00:00And then he mansplained mansplaining to me.
00:04Miss, do you know to put gasoline in the seat?
00:06What an idiot, what an a**hole.
00:08I just f**ked the car.
00:09I was 20 years old when my ex explained to me what a pillow is used for.
00:19He told me that the pillow is used to support your neck and your head.
00:23A man took me to get tacos.
00:26Cute little date, little vibe.
00:27I'm eating the chips before we get our meal.
00:30I'm dipping it in the salsa.
00:31And he's like, do you know that if you like the salsa,
00:34you can actually also put that on your tacos.
00:37And I...
00:41It's like, yeah, I'm aware of how salsa works for different...
00:46Why are you telling me this?
00:47One time my boyfriend's dad tried to explain to me
00:52how the spacing of studs worked in a wall.
00:58I'm a carpenter.
01:011979, I'm going to put a down payment on my own house.
01:05I'm working a clown, I'm stuck, I don't know what I'm doing.
01:08I'm taking the keys, I don't know, I don't want to open the car.
01:11I go to the car, I see there's no gasoline in the car.
01:14I go to a gas station, I take the gal.
01:16This is $20, I'm numero siete.
01:18The guy behind me, you see, she doesn't talk so good English.
01:21Miss, do you know to put gasoline in the seat?
01:24What an idiot, what an a**hole.
01:26I just pulled the car, I don't know how to play.
01:28But I play dummy and he put the gasoline for me.
01:31And all of a sudden he became like a macho and he's telling me,
01:33my name is Carter, you want to go out for dinner?
01:37Listen, Carter, piece of s**t.
01:39You better buzz off.
01:41You are talking to the wrong tree.
01:43I'm buying now my own house.
01:46So better luck next time.
01:48You better go to the lake, idiot.
01:51My period.
01:54Need I say more?
01:55I was working out at the gym and warming up for squats
01:59when a man stepped onto my platform and asked if he could spot me.
02:04I politely declined, but he did not get the hint.
02:07He instead stayed on my platform
02:10and proceeded to mansplain the mechanics of a squat.
02:14I finally had to interject and let him know that
02:17one, I was a personal trainer.
02:19Two, was a competitive powerlifter.
02:22And three, had a national level powerlifting coach.
02:26When I was 16, I was about to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time.
02:30So I asked a more experienced friend what to expect.
02:35And he said, just be careful it doesn't go into the wrong hole.
02:39And I was like, the butt?
02:42He said, no, the pee hole.
02:45And I said, I don't think it fits in there.
02:48And he explained that it's a common problem
02:50that sometimes it just slips into the pee hole.
02:56And I said, I don't think that's how it works.
02:59And he said, yes, that is how it works.
03:02And I said, I feel like I've counted all the holes.
03:06I feel like I know.
03:08And he said, trust me.
03:11When I was in college, my mother was killed in a car crash
03:14and my dad died of a broken heart shortly after.
03:17I had a series of reproductive losses by miscarriage.
03:21I had a good friend cause her own death by gunshot.
03:24Another died from an aneurysm.
03:26A third to breast cancer.
03:28Another to stroke.
03:29And of course, there's been heart attacks.
03:31My brother-in-law died of COVID.
03:34And my husband died three years ago of lung cancer.
03:37My master's thesis is on grief and bereavement.
03:40I've written a book.
03:42My doctorate is in clinical psychology.
03:44And yet a man told me I didn't really understand grief.
03:47And he explained it to me.
03:49Who is he lost in his own life?
03:52His dog died when he was 12.
03:55The bar that I work at, it's a dive bar, pub, shotgun bar.
04:00We don't have lemonade.
04:02So this guy comes in and he asks for a crown and lemonade.
04:05I tell him we don't have lemonade.
04:06He asks me if I know how to make lemonade.
04:08And I say, yes, I know how to make lemonade, but we don't have lemonade here.
04:11So then he begins to speak to me like I'm a five-year-old.
04:14Well, now, darling, first you're going to get some lemons.
04:17You know what sample syrup is?
04:20So I brought him the ingredients and told him to do it himself.
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