00:00 Because you'll feel sorry for them.
00:01 They have so much hatred in their hearts.
00:03 I mean, for you to go out of your way to say something bad about someone,
00:07 or to create something bad about someone,
00:10 your heart is filled with hatred, right?
00:12 Or negativity, or you lack love.
00:16 Motherhood for me is very fulfilling.
00:28 It's a priceless job.
00:30 You give so much, but you receive more.
00:35 You receive more from your children.
00:39 For me, it's irreplaceable.
00:41 We were just talking about it.
00:43 I miss working.
00:44 I really miss my co-workers.
00:46 But I can't replace my career as a mother.
00:54 I really love being a mom because
00:57 I had a purpose in this world when I became a mom.
01:01 Maybe, the word "confident" isn't enough.
01:12 I'm just less anxious this time.
01:15 Because, of course, I already went through it.
01:18 I'm more aware somehow when it comes to handling a newborn.
01:22 And this is our last baby.
01:26 So, whatever it is I'm going through in this season in my life,
01:31 I'm really enjoying it.
01:33 Even if it's hard, I'm enjoying it.
01:34 Because that might be the last time that I'll go through it.
01:38 So, yeah, I'm not confident, but I'm more relaxed this time.
01:44 My biggest challenge was adjusting my firstborn to my secondborn.
01:54 Because Tali was alone and an only child for six long years.
01:59 So, our world really revolved around Tali.
02:05 She had 100% of our time, our attention.
02:08 So, when we had Mochi,
02:11 it was hard for us to adjust.
02:14 Because she was looking for me.
02:16 And of course, I have to tend to the baby.
02:19 So, it was a long explanation.
02:24 It took a while then, but now I think she's adjusted.
02:28 Actually, she was the one who wanted a sister.
02:31 She was the one who was praying from the very beginning that she wanted a sister.
02:35 The name Mochi came before the baby.
02:37 Because of her, she wanted Baby Mochi.
02:41 So, when she was praying for a baby sister,
02:45 she was really praying for Baby Mochi.
02:49 But I guess it's different because when you just pray for it
02:53 versus when it's already there,
02:54 when it's already there, of course, she'll divide the time.
02:58 Even though as much as I try to give her a lot of time,
03:04 especially at the very beginning,
03:07 a big chunk of my time went to the baby.
03:11 It's just a repeated reminder that God has blessed us with another baby, with a sister.
03:19 Right now, she's helpless.
03:22 She cannot do anything without mommy.
03:23 I was like that with you also.
03:26 Because sometimes she would ask me, "Why do you let me do this on my own?"
03:31 I said, "Oh, because I trained you to do it.
03:34 I trained you to do that on your own so that you can be independent.
03:41 Don't worry, I will teach Mochi too."
03:43 Things like that.
03:44 I'm giving her an example so that she can understand that she went through that too.
03:51 And one day, they'll play with each other.
03:55 They'll play with each other.
03:57 Actually, I felt sorry for her one time because she said,
03:59 "I want to buy this book.
04:02 I want to read this book for my sister."
04:04 "But she wouldn't understand, mom."
04:08 She said, "I want to read to her, but she wouldn't understand."
04:13 Or sometimes, "I want to play this with her, but she doesn't want to play with me."
04:17 So God, it's not that she doesn't want to play with you.
04:19 She doesn't know how to play yet.
04:21 Things like that.
04:22 We really do discipline each other.
04:30 Old school and gentle parenting.
04:35 Because I really believe that parenting now is very, very different from how our parents
04:43 were with us before.
04:45 Because before, if you did something wrong, they'd just tell you to go home and that's it.
04:50 There's no explanation.
04:51 I don't know.
04:53 Maybe for me, because I have the capacity to explain to my child what the situation is
05:00 and what the consequences of the action are, I really try to explain.
05:06 Because I believe that to be able to have a good and open relationship, it's a two-way
05:14 street.
05:15 You know, she will respect me, but I need to respect her too.
05:18 She will open up to me, but I need to open up to her too.
05:21 But it's just a coincidence.
05:23 It's not too much.
05:25 Because actually, it's hard because there's a fine line between being a good parent and
05:31 being your child's friend.
05:33 Because if there's too much, it's hard too.
05:36 I believe that these kids, they need to be heard.
05:43 They need to be vocal in what they're feeling.
05:46 And as parents, you should listen.
05:49 You shouldn't be defensive.
05:50 I want them to run to me when there's trouble.
05:55 I don't want them to get scared to come to me when there's trouble.
05:59 That's why I mentioned earlier, this is a safe space.
06:03 No matter what you're going through, no matter what you want or have a problem with, you
06:09 can come to me and tell me.
06:12 But if you need to discipline, you really need to discipline.
06:16 Because I don't want to have an entitled child.
06:18 Especially, if you can get everything.
06:21 But we really make it a point that you need to discipline the right one.
06:26 That she's not always obedient.
06:29 Or if she wants something, not all the time, she'll give it to you.
06:32 Even if she can give it to you.
06:34 But she has to learn that she can't have everything all the time.
06:40 So if you need to discipline, you really need to discipline.
06:45 If you need to remove your iPad.
06:54 I think that's a struggle for all moms now.
07:00 Actually, with her, she loves books.
07:03 She also loves her iPad.
07:06 So we're not that strict with gadgets because her other side, she also loves drawing, reading.
07:15 If you see her room, we have a mini library.
07:19 She loves books.
07:20 We've been reading her since she was a kid.
07:23 I think she started reading at three.
07:25 She started to read books early.
07:29 At first, it was just sight reading.
07:32 She was just familiar with the word.
07:35 And then eventually, she started reading.
07:37 I won't even take credit for her reading skills because I didn't teach her.
07:43 I just read and read and she got it.
07:47 So I guess, it's a balance.
07:48 Now, if it's not like that, just iPad, we might be a bit strict.
07:53 But since we can see that she likes both, then it's okay.
07:58 Right now, social media.
08:05 Because social media is so big on kids these days.
08:10 It's hard not to give because you might get caught.
08:18 But it's also hard to just let it go.
08:21 We can see that there's a trend in children, how they get affected.
08:29 So I think that's my fear.
08:31 That the point has come where she'll join social media
08:37 and she'll be affected by things that shouldn't affect her.
08:41 That's why we're conscious of her.
08:46 We want her to realize the real things.
08:50 Like your family.
08:51 Your family is always here for you.
08:55 The important comments are from your family and friends.
08:59 Now, the comments of other people, it should not matter that much.
09:03 Things like that.
09:04 It's like we're just talking to her now.
09:06 Because we don't know how big social media is when she's a teenager.
09:13 If it's just now, it really affects the lives of other people.
09:19 I'm a mom.
09:24 I mean, it's automatic.
09:27 But then after a while, I realized that
09:31 maybe when I was a new mom, I was a bit triggered.
09:34 But then after a while, I realized that these people have nothing better to do.
09:39 We are filled with love.
09:44 We are happy.
09:46 We have peace in our family.
09:48 That's where I'll focus.
09:50 Now, I'm not laughing anymore.
09:53 Because you'll feel sorry for them.
09:55 They have so much hatred in their hearts.
09:57 I mean, for you to go out of your way to say something bad about someone
10:01 or to create something bad about someone,
10:04 your heart is filled with hatred, right?
10:06 Or negativity.
10:08 Or you lack love.
10:10 So you won't notice them.
10:12 I might be older.
10:19 Maybe I'm older.
10:20 She can still follow me on Instagram.
10:22 It's funny because
10:24 her dream is to become a YouTuber.
10:26 Like Tali.
10:28 The one who does unboxing videos.
10:30 Or the one who does commentators on Roblox.
10:36 That's a thing.
10:38 They do Roblox and then someone narrates.
10:40 Directly.
10:42 She said, "Mom, how can I be a YouTuber?
10:44 I don't have YouTube in my iPad."
10:46 She only has YouTube Kids.
10:50 So as much as we can,
10:52 we really try to control her exposure on social media.
10:56 As much as we can.
10:58 I mean, her on social media.
11:00 Truth be told, I'm having a hard time.
11:06 Because, of course,
11:08 I remember Tali
11:10 and my second born.
11:12 But my husband is very, very supportive.
11:14 He knows how long we've waited
11:18 to have another baby.
11:20 We're very open to each other.
11:24 We don't get suspicious.
11:26 Or we don't get suspicious.
11:28 When we want something,
11:30 we really say it up front to each other.
11:32 So if we have something to discuss,
11:36 we'll just say it directly.
11:38 We don't have a hard time
11:42 about why he's not giving me time.
11:44 Or what.
11:46 If he wants more time with me, he'll say it.
11:48 Or if I want more time with him,
11:50 we'll tell each other.
11:52 We're a very easy couple.
11:54 Sometimes, we'll visit him in Itbulaga.
11:56 Or tomorrow,
11:58 I'm bringing him.
12:00 We don't have a driver, so I'll drive him.
12:02 I'll also follow him.
12:04 Small pockets of time
12:06 are important for us.
12:14 But I really don't give him much responsibility anymore.
12:18 Because he works really hard.
12:20 Most of the time,
12:22 he's not home from morning to night.
12:24 And then, do I have to take care of him?
12:26 No, it's just me.
12:28 But he's hands-on in the sense that
12:30 he knows everything that happens with our kids.
12:34 When it comes to decision-making,
12:36 he's still the last say.
12:38 When it comes to our children,
12:40 he's updated on everything.
12:42 He's a good guy.
12:44 When he has time,
12:46 he really makes time for his children.
12:48 But as for the responsibilities,
12:50 I don't give him much.
12:52 As a matter of fact,
12:54 we're sleep training our second baby
12:58 in her room.
13:00 I feel sorry for Vic because he's so tired
13:02 and I'm still giving him a massage.
13:04 So I'm the only one who gets massaged.
13:06 I'm the one who's moving around.
13:08 That's how it is.
13:10 Honestly,
13:16 respect is very important for me.
13:18 I always,
13:20 I'm not bragging,
13:22 but I'm always so proud of how my husband respects me.
13:24 He respects me like an equal.
13:26 He respects me like I'm his age.
13:30 We don't have a superior because he's older than me.
13:32 My opinions,
13:34 my decisions,
13:36 they matter as much as his.
13:38 One thing that I appreciate
13:40 about our relationship is that we're very vocal.
13:42 We say I love you all the time.
13:44 We thank each other.
13:46 We never forget to say thank you.
13:48 We do not forget to say sorry.
13:50 Or we're not ashamed to say sorry.
13:52 And I really appreciate that.
13:54 I appreciated that when we got married.
13:56 That we got married in a house.
13:58 That those words are very important.
14:00 That you don't get mad at each other.
14:02 That you don't neglect your partner.
14:04 If you did something,
14:06 he will really say thank you.
14:08 Or if you did something wrong,
14:10 he will really say sorry.
14:12 In that way, you're seen.
14:14 And you are valued and appreciated.
14:16 We're very equal.
14:18 But when it comes to little things,
14:20 like where we're going to eat,
14:22 or what brand of chair we're going to buy,
14:24 that's my thing.
14:26 The little things.
14:28 I'm not a big fan of small things.
14:30 But when it comes to big decisions,
14:32 life decisions,
14:34 I really leave it up to him.
14:36 Because I trust him.
14:38 I trust that he has the right decision for us.
14:42 So, that's our dynamics.
14:44 I trust that he has the right decision for us.
14:50 So, that's our dynamics.
14:52 That's our dynamics.
14:54 That's what it's like.
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