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00:00Namaste Acharya Ji. Words like situationship have become common in today's relationships.
00:05Prakrit is an endless network of cause and effect. You look at an effect, you can never pinpoint what the cause is.
00:13They say that when a butterfly flaps its wings in America, it is possible that a volcano can erupt in Japan.
00:20That's the principle of the tipping point.
00:23I did not come on my own account. I did not come on my own volition, did I?
00:28Just as I came by chance, I will disappear by chance.
00:34Now do you see the meaning? Don't take it seriously.
00:38The very existence of the two here is a demonstration of twoness.
00:43It's just that that's the way the winds are blowing.
00:53Oh you are absolutely great, situationally. Just add this to everything.
00:57I love you. You are a bastard. I can give my life for you, situationally.
01:04And then nothing hurts you because you know it was anyway.
01:08Namaste Acharya Ji. Words like situationship have become common in today's relationships.
01:19In this, people are close to each other but without any commitment.
01:23This sometimes seems very attractive but such relationships have no depth or any stability.
01:29Can such relationships satisfy a person? Please help me understand.
01:36What is situation-ship?
01:38What is not situational?
01:44You see there are two kinds of relationships.
01:47One that are situational and are accepted as situational.
01:59For example, the fellow on the seat next to you on a bus.
02:05There you are able to neatly accept that the relationship is just situational.
02:17I am 36A and he is 36B.
02:22So sitting next to me that's fine.
02:24And then there are situational relationships that are taken as volitional.
02:31So there are SS relationships where the relationship is situational.
02:35And seen as situational.
02:3836A, 36B.
02:40And then there are SV relationships where it is situational.
02:44But it is named, labeled or tagged as volitional.
02:49Volitional means?
02:50By choice.
02:51By choice.
02:52I decide it.
02:53My discretion.
02:54My wisdom.
02:57For example, a love affair.
03:00I chose him or her.
03:06Every damn relationship is just a product of situations.
03:11Nothing else.
03:12Nothing else.
03:16Nothing else at all.
03:20A great patriot, he died for the flag.
03:29You were born two inches to this side of the border.
03:35And had your parents taken
03:41another eager turn.
03:44You would have been an equal patriot.
03:47But devoted to the other flag.
03:55But you would not accept that.
03:56You would say, no, no, no.
03:57My heart beats for my particular flag.
04:00Sir, it is a situational thing.
04:01Sanyog.
04:02Nothing more than that.
04:04Everything is situational.
04:05There is nothing beyond situations.
04:11And wonderfully, when you see that everything is situational,
04:16then you move to a point that is beyond situations.
04:22Things will always be situational.
04:25You can move beyond situations.
04:27Even if you try your best,
04:35whatever you have
04:37is a gift or product of situations, full stop.
04:41Don't quarrel or argue with that.
04:44You will not win.
04:45Your body itself in the first place is situational.
04:54And we have so many jokes around that, no?
04:57The condom factory
05:00received
05:022,000 pics of babies.
05:04Wonderful pics.
05:05Lovely babies.
05:10And they were shown to the GM.
05:11And the GM asked, what are these?
05:15They said customer complaints.
05:23Those babies will never know that they are just
05:27situational.
05:29Customer complaints.
05:31Somebody slept on the job.
05:34The condoms were defective.
05:36From there came the babies.
05:38And the baby will say, look at me.
05:42I am such a fine product of God.
05:46I was dispatched straight from the heavens.
05:49Sir, there was
05:52some leakage somewhere.
05:55Nothing more than that.
05:57That's your entire existence.
05:58Or your father was extra drunk that night.
06:08He forgot to pull out in time.
06:10That's all.
06:12And you call yourself
06:15some kind of divine miracle embossed in dignity.
06:19Hello?
06:24Each of us is like that.
06:26It's all situational.
06:29Your gender.
06:31The colour of your skin.
06:32Your ethnicity.
06:33Your beliefs.
06:39In fact,
06:41studies are more and more saying
06:43that it's not just about survival of the fittest.
06:46There is also the element of randomness factored in.
06:52Evolution is not altogether logical.
06:55There is also a probabilistic element into it.
07:04This could have happened.
07:05That could have happened.
07:07Both had a certain probability.
07:10A non-zero probability.
07:12And somehow this happened.
07:14Even if the probability of this was lower.
07:17But it happened.
07:19Now this you cannot even call as the survival of the fittest
07:22or the survival of the greatest probability.
07:29Because when you look at a lot of species,
07:33in terms of evolution, they are not very fit.
07:37And compared to certain other related species,
07:42species related to...
07:46Those species that were relatively fitter,
07:49they have gone extinct.
07:51And these ones, they still survive.
07:53How is it happening?
07:55So surely there is a certain
07:57randomness too involved in it.
08:00It's all situational.
08:01You never know why it is happening.
08:06Indian philosophy calls it as mere Saiyog.
08:10Saiyog.
08:14Nadi Nao Saiyog.
08:16All kinds of Saiyog.
08:21It is not knowable.
08:23Prakriti is...
08:28an endless network
08:31of cause and effect.
08:34You look at an effect,
08:35you can never pinpoint
08:37what the cause is.
08:39Because the causes themselves are...
08:41are infinite.
08:43And it is not a straight chain of causes.
08:47It is at least a two dimensional network of causes.
08:51Not a straight chain.
08:53This cause...
08:55Everything is affecting something else.
09:00They say that when a butterfly flaps its wings,
09:04in America,
09:06it is possible that a volcano can erupt in Japan.
09:11That's the principle of the tipping point.
09:15Things could have reached such a final state
09:18that the final straw on the camel's back suffices.
09:24And you feel as if
09:26one particular straw has led to the avalanche.
09:30No.
09:33The thing had reached a particular point.
09:37And you never knew
09:39what would be the precipitating factor.
09:42It's all situational.
09:44You never knew when the precipitation would come.
09:47It's situational.
09:53Are you getting it?
09:57The wise person
09:59accepts everything
10:01as random.
10:02and stands with folded hands
10:07in front of Prakriti.
10:09Does not identify,
10:11does not
10:15take himself
10:17to be the cause.
10:19It's happening in a stream.
10:21I cannot be the cause of that.
10:23When I am myself an effect of something,
10:27how can I be the primary cause?
10:28There is no primary cause.
10:33And there is no primary cause.
10:35It's all a flow.
10:39Everything is just situational.
10:41That does not mean
10:43that you lose respect for everything and drop it.
10:45That does not mean that sitting here,
10:47you start texting to someone,
10:48you know,
10:49I just came to discover,
10:51we are in a situationship rather than a relationship.
10:55So I think we should move on.
10:58That's not what we are saying.
10:59We are saying,
11:01even your body is situational,
11:03how can you break up then?
11:05Can you break up with your body?
11:07No.
11:08Just realise,
11:13that
11:15there are
11:17things
11:19and there are only things
11:21and things have their own flow.
11:25And when you realise this,
11:27then you stand at a point above all things
11:31and that is liberation.
11:33There is no sense
11:39in categorising
11:42as situationship versus relationship.
11:46There is nothing called as relationship.
11:48Everything is situationship.
11:52Just
11:57saying relationship is sufficient.
12:00Relationship itself is a synonym of
12:03situation ship.
12:05So fine,
12:06make peace with that.
12:08Yes, it is situational.
12:10Obviously.
12:16The train got late
12:19and it was raining.
12:24And the workers in the electricity department
12:27were on a strike.
12:28and it was midnight.
12:33The train got late.
12:37And so I came out
12:39and she came out
12:44and I asked her,
12:46where are you going?
12:48And she said something.
12:50And I said, right,
12:52let's share a ride.
12:54And from that ensued an entire
12:59dynasty.
13:06Junnu 1, Junnu 2, Junnu 3, Junnu 4.
13:11Just as you have in dynasties.
13:13Did you plan out
13:16that strike
13:18in the electricity department?
13:20Had it not been so dark,
13:22she wouldn't have agreed to share the ride.
13:28Did you conspire with the railways
13:31to delay the arrival of the train?
13:34The train was supposed to reach at 7 pm.
13:38Had it reached at 7 pm,
13:40she wouldn't have needed to share the ride with you.
13:48Do you wield some special influence with the rain god?
13:52Had it not started raining,
13:54she would again not have agreed to share the ride with you.
13:57But then you share the ride
13:59and there are potholes.
14:01Did you dig them?
14:03One particular pothole.
14:05She jumps up and falls in your lap.
14:13Everything is situational.
14:15But then you say, you know my great love for you.
14:17What love for you?
14:19Electricity department.
14:20Pothole.
14:24Municipality.
14:25Electricity.
14:26Railways.
14:28Roads.
14:32And that drunkard.
14:35The autowalla.
14:37That particular night,
14:39he had a tiff with his wife
14:41and was driving like this.
14:46Repeatedly she kept falling on you.
14:50And then you say, you know,
14:51our great love affair.
14:54You are not the doer at all.
14:57There are just so many causes.
15:00Just so many causes.
15:05Even the hormones inside the body
15:08vary on a daily basis, a weekly basis, a monthly basis.
15:12Not just inside the woman, also inside the man.
15:15Surely it was just a matter of probability
15:21that the two of you were at the peak of your hormonal cycle.
15:25So both of you got excited.
15:27Had the bodily cycles also not matched,
15:32there would have been no confluence.
15:34But then you say, my great love affair,
15:38there is nothing great in it.
15:48Board examinations.
15:50You go to some other centre.
15:52Right?
15:55Your name is Keshav, her name is Kamini.
15:58She is sitting in front of you.
16:01You are forced to smell her all the time.
16:04One month of board examinations.
16:07Just because your name
16:11in the roaster
16:13comes after her name.
16:14What can you do?
16:16Had somebody
16:18in his mindlessness not named you Keshav.
16:22Think of the real Keshav.
16:23Would you have ever been
16:29in physical proximity of Kamini?
16:31Now KA and KE and KE is sitting
16:35behind KA
16:37and smelling
16:41and she happened to use the shampoo gifted to her
16:44by her ex-boyfriend.
16:47Just that KE does not know that KA is using
16:50the shampoo that the ex-boyfriend
16:54stole from his ex-girlfriend
16:57to give to Kamini.
16:59She is now happily using that shampoo.
17:03And this fellow is getting totally hot.
17:08And from there something happens.
17:11It is insulting to accept this, no?
17:15But that's the way it is.
17:17You are about to
17:28tick something in your entrance exam paper.
17:32Last minute.
17:34Some random fly comes and
17:37lands on your nose
17:39and you get busy with the fly.
17:41And instead of marking option D,
17:43you mark option C.
17:44So your rank falls by 10.
17:50So instead of getting electrical,
17:52you get mechanical.
17:54I mean department.
17:57Dirty minds.
17:59That's what happens.
18:02For loss of two marks,
18:05it is very probable that your rank falls by 100.
18:08And because you get mechanical department,
18:14so you get into an altogether stream of career,
18:18different stream of career, no?
18:20And why did that happen?
18:22That random fly came
18:24and sat on your nose.
18:25Instead of working in a power grid,
18:31you are working somewhere else.
18:35Well, please think,
18:37how much your career is decided just by the rank that you get in a particular examination?
18:40And that rank is decided by so many random factors.
18:50It's all very situational.
18:56Though it hurts us to accept that.
18:57When you see that it's all situational,
19:00then you do not feel it very important to be attached with anything.
19:07Because anything came to me just by chance.
19:11Therefore, what obligation do I have to stay committed to it?
19:14You cannot remain committed to things of chance.
19:23Can you?
19:25Son, you are a mechanical engineer.
19:28You must work only in the mechanical industry.
19:31What mechanical engineer?
19:33That fly?
19:34Had there been an entire swarm of them,
19:41maybe I could have become a computer engineer.
19:46Mark this, mark this and get rid of them.
19:49Randomly, it happens that all the answers are right.
19:52So, you get an even better rank,
19:54and you become a computer engineer.
19:56What commitment?
19:58Commitment to randomness.
19:59The problem with us is,
20:03we take random things as essential.
20:09And because you take random things as essential,
20:12therefore you have no respect for what is actually essential.
20:29Your body is not essential.
20:32Your thoughts are not essential.
20:34They are all coming from random influences outside of you.
20:42The tastes that you have,
20:45in clothing, in food,
20:48that is not essential.
20:49That is dictated by social factors.
20:53There is no need to give it too much respect.
20:56There is no need to treat it as sacred.
21:00Because it is not sacred.
21:03Only the unchangeable is sacred.
21:06Only the uncaused is sacred.
21:09Random things are not to be taken as sacred.
21:13What is random must be taken lightly.
21:16You don't need to throw it away.
21:18You just need to take it like a joke.
21:22Yes, it is there, fine.
21:23I am not going to cast off my body.
21:27I will just take it like a joke.
21:33I do have food choices.
21:36But I will not initiate World War 3
21:39to defend my taste buds.
21:44I will be cool about all that.
21:46Fine, I understand.
21:48You are born in Mexico.
21:50You have a particular taste in food.
21:56You are coming from Arabia.
21:58You have a particular sartorial choice.
22:01That looks pretty odd to me.
22:03But still, I know it's a random thing.
22:11Then you do not fight over
22:14things of chance.
22:16One fellow prays and worships in a particular way.
22:23Did he invent that?
22:25It's coming to him by?
22:27The other fellow prays and worships in a different way.
22:31The moment they see that both of these things are just situational,
22:34they will stop fighting.
22:36Then neither you invented that nor did I.
22:40What do we have to do with these things that have just randomly come to us?
22:50That lightness is the gift of spirituality.
22:52Nothing makes you heavy because nothing is too important.
22:59You can joke about anything now and you need not take anything too seriously.
23:06Everything is situational.
23:08How to take it too seriously?
23:09One day just randomly you came to me.
23:16One day just randomly you went away.
23:20Either because you thought to go away or because death took you away.
23:25That's fine.
23:26One day you came to me.
23:27One day you went away.
23:29That's fine.
23:30Now even your own death does not matter too much to you.
23:40I did not come on my own account.
23:43I did not come on my own volition, did I?
23:46Just as I came by chance.
23:49I will disappear by chance.
23:52Anybody here who decided on his appearance?
23:57Then why are you so concerned about your death?
23:58Randomly you came, randomly you go.
24:03Fine.
24:07Are you getting it?
24:08It's all situational.
24:11Don't take it seriously.
24:25Now do you see the meaning?
24:26Don't take it seriously.
24:35Do you see the ramifications?
24:37You stop respecting a lot of authority.
24:43You know the fellow is there.
24:46Mostly because situations put him there.
24:49Another time, another age, another situation, the fellow wouldn't have been there.
24:56Not at all.
24:58How do I respect him?
25:01There is nothing that he achieved.
25:03There is nothing there of his own.
25:06That which is your own.
25:08That which is your own is called the ultimate truth in Vedanta, Atma.
25:14Mind.
25:16Prakriti is that which is not yours really.
25:26There can be a great statue of the highest deity.
25:30And some speck of dust can come flying randomly in the wind and get placed on the forehead of the deity.
25:46Is it not possible?
25:48It happens all the time.
25:50You go and wipe the deity's forehead and there will be dust there.
25:54Do you start respecting the dust?
25:56Just randomly it happened that you got into a high place.
26:00I will not consider you some kind of authority.
26:07It's a matter of chance.
26:09And chance is chance.
26:11Nothing sacred.
26:13Nothing to be worshipped.
26:15Similarly, most people who are at high places,
26:18they are like the speck of dust rusting on the forehead of the deity.
26:22Not to be taken seriously.
26:27You also see the vice versa.
26:31Just because somebody appears to be at the low end of life,
26:43the ebb,
26:45that does not mean the fellow is unworthy.
26:50Another time, another place,
26:53favourable situations, he would have been somewhere else.
26:55The wise man does not evaluate a person by his social standing.
27:09What does he look for?
27:11He looks for the essential.
27:14Does this person value the essential?
27:17If that person values the essential, then he is valuable.
27:21I will not value you for your designation, your power, your pelf, your reputation,
27:30because all of these are situational.
27:32What will I value in you?
27:36The essential.
27:37If you respect the essential, then I respect you.
27:42Otherwise, you might be the president of the world.
27:45I don't care.
27:47I don't care.
27:48Chance has put you there.
27:49Otherwise, you are nobody.
27:50They say, if you give enough monkeys, enough computers,
28:02one of them will come up with all the works of Shakespeare.
28:05It's just about having enough numbers.
28:13Billions of monkeys, billions of systems,
28:16and they'll randomly start keying in.
28:19And just by chance, you will find,
28:21because there are going to be so many chances,
28:24that one of them will be a favourable chance.
28:27You will say, this one is Shakespeare.
28:30We are not going to respect randomness.
28:32I always say, measure a man by the odds he is rising against.
28:53The name of the odds is Prakriti.
28:56The measure of a man is the quality of his engagement with Prakriti.
29:07Not where his situations have taken him,
29:11but what he has done with his situations.
29:16His relationship with his situations.
29:19And that is more difficult to assess.
29:24Therefore, we often falter in our assessment of people.
29:28We want to see where they have reached.
29:33We do not see how they are relating with their conditions.
29:39That's what you must look at.
29:40But to look at that in others, you must first be able to look at that in yourself.
29:51How am I relating to my situations?
29:55If you take situations too seriously,
30:00you are, as they say,
30:04Ignoramusus, one of them.
30:13Just a common ignorant fellow.
30:23Your bank balance shows one billion,
30:26and you are so full of yourself.
30:27You are so full of yourself.
30:31And suddenly, it shows nothing,
30:34and you are punctured, fully deflated.
30:37Situations are ruling you.
30:40Most people are like that.
30:42Don't be like that.
30:44Classically, it is called Samta.
30:49Irrespective of the situation,
30:52I am myself.
30:54Samta.
30:56A lot of this peaceful experience that you have is also just situational.
31:02So, don't take it seriously.
31:04You are not so peaceful.
31:06And that will show up
31:08as soon as these two doors open.
31:11And this is my point.
31:12And this is your way.
31:13As long as this little hall, this little sabhagar, will continue to have two rooms.
31:26There will be separation.
31:28Two doors.
31:29There will be separation.
31:31Because we are one while we are here.
31:33Then I go my way and you go your way.
31:36The very existence of the two here,
31:43is a demonstration of two-ness.
31:46You have chosen to have a separate life.
31:51So don't take this piece too.
31:55Because even your choice is situational.
31:59You have not even chosen to have a separate life.
32:03It's just that the
32:06That's the way the winds are blowing.
32:10Rukh hawaon ka jidhar hai,
32:13udhar ke hum hai.
32:24So peaceful,
32:26situationally.
32:28Oh, you are absolutely great.
32:30Situationally.
32:32Just add this to everything.
32:35I love you.
32:37I love you.
32:41You are a bastard.
32:52I can give my life for you.
32:55Situationally.
32:57And then nothing hurts you.
33:01Because you know it was anyway.
33:03Situational.
33:05Then you don't bank on the promises.
33:10Because you know that all promises are?
33:12Situational.
33:14Only fools who hope that the promises will be kept.
33:17No promises can ever be kept.
33:19No promises can ever be kept because all promises are situational.
33:28That's why the wise ones don't bank on promises.
33:32They bank on love.
33:34And as I am fond of saying,
33:37in love there can be no promises.
33:38No promises.
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