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00:00:01Previously on 90 Day Fiancé.
00:00:03Da-da-da-da-da-da.
00:00:05I'm going to America.
00:00:09I haven't told the kids,
00:00:11oh, I'm getting married to a foreigner from Brazil who's 25 and...
00:00:15And oh, by the way.
00:00:16Did I mention transgender?
00:00:20Welcome to your new house, babe.
00:00:22Oh.
00:00:23We can't really cook because I'm seeing clients
00:00:26and I don't want the place smelling like food.
00:00:28Even for the breakfast?
00:00:29You can buy the same stuff that you're making at home.
00:00:32It's not a big deal, babe.
00:00:33What the ?
00:00:34I mean, are we living in a hotel room?
00:00:36When I do have clients, you can't be here.
00:00:39The rules are set by Chicana.
00:00:42That's unfair.
00:00:46So, I declined a state job?
00:00:49You did?
00:00:51He doesn't think about tomorrow.
00:00:53I don't know how we are going to live.
00:00:55I don't want to walk up when I'm on the streets.
00:01:00Maddie, he's a lot homesick.
00:01:03What do you think that will be like going forward?
00:01:06He's already asking me if he can go back.
00:01:09It still worries me how different everything is to Maddie.
00:01:13And at the end of the day, I don't know if he's ever going to get settled in here
00:01:16or what that will mean in terms of us getting married.
00:01:20It's a lot of pressure.
00:01:21Yesterday, when he just left, he had sex with me.
00:01:30And you didn't even tell me.
00:01:32I didn't think anyone was hiding it from you.
00:01:34You don't get the point.
00:01:35It's about the communication.
00:01:37I'm struggling on how to manage building a relationship without stepping on one of their toes.
00:01:44It's all my fault to get it.
00:01:46Okay, never mind.
00:01:47All right, let's just end this.
00:01:49You think I come here for the green card?
00:01:56You're so much younger.
00:01:57Like, how do I know you're not just with my dad for his money?
00:02:00I try to fix it with Jordan, but I think he was a snake.
00:02:09Now, you don't come into my wedding.
00:02:12That's all right.
00:02:16Snake, snake, snake.
00:02:30Okay, this is the bathroom.
00:02:36There's also one downstairs.
00:02:41Why are you examining the toilet?
00:02:43You don't have Dubai?
00:02:44No, we don't have one.
00:02:46Why not?
00:02:47I mean, this is one of the biggest inventions in the history, you know?
00:02:51Fire, wheel, internet, and Dubai.
00:02:55That's not on the list.
00:02:57I'm sorry.
00:03:00I'm sorry.
00:03:02Freedom.
00:03:30Is it too much for you?
00:03:32Isn't it paper?
00:03:33No.
00:03:34It's not.
00:03:35It's just normal things.
00:03:36So normal.
00:03:38It will get you straight, yeah?
00:03:39You already hate my place.
00:03:41No, I love it so much.
00:03:42You hate it.
00:03:43It's so cozy.
00:03:44It's so cute.
00:03:47This is the living space, so this is where we can actually hang out and be comfortable.
00:03:52It is cute.
00:03:55Frankly, the house is a little smaller than I expected.
00:04:05I was hoping bigger, especially the upstairs, because there is just a bed and a bathroom.
00:04:13That's all.
00:04:14I don't know if it would change my decision to come, but it wouldn't probably, but at
00:04:19least I could prepare myself.
00:04:21There's you over there.
00:04:23And this is for you, by the way.
00:04:25For me?
00:04:26Yeah, for you.
00:04:27Since you have a corner at your place, or you had a corner at your place, you scratched
00:04:32your back, you can't do that here, babe.
00:04:34This is the proof of my loyalty to you.
00:04:36Okay.
00:04:37What am I doing right now?
00:04:39Scratching your back?
00:04:41Yeah, like that.
00:04:42Why does that prove your loyalty?
00:04:44Because, look at this, babe.
00:04:47Yeah, your back is very hairy.
00:04:49Before you, it was the duty of girls to back them off.
00:04:53I mean, the length of these hairs are proof of my love to you, you know?
00:04:59I don't want a dingy corner on my wall.
00:05:02So, this is a backscrasher for you.
00:05:05Really?
00:05:06Yeah.
00:05:07Yeah.
00:05:08Did you turn it the right way?
00:05:10Yeah.
00:05:11How is it?
00:05:12It's cool.
00:05:13Is it better than the corner in Turkey?
00:05:14No.
00:05:15Nothing is better than the corner, but...
00:05:17Not even my nails?
00:05:18Nails are good.
00:05:19Well, you get in there.
00:05:20But I have to take appointment for your nails, I think.
00:05:23Huh?
00:05:25Well, I spend so much time in Turkey that when I am back in L.A., I do need to see all my
00:05:31clients, so I am busy.
00:05:34Oh.
00:05:36Are you disappointed?
00:05:38No.
00:05:39Just I didn't know that in details that much, you know?
00:05:44Well, you had so much going on with the visa process, I didn't want to overwhelm you with,
00:05:48like, the reality of, like, what it's going to be like when I have clients.
00:05:52I mean, I wish you could sell those at least more transparent.
00:05:56No, I thought it was better to just tell you when you get here.
00:05:59I mean...
00:06:00Oh.
00:06:01My boy.
00:06:03We will be inmates together.
00:06:06It's not a prison.
00:06:07Oh, my God.
00:06:10Babe, go get the suitcases.
00:06:11I'm going to take a bath.
00:06:13It feels good to have Sarpry here, but I'm realizing how small my place is and how it's
00:06:23not quite equipped for a couple.
00:06:26It was fine for my daughter and I, it was fine for me, but this is going to be a bigger
00:06:32challenge than I thought.
00:06:35Baby, I brought all the suitcases.
00:06:41At least you are beautiful, huh?
00:06:44There is something that I can be happy about.
00:06:47Thanks, babe.
00:06:48Let me take rinse off.
00:06:49Okay, go take a little shower.
00:06:51I'm going to take off my makeup.
00:06:52Okay.
00:06:55I wish you kind of told me about this apartment before I came here, you know?
00:07:00Because the rules...
00:07:02Okay.
00:07:03I respect that.
00:07:04It's her house.
00:07:05It's her space.
00:07:06But right now it will be ours, so I had to know it.
00:07:10That's a mistake.
00:07:11That's a red flag, for sure.
00:07:15Let's get in the bed.
00:07:17Scoot over.
00:07:19I'm so sorry, buddy.
00:07:21But it is my first day in Los Angeles.
00:07:25Let's give a time for that.
00:07:27Maybe everything will be solved by time.
00:07:29I hope.
00:07:32Wow.
00:07:35You will be the first girl that I love.
00:07:38Green dress, you know that?
00:07:54Snake, snake, snake.
00:07:59Okay, I think we have a chat now.
00:08:05Me and you?
00:08:06Yeah.
00:08:07All right.
00:08:08Let's go.
00:08:09Over here.
00:08:11Oh, I guess Mina's walking off.
00:08:13Yeah.
00:08:14Come on.
00:08:15Let's go.
00:08:16Talk.
00:08:17All right.
00:08:18Gabe, will you watch Maria?
00:08:19Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:08:20Or her mom can watch her.
00:08:21Gabe doesn't have to do it.
00:08:22Well, apparently she's over there.
00:08:25What, you guys getting an argument?
00:08:27Well, yeah, she told me not to come to the wedding, so.
00:08:29Just now?
00:08:30Yeah.
00:08:31If that's how it's going to be, I don't want to be there anyways.
00:08:33I don't know why she would say that.
00:08:39She knows.
00:08:40Well, because I said how I feel about you guys having more kids, and she doesn't care.
00:08:56She wants to have more kids, and I'm not going to be okay with that, so if you guys are just going to disregard how I feel, then maybe I shouldn't be at the wedding anyways.
00:09:05I know you're mad at me, and I shouldn't have told Mina, but me and you always talk, and I'm always truthful with you about everything.
00:09:12And I feel like I should be that same way with my wife.
00:09:15Yeah, but then do you see how the dynamic, if I tell you everything, and you tell her everything, then it's like, how can I trust you to tell you my red flags if you're going to tell her everything?
00:09:24Right, and that was stupid of me. I'm going to try to shut my mouth and just let you guys talk, and obviously that didn't go well.
00:09:30I think that that's probably a sign that maybe you shouldn't get married.
00:09:36Let's just say it's a red flag, but we're not there yet. We still have a couple months to try to...
00:09:42I feel like there's a lot of red flags that you're just, like, totally brushing over.
00:09:46This beach day has just turned . I mean, right now, my daughter's distraught, my fiancé's distraught, and I'm not going to choose between my fiancé and my daughter.
00:10:01So I don't know where we go from here.
00:10:03You're coming to the wedding. If she has that big of a problem, then maybe we're not getting married. I don't know.
00:10:24Do you know if you marry her, is she going to divorce you and then leave with the baby and take everything?
00:10:31I wouldn't marry her if I thought she was going to do that.
00:10:35She's so young. She's closer to my age than your age. Don't you think that that's strange?
00:10:40I know you're mad at me, but I'm also feeling like you're judging me. I'm just trying to also be happy.
00:10:46I wasn't happy going through the divorce with mom. I'm trying to find happiness again, and I did fall in love with somebody.
00:10:52She does happen to be younger.
00:10:53I want you to be happy. I do, but I really just wish that it was a different situation.
00:11:00I would be so much more comfortable if you found someone like your age and who lived in the U.S.
00:11:05So what? You want me to break up with her right now, not get married, and go find somebody who's 45 or 50?
00:11:11Well, no, because you already have a baby, so you can't really fix anything now.
00:11:16So don't have more. That's my first thing. Don't have more.
00:11:19You're literally trying to dictate how my happiness going forward, you're judging something that I can't change.
00:11:26You can do what you want. I'm not telling you what you can and can't do, but just know how it makes me feel.
00:11:32And just know that it might be around less. It might not want to be around this new family.
00:11:38Oh, no.
00:11:45It's too hard.
00:11:48Invers me, because she doesn't know me, she has a judgment on me.
00:11:53If Mark doesn't accept me, he doesn't support me,
00:11:58I think that our relationship will risk that I return to Paris.
00:12:03Because I can't be in a relationship where no one accepts me.
00:12:07After hearing that I'm uninvited to the wedding, I feel like we're just going to go.
00:12:14So...
00:12:15Wait, we were going to spend the whole day together, so...
00:12:17Not now. Now it's so awkward, and after that conversation, I don't want to be involved.
00:12:22I don't want to be here, so we're going to go.
00:12:25Gabe.
00:12:27I'm going to go. I think we should leave.
00:12:30I'm serious.
00:12:32Okay.
00:12:33You okay?
00:12:34Yeah, I just don't want to do this anymore.
00:12:35Jordan, seriously.
00:12:36Yeah.
00:12:37You're just going to bail out on the whole day, Jordan?
00:12:39Yeah, it's...
00:12:40This is all...
00:12:41This is wrong.
00:12:42I'm not doing it.
00:12:43Jordan, come on.
00:12:53I can't believe that after two years, it's like finally here.
00:12:56It's like a miracle, but we'll have to see how the persona of Aaliyah plays into our happily ever after.
00:13:07Maybe things will go sideways.
00:13:15Tell me what you're thinking.
00:13:17This is the first fight, you know?
00:13:19It's complicated.
00:13:21Ani told me that she had sex with Matt behind my back.
00:13:25If there's one percent chance that I didn't know, you should have still talked to me about it.
00:13:31Just because she said it don't mean she shouldn't have.
00:13:35Don't you see that?
00:13:37Matt.
00:14:05Last night, it got heated in the hot tub because Ani told me that she had sex with Matt behind my back.
00:14:10And I wasn't angry that they had sex without me.
00:14:11I think I was more like, I guess, jealous because I felt like I was disrespected.
00:14:15I feel bad because I am a star.
00:14:16The sex with Matt.
00:14:17I'm getting treated like it was a secret.
00:14:18And when it wasn't a secret.
00:14:19When it wasn't a secret.
00:14:20Even if there's one percent chance that I didn't know.
00:14:21You should have still talked to me about it.
00:14:22You should have still talked to me about it.
00:14:23I'm getting treated like it was a secret.
00:14:24And when it wasn't a secret.
00:14:25Even if there's one percent chance that I didn't know, you should have still talked
00:14:26to me about it.
00:14:27Just like she did.
00:14:28I'm getting treated like it was a secret.
00:14:29And when it wasn't a secret.
00:14:30Even if there's one percent chance that I didn't know.
00:14:31You should have still talked to me about it.
00:14:32Just like she did.
00:14:33I'm getting treated like it was a secret.
00:14:34And when it wasn't a secret.
00:14:35Even if there's one percent chance that I didn't know, you should have still talked
00:14:50to me about it.
00:14:51Just like she did.
00:14:57Do you like cream?
00:14:58That's okay.
00:14:59I got it.
00:15:04Don't look sad.
00:15:05I don't like that.
00:15:06I'm sad.
00:15:07You better smile.
00:15:08No, I'm sad.
00:15:09I feel bad.
00:15:11I don't like last night.
00:15:13I don't like it either.
00:15:15That's like, you know, that's like my nightmare in this situation.
00:15:19So I don't know like how to like navigate this besides like talking about it.
00:15:23You know?
00:15:24Tell me what you're thinking.
00:15:46I don't know.
00:15:47We're all seeing different sides of each other that we haven't seen before.
00:15:49But at least you're communicating.
00:15:50Yeah.
00:15:51What are you thinking the last night, honey?
00:15:54Yeah, I understand.
00:15:55I don't think I was prepared for what was about to happen.
00:15:59I felt like I expressed myself and then got kind of teamed up on.
00:16:06Just because he said it don't mean she shouldn't have.
00:16:12I thought she did the right thing.
00:16:14Don't you see that?
00:16:16Matt.
00:16:18She mentioned it because she thought it was worth mentioning.
00:16:21That's being thoughtful, being considered, being respectful.
00:16:24And she demonstrated that.
00:16:25I think so.
00:16:26The man never understand this.
00:16:29That's true.
00:16:30All of it.
00:16:31Not only her.
00:16:32No.
00:16:33I did the normal thing we do and then all of a sudden I'm crucified for it.
00:16:36I get it.
00:16:37I get it.
00:16:38But if you don't have a natural thing, you want to be like, part of my daughter.
00:16:40You don't do it.
00:16:41You want to be able to go to part of my daughter.
00:16:42I'm not going to but I'll fall down with you.
00:16:44I'm not going to go to part of my daughter.
00:16:47OK.
00:16:48What's hard about this is you're walking into a new relationship to us, but there's a relationship
00:16:50there of 10 years.
00:16:52And when you're walking into our relationship of 10 years, we have our own problems already.
00:16:55This is like becoming kind of my nightmare where our own problems are resurfacing in
00:16:59this relationship as well.
00:17:00as well. I feel I'm working twice as hard than I was in just our relationship now. Like, this is a
00:17:05lot on me. So if you already have a lot of issues and it's shaky and you bring in a third person,
00:17:14it's probably not going to go well. You know, we have a family and this is, you know, a chance for
00:17:23us to see if we can get what we need to make that decision. I mean, we don't want our family
00:17:28to be at risk. The biggest fear for me, what can come out of bringing somebody else to
00:17:37our relationship and our marriage, our life is, is losing you. I don't know how I can
00:17:44exist in a life without Matt. I don't know who I am without you. We need to work this
00:17:52out, you know? Yeah, I understand. Yeah, we need to tell more. Okay, I'm going to go get
00:17:58ready.
00:18:14Ah, the things you do for love.
00:18:17So Alia's on her way from Brazil as we speak. I'm super excited that she's coming. And in
00:18:32order to make her happy, I know I have to, like, have the house in a certain way because
00:18:36she's very particular about her cleanliness.
00:18:41Alia is a licensed nurse in Brazil. And so she's always been very particular about germs
00:18:48and cleanliness. And now I'm finding that it's actually kind of a condition she's having
00:18:54of germophobia. I think it has to be beyond clean. And even if it's clean, I don't know
00:19:00if it's going to ever be clean enough. Nothing can go in your mouth unless you've, like, washed
00:19:05your hands. You didn't wash your feet when you walked through the door. I'm like, I've
00:19:09had socks and shoes on, so my feet are just, have touched a sock. No, no, they've been outside.
00:19:15So it's complicated. Some of the times I've, like, you know, don't want to, what she calls,
00:19:24pass the feet, which means take a shower before going to bed because I took a shower, like,
00:19:27in the afternoon. So if that's happening, I literally won't get underneath the covers. I'll
00:19:34just lay on top of the bed so that I don't get the sheets and the other stuff contaminated. But that,
00:19:40of course, puts a barrier between us physically. I'm trying to make life as cleanly as possible
00:19:47and try to wrap my head around how does that work in life because I'm not that way at all.
00:19:52I'm doing my best to stay on top of it as witnessed by my rag.
00:20:10After almost eight hours traveling from Rio to Panama, I'll be here waiting for more 13
00:20:21hours before my next flight to Los Angeles. That's crazy.
00:20:33It will be my first time in America and I think I need more.
00:20:37I want to look pretty for this moment and I want to look pretty for Sean also.
00:20:44I'm excited. I'm ready.
00:20:52Come on.
00:20:58Good boy. Good boy. Oh, you're so good.
00:21:07I can't believe that after two years, it's like finally here. It seems a little surreal.
00:21:16Today is like almost like a miracle.
00:21:20Come on.
00:21:23Since the beginning of knowing Aaliyah, I've always said I can't do long distance.
00:21:27I need to see how we sleep, how we wake, how we eat, how we coffee, how we jive.
00:21:33I need that daily life.
00:21:36But I've always had a fear that since I'm the only person in America that knows anything about Douglas,
00:21:43that Aaliyah will kind of maybe think that I'm the one thing that is holding her back from just living a full Aaliyah lifestyle with nothing from the past.
00:21:56Maxwell, I'm going to see your mommy. Are you ready?
00:22:03I'm fearful that maybe things will go sideways, but this is not real. It's happening.
00:22:14We'll have to see how, you know, the persona of Aaliyah plays into our happily ever after.
00:22:22We'll have to see how, you know, the person of Aaliyah plays into our happily ever after.
00:22:52We'll have to see how we Jen is.
00:22:56Take me higher, tell me that you're only mine.
00:23:03Oh my god, what is this?
00:23:26This is Maxwell.
00:23:27I didn't get you flowers, but I did bring you a puppy.
00:23:33I didn't get you.
00:23:37We are now one big happy hairy family.
00:23:40Yeah, very hairy, for sure.
00:23:43Oh my god.
00:23:44I think the baby is really cute.
00:23:47I got a little nervous about the licking,
00:23:50but I didn't eat that myself with that.
00:23:53I'm so happy.
00:23:55Everything worked well.
00:23:58Now we can finally get there.
00:24:01So now we have each other.
00:24:04It's official.
00:24:05It's official.
00:24:06It's officially happened.
00:24:08Is that what I think it is on top?
00:24:12Yes, it's my dress.
00:24:15Uh-oh.
00:24:16But you can't see.
00:24:17It's a surprise.
00:24:19Although me and Aaliyah have been together for four years,
00:24:23the reality is that we've only once spent time
00:24:27where Aaliyah has been Aaliyah full-time,
00:24:30and that was recently in Brazil.
00:24:32So in a way, our relationship is kind of new.
00:24:36Maxwell.
00:24:37Maxwell.
00:24:38Come on.
00:24:39There's a lot of what ifs, and the hard work seems to be done.
00:24:43Of course, you know, now that's going to be the new or different work,
00:24:47but I'm excited to start day one.
00:24:50Hey, babe.
00:25:02What?
00:25:03When it was dawn and he turned me around to just look at myself in the mirror,
00:25:07it was like half of my mustache was gone.
00:25:10Oh, okay.
00:25:12I'm sure boobs are not the only things we can paint with.
00:25:16Shut up.
00:25:35Hey, babe.
00:25:40What?
00:25:43Did you ask him to cut your mustache?
00:25:45No.
00:25:46But I swear to God, I can't go out and do this.
00:25:49But we're supposed to go to the coffee shop.
00:25:50No, babe.
00:25:51We have to go home.
00:26:00So I guess we're just going to run by the house and try to fix it,
00:26:03and then can we go to the coffee shop?
00:26:04Yep.
00:26:06I think you still look hot.
00:26:07I don't know.
00:26:08You do.
00:26:10It was my very first time that I was getting a haircut in the U.S.,
00:26:13and the worst part is I couldn't say something.
00:26:16Like, what would I say?
00:26:18Like, put it back?
00:26:21I think I have some eyebrow stuff or some beard stuff that I can try to fill it in with,
00:26:25but we just don't need to do too, too much.
00:26:28All the barbers were cutting the client's hair, like, not facing the mirror, and this is something that I'm not really used to.
00:26:38When it was done and he turned me around to just look at myself in the mirror, I was like, oh, my God.
00:26:51Half of my mustache was gone.
00:26:52It's not funny.
00:26:53It's a little funny.
00:26:55Please be careful, babe.
00:26:58Well, no promises. I don't know what it's going to look like.
00:27:01Okay.
00:27:02I'm sure boobs are not the only things we can paint, Bill.
00:27:08Shut up.
00:27:09I think when I told the barber that I'm from Iran, he had the same misconception that I'm Arab with, like, a really thin mustache.
00:27:18Can I be honest?
00:27:21I didn't really like your mustache when I was trying.
00:27:24Why did you say I looked okay?
00:27:26Because you're hot with or without your mustache.
00:27:28Stop.
00:27:29But I was just trying to make you feel better. It didn't look good.
00:27:32Clean that.
00:27:33Oh, my God. You look like Batman. You see?
00:27:35You see?
00:27:38I know it.
00:27:42Sorry.
00:27:46Can you add more this here so it doesn't look that sharp?
00:27:54Now?
00:27:56It's better now.
00:27:58Okay, let's go.
00:28:06I'm ready for coffee.
00:28:26What do you think you want?
00:28:27I don't know.
00:28:29Do you call it espresso?
00:28:31You make fun of me.
00:28:32Yeah.
00:28:33That's not right.
00:28:34Espresso.
00:28:37And you also say tanks.
00:28:40No.
00:28:42I know.
00:28:43Just kidding.
00:28:45Hey.
00:28:46Hey.
00:28:48Okay, so it's kind of like a mixture of chocolate and espresso and it's hot.
00:28:54A mocha?
00:28:55Oh, yeah.
00:28:56I'm going to get a white chocolate latte.
00:28:58It's $13.20.
00:29:00Okay.
00:29:02This is here?
00:29:03Sure.
00:29:08It's kind of cute here.
00:29:10It is super cute and very chill.
00:29:13Last night when I stayed inside and talked to Wendy, I mentioned to Wendy that you had mentioned what you had said to me in New Orleans.
00:29:23What did I say?
00:29:24When you brought up like, what if I want to go back home?
00:29:32I think you shouldn't have told him.
00:29:35But Wendy and I were talking about like the wedding and stuff like that.
00:29:38And for me in that moment, it's kind of like, well, I don't know if he wants to stay here, if he wants to go home or what he wants to do.
00:29:45And so that's why the topic got brought up.
00:29:48I still feel like you shouldn't have told her.
00:29:51Well, maybe you shouldn't have told me that.
00:29:53It was just a feeling.
00:29:56And if I want to be too honest, I miss my parents more than the first date.
00:30:09So that is a thought that always comes to my mind.
00:30:13Like going back?
00:30:15Not going back, save my family.
00:30:17But you know that if I go back, there's a chance that I'm not going to be able to come here again.
00:30:22Right, exactly.
00:30:23So it would be a decision that if you made, you knew it would probably be permanent.
00:30:27Which would mean you're leaving me.
00:30:31And of course, I'm concerned about that because we have a wedding coming up.
00:30:34So my question is, are you always going to have this thought in your mind that you always want to go back?
00:30:43I can't promise you that.
00:30:45I'm really sorry, but I've thought about it when I was in Iran.
00:30:57If one day you don't want to be with me, I would still stay in the U.S.
00:31:04But now, I don't feel like that anymore.
00:31:08So before you were okay with thinking that if we broke up, you would stay here?
00:31:18Yeah.
00:31:20Because I don't know that I'm okay with that either.
00:31:25This is the first time I've ever heard Maddie talking about if we didn't work.
00:31:31I honestly can't believe that Maddie is telling me that he had already planned on staying in America even if we didn't work out.
00:31:38Because I've never thought about what it would be like to not be with Maddie.
00:31:44This is probably the first time in our whole entire relationship that I've ever questioned Maddie's motive.
00:31:50And for the first time in our whole entire relationship, I'm starting to question whether this is something that I want to do or not.
00:31:59So if that was even in your mind before you came here, then I don't know that this was the best decision.
00:32:04Yeah.
00:32:07When do you think can we get our own house?
00:32:10I'm hoping maybe a year and a half, two years.
00:32:13I don't want us to be wasting money on an apartment.
00:32:14I thought people living in America were stable, but they're not.
00:32:24I did all the, uh, STD testing.
00:32:30So you need to show me, yeah?
00:32:33Yeah, I can show you.
00:32:35Aaliyah and I have had an open relationship.
00:32:38As much as I love Aaliyah, at the end of the day I didn't sign up to be in a relationship with a woman.
00:32:43So now that we are here together, how do you think?
00:32:47Will you keep doing that?
00:32:49I don't feel like we need to discuss that tonight.
00:32:52This is my dream, I'mma get it, I'mma get it, I'mma get it today.
00:32:57This is my dream, I'mma get it, I'mma get it, I'mma get it today.
00:33:01So these are your streets?
00:33:03This is my neighbor, this is my stomping ground, yeah.
00:33:05So there's two different parts of Long Island, so you have the North Shore.
00:33:09And the South Shore, yeah.
00:33:10On the other side of the ocean would be England, which is, I don't know, maybe 4,000 miles, 3,000 miles.
00:33:16People go there by a boat?
00:33:18They used to, Titanic and stuff like that.
00:33:21That didn't end well.
00:33:23This is my life, I'mma livin', I'mma livin', I'mma livin' my way.
00:33:31So you excited to just, yeah, maybe just walk around the, you know, walk around the boardwalk?
00:33:35I'm excited we're out of the house, so we can be together.
00:33:39Just ask me, I do.
00:33:41My mum is out of the picture, so...
00:33:45You know, maybe we could, like, walk the dogs around the beach or something like that?
00:33:48Just me and you, spend some, a little bit of romantic time?
00:33:52Daisy is friendly by Lily.
00:33:55Yeah.
00:33:56Just keeps on giving me that awkward look.
00:33:59She gives everybody that awkward look.
00:34:01She be like this.
00:34:02Yes.
00:34:03Yeah.
00:34:10So this is the Great South Bay.
00:34:13We used to go clammin' out here, all types of stuff.
00:34:15Lots of fishing, you know, lots and lots of fishing.
00:34:24Welcome to Long Island.
00:34:26So I'm taking Joan to see the Great South Bay for the first time ever.
00:34:30Uh, this is kind of like the ocean, but a little, a little bit dumbed down.
00:34:34There's no saltwater crocodiles, baby.
00:34:36Do people swim in it or no?
00:34:39Uh, you can swim in it, but I wouldn't swim here.
00:34:42Shh, shh, shh.
00:34:46She is going crazy right now.
00:34:48Come on.
00:34:50Do you want to try walking with it?
00:34:51Yes.
00:34:52This is your first time, right?
00:34:53Oh, yes.
00:34:54It's my first time walking a dog.
00:34:55Yeah.
00:34:56I have to put it on my right.
00:34:57Yeah?
00:34:58So here, let me take that, baby.
00:34:59Wait, wait, wait.
00:35:00Okay.
00:35:03Good girl.
00:35:05Good girl.
00:35:06She didn't bark.
00:35:08It's kind of weird, but I like it.
00:35:14So, second night.
00:35:17Did you sleep okay?
00:35:18I'm a bit nervous.
00:35:20Why?
00:35:21My mom?
00:35:22You getting a little nervous about that?
00:35:24Is that why you didn't want to, uh, maybe get intimate last night a little bit?
00:35:27Yeah.
00:35:28In my mind, I have like, oh, you're going to start being intimate and she'll be like...
00:35:34You guys follow my rules?
00:35:37Yes.
00:35:38Right?
00:35:39Like, knocking...
00:35:40Open that door.
00:35:42I know, baby. I know.
00:35:43I know.
00:35:44When do you think can we get our own home, our own house?
00:35:48Well, I'm hoping, you know, if everything goes normal and everything goes right, maybe a year and a half, two years.
00:35:53Oh, it's going to take that long?
00:35:57Staying at your mommy's house, I thought maybe in six months we'll be moving out.
00:36:05Two years before we get our own place.
00:36:08This is really crazy.
00:36:09I feel like I'm a kid.
00:36:12Had I known, I think I would have to reconsider my decision to come here.
00:36:18I just don't...
00:36:19I don't want us to be wasting money on an apartment.
00:36:21You know, I'd rather just save up a down payment for something and we'll get our own place that we can pay for.
00:36:27Um, you know, I was... I did have a little bit of debt.
00:36:31The turbo blowing up on my car, that was what, like $1,500.
00:36:36The process of the visa, the lawyer, it's just like even, you know, the flight tickets, all of this is very expensive.
00:36:42I guess like $8,000, a little bit more than that in debt.
00:36:47I knew Greg had a debt, but I didn't think it was that big, like $8,000.
00:36:54I'm very shocked to hear about that.
00:36:56I have a different opinion what I think about America.
00:36:59I thought people living in America were stable, but they're... they're not.
00:37:04I'm not really happy about this.
00:37:14So, how can we pay for this wedding?
00:37:18How can we pay for... I guess it's all gonna be me, you know?
00:37:22So, I don't know how it works here.
00:37:24Uh-huh.
00:37:25Like how... how much it will cost.
00:37:27Things are just so much cheaper in Uganda than they are here.
00:37:30You spend $5,000 on a wedding over there, you have everything, you know?
00:37:34Here it's like, that's... I don't even know.
00:37:37I don't even know when to begin.
00:37:38But this is what I was thinking, right?
00:37:40We can cook all the food ourselves, me and you.
00:37:43Or, you know, obviously my mom would probably help out.
00:37:46We could save some money on that.
00:37:51I don't want us to spend, like, a lot on a wedding.
00:37:53But I also don't want, like, an ugly wedding dress.
00:37:57Like, I want something good.
00:37:59Something you like, yeah.
00:38:00I want something that would look good on me.
00:38:01Yes, because, you know, like, you get a wedding once in a lifetime.
00:38:04Mm-hmm.
00:38:05Yes.
00:38:06So this is something we're just gonna have to budget as well, you know?
00:38:10Yeah.
00:38:11You know, as long as we come up with a budget and figure, you know, maybe $500, $600 on a wedding dress.
00:38:16I don't know how much they cost.
00:38:18Right now, having Joan here and actually speaking about the wedding and thinking about things,
00:38:24it definitely feels like I'm a little overwhelmed.
00:38:26I think things do have to change drastically.
00:38:29I have to live within my means until I can live the lifestyle that I want to.
00:38:33Things completely have to change.
00:38:34I have somebody else in my life now.
00:38:39So, going forward, you know, I got some job interviews lined up.
00:38:43And I know it's not gonna be easy, but the fact that I can just work those long hours and come home to your embrace,
00:38:50it puts everything in the past, and I don't even care.
00:38:55I feel like I rushed into a decision of coming here, not knowing the situation.
00:39:01This feels like I'm in a country I'm not secured.
00:39:05If things don't change, I'm going back to Uganda.
00:39:13And what is the car?
00:39:20Uh, straight ahead.
00:39:22Maxwell?
00:39:33Oh, my God.
00:39:34Oh!
00:39:35It's very clean inside, yeah?
00:39:38Yes.
00:39:39Yeah.
00:39:40It's very clean because I gave him a tubby last night.
00:39:45You should hold the dress on your lap.
00:39:47Okay, it's better.
00:39:48Yeah.
00:39:49You don't want the dog to eat it.
00:39:50No, that would not be good.
00:39:53This tree looks like California.
00:40:08It's like, it's crazy.
00:40:09It's a new life.
00:40:10It's like I'm, I just born today.
00:40:13I was born today, and yeah, I'm starting now.
00:40:16Do you want me to show you where Giselle and Leonardo DiCaprio lived?
00:40:21Who?
00:40:22Giselle.
00:40:23Giselle what?
00:40:25Bouchonjan.
00:40:26Here?
00:40:27Yeah.
00:40:29Oh, my God.
00:40:31That's crazy.
00:40:32And this house here was Christina Aguilera's house.
00:40:36Oh, my God.
00:40:38Fancy.
00:40:39From favela to bevela hills.
00:40:53You ready, babe?
00:40:54Yeah.
00:40:56Oh, God.
00:40:57Looks like medieval.
00:41:00Yes.
00:41:01Wow.
00:41:11Oh.
00:41:14Obviously, this is the living room.
00:41:17I think I am another time of the history.
00:41:23I'm a little confused now.
00:41:26I would describe my taste in home decor as eclectic, I guess.
00:41:31I have antiquities.
00:41:33I have old world items.
00:41:36I also have lots of Hollywood memorabilia and a few...
00:41:41Dinosaurs.
00:41:43Tchotchke dinosaurs.
00:41:47With my dinosaurs...
00:41:49They are everywhere.
00:41:50Yes, I know.
00:41:51He's reading the Jurassic Park board.
00:41:55Why that animal there?
00:41:58The prehistoric lizard?
00:41:59He's eating his mango.
00:42:00He's not hurting anybody.
00:42:02And what's the...
00:42:04This?
00:42:06He's hiding.
00:42:07Ready to bite.
00:42:08To eat someone.
00:42:09Oh, my God.
00:42:11Let's continue.
00:42:12My barber room.
00:42:13Oh, my God.
00:42:14Let's do a little quiz.
00:42:15So, who's Barbra Streisand?
00:42:16Barbra Streisand is like a combo of actress, singer, and what more?
00:42:17She's done it all.
00:42:18She's everything.
00:42:19She's everything.
00:42:20She's everything.
00:42:21She's everything.
00:42:22This is a Bob Mackie dress that he made for Cher.
00:42:25Oh, that's nice.
00:42:26That's nice.
00:42:27Can I use?
00:42:28Nice.
00:42:29Who is Cher?
00:42:31Who is Cher?
00:42:52Cher is an amazing famous singer.
00:42:57who designed a lot of her outfits.
00:42:59I don't know.
00:43:04And then to the left here is the bedroom.
00:43:07And I just got a new bed and all new things.
00:43:10Do you want to lay on the new bed and see if it's comfortable?
00:43:14No, I'm totally dirty.
00:43:16But I can see that's pretty nice.
00:43:19My first impression of Sean's house is, like,
00:43:23too much things in the same space.
00:43:25And sometimes it's, like, I look something
00:43:30and there's always something more like this.
00:43:34What is this?
00:43:38There's always something more.
00:43:40I didn't saw that before.
00:43:55Oh, my God.
00:44:04Yeah.
00:44:05Oh, my God.
00:44:06That looked amazing.
00:44:08Special sparkle and shine.
00:44:10All the light.
00:44:12Such a superpower.
00:44:14And right here, it's really cold.
00:44:16Oh, yeah.
00:44:17I'm not cold at all.
00:44:21Mmm, God.
00:44:22It was such a long day.
00:44:25It was a long trip.
00:44:26I bet.
00:44:28I'm thinking I want to get into some pajamas
00:44:31and cuddle in bed
00:44:33and see where that takes us.
00:44:38I did all the STD testing and everything is fine and dandy, so...
00:44:46So you need to show me, yeah?
00:44:48Yeah, I can show you.
00:44:50Lee and I have had an open relationship
00:44:54since the beginning of our being together.
00:44:57And it was something that,
00:44:59even though both of us want ultimately
00:45:02a monogamous relationship,
00:45:05we knew that the distance was gonna make that hard
00:45:09and how often we were gonna see each other
00:45:11neither one of us knew.
00:45:12And I knew I wasn't gonna be able to, uh,
00:45:15not see somebody but once every eight months
00:45:18and be happy that way.
00:45:20So I wanted the relationship to be open.
00:45:24I don't think that's something that she wanted,
00:45:26but that was something I needed.
00:45:29I don't know what you think in your mind,
00:45:31but I want you to know, like,
00:45:32I'm not out having all this sex with all these people
00:45:37and doing crazy things.
00:45:38It's not that way.
00:45:40So now that we are here together,
00:45:43what do you think?
00:45:44How do you feel about, like, our open relationship?
00:45:47How do you think?
00:45:49Will you keep doing that for the future?
00:45:52Well, you just got here,
00:45:54so I think that's something
00:45:55that we're gonna need to discuss,
00:45:56but I don't feel like we need to discuss that tonight
00:45:59because, you know, let's save that stuff for another day.
00:46:03Let's see how we do in these next couple of days
00:46:05and see how we go.
00:46:10I did not like that Sean said that he wants to wait
00:46:13and see about our open relationship
00:46:16because now that I'm here in America,
00:46:19I think that should be over.
00:46:21It makes me question how much he accept me as a Leah yet.
00:46:27I'm not, like, dating or meeting anyone.
00:46:32So I'm not having, like, sexual relation with anyone.
00:46:36Right.
00:46:40Since the last time that we were together.
00:46:43I think a Leah had visions of the happily ever afters
00:46:49where everything was easy and people just stayed monogamous
00:46:53and, uh, no problem came and everything was fine.
00:46:58But, of course, the last time we saw Aaliyah in Brazil,
00:47:02there was no Douglas and our sex life changed.
00:47:06So as much as I love Aaliyah,
00:47:08at the end of the day, I didn't sign up to be in a relationship with a woman.
00:47:12So if she's fully going to be a woman,
00:47:15then I know that I'll be missing the company of being with a man.
00:47:20So I don't know how to navigate it where we're both, like, happy.
00:47:25Yes, babe.
00:47:31Okay.
00:47:32We gotta get you running in slow motion.
00:47:35In my childhood, I loved to watch Baywatch.
00:47:38I was seeing them running a while.
00:47:40What a life there.
00:47:41It is now time to realize my fantasy.
00:47:44Beaches of Aaliyah, are you ready for a surfer?
00:47:55How was your first night in LA?
00:48:06Did you sleep good?
00:48:07It was good, you know?
00:48:09What do you want to do today?
00:48:11I have something in my mind.
00:48:12What do you have in mind?
00:48:13Yeah, I have a fantasy.
00:48:15Oh, great.
00:48:17Let me show you. Better the show.
00:48:19What is it?
00:48:22There it is.
00:48:23There it is.
00:48:24Yes.
00:48:25A swimsuit?
00:48:26Yep.
00:48:27It's very Baywatch.
00:48:29Mm-hmm.
00:48:30We can go be Baywatch babes on the beach.
00:48:35It's all that we got.
00:48:37It's all that we got.
00:48:39What is there left to lose?
00:48:44I feel myself like going to a kid to a candy bar,
00:48:48looking at everything.
00:48:49Yeah.
00:48:50It's a good place to people watch.
00:48:54We are here.
00:48:56Let's go.
00:49:01Oh, my God.
00:49:02I love it.
00:49:03You love it?
00:49:04Yep.
00:49:05Beaches of LA.
00:49:06Are you ready for a surfer?
00:49:08It sounds like you just said, bitches of LA.
00:49:11How do I say the correct version?
00:49:14Beach.
00:49:15Beach.
00:49:16Beach.
00:49:17Beach.
00:49:18Beach.
00:49:19Beach.
00:49:20Bitches of LA.
00:49:21You're still saying bitches.
00:49:23Really?
00:49:24Oh, my God.
00:49:25Yeah.
00:49:26Yes.
00:49:27This is my place.
00:49:28That's where you would be?
00:49:29Yeah.
00:49:30I can see you as a lifeguard.
00:49:31Sarpur Hasildur.
00:49:32When I was a kid in my childhood, I loved to watch Baywatch.
00:49:36I mean, it's kind of a thing that I started working out.
00:49:40You know that?
00:49:41Because that time, it was so rare that people to work out in Turkey
00:49:45have muscles or fitness.
00:49:48But I was watching Baywatch and I was seeing them running out.
00:49:52Wow.
00:49:53What a life there.
00:49:54Yes.
00:49:58Yes, babe.
00:49:59When I was young, it was not a hot guy.
00:50:04I remember my 13, 14, I was so chubby and people were bullying me.
00:50:10I couldn't imagine that I will have a body count of 2,500.
00:50:15You know what?
00:50:17Probably Baywatch gave me the motivation to be the Sarpur right now today.
00:50:24Just run towards me with your sexiest, slowest Baywatch David Hasselhoff run.
00:50:31I love it.
00:50:32You're so strong.
00:50:33Oh yeah.
00:50:34Yeah.
00:50:35Yeah.
00:50:36How was it?
00:50:37Amazing.
00:50:38You look gorgeous.
00:50:39Another fantasy is fulfilled.
00:50:40I put a check.
00:50:41You had your Baywatch moment.
00:50:42How was it?
00:50:43Amazing.
00:50:44You look gorgeous.
00:50:45Another fantasy is fulfilled.
00:50:46I put a check.
00:50:47You had your Baywatch moment, babe.
00:50:48Yeah.
00:50:49You like it here?
00:50:50Of course.
00:50:51With you everywhere is good.
00:50:52Yeah.
00:50:53For example, look around.
00:50:54I mean, when you are working, if I come here, is there a problem for you, for example?
00:50:55Is there a problem for you, for example?
00:50:56Is there a problem for you, for example?
00:50:57Yeah.
00:50:58I love it.
00:50:59You're so strong.
00:51:00You're so strong.
00:51:01Oh yeah.
00:51:02Yeah.
00:51:03How was it?
00:51:04Amazing.
00:51:05You look gorgeous.
00:51:06Another fantasy is fulfilled.
00:51:07I put a check.
00:51:08You had your Baywatch moment, babe.
00:51:09Yeah.
00:51:10You like it here?
00:51:11Of course.
00:51:12With you everywhere is good.
00:51:13Yeah.
00:51:14For example, look around.
00:51:15I mean, when you are working, if I come here, is there a problem for you, for example?
00:51:23If you come to the beach?
00:51:24Yeah.
00:51:25Swim.
00:51:26Why don't you just get to know the neighborhood that we live in?
00:51:31Just start there, you know?
00:51:34Yeah.
00:51:35And we can start to build trust, little by little.
00:51:38I told Shikaina all the time, I'm not cheating on you.
00:51:44I won't cheat on you.
00:51:46I will do my best.
00:51:48I did my best to show her that I'm trustworthy, but you have to believe me.
00:51:53You have to believe me.
00:51:56I just want you to understand, babe, that your past, the choices that you made didn't
00:52:04only affect the women at the time that you were dealing with, but they're affecting
00:52:09me now because they make me wonder if you can really be loyal long-term.
00:52:16I can see how not trusting him could damage our relationship, but also trusting him too
00:52:21much could damage our relationship because he could have used my trust.
00:52:25I don't know.
00:52:26So I'm not sure if Sarper and I will be ready to get married in 90 days.
00:52:31Consistency is everything to me.
00:52:33So the more that he shows me he's consistently loyal, consistently honest, I think I'll learn
00:52:39to trust him more.
00:52:41I know that you changed so much, so rapidly, that it makes me wonder if it's not something
00:52:47you can sustain.
00:52:49I just worry that in the future, like something's going to happen and I'm going to regret trusting
00:53:01you.
00:53:02I'm not so hopeful that she will fully 100% will trust me in any time.
00:53:08But I can easily say that if she never get rid of that insecurities.
00:53:14If she never let me feel the freedom that I want, I will destroy everything, all bridges,
00:53:23and go back.
00:53:25And she will be so regretful about this.
00:53:32So how has it been like living with Lucille?
00:53:35How long do you want to stay there?
00:53:37Three.
00:53:38I wanted three months.
00:53:39So what are you doing to achieve that?
00:53:43I'm about to jump off this dock until this morning.
00:53:46I would suggest you do if you don't have a good answer.
00:53:49I am worried that things are not going to work out and she's just going to kick them
00:53:54to the side.
00:54:07Oh wow.
00:54:08I really like that.
00:54:09That's awesome, baby.
00:54:10That is an awesome dress.
00:54:11Okay.
00:54:12I feel like I've been gaining weight since I can't get it.
00:54:15Has your diet changed?
00:54:16It's awesome.
00:54:17When we came from nothing, all we want is to shine.
00:54:21When it's all or nothing, put it all on the line.
00:54:25Whew.
00:54:26Good.
00:54:27Wow.
00:54:28How do I look?
00:54:29I think it looks amazing.
00:54:30I love it.
00:54:31Tonight, I'm heading out to a restaurant.
00:54:32Joan is going to meet my two good friends, John and John.
00:54:35A couple of my friends that have been by my side for a very long time.
00:54:40Let me just think, baby.
00:54:41Yeah, he looks mad.
00:54:42He looks good on you here.
00:54:43Definitely is getting a little tighter.
00:54:44Mm-hmm.
00:54:45As of right now, Joan has only been around my mom and I.
00:54:46The fact that she's here in America and then I can introduce her to my friends, I can finally
00:54:59see she's a real person.
00:55:00It's a huge step in the right direction and I'm super excited about this.
00:55:05Keep adjusting this shirt like it's going to get any bigger.
00:55:09Tell me about the John you're going to meet.
00:55:20The Jones?
00:55:22So the one John you went to school with?
00:55:26Yeah.
00:55:27The other John?
00:55:28I met at my cousin's tire shop.
00:55:30Oh, yes.
00:55:31In 2015?
00:55:34How many Jones do you have?
00:55:37Let's see.
00:55:38Let's see.
00:55:39So you got Uncle John.
00:55:41John with the long hair.
00:55:42John the plumber.
00:55:43John the car guy.
00:55:44John, my cousin.
00:55:45I mean, there's at least seven, eight, eight Johns.
00:55:49Maybe even more.
00:55:51Oh, my God.
00:55:52Yeah, it's crazy.
00:55:54A lot of Jones.
00:55:55It's a very common name here, you know?
00:55:57Yeah.
00:56:02You're welcome, sweetheart.
00:56:04Okay.
00:56:05So anything we eat tonight, they catch it right on the side of the dock here.
00:56:11I'm just kidding.
00:56:13What's up, dude?
00:56:15What's up, man?
00:56:17What's up, dude?
00:56:18What's up, dude?
00:56:19What's up, dude?
00:56:20Thanks for coming, man.
00:56:21What's up?
00:56:22What's up, dude?
00:56:23Look at this guy.
00:56:24You got to be straight in your head, man.
00:56:25No, no, no.
00:56:26Guys, this is Tyson.
00:56:27I'm John.
00:56:28I'm also John.
00:56:29Very nice to meet you.
00:56:32I'm very excited.
00:56:33This is unreal.
00:56:35I just can't believe this is crazy.
00:56:37I can't believe you guys are here.
00:56:38We got Joan here, you know what I mean?
00:56:39Yeah, man.
00:56:40How's it been?
00:56:41You like it here?
00:56:42Yeah, so far it's good.
00:56:43Yeah?
00:56:45Is it different?
00:56:46Very, very different.
00:56:47Very different, right?
00:56:48It's clean.
00:56:49It's clean?
00:56:50Yes.
00:56:51That's a good, that's a plus.
00:56:53I mean, I've seen cleaner places, I'm gonna be honest with you.
00:56:56But it's not...
00:56:58It's not dirty.
00:57:04Yeah, so it's been like 21 years since I've known Greg.
00:57:06We used to hang out all the time, do all kinds of terrible stuff together as teenagers.
00:57:11At school.
00:57:12I'm not sure, not just in school, outside of school.
00:57:14We used to cut school a lot, to be honest with you.
00:57:17We used to get all kinds of hijinks.
00:57:19You ever gone lawn forking?
00:57:20Do they do lawn forking in Uganda?
00:57:21No.
00:57:22Do you know what lawn forking is?
00:57:23No, I don't know.
00:57:24Could you imagine rolling up to somebody's house in the middle of the night
00:57:27and placing plastic forks all over their front lawn?
00:57:31What?
00:57:32Yeah.
00:57:35Greg is a very funny person with a very magnetic personality.
00:57:38Greg did in fact win Prom King, although I don't know how much of that was somewhat of a joke
00:57:44or if it was just because he was super popular.
00:57:48I couldn't tell you that.
00:57:49Sometimes I feel like Greg's humor can be kind of a deflection for whatever internal issues he's having.
00:57:57You know, he's still living in his mother's house at the age of 35.
00:58:01Thank you so much.
00:58:08So how has it been like living with Lisieux?
00:58:14Yeah, it has been good.
00:58:16Yeah?
00:58:17How long do you want to stay there?
00:58:19Three. I wanted three months.
00:58:21So what are you doing to achieve that?
00:58:24I might have to jump off this dock into this morning.
00:58:27I would suggest you do if you don't have a good answer.
00:58:31I mean, obviously we're going to push towards getting our own place.
00:58:33Yeah.
00:58:34But it's going to take time, dude.
00:58:35I don't want to rent.
00:58:36So what do you want to do?
00:58:38The bakery, man.
00:58:40You want to open a bakery?
00:58:41I don't know what kind of funds you have in reserve.
00:58:43I know you have this dream of a bakery, you know, but I mean, is it worth spending that money on a bakery or is it worth spending that money on housing?
00:58:58You're not some trust fund hipster whose, you know, parents have unlimited funds to finance whatever dreams that you have, which is why a steady source of income might be, you know, a good option for you.
00:59:09Yeah.
00:59:10So the guys are really grilling me hard about getting a real job and moving out of my mom's house.
00:59:15It is true.
00:59:16It's all warranted.
00:59:17But the amount of money that I have been spending to go back and forth to Uganda, you know, the food, where we stay, I wouldn't call it a sacrifice, but I made those decisions for the better of my relationship.
00:59:29So I understand where they're coming from.
00:59:31And I appreciate that.
00:59:32But at the end of the day, it is a little nerve wracking.
00:59:34You know, why are you guys ganging up with me?
00:59:36Like, chill out.
00:59:37What's like the end game?
00:59:38Like, what is it you're looking for in the end, the both of you?
00:59:41Family.
00:59:43I want as many kids as she's willing to give me, you know?
00:59:46How many kids are you willing to give?
00:59:47Two.
00:59:48Two.
00:59:49Very realistic number, thank you.
00:59:51I would settle for four.
00:59:53Settle for four.
00:59:56Looking at the way he handles his, like, savings.
01:00:00He doesn't save.
01:00:01So he needs a budget, like.
01:00:03Have land in Uganda.
01:00:04Come here in America.
01:00:06Have nothing like a house.
01:00:09I have to stay in his mother's house.
01:00:11So it's ridiculous.
01:00:13It's a lie.
01:00:14I wouldn't want to live with my mother-in-law.
01:00:17I've always suggested that Greg try to find a job that, you know, is steady.
01:00:24Maybe something in a union or something like that where he's got, you know, a steady paycheck, job security.
01:00:29There's multiple opportunities he could have taken throughout his life that he has chosen not to do because he just doesn't want to punch someone else's clock.
01:00:38Greg needs to be extremely realistic about what it's going to take to simply get a roof over their heads, let alone a roof that's large enough to supply children.
01:00:48Realistically, what is the next step here?
01:00:50Are you going to take a standard job?
01:00:51Are you going to try to move out of your parents' house?
01:00:53Are you going to move into a rental?
01:00:55You know, I have to figure out something that's going to support the both of us, at least until she can get a job and then we can figure it out from there.
01:01:03But right now, I am the sole proprietor.
01:01:05I am the sole caregiver.
01:01:06I am everything.
01:01:09I am worried that things are not going to work out and she's just going to kick them to the side, to be honest with you.
01:01:16It could be bad.
01:01:17If you didn't need, like, to marry me for me being here, you think you want to marry me?
01:01:31Well, I don't have any big need to get married in life. I've done it.
01:01:37Get married and live happy forever. All these things are important to me.
01:01:47I want to make sure you understand the rules are not coming, like, from us, the married couple imposed on you.
01:01:53I wish I didn't feel jealous.
01:01:55But it's time that she shows me that things are going to change.
01:02:02Is everyone allowed to have sex with each other without the other person's permission?
01:02:08You seem pippy.
01:02:24What?
01:02:25You seem pippy. You seem in a better mood.
01:02:29I don't understand this.
01:02:30You seem happier than when we left.
01:02:32Yeah, when I eat, I'm happy.
01:02:35Well, we have a picnic ready. You ready to go?
01:02:39But at first you can't get me a kiss.
01:02:41Mm-hmm.
01:02:44This is your kiss? Oh, .
01:02:47Well, I guess I better than I kiss, huh?
01:02:52We got this place locked down tonight. We're gonna live it up.
01:02:57We're gonna live it up.
01:03:03Hmm.
01:03:06Hello.
01:03:07Hi.
01:03:08Oh, hi. Welcome. How are you?
01:03:10Are you ready for the picnic?
01:03:12Yes.
01:03:13Yes, okay.
01:03:14We usually do this picnic for two people, but, well, you are three guys.
01:03:18Oh, okay, okay, okay.
01:03:19Okay.
01:03:20So, well, welcome. Let me show you the beautiful place we have prepared for you.
01:03:24Okay, for this way, please.
01:03:25There's nothing more romantic to do in Ensenada than to set up a beautiful picnic.
01:03:33Oh, wine.
01:03:35And wash the sun down together.
01:03:40Here's to you.
01:03:41Thank you, baby.
01:03:47I feel like we need to get back together and get things on track.
01:03:50I know there's a lot of emotions invested here, and I'm dealing with two women.
01:03:55I don't want to hurt these girls.
01:03:57I know there's a lot of expectations of me.
01:04:00So, in order for me to live up to those expectations, I need to understand them clearly.
01:04:05How's the wine?
01:04:10Nice.
01:04:14You know, a lot of the issues are probably because we don't have any guidelines on this.
01:04:19We should probably set some...
01:04:21Some rules?
01:04:22Some rules.
01:04:23Get some notes going for the rules.
01:04:25Okay, I'm going to...
01:04:26I know.
01:04:27I'm going to put it in our group chat because, you know, I'm always the note taker.
01:04:30So, Anja, I want to hear from you.
01:04:34I want to make sure you understand the rules are not coming, like, from us, the married couple imposed on you or imposed on the relationship.
01:04:41Everyone can have rules and boundaries.
01:04:44So, I want to know what you feel like there should be a rule.
01:04:48If we want to go fight all night, it's okay.
01:04:52But not sleep angry.
01:04:55That's a good rule.
01:04:56That's a good rule.
01:04:58What else, baby?
01:04:59What about you?
01:05:00Mine?
01:05:01Everyone gets a chance to talk.
01:05:02It's going to be impossible.
01:05:04Impossible to speak over you two.
01:05:06If y'all want to hear what I have to say, I have to be able to say it.
01:05:09Give Matt a chance to talk after we both talk.
01:05:12Yes, please.
01:05:13Okay.
01:05:15I guess the biggest rule that would be the most controversial one about us as a throuple is,
01:05:23is everyone allowed to have sex with each other without the other person's permission?
01:05:34I don't want it to be that restricted.
01:05:35This is why, initially, I never wanted rules.
01:05:38But I couldn't help what I felt that moment, which is a little bit of jealousy and disrespect.
01:05:44So, I would like you guys to let me know as soon as you can.
01:05:49I would like to be in the known.
01:05:52So, what you're asking for is for permission?
01:05:57I think so.
01:05:59That's good for me.
01:06:00That's good for me.
01:06:02Now, it's out there.
01:06:04I understand.
01:06:06For me, it's okay.
01:06:10Same thing for me, right?
01:06:11You want permission.
01:06:12I don't need permission.
01:06:13Enjoy yourself.
01:06:14I wish I didn't feel jealous.
01:06:19But it's important you communicate that.
01:06:21And it's important you feel supported, acknowledge all these things.
01:06:25We need rules because I fell sometimes in the middle.
01:06:31I feel like we've made such a great progress.
01:06:34Big progress.
01:06:35I think so.
01:06:36Big progress.
01:06:37I'm so happy.
01:06:38Give me your hands, everyone.
01:06:39Come on.
01:06:40Groupies.
01:06:41After we set up the rules, you know, I have my heart open and I'm excited to make some type of progress.
01:06:53But the thing is, I haven't forgotten about the biggest problem here, which is Ani still has not told her family that she's in a throuple.
01:07:04And even worse, she told them that I'm just a friend and Matt is the boyfriend.
01:07:13It's time that she shows me that things are going to change.
01:07:18Yeah, I mean, she needs to show you that she's serious about you and us.
01:07:23I got ladies to please.
01:07:25Come, come.
01:07:27Okay, I'm not gonna do that.
01:07:29What?
01:07:52Now you're gonna get in trouble.
01:07:54Let me put your blanket down.
01:08:07He wakes us up every day like that.
01:08:11He wakes me up every day like that.
01:08:16He needs to learn to sleep more.
01:08:19Oh, how can you resist this little face?
01:08:24Little.
01:08:28He's really cute and nice.
01:08:30But I was expecting a puppy very small because it's what Sean promised me.
01:08:36I was waiting to have, like, something that I can carry on my bag.
01:08:39I know, you want a large rat that is allegedly a dog.
01:08:42Last night you went to sleep so fast.
01:08:48All I know is, like, I was already passed out and you came walking in like, I need stuff for my face.
01:08:55Like, oh, God.
01:08:57How do you want me to find the things?
01:08:59I don't know anything, anywhere.
01:09:01I know.
01:09:02It's impossible.
01:09:03Last night was Aaliyah's first night here in my house and I had all my clothes still on and I wound up passing out before she made it out of the bathroom.
01:09:15I think every time me and Aaliyah come together, it seems a little distant in the beginning as we're filling each other out and then it gets easier and easier.
01:09:24We're going on a hike, so we need some hiking food because you're going to get hungry.
01:09:31It's my first day here.
01:09:33We need to go hiking.
01:09:35We cannot go shopping.
01:09:38Maybe you don't need a full face of glam.
01:09:40Maybe tinted moisturizer, some lip gloss and...
01:09:44I know.
01:09:45I know what we are going to do.
01:09:47I'm fine.
01:09:54We're here.
01:09:55We're here.
01:09:56How do I look?
01:09:58Warm.
01:10:01Come on, puppy.
01:10:03We're going to go poop.
01:10:09You got the bag?
01:10:12Do you want to do it?
01:10:14No, no, absolutely not.
01:10:15Your first potty bag?
01:10:16No, you can't do that.
01:10:18I will not be the one cleaning dog poop.
01:10:20For me, it's just gross.
01:10:22So it's the work of my fiancee.
01:10:29Oh.
01:10:30Oh, more poo.
01:10:33As long as you are cleaning everything, there is no problem to me.
01:10:37Well, you're a mommy now, so I'm expecting you to do some work too.
01:10:43Don't cream so much.
01:10:44What?
01:10:47Mm-hmm.
01:10:49Apples.
01:10:51Cut to perfection.
01:10:53Some trail mix.
01:10:55Mix to perfection.
01:10:57I want to try the thing that you did.
01:10:59Yeah.
01:11:00PB&J.
01:11:04It's your first one.
01:11:06And?
01:11:08It's so interesting.
01:11:10Mix.
01:11:12Thanks.
01:11:14It's my first time trying peanut butter.
01:11:16Feels a little weird in the mouth, but it's not so bad.
01:11:20So everyone by my side, like family, friends, they know that I'm here to get married with you.
01:11:35I'm curious to know, like, if people by your side know that.
01:11:40Well, my mom knows a bit, and a couple of my friends know some things, but the kids and everybody else don't know anything.
01:11:59That is, like, anything about me that you feel, like, embarrassed, like, to introduce me to people?
01:12:05No.
01:12:07I'm not feeling embarrassed or don't want to say or whatever.
01:12:12I just...
01:12:14I just don't want to hear anybody's comments about anything, and not even just you.
01:12:19It's just anything about my life.
01:12:21I don't really want to...
01:12:24I don't need people's advice.
01:12:27They're going to ask me things from what they would think is my own good, whether it's cultural, age difference.
01:12:35And so, why hear it? Why am I going to deal with it?
01:12:38I'd rather just introduce Aaliyah to them and see what happens.
01:12:42I think we have a beautiful story together, so I think you should tell more people about me.
01:12:47And they'll get to meet you, so they'll get to see the story, and they won't just have to hear about it.
01:12:50And granted, if it wasn't for the circumstances of how things have to happen in order for you to be in the country, I would just be like, come to the country and let's live together and just be together.
01:13:03I don't have any big need to get married in life. I've done it.
01:13:12The process makes the pressure for that. I think the 90s...
01:13:18I think even if the process is something that I always wanted, so it's like a dream to me.
01:13:27Yeah.
01:13:28It is hard for me to hear that Sean would not marry me if it was not because of the visa.
01:13:38Because even if we are here, I think we're here because of love and because I want to get married with him.
01:13:45And I want to believe that the same thing is true for him.
01:13:49If you didn't need, like, to marry me for me being here, you think you want to marry me?
01:13:58I don't think it's about, like, I want to marry you. I think it's about, I've been married before and it didn't work out, so I'm more fearful about that.
01:14:08So I want to make sure everything's going along.
01:14:12The love parts of the relationship get married to be part of his world and live happy forever.
01:14:22All these things are important to me.
01:14:25So if Sean's still like this until the end of the ninth days, I don't know if I want to marry him.
01:14:32I'm telling you right now that I don't want to get married unless it's forever. I mean it.
01:14:42It was just a thought.
01:14:44Okay, don't think it.
01:14:46The hardest thing I've ever done was leaving my family, but I can't even be honest with her about that.
01:14:52I know what I want, but I just want to know what you want.
01:15:02You're here and we're talking about our wedding and you're like, I had already thought that I would stay if we didn't work out. I don't like that.
01:15:20Why don't you just...
01:15:21Because I would have moved anywhere to be with you.
01:15:24Even Iran, as terrible as you, like, things I've heard, I would have moved there to be with you if I could have.
01:15:32And I never would have said, well, if we didn't work out, then I would just stay there.
01:15:39It's a lot different when you think about it that way.
01:15:42Well, just like a thought. I was like, okay, this is it and that's it for 10 seconds.
01:15:47Yeah, but the difference is you've had those thoughts and I have not ever had those thoughts.
01:15:53Not for a second? No.
01:15:55You swear on me? I swear on you.
01:15:57Like, for me, it's forever or nothing.
01:16:06Honestly, I don't hear anything that he's saying because all I can hear is the part where he's talking about if we don't work out.
01:16:12And this is really shocking to me because I would have never went through with all of this if there was ever a doubt that Maddie and I weren't going to work out.
01:16:20If I would have asked you to come here thinking I was going to leave you, I never would have, knowing that you could possibly not go back, knowing that you could come here and we may not get along.
01:16:32Or, you know, I even said, I don't know how I'll feel if dad's not okay with you because he means so much to me.
01:16:37But at the end of the day, all the people that I love in my life, I had already made a decision about you and I was already committed to you enough that if any of those little pieces wouldn't have worked out, I still would have chosen you.
01:16:48I'm telling you right now that I don't want to get married unless it's forever. I mean it. Like, I'm dead serious.
01:17:00This is what I want, but I don't want you to just make a big deal out of my thoughts.
01:17:06It's a huge deal. Your thoughts are a huge deal.
01:17:10I have been so hurt in my life that I'm not willing to be hurt again.
01:17:16So if you love me at all, you just make sure it's what you want because I'm not going to do it.
01:17:22Sorry, I love you so much.
01:17:24You're not making me feel reassured that these things are not true when you say things like that, which is the first time you've ever said anything like that, ever.
01:17:36Are you saying you would come and then stay? That disgusts me if we broke up.
01:17:40I didn't say that.
01:17:42Then how did you say it?
01:17:44I just said it was just a thought.
01:17:47Okay, don't think it.
01:17:51I really didn't expect her to just get super defensive. I expected her to be more understanding and tell me that, no, it's going to work out. Don't worry. Like, we get it.
01:18:04Any relationship could go wrong. So we have to be reasonable about it.
01:18:11I don't want you to just feel even for a second that I'm lying. I want to stay with you forever. And that's it.
01:18:20Okay, but...
01:18:21So I know what I want deep down. And this is my fault that I'm telling you.
01:18:27No, it's not your fault. You need to tell me so we can talk about it.
01:18:31You don't want to know. Like, I shouldn't tell you.
01:18:34Stevie is the only person that I can talk to. But right now, whatever I say, it just backfires and makes her sad.
01:18:49The hardest thing I've ever done in my life was leaving my family, but I can't even be honest with her about that.
01:18:57I need a supportive wife, no matter how hard everything gets. And right now, that's not Stevie.
01:19:03I'm going back tomorrow to New Hampshire.
01:19:13To New Hampshire?
01:19:14Yeah.
01:19:15Not to see the family.
01:19:18I don't know what to do either. What do you want me to do?
01:19:20With all this going on with Jordan, I'm ready to call the wedding off if the two of my favorite women can't get along.
01:19:26You're trying for what? For your family, for yourself, for your daughter.
01:19:31I'm supposed to go like this.
01:19:43Jordan, come on. I can't believe you're acting like this.
01:19:46Oh, my God. Can you shut up?
01:19:56What happened?
01:19:57Well, she said I'm not coming to the wedding, so...
01:19:59Wait, what?
01:20:00Yeah.
01:20:02Why'd you say that?
01:20:03She doesn't think that I approve, and I don't, so she doesn't want me there, so I don't want to be there either.
01:20:09Maria. Maria. Maria. Come here. Come here. Come here. Come on. Let's go get mama. Come on. Come with me. Come on. Come on. You okay? What happened? What'd she say? I mean, what? I know she told me. You told her she's not coming to the wedding. For what? Yes.
01:20:24Because she's not accepting.
01:20:55That was a judgment.
01:20:56I know. I'm coming in the US. I come for you. Because I love you. I don't come in for your family. Thank you. I'm coming for your money. I'm tired, you know? It's not just me. You have Maria, too.
01:21:08I know. I got mad at her, too, because I don't feel like it's right that she's being so judgmental. Of you and me, she's just not...
01:21:15For me, she don't like me. It's not possible she come in the wedding.
01:21:20I'm just trying to stay out of the two of you, but I want you both to be happy. I don't understand the situation. I know I started it, but you guys need to fix it.
01:21:31I feel bad for Mina because with all this going on with Jordan, her son Clayton's also, you know, we're not sure the status of him, whether he's going to be here, she's ready to call the wedding off.
01:21:43But I'm also pretty serious that this is my daughter, and if she can't get along with my daughter, maybe I won't marry her.
01:21:57Tomorrow?
01:21:58Yeah.
01:21:59To New Hampshire?
01:22:00Yeah.
01:22:01Not to see the family?
01:22:02Just wait and see. Let's try. Let's wait and see. And try. I know you match.
01:22:07When you tell me try, try, try. I'm tired of trying. Anytime. I try, I try, I try.
01:22:14I don't know what to do either. What do you want me to do? I...
01:22:18You okay? Come here. Stand here.
01:22:25You okay?
01:22:27All right.
01:22:28Maria, you sit with daddy. I need one daughter not mad at me. One person. One person smiling. Thank you.
01:22:40I don't know why now. It's every time, Mina, you try, you try, you try. You try for what? For your family? For yourself? For your daughter? It's too much work for me.
01:22:55You're supposed to go like this.
01:23:14Next time on 90 Day Fiancé.
01:23:23I don't know how he's going to pay for the dowry because he's not financially stable.
01:23:28Send him to get a job.
01:23:30The dowry I told you about gets 15 cows.
01:23:34Realistically, though, how does somebody afford 15 cows?
01:23:36It's not like people can't afford it. It's just you.
01:23:40It's like a knife in the heart, straight up.
01:23:42If you don't get a job, I want to go back to you.
01:23:46What'd you just say?
01:23:47I've just been thinking about last night and I feel hurt.
01:23:54I'm giving up my career, my life on the boat for coming here, and now I can see how much of a sacrifice it was.
01:24:04And I guess I'm just wondering, too, like, do you want this? Do you want all of this?
01:24:14Did you also feel like you were mourning the loss of Douglas?
01:24:19All I remember is this feeling of, there is no more Douglas. And I'm like, what do you mean?
01:24:25I'm here, we have 90 days, and I'm really worried the more that I'm being myself, he'll be more distant.
01:24:31If he doesn't get married, that we'd be like a disaster.
01:24:38Ah, here they are.
01:24:40I'm hungry because Jordan talked bull .
01:24:44And the family.
01:24:46Have you guys talked any more about a prenup?
01:24:48Yeah, I think, uh, yeah.
01:24:51You think I come just for your money, Mark, you too?
01:24:55I finished this conversation again.
01:25:00I don't even know that someone will bless me.
01:25:04Oh, my God.
01:25:06I'm really nervous about Sarpur meeting my friends tonight.
01:25:09If this doesn't go well, it's going to really affect our life in LA together.
01:25:13Sarpur, I'm going to be honest with you. I didn't believe in your relationship.
01:25:17I think that I would be a better guy to be with.
01:25:22What the ?
01:25:23That French bagot.
01:25:24He is non-stop talking.
01:25:26He's good .
01:25:27Come on.
01:25:28You better not want to have programs with me, for sure.
01:25:30Really?
01:25:34What the ?
01:25:36hats that guys sing, like a great place.
01:25:37At happy place.
01:25:38It's nice to be in the future.
01:25:39It's okay.
01:25:40First we have to agree with you.
01:25:41First we're receiving
01:25:42you can talk a great message to you.
01:25:43You'll also you and me.
01:25:44Put the legislation on your agenda today.
01:25:46This is a gift to appreciate the work with the company.
01:25:47Let's pay attention.
01:25:48What we are например,
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