- 3/25/2025
Cassie, Matt, and Dallas are all married to each other. Brut asked this throuple some of the internet's burning questions: How normal is their sex life? Do they get jealous of each other? Here's what they had to say...
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00:00I do.
00:06I'm Dallas and I'm married to Matt. I'm Matt and I'm married to Cassie.
00:11I'm Cassie and I'm married to Matt. And I'm also married to Dallas. I'm also married to Cassie.
00:19I'm also married to Dallas and we're both married to Matt.
00:25We're all married!
00:27The three people are married!
00:29By our powers combined, we are married.
00:33And by our powers combined, all three of us are married.
00:43Fabroot, I'm taking you to St. Pete in Florida where I met with Cassie,
00:48Matt and Dallas. They are in their early twenties.
00:51They are polyamorous throuple and they recently just got married.
00:59So there's like a lot of pictures of us in here.
01:10There's tons of stuff.
01:11This is my desk and you can tell cause it has so many pictures of Dallas.
01:15There's a lot of pictures of Matt, but there's so many pictures of Dallas.
01:19There are. And then this is where Matt works usually.
01:24It's our baby. So this is our living room. Um,
01:28it's kind of got this like botanical study vibe going on and have our altar for
01:35our shrine. Then there's a picture of our wedding.
01:38It was right after we got married.
01:42Dallas and I started dating when we were, she was 17 and I was 16.
01:47We wanted to get married from our first date. I think on our first date,
01:50we talked about our wedding.
01:51We did and we had this whole plan that we were going to get married when we were
01:5620 and then Matt came along. And so obviously that changed.
02:03So it's been on it. Yeah.
02:08It's interesting to me that you have such a,
02:10I guess an untraditional relationship,
02:12but you did want to keep some traditional elements.
02:15Yeah. Tradition is important to us.
02:18I would say some keep some retire.
02:21Like we didn't have our dads walk us down the aisle. No. Um,
02:24cause there was no man giving me away to another man. No.
02:31I'm happy. I'm happy. Yeah. Very happy. People keep asking me,
02:35how's married life? I'm like, it's great dude.
02:48To me getting married was always like,
02:50if you know you're going to be with someone for the rest of your life,
02:52like you go ahead and you get in front of everybody else and you
02:56tell them how much you love them so that you can be committed.
03:09When I'm with you, my soul is alive.
03:15I feel so much.
03:23When you were sitting over there watching the video,
03:28I was enjoying watching you watch the video.
03:31Not because you were crying because these are, you know,
03:35both are such a parents of past. Right. And so they would have been thrilled to
03:40death and they wouldn't have understood.
03:43They wouldn't have cared because as long as Cassie was happy,
03:46that's what would have been important. Yeah.
03:47And even though you're open to it, it's like, how does this work?
03:51So getting to be so close with them and watch them like together,
03:55you learn like, wow, the chemistry is pretty amazing.
03:59Do I know any three other people that, that connect like these three do? No,
04:03I don't. I don't even know couples that connect like these three very well.
04:50I feel it.
04:55They deserve that, that celebration of their commitment.
04:59There was a little bit of like, Oh, but you know,
05:01the commitment can't really be valid, you know, like legal and binding.
05:05And there's a sadness to that because like, why not?
05:08Why they're so in love and they're so amazing together.
05:13Why can't it be? But maybe one day, like, you know,
05:17maybe one day it will. And I hope that, but they were like,
05:20it doesn't matter. We want to publicly claim our love.
05:24And I was like, you know what? We're going to be there and we're going to,
05:27and we were going to support them a hundred percent. We were so excited. Yeah.
05:34The throuple wedding was a spiritual ceremony and it does not have a legal
05:38value. In fact, in most of the country,
05:40polyamory is not a protected status.
05:43As I was about to meet with Cassie Dallas and Matt,
05:45I asked my followers what they wanted to know about life as a throuple.
05:49They submitted their questions and I asked them. So here they are.
05:52What would you say are the main misconceptions people have about you that we
05:56don't know about each other? Yeah. Dallas and I know nothing about each other.
06:00And that is, um, he has two wives, but we don't know. Yeah.
06:05He's living a double life. Yeah. He's, he's messing around. Yep.
06:08I have a side piece or whatever. Yeah.
06:10That's the first thing I usually get asked is do they know about each other?
06:14And it's like, yeah, we, I'm like, well, you know, we, you know,
06:17we joke about it like that. We try to keep it.
06:19We can try to keep some levity around it. But honestly,
06:22it's kind of sexist to assume that we are in a polygamist relationship.
06:27A polygamist relationship is putting all the power on Matt and saying, look,
06:31it's kind of like an assumption that we were just sitting around waiting for Matt
06:37to tell us that we're going to be in a relationship with him and he's going to
06:42have two wives and we're just like down for the ride. But really, I mean,
06:45Alice and I were there first. If anything, uh, Matt is our sister husband.
06:51If anything, you're a, you're a little, little pretty boyfriend.
06:55And this is our bed where all three of us sleep, even though
07:00we don't really fit, but we can't, we try to fit.
07:03We can't put a king size bed in our little room.
07:05So that would just be okay with this.
07:06Cause if we put a king size bed that we can't get into our closet,
07:09it would be the bedroom.
07:11And Lord knows we need a closet.
07:14With all of us, we have three people, two closets.
07:17So we do keep very warm at night.
07:19Yeah. In the wintertime we don't have to put on the heat at night at all.
07:23But in the summertime, in the summertime, Arizona 68, Arizona 68, it's hot.
07:28And then the second biggest misconception is that this is one big sex freak
07:32party. Like it's just like sex, sex, sex all the time. Three sums,
07:37orgies. And, um, and then some, that's what people think.
07:41Our sex life is, I would say like normal,
07:46stupid normal. Yeah.
07:49I would say we have, we have sex around once a week. Um,
07:53each of us probably all have sex once a week,
07:54whether that's all three of us together or one of us or two of us
07:59together. And one of us not being involved.
08:02I would think it's on,
08:02it's on rarer occasions that all three of us have sex together because three
08:07dynamics all being naturally turned on at once is like difficult to achieve.
08:12And we don't want to be fake with each other about it. Yeah.
08:14No one of us isn't in the mood. We're not going to, we're not going to do it.
08:18Yeah. Cause it just doesn't feel genuine.
08:20But that's not the driving force behind our polyamory driving force behind our
08:24polyamory is sharing love with as many people as our heart wants to and keeping
08:27our heart super open. Yeah. Is there jealousy?
08:31Do you ever get like nasty feelings?
08:33Oh yeah. We can be nasty. We can be nasty.
08:40I would say jealousy is our biggest teacher. Yeah.
08:45But you get very angry at your teachers. Yes.
08:50No, there will be moments where like Cassie and Matt will like,
08:53we'll come home from something. I'll be like getting ready for bed. I'll co,
08:57I'll like walk into the room and there'll be like in a passionate moment.
08:59I'll be like, Oh, like, Oh no, like let me leave.
09:02Only because of the privacy doesn't make you feel jealous. No, it used to,
09:07it used to make me feel jealous, but I had to address that.
09:10Like I was not giving myself enough self love. I was thinking like, Oh,
09:14they don't want to do that with me. Oh, but they, they did.
09:18And they were,
09:19and I wasn't paying attention because I was so focused on like they're doing it.
09:23They're doing it. Yeah. I think our jealousy doesn't look like, you know,
09:27Oh, you're, I couldn't handle my partner kissing somebody else.
09:30Like that's never been real.
09:32Like even the first time that you guys had your first kiss,
09:36I told Matt to kiss Dallas. I was like, Hey, you want to go to Dallas?
09:40We were like,
09:42why don't you guys kiss? Um,
09:44so I think that that's not really where a lot of our jealousy lies,
09:49especially not anymore at all.
09:51Like maybe a little bit in the beginning of our relationship,
09:53but not so much at all.
09:55But there's definitely jealousy about attention and time spent.
10:00But, um, when it comes to like the physical element, um, or like just seeing that,
10:05like spark in between them, it excites me. It makes me happy.
10:09It makes me feel fulfilled.
10:15The hardest part sometimes is letting myself be myself and let Cassie be
10:21herself and the Dallas be herself and let them have themselves together and
10:28have myself with them or like myself with the individual relationship.
10:34Um, I think I struggle with that sometimes just as more of like an ego thing
10:40more than like, it's a, it's a deep rooted issue.
10:42Like I think it's just comes from a lack of, I think it's just an insecurity.
10:48So you learned about polyamory through the lens of the free love.
10:53Yeah, exactly. Through the lens of like the, the Woodstock hippie,
10:59um, yeah, like free love movement. And that was super intriguing.
11:03And that taught us, because we did not know about polyamory.
11:07Um, we just knew that something was happening,
11:10something weird was happening between the three of us.
11:14Um, and we couldn't quite figure out what, but Matt was like, what if, uh,
11:20what if we were polyamorous? What if we were in a triad?
11:23And Dallas and I went online and immediately Googled that and paced around for
11:29a bit, definitely paced around and talked and scratched our chins.
11:33And we're like, what could this look like? What if this went wrong,
11:38what would happen? Um, but ultimately we were like, well, we're in it.
11:42Yeah. It's kind of already happening.
11:44So let's just see where it goes and we've been learning as we go along.
11:48The thing that's been the hardest for me is worrying that I will hurt Dallas or
11:55Matt because they're so devoted to me. But at the end of the day,
11:58all three of us are polyamorous. Um,
12:00and that's just a really intense insecurity that just used to come up. Um,
12:04when I was just discovering like, Oh, am I, am I greedy? Am I, um, crazy?
12:10Can I not, am I, am I,
12:11am I not being honest with myself about the feelings that I feel about either of
12:14them? And even though our relationship started off so beautifully, I mean,
12:18I started questioning what, what,
12:19I don't feel that there's anything wrong with Dallas and I's relationship.
12:22I don't feel that there's any deficit here,
12:24but there must be because every piece of media is saying if you're looking
12:28outside of your relationship, you are, there's something wrong. Um,
12:33and so even though deep down in my core, I knew that there was nothing wrong.
12:37I still got caught up in that conditioning, still got caught up in that fear. Um,
12:40that comes from just like these normative boundaries that we put on
12:44relationships and people generally.
12:46What would you say has been like the most confusing part?
12:51I think determining also like when like couples,
12:55like you two need to go off and spend time alone.
12:57When me and Matt need to spend time alone with me and you need to have time
13:00alone and figuring out like the needs of each relationship in order for us to
13:05thrive as a throuple.
13:06We have like agreements about the times that we like want to have alone time
13:12with each partner. Um, you know,
13:14Cassie and Matt have a longstanding date on Thursday. Um,
13:18and then Matt and I once a week, Cassie and I,
13:21we always have a longstanding date on Sundays, um,
13:24that we call our girls date and um,
13:27we'll we'll talk and we'll reconnect and the time spent as couples is very
13:33important in order to bring that energy back to the triad.
13:49Beautiful woman. Thank you.
13:53We've always both been really femme and very comfortable with our femininity.
13:59And I think that that was what attracted us to each other is that we both were
14:02really feminine and we felt like our feminine connection,
14:07our sapphic connection was strong.
14:10Matt really likes that. He likes the smell of makeup.
14:14He really likes when we play and are very feminine,
14:18but um, we definitely do this for us.
14:21We definitely do our makeup and dress up, um, for each other.
14:25Yeah. And even since I was a teenager,
14:27it was always something that I really liked to do.
14:29He's always been very in touch with this feminine side.
14:31And I would say that that was very attractive to us as queer women.
14:36We definitely wanted a man who wasn't too focused.
14:41Yeah. Especially not out of touch with his femininity.
14:44Yeah. I didn't,
14:45we didn't want to be with somebody who didn't under felt we felt like didn't
14:49understand us.
14:55And we find in others, no matter how different they may seem from us,
14:59when we do this,
15:00we no longer need to be different in deep counterpoint to the old saying,
15:04an eye for an eye, there is a deeper law that guides us to wholeness,
15:08a truth of being for a truth of being.
15:12That's beautiful.
15:13That's so beautiful.
15:19Do you know how many people have asked us why we would want a man in our
15:22relationship? Um, I asked myself the same question.
15:25Why would I want a man in my relationship?
15:27Matt is help Matt is is helpful to us because he keeps Dallas and I fun.
15:31Yeah. He keeps us.
15:32They're boring as hell together.
15:34Our beautiful relationship looked like us falling asleep at APM after yoga
15:37class, which is a beautiful relationship.
15:40But for us, we did a year of that. And we were like,
15:43like things are getting a little dull.
15:44We're already 80 years old.
15:46So old.
15:48Matt keeps us, uh, young and fresh and interesting.
16:10That's really good. Great job.
16:12And he's cute.
16:13He's very cute.
16:15It's great when I practice because I have an audience all the time.
16:19I have adoring fans all the time.
16:21It's an audience when it's more than one person.
16:23Yeah. That's why you have two wives.
16:26That's the only thing.
16:27That's the only thing.
16:28Yeah.
16:29That's the trick.
16:32When the three of you sleep in the same bed,
16:35does the one in the middle have a plug to plug in their phone?
16:41They both plug their phone on one side.
16:43Yeah.
16:44We have a power strip.
16:45Yep.
16:47We use a power strip.
16:48The polyamorous power strip.
16:50We not only have to have multiple phone chargers,
16:52but we also have multiple blankets so that we don't get too sweaty.
16:55Yeah.
16:56And it's also very important because blanket stealing,
16:58I think is more prominent.
17:01Oh, it's an epidemic in the polyamorous community.
17:04Blanket stealing.
17:05Yeah.
17:07How do they deal with the money?
17:09How do you split finances?
17:11Christine and I always knew that having, for us at least,
17:14having merged finances was a very strong indicator of trust for each other.
17:22And then when Matt came along, he was a little hesitant at first.
17:26But we were like, babe, we're going to share everything.
17:30We're going to share our life together.
17:32It only makes sense that also we're going to share our finances together.
17:37And so we did,
17:40which is very helpful to not have it all on one person's shoulders
17:43or on one person's income.
17:49What do you want to do for our date?
17:51Well, we have to make popcorn.
17:54We do.
17:56That's always the first step.
17:59And then we could definitely take a walk around the neighborhood or something.
18:03Yeah.
18:04We could get an attention on our altar before we do that.
18:07Love that.
18:08And then you're going to go flower shopping there?
18:10Yeah.
18:11Cool.
18:12I think so.
18:14You going to have fun at the park?
18:16I'm going to have fun at the park.
18:17Okay.
18:18What are you guys going to do?
18:19We're probably going to watch the rest of Bridgerton.
18:20Okay.
18:21Yeah.
18:22I love you.
18:23I love you.
18:24Love you.
18:25I love you.
18:26Bye.
18:27Have a great time.
18:28Be good.
18:29Okay.
18:30Love you.
18:31Bye.
18:32Bye.
18:33Bye.
18:34I've got three.
18:37You've got three hands?
18:38Yeah.
18:39Okay.
18:40The third one.
18:41This one.
18:42Good luck.
18:43Yay.
18:45For our date today, we want to set the intention of being in the present moment.
18:52Peace.
18:53Peace.
18:54Tranquility with each other.
18:55Mm-hmm.
18:59and I think connecting as one.
19:10Ha ha ha ha.
19:18Yay.
19:19I love you.
19:21I love you.
19:28I think I have made popcorn for every single one of our days, Dallas.
19:33Yeah.
19:34I would say.
19:35I think it's going back to traditions.
19:37That's a good tradition.
19:40No, Daphne.
19:41It's so sad.
19:42It's so sad.
19:43I grew up watching a lot of soap operas with my mom, so I really like to watch dramatic
19:51stuff.
19:52Yeah.
19:53And I watched a lot of Real Housewives with my mom.
19:54Simon!
19:55Simon!
19:56Bastard.
19:59Why do you have tears in your eyes?
20:02Yeah, why are you crying?
20:03Why are you crying?
20:04She's got a reason to cry.
20:07It's estimated that 45% of American adults already practice some sort of consensual non-monogamy.
20:32That's more than 10 million people.
20:34And possibly it's a lot more given the stigma that surrounds non-monogamous relationships.
20:39Because there's no legal framework for polyamory, throuples who plan on having a family can
20:43face all sorts of complications at school, at the hospital, and especially when it comes
20:48to custody arrangements, if they were to separate or if one of them was to pass away.
20:53So this room is going to be our nursery one day.
20:58One day it'll be a nursery.
21:00Yeah.
21:01We started putting little sweet child-like things in here.
21:05Yeah, having a family is really important, I have to say, all of us.
21:09Yeah.
21:10Really rewriting our family stories and creating a new is super integral, I think, to our group.
21:18Yeah.
21:19The first baby that we want to have, I want to carry, because Dallas is predisposed to
21:24have twins.
21:25Yeah.
21:26I think that they're both going to be the favorite parent, and then they're all going
21:30to be like, oh my god, mom is such a stick in the mud.
21:32They're going to be like, mom is always yelling at me, mom's always telling me to do my chores.
21:37Do my work.
21:38Yeah, but I think they're going to be like, I wish I could just hang out with dad all
21:41day.
21:42Yeah.
21:43I wish I could just play music with dad.
21:44Yeah.
21:45Call music.
21:46Yeah.
21:47Be like baking with mom.
21:48Baking with mom, like, I don't know.
21:49They'll be like, why does mom always want to have an emotional conversation?
21:52And you guys will be like, I know, honey.
21:54Yeah.
21:55That's just the way.
21:56Why can't she just do silly stuff?
21:57That's just the way that she is.
21:58Yeah.
21:59Sorry.
22:00So that'll be funny.
22:01We love her for it, don't we?
22:02Yeah.
22:03We love mom.
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22:09That's surprising.
22:10I closed my eyes, and I got one kiss, and then I got two.
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22:14That's kind of what happens.
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