00:00Hey friends, welcome to today's video. Today is going to be the greatest day of your life,
00:06and today I invite you to reflect on a powerful yet often overlooked choice we face every single
00:12day. The choice between being kind and being right. You know, imagine a world where every
00:19interaction we have is an opportunity to uplift, to encourage, and to foster mutual respect.
00:28How different would our relationships and experiences be? You know, let's explore how
00:34this simple yet profound shift in perspective can transform not only our lives, but also the lives
00:41of those around us. Now think about this. You are given many opportunities to choose between being
00:49kind and being right. We all have chances to point out to someone their mistakes, things they could
00:57or should have done differently, ways that they can improve. You know, and you also have chances
01:03to correct people privately as well as in front of others. And what all these opportunities amount to
01:10are chances to make someone else feel bad, and yourself feel bad in the process. Now without
01:17getting too psychoanalytical about it, the reason we are tempted to put others down, to correct them,
01:24or show them how we're right and they're wrong, is that our ego mistakenly believes that if we
01:30point out how someone else is wrong, we must be right. And therefore, we will feel better.
01:39Now here's the truth. In all actuality, if you pay attention to the way you feel after you put
01:44someone else down, you'll notice that you feel worse than before the put down. Your heart, the
01:51compassionate part of you, knows that it is impossible to feel better at the expense of
01:58someone else. Now here's some good news. Luckily, the opposite is true. When your goal is to build
02:05people up to make them feel better, to share in their joy, you too reap the rewards of their
02:14positive feelings. The next time you have a chance to correct someone, even if their facts are a
02:20little off, my advice, resist the temptation. Instead, ask yourself, what do I really want
02:29out of this interaction? Chances are, what you want is a peaceful interaction where all parties
02:35leave feeling good. And each time you resist being right, and instead choose kindness, you'll notice
02:44a peaceful feeling from within. I'm going to give you an example. My wife and I were recently
02:49discussing a business idea that had turned out exceptionally well for us. I was talking about
02:56my idea, clearly taking credit for our success. My wife, Kristen, in her usual loving manner,
03:04allowed me to have the glory. Later that day, I remembered that the idea was actually her idea,
03:10not mine. Whoops! So when I called her to apologize, it was obvious to me that she
03:17cared more for my joy than she did for her own need to take credit. She said that she enjoys
03:24seeing me happy, and that it doesn't matter whose idea it was. Now do you see why she's so easy for
03:30me to love? You see, I also want you to not confuse this strategy with being a wimp, or not standing
03:38up for what you believe in. I'm not suggesting that it's not okay for you to be right, only that if
03:46you insist on being right, there is often a price to pay, and that price is your inner peace. Now in
03:54order to be a person filled with equanimity, you must choose kindness over being right most of the
04:01time, and the best place to start is with the next person you speak to. Now as we go about our day,
04:11I want to challenge you to experiment with this choice. Start with the next conversation you have.
04:19Observe the impact of choosing kindness over the need to be right. Notice how it transforms the
04:26interaction and leaves the both of you feeling uplifted. Now imagine the ripple effect of such
04:33choices, how they can build bridges, mend relationships, and create a more compassionate
04:40world. Remember, every small act of kindness contributes to a larger tapestry of peace and
04:48harmony. Now let's be catalysts for this change. You know, one kind word at a time. I want to thank
04:56you for being a part of this journey with me today, towards a kinder and more understanding
05:01world. And you know what? If anybody can do it, you can. And if anybody deserves kindness, peace, and
05:09harmony in their life, you do. You're amazing. There are incredible things within you. I care
05:16about you, and I firmly believe in you and your abilities. I hope you have a beautiful day today.
05:24I'll be back tomorrow with some more good words and some more things to discuss as we continue
05:29to walk down this path together towards building the lives that we truly deserve to live.
05:34Have a great day, my friends. I'll talk to you tomorrow.
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