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00:00Translator 1 – Have you ever thought to yourself before going to sleep, tomorrow is

00:19the day I'll change.

00:22Tomorrow is the day I'll get up early in the morning, have a healthy breakfast, go

00:28for a morning jog, breathe fresh air.

00:32Tomorrow is the day I want to change to who I really want to be, the best version of myself.

00:41While change doesn't come easy, you have to incorporate certain habits in your life that

00:48will eventually lead to you becoming the best version of yourself.

00:55You'll also have to eliminate certain habits that are hindering your path.

01:02Well how long will it take you to form a new habit or get rid of an old one?

01:10Most people will tell you it takes exactly 21 days for a person to form a habit or get

01:19rid of an old one.

01:21I remember once in high school one of my teachers told me it takes exactly 21 days for me to

01:29form a new habit and I thought this is my chance to become a bed maker.

01:37I thought that for the next 21 days instead of getting up every day and yelling, mom please

01:44don't forget to make my bed today, I thought I'd do it myself.

01:50Day by day, early in the morning, 6am, even on days I was running late, I got up every

02:01morning and I made my bed and I hated every second of it.

02:10And by day 22, I opened my eyes and the first thing I did was say mom, please don't forget

02:19to make my bed today.

02:21I quit.

02:22And of course, that was expected and I thought, okay, maybe I'm just going to be a little

02:30bit worse at life than bed makers, whatever.

02:35I do not exaggerate if I say that this 21 day theory is the most famous myth in the

02:46world of self-development.

02:51Let's dive a little into our theory to understand where the number 21 came from and the reasons

02:57for its spread in self-developmental books and courses.

03:02Dr. Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon in the 1950s when he began noticing a strange

03:11pattern among his patients.

03:14For example, in a nose job, he saw that the patient took exactly 21 days to get used to

03:22start seeing his or her new nose.

03:27He also noticed that if a patient had an arm or leg amputated, the patient would acknowledge

03:34the feeling of their new limb for exactly 21 days before starting to get used to their

03:42new condition.

03:43Dr. Maltz published his theory in a book that went very famous in that era and sold over

03:5330 million copies.

03:56And here, the conflict started brewing and people, and it made sense why people were

04:03starting to believe his theory.

04:06Why?

04:07Number one, the number 21 is considered a short period of time, and that's also considered

04:16a source of temptation, which means something you can do.

04:23Number two, the number 21 is also long enough to be believable, a difficult challenge, but

04:32not impossible.

04:34I mean, who wouldn't love to change their whole life within just 21 days?

04:41Wouldn't you love to start waking up early in the morning every day?

04:45Wouldn't you love to start cooking healthy recipes?

04:49Wouldn't you love to start drinking weird smoothies?

04:53And all within less than one month, we'd go for it in a heartbeat.

05:00So is it true?

05:02Can we really change our lives within 21 days?

05:05I know that sounds very exciting, but there are actually a few factors you'd have to consider

05:12to be able to estimate the time it'll take you to form a new habit or get rid of an old

05:19toxic one.

05:21Number one is the complexity of your goal.

05:25If I decide to start eating fruit daily, which is considered a simple habit, I'd probably

05:32take less time than if I want to acquire a complex athletic skill, like a tennis serve.

05:40Number two, behavior consistency affects the speed of acquisition.

05:47Me repeating a certain behavior for three minutes a day is different than my friend

05:53repeating the same behavior for 30 minutes a day.

06:01So we want to clear things up.

06:03How long will it take us to form a new habit or get rid of an old one?

06:11And is there a reliable study that we can depend on?

06:15Answer is yes.

06:17There is a famous study by the psychologist Philip Lally titled How Are Habits Formed?

06:25The study followed 96 people over a period of 12 weeks.

06:31Each person chose a new 12-week habit to work on, such as drinking three cups of water before

06:37lunch or running for 15 minutes after dinner.

06:42After 12 weeks, the data was analyzed to determine the time needed to move from the

06:48old habit to start subconsciously carrying out the new one.

06:55And after 12 weeks, we found that it took approximately two to eight months in order

07:03for the task to become a habit, and 66 days to be exact.

07:12The difference in time it took to form a habit was largely due to the task itself, the person,

07:20and their circumstances, as some were able to form the habit within 18 days, while others

07:27took 254 days.

07:31So according to psychologist Lally, if you want to know the time required to form a new

07:37habit or get rid of an old one, the truth is that you may need two to eight months and

07:44not just 21 days.

07:48Guys, whether it's two months, three months, a year, two years, it doesn't actually matter

07:56how long it takes as much as it matters that you have to begin with today.

08:03And once you begin, make sure to maintain your new habit.

08:08Make it part of your schedule, set reminders, create a supportive environment.

08:15And most importantly, you don't have to be perfect.

08:21Making a mistake once or twice has no lasting effects on your behavior.

08:28Actually, that'll give you time not to rush yourself into things.

08:33You have to give yourself time and not just rush yourself into becoming a better version.

08:40If I want to become a better person, I'll have to commit to the system and embrace the

08:47process.

08:48That way, I'll commit to making tiny improvements rather than rushing myself too hard into things.

08:56Change is not always easy and it's not always simple, but with enough dedication, any habit

09:05can be reshaped.

09:07So if you really want it, becoming the best version of yourself, get up today and start

09:14working on it.

09:16I promise you'll get there.

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