00:00I have a son who's who's six foot five and wants to play basketball.
00:04He's taller than you.
00:04Yeah, he's a little taller than me.
00:06He goes to school here in New York.
00:07He's 17.
00:07And unfortunately, he jumps as high as I do.
00:12But I tell him, dude, you're going to be a stud.
00:15I said, wait till you hit your growth spurt.
00:16You're going to be jumping higher.
00:17You're going to be dunking.
00:19And whether he does or not, who cares?
00:22But I want him to know that his dad's got his back.
00:24And, you know, my middle son, it has, you know, to be a boy
00:27sucks to be Tom Brady's son in so many ways.
00:29And I try to empathize that with them.
00:31And all the parents in the room know that being a parent
00:33is probably the hardest job all of us have.
00:35And we screw up a lot.
00:36And I've screwed up a lot as a parent.
00:38So I don't want to seem like I'm some expert in parenting
00:41because I'm certainly not that.
00:45I mean, I have three amazing kids that I just try to be there.
00:48I try to just be dependable and consistent for them.
00:51And honestly, whatever our kids choose, as we know,
00:53to do whatever they want to do in life, we got to support.
00:56And again, the blessing my parents gave me was when I was
01:00that long shot as a kid who was a backup quarterback
01:03on a freshman team, they never said, man, don't do that.
01:06It's going to be too hard.
01:08Let's do something different.
01:10Let's think about another backup plan.
01:12They kind of said, you know what?
01:13Go for it.
01:14So in the difference in today's world, if we think about how
01:17we're screwing these kids up, anytime they face a little
01:20difficulty, what do we do?
01:21We send them to an easier place to succeed.
01:24I had to grind my freshman year, my sophomore year,
01:27my third year to even get a chance to play in my fourth year.
01:31And in my fourth year, I thought, okay, I was the backup
01:34last year.
01:34We won the national championship.
01:35The guy who beat me out is now a professional quarterback.
01:38I'm going to step into this role as a starting quarterback.
01:41And the coach was like, nope, we recruited this kid
01:44out of Michigan.
01:45He's the top rated quarterback in high school football.
01:50And he's going to come in and you guys are going
01:51to compete to start.
01:53And I was like, shit.
01:56So I knew how to compete because that's what I had continued
01:59to have to do.
02:00And I competed with him.
02:01And I started every game that year.
02:03And we finished 10 and 3.
02:04We had a good record.
02:05And I was going back for my fifth year.
02:08The team made me a team captain, which is probably the greatest
02:11honor I ever received in all the sports because all my boys,
02:14all the guys that I really looked up to and they looked
02:18up to me, they named me captain.
02:20They wanted me to be their leader.
02:22They saw how much it meant to me to be the starting quarterback.
02:25So I go in there before the season starts.
02:27And the Tuesday before our first game of the season,
02:30the head coach Lloyd Carr calls me and he says,
02:32hey, this is what we're going to do.
02:33Tom, you're going to start.
02:34But Drew, Henson, this other quarterback who they recruited
02:37the year before, you're going to play in the second quarter.
02:40And I'm going to determine who's the quarterback in the third
02:42and fourth quarter by who plays well in the second quarter.
02:45And it felt like a big gut punch because I thought
02:48I did everything right.
02:49I thought I worked really hard to get the things that I wanted.
02:52But you know what?
02:53In his eyes, it wasn't enough.
02:54So what did I do?
02:55I had to go out there and prove it.
02:56I hate the fact that you can go to the easy place and try
02:59to succeed at the easy place.
03:01And I think in some ways, the amount of money that's being
03:04made in sports and football, they're not even accountable
03:09to winning anymore.
03:10The clubs make so much money.
03:12I know people that just, hey, man, I made money.
03:15We're doing good.
03:16We did win the Super Bowl.
03:17Did you see how much money we made?
03:19And that's a different part of sports.
03:21You know, there's so much money for players.
03:23These kids now are getting paid in college.
03:26So how can you say, hey, is money is the only thing we value?
03:30I mean, to me, that wasn't.
03:32I always felt like I took less money so that we could win.
03:35So to me, it was like when I see the NFL in general,
03:38there's a developmental issue because in college,
03:41a lot of these players, they don't have to learn
03:44to be competitive in college.
03:46If you're not playing here, just go to the next school.
03:49That's the shittiest lesson we could actually teach somebody.
03:52You got to find ways to dig deep because the reality
03:55of your business and your career is overcoming adversity.
03:59And the only way to do that is to fail.
04:02And the only way to fail is to put yourself
04:04in uncomfortable situations because you're always
04:06in your comfort zone.
04:07You're not going to fail.
04:08So if you fail and then you figure out a solution
04:11to the people you work with to overcome the failure,
04:14you gain a lot of self-confidence.
04:16And if you gain self-confidence, then the next opportunity
04:19you have to succeed, you got a much better opportunity
04:22to do just that.
04:24So to me, failure is amazing because it teaches you
04:28and really forces you to look inside yourself
04:30about what you need to do better.
04:32I see so many athletes who are always blaming other people.
04:36They ask the quarterback, what happened?
04:37Oh, I blame the receiver.
04:39I literally am like watching the screen.
04:40What did he just say?
04:42I see other athletes blame the coach.
04:45I see coach blame the other guys behind closed doors.
04:48It's the player's fault.
04:49That's all.
04:50It's the player's fault.
04:50Oh, really?
04:51You got beat by 40 points and you had
04:53a magical coaching performance.
04:56Is that right?
04:57Instead, and then there's other leaders that I see go,
05:00I got to do a better job.
05:01I got to communicate better.
05:03I got to work harder.
05:04We got to overcome more.
05:05We got to practice harder.
05:06We got to do more of the right things.
05:08So to me, it's always pointed back at yourself.
05:10What do I need to do better to help us be more successful?
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