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00:00Have you ever regretted being married?
00:06Many men live freely when they are single.
00:10They do what they want.
00:12But after marriage, many men are less included,
00:14realize that the benefits of marriage are truly minimal.
00:19Before having children, and besides having someone to warm you at night,
00:22Marriage brought me no real benefit.
00:24Every day we argue, or find ourselves on the verge of an argument.
00:28My wife is never satisfied, and is always looking for something to criticize.
00:33I have, on many occasions, regretted getting married.
00:37I made a mistake.
00:38Marriage is too exhausting.
00:40I miss my old life.
00:41Many men born in the 80s increasingly regret getting married,
00:47and having had children.
00:48It's just too exhausting.
00:50They drowned in debt.
00:54They were unable to accumulate wealth,
00:56and are burdened with debts of all kinds.
00:59They live an extremely difficult life,
01:01and have become examples not to be followed.
01:06Why should I get married?
01:08Nobody wants to do that anymore.
01:13Even if someone gives me a wife for free,
01:15I will not accept it.
01:17Many of these men feel lost inside.
01:20They feel that marriage has not brought them the happiness they hoped for.
01:24Instead, they lost their freedom,
01:26and endure enormous pressure from their wives,
01:29and their wives' families.
01:31They feel like they are being devoured by their wives and families,
01:34and so they say to themselves that it's not worth it.
01:36Nowadays, many men are starting to oppose women.
01:39Even if the woman in question is a good, responsible woman,
01:43they will avoid giving him credit.
01:45These deplorable women are ruining the relationship market for all good women,
01:48making them look like scammers.
01:50Relations between men and women have become strained.
01:53These women are ruining opportunities for good women.
01:56Hello everyone and welcome to this new video.
01:58So not long ago, I made a video about the Leftover Women.
02:01These women in China who, despite having enviable situations
02:03and having succeeded professionally, do not arrive at all,
02:06and this for various sociocultural and economic factors,
02:08to find a partner to settle down with and start a family.
02:11These difficulties resulting either from family pressure with mom
02:14who wants to have her married to a rich man and nothing else,
02:16because the family also benefits from the young woman's marriage,
02:19where these young women deliberately put aside their ability to start families
02:22to pursue only their career,
02:24because they believed that the injured men were comparable
02:26to pitiful beggars,
02:28and that going out with them was literally the equivalent of giving charity to the poor.
02:31Many single mature women spend a lot of money on beauty treatments,
02:34in cosmetics and surgery,
02:36hoping one day to find a rich husband.
02:38When asked to lower their standards,
02:40They refuse, saying that lowering their standards would be like giving charity to beggars.
02:45Are you hoping for a dowry for your wedding?
02:48Of course.
02:50How much ?
02:51For someone like me, I would say at least 5 million.
02:54And as you could see,
02:57The disastrous results of this mentality were not long in coming.
03:00given the number of young Chinese women today
03:02who go on social media to cry about having neglected the family aspect in their youth
03:07and the fact that men, regardless of their economic situation, rich or poor,
03:10consider the vast majority of these white-haired men to be outdated women.
03:14So last time we listened to some of these women's testimonies
03:16considered undesirable by the vast majority of Chinese men
03:19refusing to engage with them precisely because of their advanced age.
03:22But what about these men of means or from modest backgrounds?
03:24who refuse to engage with?
03:26Why so many young Asian men
03:28refuse to take their compatriots as wives?
03:30What are the reasons that push them to leave their own country?
03:32to look for their partner elsewhere?
03:34Let's see this.
03:36We regret getting married.
03:40It's really exhausting for us.
03:44We were both born in the 90s
03:46and we've only been married for a year.
03:49But this year has been enough to torture us,
03:53to the point where we are no longer truly ourselves.
03:55Our mental health is deteriorating dramatically.
03:58We are on the verge of tears.
04:01It's too difficult.
04:02My brother asked me if I regretted getting married.
04:07And without hesitation the answer was yes.
04:10After we got married,
04:11My wife started yelling at me every day.
04:14She talked about divorce every day,
04:17and frankly I don't even understand why she complains like this all the time.
04:23Every penance I earn is given to him,
04:26So why is she complaining like this?
04:28She spends her time comparing me to other women's husbands,
04:33saying that they don't have a mortgage,
04:34they live in big houses,
04:36and that their living conditions are better than ours.
04:38So she is unhappy,
04:43and calls me useless all the time.
04:47It doesn't make any sense.
04:52Honestly, I don't think I can take this for long.
04:54If things continue like this,
04:58I'm probably going to get divorced.
05:00I can't take it anymore.
05:02This life frustrates me enormously.
05:06It's hard enough for me to make money.
05:10I don't need that kind of stuff.
05:13It drives me crazy.
05:14If I had to do it again,
05:16I would never get married.
05:19Dating and marriage have completely exhausted us,
05:22physically and mentally.
05:28Why should I get married?
05:35Nobody wants to do that anymore.
05:40Even if I were given a wife for free,
05:42I wouldn't accept it.
05:44For what ?
05:45Because marriage is no longer just a choice,
05:47but comes with enormous financial pressure.
05:52Things are moving fast,
05:53and many young people no longer want to get married,
05:55because we now know what marriage means.
05:59Namely huge expenses,
06:01and a heavy burden.
06:02And my choice,
06:04It's about avoiding all that.
06:07By avoiding getting married,
06:09I avoid large unnecessary expenses,
06:10and the pressure will be reduced.
06:11I often feel that getting married was a mistake.
06:18Marriage is too exhausting.
06:20And I think it would be great to live alone,
06:22with an electric blanket to keep me warm.
06:25Why would I need to marry a stranger to sleep next to me?
06:28My wife is never satisfied,
06:30and always looks for something to complain about.
06:33The old me could eat and drink whatever he wanted.
06:37But since I got married,
06:39everything has changed.
06:40My wife only gives me 300 yuan for my monthly expenses,
06:43no matter how much I produced during the month.
06:46If I make 10,000 yuan,
06:48she only gives me 300.
06:49The best meal I've had in years
06:52was a roast duck, sold locally.
06:54And even then, I could only get a tiny bit.
06:58This is the most fun I've had in years.
07:02Many men live freely before marriage,
07:07and after, many men, including me,
07:09realize that the benefits of marriage are truly minimal.
07:12I miss my single days.
07:13A friend from Jiangxi told me he earns almost 30,000 yuan a month.
07:18and had been saving for a long time.
07:20He could easily have accumulated more than 3 million yuan,
07:24but, after getting married and having children,
07:26he saw his expenses increase drastically,
07:28and despite the fact that he works hard,
07:30He was only able to save 400,000 to 500,000 yuan.
07:36In addition, his family business closed due to inefficient management,
07:39and their incomes have decreased.
07:41The factory where he worked was cutting wages,
07:44and the worst thing is that he had 3 children,
07:46and the expenses for each of them were enormous.
07:51His life became chaotic because of all his expenses,
07:54and now he regrets getting married and having children.
08:00He thinks he would probably be a multimillionaire today,
08:03without the burden of this family,
08:04and could have enjoyed a peaceful retirement.
08:07Many men born in the 80s regret getting married,
08:09because it prevented them from accumulating wealth.
08:12They are suffocated by debt,
08:16they have an incredibly difficult life,
08:18and have become examples not to be followed.
08:20So today we have almost 70% of men born in the 90s in China,
08:28still not being married,
08:29and this for a very simple reason,
08:31The dating scene has become a mess in this country.
08:34Today it's more two logical people attracted to each other,
08:36and sincerely wanting to start a family together,
08:38but rather a kind of interrogation where you absolutely have to tick all the boxes,
08:42if you're going to have a chance of being chosen as Vachalet.
08:44And when I use the term Vachalet here,
08:45This is not an exaggeration.
08:47Before these gentlemen to please their future wife and their family,
08:49spent a lot of money on luxury goods,
08:52because it is very important to be seen as well-off,
08:54and especially capable of generosity by the family of the girl you plan to marry.
08:58And so a lot of women took advantage of the situation,
09:00and used these men's money to live a most luxurious lifestyle,
09:04before making them regret marrying them later.
09:06And today with the awakening of the guys on this Goldiger economy in China,
09:10luxury goods sales are plummeting drastically,
09:11Wedding platforms are seeing fewer and fewer requests.
09:15Many who paid for luxury goods and lived a star lifestyle thanks to their boyfriend's credit cards,
09:18start precisely because these gentlemen have realized this nonsense,
09:21to no longer be able to lead the same lifestyle,
09:23to the brink of bankruptcy,
09:24drowning in debt for the most part,
09:26at the risk of being blacklisted by the banks.
09:28The Sugar Baby Economy,
09:30It's when women's big expenses are financed by men.
09:33And now that men don't want to pay for it anymore,
09:35This economy collapsed.
09:37Before, women saw luxury goods as status symbols,
09:40and now this consumption chain no longer works.
09:43Exactly.
09:44The customer base for luxury goods has drastically decreased.
09:47Before, men spent all their money to make their wives smile.
09:51They took out online loans to buy cosmetics,
09:54limited edition bags,
09:56were closing 5-star hotels,
09:57candlelit dinners,
09:58they provided material value and emotional support,
10:01and now things have changed.
10:04Sales of all these luxury goods are drastically reduced.
10:07We were talking here about the same women who, when they had money,
10:09claimed to be independent of any man,
10:11and who today, when this money is drastically decreasing,
10:14begins to look for tides who will pay exorbitant dowries to marry them,
10:17and will give them their wedding role payment.
10:20And speaking of dowry,
10:21There were some who really made me laugh with their request.
10:24This is just ridiculous. Listen to this.
10:26How much would it cost to marry you?
10:27A house in Beijing, a diamond ring and a million in cash.
10:33At home, it's 10,000 yuan a year.
10:36I'm 22, so 2.2 million.
10:42What ?
10:42Can you imagine paying all that money for a girl?
10:44who can't even do basic math?
10:45So already, 10,000 yuan per year from the daughter,
10:47when she's 22, that's not 2 million,
10:49That's 220,000 yuan.
10:51But also, in what universe?
10:52The older a woman gets, the more expensive she becomes.
10:54What the hell is this?
10:55No but seriously, what universe does she live in?
10:56And it's not over.
10:57What would your perfect boyfriend look like?
11:00He would be handsome, kind, would own several houses,
11:03and would have parents who are both deceased.
11:05Let's review this.
11:06I wish both of his parents were dead,
11:08because I know how difficult it is to get along with your mother-in-law.
11:13I can't believe what I just heard.
11:15With each passing day,
11:15This lady manages to find new ways to surprise me.
11:17So gentlemen, if you want to marry this Alibiri lookalike,
11:20you know what to do.
11:21And it's not over.
11:21I hope my future husband doesn't want to have children.
11:25I don't want children because it would affect my physique.
11:28He should have at least five cars,
11:30two Rolls-Royces, two Ferraris,
11:32and a Porsche Panamera.
11:35And also my family is from Gianchi and there,
11:38the price of the dowry is very high.
11:40A dowry of one million is required,
11:42not to mention cars and houses.
11:47Wow, all this for a woman you can't have children with.
11:49throughout the relationship,
11:50and which will probably be useless to you throughout.
11:52I'm not surprised they go looking for their wives elsewhere.
11:54These exorbitant demands in terms of dowries
11:55are due to the numerical imbalance of the gender,
11:58because there are more men than women in China,
12:00and so they benefit from it.
12:02At least they try.
12:03So, poor guys who would like to get married,
12:04do not marry.
12:05Those who try find themselves burdened with debt
12:07and end up poor again.
12:08This is why families with a son and a daughter
12:10demand exorbitant dowries for the girl,
12:12in order to also allow the son to marry.
12:14As you can see,
12:15everything is very cold, superficial,
12:16and terribly transactional.
12:19People have criticized the practice
12:20as a marketing of their daughters.
12:23These exorbitant dowries demanded
12:24are due to poverty
12:25and to a competition with other families
12:27who seek to improve their living conditions
12:29through the marriage of their daughters.
12:32These people are literally selling their daughters
12:34to the highest bidders.
12:35And if you can't pay what they ask,
12:37you're seen as some kind of sub-shit
12:38from which their daughter absolutely must stay away.
12:40Here, for example, we will have a young girl in pajamas.
12:42who is literally dragged out of the house
12:44from her boyfriend of 6 years
12:46by his own family
12:47because the boyfriend in question
12:48cannot pay a dowry of 500,000 yuan.
12:50And believe me, this is far from being a case
12:52isolated from ridiculous and sad stories
12:53like that one
12:54due to an exorbitant dowry demand.
12:56There are some on call.
12:57Besides, one of them
12:57made me laugh particularly bitterly
12:59because of its incredible absurdity.
13:01Listen to this.
13:02In this wedding ceremony video,
13:05the groom's ex suddenly appeared
13:07in wedding attire,
13:08wishing they would get back together.
13:10They were together for 6 years,
13:12but because his family asked
13:13a dowry of 600,000 yuan as their wedding approaches,
13:16that the man could not pay,
13:18they had to separate.
13:19The man quickly found another woman
13:21who did not ask for a dowry
13:22and decided to marry her.
13:24After hearing the news,
13:26she went to the ceremony in a wedding dress,
13:28with a substantial dowry for the groom,
13:30even offering a house and a car,
13:32as long as he agrees to come back with her.
13:35She explains that the 600,000 yuan
13:36requested by his family were just a test.
13:39Despite all his pleas
13:40and the fact that she even knelt down,
13:42It was too late.
13:43She left the ceremony in tears.
13:46And as you might expect,
13:47many more saw a financial windfall,
13:49with banks in Guizhang provinces
13:50and Jiangxi for example,
13:52who decided to grant the loans
13:53for dowry of an amount
13:54up to 300,000 yuan,
13:56to last a maximum of one year
13:57and at an annual interest rate of 4.9%.
14:00And this, to finance honeymoon trips,
14:02buying cars,
14:03of jewelry,
14:03of house,
14:04the applicant must be at least 22 years old
14:05and must have a stable job
14:07for at least 12 months
14:08in a government institution
14:10or public.
14:10No kidding.
14:11They will even go so far as to use slogans like
14:13“Don’t worry about dowry expenses
14:15borrowed for lasting happiness.”
14:18Serious ?
14:19So personally,
14:19I wouldn't recommend it
14:20and it seems I'm not the only one who thinks so.
14:22Since the public has been heavily critical of the banks,
14:25accusing them of wanting to take advantage
14:26of an already very embarrassing situation
14:28to make a profit.
14:29So much so that they suspended the program
14:31and fired the person responsible
14:33of its implementation.
14:34Some will even help themselves
14:35of the exorbitant dowry they demand
14:37to be able to marry them
14:38to pay off their accumulated debts
14:39before meeting their pigeon
14:41to then disappear
14:42as if by magic
14:42once the money is obtained
14:43leaving the guy completely lost
14:45and shot.
14:46Like this guy for example
14:46who met a young woman
14:47just out of prison.
14:49Well, I was already at that time.
14:50he should have already fled.
14:51She was completely broke,
14:52his family was poor
14:53and his brother needed money
14:54to get married.
14:55So she used her charms
14:56to find a man
14:57with a good location
14:58to marry,
14:59asked her for an exorbitant dowry
15:00obviously,
15:01to use the money
15:02to pay his debts
15:03etc.
15:04And left.
15:04These women are a variant
15:05gold diggers
15:06that they call
15:07the "Debt Clearing Women"
15:08or even
15:08the “Debt Erasers”.
15:10These women who serve themselves
15:10of marriage to erase
15:12accumulated debts
15:12over the years
15:13through exorbitant dowries
15:15and paychecks
15:16of their husband.
15:17And the fact that more and more
15:18of men in China
15:18realize
15:19of this absurd game
15:20that these women play
15:20with them,
15:21so they decide
15:21more and more
15:22to opt for more caution.
15:24Last year,
15:25I went on a date
15:26with a girl
15:26and after a few days,
15:28she wanted to move in with me.
15:29I only met him once
15:30and she wanted to move in with me.
15:32So later,
15:32I visited his family
15:33and that's when I realized
15:35of their financial situation.
15:36They simply decide
15:37to stop the costs,
15:38to avoid this advice
15:39of already married men
15:40to laugh themselves.
15:41And these dishonest young women
15:42see each other today
15:43burdened with debt
15:44of all kinds
15:45and don't even arrive anymore
15:46to find an escape route
15:46for them and their family
15:47miserable in naivety
15:49of these young men.
15:50I don't even speak
15:50of responsibility
15:51even of marriage
15:52which rests almost entirely
15:53on the guy's shoulders.
15:55He is the one who must provide
15:56to the needs of absolutely
15:57everyone.
15:58His wife,
15:59his children,
16:00parents and brothers
16:01of his wife
16:01if they ever have any problems
16:02health, etc.
16:03His own parents.
16:04Yes of course,
16:05his wife's breast
16:05don't impose yourself on the fact
16:06than her family
16:06be much more important
16:07than his family.
16:08All combined
16:09has a constant increase
16:10prices for a house,
16:11for a car,
16:12for education costs,
16:13for children
16:13extremely expensive.
16:15All crowned
16:15by a total lack
16:16of recognition
16:16from this woman
16:17for him to fight so hard
16:18and to whom he pays
16:19his entire peace check.
16:20Because yes,
16:21in many cases in China,
16:22it's the woman
16:22who controls the money
16:23in the foyer.
16:24She's the one who manages
16:25and it is she who decides
16:26of the amount that the man
16:27will receive for his personal needs.
16:29Man being responsible
16:30only because
16:31to earn money
16:32for the family,
16:32all this for a wife
16:33who treats him
16:34like a cash cow
16:40This is an aforementioned aspect
16:41why more and more
16:42young guys,
16:42especially coming
16:43from wealthy backgrounds,
16:44decide to remain single
16:45and enjoy their life
16:46even if it means being considered
16:47like dead branches
16:48or go get
16:49their wives elsewhere.
16:50And if even rich men
16:51begin to understand
16:52that beauty alone
16:52does not make a woman,
16:54is that there really is
16:54a problem.
16:55After the wedding,
16:57it's about the man
16:57that lies the responsibility
16:58to support the family.
17:00He takes out loans
17:00for a house,
17:01a car and for education
17:03children
17:03and education costs
17:04children up to middle school
17:06amount to hundreds
17:07of thousands of yuan at least.
17:08And for many people,
17:09these expenses are fair
17:10too high,
17:11so many men
17:12move away from the idea
17:13of marriage
17:14and prefer to live alone.
17:15Women, when they,
17:16for many remaining single
17:17because of the illusion already
17:18of superiority
17:19due to a high degree
17:20or a big salary,
17:21but also in general
17:22of the illusion that they sell
17:23media on life
17:24of princess to which
17:24will have the right
17:25after meeting
17:26Prince Charming.
17:27And we all know now
17:28how it ends in particular
17:29at one time
17:30where more and more men
17:30open your eyes
17:31on stupid games
17:32that they deliver themselves
17:33these ladies with them.
17:35I am 44 years old
17:37and nobody courts me.
17:39This is the pure truth.
17:43I am 34 years old,
17:44I'm still not married
17:45and I won't be
17:46probably never
17:47because nobody
17:47doesn't want anyone
17:48of my age.
17:49In a few years,
17:50I won't even be able to anymore
17:52to have children.
17:53Maybe I'm crazy
17:54to believe that I can
17:55find a soul mate
17:56in this world full of illusions.
17:57I am 36 years old
18:01and I'm still not
18:01not married.
18:03I myself noticed
18:05that I'm getting old.
18:08I can see
18:08the circles under my eyes,
18:10the appearance of a double chin
18:11and things became
18:12really difficult
18:13for me now.
18:14It's really difficult
18:15for older women
18:16like me
18:16to find a husband.
18:18The days go by
18:18one after the other
18:19and I still don't have
18:20met the right person.
18:23I can't take it anymore.
18:24I want a man.
18:27It is to such an extent
18:40that now,
18:41despite the imbalance
18:42gender numeral
18:43in favor of women,
18:44these are now
18:45they who put
18:45aside their demands
18:46insane
18:47and come today
18:48make their requests
18:48in marriage
18:49to these gentlemen.
18:50But luckily,
18:51everything is balance
18:51in the force
18:52and intelligent women,
18:53Thank God,
18:54there are still some.
18:55Women cannot
18:57simply
18:57not live without men.
18:59I know that some
19:02will criticize me for that,
19:03but before criticizing,
19:04listen to me.
19:08There are several reasons
19:09for which
19:10women need
19:10men.
19:12Already physically
19:12and emotionally,
19:14they need them.
19:16It's natural.
19:18All women
19:19have needs
19:19physical and emotional.
19:20There is no shame
19:22to admit it.
19:23It's human nature.
19:25Men and women
19:25working together
19:26lighten their load.
19:28Women need
19:29men to bring them
19:30emotional support.
19:31And also,
19:32women are generally
19:33physically weaker
19:34than men
19:35and many tasks,
19:36big or small,
19:37require the strength of a man.
19:38Without men,
19:39women would suffer
19:40because they cannot
19:41just not match
19:42the strength of man.
19:43There are things
19:44that men do
19:45that women cannot do.
19:47And also,
19:48women generally have
19:49tend to be more shy
19:50and lack confidence
19:51and sense of independence.
19:53For example,
19:54walk alone on the path
19:55returning after night work
19:57can be scary
19:58and that's where the protection
19:59of man becomes essential.
20:01Not to mention the optics
20:02where a shady man
20:02knocks on the door in the middle of the night.
20:04Without a man at home,
20:05she would be terrified.
20:07Women are generally
20:08more dependent
20:09and prefer to have
20:10someone to consult
20:11before making a decision
20:12where they feel lost.
20:13And even something
20:15so simple
20:15that a light bulb has changed,
20:16a leaking pipe
20:17or a blocked pipe
20:19can leave a woman
20:20really frustrated.
20:21And let's not even talk
20:22of what would happen
20:23in the event of a major crisis,
20:24especially if she is sick,
20:25when we need it most
20:26from the company of a man.
20:28Men and women
20:29simply need
20:30from each other,
20:31no matter the size
20:31of your home.
20:32Anyway, that's it for this video.
20:33Thanks for watching to the end.
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20:48I don't want to get married.
20:49If I get married,
20:50I will be poor.
20:51I am a millennial
20:51and I don't want to get married
20:52and have children,
20:54nor buy a house
20:54and a car.
20:55I just want to live peacefully.
20:57With all the money
20:57that must be spent,
20:58I'm just happy
20:59to live alone.
21:00Why should I get married?
21:00Finding someone is not easy
21:02and we can win
21:02money together,
21:03but I have the impression
21:04that today,
21:05you can't find
21:05of a girlfriend who envy peace.
21:07I have the impression that
21:07if I earn 20,000 yuan a month
21:09and she too,
21:09I always have to take care of her.
21:11Moreover, I have the impression
21:12that there are not many women
21:13who can take care
21:14household chores.
21:15I have to do it,
21:16besides taking care of her
21:17and what concerns her.
21:19Today,
21:19look for a partner
21:20It's more about looking for a soul mate.
21:22It's just getting married.
21:23It's not emotions anymore
21:24that matter today,
21:25but the material conditions.
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