00:00So, I don't know. Maybe it's hard for the two of you because it's not a swap.
00:09It's not a swap. You can't figure out if it's really wrong.
00:16Because I really don't know if it's wrong.
00:18If he's still joining his group, even if there's a girl he likes.
00:22Because he said it's really his group.
00:24That's really your immediate group of friends.
00:27Or you have another group that you can join.
00:29Or they're just one of the many.
00:32That's it.
00:35But you can't really leave him.
00:37The effect of it is anxiety-inducing.
00:42So, it's sad because you're in a situation where it's hard to figure out.
00:48And that's it. It's hard for you to figure out.
00:50So, one of you decided that it's enough.
00:53It's already a headache.
00:55But is there a chance, Alyssa, that you choose him?
00:59Don't go with him.
01:00Okay, we'll split up if you still choose him.
01:02Or just choose me instead of your friends.
01:05If I know who you're going to go with.
01:09I'm telling you, you're really going to go there.
01:11You know that I'm not comfortable with your friends.
01:16It's not like it's me or them.
01:19It's not like that.
01:20Because I can understand if he's going to be there.
01:24If he's just going to update if he's there.
01:27While he's there.
01:28Did you meet that girl?
01:31I don't think so.
01:33Did you see her?
01:34I saw her.
01:35In the picture?
01:36Yes.
01:37Is she pretty?
01:39Yes, she's pretty.
01:41Did you really feel the threat?
01:44It was just right.
01:46Because she looks kind.
01:49She's kind?
01:51She's not that kind.
01:54That's why you'll feel that way.
01:56Because it's a threat.
01:59Because if you don't feel that it's a threat to you,
02:03even if you go with him and play with your boyfriend.
02:06It's not a threat.
02:07But it's like that.
02:10So, it's better if you just leave the relationship
02:13instead of being stressed.
02:15That's valid.
02:17Because your relationship with that one special person
02:21or love.
02:22Love is good when it inspires you.
02:26When it makes you happy.
02:28But when you start to get stressed by love,
02:31it really hurts your head.
02:33Some people are really brave.
02:35Some people have a hard time letting go.
02:38You have a strong heart.
02:40You let go right away.
02:41I was able to do it.
02:43Because I can see that he doesn't want to change.
02:46So, I was the one who left him.
02:48I just left him.
02:51Didn't you chase him away when he broke up with you?
02:55No.
02:56Because I know that it's over.
02:59Because I noticed before we broke up
03:05that his replies were dry and cold.
03:11But that time, I asked him
03:14why his chat was like that.
03:19He replied that it's nothing.
03:21And I continued.
03:23It's still like that.
03:24Then, when we broke up,
03:27he gave up.
03:28That's it.
03:29It's over.
03:31How did you feel when you heard that?
03:34Did it hurt you?
03:35Painful?
03:36It's over.
03:37I don't have a headache anymore.
03:39It was painful in the beginning.
03:41You just drank for a few days.
03:43Then, it's over.
03:44I felt the regret.
03:47I felt what he felt when we broke up.
03:52So, what happened to you?
03:53Did you feel regret?
03:57Yes.
03:58What happened to you?
04:00It was so sad.
04:01So sad.
04:03Like, how?
04:04You couldn't leave the room.
04:06You couldn't go out.
04:07Did you cry?
04:10I cried every night.
04:11Then, his cousin, my best friend,
04:15she introduced me to you.
04:16I ran to her.
04:17Really.
04:20So, you cried.
04:21Did you cry a lot?
04:22Yes.
04:24The type of feeling that you can say,
04:27wow, I was so ugly at that time.
04:30I was so ugly when I cried.
04:34Like that?
04:35Yes.
04:37Did you cry in front of your friends?
04:38Yes.
04:39Because, men,
04:40when they drink,
04:41you know, there's something going on.
04:42They don't talk.
04:43Suddenly, they cry,
04:44but it doesn't last.
04:45They're scared.
04:46Others,
04:47they're really emotional.
04:48I watched a video.
04:50I love you the most.
04:52I love you more than my wife.
04:56Like that, right?
04:57Yes.
04:58Are you like that?
05:00I'm like that.
05:01I'm soft-hearted.
05:03I'm like that.
05:04Wow.
05:06What do you ask yourself
05:08and what do you say to yourself?
05:12I hope I can fix myself
05:14for the two of us.
05:18If you repeat what happened,
05:23if you go back to the day
05:24that you were going to go there,
05:26and now you know
05:27that if you go,
05:28you'll be separated,
05:30will you still go or not?
05:35I will go.
05:40He will still go.
05:41No, he's letting me go.
05:43He just wants to update.
05:45But are you really letting him go?
05:47Because there are others, right?
05:48Okay, you go.
05:49But if your answer is,
05:51can I go?
05:52Then you go.
05:53It's like you're going out.
05:55You're not going
05:56because you know
05:57where he is.
05:58Yes.
05:59Right?
06:00Can you really go?
06:01Yes, you go.
06:02It's up to you.
06:03It's up to you.
06:04You grow up first.
06:05Then you're not going.
06:06When you go,
06:07babe, I'm already here.
06:09He won't reply.
06:11Yes.
06:12Yes, right?
06:14You're allowed,
06:15but if you're there,
06:16he won't reply.
06:17So instead of being like this,
06:18I'll just go home
06:19because the other one
06:20is already sour.
06:21Yes.
06:22Or the other one,
06:23you're already there.
06:25Video call.
06:26There.
06:27It's hard for him.
06:28Look.
06:29Who am I?
06:30Turn around.
06:31Yes.
06:32Check.
06:33Who am I?
06:34There.
06:35Why is the calendar
06:36different?
06:37It's not there.
06:38Is it live?
06:39Did you notice?
06:40Yes.
06:41It's live.
06:42The calendar is not like that.
06:43Let me see.
06:44It's clear.
06:45Where is it?
06:46It's in the room.
06:47That's the room?
06:48Yes.
06:49Let me see.
06:50Knock on the door.
06:51Yes.
06:52It's cement.
06:53It's not like that.
06:54He's good.
06:55He's really good.
06:56He's really good.
06:57That's the hard part
06:58because when you're dating,
06:59if you used to be
07:00really good to each other
07:01and then you reach a point
07:02where you're just
07:03enemies.
07:06You're enemies.
07:07He's not healthy anymore.
07:09He's not healthy anymore.
07:10You don't spark joy
07:12to each other
07:13and for each other.
07:14You spark stress.
07:16Anxiety.
07:17Stress.
07:18Yeah.
07:191 to 10,
07:20when you were still together,
07:21how much did you love Eliza?
07:2310.
07:24Of course.
07:261 to 10,
07:27how much did you love Vance?
07:2910 too.
07:30I wouldn't be hurt
07:31if I didn't love him.
07:33Earlier, he told us
07:34how he was hurt
07:35and crushed
07:36when you left.
07:38How about you?
07:40How were you
07:41when you broke up?
07:43I was better
07:44when we broke up
07:45because
07:47even us,
07:49I was detaching myself
07:50from the actions
07:51he was doing.
07:52That's how it was.
07:54Before they broke up,
07:56he was slowly
07:57moving forward.
07:58He was slowly
07:59changing his habits.
08:01Because
08:02what causes you pain
08:03and suffering
08:05is your attachment
08:06to that person.
08:08Right?
08:09That's why he said
08:10he was slowly
08:11detaching himself.
08:13So when he was
08:14detached enough,
08:16we broke up.
08:17When they broke up,
08:18it wasn't that painful
08:19because he was detached.
08:22He was ready
08:23for himself.
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