my best friend and I tried to you know make sure you know that
01:51relationship stayed intact and I really I really did love and care about her like a sister and nothing
01:56changed. I just was dating someone that you know she strongly disliked and you know I can't I can't
02:04argue that there's nothing that I can do. I can't make somebody like somebody and also too I think that
02:08when you're in a relationship with somebody you know if you confide in your best friend at times
02:13when things are good but also when they're bad and then you know then it's hard to kind of view
02:18them the same way and things like that. So I really don't blame anyone for for what's happened.
02:24Yeah I think it was one of those things where I really was holding on to a friendship with
02:29Herschel and worried about kind of what other people thought a little bit I mean a lot of it
02:34and you know it came to the point where I was like you know what this is the person that I care
02:40about and you know I have enjoyed my time with him and I can't keep worrying about what other people
02:47say or who they want me to be with because I ultimately have to follow my heart and even if
02:51I have to learn the hard way you know this is somebody that I'm choosing to be with and everyone
02:56can you know say what they want or they can either love him or hate him but ultimately it's kind of my
03:01choice who I end up with and you know there was just a moment at the reunion where you know there was
03:07a few of the girls they were like if if that's your man then say that's your man just own it like
03:12you no one can dictate who you kind of can't be with and I was kind it was kind of like a little
03:18bit of like an eye-opener for me in the sense where I was just like you know what I am gonna be open to
03:23this relationship and and not be ashamed of oh my god my best friend doesn't like him or or whatever
03:29else and I'm just gonna be open and honest and you know I'm gonna put my heart into the relationship
03:34right now and if it works it works and if it doesn't it doesn't but I don't want to have any
03:37regrets that I cared what other people thought when I do enjoy my time with him and he's good with
03:42my family and my niece and my nephew
03:45you
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