00:00But Nanny Justa is strict with men who are courting, but you became a boyfriend quite easily.
00:06Yes, because I'm a flirt.
00:08Because that's not allowed, right?
00:10Yes.
00:11But she's going to ban me, so it's like...
00:13And you're really subtle about what you're doing.
00:15Yes, I'm really subtle, father.
00:17Was there a point that you fought with Nanny Justa?
00:20No, but I wrote a long letter.
00:23Oh.
00:25I didn't speak.
00:26You didn't?
00:27I just cried.
00:28You wrote a letter?
00:29Yes, I wrote a long letter that seemed to have no effect.
00:33Did she physically hurt you?
00:35Yes.
00:36That's how physical a mother is when she's angry.
00:39How bad was it?
00:41It was bad.
00:42Because when I was in college, I was wearing a mask, father.
00:46And we had a play.
00:47Of course, we rehearsed.
00:49The auditorium of the F.E.U.
00:50For example, the auditorium here has a gate.
00:53But at night, around 8 or 9 or 10, it would close.
00:57The gate?
00:58So you're here at the gate and you're going out.
01:00And she's waiting here.
01:02So she thought I was lying that we had a rehearsal.
01:05Because that's where I came from.
01:07I lied to her that I didn't go out here.
01:10My mother was really angry.
01:12She said I lied.
01:13Why am I here at night?
01:15She's been there for a long time.
01:17When I got home, she gave me a badminton racket.
01:21It was broken.
01:23The head was there.
01:24The racket was here.
01:26It was like that.
01:27Okay.
01:28Madir got mad.
01:29Then she kissed me.
01:32She kissed me.
01:34Madir got mad.
01:36What did she kiss you in Japan?
01:38She kissed me in Japan.
01:40She kissed me on the head.
01:42She kissed me.
01:43I thought you were going to Japan.
01:44No.
01:45Just a light kiss.
01:48To lessen the impact.
01:50To lessen the impact.
01:51Okay.
01:52Madir kissed me.
01:53She got mad.
01:55You resented that?
01:56Of course.
01:57She got mad at me.
01:58Because she brought ice.
01:59Because she hit me on the head.
02:02So she brought the ice.
02:04Yes, she brought the ice.
02:05She apologized.
02:06In a different way.
02:08Without having to verbalize it.
02:11Why didn't I think of that?
02:13Don't you understand?
02:16I'm not your mother.
02:18I'm not you, son.
02:21I'm not you.
02:25Son.
02:26How long did it take for you to accept that you were adopted?
02:33Or did you ever accept that?
02:37I think I accepted it.
02:39But what I couldn't accept was when she scolded me.
02:42And when she hit me.
02:44When she hurt me.
02:46It always came to the back of my mind.
02:49Maybe if I was with my mother, she wouldn't hit me.
02:52Something like that.
02:53That's when you came back?
02:54Yes.
02:55When I was in Grade 4.
02:57I had a low grade.
02:59I wasn't in the top 10.
03:04Usually, I'm in the top 10.
03:05Wow.
03:06Intelligent.
03:07Usually, I'm in the top 10.
03:09She got mad.
03:10She said,
03:12If you don't study, I'll send you back to Kalatagan.
03:15I was hurt.
03:17She did something to my heart when I was a kid.
03:20Grade 4.
03:21And she said that to the back of my mind.
03:25Why am I here?
03:26I'm supposed to be in Kalatagan.
03:28Why are you telling me that I'm supposed to go there?
03:33Is that it?
03:35If my grade drops, you're going to send me back to my mother?
03:39Something like that.
03:40Because of that, Aileen,
03:41were you careful in letting your kids speak?
03:46Having come from that experience.
03:48When I was angry,
03:50when I was high-blooded,
03:51I didn't use my words.
03:55I didn't sugarcoat it.
03:58Okay.
03:59Because that's what you hear.
04:00Yes.
04:01What you hear.
04:02It hurts.
04:03It hurts to speak to your mother.
04:06I'm like that when I'm angry.
04:09You know that.
04:10It hurts to speak.
04:11But what's the difference?
04:13Do you apologize?
04:14Do you explain?
04:15Yes, I apologize.
04:16And I explain after.
04:18Why I said that.
04:19I always apologize.
04:22And I meet them.
04:23You told me that.
04:24That was not done by Nanay Justa.
04:26Yes.
04:27You said it's a different love language.
04:29It's a different love language.
04:31What kind of mother are you because of your Nanay Justa?
04:36She's strict.
04:38But my love language is money, gifts.
04:42Like Nanay Justa?
04:44Yes.
04:45I'm always on taping.
04:47We go to the mall.
04:48If they want something, I'll buy it.
04:51What did you change?
04:53Did you make a deliberate change in raising you?
04:59In raising your child.
05:01Yes, communication.
05:03We're open.
05:05If she's sick, you tell me.
05:06If she has a problem, you tell me.
05:08Because I don't speak to Justa.
05:11Because I'm afraid of her.
05:13And she doesn't like men.
05:14I'm not allowed to court her.
05:16How can I communicate with her?
05:18Like, Mom, I have a crush on this person.
05:20Nothing like that.
05:44You
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