Reading is Love 2025 Documentary: Spreading the Love of Reading Movie
Reading is Love is a documentary film that follows two retired football players who embark on a mission to inspire a love for reading in 30 daycares over 30 days. Their journey is a personal and ambitious challenge that showcases the transformative power of education.
Cast: Two retired football players (names not specified in the provided information)
Release Year: 2025
Genre: Documentary
Runtime: 74 minutes
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Reading is Love is a documentary film that follows two retired football players who embark on a mission to inspire a love for reading in 30 daycares over 30 days. Their journey is a personal and ambitious challenge that showcases the transformative power of education.
Cast: Two retired football players (names not specified in the provided information)
Release Year: 2025
Genre: Documentary
Runtime: 74 minutes
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00:00:30You've got to be quiet, but saying this, slippers are quiet, but mommy's shoes are loud.
00:00:48You don't have any books at your heart?
00:00:52Well, we're going to try to help you guys get some books.
00:00:55As a matter of fact, just one of you guys answer this question.
00:00:59One of you three guys, okay?
00:01:03I did a book about quiet and loud.
00:01:07Nasir, can you name something that was loud?
00:01:10The door, the big door.
00:01:12Now y'all got a book.
00:01:14I'm from this community, but I didn't realize 61% of kids in poor communities don't have
00:01:28libraries.
00:01:29It was three kids.
00:01:31We gave them a book.
00:01:32They were literally dancing about this book.
00:01:34And those kids had nothing.
00:01:36And that's when we were like, wow, we started giving these kids more books.
00:01:39To get these couple of books.
00:01:50It's the smallest gesture, but it's the biggest gesture.
00:01:53Over the years, Akif and I worked in social services throughout Philadelphia, Camden, New
00:02:05Jersey.
00:02:05We would come across these amazing young men that were usually in some type of criminal
00:02:10trouble already through the schools we were working at, the programs we were working at.
00:02:15And one of the main things we noticed is that most of these kids cannot read.
00:02:20Having worked in a juvenile detention center, it wasn't something that I would have thought
00:02:26of.
00:02:26I wonder if this kid here knows how to read.
00:02:29These kids are good kids.
00:02:31These are nice kids.
00:02:32But if you read their criminal jacket, they're not nice kids.
00:02:35Your choices are extremely limited when you can't read.
00:02:39Getting a job, starting a business, opening up a bank account.
00:02:43I mean, you could go on and on getting your driver's license.
00:02:46If these babies can't read, they don't see hope for themselves.
00:02:49If a child has physical access to go and pick up a book in their home at any time, that
00:02:55that greatly increases their ability to read.
00:03:01Chicago is like the epic center of violence right now.
00:03:04Go back to 2012, Chicago reading scores, 17% kids were proficient, 2% were overly proficient.
00:03:12So 19% of kids in Chicago were efficient readers in 2012.
00:03:18Fast forward to eight years later, who's killing each other in the streets?
00:03:22The 18, 19, 20-year-old eighth graders from eight years ago.
00:03:27People don't realize that when you don't know how to read and you're poor, there is basically
00:03:33there's not a lot of options for you.
00:03:37Young man shot 18, 20-some times right here in North Philadelphia, you know, and these
00:03:44stories are almost common.
00:03:47We can ignore it all we want to, but this stuff is punching us in our face every day.
00:03:51That is why the message that we share is so relevant, because we have to have more men
00:03:59with voices willing to step up in these communities.
00:04:02Reading is so essential.
00:04:04Outside of being fun, it's how we better ourselves.
00:04:07And it's going to impact our community, and it's going to move it forward.
00:04:16I've been reading books since I was about a baby.
00:04:20And I've loved them, because my dad always read them.
00:04:25Ready?
00:04:27Okay.
00:04:30So we got to choose something to read.
00:04:33I got used to reading a lot more books than usual, and finding out more kinds of books.
00:04:41I've been getting real interested in them.
00:04:43What would you like to read?
00:04:45We've got National Geographic's over there.
00:04:48We've got magazines.
00:04:50We've got Beauty Basic.
00:04:51What I've learned about reading, let the child pick the book.
00:04:57Let them read the story the best that they can.
00:05:01You know, even if it is just looking at the pictures and reciting whatever it is they see
00:05:06and having fun with that.
00:05:08What's the author's name?
00:05:10Langston Hughes.
00:05:10Langston Hughes.
00:05:11Langston Hughes.
00:05:12It's Langston Hughes.
00:05:20Very good.
00:05:21That's a great try.
00:05:22It does look like, would you say Huggies?
00:05:26Langston Huggies?
00:05:27Well, he's Langston Huggies today.
00:05:29Okay.
00:05:30And what's the title of the book?
00:05:32Let's read the black first, and then the red.
00:05:35It gives the child their own new outlook on, hey, so I'm going to go on and explore, and
00:05:42I'm going to go, you know, on a safari.
00:05:45I'm going to take this trip to London, England.
00:05:48I'm going to become a fashion designer, all with this one book that I've chosen myself.
00:05:56Reading and early literacy is probably the most important thing in impoverished communities
00:06:02that we can give our kids, and it doesn't cost much.
00:06:08You get to pick a book, okay?
00:06:11And this is a book for you to have forever and ever.
00:06:14Amen.
00:06:15Okay?
00:06:16I want that one.
00:06:17No, no, no.
00:06:18What book do you want?
00:06:19What book?
00:06:19What book?
00:06:20That Cinderella.
00:06:21I had a feeling you would pick things.
00:06:23A princess book for a princess.
00:06:25From zero to eight, zero to third grade, you learn how to read.
00:06:29From third grade on, eight, nine years on, you read to learn.
00:06:35That's why they say if you haven't got it by third grade, you're going to end up in a
00:06:39world of trouble because no one else is teaching you after that.
00:06:42Poor communities, I don't care if you're black, white, Hispanic, whatever, you don't have that
00:06:47money to spend on reading.
00:06:50So what happens is you end up falling into traps of your community.
00:06:55You end up dropping out of school.
00:06:56You end up falling into prison.
00:07:05That's why Akif and I say, let's start with the daycares.
00:07:08How do you break the cycle or something?
00:07:10Stop it in the beginning.
00:07:13Because when you look at the statistics around men weeding with children, the outcomes are
00:07:19astronomical.
00:07:20I am C, now I know my ABCs.
00:07:27Next time won't you sing with me?
00:07:32Yeah!
00:07:33Great job!
00:07:34That's it.
00:07:35Beautiful.
00:07:35Great job!
00:07:36Thanks for joining us.
00:07:37The next time we've gone on theì±….
00:07:38The next time we've gone on theì±… is going to be the first time.
00:07:40The next time we've gone on theì±… is going to be the first time we'll see it.
00:07:42It's time to go on theì±….
00:07:43Go to your cat.
00:07:44It's time to go to the next time.
00:07:44This time we'll be the next time we're going on and after it, we will be the next time we've
00:07:46done it.
00:07:47It's time to go on theì±….
00:07:47Between birth to five years old, those years are very crucial.
00:08:15We want to keep young, beautiful, Black, Latino, young men, young, poor children out of the prison system.
00:08:22And the best way to do this, to attack it, when they're starting to learn how to do the most important thing kids will learn how to do, and that is read.
00:08:32Say, hey, let's get these dads involved super early, from the beginning, and let's get them involved in literacy.
00:08:40When I was two years old, I was in a big custody battle.
00:08:45I was removed from my father, or he was removed from my life.
00:08:52I didn't even know about my biological father until I was five years old.
00:08:58And I was sitting in a barbershop with my mother, and a man came up to me with two boys.
00:09:04He said, are you Ikeith?
00:09:05I'm like, who is this man?
00:09:08And he said, I'm your dad.
00:09:09And he said, these are your two brothers.
00:09:12As we're leaving, we're in the car, and my mother didn't say anything to me.
00:09:18And we're almost home, and I said, Mom.
00:09:22I said, was that man my dad?
00:09:25And she said, Ikeith, I got something to tell you.
00:09:27Being a committed father came from not having it.
00:09:37My biological father, he had left the household when I was two.
00:10:07I did have a stepfather for about six, seven years of my life.
00:10:17We didn't have a close-knit relationship.
00:10:22It was like I knew he was there.
00:10:23You know, it was a sense of security.
00:10:26However, we didn't have, I would say, meaningful conversations that could set me up for the future.
00:10:35I have not faulted anyone for what has occurred because fatherhood is so important to me and something that I hold close.
00:10:47Back in April of 2008, I was at my mother's house, and I was sick.
00:10:58I had lost about 50 pounds, and I was in denial.
00:11:02My sister was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes when we were younger, and my mother had onset diabetes when she turned 50 years old.
00:11:12It got to a point where my mother said, Ikeith, you have to check yourself in to the hospital.
00:11:20I'll be perfectly honest.
00:11:23I didn't want to have diabetes.
00:11:25I was diagnosed on April 4th, 2008.
00:11:33In 2009, I was married and became a father to our then 10-year-old son.
00:11:42And since that time, my wife and I, we've had two more children.
00:11:46I knew my diabetes was not under control, and I had to start making a choice for myself and my life if I wanted to be here for our children.
00:11:58Thinking about our, you know, I'll call them our babies.
00:12:02If I don't learn how to control this, you know, the diabetes can eat me up inside.
00:12:08Me being a father, first time around with an infant, there are things that I'm with him all day, and I just want to make sure that my little man is okay and stays healthy.
00:12:23Diabetes and fatherhood.
00:12:38You know, I really, I stay as positive as I possibly can.
00:12:50Because my wife and I are schedules, there are a lot of times I'm with our children.
00:12:57Just thinking back on moments when my blood sugar can drop really low.
00:13:04I'm telling my children, Daddy doesn't feel good.
00:13:10You did?
00:13:11All right.
00:13:20Just what to do if Daddy passes out.
00:13:26Because I could be anywhere with them, and, you know, it could hit me just like that.
00:13:31And that, that sucks.
00:13:33Daddy, did you know that's for a bridge?
00:13:36That was amazing.
00:13:38I do it for our children.
00:13:41So that I can be here, present, when, you know, to see them grow up, and to see their, their children, you know, become a, become a grandparent.
00:13:52Even a great-grandparent, maybe great-great.
00:13:54Well, can you take your last few bites?
00:14:05I don't know, I can eat all of them.
00:14:11Well, go ahead and take your bites, and...
00:14:18I have a lot less.
00:14:29Go ahead, you can eat some more.
00:14:31I'll give you two minutes, and we got to go in.
00:14:39Okay?
00:14:40Okay?
00:14:40I give our children the engagement, the attention, a million-fold.
00:14:51Everything that I did not have, I give them.
00:14:55When we go into our lessons, when we're talking to the kids in early childhood and in the daycares,
00:15:08and I get to tell them my story on their level, and I say, you know, Mr. A got really sick and had to go to the hospital,
00:15:19and the doctor told me that, Mr. A, you're going to have to do some things different with your life.
00:15:25And instead of all that, you know, candy or junk that you may have been eating, you know, start focusing on more fruits and vegetables.
00:15:33To implant that into these children, you know, letting them know, okay, do we want candy?
00:15:41Yes.
00:15:41You know, do we want soda sometimes, or whatever juices?
00:15:46One of the stories I read was about a healthy snack.
00:15:49Who remembers?
00:15:50Well, everybody.
00:15:51What was the name of the healthy snack that I like?
00:15:55Popcorn!
00:15:56Yes!
00:15:57It's just like, okay, we can have it, but don't have too much of it.
00:16:00And, you know, then we ask them, what are some fruits that you eat?
00:16:05You know, what are some vegetables that you eat?
00:16:07And we make a promise right there in that sitting.
00:16:12It's like, hey, can you promise Mr. A that you'll eat more fruits and more vegetables?
00:16:17Anybody like hot sauce on their popcorn?
00:16:20Yes!
00:16:21Yes!
00:16:21Okay, so this story is about hot sauce on my popcorn.
00:16:26Ready?
00:16:27Hot sauce on my popcorn.
00:16:32I like to have hot sauce on my popcorn.
00:16:36Yeah, I know it's weird.
00:16:38But not as weird as hot sauce on the top of a beaver's beard.
00:16:44I like hot sauce on my popcorn.
00:16:46Yeah, I know it's strange.
00:16:49But not as strange as hot sauce on a handful of change.
00:16:53Well, I like hot sauce and I like spicy things, but I'm not a fan of hot sauce and popcorn.
00:17:01Kind of weird, right?
00:17:02Yeah.
00:17:03I like hot sauce on my popcorn.
00:17:06Yeah, I know it's funny.
00:17:08But not as funny as hot sauce on a beehive full of honey.
00:17:13It's enough for me.
00:17:14Being a father and living with this diagnosis has opened my eyes to a new way of living.
00:17:26And, you know, I enjoy taking that on.
00:17:35I accept the challenge.
00:17:41My name is Brent Harris Johnstone.
00:17:45I have dyslexia.
00:17:48As a person who struggles with reading, you lose a lot of confidence.
00:17:56It can be a very, it can be a very scary place.
00:18:00When Mr. B started learning how to read, man, I started having some problems.
00:18:05I started seeing words differently.
00:18:08I started seeing words that wasn't there.
00:18:11The words that was there, I wasn't able to read them.
00:18:14Childhood literacy is my passion because I also realized where a lot of struggles in my life came from,
00:18:21insecurities in my life came from, was being a struggling childhood reader.
00:18:26Well, if you guys go to school and you start reading and you start having problems, can you make me a promise?
00:18:31Can we make Mr. B a promise?
00:18:33Can you promise that you will tell your teachers, you will tell your parents that you're having problems with reading?
00:18:39Can you do that for me?
00:18:40Can you do that?
00:18:41We promise Mr. B that.
00:18:42Put them hands in the air.
00:18:43Put them hands in the air.
00:18:44Everybody's going to make it just don't care.
00:18:46Everybody's going to make it just don't care.
00:18:48Now, listen up.
00:18:49Even though I have problems with reading and writing, Mr. B graduated college and I'm also an author of two books.
00:18:57So just because you're having problems doesn't mean you can't get help.
00:19:01Embrace reading with your child now when they're babies.
00:19:05Because one of the biggest things you're going to find out, one, is their interests, what they like.
00:19:11But if they're struggling, when is the best time to find out if your kid is a struggling reader?
00:19:17At 13 or at 3?
00:19:19Because at 13, now they're surviving.
00:19:22At 3, we can address these issues.
00:19:26Who knows why you read?
00:19:27Raise your hands.
00:19:28Why do we read?
00:19:28I don't know this.
00:19:31I'm doing it again.
00:19:33I'm doing it to both of us.
00:19:35I'm doing it to both of us.
00:19:35I'm doing it to both of us.
00:19:41My children don't know.
00:19:46They impacted me before they even appeared here, before I knew who they were.
00:19:51At 18, 19, 20 years old, when I knew in the future I wanted to have kids, I wanted to work with them, I wanted to help them with their homework,
00:20:00I said I have to address this reading thing at some point.
00:20:03I have to get better.
00:20:05I have to tell people.
00:20:06I have to act for help.
00:20:07My kids changed my life because without them, I don't know if I ever would have addressed my reading problem.
00:20:19I don't know if I ever would have talked to kids about reading, parents, the community.
00:20:25I would have done none of that if I didn't even think I was going to have kids and wanting to be there for them.
00:20:31So my kids changed my life years before they was even born.
00:20:37I got help for myself because I knew I was going to be a father.
00:20:51God willing, I knew that I wanted to have a family.
00:20:56Get it.
00:20:57Get you the muscles.
00:20:58Get the muscles going.
00:20:59And that's when your pop-pop was in the newspaper.
00:21:03He was in front of the newspaper.
00:21:042006.
00:21:06This was right before you was born, before he started getting real sick.
00:21:13They did a big article on him in the paper.
00:21:15All these kids, your pop-pop helped thousands of kids.
00:21:19And he started out just trying to help his own kids.
00:21:23We had to throw a bunch of hay for everybody at the stable.
00:21:26Mace, when you get older, you're going to be throwing hay, boy.
00:21:29I've been struggling with reading since the day I started reading.
00:21:34Where do I fit in in this world?
00:21:36How can I be successful?
00:21:38And these questions are starting to arise at 9, 10, 11 years old.
00:21:42So it can be a dark place at a very early time for kids who struggle with reading.
00:21:49You got to figure out, how can I make it in this world without one of the greatest assets to have in this world?
00:21:57Reading.
00:21:59Mason's your friend?
00:22:01No.
00:22:02It's me, right?
00:22:04Gianna, you're for me?
00:22:05No.
00:22:08You're not that.
00:22:09See, the girls get along.
00:22:12He's not your friend.
00:22:14No, you're trying to set him up.
00:22:17I feel this cheap, though.
00:22:19My dad taught me how to read maps when I was young, right?
00:22:22And because of that, I always felt like I could get a job.
00:22:25I could be a trucker.
00:22:26I knew how to read maps.
00:22:28All you had to do was follow lines.
00:22:30I could do that.
00:22:31There's no reading involved.
00:22:32Before GPS, it's even easier now.
00:22:34But he taught me how to read, so I had some hope.
00:22:38My oldest brother was a trucker.
00:22:39I'm like, I knew what type of money.
00:22:41Couldn't make good money being a trucker, so I had hope.
00:22:43When you're a young person growing up in poor communities, and you don't have hope, you start looking for instant gratification.
00:22:51He's not going to bite you.
00:22:53Okay.
00:22:54It's like when you're holding a hermit crab.
00:22:57Like when you're holding a hermit crab.
00:22:58Yep, go ahead.
00:22:59I'll shoot.
00:23:00I'll put it with you.
00:23:02Hermit crab.
00:23:04You did it!
00:23:05Yeah, Maeve.
00:23:06See?
00:23:07Feels funny, huh?
00:23:10Did you get scared?
00:23:11Go ahead, Gianna.
00:23:13Like a hermit crab.
00:23:16Like a boss.
00:23:17Like a boss.
00:23:19By yourself.
00:23:20Go by yourself, Maeve.
00:23:21With the other hand, do you have more?
00:23:24There you go.
00:23:27Little nibble.
00:23:31Little nibble.
00:23:32Little nibble.
00:23:33Peace out, Boy Scout.
00:23:34I'm scared of heights.
00:23:36You're scared of heights.
00:23:37It's only...
00:23:38They're going to fill all this up today.
00:23:40They went to go get hay.
00:23:41And they're going to fill me up.
00:23:43There's only four blocks of...
00:23:44So they're going to throw it on top of you.
00:23:46We're going to leave you here.
00:23:47No!
00:23:47Peace out, Boy Scout.
00:23:48And they're just going to throw all the hay on top of you, Boy Scout.
00:23:51Jump.
00:23:51No!
00:23:52Mm-hmm, jump down.
00:23:53No!
00:23:54Come on, I got you.
00:23:55No, I made you up.
00:23:57I got you.
00:23:58Just get me.
00:24:00Baby!
00:24:01Taking care of horses is good because you learn that your horse is totally dependent on somebody
00:24:07else.
00:24:07I'm going to kill it.
00:24:08Like you guys.
00:24:09How y'all are depending on me and mommy.
00:24:13So being a kid, taking care of animals is a good way of learning how to take care of other
00:24:17people that's dependent on you.
00:24:18If these people don't come and feed their horses, they don't eat.
00:24:23Take charge.
00:24:24There you go.
00:24:24Cool.
00:24:25You're the leader.
00:24:26He's going to follow you.
00:24:28Remember that.
00:24:28If you're going to be a leader, you got to make sure your people follow you.
00:24:33Don't stand right in front of them because if he take off, he can run you over, right?
00:24:37Always stay to the side of them.
00:24:39I don't think nobody's faster than daddy.
00:24:43What you think?
00:24:44Golden baby.
00:24:45Yep.
00:24:46Who feeds you?
00:24:48Yeah.
00:24:48Then where Gianna moves at?
00:24:49Where Gianna?
00:24:50See if you like Gianna moves.
00:24:52Go ahead, Gianna.
00:24:54Do you?
00:24:55Ah!
00:24:58Oh, what was the, uh, him, him, him, him?
00:25:00Oh, yeah.
00:25:00Oh, yeah.
00:25:05Pit on the nose.
00:25:06Pit on the nose.
00:25:07He said get his boogies out.
00:25:09Hi.
00:25:10He said get his boogies out.
00:25:11Hey, get your friend from school.
00:25:14I'm not the best helper with homework, but like my dad, I set expectations.
00:25:19I try.
00:25:20I try to put them around the best people who are good for homework.
00:25:23My kids, they don't know nothing else.
00:25:26They changed my life.
00:25:28And, and, and by doing that, they changed the lives of a lot of other young people I helped.
00:25:36Imagine if you ate that every day.
00:25:39I know for Brent, his struggles with dyslexia or having these struggles and not knowing what that was can be very challenging.
00:26:00Um, and you know, those are things as a parent that you just want to safeguard them.
00:26:04You just want to protect them from all of that.
00:26:06And to kind of give them all the tools that you can to be sure that they don't have those obstacles.
00:26:12But if they do, that you're there to assist and help them with those things.
00:26:17Thank God for my father.
00:26:18My dad started working at Temple University.
00:26:21When you worked at Temple University, your kids could go to school for free.
00:26:25And from the time we were born, we knew that the expectation was y'all going to Temple.
00:26:31And when I got older, I'm like, wow, that's amazing that this man not only set an expectation for us,
00:26:37he created the pathway for us to actually do it.
00:26:42I was fumbling around with going to different colleges and Temple University had showed up and they had offered a full scholarship to me because I was playing sports.
00:26:54My grades were fairly good with the school system I was in.
00:27:01And I was actually going to go to another school because Temple wasn't winning at the time.
00:27:06My stepfather in our house, and I remember this, he said it with conviction.
00:27:11He said, boy, you're going to Temple because that was the only school that offered a full ride.
00:27:20I met Brent at Temple.
00:27:23We both played football together and coming out of camp, breaking camp,
00:27:27he and another gentleman were the first, you know, interactions that I had as far as getting accustomed to the life.
00:27:36It's a college life.
00:27:38I believe this relationship was destined to be.
00:27:44Akif and I are so much alike, but we're so much different.
00:27:47And I think that's the beauty in our relationship.
00:27:50You come into our readings, you'll see me reading a lot.
00:27:54It's funny because I'm a struggling reader.
00:27:56I'll be reading a lot and this guy's flying around the room, he's doing airplanes.
00:28:01He's acting the book out.
00:28:02And I'll be honest with you, I wouldn't be that good at doing it.
00:28:05Brent, he is a goof.
00:28:09Who am I?
00:28:10Bring her back up to the sky.
00:28:11Who can touch the sky?
00:28:12Who can touch the sky?
00:28:13Where my dance is at?
00:28:14Where my dance is at?
00:28:15There's a little dance room where you're touching that sky.
00:28:17Okay.
00:28:17Now go back to them toes.
00:28:19Back to the toes.
00:28:20Brent's voice takes over the entire room.
00:28:23He's so boisterous.
00:28:25And he has this squeak to his voice.
00:28:27And so the kid, he's like a little cartoon character.
00:28:30I see you over there playing.
00:28:32Look at that.
00:28:33Look at y'all.
00:28:34He's loud.
00:28:37Uh-oh.
00:28:38Uh-oh.
00:28:39Uh-oh.
00:28:40Where y'all think that's going?
00:28:42Oh my God!
00:28:46From my observation of A'Keefe, A'Keefe is maybe a little bit more serious.
00:28:52The hissy-pinsy style went out the world.
00:28:57Nobody really sees A'Keefe's personality other than us.
00:29:01He's a goof.
00:29:02He's so serious out in public.
00:29:16And to see him let that shell down and just become that, it's great.
00:29:22Because I know who that is.
00:29:23They were sleeping.
00:29:24So guess what he did?
00:29:26He went to his closet.
00:29:27He opened his closet.
00:29:29He put on his pants.
00:29:30He put on his boots.
00:29:31He put on his shirt.
00:29:32He put on his back.
00:29:32He put on his hat.
00:29:34He put on his hat.
00:29:34Then he put on his what?
00:29:36Glass!
00:29:38Then he ran outside.
00:29:39He started doing the snow angel.
00:29:41And he started playing with Ava.
00:29:42They having fun.
00:29:43She swinging her beats.
00:29:44And guess who saw them next?
00:29:45Oh my God!
00:29:46They're coming and saying, is that my friends out there having fun?
00:29:50They look like they would be coming into a scare street when you first see them because
00:29:54they're huge.
00:29:56You know what I mean?
00:29:56But then when they lighten up and you get to hear like this goofiness to them and how playful
00:30:02they are, it makes you want to just kind of just jump in and do the things with them.
00:30:07What's something that's loud?
00:30:12Tell them.
00:30:13Say it loud.
00:30:14Huh?
00:30:15I can.
00:30:16Airplane.
00:30:18Airplane.
00:30:18Yeah!
00:30:19Airplane.
00:30:21They tell them to like tell their parents that please read this book, like teach them
00:30:26how to beg their parents, which is so funny to me.
00:30:29And even they're going in environments where some of the kids don't speak English, but they
00:30:36can still feel, you can still see them get excited and still see them understand what's
00:30:41going on.
00:30:42And it might probably be the best thing to happen in their day.
00:30:45It's powerful.
00:30:46There you go.
00:30:47There you go.
00:30:47There you go.
00:30:47There you go.
00:30:47There you go.
00:30:47Who?
00:30:47I didn't get a hug.
00:30:49Everybody going to get one.
00:30:50Everybody going to get one.
00:30:51Everybody going to get one.
00:30:51Everybody.
00:30:52Everybody in the club.
00:30:54Plants are.
00:30:55Fine.
00:30:57Clouds are.
00:31:00But it is.
00:31:01I see a rainbow cloud.
00:31:03And I leave them.
00:31:05I feel like Superman because I'm like, I'm able to do something that I wish somebody.
00:31:11I was calling for Mr. A and Mr. B to come help me with reading.
00:31:15Read every day, okay?
00:31:17Every day.
00:31:18I never told anyone I struggle with reading, never, except for my mom and some people at
00:31:24school when I fell down at Temple University.
00:31:26But I never mentioned, even though every report card said it, I never said it, right?
00:31:31But I thought I was dumb.
00:31:33And because I thought I was dumb, I took chances I shouldn't have taken.
00:31:38I didn't see a future that many people might assume that I saw.
00:31:42I didn't see a future that a lot of people who are great readers saw.
00:31:46So when you're struggling with reading, you're struggling with surviving.
00:31:49So when I was your age and I couldn't read like I wanted to, guess what I used to do?
00:31:54I would make up these stories.
00:31:56I would grab my little pencil.
00:31:57I'd hold my eyes.
00:31:58I would just make up all these fun stories because it was hard for me to read.
00:32:02So right now, what we're going to do, we're going to make up a story together.
00:32:06With my name being Mr. A and his name being Mr. B, what we'd like to get started with is
00:32:12our ABC.
00:32:14Raise your hand if you know your ABC.
00:32:16Because we are in very rough neighborhoods who may not have those resources.
00:32:25We know the difference that the books are going to make for these children, for these parents.
00:32:34I had a young guy who couldn't spell is it, it, sixth grade.
00:32:37Thirteen years old, literally couldn't spell is it, it.
00:32:39He's about to go outside and start to fight.
00:32:42Everybody just wants to be good at something, right?
00:32:45And when you're not a good reader, you're not doing good in school, but you're still going
00:32:51to school, you need to find, where can I be good?
00:32:53Oh, I cussed the teacher out good.
00:32:55I run out of class good.
00:32:56I beat people up good.
00:32:58I disturb the class good.
00:33:01You're looking for where I get my love at, right?
00:33:03And that's natural.
00:33:05People that are locked up are being locked up for things where they're really just trying
00:33:10to do something to provide for themselves and their family, but they have limited options
00:33:15on what they can, you know, choose to do.
00:33:18When you teach someone how to read, that's love.
00:33:21Giving them the ability to be able to learn.
00:33:24Reading is love.
00:33:26And so many of these young kids go from being these young, loved individuals to these older,
00:33:32angry, upset individuals.
00:33:34And a lot of it goes right back to reading.
00:33:36So August 10th, 1994, I was so scared.
00:33:43That whole ride, we talked about football, and I wanted to be like, Dad, I was scared.
00:33:49I don't feel I was cool.
00:33:50I'm scared.
00:33:51I knew I was.
00:33:52And I couldn't, I didn't feel like I could tell him that.
00:33:55And I'm not sure how he would have even responded to that.
00:33:58My dad wasn't, he wasn't me crying.
00:34:01Yeah, he didn't cry.
00:34:02That dude didn't cry.
00:34:02Him and my brother, they don't cry.
00:34:04I'm the cry baby.
00:34:04And I always felt like, and this is not a knock on my dad, no matter where my kids
00:34:09are, I want them to be able to open up to me.
00:34:13I do believe men of color can struggle with being intimate with their children, family,
00:34:20for whatever stigmas are out there.
00:34:23Not wanting your son to be soft.
00:34:25Come on, Grace.
00:34:27We do our own camera work.
00:34:31I hug my boys.
00:34:34We have the daughter, you know, I hug her as well.
00:34:37I give her a lot of hugs and kisses.
00:34:39But I also kiss my boys.
00:34:41You know, I give them hugs.
00:34:43I don't think that they're going to grow up to be something that I would disapprove of.
00:34:49They're going to be who they are, ultimately.
00:34:52And I'm going to love them regardless.
00:34:54I never told my dad I love him.
00:34:58He never told me he loved me.
00:35:00We showed it, right?
00:35:02But we never had those moments like me and my son had when I was like, yo, I love you,
00:35:06man.
00:35:06He's like, I love you too, daddy.
00:35:08A lot of them at my age and around there haven't had those moments with their dads.
00:35:12My pop passed years ago.
00:35:25I miss my dad.
00:35:30It's weird because I actually feel like me and my son, my son replaces my dad.
00:35:35If he doesn't know that, I've never told him that, but it's like I'm getting a second
00:35:41of the cheers with my dad and my son.
00:35:45Oh, my God, Mason, it sounds like you're losing your voice.
00:35:49Are you losing your voice, Mom?
00:35:52No.
00:35:53You ready to go for a swim?
00:35:54No.
00:35:55You ready to go for a swim?
00:35:58Dad, you won't put me.
00:35:59I didn't grow up sitting on laps.
00:36:02I didn't grow up getting hugs.
00:36:04That is definitely something that I had to create, a nurturing side of me.
00:36:09So when I go back and, you know, just seeing those experiences, you know, it's just something
00:36:16that, you know, I'll have to work through.
00:36:18That was something that I always took from my relationship that I wanted to be able to
00:36:25be so open with my emotions with my kids that wherever they were at, they can emotionally,
00:36:30we can emotionally connect.
00:36:31When me and my daughter was young, I was working two jobs at the time.
00:36:38A lot of times when I was getting home, it was time for her bath time.
00:36:41Bath, and we read a book.
00:36:43We snuggled, and we read the same books over and over again, the same one.
00:36:49But it was so special.
00:36:52And I think when dads do this, they start to realize how much power they really had in
00:36:59the intimate part.
00:37:01So when it comes to mothers being more of the nurturing type, that's what I was for our
00:37:10children.
00:37:10And you just press it on the side, okay?
00:37:24Okay.
00:37:25I don't care you, dude.
00:37:35All right.
00:37:37I keep staples, sure.
00:37:39That's my doctor tip.
00:37:41Do it all here.
00:37:42Don't.
00:37:43Say bye.
00:37:44Say bye.
00:37:45Say bye.
00:37:46Come.
00:37:47Hey!
00:37:48The boy's all that.
00:37:49The boy's all that.
00:37:50All right.
00:37:51Let's go.
00:37:52I can walk in the house, and it could be 12 o'clock at night, and they'll all still be
00:37:58on the couch watching TV.
00:38:00And my first response could be, you know, why are they still up at 12 o'clock, or why
00:38:04are they still on the couch?
00:38:05But they're cuddled up, and they're so just loving, you know?
00:38:10And I knew for my daughter what that was going to be like to be able to have her first love
00:38:16be her dad.
00:38:17She made him mush, where, you know, he was a little bit more rugged before her.
00:38:21When we talk about the, you know, fathers and being intimate, that's when I learned
00:38:28that it's okay.
00:38:30It is okay to give these children love, especially at a young age.
00:38:36I'll read some.
00:38:37N-double-A-C-P.
00:38:38As is now customary, this combination of letters is not a natural syllabic sound.
00:38:47You don't have to be certified to read to your children.
00:38:50You don't have to be certified to be engaged.
00:38:53But we do know that when you take those actions, change will happen.
00:38:58But in doing so, it creates new generational habits.
00:39:00So now I'm giving my child this experience, and it creates this norm that my son doesn't
00:39:06have to learn, right?
00:39:08And so when he's now a parent, that's not a new thing he has to pick up.
00:39:11He will automatically read with his child.
00:39:14He will automatically read with his child.
00:39:44She ran up the steps.
00:39:45She said, Ikeef, did you hear that?
00:39:47And then about five seconds later, she just starts screaming.
00:39:52And I jump up, and I'm just bumbling and fumbling, and I'm making my way to the room.
00:40:01And as I get to the door, my sister is on top of my step five, giving him CPR.
00:40:08He had shot himself.
00:40:09It was at that moment that my life literally flashed before my own eyes, and the whole trajectory
00:40:18of my life changed in that moment.
00:40:21And I'm sure it changed for my sister as well.
00:40:25We both ended up taking on our own forms of therapy.
00:40:29And as a result, we both became addicts.
00:40:37It was something that we had dealt with for a number of years.
00:40:42I have two sisters.
00:40:58And I lost one.
00:41:14And it wasn't until I met my wife, because our relationship happened so fast.
00:41:31We met and got married in 28 days.
00:41:35I knew she had a son.
00:41:36I hadn't met him.
00:41:37I was still in my addicted phase at that time.
00:41:42And we were about a month into our marriage, and she sat me down.
00:41:48I was coming in, hanging out with friends.
00:41:53You know, it was alcohol.
00:41:55She said, Ikeef, I can't do this.
00:41:58And you're going to have to make a choice, Ikeef.
00:42:03She said, you either stop or else, if you don't, I'm leaving.
00:42:08It was in that moment that she said, you're a dad now.
00:42:12And I couldn't imagine what my father, now I'm talking about my biological father.
00:42:19I can't imagine what he felt like when he had his child taken away from him.
00:42:30And to try and build that relationship.
00:42:35And I'm 42.
00:42:37It's been 40 years.
00:42:38I had the opportunity to celebrate my first birthday with my father since I was from two
00:42:47years old was when I turned 40.
00:42:49I myself could now change history.
00:42:55And what I always wanted in life was a family.
00:42:59So my wife gave me the choice of having that family.
00:43:06And it was that day, September 26, 2009, that she sat me down on that bed that I gave up drinking.
00:43:16And I have not had one drink since.
00:43:23And I always tell him this, my oldest son, that he changed my life by giving me that opportunity to be his father.
00:43:36Let's ask questions.
00:43:39Let's build powerful relationships, win new business, and influence others.
00:43:45The fact that he just naturally picked up to do all of those things and be present with them.
00:43:52And then when you get reports from school and the teachers and other people are telling you how great your kids are and how amazing they are.
00:44:01And I know that he is their caregiver 90% of the time.
00:44:04I know that's nothing but him.
00:44:06I didn't have my dad in my household growing up.
00:44:10So seeing Brent with the kids, it's something that I can view and appreciate, whether it's them chatting.
00:44:17Like, I can see, like, sometimes Mason and Brent just having these long little chats.
00:44:22Gianna, she confides in Brent, too.
00:44:25Like, and Brent, something that Brent does, after he picks them up from school, he'll have conversations with them.
00:44:30Just bring up combos like, you know, how was your day today?
00:44:33And then that just kind of stirs the conversation.
00:44:36But kind of, you know, after a long day of school or then going into after school and just kind of checking in with them.
00:44:43And then it brings them to just talk and just whatever quality time that is within kind of conversations, which I think is good.
00:44:51Because then you kind of find out what's going on with your kids.
00:44:54How was their day?
00:44:55With math, I really go to my dad about that because he's better at it than my mom.
00:45:01And my dad is clumsy.
00:45:05I know you are, too.
00:45:09It's different when your mom holds you and kisses your boo-boos.
00:45:12Mom's supposed to do that.
00:45:13But when dad still allows you to be gentle but then explain things to you, why he's toughening you up, why he's pulling you back together to just let things go,
00:45:22it just gives a different support to their emotional growth.
00:45:31I just tell them stuff that happened, like today or other days.
00:45:45Do you like being able to talk to your dad and mom?
00:45:48Yeah.
00:45:49How does that make you feel?
00:45:51Happy.
00:45:53Why does it make you feel happy?
00:45:55Because other people don't have mom.
00:45:57Little boys are almost raised to be robots, like not human.
00:46:03Boys don't cry.
00:46:04Boys don't dance.
00:46:05Men, for years, were just told, stop crying.
00:46:09Don't, don't, don't, don't.
00:46:10They never realized how to.
00:46:12How do I regulate my own emotions?
00:46:17Not just shut them off, because shutting them off ain't good.
00:46:20How do I simmer down?
00:46:22How do I go from 10 to 1, still being able to express myself emotionally?
00:46:30Well, people always like to say we look alike.
00:46:35And I always like to say it.
00:46:37It's not true.
00:46:38Yeah, there's no way.
00:46:41He ain't close to looking up here.
00:46:44I'm happy I don't look like you.
00:46:48You should be happy when you look like me.
00:46:50What's real is, I cut myself, I'm hurting.
00:46:54You all right, my man?
00:46:55All right, you get that.
00:46:56I'm going to wash it off, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:46:58Not shutting down someone's feelings.
00:47:02And I think far too often, men shut down little boys' feelings
00:47:07and don't allow them to grow into who they are emotionally.
00:47:11Oh, those jokes.
00:47:16Those jokes, yeah.
00:47:20They're not going to tell me those jokes.
00:47:23I'm not going to tell them you.
00:47:25This is a chapter of my book called July 1st.
00:47:28July 1st was the first day football magazines came up.
00:47:34They previewed the season, college, NFL.
00:47:37I loved sports back then.
00:47:39In the 80s, there was no internet, right?
00:47:41You couldn't just get stuff by pushing the button.
00:47:44We would go to the Shelterham Mall to this bookstore.
00:47:46Every July 1st, he would buy me like three, four, five books.
00:47:50But my dad never read the books.
00:47:53He would go get them and I would go read them.
00:47:55Now, at the time, what I was really doing,
00:47:57I was teaching myself how to read.
00:47:59He has no idea.
00:48:00He was, that's how I was teaching.
00:48:02To this day, I use little skills when I'm reading.
00:48:05That's what taught me how to read.
00:48:07I wanted to read so bad what was in that football book,
00:48:10but I was struggling.
00:48:11I wasn't going to tell him, right?
00:48:13I wasn't going to tell my mom.
00:48:14I just go sit in my room forever
00:48:15and just keep reading these books.
00:48:18And he doesn't know that.
00:48:20And I wish I would have told him that before he passed,
00:48:22but he played a big part in me becoming a better reader.
00:48:26Me and my dad was exactly, I'm like,
00:48:32my dad couldn't read really well,
00:48:34he couldn't write really well.
00:48:36But I never knew that.
00:48:37Dad was the main stickler about education.
00:48:41He is smart.
00:48:42He is smart.
00:48:42Sometimes that used to mess me up.
00:48:44Dad, I'm not smart.
00:48:45He's like, no, he's smart.
00:48:47You got me smart.
00:48:48Gotta do your work.
00:48:49When you really think about it,
00:48:50reading is in everything.
00:48:51Reading is in, you know,
00:48:53filling out a job application
00:48:55or buying a home or anything.
00:48:59Reading is everywhere you go.
00:49:00Signs, streets.
00:49:02And if you are not equipped
00:49:04or don't have that knowledge,
00:49:06it's a real struggle.
00:49:18I'm beautiful.
00:49:19I'm proud.
00:49:20I'm beautiful.
00:49:21I'm proud.
00:49:22I'ma say it out loud.
00:49:24I'ma say it out loud.
00:49:27I love my hair.
00:49:28I love my skin.
00:49:29I love my hair.
00:49:30I love my skin.
00:49:32I love my smile every time I grin.
00:49:34I love my smile every time I grin.
00:49:37I'm beautiful.
00:49:38I'm proud.
00:49:39I'm beautiful.
00:49:40I'm proud.
00:49:41I'm beautiful.
00:49:42I'm proud.
00:49:43Once we've read the stories,
00:49:45we wanted to gift the children with books,
00:49:48you know,
00:49:49with some literacy resources.
00:49:52Now,
00:49:52these books are books that we took from our own home.
00:49:55When we started out,
00:49:56they were books from our children's shelves that,
00:49:59you know,
00:49:59they may,
00:50:00they may not have been reading.
00:50:01And during our campaign at the time,
00:50:04we read in 30 day cares in 30 days.
00:50:07So we had to have at least around 100 books to give away because we were saying we were going to give three books away.
00:50:14It was great.
00:50:15You know,
00:50:15it was good.
00:50:16However,
00:50:17when you have a room full of 30 kids and only three of them are receiving a book,
00:50:25it was the kids and it was the children that were coming up and they were crying.
00:50:32And they were like,
00:50:33well,
00:50:34I want a book.
00:50:35Where's mine at?
00:50:36And that's when Brent and myself,
00:50:38we really had to go back.
00:50:40And we,
00:50:40we started asking or,
00:50:42you know,
00:50:42it either popped up or show the universe showed up giving us access to more books.
00:50:47That is always something that's stuck in my head is making sure that the kids have,
00:50:53have access to books and that they get these books in their hands.
00:50:57Now,
00:50:58what was the title of the book?
00:51:00How many monkeys did the book start out with?
00:51:05Hold them on.
00:51:06God,
00:51:07raise your hand.
00:51:07Everybody raise their hand.
00:51:08Can everybody answer it?
00:51:11How many monkeys does it?
00:51:13Five.
00:51:13Yes.
00:51:14Yes.
00:51:15Very good job.
00:51:16Well,
00:51:16Lee,
00:51:17you screamed out first five.
00:51:18There you go,
00:51:19buddy.
00:51:19You get a book.
00:51:20What do I like to put on my popcorn?
00:51:24Hot sauce.
00:51:27She was first.
00:51:28Say it again.
00:51:29Hot sauce.
00:51:29Hot sauce.
00:51:31Very good.
00:51:31When you have individuals that look like you,
00:51:35that are not afraid to show up and be present and,
00:51:40and be of service.
00:51:43That,
00:51:44that is a difference maker.
00:51:47I remember this little kid we had in Kensington and anyone knows about Kensington,
00:51:50the biggest drug epidemic in the country right now,
00:51:55as far as opioids go.
00:51:56It's a rough neighborhood.
00:51:58And we were in there with these kids and he,
00:52:01we asked him like,
00:52:02what's the most important thing?
00:52:03Whatever it was,
00:52:05he started speaking about father,
00:52:06how fathers were the greatest thing in this world.
00:52:09Because when we talked to them,
00:52:10we'd speak from that point of view.
00:52:13And the lady was crying.
00:52:15Lady worked there forever.
00:52:16Over 30 years,
00:52:17she was crying back there.
00:52:18She said,
00:52:19you know,
00:52:19that boy hasn't seen his father in years.
00:52:23The father was like locked up for like murder or something.
00:52:26He wasn't in his life.
00:52:27And she was like,
00:52:28for him to have so much passion about what a father is,
00:52:31what it should be,
00:52:33what he took away from you guys.
00:52:35Like she couldn't stop crying.
00:52:36And it's like,
00:52:37listen,
00:52:37even though this kid doesn't have a father,
00:52:40right?
00:52:41He understands that fathers are important,
00:52:45right?
00:52:45It may be that the link that leads him to being a positive father in the future.
00:52:51It gives them a different view on what good men are,
00:52:56what passionate men are,
00:52:57what caring men are,
00:52:59and that it can be very cool to be this.
00:53:03But it was these two young teams,
00:53:04and this guy was fighting to get his son back.
00:53:06They get custody of his kid.
00:53:08And he said,
00:53:09so wait a minute.
00:53:09So I could read,
00:53:10because he was in the Batman,
00:53:11this dude,
00:53:12he knew all about Batman.
00:53:13He said,
00:53:13so I could read Batman with my son?
00:53:15And he was like,
00:53:16yeah.
00:53:16And we had some Batman books.
00:53:18And he was really like,
00:53:20wait,
00:53:20I can't like,
00:53:21literally like,
00:53:21I can do this?
00:53:22Like,
00:53:22yeah,
00:53:22you can do this with your son.
00:53:24He left there with maybe a dozen books,
00:53:29a lot of Batman.
00:53:31And with the idea that,
00:53:32oh,
00:53:33this is how I can connect with my child and help him become a better reader.
00:53:37I do know that given love,
00:53:41given resources,
00:53:42you could take your mind and your body anywhere in this world.
00:53:47reading is love.
00:54:09Like reading is really love.
00:54:11Like teaching a person how to read or helping them in that journey,
00:54:15right?
00:54:15You may not be able to teach someone how to read,
00:54:18but you can help them in that journey.
00:54:19You can advocate.
00:54:21I'm a father who has to advocate for his son,
00:54:24who struggles a little bit with education like I do.
00:54:27And,
00:54:28you know,
00:54:29that's the biggest thing you could do is advocate,
00:54:32teach your child,
00:54:33be along for that journey.
00:54:35No one teach children how to read after third grade.
00:54:38Reading is love.
00:54:39That's what it means is exactly what,
00:54:44what it says.
00:54:45You know,
00:54:45to,
00:54:46to me,
00:54:46when you look at the issues that we have in the world,
00:54:50where that love is removed,
00:54:52it's like,
00:54:54okay,
00:54:54how did it get here?
00:54:56Because I always say,
00:54:59you know,
00:54:59we're not born innately mad at the world.
00:55:05If it's a mother,
00:55:05it doesn't matter if it's a parent,
00:55:07caregiver,
00:55:08whoever is with these children from a very young age,
00:55:13or still even in the womb,
00:55:14because you can still read to children in the womb.
00:55:17I did it with our children.
00:55:19And that love is teaching or educating without having the certification,
00:55:26but just being willing to be in the moment with those children.
00:55:32And it doesn't have to be perfect.
00:55:35He always read with the kids.
00:55:37And me watching them grow in their capacity for reading,
00:55:42especially daily.
00:55:43I mean,
00:55:43she's so expressed in her reading and it takes her away.
00:55:47from the computer and the iPad and Bryce away from his gaming system.
00:55:55And it,
00:55:55it's like you get to become whatever's in the story,
00:56:00but it opens up your mindset to seeing things outside of where you are.
00:56:05And I think that opens up kids' minds to being,
00:56:08to realizing that life is not just that one place that they're in.
00:56:13And that there's way more to what they know than just where they are.
00:56:17where their home is or where their block is or their street or their neighborhood or anything like that.
00:56:22Just seeing that there's more to life than just that.
00:56:24Always been about the children, always been about helping the community, informing families.
00:56:30And because of that, because of their willingness to not be paid, their passion about the community has come out in their work.
00:56:37You get hit with so many closed doors, closed doors with funding, closed doors with reluctance in the community for people to open their doors to you and assist and say,
00:56:48yes, we, we see your value.
00:56:50Man, I keep literally did this with nothing for two years, no money, no vehicles, taking books from my kids' bookshelf.
00:56:58I remember, like, for a while, he, like, he would go through my bookshelf, just take some, or I'll just go through them, like, stuff I don't really read that much anymore.
00:57:08Whoever got it, they're enjoying it too, like I did.
00:57:12I was in a good career, working in social services.
00:57:15I was a dean in schools, making good money, and I said, I'm done with it.
00:57:22I didn't like working in these agencies who I felt like, at the end of the day, we're not really trying to help this situation.
00:57:31We're trying to keep getting paid, right?
00:57:33I didn't feel like we were doing as best as we could for these kids and these families.
00:57:39So I walked away from it all. I literally got myself fired.
00:57:43I'll also be honest with you, I wasn't in a position financially where leaving a full-paying job was smart, probably smart to do.
00:57:51And I was very surprised when my wife was like, all right, cool, I'll back your play.
00:57:54When it first started, it was kind of like, oh, I'm no longer doing my job.
00:57:59Okay, so then it's like, whoa, okay, and so what are we doing now?
00:58:02And, you know, kind of just going off on this idea and, you know, encouraging him because definitely I wanted to encourage him.
00:58:10I know that he had, when he left the previous employment, it was, you know, there was a lot of taxing emotions involved with that particular employment and just leaving them.
00:58:22But then also having that motivation and that thought that this idea was going to be the next thing and being able to foster him as best as I could.
00:58:33During that time, I got offered two jobs that were way more money than I ever made in my life.
00:58:39But they were back in schools doing the same thing.
00:58:42And I turned both of them.
00:58:43One was six figures.
00:58:44I turned them both down.
00:58:45People looked at me like I was crazy when I did it.
00:58:47And I said, no, I'm making fathers read 365 for it.
00:58:52Like, me and I keep got something amazing going on.
00:58:54What my wife has allowed me to do is be everything that I didn't have.
00:59:00I often had an issue in the beginning when we first started, you know, about finances because this job doesn't pay them, you know, a salary.
00:59:09So everything fell on me a lot.
00:59:11And I was resentful probably because that's what the world told me that a man was supposed to do.
00:59:18And it's taken years, you know, to really relax your mind and kind of see value totally different.
00:59:25He's the first person up in the morning getting them ready for school, making sure that everything runs on time.
00:59:31He's the conductor of the train.
00:59:32I pull the caboose.
00:59:34Us being entrepreneurs and having a business where we can create our own schedules, I've been the one that's been home taking care of our children.
00:59:44I literally went to nothing.
00:59:45I went to working in clubs, going to charity four or five in the morning.
00:59:49I passed out from exhaustion one night because I would work all night so I could keep my days open.
00:59:55But then we only had one car, so I had to take my family to school in the morning, school and work.
01:00:01And then me and Akif would have some work to do.
01:00:03So sometimes I wasn't sleeping.
01:00:07Today, October 26, in about a half an hour, my partner, Akif Staples and I are meeting with the mayor's office.
01:00:14When we got together last year to put this thing in motion, ultimately we knew we needed funding.
01:00:20We needed the support of people hired bigger than us.
01:00:23Programs, especially black-led programs for children in the city, right, grassroots, just starting out.
01:00:38A lot of times these programs falter because we don't get the proper funding.
01:00:42Yes, that F word, funding.
01:00:45Funding, funding, funding.
01:00:47And being very honest, a lot of times it's not coming from our community that we're serving.
01:00:51We haven't necessarily learned how to be totally charitable to each other.
01:00:58And those big private foundations, they make you jump through loops and paperwork you to death and disqualification.
01:01:08They move the goalposts a lot.
01:01:10Because even when you're there, right, Akif and I, we're learning this.
01:01:14We're climbing this ladder.
01:01:15Ultimately, they come back and try to teach others.
01:01:17And we see how the goalposts, you know, you're a small organization because there's two of us, but another organization is big and they have five people and they get, you know, millions of dollars.
01:01:29Right now, North Philadelphia School giving kids 13 books apiece, pre-K and kindergarten students.
01:01:36We do two to three interactive readings with them.
01:01:40And, you know, that costs money, right?
01:01:43It costs $45,000 to get all those books.
01:01:46And we try to figure out how to do it.
01:01:48How can we do it for the whole school district?
01:01:49How can we do it for all the kids in the city and all the cities?
01:01:54We know how there's a path there.
01:01:56There's other blueprints there of organizations that have been successful throughout the country.
01:02:01But it doesn't happen without funding.
01:02:04The only way for you to survive is to have funds, some type of funds.
01:02:11And there are so many great organizations that don't see the light of day.
01:02:16You could have Miss Annie May, who has been on Westchester Avenue for 50 some odd years,
01:02:25just taking care of the kids, providing diapers, providing things for new mothers or new parents out there.
01:02:35And they don't get any recognition, but they just do it because of their love for their community, their love for people.
01:02:44And they ran in the house.
01:02:45My parents say, don't you ever go outside.
01:02:47Don't you ever go outside again without asking for a school?
01:02:52Mission.
01:02:53Mission.
01:02:53Mission.
01:02:54Don't go outside without asking for permission.
01:02:56You just can't be a father to your kids.
01:03:00You have to be a father to your community.
01:03:02So one of the things we say is, Father's Week 365 is a father initiative that engages fathers
01:03:09and their kids' early literacy and kids in their community.
01:03:14He put on his boots.
01:03:15He put on his shirt.
01:03:16He put on his jacket.
01:03:17He put on his scarf.
01:03:18He put on his hat.
01:03:19Then he put on his...
01:03:20What do you put on?
01:03:21When you put on your hands when it's cold.
01:03:22He put the gloves on.
01:03:26Then he ran outside.
01:03:27We can just show up at a very early stage of their lives.
01:03:31And then they get to see us in that position and to be able to champion something like literacy,
01:03:40reading, making sure that you dream big in this life, we want them to know that it's coming from us and it may not look the way they expected,
01:03:57but now they have that possibility within themselves.
01:04:01And then we want to make sure that other men, fathers, father figures, caregivers out there who are with these children see us doing it and are able to take that on as well.
01:04:17You can't buy the type of energy that's put into these kids, not even from a babysitter, and it's nice to have that, you know, because I get to live a great life and really only have to do half of it.
01:04:32And he does a lot of the work in between.
01:04:35The homework is done, you know, the kids are well behaved.
01:04:39If there's ever an issue with them, all he has to do is walk in the room.
01:04:43Meanwhile, I'm screaming and hollering and try to, like, get everything, you know, in order and make them listen to me.
01:04:51They think I'm a joke.
01:04:52You know, mom's silly, mom's goofy.
01:04:54She's, you know, she's not really serious when she's yelling.
01:04:57Meanwhile, he can walk into a room and just be quiet and stay in there and the room goes silent and everybody does what they need to do.
01:05:05You can't bottle that up.
01:05:07If I could bottle that up, I would be rich.
01:05:09I would.
01:05:10Peaches, peaches.
01:05:11Squeaky, leaky, rubber ducky, lucky ducky, time to fly, rubber ducky going.
01:05:17Oh, my boy.
01:05:20Here we go.
01:05:21Rubber ducky.
01:05:22Bye, bye, bye.
01:05:24Bye, bye.
01:05:24Favorite jammies?
01:05:25Where do you think they going with?
01:05:26Favorite jammies.
01:05:27Oh, my boy.
01:05:28Over, my boy.
01:05:28There you go.
01:05:29Alien, little lambies, they going.
01:05:32Over, my boy.
01:05:35Bunny wipers, they going.
01:05:37Over, my boy.
01:05:39Uh-oh, stinky bunny diapers, they going.
01:05:42Over, my boy.
01:05:44When we realized, wow, you know, there's just not enough voices out here speaking about early literacy,
01:05:50especially in the communities that we're touching, all those ways that we can create content
01:05:56to help better our community.
01:05:58Literally, when we started this, it was the second reading we ever did.
01:06:03And from there to now, it's like, wow, we've really done a lot.
01:06:08You know, we've read to over 8,000 children.
01:06:12We've given out over 50,000 books.
01:06:15We've trained almost thousands of parents.
01:06:20I mean, for the first two years, we did this with no money.
01:06:22We did this with no money, really not even anyone knowing about us.
01:06:26And now to be featured on the news four or five times now, and we're actually impacting kids.
01:06:34Like, we're still doing what we set out to do from the beginning.
01:06:37I'm able to do something that I wish somebody, I was calling for Mr. A and Mr. B to come help me with reading.
01:06:45Telling kids that, hey, even if you're struggling with reading, you're going to be okay.
01:06:48It means a lot when you see someone going through what you went through,
01:06:52and you see them in a successful position.
01:06:54Because it's like, wow, okay, this is not a death sentence.
01:06:58There are not enough black male educators, and when they see us, we want to represent images or models
01:07:14that they can relate to in their own household.
01:07:18We want to make sure that that engagement lives on.
01:07:22You know, watching it start off as just an idea with them,
01:07:25and I see how much effort my husband puts into all of this.
01:07:31And I watch the kids, and I watch how exciting they, you know, the experience is.
01:07:36I'm so proud of them, you know, and I know they're out here in this community making a difference,
01:07:41and that's really all that matters.
01:07:44It does a lot of legwork behind it.
01:07:45It's almost a lot of knocking on doors and hoping that someone will, you know,
01:07:51be able to believe in your idea and want to support your idea
01:07:56and being determined and believing in your idea enough to go through all of these different steps
01:08:02to get it to where it is now.
01:08:04I have to thank, you know, he's my stepfather, but I call him dad.
01:08:11You know, I have two dads,
01:08:13and it was when I was in high school, my senior year, playing sports, playing athletics.
01:08:19It was my stepfather that chose my path for me.
01:08:23I mean, he said, boy, you're going to Temple.
01:08:26And Brent and I joke about this all the time because that's where we met.
01:08:33That's where we met at Temple.
01:08:34And his father was on the police force at Temple for a number of years.
01:08:40It was written, Brent and I mentioned that a lot.
01:08:43It was written that our fathers had a lot to do for what is going on right now with the organization.
01:08:54Fathers are so important.
01:08:55The message that we're trying to bring across, you don't have to wait for Superman.
01:09:00Put on your own goddamn cape and get out there and start saving lives.
01:09:03You don't have to wait till you have this degree.
01:09:06You don't have to wait till you have this website.
01:09:07You don't have to wait till you have all this funding.
01:09:09Get into the community where you're trying to help.
01:09:13Develop a plan on how you want to help and do the work.
01:09:17We literally were told y'all will never get fully funded by the William Penn Foundation
01:09:23for your little program in your black and brown community.
01:09:26A week later, we got a call from William Penn Foundation saying, we want to work with y'all.
01:09:32To any mother out there, parents, individuals who have created children,
01:09:50do the very best you can to show, to continue to show love, not only to your children, but to each other.
01:10:06Because not all relationships are going to work out.
01:10:11That's just the truth.
01:10:13However, something that I took on, I say, whoever has my child, whoever births my child, whoever that woman is,
01:10:29I'm going to do whatever it is that I possibly can to remain in the life of my child or children.
01:10:39We've done a lot.
01:10:40It's just so much more we have to do and want to do and can't wait to do.
01:10:44That's the beauty of it.
01:11:14That's the beauty of it.
01:11:32That's the beauty of it.
01:11:36That's the beauty of it.
01:11:40They don't drink it, drink it, get away, they sip it, get away.
01:12:00What happens when they go out?
01:12:01When we want to buy a truck?
01:12:06Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
01:12:10They don't drink it, they don't drink it, they don't drink it, no, they don't drink it.
01:12:17They don't drink it.
01:12:20They're the same.
01:12:22We don't eat it.
01:12:24They don't drink it.
01:12:26I'm hungry, I'm hungry.
01:12:27They don't drink it.
01:12:32Mom and I give no different things to me.
01:12:35She's pretty foreign.
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