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00:00:01The countdown is on until the end of the experiment and their final vow
00:00:06ceremonies. The hardest decision is to fight and that's what we want to do and
00:00:12I want to move forward. And this past week, just because the experiment comes
00:00:17to an end doesn't mean we come to an end. Our couples began planning their lives
00:00:21beyond the experiment. There's a key to my apartment. Oh that's so cute, thank you.
00:00:27But the future wasn't clear for Beth. If it all ended abruptly tomorrow, is my
00:00:33daughter gonna get her heartbroken? Your beard doesn't breed manly. Your brain is
00:00:39so small. My brain is small? Yeah. And a challenging homestays. I think he's been
00:00:44absolutely gypped of this experiment by being put with you. Led to Ryan announcing
00:00:49he wants out of his marriage with Jackie. I'm just sick of it, I've had a guffle mate.
00:00:53I'm sick of it, Jackie. I can't, I can't do this, Jackie. I don't lose people. People lose me.
00:01:01Tonight, it's the final commitment ceremony of the experiment. The very last opportunity to get
00:01:13feedback from the experts to make an accurate decision going into final vows. No more beating
00:01:20around the bush. The experts apply the pressure. Is it just really as simple as you're just not
00:01:27that into her? Tough questions. Do you think Afina could be that right person for you?
00:01:34Um. Lead to unexpected bombshells. At the moment I don't think I'm in love with Dave.
00:01:41And then. We're having a conversation about how you have made Ryan feel. The experts hold Jackie to
00:01:49account. As a person. Why is she laughing? It's Jackie. I'm not sure that's funny. And they are
00:01:55not in a laughing mood. Why are you laughing about something that is so important to him? Just sit
00:02:02with that. Now back to you, Ryan. Will Jackie and Ryan quit the experiment just days before the final vows?
00:02:09Um. Oh. What? Oh my God. It's horrible.
00:02:14It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony. Stay, stay, stay. I've had enough of you. Stay.
00:02:37And after more than eight weeks in the experiment. We've been married for nearly three months. I know,
00:02:44yeah. How crazy is that? Tonight marks the final time our couples will meet with the experts. We're
00:02:50good. As always. But it's the controversy from last night's dinner party that's still front and center in
00:03:00everyone's minds. Last night was a bit interesting, wasn't it? It was a crucial one, homestays, I think.
00:03:08Well, it's a turning point, you know. Yeah. You can make your relationship blossom, which has been our
00:03:12case. Yeah. Or it can have the exact opposite effect and you look like TJ and Beth are the perfect
00:03:17example. Yeah. Your dad said to me, if the experiment ends tomorrow, yes or no, is my daughter going to get
00:03:22her heart broken? I know, and he used the wrong word. He probably should have said, is she going to be hurt?
00:03:27I was diplomatic in the way the answer, because I don't want to give a yes or a no. All I
00:03:30wanted from you was to know that you'd like to be just a little bit enough to actually want to
00:03:36progress this on the outside. That is not what you said, darling. Take a shot for a time, TJ, this is
00:03:41darling. Well, you never asked me if I wanted to keep trying this experiment, darling. It's all a
00:03:47little bit confusing. It was confusing, wasn't it? I'm just not buying it. Yeah, I think the darling
00:03:53part doesn't help TJ's case either. The darling part. There was no resolution with them two last
00:04:00night. I think they're just focusing on the wrong things, like go on dates, go have fun, like you
00:04:05know. They haven't done that. Like, I know she feels like TJ doesn't want her, so she's not acting
00:04:12like herself in a relationship. Okay, well maybe he's enough, he's not enough.
00:04:16I definitely felt pressured when getting those yes or no questions from Beth and her family and
00:04:27friends at homestays. You know, that's a definite, that's a line in the sand. Do you want to be with
00:04:32me? Yes or no? If not, then we're not going to catch up. You know, Beth, she hasn't gone through
00:04:37as much as I have in a relationship perspective. And I think Beth is definitely asking these questions
00:04:43because she needs the reassurance that maybe she won't get her heart broken or maybe it's where she
00:04:49wants the relationship to be. I don't like Beth any less. I still adore her as a person. I think she's
00:04:56fantastic inside and out. It's just hard when I've been struggling with that connection.
00:05:03And where my head is at is that I don't know if this is a friendship or relationship. So I just
00:05:08want to do what's best for myself. And I also want to do what I think is best for Beth as well.
00:05:19Last night was a lot, but it was good for me to get the things I needed off my chest. At the table
00:05:24when I was trying to explain how I feel, he said that he thought I was asking for a yes and no answer.
00:05:28That's not what I want. All I want is for you to just be able to say, look, we're not in the best
00:05:34place, but I'm willing to work on it. Going off of the conversation he had with just me one-on-one
00:05:40at last night at the dinner party, I did feel like TJ was very genuine. He never once said, look,
00:05:45I want to leave. He never said that. If you don't want to be here, that's so fine. I just need to,
00:05:51I just need to hear it. I just don't want to rush something right now. Oh no.
00:05:59Sure, of course. That's not me saying no. Of course, yeah.
00:06:06Yeah, see there's the mixed messages. He gives her crumbs.
00:06:09I feel like I've been very consistent in this experiment. I've tried to be as open as I can,
00:06:24and I know TJ has tried as well. Otherwise, if there was literally zero, I wouldn't be here.
00:06:29You know, he comes to homestays. We've been on a date. He slept with me again.
00:06:33He needs an emotional connection to be intimate. So I hope that means that he does have an emotional
00:06:40connection to me, because otherwise, I guess it wouldn't make sense for him to initiate that.
00:06:45To me, they're all signs of like, okay, he's interested in growing in this relationship.
00:06:50I know TJ needs some time to think, and you know, his head's all over the place. But I'm here to
00:06:56support him. I've got a guy that I do like being around. I am, you know, hopeful as a future.
00:07:03Because I'm here, and now I'm ready to give him everything. And for me, I want to drop all this
00:07:08awkward tension. I don't like it. But that's up to him and how he wants to move forward.
00:07:14It can only feel nice if we both try. And I know I'm willing to try. I just don't know if he is.
00:07:27As Beth and TJ contemplate tonight's decisions, our other couples are preparing for the final
00:07:34commitment ceremony of the experiment. Are you excited about our last commitment
00:07:39ceremony ever? I can't believe it's actually the last one.
00:07:42That is, time has flown. This will be their last opportunity to face the experts before making
00:07:50the ultimate choice, to stay and continue in the experiment through to final vows,
00:07:56or leave their marriages and go their separate ways. I reckon the experts are probably going to be
00:08:01asking some of the hard questions, probably going to want to make sure that everyone, every couple are
00:08:06on the same page, you know? Guess it will unpack it all tonight.
00:08:09During their one-on-one conversation at last night's dinner party, Jackie made an emotional plea to Ryan,
00:08:18something she is still processing.
00:08:22I am accepting you. I don't think I'm better than you. And like, I'm trying so hard.
00:08:27I can't, I can't do this, Jackie. I'm exhausted, mentally.
00:08:34I'm sorry you're exhausted.
00:08:39I didn't mean to hurt you.
00:08:42And I'm sorry for telling you how your health should be run.
00:08:45I think last night was a real eye-opener for me.
00:08:54Just in terms of the realisations I've had with Ryan to make this the best relationship for the two of us.
00:09:00I can't build a healthy relationship without having addressed these concerns I've got,
00:09:06or at least like work on compromises or, you know, have curious intellectual discussions about them.
00:09:12So I'm really proud of myself and I did an absolutely exceptional job last night.
00:09:19During that one-on-one discussion, I was able to convince Ryan to start working through some of our
00:09:24problems, which is really difficult for Ryan to agree to. Like, he never wants to do that, just the two of us.
00:09:30But I do think this experiment's good for Ryan. There's so much he needs to learn.
00:09:35And he'll probably have to re-watch his behaviour.
00:09:39But I do think he's really lucky to be with me.
00:09:42And I do think that this relationship can repair itself and move forward.
00:09:45Because Ryan never expressly said that he doesn't want to be here with me and that he wants to go home.
00:09:50And when I was asking him, you know, do you see anything in me that you want to keep working on?
00:09:55He kind of just went silent. He didn't say no.
00:09:58Which in my mind, like when Ryan does this, it means he's writing stay.
00:10:05I'm writing leave.
00:10:08Emotionally, I'm just tired.
00:10:11I just, I don't know, I think, I think the world's dried up.
00:10:15It's really sad, but like, I've got to be realistic.
00:10:18At this point in my life, I'm getting closer to 40.
00:10:21Like, I need the real thing.
00:10:23I don't need the conflict.
00:10:25I don't need the drama.
00:10:27The dinner party for me was really the time where I took that opportunity to just, like,
00:10:33lay everything out for the entire group to see.
00:10:36You know, like, what the relationship is kind of really like behind closed doors.
00:10:42We have arguments we don't need to.
00:10:44And my feelings get diminished.
00:10:46And I feel like a project that I'm being worked on by somebody else and molded and whatnot.
00:10:51But I know exactly who I am.
00:10:53And at this point in my life, all I want is for someone to fully embrace that.
00:10:59If we can't figure it out with ourselves and we keep having vastly different approaches to things,
00:11:04then, yeah, like, I just don't think there's a future for us.
00:11:21Hello, hello.
00:11:22Greetings, gentlemen.
00:11:23Hello, guys.
00:11:24How are you guys?
00:11:25Hi, welcome.
00:11:26We're very good.
00:11:27We're good.
00:11:46Greetings, ladies.
00:11:48Hello.
00:11:49Hi, boys.
00:11:51Ladies.
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00:12:00Are you OK?
00:12:02How are you?
00:12:02Have a good.
00:12:11Well, welcome, everybody, to the very final commitment ceremony of this experiment.
00:12:17It was over two months ago that you began this process where you were matched with a complete
00:12:24stranger.
00:12:25And you then went about facing challenges that most couples typically experience over several years.
00:12:32They've been thrown at you in a short space of time.
00:12:38Certainly, we have lost some couples along the way.
00:12:41But congratulations to all of you for getting this far.
00:12:45Now, of course, you're all coming back from homestays, which is such an important part of this experiment.
00:12:54So we're very much looking forward to hearing how that went for each and every one of you.
00:12:59We're very much looking forward to hearing how that went for each and every one of you.
00:13:01Tonight is make or break.
00:13:05This is your last shot with us.
00:13:08The very last opportunity you're going to have to get feedback from the experts that will give you
00:13:14the information you need to make an accurate decision going into final vows.
00:13:20Now, with that being said, our first couple up on the couch, Jamie and Dave.
00:13:35Hello, you two.
00:13:35Come take a seat.
00:13:39Well, you two, last time we saw you on this couch, things had shifted significantly
00:13:47between you. Yeah.
00:13:49And observing you last night at the dinner party, we're all still a little baffled about
00:13:57where things are at between the two of you. So we need you to really update us as to where
00:14:02you've come from in the last week to get to this point. And what next?
00:14:08Yeah, so the last time we were on this couch, I, you know, copped some questions that really opened
00:14:14my thoughts and my mind to, you know, really what this experiment's about.
00:14:20And I think that we have had such a good time together getting to know each other.
00:14:26Yes, we've come out of a rough patch. And I feel like moving forward into homestays,
00:14:32there was like a point where we sort of both were like, this is really going to be difficult.
00:14:38Okay.
00:14:39But in this relationship, like, yeah, there's ups and downs. And we don't have to have the living
00:14:45arrangements figured out straight away. These are all stepping stones. And there's more positive
00:14:49than negative. Okay.
00:14:51And that's the main thing I've taken out of it. Dave, where are your feelings at right now
00:14:57toward Jamie? I just feel like, you know, the last week, my feelings have grown. And I've been
00:15:04showing up. And she's been receptive of the gestures I've made. And that's helped me come
00:15:08out of my shell. Now, I know that as strong as where Jamie is, I can feel the feelings coming on.
00:15:15And I'm just going to ask Jamie, do you feel like the last week has been great for us?
00:15:23It has been really good for us, but it doesn't take away the concern part.
00:15:28So let's just rewind to last week when we were here. And Jamie, you know, you were talking about
00:15:34starting to develop real feelings for Dave. You know, you said that you were in love with him.
00:15:41And, you know, Dave, you were making it pretty clear that you weren't able to meet Jamie at that
00:15:45level at this point. Yeah. And Jamie, you started to question his feelings toward you,
00:15:52and whether that was real, and whether this relationship was actually going to work out.
00:15:55Mm-hmm. I felt like the rug was pulled out from under me last week. And I was like,
00:16:02wait a minute, I'm getting all these feelings, I'm so invested, and my needs aren't even being met in
00:16:07the areas I needed. So I think the love element is, like, a bit on hold now, because, like,
00:16:15the rose-coloured glasses are up. And I was like, okay, let's take this, like,
00:16:20a bit more, like, step by step.
00:16:23So are you saying that you're no longer in love with Dave?
00:16:28At the moment, I don't think I'm in love with Dave.
00:16:31Wow.
00:16:46So are you saying that you're no longer in love with Dave?
00:16:51At the moment, I don't think I'm in love with Dave.
00:16:56Wow.
00:16:56I think there's an element of being scared, though.
00:17:03Understandable.
00:17:03Like, my feelings get invested, and then I get a pullback. And for so long, I didn't know Dave,
00:17:10didn't have feelings progressing.
00:17:15And I trusted Dave so much. Like, I was like, he'd never do anything to hurt me. Like,
00:17:22this man is such a good guy. So it really just, it just completely blindsided me.
00:17:33I think from my point of view, I feel like we're in a good spot. And I feel like that
00:17:37I do have hope for us.
00:17:41Jamie, as Dave was talking, you looked quite uncertain with what he was saying.
00:17:47The last couple of weeks, I've struggled to feel reassured by what Dave's saying.
00:17:55I think she's scared, and I can understand that. And I feel like she has proceeded with caution.
00:18:01I can get that. But I'm trying to show up and be better and see what we can do together.
00:18:07But the two of you as a couple, you don't look the way you used to look.
00:18:15We've seen you throughout the experiment with passion, chemistry, excitement.
00:18:23And now at the final commitment ceremony, we've got nothing.
00:18:27I don't even know you, Jamie.
00:18:29Oh.
00:18:30I'm sitting here listening to you thinking, what happened to you?
00:18:33I'm very anxious right now. Sorry.
00:18:36Yeah.
00:18:37Well, that's because the guy that you're falling in love with pulled a handbrake on and said,
00:18:43I don't know if you're the one. And, you know, the whole time that we've been in these experiments,
00:18:49I don't know if we've actually seen someone retract and I love you.
00:18:55Nobody saw this coming.
00:18:56Dave, Jamie does not need you to be in love with her right now, but she does need to know
00:19:08that there is a possibility in the future that that could happen.
00:19:18I can honestly say I can see it happening one day. I could fall in love with you.
00:19:22I know that I've messed up, but we can make this work.
00:19:30And this experiment was experiment is about commitment. And that's what I want to do.
00:19:34And I want to continue on. I'm sometimes I'm just a stupid little boy and I hurt people's feelings.
00:19:39Okay. And I don't want to do that.
00:19:41I came here for love and I, I don't want to be scared anymore. I'm willing to give it,
00:19:52give it all I've got because I do care about you and I'll keep showing you. And I feel like that's,
00:19:57that's how we're going to get out of this.
00:20:01I can see it. And I just, I have to keep showing you. And I know that.
00:20:05Is it hard to talk about Dave?
00:20:17I just, I know I've heard it. I know she's struggling and I know that,
00:20:25I know what my job is and I've got to keep showing up and just build that connection because I've,
00:20:32I've felt it before and I could go goddamn going to feel it again. So.
00:20:42It's nice to say that I really care.
00:20:48Well, I haven't gotten this reaction yet. So it's nice. I mean, I don't like seeing him cry.
00:20:53I'm not crying.
00:20:56But it's like a bit, like, I don't want to see him upset, but it's a bit relieving to see that
00:20:59there's like that emotion there because it's been very concerning because I haven't seen any emotion
00:21:05like come from him this whole time.
00:21:11Well, you two, we're going to go to a decision.
00:21:15We're going to start with Jamie.
00:21:19Um, well, like, yes, we've had a few ups and downs, um, and we still got some work to do,
00:21:30but like, this lover girl is going to see the way through.
00:21:37Excellent. You, Dave, your turn. What have you got?
00:21:40This lover boy is going to stay.
00:21:48Brilliant.
00:21:52All right. Well, the two of you have both said stay, which means you will be going to the final vows,
00:21:58which is a really serious decision. You've had a fantastic session with us today. So thank you both
00:22:06for being so brave and so open. But really, this is a sign that
00:22:11there's a lot of work to be done in the next few days, few weeks to come. We know you both can do it.
00:22:17You've shown us tonight that you can. You've got to keep doing it.
00:22:23All right, you two. Thank you so much.
00:22:24Thank you very much, guys. Well done, guys.
00:22:28Good work, Dave.
00:22:30I had a bit of a slump, and now I'm coming out the other side of it, and I feel like
00:22:33leading into final vows, it's important to just do the repairs to the issues that I've caused.
00:22:40She's pumped and sweaty. Express how I actually feel, and to show up and to keep fighting,
00:22:45and I think it's worth it because Jamie is a great person, and I don't want to destroy that bond.
00:22:51So I think that it's up to me to sort of, you know, make things right.
00:22:57Our next couple up on the couch,
00:22:58Rhi and Jeff.
00:23:07Hey, guys. Here they are.
00:23:09Hey, guys. Hello.
00:23:10Hello. How are we?
00:23:12Good. We're very well. We're interested in how you two are doing.
00:23:16We're very well, too.
00:23:17Yeah, we're very good. So you've had homestays this week.
00:23:20Yeah.
00:23:21How did it go?
00:23:22Honestly, after like 10 minutes at homestay, I was like, oh no, this is easy.
00:23:27We instantly like felt extremely comfortable.
00:23:31And it pretty much just confirmed for me, me anyway, I mean,
00:23:36that our relationship like will work on the outside.
00:23:41It felt good.
00:23:42And on the last day of our homestays, I gave Rhi a key to my apartment.
00:23:46I love spending time with Rhi as much as I can. So once the experiment finishes,
00:23:56I don't really want that to change.
00:23:57Rhi, how did that feel?
00:23:59Yeah, it feels really good because it just confirmed that we are in such a strong spot.
00:24:05And like my concerns about the outside of the experiment, they're pretty much gone.
00:24:10Have you guys had any arguments?
00:24:16Not one.
00:24:17No.
00:24:17Not one?
00:24:17Nothing.
00:24:18No.
00:24:19I've got to say, it's pretty unusual.
00:24:21We would have a couple sit here at the end of the experiment and say,
00:24:23we've never had an argument.
00:24:26We just have really good communication.
00:24:28Yes.
00:24:28And we don't always try and be right.
00:24:31That's just the key, I feel.
00:24:33And I think that's what I've learned from my past relationships.
00:24:36I used to be so hell-bent on being right.
00:24:38I love that.
00:24:39I love that you've taken that from previous relationships and you're applying that here.
00:24:43Yeah, definitely.
00:24:45I think one thing this experiment's taught me is I had to grow as a partner.
00:24:51And communication was one of my big flaws early on.
00:24:53And you guys have obviously helped me with that.
00:24:56All the tasks have helped me with that.
00:24:58Rhi's definitely helped me with that.
00:25:00In turn, it's made me a better partner.
00:25:02Are you falling in love with him?
00:25:08I knew that question was coming.
00:25:11I'm on my way to falling in love.
00:25:16What about you, Jeff?
00:25:22Yeah.
00:25:24To be honest, I feel the exact same way.
00:25:27I couldn't be happier with where we're at and my feelings are very strong for Rhi.
00:25:31And yeah, it's definitely on that way.
00:25:33Yeah.
00:25:35And look, this really makes sense, I think, given the whole journey the two of you have been on.
00:25:41You know, we've often made comments to you about the pace that you've taken things at.
00:25:46There was a level of caution there.
00:25:48Yeah.
00:25:48You were both working through this relationship, I think, with a great deal of maturity and thought.
00:25:56I am grateful we did, because yeah, we could have just ended up in the same situation we did last year.
00:26:03Well, it's certainly been a unique experience.
00:26:06I would have never have picked this in a million years.
00:26:09It's actually quite a cool story.
00:26:11Mm-hmm.
00:26:12To tell your kids.
00:26:13That's it.
00:26:14I was about to say that, but I held my tongue.
00:26:17Well, I think it's time we go to the decision.
00:26:21Mm-hmm.
00:26:22We're going to start with you, Jeff.
00:26:25Um, yeah, the journey's been amazing so far.
00:26:29I just want to thank you guys for all your help getting our relationship and the advice
00:26:33you've given us to where it's at now.
00:26:35No secrets here, but I'm going to write stay.
00:26:37Wonderful.
00:26:42Yeah, good decision.
00:26:43Thanks, Jeff.
00:26:44And to you, Ree.
00:26:46I'm thankful you guys paired us together.
00:26:48And now you've got a key.
00:26:49And now you've got a key.
00:26:50I know.
00:26:51Honestly, the experiment has been amazing.
00:26:53It's the best thing I've ever done.
00:26:55That is wonderful to hear.
00:26:57And yeah, I hope that we continue to flourish.
00:27:02Now stay.
00:27:04Yeah, I love it.
00:27:09Couldn't be happier where our relationship's at at the moment.
00:27:12Oh, thank you.
00:27:12And, um, yeah, I'm pretty happy right now.
00:27:15I'm glad, thank you.
00:27:18Gorgeous.
00:27:19All right, thank you so much.
00:27:21Good on you guys.
00:27:22Thanks so much.
00:27:22Thanks so much.
00:27:23Absolute pleasure.
00:27:29So cute.
00:27:32Coming up.
00:27:33I want to know why you've been dishonest with Beth.
00:27:37I don't think I've been dishonest with Beth.
00:27:39I've always said that we've had a connection issue and that in order for this to be a relationship on the outside, we need things to develop.
00:27:45TJ finds himself in the hot seat.
00:27:48I think to myself, TJ, is it just as simple as you're just not that into her?
00:27:54And later...
00:27:56You said to Jackie that you don't really feel like she ever accepted you as a man.
00:28:05As a person, and I knew...
00:28:07Jackie's reaction raises eyebrows.
00:28:09Why is she laughing?
00:28:10Hold on, Jackie, explain yourself.
00:28:12What the hell is so funny about this?
00:28:13Why are you laughing about something that is so, so important to him?
00:28:19Our next couple up on the couch.
00:28:34Beth and TJ.
00:28:35How are you?
00:28:48How are you?
00:28:50Oh, all right. Thank you. How are you?
00:28:52I meant, like, in general, you both.
00:28:56When you went to homestays...
00:28:59Um...
00:28:59Obviously, homestays to me was a huge deal because I never really brought a guy back to meet my family.
00:29:08Um, but I think the timeline of events leading up to that did confuse me because obviously we say yes
00:29:14at the commitment ceremony. We have some great days together. He initiates sex. We sleep together again.
00:29:19And then days after that, he can't answer a question about whether he wants to continue this
00:29:24on the outside or not. So to me, I'm just like, I just, yeah, it just really took me by surprise.
00:29:29Yeah.
00:29:31TJ, I really want to know more about this conversation that happened on homestays.
00:29:39Tell me about that, please.
00:29:41Yeah, so, um, at homestays, yeah, I was met with, I guess, some questions.
00:29:47One of them was, if the experiment ends tomorrow, is my daughter going to have her heart broken?
00:29:52Um, another question was, are my intentions in the experiment, are they
00:29:58pure? Um, and, uh, it's tough. I think it kind of pushed me into a, I was a little bit scared.
00:30:07I don't think I was ready for yes or no questions.
00:30:11The intention of whether or not you're like committed to working on this relationship, that's
00:30:16a very easy yes-no question at this point in this relationship.
00:30:23I know there's a connection issue between Beth and I, and from where I was sitting at the, that point,
00:30:29I, I was scared to give a yes or a no, because in my mind, there are things missing for both of us.
00:30:33You say there's a connection issue, but do you not think that she will take reintegrating sex into
00:30:42the relationship as a signal that you are feeling connected with her?
00:30:46I, I don't think I thought about it like that at the time. Obviously, I wanted to have sex,
00:30:53but Beth has mentioned that, you know, that the, that side of the intimacy is something that she
00:30:58needs as well. I, I guess what I was thinking was that Beth has given me the green line. I want to
00:31:04satisfy that part of our relationship too, to see if maybe that stems something else.
00:31:07Yes, but there's a big difference in the type of sexual connection that she was referring to.
00:31:16She was talking about feeling close and connected to you.
00:31:18Maybe I, I misinterpreted that then.
00:31:23Beth, was there anything about TJ's behavior between the time that you guys were physically
00:31:28intimate again and having that conversation with your parents? Were you felt any difference
00:31:33in connection or were you feeling very connected through those days in between?
00:31:40There was nothing. There was definitely a disconnect from having sex to then the homestays.
00:31:46Like we didn't kiss, we didn't really hug. Um, I feel like there wasn't even much conversation.
00:31:57I don't know. It's, it's, it's hard to kind of wrap my head around like how we've gone from
00:32:03how we have been in the beginning and having so much fun together and
00:32:07that banter. And I love that light energy that we have around each other to now being in this
00:32:11position. It's just, I don't know where it went wrong because to me it feels like you've kind of
00:32:17flipped a switch and I, I'm kind of like trying to look back on the last few weeks and try to like
00:32:21piece together where it stopped being, I guess, enjoyable for you, genuine. I don't know.
00:32:28I don't not enjoy my time with you. That's the thing.
00:32:30And that's the thing. Like I'm very well aware the deep connection hasn't
00:32:35got there. I guess for me, I'm still willing to like explore that. You know, like,
00:32:39I think it's very confusing because of the mixed signals and mixed communications that clearly have
00:32:46been going on. Which is the truth in terms of what you want or don't want out of a relationship
00:32:53with Beth because she's been clear and consistent every single time. You have not. Especially with
00:32:59the reintegrating sex in the last week. I want to know why you've been dishonest with Beth.
00:33:06I don't think I've been dishonest with Beth. I've always said that we've had a connection
00:33:11issue and that in order for this to be a relationship on the outside, we need things to develop.
00:33:16From where I'm looking at the two of you, it's always coming from you, TJ.
00:33:22Beth has a difficulty with the connection because you're not wanting to connect with her.
00:33:29If you wanted to connect with her, I can assure you, correct me if I'm wrong,
00:33:33she would have no problem with connection, TJ.
00:33:36So for you, TJ, where are your feelings at currently when it comes to Beth?
00:33:47I think we've had an incredible connection from the start. You know, I think everyone in the
00:33:52experiment can agree that, you know, the friendship and the banter that we've developed is
00:33:56contagious. Like, it is an incredible thing to be around and to connect with someone so fast was
00:34:03really nice on that level. But I don't think the romantic connection is growing for me. I,
00:34:08that's just where I'm at right now. I just don't feel that side of our connection building.
00:34:15What do you think that is, TJ? Why is it not growing?
00:34:18I'm not sure if I can put my finger on it and I'm...
00:34:23I think to myself, TJ, is it just really as simple as you're just not that into her?
00:34:33Are you asking me that question now?
00:35:00I just, I don't think it's as simple as that, though.
00:35:07Do you think it can change for you, TJ?
00:35:11I mean, there's not a lot of time left.
00:35:14Yeah. In the experiment, I, I don't think I've strayed away from where I've stood in this
00:35:21relationship and where I think we were. And right now, I don't think there could be anything drastic
00:35:27to change for me to grow romantic feelings over the next two weeks. I, I really don't.
00:35:37I probably could have helped some things to help my romantic connection or my romantic emotion grow
00:35:41towards you. But it's, it's not growing for me at the moment. And I don't want to lie to you about how
00:35:45I'm feeling. I don't want to string that along for you. Like, I would hate that. I would hate myself for that.
00:35:50I think it's a good time right now to go to the decision. Stay or leave. Let's go with you first.
00:36:02Beth. Well, obviously the position we're in at the moment, um, yeah, it doesn't feel nice. It
00:36:13doesn't feel like it usually has in the past. Um, and yeah, it's been a really hard decision to make.
00:36:22But I'm not the kind of partner that walks away from something. So I'll stay.
00:36:29Ah, yep. She's taking a massive risk.
00:36:39TJ, stay or leave? Um, this decision was definitely the hardest one for me. And I,
00:36:48I wanted to, I guess, give myself time and space to feel how I was feeling. And I'm scared.
00:36:59And that, that I wrote.
00:37:03Leave.
00:37:03I really want to know how you feel, Beth, in this moment.
00:37:19I feel, um, from the heart. It does feel, um, crap knowing that the person that I want to work
00:37:29with and invest in doesn't feel the same. And I think for me, it's kind of frustrating that now I'm
00:37:34here and I'm the person that I've wanted, um, to be and you've wanted that vulnerability. Now that I'm here,
00:37:40ready to give it, he's checked out. What do you say to that, TJ?
00:37:47To which part? Sorry.
00:37:50The whole thing, what you just said. Were you listening?
00:37:53Yeah, I was listening. Um, I guess it's, it's the situation that we're in at the moment. I've
00:37:59been honest with the way that I'm feeling. Um, yeah. Yeah, it's hard.
00:38:09Okay. As you both know, when one person in the experiment writes leave and the other person says,
00:38:15stay, you must stay for another week. And it's going to be very different from the past weeks
00:38:22that you've been dealing with. This will lead straight to final vows. The stakes are much higher
00:38:28here. And from what I'm seeing, there is a complete disconnect between you guys. So I really encourage
00:38:35you and urge you to have conversations and actions that perhaps might lead to a better outcome.
00:38:41Yeah. TJ, just, just be as authentic and as raw as you can be. Because I tell you what's worse.
00:38:52Having this limbo and uncertainty, which goes on and on, that's soul destroying. When you know what's
00:39:00going on, you can make meaning of it and move forward. Because at the moment, it's lack of
00:39:06accountability, this lack of insight. Yeah. It's frustrating. We don't need politicians.
00:39:16Okay. The time for word salad is over. No more beating around the bush.
00:39:24You can go back to? Thank you. Thanks, guys. Thank you. Bye. Thank you.
00:39:30Good luck, you too. Thank you. Thank you. Well done, Dolan.
00:39:32Thank you. Our next couple, up on the couch, Adrian and Afina.
00:39:53Hello. Hey, how you going? How you going? Hi.
00:39:57Well, let's get straight into it. How were homestays? I had a great time.
00:40:03Really? Yeah, I did. I'm surprised, because I was thinking that you would
00:40:07be confronted with her sister. My beautiful sister, he was. And they had a great time.
00:40:13The last time Adrian met Cleo, it was under such different circumstances. He and I weren't
00:40:18connecting. We were in a really terrible place. And my twin sister came in on my defence. She'd seen
00:40:23how I was hurting. You know, it's been a few weeks since I'd seen her last. She hasn't had the
00:40:27opportunity to see Adrian and I when we do connect. I think we both came into that lunch open-minded.
00:40:33And, you know, it was about me and Afina, not about me and Cleo. And we decided to move on.
00:40:40Also, my mum was present. And, you know, I would hate to get into a disagreement in front of my mum.
00:40:44So they saw you as a different couple, but also there were other individuals there,
00:40:48which meant the whole experience was different.
00:40:50So different. Yeah, 100%.
00:40:52Well, look, these homestays are designed to get you to have a glimpse into your partner's world,
00:40:59see whether you can fit.
00:41:03Now, you two live in different states. You have a child, Afina. So what about this distance?
00:41:12For me right now, I have obligations in Sydney, and I don't plan on moving anywhere in the next
00:41:17year or two. I have, you know, a business in Sydney, and my family's in Sydney and Melbourne,
00:41:22Perth's a little bit far away. And, you know, I've voiced this to her. We are in a bit of a pickle.
00:41:30So you've got that understanding that long distance, with a little bit of a question mark over
00:41:36an end date is something that you're very aware of as a couple. It's not going away.
00:41:44I'm curious as to how that landed for you, Afina.
00:41:47I mean, I see myself in Perth. I love my soil. I love my community. My child, everything is in Perth for me.
00:41:55And the language Adrian's used in his future has been very much business orientated in career goals
00:42:01in Sydney. So it wasn't like I was blindsided when he said, you know, right now, I don't see my future
00:42:07in Perth. But we have been working on our relationship and the connections there.
00:42:13Do you think that it's going to be easier or harder to grow your relationship out in the real world if
00:42:25you decide to take it there in a long distance relationship? For me, right now in my life,
00:42:30no, I don't think it'll be harder. I've done it before when I was younger, so I didn't have an issue with it, no.
00:42:36What about you, Afina? A big part of my love language is physical touch. I get a lot of
00:42:41reassurance from cuddles, kisses. That's just me. So, yeah, it probably will feel harder because
00:42:47I'm not sure if I'm going to feel disconnected or not. Have you actually had those conversations?
00:42:54No. No, no, we haven't. I think we both just know that, like, we're going to be fine with it.
00:43:00And yes, we haven't had that conversation to be long distance, but I will see her in the next four
00:43:05weeks. But to actually have a long distance relationship, you need to know what are the
00:43:10parameters going to be? What time is spent with him? How does Adrian become integrated with your
00:43:17child? So there are some quite complicated real life issues that would need to be sorted out.
00:43:24And for me sitting here right now, it's a bit alarming that that conversation wasn't had.
00:43:31I totally understand we should be having these hard hitting conversations,
00:43:34but I really, really enjoy having Adrian in my orbit again. I don't want to put my walls back up just
00:43:39yet. I'm not ready to.
00:43:41I'm not suggesting you put your walls back up. I'm suggesting you keep them down and have
00:43:45tough conversations and get to agreements on how this could move forward so that you can continue
00:43:51having your walls down and building on the relationship.
00:43:53Adrian, I wanted to follow up something. You said at the start of the experiment that if you were
00:44:05to fall in love and move essentially, it would have to be for the right person.
00:44:10Yeah.
00:44:11So do you think Afina could be that right person for you? Potentially?
00:44:17Um, yeah, I mean, no, I'm thinking about it. I'm thinking about, I want to answer it.
00:44:35Um, yeah, I mean, no, I'm thinking about it. I'm thinking about how I want to answer it.
00:45:04Um, yeah, I do. It has to be when I'm ready.
00:45:15I'm not in love right now. I definitely know I have strong feelings for Afina.
00:45:20And I guess I've been to Perth. I know what her life is like, and I can sort of see myself being
00:45:24over there, not right now. But it's a conversation we have to have this week before we get to the
00:45:30final vows. So if I didn't think there was any future, I wouldn't be here.
00:45:35Adrian, I remember when we first matched you and you sat on that couch and you were like,
00:45:40I don't know how I'm going to work with a solo mum.
00:45:44Yeah.
00:45:45Even though there's a chemistry there, can I even get past the first week?
00:45:49And here you are now, and you're talking to us about long distance relationships.
00:45:56You know, we all have these expectations of what we think our life's going to look like.
00:46:00But again, I believe in God, and sometimes God redirects our path. And I think because
00:46:04I'm so open and honest, and so will she, that we can sit here comfortable on the couch right now,
00:46:08looking into the future.
00:46:11Well, it's now time to get to the decision. And we're going to start with you first, Afina.
00:46:19Oh, I think everyone knows what I wrote, so I'm not going to get into a big dialogue.
00:46:27Nice work. Stay strong. And Adrian?
00:46:34Yes, stay.
00:46:37Well, you're in a good place, but there are particular specifics
00:46:43things around tough questions that you need to have that you haven't had yet. You're heading into
00:46:49final vows. Get all the information you need from one another to make an accurate decision about
00:46:54what you then decide to do in the future. But for now, well done, guys. Go back to the group.
00:46:59Thank you, guys. Thanks, everyone. Thanks, guys.
00:47:02Our next couple are
00:47:16Karina and Paul.
00:47:22Hello, guys. How are you?
00:47:23Hello. Very good. Very good.
00:47:25Excited to unpack the homestays. Me too.
00:47:28The homestay, honestly, was absolutely beautiful. I had the most amazing time. Karina has such a
00:47:37beautiful family and I just felt so welcomed and so integrated so quickly.
00:47:43Karina, what sort of impression did he make? A really good one.
00:47:49Everyone was, yeah, just getting along really well and he was fitting right in. He just felt like he
00:47:54was one of us. It was really nice. Paul, what was the highlight for you?
00:48:00At the end of the lunch, Karina has, you know, she said, oh, so mum, what's the secret for a healthy
00:48:05relationship? Oh. And then her mum said, look, obviously communication is obviously like number
00:48:10one and also forgiveness, she said. Always moving forward and just not holding onto any grudges for
00:48:17too long. That sounds like for you two, uh, it had a huge positive impact. It did. The next,
00:48:25you know, logical step is to introduce her to my parents. So where are your feelings currently at,
00:48:32Paul? I have some very, very, very, very, very strong feelings for Karina. Like now after homestay,
00:48:37I can potentially see myself, you know, falling in love with Karina for sure.
00:48:41Mm. We can see that. What about your feelings for Paul, Karina? They're definitely strong. Um,
00:48:52I would say like, I've got loads of love for him, but still getting to the point of being in love.
00:48:58Mm. Yeah. I've got blush on, but I'm blushing. I'm definitely blushing.
00:49:05It's nice to see you two on the couch like that. Yeah. Because you know what you've been through
00:49:11during this experiment. Yeah. There's been some highs and some lows. Yeah.
00:49:15And forgiveness has been a key part of your relationship journey.
00:49:18Yep. That's right. It's been very crucial. Which is why when her mum said that,
00:49:22it just resonated so much. Uh, how much of the future have you discussed together?
00:49:30Probably religion definitely spoken about that. That's been a very big one because I am raised
00:49:37Catholic. Right. Um, and he definitely, you know, is open to coming to church and encountering all the
00:49:47different events and, you know, how will we raise a family in the future? Because obviously I want
00:49:53my children to be baptised and he's very open to that. Well, that's a big thing. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
00:50:01So there's been a future talk between the two of you. Yeah. The hard questions as well. Yeah.
00:50:08Uh, all right. Well, what we're going to do now is go to the decision. Hmm. Uh, and we're going to
00:50:15start with you, Karina. Are you going to stay or leave? Um, look, you are such a beautiful human
00:50:23and you're so like how you treat everyone around you. It's just like so inspiring. That's all I could ever
00:50:30ask for. So I'm going to stay. It's fabulous. Paul, what have you got for us? You've been so patient,
00:50:40like in this relationship, like we've gone through some really difficult times and you've always,
00:50:44you know, decided to, you know, forgive and we've always moved forward and just your kindness is just
00:50:49contagious. So yeah. So if you're ready to, uh, you know, be part of a French family, then, uh, yeah,
00:50:55it's called a French kiss. You know, for many couples, the home stays can be overwhelming and
00:51:10daunting and we'll even break some up, but for you two, it's, it's had this reassuring impact and
00:51:17effect on you both. We really look forward to seeing what comes now as a result of all you've
00:51:23been through. You can go back to the group, but well done. Thank you guys. Thank you so much.
00:51:27Thank you for all your advice and help.
00:51:34Thank you guys.
00:51:36Yeah.
00:51:37Up next.
00:51:38Jackie, do you see Ryan as a project that needs to be worked on?
00:51:42Absolutely not.
00:51:43Change?
00:51:43No.
00:51:44Modify it?
00:51:44It feels that way?
00:51:44No.
00:51:45It feels that way?
00:51:45Absolutely not.
00:51:47Ryan's reached his limit.
00:51:49I feel like I haven't had a safe space. Who I am, my identity, it doesn't meet your approval.
00:51:55And I just feel drained, Jackie.
00:51:57Could this be the couple's final night in the experiment?
00:52:01Yeah.
00:52:03I think for me, like there's certain behavior that I don't tolerate.
00:52:06Our last couple up on the couch, Jackie and Ryan.
00:52:26Hello.
00:52:27Hello.
00:52:27Hello.
00:52:27Hello.
00:52:28Hey guys.
00:52:30Good to see you.
00:52:32Good to see you too.
00:52:33I hope.
00:52:33We've got a lot to talk about tonight.
00:52:38Yes.
00:52:39So let's start with you first, Ryan.
00:52:41Sure.
00:52:42You were very open about your feelings last night.
00:52:46Yes.
00:52:47About Jackie, the relationship, your homestays, your values, your opinions on things.
00:52:54It almost felt like watching you at the dinner party, you were coming out all guns blazing.
00:53:00You'd been sitting on many things and you wanted to get a lot off your chest.
00:53:06I've wanted more than anything to have a team and to have a best friend and ultimately
00:53:14an organic love that could grow from that. And that's why I came into this experiment.
00:53:18However, I don't believe that should come at the ultimate cost of who you are as a person.
00:53:25The last week was just a prime example of that. At times I felt I haven't had a partner, I've had a critic.
00:53:32You said a lot of things last night.
00:53:37Yep.
00:53:38But one of the things that really stood out to me was that you said to Jackie that you don't
00:53:45really feel like she ever accepted you as a man.
00:53:50Not just that, as a person.
00:53:55As a person.
00:53:55And I knew.
00:53:58Why is she laughing?
00:54:00Jackie, Jackie, hold on.
00:54:01Jackie, explain yourself.
00:54:03What the hell is so funny about this?
00:54:04Why are you laughing about something that is so, so important to him?
00:54:09It's horrible.
00:54:11These things are not a laughing matter.
00:54:13He always refers, says, I have to support him as a man and it's man and wife.
00:54:17And I've taught him that you don't speak to me like that.
00:54:20You have to say, like, husband and wife.
00:54:23We're in a relationship, so it's a thing of respect.
00:54:26Jackie, just so you know, I've asked him a very, very personal question about the fact that he feels
00:54:35that you don't accept him as a man, as a human being, and as the person that he is.
00:54:42Exactly.
00:54:43And you laughed, rolled your eyes and giggled.
00:54:51Just sit with that.
00:54:53Now back to you, Ryan.
00:54:55Explain.
00:54:56What I really needed last night was to just table everything for the whole week.
00:55:03So going into each other's worlds for me was absolutely critical.
00:55:07And even before the homestays, I was so committed to show up
00:55:11and immersed myself fully in everything that Manly had to offer.
00:55:15And that's exactly what I did.
00:55:17And I don't feel like that was reciprocated when Jackie went to my place.
00:55:23And I have a whiteboard.
00:55:24I have a vision board, which is set up in my family room.
00:55:27And it was blank.
00:55:28It had a to-do list and a goal list, right?
00:55:30And I just knew there's things that Jackie will find distasteful or not really lining up with her
00:55:38sort of living arrangements.
00:55:40You know, like a poster I have up or, you know, a decorative sense or this shouldn't be there and
00:55:46you should do that to improve it.
00:55:47I felt there was disagreements about how to manage my dog.
00:55:53You shouldn't make lists about things you want to improve in your partner
00:55:57because that just makes them feel belittled.
00:55:59It makes them feel not good enough.
00:56:02Jackie, do you see Ryan as a project that needs to be worked on?
00:56:05Absolutely not.
00:56:06Change?
00:56:07No.
00:56:07It feels that way?
00:56:08No.
00:56:08It feels that way?
00:56:09Absolutely not.
00:56:11So why do you think Ryan says that?
00:56:15Basically, instead of seeing a relationship as a space for two people,
00:56:20he sees it as just his way and you've got to accommodate to me.
00:56:25I look for a compromise always.
00:56:27And so when I approach relationships, I'm like,
00:56:30trying to understand what the other person wants and needs.
00:56:33And I feel like I've compromised on basically everything.
00:56:39I've never asked you to compromise though.
00:56:41Can you give us a list of some of the things that you feel like you've compromised in
00:56:46with this relationship?
00:56:50Um, yeah, I feel like probably
00:56:57like sleeping times.
00:57:07Explain.
00:57:08So Ryan doesn't like it if I wake up early to go to the gym or I accidentally wake him up.
00:57:14And yeah, at that time you got really mad at me when I woke up early to go to the gym.
00:57:18And don't, I'm sorry, I don't recall that.
00:57:21Just let me enjoy it.
00:57:25What else you got for us, Jackie?
00:57:27Um, the cleanliness around the kitchen.
00:57:32Sometimes Ryan just leaves his bowls and the dishes out in the sink for like up to a day
00:57:37and it didn't stop happening.
00:57:38So I realised maybe it's an ingrained habit and maybe I just have to let it go.
00:57:42Anything else?
00:57:47I let him now watch TV in the bedroom, which is a massive compromise for me.
00:57:52Um, and like it is kind of annoying.
00:57:56And one night it was keeping me up a lot and I did ask if he could turn the TV off and
00:58:02he kind of wanted to argue a little bit more and get more time on the TV and
00:58:06it was, yeah.
00:58:09Yeah, go on.
00:58:10I just, I don't have a memory of a TV.
00:58:12Yeah, and I was trying to sleep.
00:58:13It was 12.30 at night.
00:58:16Well, look, I do understand when you say that you don't feel like there's been compromise.
00:58:22But these situations, they are very niche.
00:58:29When we talk about the TV,
00:58:31when we talk about...
00:59:01when we talk about...
00:59:22When we talk about...
00:59:44You'll be okay.
00:59:46Jackie, can you just take some deep breaths?
00:59:52I do understand that I'm idealistic at times.
01:00:06And maybe I'm unrealistic, yeah.
01:00:11But I think the things I stand hold on are things that are pretty important like respect and healthy
01:00:17communication, not being yelled at. Like, it's those things that I really hold him to account for
01:00:23and those are the things that trigger him. Yeah.
01:00:26I don't like seeing you like this. It makes me emotional as well.
01:00:33But when I try to talk to you, I feel like I haven't had a safe space,
01:00:37that my views have been under the microscope, who I am, my identity,
01:00:41and how I interact with the world. It doesn't meet your approval.
01:00:44And I just feel drained, Jackie. I'm just...
01:00:50I've taken accountability. I've apologised.
01:00:53And still, when it came to homestays, it didn't feel like enough to meet your standards.
01:00:58Why do you feel like it didn't... It isn't enough and it didn't meet my standards?
01:01:05He's explained himself. He's explained himself on the couch the whole time.
01:01:11He clearly didn't listen. This is the first time we've heard Ryan speak like this.
01:01:14It's actually awesome to hear him speak like this. Like, he's actually... You can feel what he's saying.
01:01:17Because I complain about things that are normal.
01:01:24What? Huh? I'm sorry.
01:01:28Scalding and yelling at me and not standing up for your wife. Like, that's normal behaviour.
01:01:35Jackie, I've got to ask you, like, Ryan's sat here tonight and been very clear to you.
01:01:40Yeah. What do you have to say to that?
01:01:44I think for me, like, there's certain behaviour that I don't tolerate.
01:01:47You're deflecting.
01:01:49Jackie, I think you're very wrapped into how it makes you feel.
01:01:53Instead of just going, I've hurt this man and this is where I've gone wrong.
01:01:57I don't want to be scolded at.
01:02:02Jackie.
01:02:02Yeah?
01:02:04So you don't see when you point out specific things to Ryan
01:02:10that can make him feel like he's not accepted by you as a person?
01:02:14Because we've observed it throughout many weeks, it's been the entire experiment.
01:02:23It's part of the reason why we have been so confused by your relationship, the ups and downs,
01:02:29the incongruencies.
01:02:30So many times we've heard about his intellectual capacity not being up to par.
01:02:39You asked him last night why he didn't want to be great.
01:02:44Yeah, I did.
01:02:45Yes, I asked him why I didn't want to be great.
01:02:47Yeah.
01:02:47Yeah.
01:02:48What does that imply?
01:02:49It implies that you don't think he's great, that you're not embracing him.
01:02:58I won't embrace him now.
01:02:59Whoops.
01:03:01Jesus Christ.
01:03:04Even the fight you picked the other day about my facial hair.
01:03:06These little things tip the scales for me.
01:03:14I'm trying to understand why you keep treating me like this, Ryan.
01:03:18Treating you like what?
01:03:19What?
01:03:21Like, for example, at homestays.
01:03:23Why are you sat there while your friends yelled at me?
01:03:26Don't bring it back to that.
01:03:28Jackie, right now we're having a conversation about how you have made Ryan feel with your comments.
01:03:33Try to stay in focus and let's talk about that because that is very concerning.
01:03:41Do you think, Ryan, that you're good enough for Jackie?
01:03:46It doesn't matter to me now.
01:03:48I'm good enough for me.
01:03:51So it became less of a question of being about, am I good enough for her?
01:03:55As in, like, how small do I need to feel in order to be malleable and molded into her standards and her perfect vision?
01:04:05And I just had a moment of clarity.
01:04:06I'm like, no, no, no, no.
01:04:10I've got a beautiful life and I'm honestly happy with myself.
01:04:17Jackie.
01:04:17Yeah.
01:04:18Do you think that you can wholeheartedly, for real, really accept Ryan for who he is?
01:04:34There's parts of his behavior that I can't accept.
01:04:37But I do accept Ryan as a person, yes.
01:04:45I do.
01:04:48Parts of him.
01:04:48I'm a little confused.
01:04:55How does the acceptance have conditions?
01:04:59Because I don't accept being spoken to in rude tones.
01:05:04I don't accept being scolded.
01:05:06I don't accept the way you tell me what to do.
01:05:11Do you understand when I say it's hard for me to build a connection with someone when I'm constantly watching every word that I say?
01:05:23Wondering if it's going to be analyzed, dissected, made it of into a list.
01:05:30Can't you reference previous behaviors and ways I literally have forgiven you?
01:05:35I said it.
01:05:35I said it last night.
01:05:37That's what commitment is.
01:05:38Jackie, I think it's very clear what's being said tonight.
01:05:45What you say to your partner berates them, it puts them down, it's critical and judgmental.
01:05:53And if you want your partner to grow with you, that will not produce that outcome.
01:06:01I need you to think about that as we go to the decision.
01:06:08Stay or leave.
01:06:11Ryan.
01:06:17Homestays for me was, it wasn't make or break, it was.
01:06:25I'm struggling.
01:06:26I'm really struggling and I don't want to be struggling.
01:06:30So, unfortunately I wrote leave.
01:06:37Okay.
01:06:37Big decision.
01:06:45Let's go to you now, Jackie.
01:06:48What do you want to do?
01:06:54Um.
01:06:57Yeah.
01:06:57Yeah.
01:07:08Let's go to you now, Jackie.
01:07:09What do you want to do?
01:07:14Um.
01:07:14Well, I wanted to talk it out and like have some healthy communication because this is the first
01:07:28time I've kind of heard Ryan be upset.
01:07:33I like, I've been trying to get the opportunity to speak to you and I tried so much last night
01:07:38because that's all I wanted.
01:07:39Um, so that's why I wrote stay so that we could talk about it and like resolve things.
01:07:50What?
01:07:54Yeah.
01:07:55Why?
01:07:56I don't want to.
01:07:56Why did you write stay when you've expressed unhappiness at multiple intervals?
01:08:04I've expressed happiness as well, Ryan.
01:08:12There's a roller coaster.
01:08:13I know, but it seems imbalanced, you know, and I need justification for why you want to continue this
01:08:18with me.
01:08:22I've only just heard about your hurt.
01:08:29Jackie, I've got a question for you.
01:08:30Yeah?
01:08:31You writing stay, do you think this relationship is worth fighting for?
01:08:45I think Ryan is worth fighting for, yeah.
01:08:49No, you don't.
01:08:54If you want to fight for this relationship, you'll need to do some heavy lifting now.
01:09:01Yeah.
01:09:03And Ryan, I know there are walls up.
01:09:07It's clear.
01:09:09But this is a chance for you to see whether your words have landed with Jackie.
01:09:17It's a tough one.
01:09:18As you know, when one person says stay and the other person says leave,
01:09:26the couple stays in the experiment for one more week to try and turn it around.
01:09:31In this case, it's the final vows.
01:09:43If you want to go, you can go and it's okay.
01:09:45I just say we talk about it and then we can just leave.
01:09:51I just want to talk about it.
01:09:53That's all.
01:09:53We will have a conversation.
01:09:59We will talk.
01:10:01We will talk.
01:10:04With that being said, thank you for being so honest and raw with us on the couch.
01:10:08We appreciate it.
01:10:10There's been a lot of feedback.
01:10:13Take it on.
01:10:14Mull it over and let's see where you end up.
01:10:17You can go back to the group.
01:10:18Thanks, guys.
01:10:19Thank you, guys.
01:10:26It actually just feels disappointing that Ryan's run and leave.
01:10:30I've compromised so much and I've really tried to make space for him in my life and consider him.
01:10:37God damn.
01:10:39Every time I try and understand, he just shuts down.
01:10:42And it made me think that he's actually not capable of a healthy communication.
01:10:47But, like, I wanted that piece.
01:10:49So, I just really wanted to see if we could make this happen one last time.
01:10:55I think he owes it to the relationship.
01:11:01Tomorrow night.
01:11:05What is this?
01:11:06Good Lord.
01:11:07Wow.
01:11:08Oh, my gosh.
01:11:09That's nuts.
01:11:10Oh, God.
01:11:11That is insane.
01:11:12A brand new phase of the experiment is revealed.
01:11:20What?
01:11:21No way.
01:11:22What the ?
01:11:24That's huge.
01:11:28Rolling?
01:11:28Yeah.
01:11:29Yeah.
01:11:30Okay.
01:11:31Thank you for waiting.
01:11:32Thanks.
01:11:32Check everything.
01:11:34Okay.
01:11:35Excited.
01:11:36That's good.
01:11:37I'm giddy.
01:11:37Are you?
01:11:38Yeah, yeah.
01:11:38What?
01:11:41Holy shit.
01:11:43Interesting.
01:11:44Wowee.
01:11:46Why are they giving me tasks like this?
01:11:48I don't know how to feel about that.
01:11:54This is a shock.
01:11:55This is a real shock.
01:11:57That is crazy.
01:11:59That is not what I was expecting at all.
01:12:08No.
01:12:09Yeah.
01:12:09This is a real shock.
01:12:10I do.
01:12:10I don't see any cats.
01:12:10Yeah.
01:12:10I do.
01:12:11This is a real contest.
01:12:12That is a real SERWISEport,
01:12:29this has a real contest.
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