00:00If I may add lang po, meron kasi akong feeling na yung ano eh, yung, I may be authoritative, pero I like the feeling that my woman can make me bend.
00:11Why would you want a woman to make you bend? Why don't you just bend to your woman?
00:17I mean, diba, if you love the person, you will naturally bend to your woman and adjust, diba, and be flexible for that woman.
00:24Why would you want to see an extra power from a woman that will make you bend?
00:29Because most of the time po, in my experience, when I give too much power to the woman that I love, I always end up getting hurt.
00:42So, meron ako ng mentality na parang, it's a protection to myself.
00:49But that does not mean na, I'm trying to put control.
00:53And then, don't be too hard on yourself.
00:57Just live.
00:58Just relax.
01:00Diba, just live.
01:01Let's just love.
01:02Let's just be together.
01:03Diba, parang, I will, I adore you.
01:06Diba, yung magbe-bend ako sa'yo wholeheartedly.
01:09I will bend naturally.
01:10Not because you made me bend, but I want to bend because I love you.
01:15Magkakaiba naman ang mga tao.
01:17Ang mga babae.
01:18Baka yung mga nangginawa sa'yo nung iba, wag mong ipigay dun sa mga future na pangungunahan mo.
01:27May sabihin ka.
01:28That's true.
01:29But so far, in my experience, pare-pareho sila.
01:33I've been, hala, I've been treated the same.
01:38So, at saka gusto kong, yung salitong authority, kailangan ba merong authority sa relationship?
01:43Hindi ba pwede kayong pantay?
01:45Kasi pag authority, diba, the person has authority over the other.
01:49Kasi po, when you give authority, you give the power to them, for them to hurt you, hoping for them not to use it on you.
01:59Alam mo, when you give someone the opportunity to love you, you're opening the possibility to be hurt by that person because mahal mo siya.
02:07Hindi ka pwedeng umaasang, bibigyan kita ng pagkakataong mahalin ako, pero wala kang karapatang masakta na ako.
02:15Magkakambal sila.
02:17Pag binahal ka niya, masasaktan at masasaktan ka niya.
02:20Kasi hindi ka masasaktan ang taong hindi mo mahal.
02:24Yes.
02:24Kaya po, siguro lang sa dami lang ng pagdaanan ko, may ano ko, yung parang,
02:32I'll give you the ladder, pero you need to help me too, for you to cross my walls.
02:41So, nagtayo ka ng pader dahil sa, parang trauma response na siya sa past relationships mo.
02:47Yes.
02:47Pero, sa tingin mo, fair ba yun na parang yung mga nangyari sa'yo from your trauma,
02:52eh, ina-apply mo sa mga relationship mo na dapat ba nag-heal ka muna on your own?
02:57Ah, hindi po yun agad, kaya po laging, kaya di ba sinasabi niya yan na nagsastart yan sa sobrang ma-effort mo na,
03:05may acts of service, and then through time po kasi.
03:09Hindi kaya nakakahon mo yung babae kapag nagkakaroon ka ng, yung gusto mo, ikaw yung magdadala ng relasyon.
03:18Hindi to that perspective, eh.
03:20Tsaka yung nasabi mong ano, to protect myself, in love, you cannot protect yourself from getting hurt.
03:29Yes.
03:30When you decide to love, part of it is accepting the fact that you will get hurt one way or the other.
03:38No one is ever safe from being hurt.
03:41Lahat nang nagmamahal, masasaktan, kahit Diyos, Diyos na yun ah, nasaktan.
03:46You just have to accept and embrace that fact, because that's part of being in love.
03:52And that hurt will add beauty to the kind of love that you will feel.
03:57So don't overprotect yourself from getting hurt, because whatever you do, you will still get hurt.
04:04And that is a fact.
04:07Okay?
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