00:00Okay, you say you've only been in love once, at least in the first episode is what you mentioned.
00:04Were you prepared for falling in love potentially more than once on The Bachelor alone?
00:09No, I'm not going to fall in love twice. I wasn't anticipating that.
00:16Because you're thinking there's going to be one, or there should be one, and not multiple ones,
00:22where you go, hey, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, and then you have a dilemma.
00:26Right. It happens a lot.
00:27I hear, you know, I've seen it a couple times. But no, that wasn't something that happened.
00:33Okay, so was that like a rule for yourself, or a state of mind, or do you think that you're just...
00:38I wasn't anticipating it, you know, and I didn't want to be in love with two people, because that's conflict, you know.
00:45And I guess sometimes conflict is good for the show, but it's not good for the heart.
00:50What about other women falling in love with you?
00:53It's hard to navigate if someone comes to you and says, I'm falling in love with you, or I'm in love with you.
00:59How did you prepare for maybe someone falling for you if you weren't falling back with them?
01:05That was a new experience.
01:06Right.
01:07I tried to deal with it as it came.
01:09So those are very kind words and very touching.
01:13But either you're there or you're not there, and you just got to be honest.
01:18Yeah.
01:19Did you have any in your head, I'm going to say it back to anyone, or were you saving that to the end?
01:24I feel like it's a different, different bachelors or bacheloretes approach it differently.
01:28They'll say, I'm also falling, or I'm in love with you too, or some just wait until the total end to say it to one person and don't say it.
01:34Well, it's got to be a true feeling because you just can't say the words because then they'd be hollow.
01:40So I can really like you, right?
01:44And that's meaningful.
01:45And you get the connection anyway, so the person knows you don't really have to say it if you really mean it, right?
01:51Oh, I love you.
01:52It's like, yeah, but I don't think so because I don't see or I don't feel the love.
01:57So I wasn't, didn't have anything planned for a response because I was going to let it happen naturally.
02:05Being the lead of this show means you're going to have a lot of people open up to you about their own tragedies or emotions or hardships.
02:13What was it like to navigate hearing the stories from the women?
02:16Was it harder than you thought it might be?
02:18Did you enjoy hearing these stories?
02:21It's an emotional undertaking.
02:23It is, and I wasn't really expecting that.
02:27It's a lot of things you share and it's personal, but there's like empathy that you can share and you understand, you know, how it shaped them and it matters.
02:40And you get an understanding of who they are and, you know, what they've gone through.
02:44And they're tough women.
02:46I mean, you know, to go through some of the things they went through and come out on the other side is really, truly amazing.
02:53What were maybe some things that you knew that you were either deal breakers or things you wanted to talk about, make sure values were aligned on?
03:02Well, I don't think for me there weren't any deal breakers.
03:04Okay.
03:05Because I'm looking for deal makers.
03:06Okay.
03:07Like, what are the common points and common areas we can get together on and share and go, oh, that's a common commonality we share together.
03:18And it wasn't really too much about religion or politics.
03:21You know, obviously, you know, either they have kids or they have grandkids.
03:26And that's a good thing.
03:27Yeah.
03:28Right.
03:28It's an extended family and, you know, they have great stories and their kids are graduating from school and they're having kids.
03:34And, you know, it's fun.
03:35So, you know, it's hard to get it all fit in, you know, in a six week, two month period.
03:43So you have to be open minded and flexible.
03:45Yeah.
03:46And listen.
03:46And you got to extrapolate, like, will this work in the future or it just won't.
03:51There's some tidbits there where I remember one of the women asked me, oh, will you go to church with me?
03:58You know, like that might be a subtle way of like going, are you religious or, you know, yeah, I'll go to church with you.
04:04Right.
04:05But I'm not going to, we haven't got to the point where we're discussing religion, but I'll go to church with you.
04:10Right.
04:10Do you like, do you like this type of food or would you go travel here or, you know, things like that.
04:16So you sort of can figure it out without really getting in depth.
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