Polyfamily (2025) - Season 1 Episode 2 -
Poly Wants a Baby
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Poly Wants a Baby
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00:00Previously on Pauly Family.
00:02So, how does this work?
00:04Taya's my wife, and Alicia's my girlfriend.
00:06Vice versa, Alicia's my wife, and Taya's my girlfriend.
00:09We are a closed polyamorous quad of four people,
00:12and we all live in the same house
00:14and raise our four kids together.
00:16All the hugs. All the hugs.
00:18So, these are our oldest two kids.
00:20This is Dylan, and this is Raina.
00:22Tyler and I actually had Dylan and Raina
00:24before we met Sean and Taya.
00:26Boys, good morning!
00:28Since we've all been together, we've had two more children.
00:31Barrett, who's almost two,
00:33and Carver, who is 16 months.
00:35And now Taya is pregnant with our fifth baby, Quintin.
00:38Who's in mama's tummy?
00:39Baby Quintin.
00:40Good job. High five.
00:41Who's the father?
00:43Me.
00:45Both of us? All right.
00:46Since the guys switch rooms every night,
00:48we don't know who the fathers of the younger boys are.
00:52I was grounded today, so you're eating.
00:54Get back downstairs, okay?
00:55Raina's grounded for lying,
00:57and that's never going to be an okay thing to do,
00:59so that is an automatic grounding.
01:01Raina's grounded, but when am I supposed to see her?
01:03Well, I get that, but I mean,
01:04that's one of the consequences of being grounded.
01:06To have someone step into a role
01:08that was solely mine for years, you know?
01:10I don't like having tension in the house.
01:12I'm not going to go up there and ask him
01:14if he wants to go sit in a circle and talk about this.
01:16We have mutual partners, and we parent together.
01:18But if we weren't in this situation,
01:20we probably wouldn't be friends.
01:22Now I'm getting nervous. I don't know why.
01:24Because we're about to have a baby.
01:26I'm excited to be welcoming baby number 5.
01:28Taya and I wanted to have kids for a long time.
01:30So it doesn't matter to me
01:32if I'm any of these kids' biological father.
01:34We wanted to raise a family, and that's what we're doing.
01:36Ready?
01:37Yes.
01:38Let's go.
01:40♪♪♪♪
01:45♪♪♪♪
01:50―♪♪♪
01:55Hello.
01:56-♪♪♪♪
01:59I'm in the hospital getting induced,
02:01and my grandparents are at home watching the kids.
02:04We're all ready to meet baby number 5.
02:06Birth can be really scary, not knowing how things are going to go.
02:10Having a husband, we're all involved.
02:12My biggest fear is that one of the people on our care team will have bias against polyamory
02:17and that will affect all of my partners being able to be there for the birth.
02:21I mean, this is a huge life event, so I want and need them all to be there.
02:25Which one is you?
02:26Bottom.
02:27Bottom?
02:28Well, there are some contractions. The green?
02:30Yeah.
02:31Real quick, we are okay with the eye treatment, the eye glue that goes on it afterwards?
02:34Yes.
02:35They're going to do the vitamin K.
02:37We don't want to know the paternity of our children if we can avoid it.
02:41The reason is, the only real consequences that could come from finding out for us at this stage are negative.
02:46And Sean and I have already had a lot of conflicts over parenting lately,
02:49and we really do not need one more issue to make things worse.
02:54We're going on a walkabout.
02:56Tyler and Sean have not worked out their differences yet when it comes to the parenting disagreement that they had over Reina.
03:03The process of induction is slow for any that's not ready, and trying to process a long night.
03:08Hope we meet our newest addition real soon.
03:1510.40 in the morning.
03:17Mama has done a valiant job.
03:19Meds on board, no change in cervix, so we are headed to a C-section.
03:24Okay, so anesthesiologist, the nurses had already gone back and told her about having three people in the C-section,
03:29and she said yes.
03:30Yay!
03:32It's 3.07 p.m.
03:34Bye, guys.
03:36Bye, Dads.
03:50At 4.11 p.m., Quinton Heartless Rogers was born, weighing nine pounds, two ounces.
03:55And he's perfect.
03:57And he's perfect.
03:59Oh, God.
04:05Holding Quinton for the first time, his abs came out, and they handed him to me.
04:08It's amazing.
04:10It's the best feeling in the world.
04:17Holding Quinton for the first time, obviously I'm excited to meet him, and I'm ecstatic not to be pregnant anymore.
04:22I just, pregnancy was really hard, and so I'm a family, and it just feels really good to finally have him here.
04:35Holding Quinton for the first time, it's so emotional.
04:37It's so special.
04:38I'm his dad.
04:39You know, this is my son.
04:40And we've decided that we're going to hyphenate last names.
04:43We've done that for the three children we've had together now.
04:47It's just a way to signify that we're all a family together and that we're all their parents.
04:51But under Oregon State law, because Sean is Taya's husband and Taya's the birth mother, by default, he is the father that goes on the birth certificate.
05:07I really wish that I could be on the birth certificate for Quinton.
05:10I'm a little bit jealous that Sean is, and I'm not.
05:13At some point, we're going to need to find some way to tie us all together and make us all legal parents to all the kids.
05:25Good morning.
05:26Morning.
05:27Did I just sleep?
05:28Better than Taya.
05:30An hour at a time.
05:33We'll get there.
05:34Hopefully.
05:35That's the plan.
05:43Oh, man.
05:48Sean and I haven't really gotten to talk about what happened with Raina recently.
05:51But we have a newborn now, so we haven't really had a chance to work that out yet.
05:57Hi, handsome boy.
05:59Taya said he might be hungry still. He might need the other side.
06:02Oh, okay.
06:03You need that film? What do you need?
06:05No, it's already full.
06:08In a monogamous relationship, taking care of a newborn can be a bit challenging because there's just two of you.
06:12But for us, we have four parents, so we have the capacity to not have our daily life change much.
06:17We're able to be rested for the other kids.
06:20But because I'm only with Taya and Quinton every other night, Tyler and I have to get our bonding time in when we can.
06:26So we're still trying to figure out what that looks like and not step on each other's toes.
06:30Is there anything I can do to help?
06:33Anything need to be changed or anything?
06:35Yeah.
06:37Yeah, I'll change him when he's done eating.
06:39If he eats?
06:40Hey, hey, hey, hey.
06:42He just, like, will have it, and then he'll just keep searching.
06:46That's frustrating.
06:47Yeah.
06:49After you give birth, it takes a while for your milk to come in.
06:52And this time, it's taking a little bit longer.
06:54So the doctor was a little bit hard time with his latch and not getting enough milk.
06:58And obviously, his health comes first.
07:00But I really, really want to happen.
07:02The boys will be up soon. I can start getting their food ready, too.
07:06Trying to find my room, be able to help out, but it seems like they already have it covered.
07:10Before, when Taya had Carver, I had just had Barrett seven months prior to that.
07:15So I still had an infant that I was taking care of.
07:18And so, like, I didn't have that same opportunity to bond as much with him.
07:21And to this day, I still think that both the toddler boys are a little bit more attached to their birthing mom.
07:27So with Quinton, I want things to be a little bit different so that I can have more attachment to him, too.
07:32I still love his little callic right there.
07:34Brandon, did you notice that about his hair?
07:36It goes straight up right here. It doesn't, like, lay down like all the rest of it.
07:40So he's going to have this, like, weird, funky spot in his hair.
07:43Like, you have a callic in the back of your head. Dad has one.
07:45Yeah, the rest of it.
07:46Who do you think Quinton looks like?
07:48I think Quinton looks like me.
07:50I think Quinton looks like me more than I ever thought Carver looked like me.
07:53Who is that bear you have on your lap?
07:57Quinton has a callic, and so do I.
07:59He's also got dimples, and so do I.
08:02So make of that what you will.
08:05So other people in the family like to point out similarities and features of Quinton.
08:10I don't like to speculate who he looks like because I don't care about paternity.
08:14Tyler and I have our own issues that we have to worry about,
08:16and knowing who the biological father is can only create more issues.
08:20I just don't want to know who the biological father is.
08:24I was thinking about it, and I really want to try and breastfeed, too.
08:28What? She wants to breastfeed a baby who she didn't birth?
08:31Her body's not producing milk?
08:32I don't understand why you'd want to start that whole process over again.
08:35Are you trying to talk me out of it?
08:36Yeah, it's weird.
08:37So is this Tyler's baby or Sean?
08:40Sean and Tyler haven't been on the best terms lately,
08:42so the last thing I want is speculations about the boys' biology
08:46to drive an even bigger wedge between them than there already is.
08:57Aw, those are cute.
08:59Hello, welcome in.
09:00Hi.
09:01Hi, how's it going?
09:02Tyler and I are doing some shopping today for Quentin.
09:04We're having to get him new clothes, which we don't mind getting him to do.
09:06It's fun to shop for him.
09:07What is this?
09:08Oh, look at this little puffer jacket.
09:10Look at this.
09:12Oh, there's adorable little socks over there.
09:14I really enjoy shopping with Tyler.
09:16He's there for it.
09:17He wants to explore, kind of wandering around and pick out cute clothes.
09:22It's a cutoff. It's a tank top hoodie with skulls inside.
09:25Oh, my God.
09:26Sean's a little bit more stringent.
09:28If there's a specific thing that we need to get,
09:31we go in, we get that thing, we go out.
09:33Or a baby beanie.
09:35I do enjoy clothes shopping, whether it's for me or for the girls or the kids.
09:39It's fun.
09:40Wow.
09:41I love getting to spend time with my wife.
09:43Aw, you love me.
09:45Sure do.
09:47We have a lot of visitors for this baby.
09:48Well, yeah, because we have my family and your family and Taya's family.
09:53Just my life next, like, three months of everyday things.
09:56Yeah, with having so many different people wanting to come over.
09:59We could kind of do, like, what we did with Raina.
10:01Like, did a baby shower afterwards, but it's not necessarily, like, a baby shower.
10:05I've heard them called sip and sees.
10:06I've heard them called baby brunch or something.
10:09Sounds fun.
10:10Make some food.
10:11Yeah.
10:12Wanting to come see Quentin and with the stress of people being over every single day
10:16and his breastfeeding and being tired,
10:19it might make more sense to kind of have people all come over at one time to meet him.
10:23Check it out. That's magnetic.
10:26Hello?
10:27Look at this.
10:28It's magnets.
10:30Wow.
10:31Think of the midnight changes.
10:32No buttons, no zippers, just magnets.
10:34That's cool.
10:36That's not exactly why we called you.
10:37Not the point.
10:38The point was, since we have lots of friends and family,
10:41why don't we just do a brunchy thing and we can just have everything.
10:45Sounds like fun.
10:46Okay.
10:47We're going to keep shopping. We just wanted to call.
10:48Okay, love you, bye.
10:49Love you, bye.
10:50Love you, bye.
10:51You think everybody from your family will come?
10:52Yeah.
10:53Maybe if we're not posting about it and that kind of stuff.
10:55My mom's kind of private, doesn't like to be in some of the videos and stuff.
10:59Yeah.
11:00Between all four of our families,
11:01we've definitely had a spectrum of support and involvement since we came out.
11:06Taya's family, they are so welcoming and supportive.
11:08I feel like they're my family too.
11:10Not having Alicia's dad involved in our family
11:12or really even on speaking terms with Alicia for the last few years has been tough.
11:17Then you have my family who is, you know, they're involved
11:20and they're happy and supportive and everything.
11:22They're a little bit less apt to be supportive in public, which is unfortunate,
11:27but I don't know, just something I have to live with.
11:31Can I ask you guys who you're shopping for?
11:33We are a married couple and we actually are in a relationship with another married couple.
11:37Who?
11:38Is our other partner and she-
11:40Oh, we have lots of stuff for both sizes.
11:42We actually have like a new one at the end of the grownup stuff.
11:44I see it.
11:45That's adorable.
11:46Yeah.
11:47Nice to meet you.
11:48Yeah, you too. Let me know if there's anything else you guys need, any sizes.
11:50I think there's a lot of talk around polyamorous relationships these days.
11:54It's very progressive.
11:56Thank you so much.
11:58Y'all have a great rest of your day.
11:59And congratulations to all of you.
12:01Oh, there was a man I didn't see.
12:03It was really cute.
12:04We're done.
12:05Okay.
12:06Gentlemen later, Sean.
12:13You want to give me direction on where to put these?
12:15I need to see like what there is first.
12:17How much?
12:19I'm guessing sun, moon, and then a bunch of stars.
12:22Today we're putting up decorations in Quentin's room.
12:25And Sean's going to help me hang stuff up on the walls.
12:28I've got hands and I know how to use them for certain things.
12:31But if you want things done complex, that's a Tyler thing.
12:34I got a boyfriend for that.
12:36Yep, she sure does.
12:37Tell me where you want the sun.
12:39More to the right.
12:41And down.
12:42To the left a little.
12:44Up a little.
12:46Up a little more.
12:48Yep.
12:51It's fine.
12:52It's bittersweet decorating our last nursery for our last baby.
12:55The guys got vasectomies while I was pregnant because
12:58Quentin is completing our family.
13:00We're done having babies.
13:02Yeah, I'm not sad.
13:03We're done.
13:04Five is enough.
13:05We're good.
13:06Oh, baby boy.
13:10I love to see Sean in the dad role.
13:12He's the baby whisperer.
13:14He's the one who goes in there if we just can't get one of them to sleep.
13:18I've always said that Sean is a big old softy inside.
13:21You just have to get to know him and get past the gruff.
13:25That's fair.
13:27I can take that one.
13:29Hi, hi.
13:31Ooh, look at that.
13:32Shiny.
13:34Dude, what's going on?
13:37You all right?
13:38You're the baby whisperer.
13:40Shh, shh, shh.
13:43This appears to be a mama problem.
13:45As in he needs to eat?
13:47As in he's trying to shove his whole entire fish in his mouth, so yeah.
13:50Okay.
13:51And seems disinterested pretty quickly.
13:53I'm eager to get to his next doctor's appointment and see if he's gained any weight.
14:01Who's planning everything for the sip and see?
14:03Do you know what we're eating?
14:05No.
14:06Drinking?
14:07No.
14:08Yeah, we should probably figure that stuff out.
14:09I think Alicia's handling it all.
14:11Okay.
14:12I'm incredibly appreciative of Alicia now.
14:15In the beginning, we were much like Sean and Tyler are.
14:18We didn't put as much energy and effort into our relationship,
14:21and so we had a lot harder time getting along.
14:23But once she got pregnant with Barrett,
14:25she involved me in all the motherly things that came along with having a baby.
14:29It definitely shifted our dynamic and brought us a lot closer,
14:32and I want to do the same thing for her when it comes to Quinton.
14:35Do we know if we're having an inside-outside?
14:37What are we doing?
14:38Oh.
14:42You're f***ing his pants.
14:43No, I'm wearing it.
14:44Alicia's better. You were right.
14:46That's disgusting.
14:49Was that you?
14:50No.
14:53Here, Carver, look what Dad has.
14:55Look what Dad has.
14:56Hello?
14:57Captain Carver?
14:58Here you go.
14:59Wow.
15:00Hi, Carver.
15:02Can you see out of that?
15:04Reyna, what's it like having all these?
15:06I couldn't care about others at least if I had one sister.
15:09I want a sister.
15:11Hi.
15:12Hi.
15:13Why don't you go play with your brother and sister?
15:15So I have an idea I'd like to talk about.
15:17I had to give Q back to Mama because she's got the food source,
15:22but I was thinking about it, and I looked into it,
15:25and I really want to go see a lactation consultant
15:28and try and see if I could breastfeed too.
15:33Do you have any, like, if you squeeze it, do you have any?
15:37Yeah, I mean, it's not completely dried up.
15:40There's still, like, some stuff.
15:42Still a trickle?
15:43A trickle.
15:44I feel like that sounds promising.
15:46Yeah, that sounds cool.
15:48I hadn't really thought of that.
15:49Cool's not the word I would have used.
15:51What's the word you would use?
15:52It's weird.
15:53What's weird about it?
15:54Producing milk or feeding the baby?
15:56Yeah, the fact that you haven't produced milk in, like, what, two years?
16:00No, only a year and a half.
16:01He's only two and a half years old.
16:02Yeah, but still.
16:03I did it for a whole year.
16:04What?
16:05She wants to breastfeed a baby who she didn't birth?
16:07Like, her body's not producing milk.
16:09My brain can't quite comprehend what that means,
16:12and so all I can say is it's weird.
16:15I don't understand why you'd want to start that whole process over again,
16:17like having to pump all the time.
16:19Struggling right now to get a good latch.
16:21One of the perks of polyamory is having two moms,
16:24so if I can produce milk, I can play as his mom.
16:27Seems like bonding time too.
16:29Why not?
16:30Because he doesn't do anything.
16:32Do you want to get up in the middle of the night again?
16:34Are you trying to talk me out of it?
16:37My mom didn't come today.
16:38Mom's not here, but she was.
16:40It's disappointing.
16:42Her wordiness should tolerate this so that she...
16:50I don't understand why you'd want to start that whole process over again, like...
16:53For bonding.
16:54Can you lay on the floor with him and just play around?
16:56Are you trying to talk me out of it?
17:00No.
17:01Okay.
17:02I'm just like, what's your goal here?
17:04I would do it for you, and I could use the help.
17:07I don't know who could be this little grown boy,
17:11so I think I'm in full support.
17:14Being polyamorous, it's amazing having four parents to problem solve with.
17:18Ailisha wants to breastfeed Quentin,
17:20but weird has never stopped us before,
17:23and I think it's something really special.
17:25Fair, it's weird, but it's, like, good weird, like us.
17:28Sure, but...
17:29Are you against it?
17:30I'm not against it.
17:31You asked me my opinion about it.
17:33I think it's weird, but I'm not against it.
17:35No, I asked if you're against it.
17:37Against it? No, I'm not against it, no.
17:39All in favor, say aye.
17:41Aye.
17:42Aye.
17:43You didn't say aye.
17:44Fair.
17:45Party's starting.
17:46Bust out the champagne.
17:48So what's the plan for the party?
17:50Drink at it?
17:51Drink eating?
17:52Baby kisses?
17:53Who's our mimosa person?
17:54Get on it.
17:55Today we're having all you.
17:57It's better to have one big get-together
17:59than having people coming over for the next three weeks.
18:05You did it again.
18:06You're welcome.
18:07We have a number of people here at the sip-and-see,
18:09Taya's mom and her grandparents,
18:12Tyler's sister's here,
18:13a few of my cousins came,
18:15and quite a few of Sean's friends are here, too.
18:17Everybody that's coming to the sip-and-see...
18:19So you're gonna have about three or four more of them?
18:22Mimosas?
18:23No, those little guys.
18:25Oh, I'm back.
18:26Yeah, we're done.
18:27...polyamorous to my family,
18:29they definitely had some concerns.
18:31I don't think that they necessarily
18:33took it seriously initially.
18:35I think they were kind of hoping it was a phase
18:38without really knowing the extent of things.
18:41But I truly believe that once my family saw us together,
18:45that they saw how real it was,
18:47and they've been incredibly supportive.
18:49They're not just my family anymore.
18:51They are family to Tyler and Alicia and Sean
18:54and the kids, and their bond is really special.
18:57Hi, sis, glad you could make it.
18:59Hi.
19:00How's it going?
19:01Good.
19:02Juan, how's it going, man?
19:04I'm really happy to see my sister Kelsey here today.
19:06I appreciate that support, and in a public way.
19:08I don't necessarily always have that from everybody in my family,
19:11so it's really nice to have that from her.
19:13I think it was hard for my sister to accept Taya and Sean
19:16the way that she did Alicia at first,
19:18but I think she got there.
19:19When Tyler first told me
19:20that he was in a polyamorous relationship,
19:23we didn't talk for a while.
19:25It was new to me.
19:26I didn't know the dynamic.
19:28I didn't know how it would affect our family setting then,
19:31but really it just became normal.
19:34My mom didn't come today.
19:36I think she just doesn't want to create problems within.
19:41There's no problems within.
19:43We know how she feels about us.
19:45Well, that's what I told her.
19:46I said, there's nothing that you can say
19:47that they don't already know.
19:50Our mom's not here, and I wish she was.
19:54I don't know, it's disappointing.
19:58We're aware that the relationship structure itself
20:01is a little weird for her, but...
20:03Her wordiness, she tolerates it
20:05so that she can still have a relationship with everybody.
20:08It shows kindness, and that's all we ask for.
20:10Like, we don't mind them not purposely going out of your way
20:14to tell somebody they're not included in something,
20:16and we're good to go.
20:17I don't, our mom, I don't think it's ever something
20:20that she's going to fully accept.
20:23Oh, are you cold?
20:25Are you cold?
20:26It's your little pajamas, they're so cute.
20:28Yeah.
20:29So, is this Tyler's baby, or...?
20:35I'm shocked that Hannah asks
20:36if Quentin has tied somebody that to their face,
20:39and honestly, I kind of respect it.
20:41Most people just gossip and speculate behind our back,
20:43but I'd much rather they just ask us to our face.
20:46We didn't regulate a paternity.
20:48Well, we weren't trying for him, but we didn't anyways,
20:50and we didn't get them DNA tested.
20:52I mean, we can see similarities and stuff,
20:54but we don't sit around and speculate.
20:56That's a big question from people, like,
20:58you must, like, sit around and, like,
21:00hold them up next to each other, and like,
21:02no, it just doesn't matter to us.
21:04That's really nice.
21:05It is a little surprising to me
21:07that they don't know who the biological father is.
21:09It would be hard for me not to look at the details
21:13in their facial structures
21:15and not try and make those, um, those connections myself.
21:20Uh, Hannah goes, is this Tyler's baby?
21:23I was like, do you not watch our dig dogs?
21:25Did you not explain our dynamic to your friend?
21:28I think I did.
21:30Maybe not, though.
21:31Like, it's not something you talk about at work.
21:33Like, oh, by the way.
21:34But, I mean, you say, hey, by the way,
21:36this is our relationship, like...
21:37Yeah, I've told her about our relationship.
21:39But you just don't tell them the biology of our children?
21:41You don't explain, oh, by the way,
21:43I'm not sure if this is my kid or not?
21:45I mean, I wouldn't word it like that, but that would be fun.
21:48But, I mean, I don't, you don't talk like that at work.
21:50Tyler hasn't been on the best terms lately,
21:52so the last thing I want is speculations
21:54about the boys' biology
21:56to drive an even bigger wedge between them
21:58than there already is.
22:03Oh, s***.
22:05What's wrong?
22:06John just texted me.
22:08I did not realize what I was doing.
22:11♪♪♪♪♪
22:19What are you doing?
22:20I'm gonna attempt to pump.
22:22That's how you start the lactation process.
22:26And produce milk.
22:27You look very concerned.
22:29Yeah.
22:31Yeah, there we go.
22:32Makes my boobs look really big.
22:34Yeah.
22:35Taya's been struggling with breastfeeding,
22:38so I recently visited a lactation consultant
22:40to see if I might be able to start breastfeeding.
22:43You pump and, like, a lot.
22:45Like what, like every hour?
22:47No, I mean, like, 2 to 3 hours,
22:49but, like, for 15, 20 minutes.
22:51Also, they say to massage the boobs as well,
22:56and I can massage one.
22:58Hmm. I see.
23:00And you can massage the other one and help me out.
23:03I don't know what me massaging's gonna do.
23:05It's supposed to, like, help stimulate
23:07the milk ducts and stuff.
23:08If you don't actually want to do it,
23:10I don't want you to help me.
23:11I just don't understand the whole process, though.
23:13Is it like milking a cow where you start at the top
23:15and I have to, like...
23:16You don't normally just...
23:17Taya.
23:18Sean's asking if he needs to milk me like a cow.
23:20No, I use it as a reference point.
23:22Is it like a, this kind of a motion here?
23:25Like, I don't...
23:26What do you think your boobs look like?
23:27That looks painful.
23:28No, no, no, no.
23:29I'm talking about the motion, not the size...
23:32Please stop doing the motion.
23:34I've seen how they tell...
23:35Very phallic.
23:36But I've seen how a lactation specialist,
23:37when we were in the hospital,
23:38they showed you how you're supposed to, like,
23:40move your boob down, so it looks like that.
23:43It looks like you have to, like, grab from the top
23:45and push it all forward.
23:46I don't think that you want to keep doing that.
23:51How do you look at it?
23:52You're, like, afraid to touch my boobs.
23:53I'm not afraid to touch your boobs.
23:54I'm just, with the pump there, I don't want to...
23:56I'm sorry.
23:57I don't want to hurt you,
23:58because it seems like that would hurt.
23:59Yeah, just like that. Good job.
24:01Squishy.
24:03Yep, yep, very squishy.
24:05Again, I've breastfed three kids.
24:07Cool, thank you.
24:08Thank you so much.
24:09You did it.
24:10So did you do it?
24:11Is there any milk?
24:12No, there's no milk in there yet.
24:14I think it takes longer than that.
24:16Mm-hmm.
24:17I haven't produced any milk yet,
24:18but I know it can take a little while
24:20for that to happen sometime with Quintin,
24:22and so I'm just grateful that I have the support
24:24from my whole quad, and especially...
24:26Two more hours?
24:27No, please don't.
24:32♪
24:37Tay and I just got back from Quintin's doctor appointment.
24:39Sean and Alicia weren't able to make it this time,
24:41but I was grateful that I was able to be there.
24:43You know, we've been kind of concerned
24:44about his weight gain.
24:45I was happy to hear, though, that the doctor said
24:47he's doing great, he's meeting his milestones,
24:49and things are on track.
24:51Well, bleep.
24:53What's wrong?
24:55Sean just texted me.
25:01He said, I guess we know who the dad is,
25:03implying that Tyler would be
25:05Quintin's biological father.
25:07I don't know.
25:08I don't know.
25:09I don't know.
25:10I don't know.
25:11I don't know.
25:12I don't know.
25:13I don't know.
25:14I don't know.
25:15I don't know.
25:16I don't know.
25:17I don't know.
25:18I don't know.
25:19I don't know.
25:20I don't know.
25:21I don't know.
25:22We all know who Quintin's biological father is.
25:26I don't know.
25:27I don't know.
25:28I don't know.
25:29How would he know?
25:31I'm guessing because Tyler sent his blood type
25:33during his doctor's appointment?
25:35I didn't know what that meant.
25:41I don't know what I'm supposed to say to that.
25:45Tyler texted everybody in the group chat
25:47finding out blood type, because we didn't know that it
25:49could point to paternity.
25:50So we never thought to have that discussion.
25:53When I got the text from Tyler about Quentin's blood type,
25:56he tells me that Quentin's blood type is O negative,
25:58which I know is Tyler.
25:59So I know I can't be the father.
26:01Are you sure?
26:03I looked it up.
26:04What I read on the internet was that 2B blood type parents
26:07cannot produce an O negative child.
26:09It says they cannot, so I'm not the father.
26:13I would assume that blood type, you know,
26:16everyone would know that blood type tells us paternity.
26:19And so for him just to send it, not even thinking about it,
26:21it's pretty irresponsible and pretty irritating.
26:28I want to go talk to Tyler, because one,
26:30I want to make him aware of what the text that he sent
26:32implied, because I don't think he was aware.
26:35And I need a sounding board right now, because I-
26:38After you sent the updates about Quentin
26:41in the quad group chat, Sean had texted me
26:45individually about, like, since he has your blood type,
26:48that that would mean that biologically that he was yours.
26:53I don't know.
26:54It didn't even cross my mind until he texted me,
26:57and then my stomach dropped, because I just-
26:59there's, like, no taking that back, you know?
27:01Yeah, I feel like that right now.
27:03Holy s***.
27:04I did not realize what I was doing.
27:08I was just trying to forward information on.
27:09I did not put two and two together
27:11that blood type could spell out paternity for us.
27:14And Sean put those things together.
27:17I really wish I had realized what I was doing,
27:19but I didn't.
27:21I thought of it as just medical information.
27:25I know.
27:26Anytime one of us goes to an appointment,
27:28we're like, kids this tall, weighs this much,
27:29all the things, we just share all that stuff.
27:31And I didn't- it didn't cross my mind at the time,
27:33and I don't know that's-
27:36Not to know, specifically.
27:38And finding that out kind of by accident now,
27:41I am regretful that I caused him
27:44to have to go through something that
27:45might be a little bit painful.
27:49I don't know.
27:50I'm not really even sure, just because he
27:52has the same blood type as me, that there's
27:54not- that could get him there.
27:55For all I know, it could still be Sean's biological kid.
27:58I don't know.
28:00I don't remember ever learning the toddler's blood type
28:02before, so the idea that learning the blood type
28:05might indicate paternity never crossed my mind,
28:07because this was never an issue with the other boys before.
28:10Is it good coming from me?
28:11Like, should I seek him out or-
28:12Enough bringing it back up is the best thing to do or not.
28:15I don't want to make a big deal out of something that's
28:17not supposed to be a big deal, but we didn't really
28:19have control over that.
28:20I feel awful, but I don't know what I was supposed to do
28:22in that situation either.
28:23I could-
28:26There's no win.
28:28I think there's probably some deep, primal part of me
28:31that is happy to be finding out that I'm
28:32Quentin's biological father.
28:34But the thing is, all of that is really
28:35overshadowed by what Sean's going through right now,
28:38and finding out this information that he really
28:40didn't want to know by accident.
28:41Sean and I were already not in a great place,
28:43and then, honestly, I went and dropped this bomb on him.
28:45That doesn't make things easier.
28:47And I don't know that we're in a good place
28:48to talk about this new issue now without having
28:50resolved our last one.
28:51And I don't know.
28:53I'm not sure how we move forward just yet.
28:59To see Tyler acting like everything's hunky dory
29:02just kind of pissing me off more.
29:04We're going to go home.
29:05We're going to get in the van and go home, OK?
29:07Do you have any idea what's going on with Sean?
29:10He sent me a text that said, I guess we know who the dad is.
29:12And then that was it.
29:13Oh.
29:22Dodgeball, dodgeball, dodgeball, dodgeball, let's go.
29:29Tonight, our community is putting on a dodgeball
29:31event for the kids.
29:32It's been scheduled for a while, and we're all really excited.
29:34But with this new information about the paternity
29:36still lingering out there, I'm not
29:38sure if I'm going to be able to have
29:39much fun with the kids tonight.
29:40I've only exchanged a handful of words
29:42with Tyler since the blood type text message,
29:44and I don't plan on talking to him tonight.
29:47I'm Tyler.
29:47Tyler.
29:48Bruce.
29:49This is my girlfriend, Taya.
29:50This is wife, Alicia.
29:52Sean.
29:53Our other partner, Sean, is back here.
29:55Sean, Bruce, Janelle.
29:56We're polyamorous, so we are going to applaud the situation.
30:00Yeah, hey, that's awesome.
30:02How did this all come about, guys?
30:04We're in the, like, swimming community.
30:06It was supposed to be just kind of an out of bed situation.
30:08You know, we got to know each other
30:10and started developing feelings from there, so.
30:12OK.
30:14Could you ever be polyamorous?
30:16I don't know that I could.
30:18I do have a little bit of a jealous side to me.
30:20I think it's definitely interesting.
30:22It's not something that you see a lot in small towns
30:24like this, but I just don't know if I could personally
30:26do it myself.
30:27No, no, no.
30:28One's enough for me.
30:29I like to be, like, having two TVs on at the same time.
30:33And that's, you know, it can be a little,
30:35like, overstimulating, yeah, yeah.
30:37Ready, set, go.
30:40Go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
30:42Oh.
30:43Matrix.
30:44Go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
30:46Harvard's standing in the middle if you want to protect us.
30:48Oh.
30:50Dylan.
30:50Oh, mom's out.
30:51Oh.
30:52Oh.
30:53Oh.
30:54By my own family.
30:55I feed our son with those.
30:58Who's the most competitive out of all of you?
31:00Probably the two dads.
31:02A lot of times, they tie, like, in games.
31:04And one wins, and one wins the other game.
31:06Oh.
31:07Oh.
31:08Tyler.
31:09They tie, and then they want to get back
31:11to see who actually wins.
31:13Oh, it's just competitive, even over some
31:15of the littlest things.
31:16She's coming for me.
31:18She's coming for me.
31:19It definitely seems like Sean is targeting Tyler.
31:22Not sure what that's about, but you could see there was.
31:25Oh.
31:25Oh.
31:26Oh.
31:27What the hell?
31:28Why did you just do that?
31:30Oh.
31:32Oh.
31:32Oh.
31:33Oh.
31:34He's here out.
31:35He knows what he signed up for.
31:38Tyler wears his dad-ass shirt all the time
31:40and normally would not bother me.
31:41But today, knowing what's going on, him wearing that shirt
31:45and me possibly not being the biological father of Q
31:49just kind of rubs salt in the wounds.
31:50Nail break.
31:51Give him a break.
31:52Play over here on this one.
31:53We know Quentin's blood type, and that blood type information
31:56feels like this elephant in the room right now.
31:58Sean doesn't want to come play.
31:59I don't know.
32:00OK.
32:01He's watching the boys.
32:02I told him they'd be fine, but.
32:04Yeah, they've been.
32:05Thought they were fine back there.
32:10You OK?
32:11Yeah, I'm fine.
32:12Just watching the boys.
32:13Why don't you want to come play?
32:15Just watching the boys.
32:16But they're doing fine back here.
32:18Oh, they're fine because I'm watching them.
32:19OK.
32:21I can tell that there's something wrong.
32:23I have no idea what's wrong, but I can definitely
32:26tell that something is wrong when he's
32:27acting that way towards me.
32:28To see Tyler all carefree out there,
32:30not really having anything weighing on his mind
32:33when he dropped his big bombshell,
32:34acting like everything's hunky dory,
32:36just is actually kind of pissing me off more.
32:39I'm going to leave.
32:41We're going to go home.
32:42Yeah, we're going to get in the van and go home, OK?
32:45You're going to go home with Daddy.
32:46Come on.
32:47We drove separately tonight because the little boys need
32:49to get home for their bedtime.
32:50So happily, I will take the boys home and get out of here
32:54because it's making me really uncomfortable,
32:55and I'm pretty angry still.
32:58All right, you good?
32:59Yeah.
33:00I'll see you guys at home.
33:01It's really disappointing to see Sean leave early.
33:03It seems like the kind of thing he would normally
33:04have a lot of fun.
33:05And if he's leaving early, he's upset, and it's my fault.
33:09I just hate that I'm the cause of this hurt for him.
33:11I feel awful.
33:14Do you have any idea what's going on with Sean?
33:17I tend to come to you when I can't get anything out of him,
33:21but I can't tell something's wrong.
33:23He hasn't told me anything specifically
33:25other than when after Tyler sent that text from the doctor
33:29about Q having his blood type, he sent me a text that said,
33:33I guess you know who the dad is, and then that was it.
33:37Oh.
33:41I don't know.
33:42I'm feeling a little bit, like, triggered
33:44because I didn't know any of this was going on at all.
33:47But I mean, also, like, I feel bad for him
33:49because I don't know how he's feeling,
33:51and I wish that he could talk to me about this stuff too.
33:55It's really hurtful that I was with Sean
33:57when he got the text about the blood type
34:00and he didn't confide in me.
34:01But I rarely find out what's going on
34:05with Sean directly from him.
34:06Oftentimes, I hear it from Taya or I hear it from Tyler,
34:10who's heard it from Taya, about what's going on with him.
34:13I didn't put those two things together.
34:15Like, that didn't mean anything to me
34:17that the blood type could mean that.
34:18Like, I guess I can see how we could jump to that conclusion.
34:22I have had a long time to really wrap my head around
34:25the idea that Tyler could father a baby
34:29with his girlfriend, with Taya.
34:31Tyler's not my possession.
34:32He's his own person, and that's the part of polyamory
34:35that's so beautiful, is being able to have
34:38that love for somebody else.
34:40And if I wasn't OK with Tyler being
34:42the biological father of her kids,
34:44we would never be in this situation.
34:46I told Tyler that he texted me.
34:49Like, I didn't know what to say.
34:50I'm worried.
34:52I don't want him to be upset.
34:53Like, we all agreed that we didn't care,
34:56but, like, you can't anticipate these things,
34:58and it scares me.
35:02Like, if he's going to feel any differently knowing now?
35:06Yeah, because he didn't want to know.
35:08No.
35:10We didn't want to know.
35:12This is uncharted territory, and I'm really worried it's going
35:15to change the dynamic of our family.
35:17I don't know if we're ever going to be
35:19able to come back from this.
35:20I don't know.
35:24Next time on Poly Family.
35:26Welcome to your yacht tub.
35:27Oh my gosh, it's so cool.
35:29Woo!
35:31It's weird being around Shawn right now,
35:33but today is about Tayah, making sure she
35:35feels loved and celebrated.
35:37Happy birthday.
35:38Happy birthday.
35:39I love my family, and I love my life,
35:42but I do feel like something is missing,
35:44and that's a connection with a woman.
35:46Happy birthday.
35:46It's something that I would like to explore.
35:51How do you feel about like you're not on his birth certificate?
35:55These are my kids no matter what.
35:56I don't like the fact that he doesn't have legal rights to Quentin.
36:00I feel like it could just get really messy.
36:02My biggest concern with talking to Sean is that he'll think that Tyler send that text maliciously.
36:08You're upset with Tyler?
36:10Yes, 100%.
36:12I didn't want to know this, like why on earth would you ever tell me this?
36:16It's kind of a dick move.
36:17I don't know how you wouldn't be irritated if the roles were reversed.
36:22Hey.
36:23What's up man?
36:24I'm going to have this talk with Sean about the whole blood type situation.
36:26It's time.
36:27We got to do this.
36:28We have issues with parenting Raina that we haven't even talked about and now this whole
36:31thing.
36:32How am I, how are you not, am I not supposed to think this is malicious?
36:33Dude, you don't need to parent me.
36:34I don't need that.
36:35We're grown men.
36:36Let's figure this out.
36:37Maybe if I was parenting you this s*** would have happened.