00:00The woman of worth to me is every woman who's aware that we have that word, that we matter.
00:19Okay, I'll start with my discipline style.
00:22Kasi nung dalawa pa kami nung late husband ko, nag-division of labor kami.
00:26Kasi siya yung konsentidor, ako yung disciplinarian.
00:29So, pagkilangan, it would be, he would be the good cop and I would be the bad cop.
00:35So, syempre, mahirap gawin pag solo-parent ka.
00:39And pag sinubukan mong pagsama yung good cop and bad cop, syempre, lalo na in the eyes of your children,
00:46ang mangingibabaw ay yung bad cop.
00:48But as part of that, my parenting style has been, I think, I've tried,
00:55hindi lagi nagsasaksi, hindi.
00:56I try to love each child equally, just differently, kasi each of them's a different person.
01:03I try to communicate with them all their lives and to be open and welcoming and inviting
01:10without me imposing sa kanilang communication sa akin.
01:14And basically, just try to be present.
01:17Dami ko pa rin na-miss, I realize.
01:19Dami rin missteps, but I have tried and I will keep on trying to be present
01:25in the different ways they need it.
01:27Kasi habang nag-iiba rin yung edad nila, syempre,
01:30nag-iiba rin yung kung paano nila ako kailangan or di na kailangan.
01:39A lot of times, I question kung enough yung pag-prepare ko.
01:44Kasi kahit pag-couple kayo, challenge na, diba?
01:48And we were two parents to four children.
01:51So nung naging solo mama ko, mas grave pa yung fraction, diba?
01:55Naging one is to four.
01:56Isa lang ako, tao, and yun na, walang ka good cop, bad cop.
02:01Walang ka exchange ng opinion or approach.
02:05There have been many times I have questioned, until now.
02:09And kahit mahirap, minsan inisip ko, maybe that's good.
02:15Kasi as parents or even as any people in any relationship,
02:19palagay ko especially with our children,
02:21it's always good to be on our toes, diba?
02:23Kasi di lang naman tayo, pati sila, laging nagbabago.
02:28And to be in relationship with them means we have to pay attention
02:33and also be, you know, reveal to them paano din tayo,
02:38paano din ako nagbabago binang tao.
02:46Oh my, very much so.
02:48Every moment, conscious ako na babae ako.
02:51And it's for a reason.
02:53And para dahil yung karanasan natin mga babae,
02:56yung panalaw natin, yung pakiramdam natin.
02:58Pati sa ganyang mga policy and legislary questions, definitely.
03:03So bilang ina, bilang solo parent, bilang magiging senior,
03:08bilang dating youth and student, dami.
03:12I think, yes, definitely I bring all of that to my legislary work.
03:21The woman of worth to me is every woman who's aware
03:27that we have that work, that we matter.
03:30We have the dignity given by God or the universe.
03:33We have the rights as Filipinos.
03:36We have privilege and the responsibility of being human
03:41among so many species on this planet.
03:44And being a Filipino woman is also a source of particular pride.
03:48So for me, the woman of worth is lahat ng yaman na baon natin
03:52sa ating katawan, sa ating puso, sa ating isipan, sa ating kaluluwa.
03:57At inaalagaan natin ito, itong mahalagang ito.
04:01At inaalay natin, iniinvest natin sa mga bagay na kapaki-pakinabang.
04:06Yan ang tala ng worth natin.
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