00:00How are you, CarSP?
00:30How are you, CarSP?
01:00How are you, CarSP?
01:02How are you, CarSP?
01:04How are you, CarSP?
01:06Ang pagiging perfectionist ay nakakatulong sa success ng isang tao, RSP Barkada, wow o aw?
01:14Ano sa tingin ninyo?
01:17Okay, so dalawang wow, dalawang aw.
01:20Actually, feeling ko, mag-wow din ako dito.
01:23I don't know if it's correct, but coach man.
01:26Sige, tingnan natin, mga CarSP, lumabas rin tayo ng ating hintilan at nagtanong tayo sa ating kawaw.
01:33Oh po, kasi po, pag ang isang tao, perfectionist siya, parang magiging disadvantage niya yun po.
01:45Kasi po, kumbaga kahit konting bagay na makikita niya is, kapag, for example, nakakatulong sa iba, pero sa kanya, parang mali po yun.
01:54Kumbaga, kahit sa konting bagay, napapansin niya po.
01:59Okay, and po si Kevin Inferido, Coach Mike, hati ang mga tao.
02:03Ako naman, ang sagot ko ay, may tinatawag tayong sabotor na stickler.
02:08So, ito yung parang, it's never enough, diba?
02:11Yung parang kailangan sobrang perfect para magkaroon tayo ng fulfillment.
02:15However, what we don't realize is that kapag perfectionist ka, hindi ka tumitigil, diba?
02:21Diba? Dahil ini-expect mo lahat ay magiging maayos in the way that you actually want it to, it hinders your progress.
02:29Hindi ka makaka-move forward, diba?
02:31So, to some extent, dapat you should realize that your best will always be more than enough.
02:35Okay, kasi minsan naman iniisip ko, parang you're striving for excellence if you're striving for perfection.
02:42However, yes, that is correct.
02:44Pero minsan, yung standards mo, eh, hindi naayos sa standards na iba.
02:48Diba? So, nadadrag din sila.
02:50So, kaya minsan, dapat meron ka rin, ano, consideration na parang, this is enough and you should honor yourself also, whatever progress you have.
02:59So, you should have room for some mistakes.
03:02Yes.
03:02Okay.
03:02And be comfortable with it.
03:04Ah, alright. So, let's move on to myth number two.
03:06Sige, go, Fifi.
03:09Sige, Fifi.
03:11Hindi yun sa card, Jen, nakatutulong.
03:13Alibawa, ganon.
03:14Midsan naging OCK, parang nasanay ka na.
03:16Oo, kasi yung nanay ko dati, kailangan tapuan ka lagi.
03:20Ayun, kasi na lang yung nanay ko yan.
03:24Nakaka-affect din ba yun? Yung mga parang pressure from people that are closely.
03:28Definitely, kasi ang mga saboteurs mo, you get them from the environment and how you grew up.
03:34So, dapat, ang parang naman dun sa sinabi ni Fifi, no, it's important to be your best and not necessarily to be the best among the rest.
03:42Kasi that actually kills the vibe altogether.
03:45Okay, let's move on to myth number two ito.
03:47Ang kawalan ng kontrol sa isang bagay o sitwasyon ay nangangahulugan ng kahinaan.
03:53RSP Barkada, wow o aw?
03:55Okay, hati ulit, dalawang wow at saka dalawang aw.
04:02So, ang kawalan ng kontrol sa isang, I think I'll go for aw.
04:06Okay, tingnan natin, no?
04:08At narito naman ang sagot ng ating kawaw na si Christine Ferrer.
04:12Bilang tao po, dapat po, ano ka, control mo po yung galit mo, yung kung anong emosyon mo.
04:22Kasi, manyari po, sa isang bagay, sa magkarelasyon, kung hindi mo po kontrol yung sarili mo, pwede po magkasakitan kayo, ganyan, ganyan.
04:31Ano po, para sa akin po, ano siya, kahinaan po.
04:34Kasi hindi mo po kayang kontrolin yung sarili mo.
04:37Okay, she's showing a different perspective.
04:42Control naman sa emotions.
04:43But what do you think about that?
04:44Ako naman, ang sagot ko dyan ay,
04:47ito naman yung saboteur natin, ang tawag naman dito ay ang controller.
04:51So, may mga bagay kasi that are beyond our control.
04:54So, even if we stress over them,
04:56halimbawa, what will happen tomorrow,
04:58hindi mo naman hawak yun eh.
05:00So, even if you stress over them, wala ka naman magagawa.
05:03And it would only make you lose the beauty of the present.
05:07So, it's very important also to be vulnerable
05:09and humble enough to realize na hindi mo kontrolado lahat
05:13and it's okay.
05:14It's not a sign of weakness, but rather, it's also a sign of strength.
05:17Kasi, by surrendering and letting things be,
05:21you're able to focus kung ano yung nandito here and now.
05:23And you can work on it.
05:25Provided, it's only under your control.
05:27Okay. Naalala ko to, yun yung let them fury.
05:31Ganyan ba yan?
05:32True. Hayaan natin sila.
05:34Hayaan natin yan.
05:35Kasi, hindi natin kontrolado ang emosyon ng ibang tao.
05:37Pero kontrolado natin kung paano tayo magre-respond, not react.
05:41E, paano yung sinasabi ng ating isang kawaw
05:44na parang i-control dapat yung emotions?
05:46Okay. The emotions naman are valid.
05:49The emotions, you can control them.
05:51What we're saying here is that, in general,
05:54for things that are beyond your control,
05:56meaning, ibang tao na yan,
05:58or ibang mga pangyayari,
06:00you let them be.
06:01Okay. Si Fee may sasabihin.
06:03Kasi natin kontrolado yung kilay ni ate kaniya.
06:06Yun pala yun.
06:07Ang ganda lang.
06:08Atong pangato.
06:09Pero ito na, a wise friend was all be done.
06:12Sabi niya.
06:12Ito naman. Let's move on to mess number three.
06:16Itong tungkol sa personal saboteer pa rin
06:18ng ating pinag-uusapan,
06:19nagsisilbing inspirasyon sa isang tao,
06:22ang mga pagpuna sa sarili.
06:24RSP Barkada, wow o aw.
06:26Wow.
06:27Hindi ko napakinggan.
06:29I'll go for wow as well, Coach Mike.
06:32Okay.
06:33At narito naman ang sagot ng ating kawaw
06:35na si JM Proonda.
06:39For me po, wow.
06:42Iisipin po natin na kapag napupuna po natin yung sarili natin,
06:46meron po tayo lagi natutunan sa sarili natin.
06:49And meron din po tayong development sa sarili natin,
06:53which is very helpful po para mag-grow tayo as a person
06:56and as an individual po.
06:58Okay lang naman talagang i-criticize yung sarili, Coach Mike.
07:01Okay.
07:01Ako naman, ang ano ko dyan is aw.
07:04Ah, okay.
07:04Ang word kasi na ginamit natin ay criticize.
07:10Okay.
07:10Di ba?
07:11Okay mag-recognize na meron tayo room for improvement.
07:14However, the best way to go about it is to empower yourself,
07:18to affirm yourself.
07:19What else can you do better the next time around?
07:22Magkaiba kasi yung,
07:23ang pangit ng trabaho mo ngayon versus,
07:26oh, ito lang yung nagawa ko ngayon.
07:27Okay.
07:28Ano kayo yung meditin po?
07:29Okay.
07:29So parang connected siya dun sa first myth.
07:32Yes.
07:32Na because you're too perfectionist.
07:35Perfectionist, the judge naman kasi ito.
07:37So, judger.
07:38Di ba?
07:38Dina-judge natin yung sarili natin.
07:40Ah, okay.
07:40However, every time that we judge ourselves
07:42and we belittle ourselves,
07:44while some, sa una,
07:45eh, makakatulong yun.
07:46Kasi parang go, go, go.
07:47Nanggigigil ako, di ba?
07:48Parang ayaw kong gawin to.
07:50In the long run,
07:51kapag naku-frustrate ka,
07:52it would help you spiral down actually
07:55and perform even less.
07:57Okay, so pag mayroon akong parang
07:58hindi magandang ginawa
08:00or tingin ko, eh, parang,
08:01hindi okay, kulang pa.
08:03What should I tell myself?
08:04So dapat acknowledge mo lang muna.
08:05Okay, parang may kulang.
08:07Okay.
08:07However, I can do better by,
08:09di ba?
08:10Dudugtungan mo lagi,
08:11it doesn't end lang na parang
08:13parang may kulang period
08:14or hindi ako magaling.
08:15Okay.
08:16Dapat merong ka-resolution lagi.
08:17Ah, sa kailangan may follow up.
08:19Yes.
08:20Okay.
08:23Pagpunat bilang ang sagot naman natin ay,
08:25wow, hindi natutunan,
08:26kundi natutuhan.
08:29Agree si teacher.
08:30Si teacher Pauline tayo.
08:32Well, maraming salamat sa ating RSP Barkada.
08:34Teacher Pauline, thank you for joining us.
08:36At syempre sa ating multi-awarded life coach
08:37ng buying coach, Mike Celis.
08:39Pero marami pa pala yung mga personal saboteurs.
08:41Sampuyan.
08:42Sampuyan magbaparkada.
08:43Magbaparkada.
08:43Tatlo pa lang yan, teacher pa lang.
08:46Pero siguro maganda na alam natin
08:48itong mga ito para maiwasan.
08:49Thanks, Coach Mike.
08:50At sa ating mga car ski,
08:52lagi po nating tandaan
08:53na gawing wow ang ating buhay.
08:55Pag may aang,
08:56huwag baliwalain
08:57dahil our wellness and well-being,
08:58especially our mental health matter.
