00:00I think you just need to raise your boys the same way you raise your girls. I feel like we put so
00:04much more pressure on our girls and we fill their heads with so much more cautionary tales and then
00:09we kind of just let our boys like oh but you'll be fine but it's like no you need to be teaching
00:13them too that they can grow up and their like fists can be like weapons you know what I mean
00:20you can literally kill somebody with it. So I just think with Valentino like every like I don't let
00:27any little thing go unchecked you know if he says something like I remember we were watching a
00:33movie and then this guy comes out wearing a wedding dress and he was like Tommy like why is he wearing
00:38a dress and I was like well you know like Uncle Ben wears dresses like like so if I wore a suit would
00:45that be weird and like I saw the wheels turning and it's like why is it only weird when boys wear
00:50girls clothes but not weird when when girls wear boys clothes like you know what I mean it's like
00:55it's like addressing that like unconscious bias because like being a girl would be demeaning
01:01you know what I mean whereas like if a girl does it she's just a tomboy she's a cool girl
01:07so I just you know any little thing stop the movie we're gonna talk about it now you know and I just
01:13I like sometimes I'm just like oh like do I really have to do this but I'm like no I have to do this
01:18because like god forbid he goes out into the world and becomes like the exact epitome of like
01:23everything I hate because I was just like I'll be fine you know like I just I'm very you know we
01:29just have those conversations you know and that's really what it is that all about like communicating
01:36and and having those com those uncomfortable conversations and trying to get them to understand
01:41and in a way that like a four-year-old can you know but starting as soon as they start making
01:48those remarks we have to start you know deconstructing that because that's a little seed that has been
01:54planted now you know he thinks it's crazy when a man is wearing a wedding dress
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