00:00Women fall in love in three stages and if any of those stages are missing the relationship will
00:04either break down very quickly or it'll break down very slowly but it will break down and I
00:08call it the three A's. The first thing is women have to be truly attracted to their man in order
00:13for the relationship to actually turn into love at some stage. There has to be physical attraction
00:17because naturally that fades with time and you know with so much familiarity if we don't have
00:22that to begin with it can become very difficult to start a romantic relationship. So I always say
00:27it starts with attraction. The second stage for a woman to truly fall in love with a man she has to
00:32admire who he is and what that means is with or without her influence he's just a man that she
00:37admires. He's got a great job, he's got a good network of friends, he's got lots of self-control,
00:41he's not an addict and he's not addicted, he's got a good level of self-control in terms of
00:44money, his body, his sexual behavior, he's from all over the place so she truly admires him and then
00:49once she's attracted and admires him then she needs adoration from him. He needs to show her, adore her,
00:55reassure her, all of those things. If she gets all three of those chances are that our relationship
01:00won't break down but if any of those are missing maybe he adores her, absolutely adores her but
01:05she's not truly attracted to him at some stage in the relationship will break down because adoration
01:09will feel like neediness or let's say for example she's truly attracted to him and he's giving her
01:14lots of reassurance but he's not an admirable man, he's not working, he's not achieving, he's not
01:18doing a lot even though she might love him and it might be a slow breakdown but at some stage she'll need
01:22someone she can admire, particularly when she has children. So without those three ingredients
01:26I don't think women realize this but if any of those are missing they will at some stage lose interest.
